People Confess The Reasons They Rage Quit Their Jobs
I'm Out! Mic. Drop!
Sometimes it's just time to go. Some jobs are the source of the devil. They can eat your soul and cause you strife you never knew was possible. You hold out as long as you can but when the moment of blind rage arises, well then TIME'S UP!! When you're out, you're out! Just try not to burn the building down upon exit!
Redditor ClassicDonut1 wanted to know when everyone had that last straw moment with leaving employment by asking...
Redditors who rage quit a job without thinking, what was the last straw?
"So this happened 2 weeks ago, I was going out with some friends and I tore my ACL. Told my boss I couldn't come in for a while because of this ( I'm a chef so there's no way I can work with a torn ACL) however my boss failed to understand that and said that if I didn't come in the next day I would be let go, I quit on the spot."Jeremyvts
"I was working at a restaurant that was, to put it bluntly, atrocious. The place was almost always dead apart from the owners friends who would make it their life's mission to be incredibly rude to myself and other staff members. Somehow I stuck it out for 6 months."
"The final straw came at Christmas when I wanted to travel back home to spend time with my family (as my grandmother was sick at the time), and their response was 'you have to decide what's more important, your job or your family.'"
"I told them that was the dumbest question I've ever heard and walked out." Tommy_Furys_Sandwich
"Worked an overnight job. During the holiday season me and the other overnight guys took all the overtime we could get - working 18-20 hour days, working after having 4 hours off, whatever. All legal in the state I'm in, and it's not critical or cerebral work so no harm - we're basically just lumps of flesh in a uniform."
"That was fine for a few months - I bought a bunch of extra crap with it. But I got burned out after about four or five months straight of it and just started turning it down. Then the manager started making it mandatory. I told him no, we drive on our regular job so pushing it when we can't do it isn't a good idea. Appealed to his manager and the mandatory overtime went away for awhile."
"Suddenly one day I come in to the other overnight guys being moved elsewhere and I have to pick up their slack. Why? That shift needs to be covered, so I'll cover their shift and mine... which will force me to work 4 to 5 hours over to just cover the shift and the work required on said shift. I texted the manager immediately and told them I can't do it. He stated it's mandatory and if I cannot do it, I'll no longer have the job. He'd do me a "favor" this one time and move the other overnight guys back so I don't have to stay over."
"They were legitimately shocked when I didn't show up the next night, or ever again."CanIgetkalamari
"getting around to the paperwork"
"There were a couple things building up to the last straw, mainly I was the supervisor of my crew but the boss was "getting around to the paperwork" that would confirm my title change and pay raise for 3 months, also I was supposed to get full medical benefits but the day I quit the benefits were "in the mail so just wait" for 7 months."
"The last straw was when the company had approaching deadlines and the scumbag management staff was getting desperate, they kept cutting out everyone's breaks and harassing people out of filing first aid reports. Someone on my crew was starting to get heat rash (working in summer in the middle of a heat wave) but the boss was standing in the shade glaring us down so we wouldn't take breaks."
"After my coworker collapsed I stopped everything and ran to her side to help. The boss came up and said "oh crap heat stroke? Take 5 minutes, get water, get back to work" so I exploded and told them to go screw themselves. I helped my coworker gather her things and I gathered mine and I drove her to the hospital and I never went back."
"I immediately filed a safety breach report with WorkSafeBC telling them of every safety rule they broke. And since then I heard that 2 others quit, the company is under investigation, and another co-worker asked me to support him in filing a discrimination lawsuit against the company (the same crappy boss was very racist towards natives)."iht133
"Inbound cold transfer sales job, you get utility customers from across the USA randomly transferred to get a "confirmation #" but mostly to upsell for cable services. Hated it, would always get pressured to sign-up caller for Dish Network even though no one ever wanted it."
