It's in your mental calendar. Every year, the month approaches, then the week, then the day. It's a break, a splinter in your timeline. There was you before the moment, then there was you after that moment. Everything you once were ceases to be, for better or worse, and you have to figure out how to move on from there.
Reddit user, u/flyin_italian, wanted to know about what that moment was when they asked:
Let's Get It Right Out Of The Way
Before College and After Debt.
Two completely different lives.
Arguments Are Not Talks
I lived roughly 15 years of my life drunk as hell, to the point where I have no memory of huge chunks of time.
Two years ago, after months of "talks" (arguments) with my wife, I put down that bottle of vodka and haven't had a sip since.
I'm much more clear-headed, I lost about 20 lbs. pretty quickly, and I've been told that my sober personality is much more laid back, and much less assholey, than my drunk-ass personality.
I'll never go back.
Hands Up For The Divorce BeardGiphy
Grew a beard, got an entire new set of friends and life has just been better.
It All Helps
"Before antidepressants" and "after antidepressants"
Life Comes To A Stop And You Need To Pick Up
Kicked me out of the air force and paused my aerospace engineering studies. Caused me to meet my soon to be wife.
You Only Have One Dad
Before and after: the death of my father.
He was my best friend.
I'm with you on that, friend. My dad's been gone for just over a year now. Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Grueling five-year fight.
Watched the big, strong man that was my dad slowly waste away. F-ck cancer.
Pretending Is Easy
Moving out of my home state.
It's easy to pretend to be an adult when you have family near by.
It's difficult when they live 3000+ miles away.
It's There Forever
before & after my Mom's suicide
Literally about to post exactly this... I feel your pain man.
Life Was "Nat 20's" After ThatGiphy
This is going to sound really nerdy, but the night I DMed my first game of Dungeons and Dragons really turned my life around.
I've met so many wonderful people and made so many great friends. I've found a new outlet for my creativity. I've laughed until I couldn't breathe. I've connected with people all over the world. My life took such an unprecedented leap in quality because of the night I foolishly decided that I could DM because I listened to a podcast about it.
The Grass Is What You Make It
I don't know what my acronym would be
I was 43 years old in a loveless marriage and I was out cutting the grass. Mowing the lawn is something that doesn't take a huge amount of concentration so its possible to zone out and think about things that are happening in your life.
I was very unhappy and so was she and I think both of us felt trapped because of everything we had was obtained since we first met. I knew if I left I would take a huge financial hit and at my age there would be no way I would ever be able to make up the loss by the time I was ready to retire.
I was about three quarters of the way done when it began raining. I kept on cutting and I surprised myself by beginning to cry. I looked around and at that moment realized that the house and everything in it wasn't worth feeling like this for the rest of my life. I mourned my marriage and all my stuff and kept cutting and crying.
When I was done I put the mower away, dried off and started moving on with my life.
Its been twenty years and I now have a small house and a small yard. I still cut the grass but never in the rain.
The mark of a great movie is one that you can watch over and over again.
Although, it isn't only great movies that have endless watchability.
Indeed, sometimes the movies we find ourselves wanting to revisit over and over again wouldn't even come close to being on the list of the top ten best films of all time.
But whatever they may, or may not, lack in quality, it's the comfort of revisiting these characters, places, and adventures that make return visits mandatory.
Particularly when we're feeling down.
"What’s your comfort movie?"
As Delicious As All The Food.
"When Dinosaurs Ruled The Earth".
"I could watch it all day every day love that movie."- Time_Restaurant_9776
"Bend And Snap!
"'Legally Blonde'."- Bledwards25sexy girls rule GIFGiphy
"Flames... Flames, On The Side Of My Face..."
A Griswold Family Tradition
An Undervalued Disney Gem
"'Treasure Planet'."- NotVeryToastyToastyou got this kingdom hearts GIFGiphy
As Exciting As Finding The Actual Lost City!
"'The Road to El Dorado'."- outerproduct
"Just Too Good To Be True..."
"10 Things I Hate About You."- aestowl
The Magical Neighbor Everyone Wants
"'My Neighbor Totoro'."- pariah164animation GIF by Fran SoloGiphy
"When The Night Has Come, And The Land Is Dark..."
"'Stand By Me'."- ThePowNation
Be they all time classics, or guilty pleasures, we all know the first film we need to put on whenever we need a little pick me up.
As nothing, NOTHING, chases away the blues faster than a trip on the bus with the Spice Girls as they offer a tour of Spice World...
In every generation, there are certain behaviors that are popular among many people. Sometimes, it's the "cool" thing to do. Other times, people just get swept up in the fad.
When I was in high school, the popular thing was to have the funniest Facebook statuses. In college, it was all the rage to smoke pot. By the time I started my first adult job, everyone I knew was watching -- and theorizing about -- Game of Thrones. In my office, you were ostracized if you didn't watch and discuss it every week.
