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Your wedding registry is your chance to dream a little about what you'd like to have. You can put anything on it, practical or not. But some newlyweds regret what they asked for after it collects dust for years. And others lament what could have been had they only known what to ask for.
So Reddit user crazygoatlady3 asked "Married people of Reddit - what should you ask for on your wedding registry that you didn't think of at the time?"
Some smart folks shared things they did ask for and never regretted, while others shared their tales of woe. Here's the best advice of the bunch.
Wish Fulfillment[rebelmouse-image 18352443 is_animated_gif=
What you do with your registry: get the stuff you really wanted, but never truly buy for yourself.
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Not married yet, but getting married this weekend! But my fiance and I wish we put more honeymoon-specific things on our registry. Someone just paid for us to go on a sunset cruise next week and it was such a great idea that we wished we had thought of doing more things like that.
See if you can buy tickets to an event or vouchers for something at your honeymoon in advance!
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The biggest mistake would be registering at a traditional store like Bed, Bath, and Beyond.. Do yourselves a favor and register on Amazon. This way, you're only limited by your imagination, and you get far more selection this way. It's also way easier for people to have the items shipped to their house instead of potentially going to a store.
It was one of the smartest moves we made before our wedding, and we scored a bunch of camping gear, my wife got some fancy shoes, I got a nice fishing pole, and we still got the traditional kitchen junk.
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When it comes to dinnerware - stuff you can replace consistently and easily, stuff that always has been and always will be available. Because you end up with a mishmash of incomplete sets after a few years.
Corelle plates, normal plain glass tumblers, that kind of thing. That stuff that you really like the cool design of it? Yeah, pieces break and you'll never find that set again.
So I'm saying all across the board, put normal classic stuff on your list that's always been around and always will be around.
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If someone tells you to register at a traditional store (lookin' at you ma) because "older relatives and friends might want to go to a store", ignore them and register where you want. The older folks are more technologically savvy than either of you realize.
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My husband and I asked for two nice royal blue Fiestaware dinner bowls. The color makes your food really pop. We only eat out of them if it's just the two of us. They are our marriage bowls and make us feel happy to share a meal out of them.
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My cousin's registry, her family is big into cruises and her honeymoon was like a three week cruise and the registry was contributing for all the excursions.
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Tools. A good saw, socket set, drill, anything really... would sure have come in handier than all these damn cake pans. WE'RE NEVER BAKING A MULTI TIERED CAKE WHY DO WE HAVE THESE!
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My husband couldn't believe I wanted to register for a really nice kitchen garbage bin. It cost almost $200. It definitely wasn't something I'd go out of my way to spend that money on on my own, but it's something I always wanted. He made fun of me forever for how excited I got when someone bought it for us. Five years later we use it every single day, and our kitchen doesn't smell no matter what goes in there. Best gift ever!
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My husband had this great idea that we would put an automatic soap dispenser on our registry, but instead of filling it with soap we'd fill it with lube. That way it would be on our nightstand at all times but still look discreet and you wouldn't have to go digging around in a drawer when you needed some.
Well someone bought it for us and when we finally went to use it the whole setup worked wonderfully. We both thought we were super cool and afterwards went to bed. The next morning the nightstand was covered in lube! I guess it's too slippery and was able to slide out. Not only did we end up loosing out on a lot of expensive lube, but my husband's cell phone was on the nightstand charging and it died covered in lube.
So I guess that's the opposite of your question. Something we asked for that we wished we hadn't.
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My husband and I had already been living together for 6 months and we blended two House holds of stuff. We asked for Lowe's and Home Depot gift cards. Best gifts ever. New sinks and bathroom tile is what we got with those.
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Cleaning stuff. Bedding. Towels. Rugs. Curtains. Light bulbs. All the little things really really add up.
KitchenAid Mixer. These things last forever. You will at some point go into crazed like baking spell for a month or so.
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Sheets, so very many sheets. Stack them up in a closet. Break out a fresh new set when needed.
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Towels. You can never have too many.
And a good vacuum. I cannot stress this enough
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A good kitchen knife.
As someone who loves cooking, I cannot stress this enough. A good knife is arguably the most important kitchen item to own. I would also add on a sharpening stone (5 min on youtube will teach someone how to properly sharpen) and a honing steel to keep the sharp edge. A sharp knife is not only extremely helpful but it's also a hell of a lot safer compared to a dull one (clean cuts versus tearing cuts work on other meats outside of chicken and beef if you know what I mean).
I'd recommend Wustoff as a solid brand. I've had my set of three knives (chef's knife, 4" boning knife, 3" paring knife) for over 5 years now and they're sharp enough to conduct surgery with. Take care of your knives and they'll be something you keep with you for a long long time.
