Millenials Reveal What They Genuinely Think Is The Worst Thing About Their Generation
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Millennials have taken a lot of crap over the years. They're the Generation of laziness, of whackos, of ridicule. Everyone says they don't want to work and don't understand how the world functions. They of course have combated that argument with protest. They say they won't just accept the World as is and swear to change it! However every Generation has it's issues.
Redditor _askmenextyearifimok asked for some truth from the youngins asking... Millennials of Reddit, what do you think genuinely _is the worst thing about your generation? Acknowledge what's wrong so you can fix it.
JUST SAY NO...
Everyone is so non committal. If I ever write a book, I'm calling it "I'd Rather Hear No." If you don't want to hang out, go on a date, or are not interested, just tell me. I'm tired of"we'll see", "maybe," or my personal favorite "I'll let you know."
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Millennials talk a big talk on social media when it comes to social/political issues. When it comes to actually doing something about it, not so much.
Posting about something means nothing if there's no follow through y'all.
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Here's your daily reminder that millennials are the generation born in the 80s and 90s. Even the youngest millennials are in their 20s. The oldest millennials are approaching 40.
Sometimes people say millennials when they really mean teenagers. Teenagers are Gen Z.
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I'll say that I am very suspicious of all the talk about what _"millennials are like." _Every older generation looks down in predictable ways on the younger generation, and there's rarely much truth in it. When I was a kid, our parents worried we were worshiping Satan by playing D&D. They worried we'd rot our brains with Atari and Nintendo games the same way we now worry our kids are rotting their brains with smartphones. Maybe there is something to the bad effects of smartphones, I don't know, but I certainly look at the claims with a skeptical eye.
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I'm gonna go with social media. It's caused a lot of problems.
Before all these various websites, people could only compare themselves to the people they met in real life. They'd only really get to know about 150 people at a time according to monkeysphere logic. So if you're looking at developing a skill like drawing, you could feel pretty good about how you were doing and get some validation from your improvement over time. Now, though? You see a billion artists all sharing their work, so you'll see millions of artists better than you. That doesn't mean you're bad, but it's harder to get validation for the effort you've put in. Especially now that things like Tumblr reblogs and Twitter retweets and Instagram regrams give you a numerical sense of how well you're doing. Now it's not "I'm not as good as Jeff but I've personally seen how much effort he puts into his work," it's "I'm not as good as GokuLovesSonic19387 on Deviantart and all I have to go on is that he says he drew this amazing sketch in 5 minutes, so I guess I'm worthless".
I'm using drawing as the example because that's what gets to me personally, but this can also apply to physical attractiveness or wealth or any other skill or quality of life.
Social media also causes people to stir up outrage, and make people upset over things that might not be true, might not affect them in any way, or is otherwise not worth getting angry over. And the people who care the most will guilt-trip each other into re-whatevering the outrage so that everyone gets outraged too.
So now we have a generation of people who don't think it's worth developing their hobbies and skills because they don't feel they're as good as GokuLovesSonic19387 and are also livid over some trivial thing (which I'm not going to make up an example for because I'm sure whatever example I come up with will be serious business to someone).
Now this next thing might be a touchy subject, but people on social media seem to really like labelling themselves. No matter what you feel on anything, you can find a group that agrees with you, validates your opinion, and encourages you to define as much of your identity as possible by it. Then you're a part of some group that didn't even exist before and that causes you to dislike people in the other group who also used to just have a casual opinion.
Social media also has the dangers of some people sharing every detail about their lives, so that anything they say and do could have serious consequences in every part of their lives, and other people remaining completely anonymous, so the things they say and do have zero consequences at all.
So yeah. It's bad. And if you agree with what I've said here, don't forget to Tweet me over at Instatumblr.