"One day my supervisor, sits next to me listens to every call I'm doing questioning why I didn't sell a 80 year old woman AT&T U-verse triple play when she said I don't own a computer and I just use an antenna. He freaks out and says you need to get your crap together now. I give him a blank stare continue to take calls for the rest of the day and ignore everything he's saying. He is storming around I get 0 sells. I grabbed my phone charger and on lunch never come back."bsknash26
MY ARM WAS IN A SLING
"I used to work as a lifeguard. I had injured my shoulder and was in a sling, and they forced me to come into work and threatened to fire me If I didn't. I had to guard a pool being unable to swim because MY ARM WAS IN A SLING. Did the pettiest thing possible, sent in my resignation late at night, the day before my morning shift. Have fun finding a replacement!"chickadee35
"I worked as one of those Super annoying face-to-face fundraiser people. You know, those who will stand in your way and use every trick in the book to shame you into sending them money every month so they can continue their "scam."
"Well... I did the one day training, was send out in the morning and quit after 2 hours. People hate you (for good reason) and treat you accordingly. I found out soon after how the money is really spent for the most part and have been Super against this specific type of fundraiser, especially since they ruin the face of actual fundraising. So now I just ignore them as good as possible and warn my friends not to work for them."AnnaLavender
Do the Dishes.
"I worked at a small, family-owned restaurant for over a year. All I did was wash dishes. The owner hated me and always made my shift miserable because her creepy husband loved being around me and talking to me and she accused me of hooking up with him more than once. My last straw was her calling me a filthy woman in front of not just my coworkers, but also some customers."definitelynotandrea
The Water Broke.Giphy
"My wife was about to give birth, and i took the job as a temp thing, was only there for 3 weeks (id just moved to the city). worked there while i continued to look for an office job in engineering. The super i called to let know my wife was having contractions and her water broke told me to get to work and that the baby wouldn't be born till later anyways, I said no, I'm driving my wife to the hospital now, and he told me to get the hell to work, I simply said "i quit", and hung up on him. 10 days later i found a job, and have been employed here for 4 years now."darko2309
"Was working my 2nd job as a welder booked 2 weeks holiday paid for a trip to Canada to see the now wife's family. The day before we are set to leave my manager tells me he's going to have to cancel it as he's booked 3 people off on the same weeks. I explained I'd paid out thousands on a holiday, he then said I booked mine last so I'd have to loose it. I spoke with everyone on site yet no one else had holiday booked."
"I went to hr and he was called in to explain, he came out with the same crap hr backed him up. I said OK got up and walked off site. 45 phone call missed by the time I'd driven home, 1 voice mail demanding I get my butt back in or I'm fired. I called the owner and explained I'd quit and my reason. Turned my phone off and went in holiday."
"Aftermath. I returned from the holiday to nearly 50 voicemails from manager.. Telling me Im in deep crap, and should watch my back when in public. Sent them all to a solicitor and police incase anything happened, along with sending former boss everything. He was dismissed and I was offered his job as I'd been there longer than most of the team. Didn't accept as wanted to become self employed and it was the push I needed."
Don't Take his butt to Red Lobster....Giphy
"Worked at a Red Lobster for a few years in college. Didn't really have any complaints, it was what it was. Right after graduating I moved to another town and was able to transfer to one near my new location."
"Worst experience of my life. Horrible management, and the location was in a relatively upscale part of town, so there were MUCH better alternatives for seafood so the customers were always crappy as well."
"We were required to be in 15 minutes prior to the start of our shift for a pre-shift meeting and change over and stuff. Thing is, you couldn't clock in until 5 minutes before your scheduled start time. Like every other crappy company Darden (The owner of Red Lobster, also a VERY crappy company), wanted to run skeleton crews to save money so we were always scrambling."
"So often I would come in and I would already have seated tables (plural) waiting for me. The host managers mentality was "well they need to be here 15 minutes early anyway so if they can seat them 15 minutes early. Nothing seemed to ever clarify why this was wrong on many levels."
