Today's burning question comes from Redditor CreativeBorder, who asked the online community: "Who was the smartest person you ever met? How did you know?"
Listen up. You might learn a thing or two.
"The top ranker..."
The top ranker from the university in India where I graduated. The entrance exam is by far the toughest in India, and he scored nearly full marks on it. He graduated with a CGPA that was nearly perfect, like 9.99/10. Went on graduate from Stanford with a PhD, was CTO in Vudu etc.
I have never seen such a quick mind. One the one hand he could do complex calculations in his head. On the other abstract concepts in math and physics would come so easily to him. In national level crossword puzzles he would be streets ahead of the rest of the competition.
And also a very very nice person.
"Would add another guy..."
Would add another guy from the same college, just a few ranks down the topper. He was so down to earth and funny in the four years I knew him I never realized he was one of the few gold medalists at the IMO from India, at a time where there was little or no training. He has now made Non-commutative Geometry his prime field of interest, and was with ETH Zurich for a while.
"Debate assistant coach..."
Debate assistant coach at my college. He was one of the best in his years debating, winning the Canadian National Championships. He had a way in speaking that was so damn concise but well obvious that he was extremely competent in what he spoke on.
I thought he was just your standard assistant coach until after our first tournament, where many students were approaching him as a celebrity and praising him.
It was almost intimidating to be around him as it felt that there was nothing you could say to him of value. He was one of the nicest people you could ever meet however and probably inspired me to continue debating until he passed away the following year.
"I don't know..."
I don't know the details like if he graduated early or whatever but in college a high school senior was in my Calculus III class. A little bit into the first class we noticed he wasn't taking notes, the professor even asked him if he needed a pen or something. He was a goofy awkward kid but kind of endearing, he said he didn't need to take notes and we all kind of laughed a little, the professor said well okay but I really suggest you take notes and continued the class. This kid never took notes, didn't even bring a notebook to class, but got 100% on every assignment and test.
I swear you could see him just absorbing the information, he would sit there fidgeting with his hands working things out. The professor would give us a problem on the board expecting us to take some time to work it out, the kid would stare at the board for thirty seconds, raise his hand and have the correct answer. The first few classes it was kind of annoying but then it became just impressive. I sometimes wonder where that he is now.
A classmate of mine makes links between ideas and texts and disciplines astonishingly quickly. We'll be in a tutorial and while I'm struggling to even get my head around the basic material she's asking questions which are PhD worthy according to the lecturer. Also she can break down complex ideas into tiny understandable parts for the rest of us average people.
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A friend of mine I met when I was his manager and he was a delivery driver. He was just there to put himself through school.
He was one of those computer nerds that just loved everything about computers as soon as he encountered one as a kid. He learned all the computer languages he could get a hold of. None of those "For Dummies" books. He was farrr beyond competent by the time he graduated high school and was obviously looking towards a career in the field. Even though he had the knowledge, no one was going to look at him without some sort of degree thus, the delivering pizzas to get through school thing.
As soon as he had the paper, he was snapped up by a relatively local company and went to work designing software technologies. He's since worked for various companies and makes a very comfortable living.
The computer bit isn't even the thing that makes him smart. I know a lot of incredibly smart people, including two legit geniuses. This guy just has a way of grasping what you say on an intuitive level pretty much as soon as you say it. This is the kind of guy who will never tell you he's got a high IQ or even bring it up. He doesn't have to. You couldn't talk with him for but a few sentences before it's obvious.
The best part is that he's also quite socially adept and hilarious in conversation; none of that "awkward genius" routine.
"Classmate in law school..."
Classmate in law school. Had a PhD in science with kids from great school. Got highest exam on bar, highest grades in law school. He was a very sweet person. The way he answered questions it was entirely obvious he was an absolute genius. He respectfully answered questions without coming across as a know it all. Everyone annoys me but this guy was an angel (a term one of his employers (my older cousin) used). Smart guy started a law firm and is kicking butt.
Not much compared to others, but two of my friends are really smart. One of them got a masters from Oxford University in advanced mathematics - they contacted him to offer him a place. He's a wealth management consultant in London now and married to a consultant anaethesiologist. Another friend was a chief financial officer for a bespoke holiday company at the age of 26. Super smart. I knew he would be successful when he memorised every special move for every character on Tekken as a kid and was unbeatable.
