Life is difficult to live and bare witness to. There are moments and situations that are seared vividly into all of us. The things we can never unsee. Whether it be a moment of violence or tragedy or heartbreak, it'll be something we all wish we could change. That's why it's always best to have others to share with. Reach out. Especially to loved one and professionals.
Redditor u/ThisDudeDaShawn wanted to know what unspeakable acts of life we've witnessed by asking.... What is something you wish you never saw or heard?
I saw my best friend dead in his coffin when I was 8. He had died of leukemia. It fundamentally changed me as a person. I grew up a lot that day and I think it's part of the reason I am the way I am with people and relationships. I never want them to end. My biggest fear is losing people. I think that's probably why. NotABurner2000
My mum walked into my bedroom at 3am coughing, she had stage 4 lung cancer but was generally coping. She passed out and by the time the ambulance came she had passed away. They left her on my floor for hours and it was only me and her in our house. I couldn't face moving her to a bed or something so just sat next to her on the floor for hours. Her face was weirdly bruised where she hit the floor and her tooth was wonky and I'll never forget the look of her face :(. At times the image pops into my head, every time it just makes me want to cry even years on. I felt pretty bitter towards my siblings for a while for being the only one there to deal with it all but l slowly learnt it's a pointless resentment to hold. yuuuuuuuiipr
Too Much to Stomach.
The toybox killer David Parker Ray. There is a transcript of a video that he would play to his new victims as he had them shackled to a table. I never made it through the whole thing.
Some of my coworkers were once talking about the worst things they have seen or read on the internet. I told them about this transcript but warned them it is the most disturbing thing I've ever read and I wasn't even able to finish it. They didn't make it to the end either. I won't link it but you could easily find it with the info I listed. Tokenofmyerection
I saw my friend inject some bad heroin, nod off, puke white stuff, pee his pants and die before the paramedics arrived. Delsentido
A 2 year old stuck in a borewell at 80ft deep, died inside 2 days later despite the efforts to save him. A picture of him was released a day later he got stuck, mud over him, only hands can be seen since his hands were up. Nobody could save him because the diameter of the well was so short that he was slowly descending from 20 ft to 80 ft over the span of 5 days. This crushed my heart and I wish I never heard or saw something like this. despaireduser
When I was about 7, I had gotten up early in the morning to watch cartoons. I lived with my mom as my parents had divorced the year prior, and she was still sleeping. As I was watching TV I started hearing a lot of coughing, I went into my kitchen and my dog was coughing non stop, it might have been choking but I don't remember well. I went to tell my mom and in her extremely tired state said 'he does that sometimes', I went back and sat with him for a few minutes, until he dropped to the floor, and I instantly started crying and dragged my mom out of bed. Her pushing me out of the kitchen and yelling at me to call my dad is something I'll never forget, when he arrived he closed the door and all I could hear for the next few hours was my mom's bawling. I never felt so helpless. l_dead_fl_dead_f
I used to do research for an energy services company. I could have gone my entire life without reading the details and seeing the pictures of what happens when you touch a downed wire. Best outcome is honestly death. Your face literally melts.
Stay away from powerlines and any sort of live wires. Please. Just call the professionals and keep others back. Beachy5313
The silence as my (then) girlfriend have birth to our stillborn son. I just wept and wept when I could hear the sound of a baby crying. She went through 13 hours of labor only for our world to be completely destroyed. Behold_the_Bear
I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost a child, and it is heartbreaking. It never goes away, but it does get easier to deal with it. I hope you're both doing ok. lovesilver
My husbands mom told him this a lot growing up. This weekend we were on a little train ride and he was sitting in front of me with our 1.5 year old son in front of him. Our son was laughing and I kept looking at the back of my husband's head with some of his grey hairs coming in, freckles on the back of his ears. He looked to the side and I could see a huge smile on his face from our son screaming tree! Train! And I've never felt so much love, I hugged him right from behind and told said - I'm so glad you're here.
He makes me a better person. No matter how many times his mother told him that out of frustration or because she was drunk I'll never let him think for a second he's not appreciated or absolutely needed in my life.
Just because your mom makes you feel worthless doesn't mean you are. strictlytacos
I found my neighbor Diane (late 60s) dead in her bed. Her mom (100) came over banging on my door and praying at the top of her lungs and told me she couldn't get up the stairs to check on her. I went up there and she was dead. I told the mom and Diane's daughters that it looked like she went peacefully in her sleep. That was a lie. She. Looked. Terrified. I'll never forget the look on this woman's face for as long as I live. She knew what was happening. bowyer-bettybowyer-betty
I saw a young girl drown in a hotel pool when I was on holiday with my dad in Majorca. I was 14 at the time.