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That we have not been educated to do jobs that are needed, but rather we were told that we can do whatever we want. Then we spend years and years studying and preparing for that thing, believing that passion and hard work is all that's needed to do the job in question, only to realize that if it's not needed, no one is going to pay us for it no matter how talented, educated, or passionate you are in it. Once you realize this, you find yourself too old to start over, and facing competition from others who were lucky enough to go down paths that lead straight to success and are far more experienced than you because they didn't have to start over at 30.
Which is how you end up with people with 2 diplomas working jobs that require none. And even then, you will still have less experience than the kid who started working at McDonald's at 18 and will be your manager when you apply there at 26. So no wonder you will have worse work ethic than those who went straight to McDonald's without wasting years of their life and a bunch of money on education that is totally useless to them.
We then find ourselves lost and without purpose, losing passion for what we liked and not having the skills to do what is needed --- we end up both without passion and without skill.
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That fact that I'm 30 years old now, and people talk about my generation like we are all 21 year old kids.
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We struggle to form, and maintain meaningful relationships?
Maybe that's just me...
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Inability or unwillingness to recognize the impact of filter bubbles putting us in echo chambers online that only serve to stagnate thought and intellectual progress.
Especially in today's political climate.
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The obsession with labels and trying to fit in with everyone while claiming to be individuals. Seriously, just do you and forget what everyone else does or thinks. You are you and only you are in charge of your own happiness. If you have to have labels and fit into certain groups or cliques to be an individual, then you're living entirely wrong.
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Student loan debt.
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The idea that if you are 90% with someone/something but 10% against it that you're an enemy.
There are so many things where if you have even the slightest reservation, boom, evil. For example, on reddit I once got downvoted and called a Trump-supporter for saying I didn't think Obama would be a good choice for a supreme court justice because of the drone strikes on American citizens. Another time I called Trump an unfit candidate, but talked about how he ran an incredible campaign that really appealed to the common man that we should learn from and someone asked if that's why I voted for him.
On facebook I once gently corrected a factually incorrect statistic (i.e. they used the number for all unarmed shootings rather than black unarmed shootings. I pointed this out but said it was still way too high), and I got laid into for invalidating someone's feelings.
There's no room to say _"I agree for the most part but..." _or even _"I disagree for the most part but..."_ It's all or nothing. If you don't think Obama was the second coming of Christ or Trump is literally Hitler reincarnate, you're clearly against everything good, right, just and beautiful.
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I think an oversaturation of information is an issue. We are so used to being able to google something or YouTube it that our critical thinking and problem solving skills are getting worse and worse.
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Not at all a fan of the tendency of a large amount of people to go looking for things to be offended about - or going on the attack against allies. Example - recently stuck up for someone in an LGBTQ group. Some random chick got in my face about how I wasn't welcome because I was "a straight." - then when I tried to explain I was on their side got an a sarcastic "ooh, NOT ALL STRAIGHTS then? " as if I was an'all lives matter' idiot.
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A severe lack of physical interaction. And I don't mean sex, I mean most of our interaction is filtered through screens. So many people I know complain about being awkward or uncomfortable in new settings (including myself) and that is because we just aren't used to being around other people except for our immediate families. This keeps people from wanting to interact more, further pushing ourselves into an almost hermit like state, making it easier to fool ourselves with our own confirmation bias as our environmental experiences are extremely limited. Our parents were the last generation to (on average) have a truly human experience where everybody learned how to act because they actually interacted with each other rather than constantly having tone, inflection, etc filtered through text and literal filters i.e. snapchat. I know mental health is a touchy field in which we can't be 100% certain about a lot, but I feel this simple shift in interaction provided a large environmental element that greatly influenced the way people develop mentally. Perhaps a lot of people that are "on the spectrum" just never had enough physical interaction growing up and are now facing an uphill battle trying to fit in to a society where fewer and fewer people know how to "fit in."
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Every opinion is a strong opinion. There is very little room for nuance. Everything is extreme one way or another. Black or white. Nothing is just okay or neutral. You either love a song or hate it. You're either a staunch conservative or bleeding heart liberal. Middle ground has eroded almost completely.
