Concealed Carry Permit Holders Share Why They've Had To Pull Their Firearm
An argument gun owners like to use in the debate surrounding the 2nd Amendment is, "Better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it." While you could make a slew of counter-arguments against that kind of thinking, the following stories might be the sway the gun owner side needs to defend their ground.
Reddit user, u/Restroom406, wanted to know about those tense moments when they asked:
Concealed carry permit users who have pulled your firearm, what happened?
It's not something you would want to happen, but it does seem like they're ready to go when the s-word gets real.
Rage On The Road
"Road rage inccedent."
"There was a guy in front of me at a red light. Its a long red. It finally turns green. He's busy texting, light turns yellow, then red again. He has a passenger. Passenger is just looking at the driver and yelling. The light turns green again, Im still waiting. This time I tap the car horn, the passenger looks back through the rear window, then opens his door, gets out and starts kicking my passenger side window and trying to get in my car."
"The door was locked but I couldn't drive off because i was too close to the car he got out and there was someone right behind me. He tried kicking my mirror off, missed, got more mad, came to the drivers side, tried getting in again... i was in shock and didn't know what to do for the first like... 5-10 seconds of this happening. More in shock out of disbelief than anything... then I remembered I had my ccw, drew it in the car and the guy held his hands up got back in the passengers seat and then the next green light came and it was over. The whole thing was surreal."
A Sale To Remember
"Wasn't me but a friend of mine (we'll call him Nick) was selling his Harley on Craigslist. Someone agreed to meet him at his house to look at the bike and buy it. 2 people pulled up in a car and they started doing the negotiations. He then asked Nick if he could test ride the bike to which he said sure. The buyer rode off with the bike and his friend started to get in the car. Nick is now realizing that their intention the whole time was to take the bike for a test drive and never return."
"As the buyers friend is putting the key in the ignition, Nick points a gun at his head and says, "is it really worth dying for?" Nick says "you're gonna get a call from your buddy here in a minute asking where you are and why you're not at the spot you were going to meet him afterwards." Sure enough his phone rings and it's his buddy asking him where he is. Nick makes him get on his knees and waits for the cops to arrive."
"Damn. Did your friend get his bike back?"
"What happened to the two idiots?"
"Yeah he got the bike back pretty easily. I mean he was essentially holding the dipsh-ts buddy hostage so he didn't have much of a choice but to return it. As for what happened to the idiots I think the cops came and arrested them but can't remember 100% I'll ask him the next time I see him to make sure"
Living alone, in this world, is certainly a risk depending on the area you reside in. Fret not: keep a gun in your side table by the bed.
Living Alone But Never Afraid
"My mom conceal carrys legally and she has pulled it a lot of times. She lives way out in rural Alabama. Her driveway is 1 mile long legit. She has no neighbors. Cops are an hour away minimum. She had to pull it on some redneck poacher hunters on her property when they were being [sassy] and intimidating to her. Since they were hunters they already had their guns out. She told them to get off her property and pulled out her handgun-they high tailed it out of there at that point."
"Another time she was driving with my stepdad down a highway at like 4 in the morning or something. They live to travel super late at night/early in the morning. No one else on the road. Some truck tries to run them off the road-she pulls out her handgun and shows it to the truck driver and he takes off and leaves them alone."
"I think in her case I was glad she had the gun. It lets people know if you want to f-ck with her-you may not survive it. and then they think better and leave."
Do You Really Want To Stand Up To A Bear Gun?
"Not CCW,but didn't need it in Alaska."
"We lived at the top floor apartment in a slightly less then desirable area of Anchorage. Not the worst but bad enough. Guy is pounding on my door at 3 AM screaming for Joe to let him in and sounding very angry. I answered the door in my boxers holding my Ruger Redhawk .44 I carry for bears (loaded with Alaska backpacker rounds, 425 grain hardcast). He just backed up put his hands up and said "sorry, dude, wrong apartment". I said "you think?"
Making A Choice For Your Loved Ones
"Walking with my disabled little brother near my house when a bulldog charged us. I had it mostly out of the holster when the dog hit the end of its rope. I didn't even see the rope until the dog hit it; all I saw was a blur of a big dog rushing me and thinking about my little brother who can't run."