They pulled her out of the pool and were performing CPR on her for a long time, with everyone else around the pool watching.
The feeling of utter tragedy emanating from everyone around the pool was devastating. The parents, her siblings, the lifeguard who missed it and felt fully responsible. Everyone left the pool, but no one knew whether to leave the surrounding area or not. Everyone just kind of watched on in silence. It was pretty surreal. Dipso88
Finding my father dead in his home. Wrong_Answer_Willie
My grand father died in my living room when I was 16. He used to sleep in his chair a lot so none of us realized he was dead. He was ice cold by the time we realized so he must have been there for hours while we all watched TV. It hurts looking back in it. ShadowWingZero
When my brother died the Army sent his things back to us in a large box. I got to watch my mom open it and discover they also included the blanket (they wrapped him in for the life flight) that still had his blood, hair and brains all over it. It was the first thing we saw. Whole family looking at that blanket, crying and screaming. He was 20 and the youngest of 7. Oknocando
"no body wants to die."
Death rattle. This is the sound of someone's breathing as they die. Awful to hear. Sully1102
Yeah, experienced this sound with two family members over the last year and a half-ish. i cannot get the image of the dead step-father laying in his hospital bed out of my brain. or the way my great-grandmother sounded when i heard her speak the last proper sentence she managed when they were discussing if she wanted medical intervention or to pass away peacefully. "no body wants to die." i stayed at the hospital listening to her labored breathing until late that night. she passed away early morning.
that sound. its an absolute death omen. Sully1102
I lost my father when I was 14. I was in my room on the computer and I heard him gasping and breathing really strangely from the bathroom. I called down to my mom who ran to call 911, I was the one that was trying to keep him conscious while the ambulance was on their way.
Turns our his heart basically exploded because of blockages, and there was nothing that could be done. But looking at my dad's glazed over eyes and hearing his gasping and weak breathing took a toll on me.
My brother was also not home at the time, so the proverbial icing on the cake was hearing an 18 year old screaming "No daddy, no daddy no!" at the top of his lungs.
There was nothing that could be done to save him, but the paramedics told us there was no suffering and he was dead before he knew that anything was wrong. But still, those sounds and that sight of my dad will haunt me for the rest of my life. siphonsoul
Two occasions at an old job spring to mind.....
Two occasions at an old job spring to mind
- I became pretty friendly with one of the executive's daughters. At that time I was the company's IT systems administrator. One of my responsibilities was to review inbound/outbound items quarantined by our anti-spam server. I stumbled upon e-mails of her very married father negotiating terms with an escort. The next day he e-mailed her about how she was amazing the night before, and how he couldn't wait to see her again. I didn't think it was my place to insert myself into their family, but it made hanging our with the daughter really awkward. It was always in the back of my mind. I dunno. Maybe I should have told her.
- One morning I receive a support ticket that one of our employees can't login the night before. I go over to look into it and one of his colleagues mentions that he was set to be fired when he arrived, and that his account was disabled the previous evening. Unfortunately, his boss wanted to let him go in person but was involved in a relatively serious car accident on his way to work. They made it very clear that under no circumstances was I to allow the employee to login. So for 4+ hours I had to keep bullshitting him that it was caused by some weird server error every time he dropped by my desk for a status update. Poor guy. funky_shmoo
When I was 9 Years old, I witnessed my dog get run over by a car. It was so bad, I'd have eventual flashbacks throughout my teens of him lying in blood with all his guts out whenever I'd look at the road.
I wished I never saw it, But most of it all I wished it never happened. K9Seven
A few videos that I've seen online have stuck with me. One that springs to mind is a tipper truck of live pigs being dumped into a pit. I only watched less than 30 seconds of it because I just thought "why the heck am I looking at this?" The sound is what really got to me. Humans can be so cruel. flypaperhat
I worked as a tow truck driver. I worked a head on collision with fatalities that included some small children, there was carseats soaked in blood snacks everywhere stuffed animals covered in blood. I quit my job that day and went back into welding. pbrstreetgang865
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Who else wishes they were blind?
There's no shortage of excellent horror fiction out there. Recently I read The Terror by Dan Simmons and can't remember the last time I felt that claustrophobic and nervous. But I am also a fan of quite a few classics. Are there any other horror books that capture grief as effectively as Stephen King's Pet Sematary? What other book evokes folk horror as beautifully as Thomas Tryon's Harvest Home? Let's not forget this wonderful classic: The Haunting of Hill House. I could rave about that one (and Shirley Jackson) for days. All of these books left their mark on me and yes, I'd include them on a list (if I were to make one) of some of the scariest books I've read.