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Quality over quantity... register for the high end stuff. Instead of some lower end 16-piece pot/pan set, 2-3 great All-Clad or Le Cruset ones.
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We got flooded with rubber spatulas, cutting boards, crock pots, muffin tins, two full sets of whisks (3 whisks per set), etc.
Let's be honest, you only really need a few rubber spatulas, like 2 cutting boards, one crock pot, and one muffin pan.
We got a salad spinner that we've never used in the history of ever.
Focus on the other rooms too! Blankets, sheets, duvet covers, vacuums, etc.
One thing I wish we had received was like double the amount of plates and bowls. Only one person gifted us one set of 4 each (big plate, small plate, bowl), and I want at least double that. If not more.
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My husband registered for 5 lbs of peanuts on Amazon for our wedding. I thought it was silly and was convinced no one would buy it.
Sure enough, one of his friends bought that body bag of nuts for him. Husband proceeded to carry it from room to room like an infant he was slowly cannibalizing, munching on these peanuts for months.
I should have registered for a broom and a dust pan. I was sweeping that up forever.
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Don't ask for too many kitchen items. You'll end up storing them and rarely using them.
Think smarter: Towels, sheets, etc. Things you KNOW you will need.
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We asked for and received a set of stainless steel bowls for the kitchen. Used for everything and outlasted most of the other kitchen stuff we received.
My late paternal grandmother gave me a set of stainless steel mixing bowls for Christmas in 1979. I was a senior in college, and they were intended to outfit my first real apartment. Almost 40 years later, I am a grandfather, and my wife and I still use those bowls.
You know what would be great?
If society could just stop with arbitrary dress codes. If you're not working with the public, why should you have to dress up so much? If you're a police officer, then it makes sense that you'd wear a uniform that identifies you as a police officer. If you're Ted from IT who sits in the backroom all day, I really don't see why you have to come in every day in a suit and tie.
Let's just toss them out, shall we?
People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor Levels2ThisBrush asked the online community,
"What should be socially acceptable but isn't?"
"Leaving the office..."
"Leaving the office whenever you've finished your tasks for the day."
This is why I'm so glad remote work is the new office.
"And yet, I get it!"
"Taking off sick from work, WITHOUT giving an invasive reason. I supervise a small team and so I see all the OOO emails, and for gods sake I want people to PLEASE not feel the need to explain in detail what kind of diarrhea is afflicting them, or how bad their period cramps are, or how much bad sushi they ate the night before. Just say “I’m under the weather, I won’t be online today.”"
"And yet, I get it! I do it too! I feel guilty or like I’ll be looked at with suspicion if my reason for taking off isn’t sufficiently debilitating enough!"
"But… we need to stop this. As a manager I don’t care, I don’t THINK the people above me who are also on these emails care… let’s just all agree to take sick days without any details from now on!"
I do not miss my retail days where I had to organise someone to cover me and beg on bended knee.
"Cashiers or workers who don’t need to be standing all day not having a stool or chair."
Another thing I do not miss from my retail days. Having to stand for hours and hours only to come home with my feet killing me was not fun.
"Prices on apartments..."
"Prices on apartments and their respectable reasons for such price directly on their websites or advertising without the need for a tour or any secrecy."
I always assume if I have to ask the price I probably can’t afford it.
"Being quiet/not wanting to engage in conversation all the time."
In Finland, if somebody tries to talk to you, they are probably a tourist.
"Choosing not to..."
"Choosing not to have toxic family members in your life."
It feels very liberating once you accept that you don't have to put up with it.
"Employees calling customers out in public for being a**holes."
Absolutely. Many customers get away with treating employees horribly because they know they can do it without any pushback... most of the time.
"The fact that I sometimes..."
"The fact that I sometimes need to take my insulin in public. No, Karen, I am not doing drugs, I need to live."
You’re getting that sweet sweet insulin high… the high of being not-dead.
"Afternoon naps. I’m on team nap. Give me 25 minutes to charge up and I’ll give you back 3 hours of high quality work. Everyone wins. Plus I go home with extra energy instead of dead tired."
Short naps don't work for me. I can't do a 25 min recharge. When I take a nap it needs to be like a solid 2 hours
"Salary transparency. For some reason, in the US, there’s a taboo or stigma around discussing one’s salary. This should be done openly and freely, with zero embarrassment or judgment. The only winners from avoiding these conversations are the corporations that are able to pay people differently for the same roles. Speak up!"
The "for some reason" you're referring to is simply propaganda on behalf of corporations.
It's evident that something's got to change around here, and we're mad as hell and we're not going to take it anymore!
Have some observations of your own? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!
