1. frozenncyborg asked: Why are adults woken up automatically when they need to pee, while young children pee the bed?
It's both learned and related to development.
All mammals have the instinct not to "soil the nest". We mostly train our babies out of this instinct by putting them in diapers and being totally oblivious to their signals that they want to pee, but it's possible to keep it going - there is a thing called Elimination Communication which is one of those "parenting movements" with an awful name but effectively, it's a googleable phrase which means you can find information about how to watch your infant for signs they are about to pee or poop and "catch" it in a little pot instead of using a diaper. This is also common practice in some non-Western cultures. Of course, if you want to do it at night you have to sleep in very close proximity to the infant. But doing this even very young babies will wake at night to pee and then go back to sleep.
So partly we train them out of it and then have to train them back into it again when we potty train. What happens when potty training is that toddlers are learning to associate the feelings of a full bladder/bowel with the imminent arrival of pee, and control the muscles around the urethra to hold it long enough to get to a toilet first. Children sleep much more deeply than adults - they tend to sleep through noise, for example, much more easily - and it's common that for some time during and after potty training they are either not aware enough of the nerve endings around the bladder to pay attention to them even during sleep or they are just too deeply asleep to notice these sensations. Once they become more accustomed to paying attention to these signals, they'll be more likely to wake up, assuming they are not too deeply asleep.
Secondly, the hormone part somebody mentioned below is also true but it's not strictly related to why we wake up, more the amount of pee created. The adult body produces a hormone called ADH (antidiuretic hormone) during sleep which tells the body to produce less urine during this time, meaning that adults rarely produce enough urine at night to get into a desperate enough state to wake us up. When we do, it's likely unusual enough that this is a significant factor as well. For children who haven't started producing this hormone yet (the exact age varies, but girls tend to develop it a couple of years earlier than boys, which is why boys are more likely to suffer from bedwetting for longer), the feeling of having a full bladder at night wouldn't necessarily be unusual meaning it's less likely to wake the child up.
Lastly there is the simple fact that adults tend not to be afraid of the dark and additionally are much more aware of where their limit for actually peeing themselves is, whereas children might delay getting out of bed because they are cold, scared, or just sleepy and they don't have as good of a handle on that tipping point yet because they don't have as much experience. (This is the same reasoning for why young children sometimes hold on so long that they just pee themselves because they were too busy playing or didn't know that they didn't have enough time to get to the toilet, whereas this rarely happens to adults without incontinence issues.) But again, this isn't strictly the same situation since you mentioned waking.
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2. BenRayfield asked: How did ancient people figure out that sex leads to kids, since the effects are so delayed?
They observed animals. They noted that women who did not have sex did not get pregnant. Some Neolithic art can be interpreted as actually showing Some Neolithic art can be interpreted as actually showing that they were aware of the relationship. But we can never know for sure.
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3. Polish_William asked: How come when you're sick you can blow your nose and they'll be completely empty and 5 minutes later they're full and dripping. How does mucus generate so quickly and where is it even made?
The mucus comes directly from the surface of your nose, called a mucous membrane because it produces mucus to protect itself and as lubrication. This mucus is a combination of long, stringy proteins and water, which allows it to stick to most surfaces.
We produce a ton of it while we have upper respiratory tract infections like the common cold because our immune systems are trying to isolate the virus causing the infection and prevent more from getting in. This measure isn't actually that effective, as it only slows down viruses and bacteria can swim right through it, but we do it anyway. Allergies do the same thing because they are an attempt by the immune system to attack something that isn't actually a disease, like pollen. We are less clear on why allergies happen, but some hypothesize that they occur due to infants and children living in environments that are far too clean. Their immune systems don't have anything to fight, so they start fighting random things instead.
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4. Hrothgarex asked: If you did a ton of sprints, going farther and building endurance, could you eventually full sprint a mile? Is there a limit we can push ourselves?
Professional sprinters can only hold their top speed for about 10 strides. Usain Bolt achieved and maintained his top speed for 8 strides during his 9.58s record 100m run.