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The lack of efforts. When something is too hard, it is easier to just quit.
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The victim olympics.
Everyone is constantly looking for a way to be offended, and claim _"society" or _"the system" is the reason for their problems and not themselves.
Sure you may have been dealt a crappy hand, and you may have to work harder than others, but life isn't fair. You have two choices, resign yourself to your status, or try to improve it.
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Increasing overall nihillism.
Suicide rates increasing. Degenated materialistc views and goals. Brainless consumption.
Aggressive capitalism. The only two remaining true emotion in most of the people are fear and greed. Just like on the Streets.
WW2 was 70 years ago. Longest time in the world where there were no MAJOR conflicts between the biggest countries.
Most of the respected things our parents practiced basically became useless.
Everybody starts to care less about the people around them.
People Break Down The Biggest Mistake They've Ever Made Because They Were Horny
Being horny can lead to some questionable decision-making.
Something happens to the brain when blood is flowing to other regions of the body.
They should discuss this in health class.
It's perfectly normal, but we have to learn how to deal.
Redditor Sir_Baconstrips wanted to see who was willing to discuss actions made while randy, so they asked:
"What's the biggest mistake you've made because you were horny?"
I can't tell you mine, because my mom might read this. But Reddit was more than happy to share.
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"I browsed porn and then I asked my mom how to delete the history."
What was that?
"Probably my most embarrassing moment. Was on my work computer (family business so nothing locked) and it was a super slow day and I was alone. Anyways was doing a classic 3 min facebook check and scrolled down for a second and saw the news post about Adriana Chechik injuring her back in a foam pool. Figured top comments on that would be golden. Read one funny one that said 'her and her scene with [performer I can’t remember] is still goat.'"
"Never heard of said performer so I got curious and google her. Of course photos never do justice, had to see the performance ya know? So I clicked a random video, quick glance and thought 'meh' and was about to close the tab before I noticed my mouse twitch on the screen… What was that? No.. that wasn’t mouse error, that was someone… then within seconds I realized the accountant who taps in remotely to finish work came in at that exact moment that I had a browser open for less than 60 sec."
"The worst wart was I could have sworn I had all those remote services off, but she tried to tap in for over an hour and must of did something to wake splashtop (probably had it on some type of standby mode). She even called earlier but I saw a random number and was speaking with a client and ignored it."
"Anyways, decision time, do I call her and play it off as nothing or apologize? Naturally as a fearful 28 year old I play off as nothing. I call, no answer… then a few minutes later i get the call back and her words after exchanging 'hellos … are you finished with whatever you were doing…' still burns me."
"Let my (ex) boyfriend dry-hump me for an hour on a bench outside after summer school."
"The bad news: this bench behind our school was also beside a swimming pool. Where parents were taking their children for swim lessons. Eventually a staff member came out and yelled at us for being inappropriate."
"I still have shame flashbacks today, over 10 years later."
"I had a one night stand with a guy who was, in retrospect, seriously self-conscious about his penis size and kept going on about how if it was on the small size it was just because he has to have sex with it a few times and it would gradually get bigger until it was it’s 'true' size. I really didn’t care."
"But then to make himself feel better he turned it around and started talking about how big and wide my vagina was but kept reassuring me that it was ok because he liked the challenge. I wish I had snapped my legs shut and given him the boot right then and there."
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"Lost my entire tax refund and got my phone stolen at a strip club in San Diego."
Always check your pockets on the way out.
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"Hooked up with a girl at a party. Just kind of bored, drunk, and horny. Having to go to the doctor for a case of pubic lice was my reward for poor self-control."
"I got my first serious gf in high school. She was two grades below me. So when I finished third year and moved 500 km south we was still a couple. I was so in love (and most of all horny) I commuted every. Single. Weekend. And I was poor. So I took the bus to the nearest station after school. Waited for the long distance bus for 4-5 hours."
