We may not know it, but sometimes things that seem routine or are just one of our personal habits can really hold back our lives.

One little change to cut those things, or to include new things, can really change the quality of our lives for the better. We have to be willing to drop old routines, which is hard and scary; and we need to be willing to accept new ideas into our space, which is also hard and scary.


But the risk is almost always worth the reward, in this case.

u/Jimmyb_3333 asked:

What changed in your life that made it so much better?

Here were some of those answers.


New Body Parts

The kidney transplant I just received on Monday (Feb 15, 2021).

wanderingwiccan

It's amazing isn't it? Going on 17 years with mine and couldn't agree more. I'll never forget how miserable I was when my kidneys were failing and I started dialysis.

Those memories serve as added motivation to keep healthy now. Life is good. Best wishes to you moving forward!

realTurdFergusun

Out Vs. In

Giving up on trying to cure being a introvert and just being happy

RedditerAbc123

Introverts have just as much fun there are just fewer witnesses

minisis85

Accepting yourself is truly liberating.

There's one important aspect of being an introvert or extrovert. As an introvert, you recharge by being alone. Extroverts recharge by being around people.

I occasionally enjoy being around people, and I'm good at being social. I even perform music in public. However, when I'm done with all that, I go home and have to unwind. If I go long periods of time without enough alone time, I start getting progressively more irritated and frustrated.

I actually feel happy and at peace when I'm alone. Other people will tell me they feel lonely, or like their apartment feels empty. For me it's a direct source of happiness, this isolation and peace. I don't want a family, a partner or even pets. I don't even like hearing neighbors around. Solitude is freedom.

sunsetdive

Git That Mental Health

I did therapy for around three years, and I recommend it to folks to try at least once in their life. It can take a little time, as a lot of it comes down to having the right therapist who can get through to you, (advice: if you need to switch to a diff. Therapist or, at any time want to simply take a week or two off, during the process- voice that to your therapist.)

Wishing you all the best on your journey, there were times I'd second guess myself if it was "working" right away, but trust the process, you'll take a lot from the experience & learn a ton about yourself!

Puzzleheaded_Stress7

All it takes is one simple action for your life to change forever.

I Am Not Everybody's Parent

I stopped caring so much.

For as long as I remember I've felt a burden of responsibility to my parents, my brother, to myself. Throughout my whole life my parents have relied on me to be the voice of reason, to be the one who has sound mind, to be the one good with finances, to give them advice. It's not healthy for a kid to be put under that kind of pressure, and it just built and built until they filed for bankruptcy in 2017, and when I burned out at work last year.

I went to therapy for a bit (for the 3rd time lol) after I burned out and realized that I'm putting up such a high bar of responsibility for myself and it makes, and made, my life ridiculously miserable.

I'm still working and going to school, but having a more relaxed attitude and almost forcing myself to procrastinate on my schoolwork has made my life so much more enjoyable.

CozysMyName

The Superpower Of Sobriety

Quitting alcohol. My life has completely changed in only the best ways. Most notably Ive accomplished all of my dreams.

I went back to school and earned my bachelor's, found the love of my life and got married, lost a bunch of weight and somehow look like I've aged backwards. Now my only problem is coming up with new dreams.

Billlliejean

A Career Separate From Hostile Energy

For years I was convinced I chose the wrong career, and I was getting extreme anxiety, had to pull the car over a couple times going to work because of panic attacks.

Lockdown happens a year ago and all my stress disappeared and I realized I love my career, I just HATE office living and commuting. My biggest fear is the pandemic ending and being forced back into that terrible office culture.

feral_philosopher

Just Space To Remember

I've found that journaling helps me remember stuff a lot better. Also, on bad days, I get the catharsis of ranting without having to subject one of my friends to it.

I can also look back on past events and maybe figure out how I can do things differently or just reminisce.

Getting my feelings on paper or even a word document helps me deal with things, somehow. I stopped when things got real around last March since writing "I didn't do much today" every day was getting old.

Soulfire1123

It almost feels like the missing puzzle piece that could make everything in your life work was there all along, you just needed to put it in the puzzle.

Just A Better Life

My biological mother is an abusive drug addicted, alcoholic who put everything, including her other daughter, above her youngest child.

When i was 11, child services placed me with my Dad and his partner (my Mum, for all purposes of the word except birthing.)

In Australia, previously I was in N.Z. Its been a bumpy road, but I'm now 19, living out of home, have my license, own car, stable job and am studying at uni. I couldn't have done it without my parents, and i have the loving, caring, supportive Mum I craved as a child.

There was ten minutes where i didnt know if i was going into foster care or with my Dad, and it was the scariest ten minutes of my life, but ultimately that decision was the best thing that happened to me.

lildee_19

Physical = Mental

Losing a significant amount of weight. My overall health is so much better. I sleep like the dead every night, when before I suffered badly from insomnia.

My blood pressure has come down to normal levels. I'm no longer pre-diabetic. I have cut back on the amount of medication I have to take, which obviously means I have money to spend that I didn't before.

I love exercising, even when I was morbidly obese, I enjoyed walking. Now I enjoy walking and I can walk so much further and faster than I could before. Another thing is the major change in my mental health. I was in a very dark space, and I realized the other day how much more positive my outlook in life has become.

10/10 reccomend. My journey has been slow, but it has been so worth it!

Smart-Connection6154

A Partnership For The Ages

Finally telling my best friend that I was in love with them. We've been dating for two years now and every moment is like living in a dream. They're sitting next to me right now cluelessly singing out loud with headphones in and I'm OBSESSED.

Also, Covid has allowed me to drive around the country while working remotely and actually do a lot of the hikes that have always been on my bucket list. It really changed my life by reaffirming my long term goals (stay healthy, get outdoors when I can).

sodapuppy

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