Slow twitch muscles, where endurance is built in, are required even for 100m. The opposite is true for fast twitch muscles, one needs a speed to run a marathon. There is no clear physical boundary between a sprint and endurance runs. The difference between a sprint and endurance runs is in contribution of each muscle type. Sprint events "end" at 400m, and endurance events "begin" at 1500m, 800m is a like a 50-50 combo of the two, meaning 50% of work(=power*time) comes from each muscle type.
You can try to "sprint" a mile mentally, like go a full force from the start and try to hold for as long as possible. But physically it would be something like 95% of power by the fast muscles and 5% of power by the slow muscles from the start. Then the ratio changes as the run progresses, and in the end your power ratio is something like 20% and 80%. I'm making these numbers up, but you get the point.
Such attempted "sprint" would be extremely exhausting and maybe dangerous. I don't think even animals running for their lives from a predator can pull this off. They still tactically pace themselves and conserve strength even when a certain death is right behind them.
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5. pmmecoolpianopics asked: What causes some people to be more "addiction prone" than others?
There are several factors at play, and it seems to vary from individual to individual. The problem of addiction and alcoholism has been around for millennia, and we still don't have something we can point to, and say, "There it is. There's the problem, right there."
Genetics seem to have an influence. It can cause a tendency to be prone to addiction, but is not the causative factor. There are studies of identical twins, where one is addicted, and the other, not. There are also "black sheep" that come from a long and wide genetic history of normal intoxicant use, but these "black sheep" become addicts.
Dr. Gabor Mate, in his book "In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts" postulates that it is a combination of a genetic predisposition to addiction, triggered by environmental conditions, which may include trauma, such as sexual molestation as a child.
As time continues, and the consumption of intoxicants continues, it messes with the normal distribution of certain neurotransmitters, such as serotonin and dopamine. It is speculated that genetic vulnerabilities make this rewiring of the brain easier, and this is why some people are more prone to addiction.
As the addiction takes hold over time, its effects begin to manifest in the environment of the addict. They spend time with other addicts, and tend to damage their relationships with the non-addicted. If you become drunk and aggressive, you don't get invited to too many parties...unless everyone else at the party tends to get drunk, too.
At this point, the genetic tendency has been fully triggered, and the environment becomes one that fosters the consumption of intoxicants. The brain has become rewired so that pleasure by normal means is elusive, but can be had in an instant with another helping of the drug of choice.
Now the spectre of withdrawal sets in....and to break the cycle requires a complete overhaul of one's life, as well as suffering the physical symptoms of withdrawal. At this point the addict feels trapped, hopeless, and alone. Feelings of shame, remorse and self-loathing are common...and again, the only escape from them is another dose.
But there is some hope. It has been proven that participating in a community of recovery is beneficial to many addicts...indeed, most recovered addicts claim that the loss of a sense of isolation, the feeling of belonging to a fellowship, and the advice and support of other recovering addicts was instrumental in their recovery.
I am an alcoholic in recovery. My brain is wired in such a manner that the consumption of the smallest amount of alcohol creates a powerful, and virtually irresistible, craving for more. I can't open a bottle of rum, have 2 drinks, and put the bottle on the shelf. I just can't. I will drink until that bottle is empty.
Through my work in AA I have learned better patterns of behaviour. If I am feeling unsettled...lonely, stressed, anxious...I no longer reach for a glass, or a joint, or a line, or a pill to make me feel better. I have slowly brought the wiring in my brain to a more normal state.
But I don't fool myself. The changes made to my brain are permanent, and if I have one drink, I risk falling back into state of addiction. This is why so many people fall "off the wagon". They believe that a period of sobriety has provided a measure of control, and that they now possess the ability to moderate their consumption. In my personal experience, i have never met an addict or alcoholic that could PERMANENTLY moderate. Some manage to, for a time, but gradually slip back into a state where the neurotransmitters are only experienced with intoxication.
So, I guess the short answer to your question is, "Nobody knows. It's different for each addict." Personally, I find my life without intoxicants to be vastly more rewarding, and I am much happier.
And maybe that's the root of it. People take drugs because they are unhappy, and want to change the way they feel. The genetically predisposed quickly find themselves in a position where the brain has rewired itself to the point where happiness is difficult to achieve without the drugs.
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6. PM_UR_PICS_asked: Why is cannibalism detrimental to the body? What makes eating your own species's meat different than eating other species's?