"Well one day I came in and already had a seated table. Went over and greeted them immediately (They were upset but understanding) and then went to the bar to ask them to make some drinks (I couldn't enter them in the system since I couldn't clock in yet). While I was waiting for the drinks I was venting to a fellow server about it and mentioned "If they seat me again before I can even clock in I'm done." Well before I could even finish the sentence they had seated me again."
"I told the server I was talking to it was nice to have worked with them, made sure to let BOTH tables know they were seated in a section that didn't even have a server yet because the company didn't want to pay for a full staff and that they should dine at restaurants that care about them having a good experience, and walked out. No regrets and I'll never give Darden a dime of my money ever again."
"I worked as a tour guide at a birthing center for a couple of weeks when I first started grad school. My Dad was terminally ill at the time and I let my manager know that as soon as I was hired as I was anticipating a funeral. He passed away at 2am and I contacted my manager to let them know and to say that I wouldn't be working for the next week or so."
"She texted me back saying "so sorry for your loss, but I really need you to be at work today." I texted her back saying I wouldn't be there and that I was quitting as I didn't want to work for a company that would make someone work on the same day their parent died. No regrets."
"I worked at a gas station deli and right before I went in for my shift my mom called me to tell me my sister had been rushed to the hospital and that I needed to go there to be with the family. I called my manager and they said to find someone to cover your shift. I called a few people and one person said they would come in and cover my shift."
"I called manager back and let them know that so and so was covering my shift and they said ok. I came in 2 days later for my next shift and the manager starts flipping out on me how they were messed up because I didn't show up for my shift. I proceeded to remind them that I had to go to the hospital for my sister and that so and so was covering my shift. She then proceeds to tell me how so and so didn't show up therefore it was my fault and that I cost them money and all this bull."
"I was like "Are you kidding me? I'm sorry you were too meth'd out to remember our call but I had a family emergency so forget you and forget this place!" I walked out the door and proceeded to "forget them" one more time."
"When I first moved to NYC I got a bar tending job at a pub in Williamsburg. The manager was always MIA and the staff was usually left to there own devices. One weekend a huge blizzard hit the city. I had made it into work when the city declared a state of emergency and started shutting down the trains. I called my manager to tell them the trains where shutting down and the staff wanted to leave and catch the last trains home before it was too late. He said no and to stay."
"At this point the snow was getting deep enough to make opening the front door difficult. I texted my manager that we where leaving and we packed up and closed the store. The next morning the manager texted to say that we where opening for brunch despite all the trains being shut down. I told him I couldn't make it in so he said he would come pick me up in his car and asked for my address. I gave him a fake address, turned off my phone, went back to bed and found a new job later that week."
Not so Feel Good....
"I got a job re-locating large fully grown trees. The shop workers were talking this company up while I was doing my orientation saying this place was a "feel good" career."
"First week, we tore down an old house on our tree farms land, all of the drywall - which is technically toxic because of how old it was, was supposed to be removed for a fee by the dump. They dug a ditch on a customers house and buried in on their land when they weren't home."
"I then was asked to change crews (there were only 2 - and the one I moved to had a very high turnover rate). Todd was the boss of this crew, Todd was a mess. He was a 35ish year old man with a 18 year old girlfriend, he bragged about how he banged her at her family camping trip with her parents in the next tent. About how he cheated on her, etc. He also loved calling everyone names. On my first day with him he called me a loser because I had a RHCP sticker on my car."
"I had literally zero experience in that field, was hired as a laborer and was made to drive an excavator. Never used one before, got the hang of it pretty okay after a day or two. I was trying to get it in between two houses that were pretty close together, taking my time. He yelled at me to, "hurry your dumb butt up," I got out of the excavator, threw the key in the middle of the ditch and got in my car and left."
"really expensive ham"
"Worked in an independent cafe as the lone chef. Hours were good, free reign with the menu was great and the quality of produce that came in was second to none. Unfortunately the owner had misplaced aspirations towards being a chef and instead of hiring help, ran the kitchen himself on my day off. After repeated conversations about food safety and his apparent lack of care for customers well-being, I came in after my day off to find a single breast of chicken cling-filmed (serran wrapped?) together with ready to eat ham (really expensive ham). I told him this wasn't safe and if he continued to violate food safety, I'd walk. He told me to serve the ham."