A Night In Central Texas
"...My wife (then-girlfriend) and I were leaving a theater at ~9PM. The middle of the parking lot was always kind of dark at night, which meant I paid a lot more attention while walking through it."
"This night I notice two teenagers walking towards the theater as we walk away. They're both wearing hoodies and step out from a car that's still running with the driver at the wheel. Mind you, this is August in Central Texas. Nobody is wearing hoodies, even at night. Especially not with the hoods up."
"So these jokers walk past me and my girlfriend is still talking. Completely oblivious to the whole thing. But I'm watching, and one of the kids turns abruptly and I see him reaching under his hoodie to his waistband. When his elbow starts moving back, I decide to pull my gun."
"Whatever this kid was pulling out of his waistband, obviously it wasn't as hot as my Glock 19. Both these f-ckers start running like Usain Bolt and disappear into the parking lot."
"I will add that I'm REALLY glad I didn't have to shoot them. In fact, my Glock didn't even make it out of the holster before those idiots were gone. The optimist in me says it was some teenagers doing some dumb sh-t, and they've learned to not lead that kind of lifestyle. Realistically, they probably just found someone else on another night."
All joking aside, the gun industry has trained its consumers to think that there's danger around every corner and at any given moment someone is coming to kill you and everyone you love.
Don't mistake that with the real thought which is there might come a time when a person accosts you, hoping to take your wallet or phone, but it's not nearly as often as you think.
An Intimidating Mat
"I worked at a convenience store. One night the wind had been blowing like a son of a b-tch messing up the liners in the outside trash cans with trash ending up in the cans but not the liners. Instead of dragging each can individually I loaded them up in the back of my truck and backed down the little side driveway to the dumpster."
"As I exited my vehicle I saw someone come around the side of the building towards me. There is absolutely no reason to be back there. I reached under my seat pulled my pistol yelled "Freeze!" and realized I had trained my gun on a plastic mat hung out to dry."
Waiting Until You Get Home
"I had to pick my wife up at the airport one night. We got back to our house at around 2am. My wife had left her pursue in the truck so she went back out to get it. She comes running back in screaming because some guy had been hiding in our bushes and poped out on her as she was getting into the truck. She escaped him and ran inside screaming. I grabbed my gun and a flash light and turned on the guy. He froze and I told him to lay on the ground and held him there until the cops came to arrest him."
"Protip: If you tell 911 you are holding someone at gun point they get there REALLY fast."
"I don't even remember what I was thinking."
"I'm a very petite girl in my late 20s, had someone tap on my window one night while I was at a gas station (they were closed, pumps still operating) in a kind of sketchy neighborhood in my big city (FL). I hadn't even gotten out of my car to pump gas as I was still looking for my debit card. Guy was trying to rob me or steal my car, I honestly don't know cause he had a mask over his nose and mouth with a hoodie and I couldn't hear but I did see he had a gun partially coming out of his hoodie pocket (those middle ones)."
"I felt my heart in my throat but somehow I pulled mine out of my purse and pointed it and he ran like hell. I assume some punk kid with a fake gun maybe. But I cried like hell once I got out of there and parked somewhere safer. I don't know what would've transpired had he had an actual gun. I don't even remember what I was thinking."
A Face You've Never Seen
"I pulled my firearm in my own home. It was a quiet afternoon and I was lying in bed to take a nap when my home security system let me know an unknown face was at my front door. Not unusual I get packages all the time and my phone always lets me know when an unfamiliar face is at the door."
"Anyway i just wanted to take a nap so I didn't go looking into it I figured I'd just get the package later, then my phone indicated that my front door had been opened. I open the app and see on the video feed two men had entered my home so I hit the send help button and got my weapon when the two men opened the door to my room all it took was them seeing the gun in my hand to run away."
A Lion Or A Kitty
"My dog ran away from me while I was on a hike in the woods (yanked the leash right out of my hands). He bolted to chase after some noise I didn't hear. I followed him the best I could by using his barks and listening to general rustling noises in the woods (he is not a graceful pup). As I got closer to where I thought he was the trees were pretty thick and I started to hear a low growling noise that I associated with a mountain lion (I've never heard a mountain lion, to the best of my knowledge at least)."