As much as many of us don't like to disrupt the status quo, there is only so much time a person can tolerate a miserable situation before things become so unbearable that they ultimately have to peace out.
For some people, it takes a while for them to reach a breaking point. Eventually, there comes a time when they realize their self-worth is more important than continuing to please others who don't appreciate them for the sake of keeping up with appearances.
Curious to hear from people whose patience ran thin and made a strong decision, Reddit Prestigious-Order-62 asked:
"What made you say 'f'k this sh*t im out?'"
The unwarranted reprimanding was something that was never mentioned in the initial job description.
"In the late 90’s."
"One time I got pulled into the Security office at a Department store I worked at. They accused me of constantly using the sales day coupons for people that didn’t present one (we always kept an extra copy at each register). I had watched my own department boss do it many times so I assumed it was okay. We didn’t even collect the coupons to be counted for the cash office, we just chucked them after use."
"They claimed I lost the store hundreds of dollars and had been watching me 'for months' do this awful, unforgivable crime for people spending 90 bucks on already bloated price designer jeans. I’m sure the occasional 10% discount was just devastating. 🙄""I got this huge lecture of how I was LITERALLY stealing from the store and they COULD call the police but would give me a chance to work off the damage. I couldn’t believe how criminal I was made to feel over it. The best part when they called my boss in who pretended to have never done it before to save her own a**."
"I asked if they were firing me. They said 'Yes and No. You will be let go, but you can choose to work off the damages so we don’t take you to court.' I told them I will just quit and asked for my last check. They said they will deduct what I owe from my last check. And I said 'Well then you need to show me all the footage and prove that I was stealing.' They wouldn’t produce footage, finally called the cops, and when the cops arrived, they were just as confused and called it an internal problem and advised them that this was overblown. I think they felt sorry for me. So finally upper management came in and just said 'just issue the last check, I will sign it here.' So much drama over so stupid a thing."
"It was sad because that actual day my Mom and daughter had come to the mall to meet me for lunch and I had to explain I just was forced to quit that job and was never allowed in that store again like I was some awful jerk."
"It was nice a few short years later, the entire chain bankrupted."
"A coworker waited until we were in front of a large group of people to start 'disciplining' me for something 'wrong' I did (I took my lunch 15 mins late to help another coworker) when she wasn’t even my supervisor. Applied for a job transfer the next day and couldn’t be happier where I am now."
"I had a piece of sh*t of a boss. He'd praise you in private but berate you in public. In front of coworkers and customers. Always about stuff that didn't matter."
"He'd also happily break company policy to side with customers after you spent an hour telling a customer you can't give them stuff for free, for example. Any time he was around, everything was miserable."
"My only regret is that I wasn't there to see him marched out by corporate when he got fired, because I had gone on to a better job by then."
Human Punching Bag
"I used to work in a Kitchen at a pub, it was grim work, but I had freinds there and had worked there for 3 years, So it wasn't too bad."
"One Christmas season we were being absolutely pumped, full out functions and busy services. My boss at the time was very stressed and fair enough, We were busy, We were all working overtime and full out. He used any excuse to completely blow up and absolutely scream at me for little to no reason, essentially him yelling at me was his stress relief. But fine, whatever, kitchens are rough places, no appolagies or anything, move on."
"I then go away for 3 weeks over the Christmas holidays and spend the time road tripping around the country having an amazing time."
"First shift back, not pleased being back, he makes a snarky comment."
"F'k this, Im out."
Even though these employees weren't chewed out in front of co-workers, the low salary without room for negotiation made them not wanting to stick around for much longer.
You Only Get One Job
"They cut my hours so I had to get a second job. 3 days before I was supposed to start said second job, my manager at the main job told me that I couldn't get this second job because I had main job first and I needed to make it my priority. That's when I said f'k you and left. I didn't even give a notice, I literally just sent an email saying I wouldn't be coming in the next day, grabbed my sh*t and went home."
"I used to work Retail and after 7 years at the company, I found out I was only making 50 cents more an hour than someone who just started yesterday. I understood if they couldn't pay me more and asked for a good schedule. 7-3 or 8-4 every day and the same two days off every week. I didn't even ask for weekends off."
"I was told that they couldn't give me a good schedule so I quit."
Situations weren't much different outside the work place. Social dilemmas prompted these Redditors to say, "nope."
"Went to a pub because a friend kept asking. When I got there, he was with a group of people I didn't know, so I introduced myself and got the next round. As I come back with the tray, I hear them saying something along the lines of 'why is that b*tch still here? I thought she was just supposed to drop off a bicycle?' 'Ya, we don't want her to come to <this other town with more pubs> and now she is drinking with us?' 'She's so dumb' *proceeds to imitate and ridicule me as I was actively listening and nodding when I was having a conversation with my friend."
