The Biggest Culture Shocks People Have Experienced At Someone's House
Reddit user mango-chocolate asked: 'What is the biggest cultural shock you experienced when going to someone else's house?'
No two family homes are exactly alike, but some households are wildly different, from how they're decorated to what the family eats to how the family members treat each other.
What's interesting is how two people could be best friends and lead completely different lifestyles when they go home, but their friend might never know that until they go for a visit.
Redditor mango-chocolate asked:
"What is the biggest cultural shock you experienced when going to someone else's house?"
Bad Hostesses
"This is the strangest experience I’ve ever had at someone’s home. I worked with this young Cuban gal as a waitress while I was studying at University."
"She mentioned that her sister needed some help with Math in her Nursing program so I offered to go over and tutor."
"I knew it was a multi-generational house with parents, adult children, grandparents, great-grandparents and babies. When I arrived at the house, only the sister was home."
"She invited me in and started unloading the refrigerator of leftovers and asked if I would like to have some of this, some of that, etc."
"I was genuinely not hungry but she was super persistent and made us some food anyway. She offered me a drink, but I just wanted water. She made herself a Cuban coffee and insisted I have one too."
"Then my friend comes home, and looks at us studying. In front of me, I have snacks, water, and a coffee."
"She begins screaming at her sister in Spanish. I can barely make it out, but she’s mad that her sister didn’t offer me anything to drink or eat. I explained I wasn’t hungry and I had two drinks in front of me, but she was still mad at her sister."
"Their parents came home and they started yelling about the same thing and accusing their daughters of being bad hostesses! I felt bad, and I somehow allowed five drinks to served to me and so much food, I was stuffed for the rest of the day."
"The whole experience was a weird combination of feeling guilty or like I may have insulted them, but also feeling loved and appreciated."
"When my friend introduced me to her family, she introduced me as the woman that would carry all her trays at work while she was pregnant so she didn’t have to lift them. I can’t believe she had even remembered that. I hadn’t until she brought it up. They made me like an honored guest in their home."
- mydogdoesntcuddle
"I’m Cuban. Not offering food or drink to your guest is extremely rude and shameful. And we mean FOOD AND DRINK. Not little finger sandwiches and tea. This even extends to a maintenance person that comes by, or a mail carrier, etc. it’s like grandma culture on steroids."
"Additionally, our intrapersonal communication style is extremely loud and can seem aggressive to others, so they might not have actually been yelling at each other."
"My stepfather is a white American from NYC, and when he saw the way my mother and I spoke to each other when we first started living together he’d constantly be worried asking why we were fighting; we’d have to explain we weren’t fighting, just casually talking."
- Asleep_Sherbet_3013
A Lack of Reading Material
"I hung out with my college roommates' family around Christmas. There were NO books in the house, none. This was early aughts."
"She told me her parents didn't want challenging books in their house to make the kids feel stupid."
"Her parents were professors at our college in the EDUCATION department."
"She (my roommate) and her siblings were f**king stupid."
- angel_inthe_fire
"I have always had a ton of books in almost every room growing up. It came as a shock going to someone's home and NOT seeing a book anywhere."
- GeekyBookWorm87
Loving Families
"When I was a teen, I was genuinely shocked to see that other families actually loved each other and wanted to interact and say nice things to each other."
"I kept expecting it to turn dark, and when it didn’t, I had no idea what to do and felt completely ashamed and out of place."
- MTBeanerschnitzel
Far Too Strict
"As a kid, I visited some friends who had scary 'yes sir/no sir' fathers who were quick to use a belt on them."
"None of those guys turned out well as adults, I might add."
"The funny thing is, my dad was an Army platoon sergeant, yet he was a jovial and easy-going father."
- p38-lightning
Empty Plates Only
"My friend's parents would make them finish their meals, even if they said they were full."
"The meals looked huge to me, and my friend was overweight. It felt depressing."
"If I was full at home, I'd never be pressured to eat absolutely everything if I didn't want to."