At the Movies.....Giphy
"I was 18 and working at a movie theatre concession stand on an extra busy day. My coworkers made themselves busy doing things that didn't need to be done like checking toilet paper or organizing candy instead of helping me with a line that wrapped itself around the stand. One lady got extremely nasty with me because I didn't butter the middle of her popcorn, she was literally screaming at me for it."
"I looked and saw one of my coworkers just watching me and laughing as they pretended to clean the ticket booth window. I logged out of the POS, walked out of the concession stand, slammed the door behind me, told the customer she was being a complete nutjob and didn't need more butter, told my coworker to go screw himself and walked out."
"I never went back despite them willing to apparently forgive me because this wasn't my usual behavior."
"I was looking for a part time job in between some seasonal work I was doing. Saw 7-Eleven advertising hiring for graveyard shift for an extra $1.50/hour, figured that would be a tolerable gig. Got hired on, was sent to a different location than the one I applied at and my schedule was all over the place. There were days I'd work a graveyard, go home for six hours, and then come back for another shift. They were paying minimum wage, I didn't get the extra shift premium."
"Then the new schedule came out and I popped in to see it, and I saw they'd scheduled me to work alone on Christmas Day. Policy was minimum two people, and doubly so for new employees until their probation was up after three months, and it was only my third week. I didn't even talk to a supervisor, just left my 7-Eleven shirt at the counter and left. No regrets."
Which is the "1"?Giphy
"Boss asked me to think outside the box regarding a project that was so outside the box already that it wasn't even legal in 49 states."
Some times you have no choice but to quit and walk away from a toxic work environment.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below.
People Break Down Which Practices The United States Needs To Adopt From Other Countries
We can all agree that there is something to appreciate about every country in the world, but there are arguably some countries that appear to have their ducks more consistently and happily in a row than others.
While it would be easy to let pride get in the way and continue to do things the same way, the more productive thing would be to learn from the countries who have figured out a better way to do certain things, whether it's healthcare, food banks, or other services.
Reflecting on the United States, Redditor Blinds**thead asked:
"What is one thing the USA should adopt from some other country?"
Introductions to Alcohol
"Swedish drinking laws. If I remember correctly, you can purchase alcohol below 5% at age 18, and be served liquor in bars (so the bartender can control the amount being served)."
"Seems like a smarter way to introduce kids to alcohol rather than opening the floodgates at 21."
Taxes to Approve
"I've never done them but they seem complicated and stress my parents out, so I just know I'll f**k mine up and end up in stupid jail, lol (laughing out loud)."
"Just send me something to sign, please!"
"A prison system that focuses on rehabilitation instead of punishment. Many countries have been successful with this saving literally billions of dollars and cutting down on crime."
Universal School Lunches
"Universal school lunches. It is embarrassing that we do not have folks cooking lunches for students from scratch and that it is not provided for free to all students."
"Do you want to bring your own lunch? Great, but you can also have the free hot lunch that looks homemade, not pizza squares, canned veggies, a slice of fruit, and 3 oz of milk."
"Kids shouldn't be going into debt for lunch. We're probably wealthy enough that our food waste alone would be sufficient, if captured magically, to feed every kid in the United States three proper meals per day."
"Also walkable cities and above-ground monorail systems."
"Finland has recently ended homelessness by just allowing people to live in small apartments without any preconditions, and four out of five of them make their way back to a stable life."
"It's also cheaper than allowing people to be homeless."
Foster Care Assistance
"It would be nice to also eliminate the fees foster parents pay for general registration, classes, and social services related to fostering or adoption."
"And also eliminate trying to recoup costs by billing parents whose children have been placed in foster care."