Not bad considering we're from a small rural town.
"Grew up in poverty..."
My dad. Grew up in poverty, won scholarships to top universities, studied engineering. So intelligent that he dreamed in mathematical equations. But so kind that everyone loved to be around him and most had no idea of the scope of his intellectual and professional accomplishments. He died two weeks ago unexpectedly. The literal international outpouring from his colleagues and childhood friends was astounding. I will miss him for my whole life.
"Sounds cheesy but..."
Sounds cheesy but my father. Used to hold the world record for the most top grades ever received (in the 80s Britains education system is different now) and once won all the subject prizes apart from one (at his school there were prizes for the person who received the top mark in each subject and the only one he didn't win was geography) and went to a top exclusive grammar school. Then went on to be awarded a full scholarship to Cambridge (the joint best university in the UK with Oxford) and got a job in a pretty high bank as soon as he graduated. However socially he is extremely awkward and was recently diagnosed as autistic which explains a lot of his personality as if it wasn't for my mother and his hobby of playing chess (which my mum pushed him to join a club) he wouldn't have any friends however my mum makes up for it.
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My grandpa. He dropped out of high school when he was 17 and was very much a basic blue collar man, but my god he was smart. I was struggling with a trig problem once when I was in high school and he just picked up the book, read the example instructions and solved the problem for me in 10 minutes and explained it to me. He also solved 100 levels of Unblock me in like an hour when I showed him the game for the first time. I always wondered what he could have done if he'd had the support when he was younger to go college.
"If years from now..."
My uncle. He's 'Good Will Hunting' smart. Never went to college but can solve any puzzle, work any math you place before him, fix cars, and has excellent recall. And with coke bottle glasses even in his 70s can shoot a bottle cap off a fence post with a 22 pistol from 50 yards away--first shot every time.
If years from now we find out he was some kind of CIA assassin I'd believe it. His intelligence is terrifying.
"By far the most intellectually capable..."
I had a 3rd grade student I was assigned to work with for 2 week's, but it turned into a 2 month job.
Kid was diagnosed with autism, and it was pretty severe and he had some strong paranoia and sensory issues that were never resolved because mom refused all forms of help. He would throw things if he got something wrong, anytime someone was laughing he thought it was about him, and he chopped his food up as much as possible because his preferred way of eating was for things to essentially be blended.
He also read at a high school level, was able to master any mathematic concepts taught to him (I think we got up to algebra and somewhat difficult geometry in my time with him, I'm no math whiz), extremely intuitive with languages and broke apart words into their smaller pieces based off of instruct (loved Latin for this reason), crushed any video game you put in front of him, and had absolute perfect pitch.
By far the most intellectually capable person I've ever met. I haven't seen him in years and I really hope the system/his mom came to understand his potential.
"Went to Harvard..."
My dad. Went to Harvard from a small farming town of 200 people, read more books about more topics than I could ever count, resume four pages long, but never, EVER treated a person like they were dumb or that he was better than them.
Could teach anything to any person of age and have them understand it without being condescending in the slightest. That's what made him smarter than anyone I had ever met.
"One of my best friends..."
One of my best friends who recently committed suicide. Brilliant interventional radiologist, trained at Johns Hopkins, good at EVERYTHING he tried! Memorized the lyrics to thousands of songs and quotes from hundreds of movies. Taught himself guitar and drums. Knew all there was to know about fishing and marine life. Amazing focus and observation skills. Also loved to party and enjoy life. I will miss him dearly.
"When I was treated..."
When I was treated for ALL at MUSC, I had a whole team of doctors. It was funny how many of the top doctors seemed to come from India though. My top doctor was also from India. The way I knew he was smart was because he was friendly, inquisitive, and I watched him get interviewed on 20/20 while I was being treated by him. He was apparently leading the fight against childhood leukemia.