- nightsofthesunkissed
An American Breakfast
"I'm a first-generation American (Asian). Due to TV cereal commercials while watching Saturday morning cartoons, I grew up believing that White people would simultaneously have a glass of milk and a glass of OJ in the morning (as part of this complete breakfast)."
"You can imagine my disappointment the day after sleepovers at friends' homes."
- cloudedarcher
"My mom (white) literally did this. I'm not sure if she got it from commercials or something else because she had a weird idea of nutrition on other stuff too, but literally every morning my breakfast included an eight-ounce glass of milk and a four-ounce glass of orange juice."
"The combination is actually terrible. OJ and milk don't mix well in your stomach and drinking them together always made me feel uncomfortable, but it was the kind of household where I got in trouble for not finishing the whole meal."
"A pretty common weekday morning breakfast was a bagel with cream cheese and jam on both halves, some sliced-up strawberries, milk, and OJ. It's way more food than I'd eat for breakfast on a typical day as an adult and I was often uncomfortably full from it as a kid."
- SeaworthySwarth
Not So Messy
"I was raised by two women (my mother and my dad's wife) whose notion of cleanliness was such that rooms were sterile and it looked to me like the point was to make it look like no one lived in our house."
"By contrast, I was used to being called and feeling like I was a 'messy' person because none of those things are priorities to me."
"The first time I went into the house of someone who was truly messy... I'm talking leftover candles from a birthday party that happened two weeks ago still on the dining-room table messy, basement so full of junk the notion of separate rooms has been made abstract... it rearranged the way I looked at myself a little."
- BananasPineapples05
The Importance of Snack Time
"I remember going to a friend’s house after school we sat at the kitchen island and her mom gave us apple wedges with peanut butter and they talked about school."
"I was blown away that her mom just gave out snacks and was interested in her life, I thought it was probably a special occasion since I was there."
"Then I experienced snacks at other friends’ houses."
"I told my mom about the apple wedges and peanut butter once and she screamed at me and said if I wanted a perfect family, why don’t I go live with them? She worked full time and I cooked pasta for my brother and me most nights, there was nothing resembling snacks in the house. We just had meals and drank water."
"As an adult, I have a snacking problem."
- yokizururu
...Excuse Me?
"Back in high school, I visited a friend's house and had to use the bathroom."
"I asked her where the toilet paper was in the bathroom and she said, 'We don't really wipe our butts in this house.'"
- Silent-Bird-4474
Always Say 'I Love You'
"People not saying 'I love you' before leaving or hanging up the phone. I was always taught to say 'I love you' to family before hanging up the phone or saying goodbye."
"You never know when your last goodbye will be so let the last thing you say to a loved one be 'I love you.'"
"A tradition I continue to practice to this day. Yet I think I was the only one who did that in my friend group."
- Herpypony
"My family never said I love you growing up. I asked my mom about it not long ago, and she said her dad never told her, so she didn't know to say it to her kids."
"One of my sisters started saying it, and making us say it, when we were in our 20s. It felt so awkward and weird to say it, but I forced myself. Now, 20 years later, we always say it to each other, and it feels normal. I should ask my sister about why and how she got the idea to start saying it to us."
"It seems so odd to me now that my parents never said I love you to me or my sisters growing up. They showed us, but never said it."
- Zaltara_The_Red
Run Away!
"When my friend's Russian grandmother chased me with a shoe and yelled at me in Russian."
"I didn’t know why she was angry but all my friend would say is that it had something to do with where I put my shoes when I entered the house."
- ArmyRepresentative88
An Awe-Inspiring Breakfast
"I went to the neighbor's house for breakfast one morning before the bus. We were good friends. She's Hindu, and her family is as well."
"It was a culture shock to see and smell the amazing food we had that morning. It wasn't the normal pancakes, eggs, and bacon for Americans."
"I think it was potato latkas with some delicious green spread. God, I wanted to eat all of it, and her mom was so happy I loved it."
"Never before in my life had I had such a different breakfast for me. It was shock and awe I experienced."
- Apprehensive-Skill34
Different Cultures, Different Accessories
"I’m an international student in the USA. I lived with my grand uncle for six months, and one of the cultural shocks that surprised me was that he had carpeted floors in his bathrooms. And also the lack of bidets in America."
