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Sometimes love just ain't enough. That is more than just a fantastic 80's pop balled, its a life truth and mantra.

Love is tricky and the yearning for it, even trickier. We can put ourselves in some toxic situations just because we want to share our hearts with another.

That doesn't make us stupid, just human. But it is imperative to know when it's time to flee. Don't ignore the red flags. When you feel it in your gut, run for the hills. Don't make excuses.

Redditor u/MistaPwickles wanted to hear about the times people knew when it was right to make an exit in "love" by asking:

What made you straight up "nope" out of a relationship?

I stayed in a few relationships years longer than I should've. Eventually I realized what I was doing and accepted the end. The days I walked away were some of the hardest and smartest of my life. Who can relate?

Family Affair

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"When she game home drunk one night, asking me if my brother had told me."

"Told me what?"

"Her: that I cheated on you with him?"

- pdAVEUS

Vile

"It was already on the rocks from roughly around the time the millionth drunken argument happened, however the moment that sealed it was when she said something to me along the lines of "if your dad wanted to be alive he would still be here. My dad died in a car accident 3 years before that. Immediately went from loving her enough to make it work to thinking she was the most vile person on Earth."

- Timidhobgoblin

"Where are you?"

"Genuinely feared for my safety. I went over and we got in an argument so I slept on the floor essentially. I went to the bathroom to text one of my buddies to come pick me up since I thought she had fallen asleep. I suddenly get a text from her saying "Where are you?" and my phone made a sound. I froze up and opened the bathroom door and she was already standing there waiting for me in the darkness. She didn't say a word at all, just stared at me until I walked by."

"I went back to my spot on the floor and got under the blanket and pretended to be going asleep until she did. After about 30 minutes I decided to peek out from under the covers and she was literally towering over me in total darkness with her eyes wide open the entire time. I got the freak out of there so fast."

- GAU8

Rude!

"We went to the mall and stopped by this little kiosk selling cookies. I decided that I would get one cookie. The lady working there said if I buy 2 I get one free. I decided to buy two and get the third one free. My date WENT OFF on this lady saying she's trying to scam me etc, etc. He was legit yelling so loud that it was echoing through the mall. It was so embarrassing. If you're rude to people in customer service, you're not for me."

- lotus_flower2419

Dumplin'

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"He canceled my order meal while I went to the bathroom because he thought I ordered too much. It was just small extra dumpling."

- summermode

Oh see, now it once it starts taking a turn into Lifetime movie thriller category, then you should already be backed. And if they are rude, don't question it, that will never change. Just move along...

A Copy

"She picked me because I had the same first name, general appearance, and lived in the same area of the state as her ex fiancé, of two years, that she had just been dumped by a month before we met. I felt even more offended about all of that than just being straight up rejected."

- blackmobius

Evil

"When my now ex wife came in to the living room where I was sleeping on the couch after a fight and started lunging at me. She asked me if she reminded me of my stepdad who used to come in my room at night and stand over me before he dragged me out of bed by my ankles. He would then put the boots to me for whatever sins I had committed that day."

"She was the only person I had ever shared this with. She went out of town for work 2 days later and when she came home I was gone and in another state. It was remarkable the amount of abuse I put up with to that point. It dawned on me then that if he had returned to my life I wouldn't let him hurt me so there was no reason to let her abuse me either."

- stopthestaticnoise

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When we were young...

"I was going through some stuff in my early twenties and was pretty desperate for any kind of affection, which is the only reason I took a couple weeks to back out of this. The second time I ever met her, she told me to delete every girl's number from my phone (sister included)."

"She then came over to my place, saw I had a full bookshelf and ridiculed me for being a reader, and in the same breath announced that she loved cocaine so much and wanted me to try it. Finally, I escaped, but by then she was already sleeping with two of my friends (who are obviously no longer my friends). The good news is, I've now been happily married for five years and consider myself so incredibly lucky."

- ResponsibleShape9336

Pay Up

"My brother took a girl to a high end sushi place and his date ordered 3x the food as he did (he just got a grilled salmon). She ate almost none of it and at the end she said she ordered all the extras so she could "take some home for tomorrow". When the waiter showed up for the bill she excused herself to go to the bathroom."

"The waiter asked my brother if he wanted to split the check and at that point my brother did the right thing and stuck her with $100 worth of sushi and booze. The girl returned to see a huge check at her seat."

- brownlawn

Good Night

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"She kept waking me up over and over all night trying to have an argument with me. The argument was about me going to sleep."

- SomeDudeFromOnline

Where to Start?

"How about things that should have been red flags but I was too naive to recognize?"