"Went to a larger city to hitchhike my way there. I was there Friday night or Saturday morning. Locked ourselves in her bedroom and went at it until Sunday morning. I made my way down to school again and went to class straight from the bus Monday morning. This went on for almost a year…"
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"Was trying to get with a girl in college. We were texting and I asked her what she was up to, she said she was training for a marathon and going to the gym and asked if I wanted to come."
"I ended up running 9 miles before I tagged out. So now I know how far I'd go to have sex it's up to 9 miles."
Lord the things people will do when slightly turned on.
People Who Accidentally Sent A Family Member A Nude Picture Describe The Aftermath
Why in this day and age are people still taking nudie pics without triple-checking the recipient?
Why take the gamble?
And half of the time we hit send, mistakes get made.
One minute you're feeling sexy, the next minute grandpa is having a stroke.
Redditor Im_A_Freakin_Joke wanted to hear about the times people have sent photos to the family that left everyone SHOOK, so they asked:
"Redditors who accidental sent a family member a nude, what was the aftermath?"
I have done many things, but I never allow a snapshot.
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"'You should clean your room before you take that.'"
"I meant to send it to someone on WhatsApp that I was dating at the time and didn’t realize I accidentally sent it to my brother, their names were next to each other in my chat list and I chose the wrong one. I frantically called my sister in law and told her what happened and begged her to go into his phone and delete the message with the photo."
"This is before WhatsApp added the functionality to delete your own messages. She was so sweet and understanding and deleted the message. I was so embarrassed. To this day she has kept my secret, this happened five years ago."
"For context, my mom had some life-threatening medical issues when I was a kid, so there were a few month+ long periods where we rarely saw her. One night, I got a text from her that says 'send me a pic of u in bed."
"I thought she wanted a picture of me and my dog snuggling, as he slept with me and was the cutest sleeper. I usually sent her one every few days, even when she was home. It also doubled as her way to make sure I was following my bedtime."
"I was taking the picture, and I get a follow-up 'ignore that' text. At the same time, my dad opens my door so hard the hinges break. He says 'you get a text from mama?' I say yeah, and he says, 'it wasn't meant for you.' And leaves. I felt weird about it for days, even though it was years before I figured it out."
Leave it there...
"I happened to live across the street at the time and a dirty message meant for my now wife was sent to my mother! Luckily for me my mom is notorious for ignoring her phone so I sprinted across the street and said 'hey where is your phone' she told me it was on her desk so I calmly walked over unlocked it and deleted the message. In response to the look of confusion I told her 'deleted a message that was meant for now wife...' And left it at that."
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"One time my dad accidentally texted me 'sex if the Patriots win' and I still don’t believe I have recovered."
Mom and dad have their own lives.
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"I didn't accidentally send a nude, but my phone did auto upload ALL my pictures when I connected it to my mom's computer. I'm no longer allowed to connect hardware to my mom's computer."
"I gave my sister my old Iphone (I’m 25, she’s 22). She didn’t realize that her photos were uploading to my cloud and when I went to send a photo to a coworker, at work mind you, I see her pasty a**. I immediately text her and was like STOP TAKING PHOTOS. She called me and asked if I was okay and I told her what was happening. She responded with 'My a** look good though,' and I died laughing. Love my sis, but Christ."
"I didn’t sent a nude. I was in the shower, about age 15, and I heard the phone ring. My best friend had a habit of calling while I was showering. So, I bolted out naked as the day I was born to grab the phone before she hung up. I didn’t realize pretty much my entire dad’s side of the family was visiting my terminally ill mother."
"They saw it all. My aunt jokingly said, 'Well, dang, I didn’t know there was gonna be a show.' And someone said, 'we were just joking when we said you’d grow up to be a stripper.' I had to do a walk of shame back to the bathroom as well."
"It was laughed off and it hasn’t been brought up since."
Let me see...
"Sent a pic of my boobs to my mom. Managed to convince her I was trying to take a pic of what I thought was a lump but ended up dropping my phone and sent it while fumbling. Which has happened before. But then she made me show her where I thought the lump was so that was very awkward."