"I drew my gun then because I suspected that I was about to walk up on this mountain lion eating my dog. I would need it out of self defense. Luckily, it turned out to be a house cat that had perched itself in a tree to avoid my dog. I could have sworn that growl was from something ten times bigger."DeFactoLyfe
It Is The Age Of Uber and Lyft
"Some guy opened the door and got into the passenger seat of my car while I was sitting at a red light while driving through an industrial area of my town late at night. I had just dropped off a friend at his work on a night shift, so the doors were unlocked (older car, no auto locks) He was going across the crosswalk, and veered off to the side of my car when he got to it then opened the door and got in. I had started drawing my gun as soon as he changed direction at my car, so it was out and ready when he got in. He turned toward me to say something, I was pointing the gun at him, and I said "what the f-ck are you doing?". He stammered something unintelligible, got out and ran off."
"He might have mistaken me for someone else, like a lyft or uber or something but I wasn't about to sit there and wait to see what his intentions were. Nobody got carjacked/mugged and nobody got shot, so it all worked out in my opinion."
Not Sure What You're Holding There
"I have once and it scared the sh-t out of me. I do hvac and when I started at my current company they were very new and would take all the work we could get so that meant going into some unsavory areas. I was looking at an AC unit for a slumlord we were dealing with at the time when some large dude came into the backyard and had me cornered while screaming about me trespassing and some other unintelligible stuff. He had what I'm assuming was a machete, could have been a lawnmower blade, in his hand and kept pointing it at me. I knew he wasn't the tenant as the property was vacant."
"I pulled my gun from my holster in my waistband and made it very clear that I would shoot him. I don't even know if I would have because I was terrified. I'm a big guy and he could have manhandled me. After what couldn't have been more than a couple of minutes he back backed off and I grabbed my tools and hauled a-- back to my van. Ended up not doing anymore work for that guy. It's a really sh-tty feeling, especially after the adrenaline wears off."
"The fact that I'm a 6'2" 250lb male did nothing to discourage him."
"Didn't draw but was open carrying and at the ATM getting money to pay the sitter after a evening out + dinner. So it's dark, around 9:30pm or so. As I started working the ATM, my spidey sense started going off. I glanced left, saw nothing, to the right, and something was amiss. I stopped looking for detail and started looking for movement. I saw a dark silhouette of a person sneaking along the wall."
"The ATM was lit up like the noon day sun. So I took a half step left, made sure that my firearm was plainly visible, and continued my transaction. While paying attention to the guy trying to sneak up on me. When he got close enough, he realized I was armed. His eyes got huge, he bolted away, and every couple of steps, glanced back to see if I was chasing him."
"It's a bad idea to approach someone, in a skulking manner, at night, specifically staying in the shadows. Doing that means you have ill intent. The fact that I'm a 6'2" 250lb male did nothing to discourage him."
"I'm glad I was armed."MyWorkAccount2018
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When you gotta go, you go.
That should be a mantra for getting rid of the toxic people in our lives.
Not every relationship is meant to last forever.
Some people don't know how to be friends.
They are awfully good at pretending though.
Be vigilant of the signs and red flags.
Toxic people are crafty.
And once you're free, never look back.
Redditor _ReDd1T_UsEr wanted to discuss the reasons why many of us decided to cut some people out of our lives, so they asked:
"What was the reason why your friendship ended with someone?"
Sometimes a person just has to go.
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"I stopped being the first to always initiate plans, and that was that."
"I once asked a friend to plan our next breakfast + walk outing, since I always did that. He wrote me a letter ending the friendship. Stunning!"
Pants on Fire
"Habitual lying became too annoying and disruptive to tolerate."
"When you constantly are thinking... this math ain't matching lol. People that lie all the time make me sick. I've told multiple friends that you don't have to lie to me."
"I feel so much better when someone can trust me and feel comfortable telling me a hard truth than an easy lie."