Then I had a younger roommate 15 years later. He was also Indian. I knew he was intelligent because he lived with me in a very low income house in order to pursue his interests (robotics and tech) instead of his parents interests. (law and medicine) He had lots of friends, but chose to invest most of his time in projects he was working on and only allowed himself to go out and let lose about once a month. The best criticism he gave was that I reward myself too easily. Well he got invited into a tech group on the big island which he was a part of for a year and a half and last I heard he was moving to LA to pursue another group. He is in his early 20's and doing the wanderlust, finding himself thing, but on his own terms. What I mean is that popularity, money, his parents ambition, none of things have distracted him from his own goals which seem to be finding interesting possibilities in robotics and science and then following them as they impact the world in order to find out what he wants to do in a longer term sense. To me this was genius on a whole new level and though he's probably to busy these days to even remember me, I am certain that he will have an impact on our quality of life in some future sense.
"He was an artist, he was a surgeon..."
My grandfather. He had 4 doctorates and knew 10 languages (including Latin, could speak it fluently and knew all plants by their Latin names which today baffles me). He was an artist, he was a surgeon, a biologist and a mathematician. He did a test for intelligence when he was in his 60s and still today holds the record, of getting 98%. This test allows you to double your annual income ad a doctor if you get 50%. Which people study for 6months to a year for. (He didn't need to study and signed up spontaneously) I cant remember what the test is called but he literally won an apartment in a London high-tower for his score. Anyway enough bragging. I cant imagine having this kind of intelligence, you would feel so alone, no one to connect with. He would always say these things. Most people you meet are idiots about 1% are worth your while. Swimming is the best exercise, the government doesn't give a shit about you, and the banks and Mark's run the world. Always learn new things. Knowledge is the only thing they can't take away from you. And banks start all the wars. He also threw a clog at me when I was 9. I'm still confused if I like him or not. He passed in 2008, and donated his body to science, we only got his body back last year and he was cremated and his ashes lay with the native flowers of Belgium where he was born and raised.
"Many people my age..."
Many people my age just make decisions based on what comes their way, what inspires them, what they are feeling at the moment.
This fellow was in a similar situation as I, but made a career switch earlier than I. He was way ahead of his time, and even though we're the same age, he started his career switching course 5 years before I did.
I still think he's the smartest person I know. He plans ahead. He's human like us all and circumstances brought him to where we were 5 years ago, but he was able to decisively do the right thing while I took many years more to do the same thing. And I do consider myself smart as well.
His talk is full of wisdom and the reason why he's the samrtest person I know is because the second smartest person I know is mainly book-smart, but cannot interact with people, cannot plan his career, just good with grades and his ego affects him.
This guy a couple grades above me. He was always known for being smart, but this story made me think he was a genius. He had gotten into a pretty bad car wreck and he was in a fugue state for a while. He missed a lot of school and about 6 units in AP Biology. He shows back up on the day of a test. The teacher says he doesn't have to take it, but he does anyways. This guy realizes he studied for the wrong unit, finishes the test, and gets the highest grade in the class. He would also take AP exams for classes our school didn't have and passed them. Dude's a genius.
"Valedictorian of my HS class..."
Valedictorian of my HS class was a legit whiz at everything. Everybody was wondering what he'd eventually go into... equally good at math, science, literature, social science, maybe a slight edge on math. Ended up being a math professor at a PhD at a big university. I'm proud that I can just manage to explain he did his dissertation about injecting chaos into hard problems and making them more solvable. Soluble. Whatever.
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Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.
He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.
Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?
Sadly, this is behavior that is tolerated and yes, normalized in our society.
People were keen to share other observations after Redditor EnoughSandwich_7057 asked the online community,
"What's toxic behavior that's considered socially acceptable?"
"Trying to make people..."
"Trying to make people drink/smoke or drink/smoke more when they have firmly declined the offer."
This is a big one that can have disastrous consequences. I am thankful I got a bunch of terrible nights out drinking out of my system by my early twenties.
Being drunk to the point that you're incoherent is horrible.
"I hate the whole prank thing..."
"I hate the whole prank thing, especially when it's done for likes. Scaring or humiliating people for attention just means you are a bad person."
I don't watch any of those videos and I don't understand what people see in them.
"Overworking yourself and then collectively judging others who don't do the same."
I had a coworker like that once, and she was a (minor) reason why I ended up leaving one job, but still a reason nonetheless.
"Taking your work with you..."
"Taking your work with you on vacation. I mean if you enjoy working then that's your thing, but I get sick of people like going through paperwork and having meetings while on vacation. Like dude, stop."