People had their own opinions to share––and books to recommend––after Redditor Tylerisdumber asked the online community,
"What's the scariest book you've ever read?"
"Gerald's Game. I've read lots of Stephen King and this one scared me the most. Slept with the lights on for several nights."
Everything about this book is creepy. Don't even get me started on the... degloving. I'm sorry I even typed that word out.
"It's not a long story..."
"The Yellow Wallpaper.
It's not a long story and I'd highly recommend going in knowing little to nothing about it. It's brilliant and terrifying. Published in 1892 as well if that's any interest!"
Few stories make you feel this sad. A pretty stunning piece of work––and yes, unnerving. Can really get under your skin.
"I think it was mainly..."
"For some reason, Salem's Lot by Stephen King.
I think it was mainly because I was on a week-long hiking trip in the Australian bush and it got dark and scary at night. But damn, I had trouble sleeping for a couple of nights. Then the friend I was hiking with read it, and he couldn't sleep either."
This is probably my favorite early King––and for good reason. The sense of atmosphere is impeccable. Those characters are loveable and you genuinely care about what happens to them. Then the book veers from horror into tragedy. It's quite moving.
"Just the knowledge..."
"On The Beach.
It's the most soul-crushing book I've ever read, and there's really nothing scary in it.
Just the knowledge of impending death for everyone that feels so awfully heavy."
This is one of those books that makes you feel hopeless.
It's impeccably written but wow... it's a truly heavy read.
"You never knew..."
It's a classic. I found it to be immensely chilling. You never knew what would happen and the writing instilled a sort of dread. I read it in the dark before I went to bed until I finished it."
A book I can read and re-read over and over again. It's a beautiful horror novel. It's also a really fascinating window into the era and manages to say a lot about social and class mores.
"I'm Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid. Very creepy and unnerving, definitely scared me reading it at night."
I wanted to really like this one––unfortunately, I did not––but there's no denying that the first third or so (especially once the two protagonists get to the house) is pretty unnerving. Shame the payoff wasn't all that.
"It was disturbing and horrifying..."
"Helter Skelter. It's about the Manson murders and goes into quite a bit of detail. It was disturbing and horrifying because, unlike the King novels also mentioned, it's true. What they did to Sharon Tate is so absolutely devastating. Pure evil."
This book is gruesome and not for the faint of heart. The level of detail we dive into learning about the Tate-LaBianca murders is remarkable and also rather nauseating.
"So the book's characters..."
"Bird Box by Josh Malerman.
Forget the Netflix movie. The book's monsters are terrifying, in that you simply just don't know what they are or what they look like. They could be anything. What they are is enough to drive people insane by just being looked at.
So, the book's characters have to navigate a world mostly without one of our most used senses, and what's more terrifying than something you can't see?
This leads to some utterly scary scenes in the book that sent my heart racing and I had to put down for a breather."
It's a shame that movie wasn't all that and a bag of potato chips.
"It's a different kind of scary..."
"It's a different kind of scary, but The Handmaid's Tale. Atwood's dystopian nation feels not that far from reality sometimes, and it absolutely terrifies me."
We're going to go there.
Yes, this book is terrifying.
"I feel like the movie..."
"The Ruins, by Scott Smith, messed me up pretty good. My favorite kind of horror is psychological, and while there is a physical "entity" the real horror is the helplessness of this stranded group trapped by something they don't understand. Their desperate struggle to hold on to their sanity and the slow descent into hopeless desperation just really hit hard.
I feel like the movie was a fairly faithful adaptation, although it's been a while since I've seen it."
I love this book and have read it multiple times over the years. It's slow-going... and then the final one-hundred pages are just horrifying.
Well, if you haven't read any of these... What are you waiting for? Get on that. You won't regret it.
But also... the world is pretty scary right now, so we understand if you need to take a step back.
Have some suggestions of your own? Feel free to tell us in the comments below!
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Have you ever traveled to a city you've always heard good things about, only to be totally let down upon arrival?
When a friend insists we travel to certain cities because we would "just love it," they're setting the bar pretty high.
And a city can also boast a rich history or an attraction that makes us curious enough to find out what makes it so appealing.
But, alas, when we finally reach the destination, it's never exactly what we thought it would be.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor tshirtguy2000 asked:
"What city is overrated?"