"Even if the truth made me feel some type of way, I'm still glad it was honest. I've even said thank you to people in the past that have been honest with me, good or bad! Some people just can not help lying about things. I wouldn't be able to ever keep a story straight if I did that."
"He kept having kids with different girls and bailing on them. Coming from a 'went out for a pack of smokes' Dad myself, I just couldn't watch it anymore. Bailed after the third one. Think he's up to 6 now."
"Reminds me of one of my ex-friends. She kept having kids with MULTIPLE guys (all of them were one-night stands), I don't think she even knows who the baby daddies are."
"She also kept begging me and people for money for pot, and she also bragged about having OnlyFans. She'd also make up stories about being in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend (she'd also cheat on him/tell people her and him they broke up, which they weren't)."
"I was a bad person and they ended it for perfectly sensible reasons. I would have done the same. I've changed, but I don't blame them for not reconsidering contact."
"I’ve been there. I was a bad person and lost friendships and family relationships. I tried to apologize to everyone I hurt."
"I also accepted that they don’t want me in their lives anymore. I learned that I made my mistakes, I learned from them, and I accept their choices. I don’t self-hate anymore and I try to be a better person in general. I hope you are doing well and practicing self-love and forgiveness."
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"I lent them $20 and then they avoided me so they didn’t have to pay me back. Worth the $20."
"I don't ever expect prompt returns of small amounts of money between my friends... we all buy each other rounds or buy the food for the BBQ or whatever. It ends up evening out over time I think we'd notice though if someone was always taking and never giving and then they'd probably get cut off too."
In the immortal words of Cyndi Lauper... "Money Changes Everything."
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"She joined a pyramid scheme selling butt-ugly leggings and it took over her whole life. When I finally told her it was negatively affecting our friendship, she accused me of not supporting her 'business.'"
"I was basically a taxi for my friends so I dumped them all."
"This one I can understand but depends on the situation. Not all of my friends had cars in high school, so our group needed to have me and my sh*tty '94 Plymouth Sundance come, or they couldn't do anything. I didn't mind at all then, but I definitely would these days."
"I remember I used to drive around with my buddies all the time before they had licenses. When one of my friends got his and a car I said sweet now you can drive me around for a bit, he replied that he wasn't gonna waste his money on gas like that. See ya, haven't really spoken to him since."
"How's this for oddly specific: Friend since 1980, was hanging out at a bar in 1992 and there was a dispute of over a $15.00 bar tab. I was in the right, but whatever - he held a grudge for years."
"Ran into him in 2017 and we were both too old to care. Started to see each other now and then. 2023 and we're at this local bar for a show and got into a fight about $15.00 a ticket."
"Maybe he'll call me in 2063."
"She was a taker, constantly. When I needed something she made it about her yet again. Exhausting to be around."
"I'm going through this right now. Can't tell you how many texts I have from her in the past few days telling me that I need to get over myself, need to stop making myself the victim, have been a terrible friend, have never been there for her."
"She's the most narcissistic person I know and everyone does everything for her. She has one of the easiest lives ever and anytime anything bad happens to her she believes that everyone is against her and she's the victim here. It's pure insanity. There is no talking sense to people like this."
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"I've lost like all but two of my 'friends' because I stopped drinking and doing hard drugs."
"Same here dude. My circle is small but hey at least it's a circle I know I can go to."
Oh, how things change when the booze dries up.
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People Who've Attended A Wedding Where Someone Actually Objected Share Their Experiences
There's nothing quite like the drama that can arise at a wedding or in the days leading up to it.
But the moment people don't necessarily think about is the moment when the audience can choose to object if they so choose, and surprisingly, some people take advantage of this opportunity. It often doesn't go well.
Redditor AustinMakesStuff asked:
"Has anyone ever been to a wedding where someone actually objected, and if so, how did that go?"
"I went to a wedding where they skipped that part because the bride's adult daughter was planning to object."
"How was this known? Had she pre-announced her intention, or was she just that kind of person and people had accurately predicted it?"
"She told somebody, and they told the bride and groom."
Uncovering the Con Artist
"I feel like about half of weddings these days don't have that part, and not because of feared objections, just because it is outdated and weird. Premarital sex is a thing. Divorce is a thing."