Longer Paid Family Leave
"I was SUPER blessed to get 12 weeks fully pay. But that’s not enough time. Putting the emotional aspect aside, I’ve returned to work functioning on four to five hours of sleep a night, and my productivity and cognitive abilities are greatly handicapped."
"My three-month-old son can’t even hold his head up or sit, let alone talk to tell me if anything’s wrong, and he’s placed in the care of someone else from 7:15 am to 5:15 pm. Doesn’t seem healthy for mother or child."
"The fact that our toilets don't have bidets and that at public restrooms the gap between the doors is massive, are both disgusting. Our whole bathroom situation is messed up."
Having a Siesta
"According to Dr. Andrew Huberman, whether you eat lunch or not, everyone requires a rest midday."
Tax Included in the Price
"Man, I had such a hard time with this when I visited America. Maths in my head is not my forte and I’m so used to looking at prices and expecting that to just be the price."
"I don’t get why you wouldn’t just add in the tax to the price. No one wants to do math unnecessarily. I mean, we don’t even tip in Australia so I don’t even need to work that out."
Raising Multilingual Children
"Teaching a foreign language to young students in public schools (ie 5yrs, k-5) when the propensity to learn the language quickly is maximum."
Clean Public Restrooms
"The clean restrooms in Japan were amazing. I never had to clean a toilet seat to put my young kids on it. In the states? Near every time. People here just don’t care about the ‘we’ when it comes to restrooms."
Separate Work and Healthcare
"Decent healthcare that isn't tied to your job. Other countries all over the world have figured out different ways to do this, so why can't we? (I know, corporations own politicians.)"
"I'm not an expert, but I'm guessing it would destabilize a bunch of industries in the near term. But I wonder if long-term, it would create so much new innovation since people would be unafraid to lose their health benefits to leave their stable but s**tty corporate jobs to start new ventures."
Designated Drivers on the Go
"In Japan, there is a service that you can call 24 hours per day that will come with two drivers and one car. One driver drives you and your car home, and the other follows in their car to pick up the driver that took you home with your car. No DUI, etc."
"It's actually really affordable there. No need to get an uber home that night and then an uber back the next day when you are hungover only to find out you have a million parking tickets or your car got towed."
Though there are positives to every country, it would be so cool to see each country be more open-minded about adopting the positives of other countries.
If a country is doing something better than another, the best thing for the citizens would be to take some notes, rather than let their pride do the talking.
Every year, at the end of the Academy Awards, while the auditorium erupts in cheers upon the announcement of the Best Picture winner, as they are somewhat obligated to do, many viewers at home instead shake their heads and raise their eyebrows.
That's if they don't throw popcorn or worse at their TVs.
While those who did so when La La Land was announced as the winner in 2017 would end up getting their revenge in what remains one of the biggest blunders of Oscar history, others are still reeling at some past winners, which they believe were more worthy of a Razzie than an Oscar.
Taste being subjective, plenty of people still find themselves confused by some films which won countless awards, received across-the-board raves, and are considered classics or masterpieces, but they find to be utterly unbearable.
Often finding themselves in an unpopular minority and having to keep their opinion to themselves, similar to Seinfeild's Elaine Benes and her unique disdain for The English Patient.
"Which film that’s universally praised do you find utterly repulsive?"
"My best friend really enjoys movies that make you anxious and uncomfortable like 'Uncut Gems' and 'Good Time', but I firmly do not like those kinds of movies."
"I know it's the point, but i find no joy in the level of discomfort I feel while watching them."
"Some other honorable mentions:"
Not Exactly Authentic
"'The Greatest Showman'."
"Mostly on the grounds that the real P T Barnum was a f*cking monster."- LostMercenary99
"The real John Smith was a f*cking sick bastard and the true events most definitely weren't a love story at all."- CagedKagepocahontas GIFGiphy
Who The "Devil" Was Is Debatable...
"'The Devil Wears Prada'."
"I just wanted everyone in that movie to die in a fire."- PothierM
Tearjerker, Or Sleeping Pill?