"Looking down on someone..."
"Looking down on someone because of their job."
When people say things like, "If fast food workers deserve $15 an hour..." that says a lot.
"Deliberately misunderstanding what someone is saying so as to make it easier to argue with them."
"People tend to give drunk people..."
"People tend to give drunk people misbehaving a pass if they regularly do it, 'Oh don't mind Tom, he's just drunk.' That just reinforces that toxic behavior."
You can say that again. How many times have you run into bad behavior like this while out and about, perhaps in a bar? It's not fun.
"The fact that we reward..."
"The fact that we reward customers for being wrong. The number of times my old manager would be so exhausted from arguing over the cost of a carton of milk with a customer that she would just give it to them is appalling."
"It reinforces this mentality because even if the customer KNOWS they're wrong they don't care because they will still win."
Annnnd this is why I don't miss retail. I'm fine where I am.
"Verbally abusing minimum wage employees who don't make the rules. If I could change the laws tomorrow I'd encourage businesses to ban pieces of garbage like these who can't operate in public."
"I'm here to do a job..."
"Toxic workplace behavior needs to be top of the list. I'm here to do a job and go home, not be harassed because you don't like some aspect of my personality. Managers who let this slide should be held personally liable."
When you stop and think about it, you realize we live in an imperfect society. It's astounding that some people just tolerate bad behavior and, in many cases, don't even see anything wrong with it.
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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.
Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.
However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:
"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."
Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.
Redditor Gooncookies asked:
"What could your parents have done better when raising you?"
Here's some of the ways that these Redditor's parents could have done better.
Rules to maintain purity.
"Would've been nice if my dad hadn't convinced me I had to behave in certain ways to maintain my innocence and purity."
"Catholic? I can relate."
"Nope. He's an atheist. He's actually extremely upset that I practice my (non Christian) religion. He just has some really weird ideas about having female children. Like, if I wore spaghetti straps when I was a child he'd say it was like he was living in a brothel."
Becoming afraid of failure.
"Encourage me to do more. I was never pushed to do anything. I mean, I get why some athletes are like 'my parents pushed me too hard where I hated it.' But I was never encouraged to go out for it try anything new. I played little league baseball and decided I thought it was a good idea to try and be a pitcher. I told my mom, but got the response along the lines of 'That's a hard position, and the whole game kind of rides on you, and if you mess up, everyone is going to blame you.' As a 37 year old I now see how that kind of stuff screwed my self esteem up and why I'm so afraid of failure as an adult."
"Same here. Also when I wanted to try anything new my mom was like 'But that's too hard for you, are you really sure you wanna do this? I don't think that you want nor can.' What's even worse than just forbidding, in this way the kid won't 'protest doing it' and get too low self esteem to do it."
"I'm really happy now that I overcame this after I moved out. I started doing all those things I wanted to do as a kid and I freaking love it (but kinda hate the fact that I haven't started earlier)."
"But even if I have a good relationship to my mom I hide a lot of things I do from her, since she still does the same and tries to convince me that I actually don't wanna do what ever I planned."
"But dear mom, sometimes you just need to try new things. if it wont work out who cares!? Even got a tattoo with 'What if I fall? Honey what if you fly?' to remind me if I should ever forget. (And no, my mum doesn't know about it)."
We're allowed to feel our emotions.
"Allow me to express my emotions, treat me like an actually person, actually interact with me instead of just ignoring me and them just telling me to kill myself."
"Wow. I'm so sorry. I think a lot of parents forget that their children are actually human beings."
"Its okay. I'm trying to work through some of that trauma, its easier said than done."
Interest is nice.
"They could have shown more of an interest in my mental health and education."
"I didn't get help for my anxiety until after college and it's so frustrating to hear my parents acknowledge I was an anxious child yet nothing was done. I can look back and see how many things could have gone better for me."
"I had diagnosed ADHD and my mom thought that the meds made my brother and I zombies and decided she wanted us to just be kids. My parents never looked into any kind of non-medication help for my ADHD."
"I'll always wonder what school would've been like if I had the tools to properly manage it."
"I got an MFA, but I feel my entire life has been a whole lot of masking."
