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People Share Their 'Damn, I Need To Stop Drinking' Experiences

People Share Their 'Damn, I Need To Stop Drinking' Experiences

Drinking is fun for awhile when you're younger, but as you get older and older, it stops being so fun. One glass of wine could easily equal a headache the next day. Two drinks and you might have a full blown hangover. In addition to that, the toll alcohol takes on your cognitive function is immense.

It can be very hard to work day to day while dealing with an alcohol problem, and some people find that it becomes necessary to cut the substance out of their life altogether, but not before they find themselves in some very strange and difficult situations.


Redditor u/MemesNoMods asked:

"Ex drinkers of Reddit, what was your 'Damn I need to stop' moment?"

Here were some of those stories.

A Strange Loop

"Anxiety made me drink to excess. Hangovers made me so anxious I could barely function even after the normal symptoms went away."

"So, I drank to kill the anxiety. Then I got anxious about it. So I drank to kill the anxiety. Then I got anxious about it. I've been cutting down to a point where 'just a couple' is actually 2."

"It's a work in progress."-CowboyFleeborg

So Young For Such Damage

"I threw up every morning and passed out drunk every night for about 3 years. At the end of it I was throwing up blood and my eyes turned yellow."

"I had a fatty liver and my plan was to keep drinking until I got cirrhosis and then I'd kill myself. At some point I started hearing things and getting the shakes so bad by 5pm that I couldn't send texts. I was only 23 at the time."

"I got fired from my job for showing up drunk too many times, and at 10 am I went to a liquor store and bought a half gallon of the cheapest vodka they had."

"Didn't tell anyone I got fired for like 3 days. Something in me just broke. I kept looking down the hole and thinking, if I go to the hospital I can't drink there. I can't interview for jobs anymore because I can't be drunk for those. I can't continue to exist without money, and I'm already in debt."

"I wouldn't admit to anyone what was wrong, even though they knew. Somehow my mom made me an appointment to see a therapist, and that was the first time I ever admitted my issue."

"It felt like the weight of the world was lifted off of my shoulders, and I was happy. I told my parents first, then my friends. My friend Kenny gave me this book called 'The Power of Now; by Eckhart Tolle while I smoked like 300 cigarettes on the porch of my house. Poured out all of my liquor and went to rehab to check myself in."

"It's been about 8 years since then, and I haven't drank since."-fukitimout

A Legacy To Outrun

"It was a long process that involved me slowly realizing that every time I drank i did something i didn't like myself for. I used alcohol as a tool to hurt myself, and i used it as an excuse to act on my worst emotions."

"There were no good or fun times i had while drunk that wouldn't have been just as good or better without alcohol. I'd have a sh*t day at work, go home and drink about it, wake up with a hangover, have a sh*t day at work..."

"My family or my partner would do something to upset me, I'd drink about it, and become explosively angry, usually ending up with me breaking sh*t and passing out. Wake up the next day feeling horrible physically and so embarrassed that I'd acted that way."

"My parents were both lifelong alcoholics and my mother has wet brain--alcohol induced psychosis. She has no idea who I am. She is only 52 years old and she doesn't recognize me. I can't end up like that. I have 5 months sober under my belt. And i have today."-Impressive_Raisin_74

Alcohol is a hard, deadly drug that can really mess up someone both physically and mentally.

A Wake-Up Call

"High school GF hadn't seen me for a few years and bluntly told me i looked like sh*t and need to take better care of myself."

"She was super into me all through HS so I went over expecting to get laid, and instead got brutally rejected. Boozing hard really piled on the weight for me."

"Quit cold turkey and redirected that energy into eating clean and hitting the gym. When I got the urge to get intoxicated, I went to a 24H gym and would run until the urge passed."-S_Steiner_Accounting

A Choice Ahead

"It stopped being fun. There just wasn't any pleasure in it any more. I'd get buzzed, or even a little drunk, and just... not enjoy it."

"Plus, I was starting to see that bigger problems were right around the corner. It was just starting to impact my relationship, my health, my motivation, etc, and I realized I was kind of at a fork in the road."-flipper_babies

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A Fateful Breathlyzer

"I hit a traffic cone with my vehicle. Someone called the cops. I blew over three times the legal limit and barely remember my encounter with the police."

"Upon my release from jail they gave me a machine that I had to blow into three times a day. This machine sent a signal to the county telling them whether or not I'd been drinking."