"Gave the beer to random people and walked right out after saying good evening to my friend and briefly explaining I did not appreciate being tricked into being a bicycle taxi for people who hate me directly after meeting me."
A Shocking Incident
"I was on my boat fishing for bass. I casted out my line and watched the lure hit the water but the line just floated in the air. Lightning and thunder crashed and the line fell to the water. F'k this sh*t, I'm out."
"She lined my bed with broken glass put the blankets over it and I dove on in lol."
"Edit: She was violent/crazy and on drugs, was like the 20th attack I took and that made me really think lol."– MyLifeForAuir1
Ally For The Ex
"I found nudes of his ex (from ten years ago) that I’d previously asked him twice to get rid of tucked in a pair of MY socks. Our couples counselor asked why he’d kept them and he said, 'You know. In case I ever needed to blackmail her.' He said it like it was a perfectly normal and reasonable thing to plan to do. The therapist and I locked eyes and I noped the f'k out of there and moved out."
Most of these Redditors realized leaving their situation was better than dealing with the consequences of sticking around.
The latter is never a good option. Why remain in a scenario you know is already going to consume your soul?
The lesson for today is–Don't be miserable. Your sanity is worth saving.Besides, you would never know that something better awaits if you just don't get the F out.
As we enter into the summer months, people now have to decide whether or not they want their morning coffee to be hot or iced.
Lucky for them, it's delicious either way.
One could make an argument that foods that are equally delicious hot or cold are perhaps the best, or at least the most reliable.
And this can include foods which are not customarily sold both hot and cold (cold pizza anyone?).
Redditor NectarineOther4989 was curious to hear which foods people enjoy either hot or cold, leading them to ask:
"What is something that tastes good both hot and cold?"
Fresh out of the oven, or the next day!
Chocolate withstands all temperatrues
"Chocolate."Chocolate Satisfying GIF by HuffPostGiphy
Can't go wrong with fruit and pastry
"Apple pie."- Hak_Saw5000
This doesn't only apply to food
"Revenge."- pushthestartbuttonkarine vanasse revenge GIF by HULUGiphy
Let the flavor develop
"2 totally different flavors depending on warm vs cold from fridge."- nonkowledge
So many to choose from!
A matter of textural preference
"Cheese, ya fools."- eat_dontpray_loveCloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs Eating GIFGiphy
Under a hot greek sun, or during a cold winter's eve.
While there's no better smell than a batch of chocolate chip cookies fresh out of the oven, those eating them the next day likely aren't missing out either.
Those who are truly superstitious have trouble shaking off customs which others might find somewhat silly.
These include holding your breath when passing a cemetery, throwing salt over your shoulder after spilling it, or not stepping on cracks for fear of breaking their mother's backs.
But even though it has been irrefutably proven that there is absolutely no validity to these superstitions, these same people will likely never stop performing these customs.
Nor will some others ever stop believing myths and hoaxes which have likewise proven to be one-hundred percent false.
Redditor Jimbo_Jigs was curious to learn the things people will never stop believing, despite ample evidence to the contrary, leading them to ask:
"What is proven to be a hoax but people still believe it to be true?"
"That cracking your knuckles gives you arthritis."- SnooCompliments9257
Though, it's still wise to avoid doing this...
"If you pull out a grey hair three more grow in its place, my sister still believes this one."- oopySpaff
Something to seriously think about.
"We only use 10% or our brain."- wiggywithitbrain GIFGiphy
Though they might still not be please you'r touching their child!
"Touching a baby bird will make its parents reject it."
"Any baby animal."
"When in doubt, reach out to your local wildlife rehabilitation network/individual."- JustMeerkats
I can sleep with my mouth open? Who knew!
"That you swallow 8 spiders a year in your sleep."- rentinghappiness
Never pay others to be an entrepreneur.
"MLMs, Boss babes, 'be your own boss' scams."
"I'm not sure how many documentaries need to be put on YouTube before people will stop buying into these companies and wasting their money."- ImAGhostOooooooo
It's literally quite the opposite
"Shaving making hair grow in thicker."- offbrandbarbie
Though a balanced diet doesn't hurt...
"The food pyramid."- sd2528
Best to stay out of the mouths of others regardless
"That dogs mouths are cleaner than humans!"- Mental_Investigator3Giphy
Just makes you more visible.
"It’s illegal to keep the light on in the car while driving."- rerhodes770
It seems that there is no amount of convincing that will ever lead these people to realize that they've been duped.
And one can't help but wonder what people do with the false information that a dog's mouth is cleaner than a humans?