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"I once sent a pic to a GF in college when we were home for break… only I searched her contact by last name and accidentally sent it to her mom!"
"Thankfully it was late and she was able to sneak into her parents’ room and delete it before they saw."
What have we learned?
At the very least, triple-check who you are sending it to one whichever app you use for that sort of thing.
People Share The Things They Learned Embarrassingly Late In Life
There is so much to learn in the world, it's impossible for one person to know absolutely everything there is to know.
But there are certain things, like common phrases and idioms, that everyone seems to use that might be a little embarrassing to not understand until later in life.
Redditor Curious-2577 asked:
"What's something you learned 'embarrassingly late' in life?"
"My sister was in her fifties when she found out the meaning of, 'You have an addictive personality.'"
"She thought after all these years of therapy that it meant that people were addicted to her personality."
"We laughed hysterically when we talked about this (in a very sad way)."
"I thought that horses had toes until I was 22. I thought the hoof was a 'horseshoe' and the toes were tucked inside."
"How did I learn how wrong I was, you ask?"
"I was walking past a cavalry museum and saw a horse statue and loudly remarked, 'It must hurt so bad when they fold a horse’s toes to put them into the shoe!'"
"Dozens of horse enthusiasts turned and looked at me with wild bewilderment in their eyes."
"The saying is, in fact, 'Nip it in the bud' and not 'Nip it in the butt.'"
"A few months ago, two of my colleagues both handed in their notice at around the same time."
"I kept reading/hearing the sentence, 'They’re both moving on to pastures new’ being thrown about the office in the weeks leading up to them leaving, and I hadn’t heard this phrase before and thought that was the name of the rival company that they were going to, like, 'Pastures New.'"
"I thought it was weird that nobody was talking about how they were both leaving for the same company."
"I was in the car with one of the two people who were leaving and said, 'So where is it that you and X are going to be working? Is it...’"
"And just before I could embarrass myself and say ‘Pastures New,' they interrupted me and said they’re not going to the same place and asked me where I had heard that."
"I think at that moment, I realized I was stupid and didn’t mention it again."
"I think I was in college when I realized that Mario and Luigi are plumbers. I thought they just went and up down these tubes just because that was the theme of the game."
"That Bonsai are not a species of tree, but a way to grow them. Any tree can be a bonsai."
Houston, We Have a Problem
"Houston is not the name of the guy astronauts talk to."
"I learned that pork and beans are not called 'cowboy beans.' I was 18 and asked a grocery store clerk to help me find the 'cowboy beans.'"
"We were looking everywhere and I was getting frustrated because I know that every store carries these beans. After a while, I picked up a pork and beans can with a picture and said, 'See, they look just like this!'"
"He said, 'You mean pork and beans?'"
"Then I realized that my mom called them that so that I would eat them."
"The look of disappointment from that grocery store clerk haunts me to this day."
"Let me tell you about how I thought you were awarded a 'Pullet Surprise.'"
Rum and Coke
"Not too late in life, but I thought my parents were making 'Roman Cokes' until I went to college."
"Which, I think is a much better name for the drink (Rum and Coke) anyway."
Oh No, Not Acoma!
"That a coma was 'A' coma. Until I was probably 19 or so, I thought it was 'acoma.'"
"I thought you fell into acoma."
It Must Have Been a One-Way Trip
"My parents were divorced the whole time and my mom was not, in fact, taking a vacation, lmao (laughing my a** off)."
"I live near the Hospital for Joint Diseases… when I was a kid, I thought was a special hospital for people who had two or more different diseases at the same time."
"Moving cross-country, driving east to west, and crossing from Idaho to Oregon, I noticed huge fields with signs for the Ore-Ida Potato company."
"So I was in my early 20s when I figured out Ore-Ida wasn’t just a brand name but was because their potatoes came from Oregon and Idaho."
"When I was really young, my sister told me she threw her guts up. So I was really afraid of vomiting my entire insides up for years."