These are not officially real cities but they do have a rotating population.
It's Always A Party There
"As a former
slave associate at party city. I 100% agree."
"Lego City. There always has to be someone falling into the river."
"Cabot Cove, the murder capital of the world."
"Sure, the murders are all solved, but would you really want to live in a city with that much, easily solved, crime?"
Neighbor To Springfield
Shelbyville. Those f'kers steal trees from neighboring cities.
These were once considered destination cities but their popularity eventually took a nose dive.
"Atlantic City. Venture a few blocks off the boardwalk and it's incredibly depressing. Very clearly an area exploited by the big casinos while the locals have been driven to absolute poverty, while they still force a smile to work the shops that are required for the tourist traffic."
Lots Of Water
"Niagara Falls, Canada. I grew up there. Mayor pumps most of tax $ to casinos and tourism with flashy vegas-esque attractions."
"Myrtle Beach. I'm not even saying that it has a good reputation, I'm just saying that any shred of positive thinking about it makes it overrated."
Where A Creek Is An Exciting Attraction
"Lamb's Grove, Iowa. It's not the paradise on earth that people always say it is. Don't get me wrong, it's got great Chinese food but the motel 6 is meh at best."
Impressions for these cities fell far below expectation.
"Dubai. It's the clickbait of the world. 'We have the biggest/tallest/most expensive YOU WON'T BELIEVE when you see THIS...' It's hot as f*k, everything's a man-made tourist trap; labor exploitation and racism are rampant, and they try so hard to prove to the world how modern and Westernized they are. Really, it's just government propaganda."
"Miami. Horrible place filled with horrible people."
Truth be told, many cities can be overrated.
It just depends on a person's experience, or a resident's perspective about what it is about the location they live in that is nothing worth writing home about.
If I had to choose, I would say Las Vegas is overrated, but that's because there is nothing in Sin City that is of personal interest to me.
I may be severely judged for my opinion, but that is a gamble I'm willing to take.
The opposite sex can be a bit of a mystery sometimes. Our brains work differently just like our bodies and this can lead to certain sensitive questions. Guys tend to be a little less open but today it's time for the ladies to ask away. Even wondered what they really think or feel about their body, yours? Today's the day to get the answers you didn't know you needed.
Redditor William84000 asked:
“Women of reddit, what question do you have of men that you'd really like an answer to?"
His question started an informative thread for women to ask men the questions they've been wondering and receive honest, real-life answers.
“How long does it take to recover if you've been hit in the balls?” Snowy-avocado
“Anywhere from 5 minutes to literally turning to dust like we were Thanos snapped.” secondhand_organsdust whirls GIFGiphy
“The Big Dumb Object...”
“I've always wanted to know: why do you like loud machinery so much? For older men it's mowers, leaf blowers and such. For younger men, it's modified cars and motorbikes. What's the deal with the loud machines?” marshmellow_bunnyx
“Power and tools. Tools are a thing that gets stuff done, and they are loud because they contain the
natural essence power of violent explosions and fire. Most men like powerful things, instead of powerful people.”
“In sci-fi, this is called 'The Big Dumb Object', and is pretty much a trademark of sci fi books written by men” Connect-Zebra7173
To shave or not to shave?
“Does body hair on a woman bother you that much?" reillydean28
“Leg/arm hair? Don't even notice. Armpit hair? Not my thing but not my choice/decision. Pubic hair? I'd prefer not, but it's not going to stop me from getting the job done." wHUT_fun
It’s a power and control thing...
“Why send a d*ck pic?" stavinlawrence
“I think for most men it's a power dynamic thing. Either it gets them off or it just makes them feel in control."
“Then I assume there's the added bonus of if she likes it she might send a nude back. But these losers have a greater chance of buying a "get bigger penis pills" that actually work before a girl appreciates an unsolicited nude." InertialEclipse
"Do you notice the little things?”
“Do you notice the little things about women like a new hair cut, when they wear makeup or a nice outfit?” xforeverlove22
“I can't speak for everyone but for me, nope. Not at all. My uncle had a moustache for like 20 years and one day decided to shave it off. I didn't notice it. I noticed there was a weird atmosphere around me like ‘come on, say something’, so I small talked with him.”
“A few hours later after he left they asked me if I seriously didn't notice that his moustache was gone. My answer was ‘What moustache?‘ And makeup would definitly fly over my head.” PleaseTakeThisName
Lets just not touch people without permission...