"-left notes on my car windshield when I was at work/a friend's house/the store (seemed sweet, but I realized later that was my SO keeping tabs on me, even when I didn't say where I was)."

"-let me know how much a hit man cost and that it was "cheaper than you'd expect."

"-would tell me something, and then later say that was a lie or a test, as though I should have figured that out instead of expecting the truth."

"-expected me to answer every call, and would get angry if I wanted to end the call first."

"-complained about my friends and family all the time. All of them. Apparently everyone I knew was manipulative and/or rude. I didn't figure out this was an attempt to isolate me until after we broke up."

- BitwiseB

I don't cry at work anymore...

"I kept having to call the cops to calm down my wife after she became addicted to a slew of prescription drugs. I told her doctors that opiates for a a ruptured vertebrae, stimulants for ADHD, Ambien most nights to help her sleep and an assortment of others for anxiety and depression, and more to combat side-effects, made her violent."

"One of the times that I called the cops to calm the situation down during a bad episode just made me cry. All he had to say was that he had already been there, and asked when it would stop.I thought I'd been holding things together reasonably well. I had an office job where no one knew what was up, though my work had suffered greatly. I kept clothes and food in my trunk, just in case I had to stay out for a bit because she had decided I was part of 'the conspiracy'."

"I had a gym on the way to work I could where I could shower or just have some down time. I did all of our housework and errands, because she couldn't work or do much of anything most of the time. Each time she cut herself she told the hospital it was an accident, and she always tried to go to a different one (we lived in a major metro, between hospitals)."

"The cop saw through it. Being seen like that and knowing that even that lifestyle was running out hurt. I'm now recovering from the divorce and enjoying the calm. I still sometimes panic for no reason, and I feel more comfortable with clothes and food stashed in the trunk, but I feel much healthier. I get more sleep. My blood pressure has normalized (for the most part). I don't cry at work anymore."

- 3Grilledjalapenos

Scumbag

"I received a message that clearly wasn't meant for me. We just had our first date which went really well. Calling me cheap and a slimeball and how I'm on my last last chance to make things right on her coming birthday with lots of presents. I replied "hi this is X, we just met and had one date, was that message for someone else? She replied pretending to be her 12 year old sister. Then apparently her dad messaged me with how he's told off his younger daughter. I'm out, forget that crap 🤣."

- Otherside-Dav

Real Life Issues

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"When he didn't want to have sex because he was grossed out by my period that I had finished three days prior. Noped out of that one real quick."

- eleonora6

Love Not Defined

"I told her I was going to leave her, and she said "so you're going to leave me—just like you left your brother?" My twin brother committed suicide in 2017, and she knew how much guilt I had over not being there for him. Such a manipulative, disgusting thing for any person to say. Especially someone who claims to "love" you. I moved out two days later."

- carlosdangerms

I'm me!

"He wanted me to grow out my pit and leg hair and texted, called, and emailed me repeatedly about it. It seemed like a pretty silly thing and he just had a little fetish but after several days of this my sister said, "Why do you always attract the controlling freaks?" and I finally had a moment of clarity."

- KlpincoyoKlpincoyo

6 years in...

"Married for six years. Started out thinking she just struggled with depression and anxiety sometimes, but things kept escalating. I walked away when she started threatening to stab me in my sleep. We had already tried several couples therapists and individual therapists, but she refused to consider medication."

"I called her to meet up and try to find some closure, but she cut me off telling me I wasn't allowed to leave her and as punishment she was sleeping with two other guys. At that point I just ignored her number and filed for divorce. Hope she's doing well, but glad to not be afraid for my life!"

- QuestionableKoala

LOTR Love

"My brother came to visit me. After I spend whole day with my gf, it was time to see my brother because we did not see each other for a long time. We prepared some snacks and about to start LOTR because both of us love LOTR. She called me and started a long conversation on phone. I said my brother waits for me and she said that I cannot spend my time with anyone because it belongs to her. It was last talk between two of us."

- vtoken6

Get Up

"Followed me to a night out, got on his knees stopping traffic in the middle of a city centre street to declare his love. We had been on two dates. He also told me that same night he could see into the future and already knew he was going to die defending my honour while I was carrying our twins. Yeah... he was fun."

- whatsername235

Be Positive

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"Told everybody she knew about any little disagreement. Anytime I could be perceived unreasonable it was everyone's business. But somehow the surprises, special dates, lending her cousin rent money, all of that wasn't brought up. Just negative stuff was public knowledge."

- No-Umpire4788

How is it crazy people always find a good heart to trample over, yet so many of us kind folk just sit here alone? I'll never understand it. But better to be alone, than living in fear and chaos. That is when boring is better.

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