- cassiemoonnana
A Kid's Dream
"I went to a friend's house at maybe age nine and was floored that she didn't share a bedroom with her little sister. On top of this, she also had a double bed and a small TV in her room hooked up to a PlayStation 2."
- LittleMsBlue
The Love of the Family
"I learned that other people's parents smiled at them, were nice to them, and seemed to enjoy having them around."
"I rarely experienced any of that. I thought everyone's parents were angry all the time and didn't like them much."
- t_portch
"I had a friend over recently and she thought it was necessary to tell our teenage son how lucky he was to have parents who love him (this was after a few beers)."
"I was kinda taken aback by the comment, given the realization that some parents don't dote on their kids, including my friend. Apparently some don't..."
- MainInTheMT
"Same. I had a best friend who was from Croatia. Her parents loved her and her brother so much, and they definitely weren’t afraid to show it."
"Her dad would hug her every night when he got home. It was absolutely shocking to me."
"I also would intentionally go to her house after school because her mom would have a FEAST waiting for us."
- NuriMoons
You never know what you're going to find before visiting someone else's home, from different decorations and food, to different beliefs about how a family should treat each other.
In a way, it's heartwarming to know that these Redditors were exposed to these different lifestyles, perhaps especially those who didn't know that families could show each other love, so they might have higher standards for their relationships in the future.
People Share The Biggest Unwritten Rules In Their Household
"A Redditor asked: 'What's an unwritten rule in your household?'"
There are rules in life where people are expected to just know how to operate without being told.
For instance, if someone falls down... help them.
When you like a sweater in a store... get money to buy it.
Just leaving with it won't go over well.
And there are more rules, or guidelines to adhere to...
Redditor christygl7 wanted to hear about what is expected in people's homes without words, so they asked:
"What's an unwritten rule in your household?"
If you have to pee... lift the seat cover.
The people in Port Authority always miss that one.
Routine
Cleaning Chores GIF by SpongeBob SquarePantsGiphy"Either my wife or I can do any chore when noticed. We thank each other for routine chores as we appreciate each other."
cwsjr2323
"That’s how my fiancée and I handle chores. Whoever’s around when the core needs to be done does the chore, typically. I find she does more regular cleaning of the whole apartment while I do more dishes and cooking."
radtech91
Trashed
"Replacing the trash bag IS PART OF taking out the trash."
UndiagnosedReptard
"Similar to this, in my house, the rule is if the toilet paper ended on your turn (or there’s barely enough for the next person) then it is your job to procure the next roll and put it in the bathroom. It is NOT acceptable to let it run out for the next person."
wavesnfreckles
"We have extra stored in every bathroom. I make sure of it. However, if it runs low/out on the roll, my wife will 100% of the time take the new roll and set it on top of the empty tube on the spindle, refusing to replace it. I actually called her over and shamed her into changing it in front of me the other night (not in an abusive way - we were both laughing about it)."
on_the_nightshift
Finder's Keepers
"If you find money in the laundry while you are doing the laundry, it's yours."
Rich1926
"Yep. My boyfriend learned that lesson the hard way when we first started living together. He had a bad habit of just crumpling up bills in a big wad in his pocket, usually just ones, but sometimes he accidentally leaves a twenty in there. I tipped myself the twenty. It took him a couple of days of trying to figure out where it went before I took pity on him and told him."
"He now both turns out his pockets and washes his own clothes. I still find the occasional single dollar in the dryer."
Head_Razzmatazz7174
Dropped something?
"If food is dropped on the floor it becomes the property of the dog. The dog knew this rule before we did."
Altruistic-Bit-9766
"That was one of the hardest things after our family dog died. Dropped something? Who cares! Riley will get it. But then he didn’t."
"Also, I don’t live at home anymore but coming home to him barking and crying out of excitement and greeting me always made my day and I looked forward to it every time I opened the door and could hear him wiggling in excitement on the side hahaha. It’s a little less exciting coming home now."
ohno807
Obligations...