Some of these really had us laughing as we realized the revelations some of these Redditors were having.
But when we're really honest with ourselves, we probably didn't figure out some of these until later, too.
People Break Down The Absolute Worst Parts About Having A Child
While starting a family and having children is a goal that many people have, some do not realize that it's not easy, fun, and loving one-hundred percent of the time. Rather, it's expensive, exhausting, and hard, though it might be worth it in the end.
With this in mind, people shared what they felt were the hardest hurdles of their parenting.
Redditor ApprehensiveShock655 asked:
"What's the worst part of having a child?"
Fear of Not Doing Enough
"The constant anxiety that you’re doing enough to shape them to make good choices, a good life, be a good person and for them to have the life they deserve."
Like the Energizer Bunny
"It's incessant. It never stops. You never get a day off."
"Going from having two days per week to relax and do whatever to literally never having a moment free from responsibility."
No Break In Sight
"I’ve always wanted kids and still do, but this is the only thing that has come close to giving me pause."
"Both my siblings have young kids and I cannot get over how CONSTANT it is."
"From the second the kids wake up to when they finally shut their eyes, it’s non-stop. Then they get maybe an hour or two to themselves, which is mostly spent tidying up, etc., before the nighttime stuff starts with the baby crying, the toddler coming into bed, nightmares, etc."
"It requires years of not getting a full night's rest. You can never just go out whenever you want. No sleeping in, even on weekends because someone has to be up with them at 6 AM."
"Raising human children is an insane task."
Mom's Body After Baby and Dad Bods
"The weight gain is the worst! During the pregnancy, I gained 35 pounds. My belly has stretch marks. My boobs are all saggy."
"And it’s not even fair because my wife only gained like 15."
The Meal Planning
"Coming up with three meals to eat per day EVERY DAY stresses me out so bad."
"This sounds like such a small thing, but it really wears on you over time. You can’t just make something for yourself or something you and your spouse feel like eating: You have to constantly be thinking about if the kid is hungry and what they might be willing to eat."
Keeping Them Safe
"When people ask me this I say, 'do you know those video games where you have to escort a character to a destination without them being attacked?' That's parenting. Those missions are a pain in the a**."
Seriously, Keep Them Safe
"Having to deal with their total lack of self-preservation. They are creative and come up with all kinds of ways to try and kill themselves. Keeping ahead of the game is exhausting."
"They’re just always there. On you, behind you, in front of you, just a little speed bump impeding every task."
Letting Them Live Their Life Their Way
"Having a kid is like having a little piece of your heart running around in the world. When they're sick or get disappointed or just feel sad, it's worse than having it happen to you."
"Yet at the same time, you need to let your kids work through those things to learn to handle them. If you give into the worry and try to shield them from everything, you risk creating harmful co-dependence."
"So it's a constant struggle. But worth it!"
What Is "Sleep" Again?
"I'm only nine years in, but so far, it's been the sleep deprivation. Hands down."
And What Are These "Sick Days" You Speak Of?
"Having to take care of a sick child when you are also sick. For me that has been the most challenging part so far."
Another Full-Time Job
"It's like taking a second job that lasts 18+ years with a 24/7 schedule with no holidays or sick days."
"…And no second paycheck. It's actually like YOU are paying your second salary instead of getting one."
"The loss of freedom. I can't just... go somewhere. Even with older kids, there's so much planning and thinking and getting ready."
"I miss being able to just decide to go somewhere, and go there."
The Time Flies
"The best advice I got was from an ancient hospital security guard in an elevator. 'The days are long, the years are short, cherish them while you can.'"
"The phrase I hate is, 'You don't know it, but one day you pick your kid up for the last time.'"
There are all kinds of troubles that come from being a parent, many of which people don't necessarily think about until they already have a baby in the house.
But reassuringly, many people in the subReddit pointed out that no matter how hard some of these hurdles are to get over, it's still worth it in the end, and it goes by far too fast.