Your own species meat is infected with diseases that can also infect you, by definition. (Conversely with other animals, some but not all diseases can be spread by under-cooked meat.) There are also some degenerative diseases that are spread by mis-shaped proteins, which you can generally only get by eating a human brain.
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7. Elocmada asked: Why does adrenaline in certain circumstances give people super human strength? (Being able to lift extremely heavy things off of people, etc.)
First its important to note that so called feats of "hysterical strength" are not scientifically recognized, although they are well documented. They clearly happen, but science has a hard time testing them, because its obviously very hard to reproduce in a lab.
However, they have given small tests, like testing grip strength, and then electrically stimulated the muscles and tested again, and found that people exhibit about 25% more strength under electroshock, which definitely verifies people are in general stronger than they're normally able to access. Additionally, you may have heard of people being flung across an entire room after being electrocuted. This isn't because of the electricity - electricity doesn't move things like that - its because the shock caused massive muscle contraction, and the people flung themselves across the room, jumping far further than they would have believed possible under normal circumstances.
So, because they can't test hysterical strength, we can only hypothesize why adrenaline causes it. More than likely it is because your muscles are under several inhibitory systems, including pain as well as the neurological restriction of simply having not enough signalling at any given time to activate all the muscle fibres in a group. Strength isn't just about raw strength, its about timing; you need one perfectly timed electrical burst to signal all fibres to work in concert when exerting force. The more fibres activated simultaneously, the more strength you'll have.
Adrenaline most likely acts to remove several different limiter systems. Your pain sensation is dulled or removed entirely, your blood vessels are dilated and your muscles are more heavily oxygenated, and your neural activity increases; more brain activity = increased signalling, which means you're better able to activate more muscle fibres at once.
The reason we can't do this all the time is fairly obvious - it puts much more strain on the body and consumes far more energy. Since our bodies evolved in times of scarcity, our bodies evolved a logical mechanism for limiting the bodies ability to use its full strength and energy; only when the brain sensed certain stimuli (a tiger, a child in trouble), would it release its natural chemicals that overrode its own internal limiters, allowing for a brief state of higher muscle performance.
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8. Consinneration asked: Why is it that when you get hit (I.e. bang your head on a corner) you instinctively apply pressure with your hands? Why does that seem to help?
Your body can only process so much sensation at once. By touching the place that you've hurt, you're basically distracting your brain from the sensation of pain by introducing pressure.
It's another reason why ice packs can help with pain - not only do they reduce swelling, they introduce the cold sensation and give your brain something else to think about other than the pain.
Edit: what I've described above is apparently known as Gate Control Theory. I didn't know this, all I've done is transcribed the explanation that I was given when I was little, because my dad is a very knowledgeable man and I used to ask a lot of questions!
I think it's worth noting some of the other theories given below that may have been buried: you instinctively check the damage to see if you are bleeding or missing anything; you place pressure on the area to stem the bleeding.
I'd imagine it's a combination of the three, and probably more! Thanks for your input everyone. I've learned a lot today.
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9. MaxwellVador asked: Where does our head voice come from if it doesn't sound like our actual voice?
The psychological theory of bicameralism [a hypothesis in psychology that argues that the human mind once assumed a state in which cognitive functions were divided between one part of the brain which appears to be "speaking", and a second part which listens and obeysa bicameral mind] is controversial, but interesting nonetheless.
It basically states that humans developed consciousness with an intermediary step -- bicameralism. This involved two parts of the brain communicating, one is talking to the other and telling it what to do. The author states that this is where the concept of "god" came from, as early humans were literally hearing another voice giving them commands. Over time this evolved into true consciousness with an internal dialogue.
Some of these themes are being addressed (via artificially-intelligent androids) in HBO's new series Westworld.
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10. AmericanPixel asked: Why do men appear to have a "stitch line" or "scar line" at the base of their ballsac?
Saying it "started out as a vagina" is an overstatement, but it's grounded in truth.
When we're forming in the womb, we start with a shallow slit between our legs. For women, that slit deepens while in men it stitches together.
The left side is grown, the right side is grown, and then they fuse together. Later, the testes descend into them.