Water Stay GIF by Kinda FunnyGiphy"If the water you take from the Brita pitcher leaves what’s left below a certain line, you are obligated to refill the pitcher on penalty of death."
halcyon3608
If you stay in my home and don't refill the Brita pitcher...
I'm setting your hair on fire at 3 AM!!!
Flushed
Go Away Pink GIF by HacklockGiphy"Check the toilet after you flush."
NANNYNEGLEY
"This. My brother-in-law never does this. It's annoying and disgusting! You don't want to clean up after yourself because you think it's gross? How do you think it makes me feel to clean up after you?"
purplestarsinthesky
WAKE UP!
"Wake someone up if their alarm goes off. It's a pretty weird one but setting up alarms is a conscious and deliberate decision for all of us and you want to wake up when it goes off, so we just help each other out."
DonMartiniMacaroni
"I'll do this a few times, but my roommate needs to learn not to hit snooze because he's taught his body that alarms don't need to be woken up to. I don't wake him up anymore. He started waking up to them."
stumblinbear
"I’ll wake them up because it annoys me when people snooze especially if I’m next to them in the bed and I don’t have to get up."
chill90ies
No Exceptions!
"Shoes off at the door. No exceptions."
Next-Dark-4975"
"Shoes-on people must not be using the same public bathrooms that I do. 100% of them have a lake of dirty urine in front of the urinal. They must also be amazing at finding two urine-free spots that are shoe-sized on the shores of said lake. It’s fine if they want to bring that into their homes. It’s not allowed in mine, though."
Bmadray
Table Manners
"No tech at the table."
"Even with a teenage daughter this has proved eerily easy; we all love food though!!"
"Also murder is out of the question, it is non-negotiable. If any of us kills another then they are outlawed in the true sense."
"Other than this, we are pretty cool."
Dante2005
Woof
Well Done Applause GIF by MOODMANGiphy"Let the dog out to go potty before you use the restroom. (Seriously, the dog is asking to go out and you think she can wait while you take a 30-minute poop first? Not cool.)"
InfiniteBackspace
Always let the dogs go first.
If you wait, you won't like the surprise they leave!
People Break Down The Most Ridiculous Rules They've Ever Seen Enforced In Someone's House
We've all heard the phrase, "their house, their rules," and in general, we tend to respect that concept and follow the rules when we're visiting someone.
But even if we're being respectful, sometimes it's still surprising how some people decide to run their homes.
Redditor SalMinellaOnYouTube asked:
"What's the most ridiculous rule you've heard someone have for their house/family/children?"
Possible Munchausen by Proxy
"I had a friend in fifth grade and her mother was legitimately insane. She wouldn’t let her daughter come to my house because we had carpeting."
"I think she had some Munchausen by Proxy because she was convinced her child was allergic to everything, including dust mites/any innocuous dirt in carpeting."
"The girl also developed an eating disorder. She was a dancer when we were kids, and her mother apparently monitored what she ate extremely closely. I felt so badly for her."
- j4321g4321
'Troll' Translates to... 'Troll'
"When I was a kid, we used to play a game called 'Tunnels and Trolls' (it was basically a cheap 'Dungeons and Dragons' ripoff), and one of our friends with ultra-religious parents wouldn't let him play because 'troll' is Swedish for 'devil.'"
"To this day, I have no idea whether that's even true."
- Schwann-Port
Early to Bed
"I went to visit a college roommate's family, and everyone had to go to bed at 8 PM because that was the youngest daughter's bedtime. The kid was eight or nine years old."
"I laughed because I thought they were joking, but the kid threw a tantrum that I wasn't going to bed. They weren't kidding. I did, obviously, but what the f**k?"
"The next day, the parents told me it would be best if I just headed on back to college a day early. Yeah, no kidding, bye!"
"My roommate thought I was the a**hole."
"I laughed at her, too."
- AhFFSImTooOldForThis
The No-Sitting Room
"When I was a kid, my friend's mom was a little nuts. She had a sitting room with a couch and a love seat that nobody was ever allowed to sit on. You had to walk through that room to get to the rest of the house, and it led to the kitchen and then the living room."