"Weddings cost like over $10k; if you know reasons to stop a marriage (outside of movies), you need to intervene at the engagement or earlier, not during the ceremony."
"That said, one of my wife's college roommates canceled a wedding like a day or two days beforehand, right after graduating college, after being in a long-distance relationship with some guy for a year or so. Her family was quite well-off and she was dating a guy who lavished gifts and expensive dates on her whenever they were together, said he ran his own company, just bought them a fancy house, etc."
"It turns out he was just super in debt, working a near minimum wage job, and maxing out credit cards taken out fraudulently. He had a fake web page with other employees for his company that he set up for the sole purpose of keeping up the front. The house was only bought from grossly lying about income (pre-2007 housing crisis) on the mortgage application, and he was drowning in debt."
"The almost-bride's father got bad vibes about the guy (a few things didn't add up, like he had this fancy house but couldn't afford any furniture), and he hired a PI (Personal Investigator) who quickly uncovered the deception."
"(And she didn't break up with him because he wasn't rich, she broke up because he spent tons of effort to lie about everything and was completely conning her and just trying to get her roped into joint ownership of his debt via marriage that he expected the family to pay off.)"
"My husband's first marriage. The brother of the bride stood up and said to my husband, 'Say no, you can still be happy!'"
"They went through with the marriage and wound up divorcing with a messy breakup."
"Brother-in-law is still best friends with my husband (as far as he's concerned, he gained a brother and lost a sister, and is better off for it), and he never lets him forget the fact that he was right and he should have bailed, lol (laughing out loud)."
"My auntie's fiance was already married (a lady stood up waving the marriage certificate), so the wedding didn't go ahead. The reception was on a long boat so we still went to that."
"The fiance went back to his home country to sort it out and never came back."
"I worked a wedding where one of the moms objected, but I think the groom knew that the parent was going to say something, so they just responded with, 'Oh sit down, (parents name), we knew you didn't like this a year ago and clearly we're not going to change our minds today."'
"The wedding continued like nothing happened, but the mom was lowkey shunned and people avoided her at the reception."
Going Separate Ways
"This was in America, and the wedding was in a Buddhist temple. The parents of the groom stood up and objected because they didn’t believe the bride was of the same class. They spoke in another language so most of the English-speaking guests didn’t know they were objecting."
"My husband was the best man and those closest to the couple knew this might happen. The Buddhist priest said he would handle it if the parents tried anything."
"After the parents spoke for a while, the priest said to the groom, 'You’ve heard what your parents had to say, what do you want to do?'"
"The groom replied, 'I want to marry my bride.'"
"So the priest asked the parents to leave."
"At this point, the rest of the guests are clueing in that this was not a nice part of the ceremony, and that the parents were actually objecting, so, as the parents walked out, some of the guests were berating them saying things like, 'You should be ashamed of yourself,' and 'How could you do that?' Even though the groom was not happy with his parents, that was very hard for him to hear."
"That was 30 years ago. The couple is still married. They have two beautiful, successful children. After the groom’s mom passed away, the groom’s father came around and was involved in their lives until he died."
Not Meant to Be
"A woman, in her twenties at the time, objected to her mom marrying my uncle. So she started yelling, 'Mom, don’t marry him!' during the ceremony."
"The ceremony proceeded, and some family on the mom’s side lead the daughter away to quit interrupting."
"I don’t blame her. My uncle was a lying, lazy bast**d. The marriage didn’t last."
The Best Man Swap
"I went to a wedding where the best man was replaced a week before because he banged the bride. But the wedding still went ahead just with a different best man. They are divorced now."
Joke Gone Wrong
"I went to a Catholic wedding where, when the priest asked this question, one of the groomsmen did a VERY loud, long, throat clearing, which got everyone laughing."
"Everyone except for the bride's elderly Italian Grandmother, who marched out of her seat and angrily hit the groomsman with her handbag and shouted at him in Italian!"
Giving Away the Bride
"I objected. I took giving my sister away literally."
"I wasn't the brightest three-year-old."