Calling it a vagina at that stage in development isn't really accurate; a vagina is more than just a gap in skin, it's a structurally complex organ with a dozen different unique cells and its own intricate biology. The prenatal gap superficially, however, is closer in appearance to a vulva than to testicles, hence the common narrative that we all start as women.
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11. LebumGermsJr asked: Why does a hangover get worse as we age?
Alcohol is metabolized by liver enzymes and first broken down into acetaldehyde - which is our hangover culprit. After that, it is broken down by an enzyme into acetate which eventually turns into carbon dioxide and water. All are then washed out along with sins from the night before...
The number of enzymes used in this two step metabolism process slowly dwindles as we age, making us less and less efficient at processing the toxins. This means that the asshole acetaldehyde hangs around longer in our aged bodies that it did before, making us feel like we're slowly dying.
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12. MisterE_MD asked: Why do animals (including humans), in general, become less playful as they grow older?
Play is all about exercise and learning. Part of it is simply about increasing strength and coordination. A lot of it is about learning valuable physical skills like stalking, fighting, chasing, catching etc. And a lot of it is about learning non physical skills. For instance a lot of young animals (including humans) do mischief because it teaches them about social boundaries.
Young animals go too far in their play because they only learn about social boundaries when an adult puts them in their place. Along the same lines, they learn about appropriate consequences by watching adults interact with other adults.
And finally play teaches young animals about their personal limitations. Theyll teach it to climb fearlessly because it knows what it can and cant do. Itll know how fast it can run, how far it can jump and so on. Itll help them learn that their abilities increase as they grow because they run faster and jump farther than they could last week during the same game.
Play tends to be unique to animals whose abilities change and grow with them. You wont see much play among insects, arachnids and most reptiles for instance. Theyre born fully capable (even though practice and learning can improve their capabilities).
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There is so much we as civilians don't know or understand about everyday life. The law is far more complicated than we could ever comprehend. But we need to get on top of it.
There are some laws on the books that would leave you stunned. In fact, in some states, we're constantly breaking the law. And we never knew.
The truth is many of our laws were constructed when our founding fathers were not thinking clearly. Thanks moonshine... let's dive in...
Redditor u/Krallorddark wanted everyone to get educated about dealing with society's "rules" by asking:
What is illegal but most people don't even know it?
Part of me doesn't even want to know about some strange, never known law I maybe breaking. That way I can play dumb and it would be truth. Is dumb a proper plea in court? At this point it should be.
"In Arizona it is illegal to hunt whales. (Arizona is a desert and landlocked on all sides)."
"In Alaska it's illegal to whisper in someone's ear while they deer hunt."
"hey honey, tonight I wanna doo some "ogie doogie" with you.."
"accidentally shoots someone"
Tie It Up
"In Florida it's illegal to tie an alligator to a parking meter unless you pay for parking."
"It has to do with the fact that Florida was where many carnival and circus troops spent the winter months when not traveling. Many of them had exotic animals that they brought with them. The town of Gibsonton, FL is one the places where a large post circus population remains."
"Chico, CA, it's a $500 fine to make or have a nuclear weapon within city limits. No person shall produce, test, maintain, or store within the city a nuclear weapon, component of a nuclear weapon, nuclear weapon delivery system, or component of a nuclear weapon delivery system under penalty of Chapter 9.60.030 of the Chico Municipal Code."
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"Washing oil paint down the sink. It can contaminate drinking water."
What in the world? Whales in Arizona? Well that I'd like to see. But I guess they're making sure, which is always a good thing. American laws are funny. Let's keep laughing...
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"Tickling someone without their consent is a form of assault. But yeah."
being a mule...
"There is a long list of over the counter medication you can legally purchase, but cannot take it into another country."
"You can't legally transport drugs in containers other than their original ones with original labels so transporting drugs in those pill sorting containers is technically illegal. That being said I do it all the time so."
"In Texas, there is still a law on the books that it is a crime to carry bolt cutters around. It is a leftover from the days of cattle rustlers, when the bad guys would use bolt cutters to take down barbed wire fencing. Pretty sure it hasn't been prosecuted in a hundred years."
"The failure to spend 2 hours a week practicing with a longbow. This law was setup in the middle ages and it required ever male over the age of 14 to practice with a longbow every week. The laws still in place but has been massively overlooked and forgotten."