I also have comorbid sleep/circadian rhythm disorder which they also never did anything about. Going to the doctor for anything, physical or mental, was not prioritized. But, my parents definitely weren't well off financially, so I imagine that that was the biggest contributor."
Kids deserve autonomy.
"Taught me to question adults and trust myself."
"They thought they were doing the best thing by teaching my sister and I 'All adults are always right and you obey them no matter what,' but it made me a dysfunctional employee and vulnerable to abusive relationships."
"The good news is it can be unlearned. But I hope this new generation will teach our kids to assert themselves respectfully instead of blind obedience."
Why keep up the charade?
"My parents are great people who did a good job raising me, but there was one weird thing they did that still kind of annoys to this day (and I'm 44.)"
"Once I got old enough to figure out that things like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny weren't real they still wouldn't admit it for some reason; I think it was more my mom and my dad just went along with her. But even when I became a teenager and all my siblings were teenagers it's like they still thought it was funny and cute to keep pretending that Santa Claus was real. I don't know why."
"They missed the point of that sort of thing. It's a rite of passage for children to eventually get old enough to figure out that this sort of thing isn't real and for the parents to let them in on it. I was denied that and it still bugs me for some reason."
"I could imagine that being infuriating at 14-15 years old. At that age you're wanting to be seen as more of an adult and I can imagine them not acknowledging Santa as a way of not welcoming me into adulthood/making me feel like a little kid."
Yea that's weird. When I got older and looked back I realized that my folks never flat out said Santa was real. My mom would say something like, 'He's only real if you believe in him,' so she never technically lied to me. Maybe it stems from that, they don't want to admit they lied to you?"
"That could be, but I think it was more a matter of my parents (again, my mom especially) thinking that doing the whole Santa Claus thing on Christmas morning, and Easter Bunny thing on Easter was fun and something that she just didn't want to let go of when my sisters and I got older."
Healthy criticism is necessary sometimes.
"They lacked discipline and parental authority which led us to treat them like our friends, disrespect them. We also couldn't be academically successful because they didn't help us develop a healthy studying habit."
"Kids like it when a parent tells them what to do (I mean, parenting is about teaching a kid what to do, if you just leave it like that, it won't learn anything), help them when they can't get through it, never give negative criticism, but constructive criticism when they fail and appreciate them when they succeed."
"Negative criticism: this type only tells them what is wrong. e.g. 'you can't do this,' 'you are doing this badly.'"
"Constructive criticism: this type gives them an insight into what should they do, you can add what is lacking if necessary. e.g. '[...] is not good behaviour, please do [...] next time, then you would succeed,' 'it looks ok (if it is badly done, then don't say this), but if you do [...] it'd be better / [...] is the correct way.'"
Whatever the situation was with your parents or caretakers, there are ways to heal from this trauma.
Psychology Today says we need to process our emotions, especially if we were taught not to when we were children.
It's important that we break these generational curses.
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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.
That kind of thinking, however, does little to keep us from feeling dejected for days on end.
Curious to hear from heartbroken strangers on the internet, Redditor whitecheeks-24 asked:
What's your sad love story?
Death never comes at the right time.
A Difficult Decision
"The love of my life and soulmate who I was married to for 20 years and together for 24 passed away about 8 months ago. I feel alone and empty inside. I have nobody to love or to love me. My life is an empty waste of space now."
"I took her off of life support because I know that's what she wanted and I had to respect her wishes but I sometimes wish I was a little more greedy. I just want my doll face back."
"I am so sorry. I had to do the same thing with my love, married 40 years. It's been 28 months and I'm sinking deeper into despair. We had so many plans, did everything together, and I am honestly lost without him. I send you warmest regards."
The Shy Admirer
"I was a shy teenager, in love with a cute neighbor. His sister and my mom were friends. He died in a car accident. Nobody knew how I felt about him. I overheard his sister tell my mom that he was in love with me. We never got to share our feelings with each other."
"I think a guy I found on match.com died but I have no way of knowing. We had only been dating for 2 or 3 months and we were taking things slow. Then he got sick..tumors in his back and he needed surgery. We still hung out but he was in a lot of pain."