While there's no shame in being into what's popular at the time if it's something that truly interests you, there's also no shame in choosing not to partake in the popular thing.
Redditors certainly believe that, since they broke down which popular things they have no interest in.
Redditor snowmanll00ll was curious about this, so he asked:
"What is something very popular that you have absolutely no interest in?"
"YouTube family channels, some of those children will probably grow to resent their parents"
"It doesn’t matter the medium, it’s always a douchebag move to exploit your children for your own gain."
"Becoming extremely die hard fans for an idol group or probably anything."
"Young people giving up their personal freedom and expression for cash and fame seems very wrong, these contracts are horrible, especially in East Asia"
"Chasing squirrels around the yard and barking at them once they run up a tree. Seems to be all the rage with my dog though."
"...you're a cat aren't you?"
Simon Says Follow Me
"It's hilarious how they actually call themselves 'influencers'. Half the cr*p they do should not be influenced ... especially to younger people! It's kind of weird how they crave that much attention."
"Listening to influencers. It’s a barrage of non-stop schilling of questionable investments without them accepting responsibility or facing consequences."
Why Are They Here?
"The bachelor and bachelorette tv shows."
"Right? It’s so odd to me like, they’re attractive people but they couldn’t have a relationship without a tv show? So how bad are they really and how many red flags do they have?"
The Dark Hole Of Social Media
"TikTok. I just don't want it, and never interested to see what the people there are doing."
"Although, I am aware that if I decided to install it, I might get addicted to it. So no thank you either way."
"My older sister almost ALWAYS starts a convo with “I saw this on tiktok that..” at least once at family gatherings, like stfu! I don’t care! A lot of “information” on there is false. But because some random girl on tiktok who said her father's great uncles cousins neighbor is a doctor, I’m supposed to believe it."
Your Lungs Thank You
"That’s good you should have no interest in vaping, it’s not meant to do because it’s “popular” or “cool” it’s supposed to help curve and help quit cigarette addiction, which it does do, but just as cigs, people just started doing it to be “cool.""
Let Me Take A Selfie
"Pouting for selfie"
"A friend got married a couple of months ago, and about 70% of her wedding photos are of her pouting or making duck lips at the camera. For someone who says she loved her wedding, she sure looks sad and/or bored in her photos."
"Golf. If it’s nice out I have so many other things I could do"
"I came here to say golf as well. I work in the corporate world and people just don't understand how I don't play golf, it blows their minds. I just don't get the draw though, and it's crazy expensive to go play a round. The excuse people always give me is "it's a great way to get outside!". Well turns out so is hiking or fly fishing and it doesn't cost hundreds of dollars to go stand on someone's lawn."
It's A Bird, It's A Plane...
"Superhero movies. I used to love them, but I burned out very quickly when too many were released, and they're really all the same. I do love Deadpool, though."
While I gotta disagree with that one, to each their own.
Just because everyone around you is into the popular thing, doesn't mean you have to be. If you have no interest in what's currently in vogue, that's okay!
Be who you are, not who everyone else wants you to be.
To this day, I get sad when I think of the show Freaks and Geeks and how it was unfairly canceled. Have you seen it? If not, you totally should. Many of the people on the show became huge stars.
Seth Rogen? Linda Cardellini? James Franco? That whole cast is a who's who of great talent. Oh, and the writing? Excellent. It's a show that's funny and has pathos.
People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor me_rebirth asked the online community,
"Which TV show cancelation are you still frustrated about?"
"Happy Endings. Canceled due to low views, but that was a result of changing around its timeslots, not viewers no longer having interest."
This would be a good choice for Netflix or Hulu to bring back!
"Almost Human, it had such potential and never even finished its first season."
Shown out of order, on Fox which even then had a very poor track record for sci-fi shows!
"Infinity Train. Very upset to see that canceled. It was such a cool and unique show. I remember reading about all the stuff the creator had planned for the future of the show and seemed like he was really passionate about it and had a lot of story to tell."
Not only did it get cancelled due to being "too dark" for children, it also is being wiped out everywhere. It’s sad to see such a good cartoon go.
"I know they eventually brought it back but Arrested Development should never have been cancelled. New seasons weren’t the same IMO."
You are correct. It wasn't the same. The first three seasons are pretty impeccable.
"Carnivale. Never got over that one."
This show was so good! Such a shame.
"Rome. It was cancelled after two seasons because the production costs were too high."
This is a show that could have easily gone on for at least a couple more seasons. It was fascinating to watch.
"Deadwood. I know they were not following history exactly, but the real town of Deadwood burned the next year. That would have made a great story arc for season 4."
I remember reading this and I think it would have been pretty awesome.