"I don't know if it's universally praised but I f*cking hate it."- sara_c907
One Of The All Time Creepiest Shower Scenes...
"Every damn Christmas."
"To be fair I can’t really stand Will Ferrel in general."- cook-isationwill farrel ross geller GIFGiphy
The Title Could Refer To The People Leaving The Theater...
"'Fast and Furious', just a terribly written extremely corny show."- tds542
Fern Gully Did It Better...
"All day long."
'Those blue miserable tw*ts."- akbarkhan666
There Was Bound To Be One...
"I don't know about utterly repulsive, but I have a hard time seeing why everyone loves 'Citizen Kane'."
"And I understand that there was movie making before 'Citizen Kane' and movie making after 'Citizen Kane' such that it informed movie makers going forward as to how it's done, let's say, but after a certain point we, the audience, don't see that anymore, and it's just another movie."
"And then I hear people say well it highlights social hierarchy under capitalism and such, but a lot of movies do that."
"And then there's the twist at the end which is not much of a twist which is the point, I suppose, but the whole thing seemed like a letdown when I finally watched it."
'As a result while a lot of people say it's their number one movie ever or at least in their top 10, it's on my top 10 list of movies not to watch again."- emjayseacitizen kane applause GIFGiphy
Why Not Just Do A Documentary?
"I think it's atrocious how they create hyperreality by over romanticizing the life of a famous person."
"Out of all the awful biopics however, i despise 'Bohemian Rhapsody' the most."
"The scene where the band supposedly invents 'We Will Rock You' on the spot makes my skin crawl."
"How did that movie end up winning so many awards, despite all the plot inaccuracy's and the poor editing."
"It is really beyond me."- Biemolt
Maybe Too Realistic?
'Not utterly repulsive, but I'm in the minority for thinking that 'Nomadland''s Best Picture win was a joke."
"It was barely a movie and relied too much on performance exploitation of actual people for its thin-as-f*ck narrative."
"Honestly, it might be my least favorite BP winner of recent times, yes I'd say that even 'Crash', 'The Artist' and 'Green Book' were better."- SamwisethePoopyButt
Not To Mention That Fake Baby...
"Shameless piece of 'Merican' propaganda, and I couldn't help but laugh at Bradley Cooper's portrayal in the first half hour."- mos_methBradley Cooper Baby GIFGiphy
Truman Capote Would Agree...
"Breakfast at Tiffany's."- LucyVialli
He Did Not Have Them At Hello...
"It was just TOO. DAMN. LONG."
"The 'Show me the money' bit was funny, but it happened early on in the film, and the rest dragged on forever."- Brilliant_Tourist400
We All Know "Moonlight" Was Better...
"'La La Land'."
"The music was utterly forgettable and the plot felt like it was written by a bunch of Hollywood executives jerking each other off."- Aviator506Emma Stone Love GIF by La La LandGiphy
Needless to say, everyone's taste is different, and everyone is entitled to their opinion.
Meaning there's bound to be an argument at the next "movie night" you have with friends over whether to watch Citizen Kane or Spice World.
And you should feel no shame in expressing which movie you want to watch.
Or rather, "what you really, REALLY, want" to watch...
Everyone wishes there was something different about their body.
Smaller nose, longer legs, a different hair or eye color.
There are those, however, whose frustrations with their body are less personal, and more universal.
Finding themselves frustrated less with their own DNA, but with human anatomy in general.
Frustrated by how certain functions work the way they do, and feeling there could be significant improvements in other departments as well.
"What is the biggest design flaw of the human body?"
Would Make A Lot Of People Less Cautious
"Unable to regenerate body parts."
"You lose an arm or a leg, you can't grow a new one."
"We can grow hair and nails forever, but not body parts."- drygnfyre
And Maybe The Whole Childbirth Process While We're At It...
"The size of the average baby head vs the size of the average vagina."- Ruggiard
"The Obstetric Dilemma."