Wedding Invitation Revenge
"At my cousin's wedding, her friend said, 'I object,' because she was not invited to the wedding. She was kicked out of the wedding."
"Not quite the question as asked, but too funny to not share:"
"Priest: 'Any objections?'"
"Father of the bride: lets out the hardest, loudest, most complex-sounding sneeze I've ever heard in my life, completely with involuntarily saying, 'ACHOOOOOO!'"
"Mother of the bride, hammered on champagne: 'For f**k's sake, Jerry!'"
"It took a good five minutes for everyone to regain their composure."
The Bride Who Got Away
"I had a friend who was a minister, and the subject came up if he asked the question during ceremonies he officiated."
"He laughed and said no way. He basically tells the couple not to include it because it only invites a moment of anxiety at best, misery at worst."
"His best story (and one of the reasons he stopped including the question) was about a couple where in the lead-up to the wedding, the couple was obviously in love. The bride-to-be was very smiley and happy."
"But the day of the wedding, she was stone-faced. He (my minister friend) knew something is up because he’d never seen her like this and he asked if she was okay. She just said, 'I’m fine.'"
"Right before the service, he asked again, and 'I’m fine.'"
"He got to the question, 'Does anyone object to this union?'"
"The bride reached over, grabbed the Maid of Honor's hand, shoved her into the bride’s spot, and said, 'You’re screwing him, you marry him.'"
"Then she stormed out of the church."
An Unforgettable Toast
"At his rehearsal dinner, a coworker's mother's toast included that his soon-to-be wife was a 'd**n dirty w**re who wasn't good enough' for her son. Folks were not happy. (The video ended so didn't see the whole thing.)"
"At the wedding which I attended, his mom started to say something at the 'speak now or' part but was silenced by her daughter. Mom left and didn't see the rest of the ceremony."
"Everything about that poor guy was drama."
"Attended a wedding where the minister said something along the lines of, 'If anyone here objects to this marriage, you can keep your mouth shut. Today is not about you.'"
Bonus: Funeral Shenanigans
"Not a wedding, but at a funeral someone objected to the death."
"At my uncle’s funeral, his ex-wife and a local church [cult] leader tried to raise him from the dead. We were all sitting there like normal people at a normal funeral and she walks up to the casket and starts yelling, 'James Lester, raise up!'"
"I didn’t know she was there or I would’ve prepared myself for shenanigans. Also, I didn’t know my uncle’s middle name was Lester, so please imagine the confusion. So she and the cult leader are literally yelling at my uncle’s body."
"Not surprisingly, my uncle refused to resurrect himself. They were escorted out."
"I’ve actually never told this story because it makes my family look insane."
The last thing a person wants is for their to be drama on their wedding day, but like any other major event, sometimes something will come up. But having someone try to put a stop to the wedding, in front of everyone, certainly will add a terrible note to the wedding day.
Financially speaking, most of us could benefit greatly from having extra money each month.
But where someone might assume that the extra money would just be wasted, most people would apply these funds to very practical purposes and expenditures.
Redditor dothepingu asked:
"What would you do if you had an extra $1,000 every month?"
"A couple of weeks ago, I went to the dentist and overheard a heartbreaking situation."
"The office had a very open floor plan with privacy screens rather than individual rooms. But you could still hear every single conversation."
"This teenage kid comes in and says that he has a broken crown that needs to be fixed."
"The dentist says that it will cost $700. Kid says he has to call his mom first."
"So the kid calls the mom, and the mom says, 'No way in h**l can we afford that. Just tell the dentist to stick the old one back on.'"
"The dentist is like, 'Are you sure? That's not really a thing. It's just gonna break off again.'"
"The mom says too bad, he has to live with it."
"If I had an extra $1000, I would have picked up that tab for that kid."
"Pay off debts and save."
"Exactly my thoughts, start actually being able to plan things and save money rather than being on the back foot all the time."
"Absolutely. Money just helps so much for lowering stress!"
"I'd ask my husband to take more time off work. We don't need the extra money, I'd rather have his company."
"Save more money and continue with my current lifestyle, except maybe also be able to get eye surgery for my worsening vision."