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"Carrying a permanent marker or other permanent-staining stationary is illegal in many countries under graffiti laws."
Now I've heard it all. Literally. This thread is too ridiculous. And we need to hire a fleet of people to start reviewing and rewriting the paperwork. I always have a permanent marker... don't ask. I better be careful.
Being young is most definitely the time to make mistakes. You deal with minimal consequences at all times and can generally learn without it taking a toll on your greater life.
But the sad thing is that that is not always the case. Sometimes something you do when you are very young actually does follow you around for the rest of your life and fully brings more pain and consequences.
"What is something you did when you were younger that you are still facing the consequences of?"
They had some sad stories to tell.
"I was taken from my mom at age 10 and put into foster care. After a while social services found my dad, who left right after I was born and who I had never met."
"Eventually I was asked who I wanted to live with, my dad or my mom. I said my dad, because I had always wanted one and being torn from my mom basically severed our bond through trauma."
"It turns out he and my step mom were abusers and I was abused for 6 years before I ran away. Still haunts me to think who I would have been had I chosen my mom. Now I'm estranged from them all."-Emmalema_dingdong
"When I was about eleven or twelve I had a cold and as a child I'd had otitis a few times. It was winter and I was outside without anything covering my head and ears."
"My mum told me to put something on otherwise I would get otitis again. I didn't. That night I woke up with unbelievable pain in my left ear."
"I was awake all night, crying from the pain, tried to sneak out of bed to find painkillers but whatever it was that I found it did not help."
"Eventually the pain went away but so did parts of my hearing. Never told my mum about it. Still have hearing loss on my left ear."-DenyEverythingTA
"I started working on a farm when I was 16, worked there for nearly 10 years. The way we sort of crouched over to pick herbs for 6 to 12 hours a day f**ked up my spine."
"I have trouble standing for more than 10 minutes now. I also now understand why my grandmother, who worked on farms for more than 50 years pops painkillers like candy."
"The bone itself is gone and because it's gone it's exposed the sciatic nerve which is apparently a vindictive little b*tch because if I twist wrong or bend over too far it gets hit/pinched/ compressed and just ruins my day."
"According to several different doctors I have 3 solutions. Just deal with it, dope myself up on painkillers or have the problem vertebrae fused together which won't actually eliminate the pain, just lessen it. "
"Oh and I'd have to learn how to walk again so no thank you."-AmLikelyDrunk
These things may have built up over time or been instantaneous, but they hurt regardless.
That Ankle Pain
"I broke my ankle and stretched the tendons badly skateboarding when I was 16. My dad told me to deal with it and didn't take me to any hospital or doctor to check it out. I kept it wrapped and followed protocol I found on the internet."
"As an adult I now have terrible pains in my ankle whenever I'm walking too much or working too hard. Got it looked at around 27 and I have a piece of my ankle bone missing. Probably could've used that medical attention, dad."-evanjw90
Not Even Once
"Smoking. I quit 9 years ago."
"It took me three tries but I finally decided to quit in 2012. My ex-wife and I were smoking on the balcony of our apartment."
"My baby girl was lying down on the floor on the futon of our bedroom and some of the smoke got sucked inside and she started coughing because of it."
"I said 'I'm done,' put my cigarette out, and crumbled the half-full pack up. And that was it. It went from the hardest thing to the easiest thing in a span of 5 minutes."-UnbeardedPedestrian
Being A Doormat
"I was a shy awkward girl that willingly accepted whatever happened. Unfortunately my parents didn't help as they would always badger my sister for speaking up which caused me to hide even further into my shell."
"You never realize how much can be taken away from you or taken advantage of you until you hit your ultimate limit. It's a price that can last for years."-VulpixBlades
Always. Bend. Your. Knees.
"I had a treehouse that was about 10 feet off the ground and I would regularly jump out of it."
"Being an idiot, I wouldn't brace myself when I landed because I thought I looked cooler doing it that way. Just straight up land on my feet without so much as bending my knees."
"Well guess who's got sh*t knees before they've hit 30."-Technicolorlovr
These stories should serve as cautionary tales to anybody who reads them.
How To Raise Habits
"Overeat and eat poorly. Please please please teach and demonstrate nutrition and exercise to your kids."