"Basically, the human body isn't built for easy birth."- strykazoidSeason 3 Baby GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy
It Isn't Terribly Practical If You Think About It...
"IMO the whole 'we put food into the only air hole we have and can choke and die if we aren’t careful' thing is a pretty big miss."- el_rico_pavo_real
"Throat has a built in flaw - we breath n swallow food through the same area."- coolguy1793B
A More Direct Route Would Be Helpful
"I like the example of the recurrent laryngeal nerve."
"It runs from the brain to the larynx."
"However, to get there it goes from the brain, down the neck, into the chest, around the aorta and then back up the chest, up the neck and then connects to the larynx."
"That's a massive detour."
"It also means a blow to the chest can damage your ability to talk."- The_Thunder_ChildGiphy
Never Underestimate The Damage Teeth Can Do
"The fact that I sometimes accidentally eat the inside of my mouth."- -Grey_Area-·
He Does Have A Point
"'Nostalgia is the greatest human weakness. Second only to the neck'... -Dwight Schrute
In Plain Sight...
"In our eyes, the blood vessels supplying our photoreceptors are in front of them and therefore in the way of the incoming light."
"Probably not the biggest and there are some good justifications for it being set up this way."
"But it still must be such a pain for the brain constantly having to edit these out when forming our visual experience."- oliwoggleLoop Eyes GIF by Doze StudioGiphy
Maybe Just Every Illness And Ailment?
"My aunt had one when she was 31 and the healthiest person in the world."
"Ran an aerobics class at the Y, just perfect perfect health."
"Went to Pizza Hut with her the night before, next day, massive stroke, almost died, critical surgery, twenty years later she still has trouble speaking."
"There is no reason that should’ve happened."
"Perfectly healthy person damaged for the rest of her life."
"She’s still amazing and lovely and my favorite person but damn is that annoying."- Jibber_Fight
"You can kinda just die at any moment from a brain aneurysm, even if you're perfectly healthy."- mcsteve87
All Our Bones Could Be Stronger...
"For upright walking creatures, why is our head so (relatively) delicate?"
"Trip a single time and you're blinded, have brain damage, bit off your tongue, or lost teeth."- kmn493Episode 15 Pain GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy
They Arguably Also Weren't Built For Stairs...
"Our knees for sure."
"They just weren't built to last past 40 years."- TopShelfCrazy
A Couple More On/Off Switches Would Be Helpful As Well...
"That we cannot delete or sort unwanted/not needed info and memories from our brains."- PickAName616
As the saying goes, "nobody's perfect."
Or rather, "no BODY is perfect."
Otherwise, we'd all stop complaining about aching limbs or worrying about choking or other injuries.
People Share The Absolute Worst Relationship Advice They've Ever Received
Relationships are hard, and sometimes, they're confusing. When you're having a problem with your partner, or you're inexperienced and looking for lessons, you turn to your friends and family for advice.
Sometimes, the advice is sound and helps make things better.
Other times, the advice is trash and makes everything worse.
Redditors know this all too well, and are sharing the worst relationship advice they've ever gotten.
It all started when Redditor Spectrelegit asked:
"What is the worst relationship advice you've ever heard?"
Loyal As A Dog
"Any "loyalty tests". Always a bad idea."
"Heard a youtube therapist once say that as soon as you decide to do a loyalty test, you've already decided the relationship is over because either they fail and you can't trust them, or they pass and you show them that you don't trust them and they stop being able to trust you"
"Ultimatums fall under a similar category."
"If this is a current situation it sounds pretty toxic, and if you are unhappy I hope you get the support you need to make any changes."
Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend
"Spend 3 months salary on an engagement ring. This was literally started by the rich diamond families to increase sales."
"My girl literally threw a jewelry store book at me with the ring she wanted circled and happily said there was a coupon lol. It was like $80 but it's the one she wanted. We've been together for almost 10 years and happily married for nearly 3 now"
"Yeah it's ridiculous, there's lab created gems that are basically the same and a fraction of the cost."