"The 4400 (From 2004, not the horrible remake of sorts from last year). At a time when Heroes was dropping the ball in season two, The 4400 kept killing it. And then got cancelled because of the Writers Guild strike."
Ah, the strike. Killed off a lot of good television but nothing as pathetically as Heroes. We are all still salty about Heroes all these years later.
"Dark Matter. The worst part is they actually seemed to have a plan, and things were just heating up. The cliffhanger they ended on haunts me."
I scrolled so far to find this! Netflix had the gall to add a cancelled show to its catalog and now I have to live with the fact that I'll never see the ending!
"I really want the third season of Mindhunter."
Don't we all? Sigh. What a cliffhanger.
Canceled TV shows hurt, okay? Speaking of which, I am still very much annoyed about Better Off Ted getting knocked off. Veronica's monologue about being a murderous fawn with a machine gun still cracks me up all these years later.
Have some shows that come to mind? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!
Thanks to Google, many of our life's questions can be answered with the click of a button.
But in the digital information age, most of us are never really satisfied with just one definitive answer. Sometimes, there is more to learn as the revelation of one thing can lead to many more inquiries.
Say you're watching a show and one of the actors look familiar but you can't quite put a name to the face. So you IMDB the show and you are finally able to identify the actor after being distracted by the frustration of not knowing who they were.
But then you look at their long list of credits and discover other actors you didn't know were somehow associated with the previous actor in question. So you do more digging.
Such is the phenomenon of going down the proverbial rabbit hole.
Curious to hear from strangers who've gone to places they could never return from in their thirst for knowledge, Redditor mato_fako asked:
"What's a deep, dark rabbithole to research when bored?"
It turns out the list of things to learn about in life is never-ending.
"The 'saved' section of your reddit user profile. I've saved so much sh*t and then promptly forgot about it.. Just like I'm going to do with this thread."
Perfect Time Killer
"When I worked at a call Centre we often had quiet times and the internet blocked most things unusual wiki articles kept me entertained for quite some time though, it’s full of random strange things."
Growing Up In Isolation
"I had to stop reading these accounts because it made me too sad seeing over and over that the 'rescuers' almost always killed the kids' animal families and the children pretty much never had any quality of life after."
Anything regarding foul play is a popular search request.
"Denver Lee St. Clair, 58, was asphyxiated by an 'atomic wedgie' administered by his stepson during a fight. After he had been knocked unconscious, the elastic band from his torn underwear was pulled over his head and stretched around his neck, strangling him. The stepson was sentenced to thirty years in prison."
"Money laundering and how laundered money flows around the world. Most info is public from gov agencies like the CIA and State Department."
"The history of bananas."
Grim subject matter is a popular research topic.
Keeping An Eye On Exit Doors
"Fire disasters. And then never feel safe in an indoor crowded space ever again."
"There's actually video on YouTube of the Great White disaster and it's utterly horrifying how incredibly quickly it happens and seeing the people literally stuck in the doorway unable to get out as they burn to death. As someone who still goes to a lot of shows at small packed music venues exactly like that one (and other totally packed bars and clubs), I'm always constantly looking for exits to find the nearest escape path and it always freaks me out anytime there's any fire in any indoor space (candles/sparklers/pyrotechnics/etc)"
"This should give you an hour or two. List of unusual deaths."
Fatal Domino Effect
"A poodle named Cachy, in Caballito, Buenos Aires, fell 13 floors and hit Marta Espina, 75, killing both instantly. In the course of events, Edith Solá, 46, came to see the incident, and was fatally hit by a bus. An unidentified man who witnessed her death had a heart attack and also died on his way to the hospital."
'John Hutcherson, 21, drove home drunk with his friend, Francis Brohm, 23, who was hanging out the passenger window while vomiting due to carsickness. Hutcherson drove off the road and sideswiped a telephone pole support wire, decapitating Brohm. He continued the final 12 miles (19 km) to his Atlanta, Georgia, US, home, parked in the driveway, and went to bed. A neighbor found Brohm's headless body in the truck the next morning.'
A Deadly Combination
"Vladimir Likhonos, 25, a student of Kyiv Polytechnic Institute from Konotop, was killed when his chewing gum exploded. Likhonos had a habit of dipping his chewing gum in citric acid to increase the gum's sour taste. On his work table police found about 100 grams (3.5 oz) of unidentified explosive powder which he used for chemistry studies. It resembled citric acid, and it is thought that he confused the two. The explosive was found to be four times stronger than TNT, and the explosion was possibly triggered either by reacting with Likhonos' saliva, or the pressure exerted by him chewing on the gum and explosive powder."
While all of this is fascinating, there are mind-boggling bits of trivia that can be great conversation starters at a party.
However, regarding some of the most disturbing and gruesome examples shared here, some people might think ignorance is bliss.