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It's in your mental calendar. Every year, the month approaches, then the week, then the day. It's a break, a splinter in your timeline. There was you before the moment, then there was you after that moment. Everything you once were ceases to be, for better or worse, and you have to figure out how to move on from there.


Reddit user, u/flyin_italian, wanted to know about what that moment was when they asked:

What is the event that separates the "B.C. and A.D." of your life?

Let's Get It Right Out Of The Way

Before College and After Debt.

Two completely different lives.

Keinichn

Arguments Are Not Talks

Alcohol.

I lived roughly 15 years of my life drunk as hell, to the point where I have no memory of huge chunks of time.

Two years ago, after months of "talks" (arguments) with my wife, I put down that bottle of vodka and haven't had a sip since.

I'm much more clear-headed, I lost about 20 lbs. pretty quickly, and I've been told that my sober personality is much more laid back, and much less assholey, than my drunk-ass personality.

I'll never go back.

A_Prickly_Cactus

Hands Up For The Divorce Beard

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My divorce.

Grew a beard, got an entire new set of friends and life has just been better.

The_Pip

It All Helps

"Before antidepressants" and "after antidepressants"

WhatsYourNameBrah

Life Comes To A Stop And You Need To Pick Up

Epilepsy diagnosis.

Kicked me out of the air force and paused my aerospace engineering studies. Caused me to meet my soon to be wife.

SmootherPebble

You Only Have One Dad

Before and after: the death of my father.

He was my best friend.

F*ck cancer.

Daomadan

I'm with you on that, friend. My dad's been gone for just over a year now. Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Grueling five-year fight.

Watched the big, strong man that was my dad slowly waste away. F-ck cancer.

bird-ghost

Pretending Is Easy

Moving out of my home state.

It's easy to pretend to be an adult when you have family near by.

It's difficult when they live 3000+ miles away.

sleepernick

It's There Forever

before & after my Mom's suicide

CeallachODaugherty

Literally about to post exactly this... I feel your pain man.

cursherofsouls

Life Was "Nat 20's" After That

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This is going to sound really nerdy, but the night I DMed my first game of Dungeons and Dragons really turned my life around.

I've met so many wonderful people and made so many great friends. I've found a new outlet for my creativity. I've laughed until I couldn't breathe. I've connected with people all over the world. My life took such an unprecedented leap in quality because of the night I foolishly decided that I could DM because I listened to a podcast about it.

the-witty-one

The Grass Is What You Make It

I don't know what my acronym would be

I was 43 years old in a loveless marriage and I was out cutting the grass. Mowing the lawn is something that doesn't take a huge amount of concentration so its possible to zone out and think about things that are happening in your life.

I was very unhappy and so was she and I think both of us felt trapped because of everything we had was obtained since we first met. I knew if I left I would take a huge financial hit and at my age there would be no way I would ever be able to make up the loss by the time I was ready to retire.

I was about three quarters of the way done when it began raining. I kept on cutting and I surprised myself by beginning to cry. I looked around and at that moment realized that the house and everything in it wasn't worth feeling like this for the rest of my life. I mourned my marriage and all my stuff and kept cutting and crying.

When I was done I put the mower away, dried off and started moving on with my life.

Its been twenty years and I now have a small house and a small yard. I still cut the grass but never in the rain.

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Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.

He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.

Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?

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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.

Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.

However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:

"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."

Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.

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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.

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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.

Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"

But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.

And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.

So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.

That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.

Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:

What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
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