“What things have women done that make you uncomfortable?" charloget
“Had a few grab my junk at random. Even had a couple that just forced a kiss on me. I don't usually experience women trying to pick me up, but the few times I did was never great. It was either negging, overly sexually aggressive and always in a group." bahamabanana
On today's episode of sink of float...
“Do penis' float like a buoy? I heard they do but have never been able to verify it.” TheFantasticV
“I mean it's buoyant but it can't really do much besides lazily sorta half float there. Still amused the f**k out of my wife to learn.” secondhand_organsGiphy
Everyone just wants to be loved...
“What makes you feel loved?” linedizzy
“A compliment, a hug or a kiss we don't have to initiate.” Nuitari8
“Do guys care if women get cosmetic procedures done?” dookieconductor
“I don't necessarily care about the work itself, I'd be more concerned about understanding why she felt like she wanted to get it done and help her feel body positive for whatever work has been done or if she feels like she needs work.” -notjosh-
Math will kill a mood everytime...
“What does it feel like when you're having sex and you're trying not to 'get there'? Is it frustrating? What do you do/think about to keep it from happening?" uhohoreolas
“I sometimes do math like 333*3... But often I am fine with just controlling things to focus mostly on her pleasure instead of mine. Tho sometimes she is excited and ends up moving in unaccounted ways while I am a hair away and there is no stopping it. I definitely don't find it frustrating. It is still very enjoyable." Fkire
Some of these Q&A's were unexpected but now we know! This important thing here though is knowing it's ok to ask questions sometimes.
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Everyone's got their own favorite food.
What are two foods that actually taste great together......even though most people don't eat them that way?
Breakfast is the most wonderful meal of the day. As the wise Leslie Knope once said, "Why would anybody ever eat anything besides breakfast food?" So mixing it up can feel blasphemous, but what if it's tasty?
Jam It On
"When I was growing up, it was standard procedure for us to put grape jelly on scrambled eggs. I did it when I went to college and everyone at the table stared at me. I still like it."
"That sounds gross af, but not too gross that I don't still want to try it. Haha"
Bringing People Together
"Peanut butter and maple syrup."
"My husband and I both grew up eating PB and syrup on our waffles. We took that as a sign it was meant to be."
"Peanut butter and syrup on waffles is one of the single best things I have ever had, also growing up with it"
Mustard?! Don't Let's Be Silly.
"Mustard with scrambled eggs. Actually I haven't had it in a while but from what I remember its really good"
"Mustard with eggs period"
Sauces and dips are critical to enjoying some foods. Mess with it too much and you risk ruining the delicacy. So that's why it's reassuring to see these people offering up their new spins on dip combinations.
Only For The Elegant Dining Experience
"Hummus and salsa mixed together with tortilla chips."
"Fancy bean dip."
Peanut Butter With Everything!
"Peanut butter and cheddar cheese (like the proper brick kind, not kraft cheese slices). When I was a kid I sometimes made myself pb and cheese sandwiches. They're very filling but delicious!"
"Toasted English muffin, butter, peanut butter, raspberry jam and marble cheddar on top. Lord have mercy on me."
"Add a litte hot sauce on the peanut butter."
Better Than Garlic Sauce?
"I already posted but I'm eating pizza with my friend right now and he likes his pizza with hummus."
"Hummus is good with so many things."
"So I make spaghetti noodles, but break up the raw noodles into smaller pieces. Once they're done I put in a an egg or two (mix it around) and let it cook. I swear it's not that bad. My Nonna always makes it for me when I go back to the Midwest to visit. It's good with parmesan cheese too."
And then there's these taste combinations. Mixtures so strange, you might just be willing to walk away from your phone or computer and try one now.
Sweet And Savory?
"Watermelon and feta cheese."
"With red onion and balsamic vinegar."
"Thats like the most basic summer thing in Greece, Balkans, Turkey together with some Uzo or Raki"
Who Lives In A Cheddar Under The Sea?
"Pineapple and cheddar."
"A guy at work introduced me to dipping a peanut butter and honey sandwich into chili. That was surprisingly great."
A Creative Spin On An Old Favorite
"Root beer float except with cherry Coke and chocolate ice cream. I was in middle school on a field trip, last in line at the cream shop, and ordered this after everyone else had done the standard root beer and vanilla. One of the cool girls who had never spoken my name before gave me this piercing look and asked if I would switch with her. I instinctively knew I would get zero benefit from this deal, so I said "Nope, ya gotta just remember it next time." That felt good."
Keep an open mind. Don't do this for every meal, sure, but always be ready to try something new.
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