"At the time I was frustrated because I felt he was pushing me away. I just adored him and he was sending mixed messages. Now looking back.. I'm thinking he was just trying to survive. He went in for surgery and I never heard from him again. I didn't know his family and he didn't have social media."
"My mom would check the obituaries in the paper for me and I just always wondered. I hope he didn't know how to end things and just felt this was easier. It's been 5 years and I have a family of my own now but Michael..I hope you're okay."
It's hard for these Redditors to accept the fact their love was never meant to be.
Long Distance Fizzle
"I had to leave my first boyfriend behind because I moved out of state and didn't even get to say goodbye because I didn't know we were moving when I left. We left to see my aunt who had been traveling and was diagnosis with brain cancer in another state, she was too sick to travel home so they rented a house and stayed there essentially until she passed away."
"My mom liked the area better than my hometown tho so we ended up staying, our stuff was shipped to us so I never got to say goodbye to my boyfriend in person."
"We kept in contact for a couple years but being 16 and 18, it wasn't easy for me to just pack up and head back to move in somewhere with him. We both knew we weren't ready for that so we tried our best to keep the long distance romance going."
"Eventually he messaged me one day and told me that he can't do it anymore and he didn't want to hear from me again because he couldn't handle it."
"When I was in my early 20s, I've had a love at first sight experience. It completely broke me. He actually was into me too, but not in love like I was."
"I had never had a boyfriend before and I got so excited, I came in like a wrecking ball to cite a great poet. Long story short, I scared him off, he broke up, I couldn't get him out of my head and couldn't imagine a world without him, so I tried to kill myself."
"Though let me reassure you all, it's been years and I'm over him (as long as I don't see him IRL, I just know that I'd fall back in the spiral), I even had a long-term relationship after him."
Tough Reality Check
"I got left out of a 5 year relationship. I got injured, lost my job, and had to go take care of my dying mom. I was not in a good way. I come back from the ER and she calls our entire relationship off because I was not 'passionate' any longer. Right."
"My entire life fell apart. Lost the house we had gone in on. Lost the dog we had gotten together. And I lost my girl. She was my bestfriend, my first love."
"Huge reality check but at least I'm only 22. I'm glad I saw her true colors when things went bad. Easy to stand by someone when times are good. Saddest part is I would take her back in an instant. I lost a piece of my soul with her."
Some of the biggest heartbreaks come when someone shows their true colors.
"FOUND OUT MY BOYFRIEND WAS MARRIED WITH KIDS ON THE INTERNET. I was happy and in love for two years. One day while doing my research for a client work, I come across a research paper. The research paper matched what I was looking for, scrolling through it, I realized the owner had some names as my boyfriend."
"But this time he acknowledges his wife and two children for being patient with him as he was busy doing the thesis. I got curious, I took a screenshot and sent him a picture and asked if it's his paper."
"Also, I asked if it's true that he has two kids and a wife and he why didn't tell me. He answered 'DOES IT MATTER '. That was the end of my relationship. Never talked about it, never told any soul what happened."
"I finally got with my best friend and soul mate. He knows more about me then anyone and knows what I've been put thru my whole life. When we first got together he promised he would never do anything to me that others have."
"One year later he cheated, lied and and broke my spirit. Something i never thought was possible with me, yet he accomplished it. It's been a year since i left him and he still tries to get back into my life. The sad part is I know he doesn't love me and I can't stop loving him."
"After four years of supporting my lover through his depression and alcoholism, he announced tonight that he is leaving me. I'm pretty depressed."
A Devious Scheme
"Wife moves our small family across the country for a promotion at her company. When we arrive and settle into our house, she leaves me for her boss."
"The move was a scheme for her boss to leave his wife and kids, and for her to leave me, while being able to be close to all their children. So I unknowingly left my career, family and friends behind to move to a state where I don't know anyone so she could be with her new guy."
Unexpected tragedy will always be, to me, the saddest break up story.
A co-worker of mine used to date a young man who was a patron at the store where we both worked.
Their budding romance was new and exciting and absolutely adorable to watch.
He told me he planned to propose to her before he went away on a family vacation, but sadly, my friend never got the proposal. The guy drowned in a horrible boating accident during his trip.
Although my friend is now happily married with two kids, I wonder if she still thinks about him.
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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.
Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"
But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.
And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.
So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.