"I drank again and failed this test and was thrown back in jail. I hate being in jail and had my last drink on June 10th, 2017. I am forever grateful to the prosecuting attorney for forcing me to blow into that machine."

"If I hadn't have had to do that I probably wouldn't have stopped drinking. I'm 30 but I feel that there's a high chance that I'd be dead or in prison right now if I had kept on drinking."

"Me staying sober from alcohol, and hard drugs for that matter, is one of my most important achievements in life. My life is different but so much better abstaining from alcohol."-delcampo1

It Will Just Burn Through

"I started drinking at 24, and it turns out that it takes way more than normal to get me drunk. Since I've never gotten drunk with other people I didn't have any perspective on what was a normal or healthy amount to drink, and ended up drinking a fifth of vodka mixed with soda most evenings."

"I never got sick or hungover from this. One day I thought I'd have a little extra fun and I drank a pint of vodka in addition to my usual fifth, went to bed feeling fine, and woke up to find that the sheer volume of alcohol I put through my body destroyed part of my stomach lining."

"I was in complete agony for a month and couldn't eat, drink, or sleep for more than a few hours a day. Even when I did recover I ended up with vitamin deficiencies from the damage to my stomach that caused severe neurological issues mimicking MS. That was five years ago as of next week, and I still have no intentions of drinking again."-ntruncata

The trouble with alcohol is it is one of the most social substances that we consume as a society, and the pressure to drink is far too often greater than we give it credit for.

Oh The Fights

"There were many drunken nights that I angered and embarrassed those closest to me. Even put many in danger while driving absolutely hammered."

"The one moment for me was, I was a +1 at a wedding my girlfriend was a bridesmaid in. I was mixing Xanax and whiskey to kill my nerves. Barely knew anyone there aside from my gf (her family was also there for this) but by the end of the night everyone knew me and most certainly not in the best way."

"Me and the gf had a verbal blowout outside the reception and once it felt like all eyes were on me I hoofed it home 5 miles and was barely able to walk the next day."

"Blacking out and sh*tting myself 4 months earlier should have been the wake up call but the downward spiral persisted."

"Coincidentally I've been having a really hard f**king week mentally and have felt very close to relapse but hopefully this reflection on why I got sober will keep me on track."

"I'll be 3 years this September. Me and the gf are also going strong and I'm so grateful she didn't quit on me cuz there's no doubt I could very easily quit on myself…."-SleepyDragon76

It's Hardest When It Doesn't Show

"It wasn't any one event but the realisation that I've been daily drinking quite heavily for 26 years - since I was 13. I could easily drink a crate of beers and chase down a bottle of my whiskey in an evening."

"Many drunken episodes, too many blackouts, too many times asking myself, 'what happened last night?'"

"Lockdowns came and my drinking increased. Would stay up as late as I could - still had to function in some sense the next day and couldn't have zero sleep - and when I couldn't stay up any later to get to the level of drunk I needed, I just started drinking earlier and earlier through the day."

"I'd make excuses like, eating the left over Thai dinner at 11am justifies beers because the food is spicy."

"I come from a family of alcoholics and was borderline a functional alcoholic myself. That was my problem too - being a functional drunk. No random violence, no police trouble. Just massive harm to myself instead, physically and mentally."

"Finally said enough is enough and am coming up on 6 months dry."-bangkockney

It Makes You Useless

"I was a binge drinker and it was a problem. But I always just wrote it off as letting off some steam and having a good time."

"Then one night I got the drunk munchies and threw chicken nuggets in the oven at like 3am and promptly passed out. Filled the house with smoke."

"My wife was screaming at me. I know that there wasn't any danger of burning the house down since the oven is pretty self contained but the idea that I tried to cook anything while blackout drunk was for whatever reason the final straw."

"I couldn't get the image of causing a fire and not being physically able to help my family out of my head. Haven't had a drink since."-I_Do_Not_Know_What

There you have it. Some people never truly have a moment like this with alcohol because they just got lucky--they have managed to be either in control of their substance usage or they just haven't needed to be because they aren't predisposed to an issue.

But if you ever find yourself having moments like this with alcohol, you are not alone. In fact, you're in great company.

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

monobarreller

Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

rayrayrayray

Free

The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

Giphy

"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

1-cupcake-at-a-time

Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

Hot-Refrigerator6583

Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.