"I’ve said this to friends and family several times when they’ve asked me while stressing about picking out expensive rings:"
"if the ring is the problem, then the ring is not the problem."
Not The Way To Go
"There was a Reddit post about a guy who told his partner that she stunk several times a day. Poor girl was horrified. It got to the point that she was showering incessantly, using industrial strength deodorants and he still complained non-stop."
"Paraphrasing here, but when finally confronted, it turns out his father had given him this sound advice: “Tell a women she smells bad, and she’ll never leave you.”"
"Daddy was wrong."
Anything Doesn't Go
"That you only truly care if you're "ride or die.""
"An ex once told me that she thought if she pushed me far enough that I'd leave. I told her "Yes, I would leave. Why would I want to be with someone who thought so little of me that they'd push me far enough?""
"I had put up with a lot of abusive behaviour from her and it didn't last much longer before she tested my statement and I did exactly what I said."
"Totally!! And that you should love your partner “unconditionally” ie any behaviour goes. Nope"
Maybe Not The Right Person To Ask
"A friend of mine once prefaced some unsolicited advice about my 10-year marriage with the phrase, "I've been in dozens of relationships..." and then he went on to rant about how men shouldn't do the grocery shopping or something stupid like that."
"Right, we had a three times divorced friend who loved to give relationship advice. Most of it was BS."
"The Children" Need A Good Example
"Stay together for the kids."
"I was the child. Please don’t."
"I was also the child. Your children know when you don’t love each other, when you’re fighting all the time because you decided to stay with someone you can barely tolerate. They will live with that knowledge and grow up with a warped perception of love and relationships because they were never given a proper example."
"They will either become obsessive and do whatever they can to make someone stay, or they’ll develop a fear of commitment that will ruin every relationship before they even get the chance to try it. Divorce can be messy, especially when kids are involved, but sometimes the alternative can be far worse. If you decide to have kids, do right by them."
"“There is a perfect person out there”"
"No. No there isn’t. There is no such thing. People change as they experience life. To believe someone will stay the same forever is silly. Pick someone who you can grow with and shares common values with you. Everyone has to make some compromises and that includes someone making them on you too."
Not A Great Justification
"Being married is like eating spaghetti every night for dinner. No matter what sauce you put on it, it's still spaghetti. Sometimes a man needs to eat some steak once in a while."
"That was from my dad while trying to justify cheating on my mom."
Look Good For You
"My (very attractive but very unhappy in her own marriage mother) tried to make me believe that the secret of a successful marriage is to look desirable at every hour of the day and night . Make up, clothes, perfume… anything to keep the husband interested. Having a personality is nice but not necessary."
"I feel guilty of this, although I also feel like I can take the time to get ready all I want, he’s still going to admire someone else and probably in front of you. Just get ready for yourself if it makes you feel better. I have always hated to go out in public to run into anyone bareface, whether it’s an old friend, someone who picked on me in school, an old crush."
"Not sure where it came from me being this way but growing up my parents made fun of me when I’d have no make up on. If I got bad grades or did something that upset them they’d take it away and give it back saying “I need it.” Then other days tell me I wear too much of it, like high school wasn’t enough already. I could never win."
"I know several people who believe this and it’s sad"
Don't Be Who You Are
"When I was a teenager, my mom told me to not let boys see I was smart because no man is attracted to a woman whose smarter than he is. Also, I should work on my laugh because no one would be attracted to my laugh."
"Being smart and passionate about your interests is the most attractive thing ever"
Tell Me I'm Right
"Most people that come to you for relationship advice don’t want to advice they want you to validate the terrible decision they are about to make."
"I think your statement applies to advice in general. A lot of people to want to actually change or put in effort, they just want validation for their choices."
Yeah, that tracks.
We cannot believe some folks are dishing out such advice!
Has anyone every told you something truly crazy to keep a relationship propped up? Let us know in the comments.