That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.
Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:
What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
I swear if every single person was forced to work in the hospitality industry for at least one month in their life, y'all would be beside yourselves. The amount of craziness and laziness could keep you eating at home for every meal until death.
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"Casino dealers really do want the players to win. We don't work for the house. We get paid crap hourly rates and rely on tips. Unless the player is super nice they only to tip if they win so we really do want you to win." ~ thedevilsgame
Not the Good Stuff...
"That you can take a gallon of paint and give it a different label, price point, and warranty depending on the store it is sold in." ~ big_d_usernametaken
"My professor told me the same thing. He was a job coach and erased the due dates on food products with I believe acetone or some product in nail polish remover."
"Would slap a new date on it, and the food would get shipped to poorer neighborhoods. That crap blew my mind." ~ Additional_Bar_2013
"Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That if everyone being charged with a crime insisted on it going to trial, no plea bargaining, the system would crash." ~ mikenyle
"When I was a juror, the judge also commented before everything started that trial by jury is the only thing causing people to plea bargain and "getting the system moving."
"Many trials sit in limbo for years, and it's only the threat of "Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That really negotiations start. That's exactly what happened in my case - jurors got selected, and that afternoon (after being 2 years in the system), the defendant pleads out." ~ zealeus
"Safety. It's not really about your health and well being. It's about saving the company money from medical expenses, lost time, lawyer costs, etc. Very rarely does your company actually give 2 craps about you, no matter how much they preach safety, they just don't want to pay if you get hurt/killed." ~ WhenThePiecesFit
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"TV/screenwriter here. If you're established and well connected, it's very easy to coast and be a TV writer for YEARS and do very little actual writing. Most of TV writing is just talking in a room with other writers spitballing."
"This is why there's so many old, unfunny dudes still "writing" on TV shows. They're hired by their friends and in TV, a lot writers don't actually do much "pen to paper" writing. Plus everything gets rewritten to death." ~ GardenChic
So much mess. Someone hire me to write for TV. Why are you just giving away jobs to unqualified people? Life is so unfair. This list makes me mad. Let's continue...
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"I work in the print industry, we print cheques for companies and there is so little security involved in hiring, or keeping the materials secure, or running the actual work, or shipping the work to customers. I'm shocked we haven't had a problem with stolen cheques." ~ Jeff_Cunningham
"Advertising. I keep reading that advertising is leading people to be more woke, or multicultural. Companies don't lead, they follow. They do lots of research and know where the future markets are."
"I worked for a very conservative global brand. 5 years before gay marriage became legal, they told us it would happen and we needed to start targeting the LBGTQ community." ~ leftside72
"Visa agent and I've seen people be refused because the manager didn't like their face." ~ Ok_Albatross9395
"Omg this happened to my sister. She couldn't start her semester in time because she kept being refused a visa even though she fulfilled all conditions."
"Finally my parents found a "connection" in embassy to see what's going on; turns out someone just didn't like her when she came to give her papers the first time. I never knew if I can fully believe that story." ~ animal7239
So much typing...
"I'm a writer, among other things. I used to ghostwrite. You'd be amazed how many popular books are partly or fully ghostwritten. I specialised in taking people's crappy first drafts and rewriting them so they were actually good. Not "good" according to people's taste, which is subjective."
"But objectively better in the sense of being properly spelled, not having gaping plot holes, making sure characters were consistent. By the time I was done there was often very little left of the draft the "writer" had created, but there was a marketable product."
"Pisses me off no end when I see all the bull the publishing industry comes out with about how writers submitting a manuscript must make sure it's perfect because only excellence will get you anywhere."
"I don't know how they can say that and still sleep at night, knowing full well that they're hiring people like me to do large-scale rewrites (or to take a half-baked plot and create a draft from scratch)." ~ iwillckingbiteyou
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"I work in payroll. The number of payroll reports I see where people are conned out of their overtime is saddening."
"Also, taxes paid by a business shouldn't actively dissuade them from paying employees less. The system shouldn't be based on paying a percentage of employee salary in taxes (FICA, Workers Comp), in other words." ~ ThongofSekhmet
I think some investigations need to be launched. I always knew payroll departments were running a scam. Too many people are being ripped off. Time to expose some people.
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