"It is SO F**KING HARD to defeat a lifetime of bad habits when you're in your adulthood and already feeling the effects of ill health from years of bad eating habits."
"And no I don't just mean 'force them to eat their veggies' and thus just create a totally negative relationship with healthy food."
"You have to find ways to make their importance clear and introduce new ways of eating healthy. Don't just feed a kid whatever they want whenever they want. I see that SO much and the end result is not good."-kpsdarlin
No More Lies
"I couldn't stop lying about things I had done because I was so worried people would lose interest in me if I didn't seem super interesting, until I lost track of my lies and couldn't stop."
"I ended up burning bridges with a lot of awesome people that I may have been great friends with, who we shared so many commonalities, awesome personalities, people I genuinely liked."
"I literally have no friends now and have trouble even being able to hold conversations with anyone any more. I did it to myself, and I regret it so much that I have dreams about things turning out differently all the time."
"It SUCKS, and if I could go back in time, I'd grab younger me's tongue immediately and tell me people liked me and wanted to be my friend, even if I felt like I was boring or not pretty enough."
"I'm glad I said this, finally. I had to say it somewhere. It's been driving me crazy, when it finally hit me how deep and insane it had gone."-TastelessAlien
Credit Ain't Free Money
"Overspending. Got a credit card as soon as I turned 18. It had a limit of £5000 and I was not financially responsible."
"Cut a long story short, more credit cards, horrible cycle of debt, had to dig myself out of it."
"I got out of debt at 32, lived pay check to pay check for a while. I'm 37 now and this year is first year of my life I have savings."
"If anyone out there has crippling debt, don't feel hopeless, there's always a way out, even if it takes years. You can do it!"-jennyrob669
Do you see yourself reflected in any of these stories? If so, the time may be now to get it under control so you don't face these difficult and sometimes dire consequences in your personal future.
You've got this! You can do it. Learn from your peers.
Ah, to be a child again. Except not if you have strict parents. Like my dad, for example--because I was the oldest child, I basically existed as the “experiment", so lots of weird disciplinary decisions were made that my younger sister never had to go through.
It seems like a lot of people share my pain. Thanks Reddit, you make me feel less alone. GiuseppeJO3 asked:
How were you disciplined as a child?
Be warned, a lot of these punishments can be a little questionable, to say the least.
This encourages bad emotional habits.
“'Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about.'"
“My parents would often use our imaginations against us like this. 'I'm coming upstairs, and not gonna come empty handed,' etc. Sometimes I think Judo-ing our own creativity against us was worse than anything."
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“My mother was a stay at home mom/frustrated housewife who would take her frustrations out on me. I was spanked quite often. One time I kept track and I was struck in some form for 33 straight days. That was the record. She even carried a wooden spoon in her purse for easy access when we weren't at home. Often a wooden spoon would break while she was beating me and that would REALLY piss her off. Looking back, I should have given her a new set of wooden spoons every year for a Mother's Day present to piss her off.
The most confusing thing to me was that I was a GOOD KID!! I was too afraid to be otherwise. When I became older and confronted her, she told me that it was BECAUSE of the beatings that I turned out to be the great person I was.
When I had kids I broke the chain. No beatings. When they wanted to hang out with grandma, I pulled her aside and told her that if she ever laid a hand (or wooden spoon) on them...I would kill her."
Schools are just as guilty.
“As a kid, time out and isolation. It also came with losing points so it took me forever to get to the level where I could talk with my classmates or get up from my desk during breaks.
In High School, they would take away electives.
My parents only punished me if the school complained hard enough. I wasn't bad at home because my parents wouldn't berate me for things I didn't do.”
Other times, disciplinary actions are meant to strengthen character.
THIS is the way to raise a child.
“So many sh*tty parents in the world, hitting, abusing, punishing kids.
When I lived with my uncle he used to lead by example, prepare kids for situations, use time out as a means of emotional regulation, use natural and logical consequences, talk you through things and teach you, be extremely selective about what mattered, understand the stages of child development, and had a huge amount of patience.
Be more like him.
Also, he has 8 kids. All different personalities, all different temperaments, all different challenges, all different levels of hmmm, let's call it 'perseverance'. He's never hit any of us. Don't be coming at me with "oh, but some kids..." or "oh, but some situations...". People hit kids because they want to."