"If you sat on the furniture in the sitting room, she'd throw a fit. I always felt like it was such a waste, to have such a nice room and never use it. It would have been a perfect study room or reading room."
"She also had other crazy rules, like punishing my friend when his little sister did anything wrong. As if he was responsible for her actions and looking out for her."
- Samisoy001
"A friend of mine in high school had a room like that in her house. It was basically a second living room, but nobody was allowed to walk into it or sit on the furniture."
"I always thought it was weird. Why have a room with nice furniture in it that you never use? Her mom was nice, but she was a major clean freak."
- MeowMeNot
"We had that room. It was the 'living room,' and the other room we actually sat in was the 'family room.'"
"The living room always had lines in the carpet from the vacuum, and no footprints because we weren't allowed in there. Maybe on Christmas. Maybe."
"It was a clean but tense house."
"In my house, we use every room."
- GloomyCamel6050
The Houseguest Price
"That guests have to pay for their stay."
"They invited me for dinner and then calculated how many minutes I was over, charged for my portion of food, drink, electricity, and water usage. Yes, they also counted toilet flushing and timed me on hand washing."
"This happened over a decade ago. I was pretty new to the mainland US at the time (I came from Guam), and I didn't know how out of left field being charged was until I told more people about it over the years."
"I think my friend's stepdad was just a super cheap guy. But I could never do this to anyone."
- khalavaster
Sore Loser, Much?
"A friend's parents had a pool table. His mom decided to play with us one day and gave us the house rules."
"She said, 'When it's someone's turn to shoot, I tell them. If someone gets ahead of me, they lose their turn. Everyone plays very hard, and in the end, I win.'"
- CrediblyHandsome
Gross... or Strange?
"Family friend wasn't allowed to say the word 'gross' because it was his mom's maiden name; I'm guessing she'd been teased as a kid and hated it."
" My brother said it in front of him at our house once and the kid freaked out and told my mom he'd said a really bad word. That mom was just making her kid weirder with that one."
- EnvironmentalSkin488
That's Awkward
"Had a friend who was very much into computer gaming in the late '90s/early 2000s. Voodoo video cards were very much in vogue, but his parents forbade him from using the term, 'voodoo,' even in reference to the card."
"They suggested they he instead call it the 'V-card.' The hilarity of the situation was lost on them."
- staggerb
Kicked Out
"When we were 13, a friend of mine was kicked out of the house by his parents for a week because he stacked things wrong in the freezer, and some bread got squished."
"He spent the week staying at different friends' houses each night until his parents let him come back home."
"The mom was super religious and tended to be pretty strict, but tried, unsuccessfully, to hide it when any of our group were at their house. The stepdad wasn't allowed to have much input when it came to any punishments because he wasn't the bio dad."
"My friend and his sister were always punished pretty much immediately by the mom, and the stepdad would just kinda disappear. Regardless of the error made, the punishments would build until she would snap and say something like, 'Get out of my house, I don't want to see your face!'"
"She was definitely verbally and emotionally abusive, but I never saw signs of physical abuse."
"There were multiple occurrences of me or other friends going to spend the night and being sent back home shortly after because she was in a bad mood and my friend didn't have his room clean enough for her liking, like a plate and fork on the dresser from breakfast or a couple of clothing items on the floor."
- Disastrous-Manager95
A Clean Yard
"I was five and at a friend’s house. We were playing in the leaves outside. There was a box of leaves I wanted to move closer to his box of leaves. My box had no bottom, so the leaves spilled out into a small pile."
"He went and told his mother, and she came out and spanked me, quite hard."
"I ran home crying to my Mom, partly because it hurt and partly because of the injustice."
"She comforted me but didn’t do much else (or so I thought). I learned, decades later, my Mom called up the spanker and told her to never lay a hand on any of her children ever again."
- Utterlybored
Proactive Healthcare
"My stepmom had a totally bonkers rule about feet. She was irrationally afraid of plantar warts and, according to her, anyone she didn't know intimately had plantar warts. As a family, we had a second home/beach house that was basically a small bungalow and only had one restroom with one stall shower."