A Little Self-Care
"I'd start actually getting my hair cut and colored by someone that's not me at 3:00 AM feeling brave."
"I feel attacked by this comment, it feels personally directed at me."
"Be able to take care of my and my wife's mental health a h**l of a lot better."
"Her therapy is important but expensive. I would love to make sure she had more appointments and the best care."
Time to Retire
"Retire. 1000 USD per month is LIFE CHANGING in the Philippines."
"Probably move out of my uncle's shed."
"Make an extra mortgage payment; pay off this house twice as fast."
"I'd try out that three meals per day trend that people talk about."
"I'd settle for one meal a day and not living in my car."
"Dude. Been there for six months. One day we'll make it big. We'll sleep on a mattress and eat TWO meals a day."
"I'd work fewer hours. I've been here for 32 years and haven't been able to take a vacation in over four years."
Providing for Family
"My mom recently became single, with three kids and a grandkid at home. She and two of the kids who live with her are unable to work because of severe health problems."
"I know she is constantly terrified about how she's going to pay the bills. I'd give her the $1,000 each month in a heartbeat."
Man's Best Friend
"I'd finally be able to afford a dog."
"Live instead of survive."
While there are millionaires in the world, or even just people who live very comfortably, most people are currently living paycheck-to-paycheck, give or take a few hundred dollars. And that $1,000 extra each month would make all the difference.
When love is on the rocks and there's no salvaging a relationship, it's better for a couple to call it splits.
Sometimes the reason for a breakup is obvious.
Other times, it's more complicated.
But the people involved going their separate ways is better than staying in an unhealthy relationship.
Curious to hear from ex-lovers who've been there, Redditor Lishasquarepant asked:
"What caused your last break-up?"
These Redditors found they and their significant other were no longer on the same page.
"Simply, we grew apart."
"Same, I feel like Michael Scott everytime I try to start another relationship. 'No question about it, I am ready to get hurt again.'"
"Same. We loved each other like siblings, not spouses... Ugh! Lovely man though who now has a fab girlfriend. We are good friends and much happier apart."
"Same. And it f'king sucks, but that’s life. It’s been a year and I still hate every second that she’s not in my life, but at the same time I know she’s happier now than she would’ve been if we stayed together."
Having no communication is the worst part.
"He slowly got distant. I believe he lost interest and didn't dare be honest with me about that."
The Late Blame Game
"I had that happen as well, but then he pinned it on me being distant and not affectionate enough."
"My guy, if you pull your hand away every time I try to hold it, I'm gonna stop trying to hold it. And if I ask if something's up and you repeatedly tell me everything is fine, I'm going to believe you. Don't wait till I'm at my worst moment and then reveal you had issues with me for 3 months and break up with me for it being 'my fault.'"
"Everything Is Fine"
"Oh man, the asking repeatedly and getting a 'nothing' reminds me of a story."
"My friend used to ask her ex this every time he was unusually quiet. He’d always say he was fine, then at one point, told her to stop asking because it was making him feel weird."
"So she did."
"Six months later he initiated a divorce because she didn’t care about his feelings anymore."
"Like…don’t ask for sh*t then get pissy when you get what you want."
And then there are those who were not invested in the relationship for a long time.
The Struggle Is Real
"He seemed to struggle with the concept of not f'king random people."
Leaving The Problem
"He moved to his country because he missed his family. So he only sent a WhatsApp message saying he was going to stay there. I would have preferred a call at least to break up a marriage."
"Something similar happened to my cousin. He married her in the US, they had a baby together.. a few years go by, he misses home, goes back to visit.. His family had an arranged marriage ready for him 🤦🏻♀️ He ended up with a new wife and new baby. Hasn’t came back."
A Foreign Custom
"It just seems so surreal that a grown a** adult with a wife and baby would leave his family behind for an arranged marriage. I'll never fathom the mentality."
"I wasn't having sex near as often as she was."
Breaking up is hard to do.
But a good thing to remember is that love can be found again and the new relationship can be even better than the previous one.
And that's something that can't be recognized until you look back in retrospect.
We all have to kiss a few toads.