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“My mom would yell and scream and take our toys/phones away. My dad would sit me down and say "I'm very disappointed in you."
My dad's method was always the most effective.”
Level headed parents are the best.
“I grew up in the 70s with very level headed parents. My dad would just slide his reading glasses down to the end of his nose and say 'well, let's revisit what happened'. No yelling, I think 2 spankings in my life. My husband grew up with a very strict 'whip your a**” Air Force colonel dad.”
“That was my Dad, too, but I much preferred the "2 halfhearted swats on the butt and it's back out to play" vs. "Let's analyze your mistake for evvvver". I was lucky, though, because he raised three kids to adulthood before me so nothing really fazed him.”
“I knew where my parents hid the presents for Christmas: under the bed. So one day, age 6, I "casually" roll off of their bed while watching tv with my family. I came up and announced that I saw NOTHING. My very wise mom later figured out what I saw, a Christmas Barbie I REALLY wanted. Next day she takes me to the grocery store where there is a toy drive. She makes me donate that exact doll to the drive.
As an adult, I love this so much. As a kid, I was so so sad. Edit: I still got the doll for Christmas. My mom tricked me. Sorry, important detail.”
Parents- be sure to not traumatize your kids. It’s the bare minimum.
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“I was disciplined by my school.
As far as home is concerned, parents didn't discipline me, they completely controlled me, manipulated me and verbally abused me. I wasn't even allowed to play with friends or do any sports or anything extracurricular.”
“The most common punishment for me as a child was water boarding. I would be dragged by the hair to the kitchen pined of the counter and have water from the sink run over my face until I almost blacked out. This was used for anything from messing up on a chore to talking in the wrong tone of voice. Worst part this was done by foster parents.”
Spanking needs to end.
“I would get spanked in front of people. The worst one in my opinion was getting spanked in front of family members I didn't like. This was followed by teases and encouragement from others that my spanking wasn't enough."
Anyway, sorry to end this on a sad note, but this should be a wake-up call to parents that treat their children this way. They WILL end up seriously traumatized, and that WILL affect them as adults.
I swear, some people don’t deserve to be parents.
Scary stories that make our heart race can be exciting and entertaining, but what if the scary story was a reality? There's a bump in the night that either makes you jump up, ready to fight, or freeze out of fear that it will come for you.
Some of these stories seem paranormal, some of them are real encounters with creepy people. Reddit shared some of their scariest stories that made our hearts race just reading them.
Redditor Cartisayslatt777 wanted to know:
"What's the strangest/scariest thing you've seen in the middle of the night?"
If you're ready for a spooky story or two, make sure your doors are locked before proceeding.
Didn't even flinch.
"Woke one night when I was about 5 years old. Was gazing around the room for a bit. I looked at the window and there, staring wide eyed at me was a man. Hands pressed against the window just staring with his head cocked to the side. Didn't even flinch when I noticed him. I hid under the covers, then peeked out to see if he moved. He was still there. I decided to just stay under the covers. I don't know why I didn't scream."
"I'm telling you man. Trespassers and home intruders are the scariest things. Never mind the paranormal this is real as day and still horrifying."
"For me the thing that makes them stand out is that they have a complete disregard for their own safety. Like they're on unfamiliar ground and they don't care. That's what I think makes them even more dangerous."
Through the skylight.
"Something similar happened to my stepdad. He and his brother shared a room growing up that had a skylight in it, and one night he ran to his dad's room several times to tell him a man was up there looking in their room. After the third time being woken up, his dad goes to look, and sure enough a grown man laying on his stomach watching two small boys sleeping."
"F*cking people not believing their kids. The child says something is happening check to see what's what."
Nature is scary.
"Didn't see it but heard it, for years after midnight I would always hear children playing in the distance. Couldn't ever see them but I could hear them. A couple years back was walking my dog on a late night stroll and I heard it closer than I ever have before. Like right next to me. Looked around and there was about 3 coyote about 100 ft away from. Apparently they sound like small children."
"A bears nose pressed against my tent."
"I politely asked him to go away, and he did."
"I slept the rest of the night in my car."
"'Please go away.'"
"'Understandable, have a nice day.'"
Peeping through the blinds.
"I live in a ground-level studio. My bed is near the window. I reached to turn off the bedside lamp and saw someone in a white hoodie through the gap in the blinds. I went, 'What the hell,' and moved closer to get a better look and hopefully scare the creeper off. The person in the hoodie aggressively moved closer and put his face directly into the blind gap. I jumped back and he ran away. Installed a security camera the next day."
This story took a turn.
"I had a similar story to yours, same environment (ground floor of quadplex) and only saw the shadows of a man, but my story went much further than him running away."
"I was a college student at the time and was on a late-night phone call with my long-distance girlfriend (now wife), so she can recall most of that night too. We were talking while in bed at around 2AM when I saw the shadow of a man attempt to peep in and enter my front door, denied via lock and bolt, so he started walking around the side and back towards my bedroom. I didn't have lights on, so he didn't know I could see him. Nervous and curious, I snaked my way out of bed to find out more."
"Here's where the messed up stuff happens. I had previously worked out an understanding with the other ground floor tenant, who was once SpecOps. We worked out a deal where if one needs the other, regardless of time, to do a specific knock on the divider wall. He had PTSD and therefore didn't sleep much, poor guy."
"So anyways, I knock on the divider wall, he meets me at the front door with only his hands. I inform him of the man around back and he goes and confronts the guy. The man starts trying to argue back, sees the tattoos of my neighbor, and decides he better 'drunkingly' walk away to his car down the side of the road. So here my neighbor and I are talking about what happened, how screwed up it was.....when the guy circles back around the block. Not once, not twice but three times. The neighbor tells me to go bunker down inside with the blinds closed and to call the police and give them the license plate that he memorized as the man re-lapped."
"I call the police and give them the story and plate info, soon followed by "sir, please stay on the line and do not disconnect this call. We will be right there" from the dispatcher. The surrounding neighborhood was soon lit up in red, white and blue for the next 5 blocks all around. Cop cars everywhere. A few police officers came and talked to the neighbor and I about what was going on. The man they were after was wanted in several states on several warrants and was expected to be armed....oh yeah, and most likely A HITMAN......WHOEY-SAY-WHAT?!?!?!"
"The police said to remain on the lookout and to pat myself on the back for locking my door...yay, I feel like a big boy now. I was a larger size muscular man at the time (emphasize time), but what better way to put another perspective of size into a man than finding out he was a hitman and your strength would have been worthless. I attempted to follow up with the police a while later to see if they ever found the guy, lo and behold they really couldn't say. I take it as the guy was still roaming around and got away."
"I still have flashbacks of this night that haunt me. I lock every door at night, installed a surveillance system (not that it would protect me so to say) and plan on a security system soon down the road. My cocky youth understanding of security and control was quickly matured into understanding that I am not invincible and even the strongest men can feel powerless in a situation like this. Had that door been unlocked, who knows what would have happened...."
Was it a dream?
"Saw a guy... with a shotgun... in my house."
"My brother and I were sleeping in the TV lounge. Woke up and saw a guy with shotgun near the front door. Thought it was a dream. But, just in case I woke my bro up and asked him who is that."
"The guy heard us and ran out."
"We were 7 and 8 years old at the time."
Something only you can hear.
"My parents were driving us home through a suburban area of Buffalo NY in the early 1980s. It was late spring I think. The windows of the car were open a little. I heard a woman scream 'help me!!!!!' No one in my family heard it. It happened again. I started crying but no one else heard it. Still haunts me 40 years later."
"This same thing happened to me but not super late at night in PA outside of Philly. Windows rolled down and I heard a woman screaming to the point of it almost being a gurgle, then the screaming abruptly stopped as we drove past a big empty field adjacent to Peter Wentz Farmstead. I freaked the F*CK OUT and made my parents stop to listen. Nothing happened once they were stopped. I still wonder if I heard someone being abducted or murdered."
"This was 2001 so I wasn't some little kid with an active imagination. I was 15 at the time."
And this one's just for laughs.
"F*cking laundry on a chair can be terrifying."
"That's why I always f*ck laundry on a table instead."
Okay, take a deep breath. You made it to the end.
These stories are definitely scary. Though there's no way for us to know if they're true, they make our minds wander to some pretty dark places regardless.
By the way... what's that behind you?