"Nobody, no friends, relatives, could use that shower after the beach because they'll get their plantar wart all over the floor and then she'll take a shower and she'll get plantar warts."
"We also had a swimming pool and she would make new people, including children, WEAR SOCKS IN THE SWIMMING POOL. And as far as I know, nobody living in our house including her ever had plantar warts so... unreasonable? Sure. Effective? Sure."
- Sister_Christina
Water Limit
"When I was a kid, I spent a lot of time at my best friend’s house. Her mom wouldn’t let us drink more than one glass of water in the afternoon because she thought it would dilute the nutrients in our bodies. Instead, she gave us 7-up if we were thirsty."
"I ended up secretly drinking water out of the bathroom faucet every time I used the bathroom when I was thirsty at her house."
- SeaStarless
No Snacks
"My kid had a friend over recently (high school) and we offered him a snack. He said maybe, is that allowed? Then he mentioned getting an A on a test so we said, then you deserve an extra special after-school snack."
"We offered several options like cereal, goldfish crackers, etc. He cried because no one had ever offered an after-school snack, much less said good job on an A. So sad."
- FloridaParalegal
No Alcohol Allowed
"My wife once had a friend over for a sleepover when she was little. Suddenly, their mum showed up to take them home."
"Apparently, the friend had seen beer in the fridge and called her mum crying because of it. They were not allowed to look at, talk about, think about, and especially drink, beer."
"It scared her so much that she called her mum to come to get her."
- Thecell1990
Welcome Home
"Whenever I had friends over as a kid, my mom would say something like, 'We’ll probably forget to offer you anything, but please help yourself to anything in the fridge or pantry if you get hungry' (she would still offer, though, if she was making something for herself later or it was lunch time)."
"I didn’t think much of it at the time. Honestly, I thought it seemed a little overboard sometimes, but now I know she did that because you never really know what someone’s situation is at home."
"Maybe they struggle to afford enough food, or maybe there’s abuse or neglect going on. Kids in those situations may have also been taught not to ask or accept things from other people or might have shame or guilt around them."
"She wanted to make sure that if anyone was hungry in our house that they got fed and knew they didn’t have to feel bad about it."
- CumulativeHazard
If this thread taught us anything, it's that there's no telling what's really going on behind closed doors and what someone else is going through. Remember to show others kindness, especially when you invite them into your home.
There's no official manual on how to raise kids since every household has different protocols that have been passed down between generations.
And while general rules like "no running around the house" or "finish your plate or you get no dessert" may sound familiar, there are those that are so specific, they almost make no sense.
Curious to hear from strangers who had to abide by the weirdest orders at home, Redditor AMGBOI69420 asked:
"What are the strangest 'house rules' you had growing up?"
Careful the things you say.
IYKYK
"You weren't allowed to say 'I know.' Because 'f you knew you, you'd be doing it.' Normally said while I was doing that thing."
– theDeuce
Prohibited Non-Expletives
"Shut up, fart and hate were bad words."
– Tuesdayallweek
Preferred Semantics
"Saying 'shut up' was taboo in our home. My parents called farting 'tooting' which I suppose was one of my mom's gentlewoman idioms. She also called pooping a 'B.M.' for bowel movement -- and don't think I didn't get bullied for saying that in front of my classmates!"
"I think we could use the word hate (like 'I hate that color') but we could never say 'I hate you' to anyone."
– monkeyhind
Rules are rules and there was no room for negotiating.
Why I Hate Trays
"No food could be eaten on just a plate. The plate had to be on a tray (cause what if crumbs fall). Which seems so weird in a house that is way dirtier than mine is now."
"Needless to say, i hate trays, don't own any, and never will. My stupid rule will be 'no trays allowed'. It is what it is."
– clem_11
Respect For The Pet
"I wasn’t allowed to watch mice centric movies (The Rescuers, American Tail) because my mom said 'our cat finds them offensive.'”
– OrangeTree81
Preserve The Padding
"We had to flip up the chair cushions at the dining room table unless company was over. Gotta save that padding for a more valuable butt's occasion."
– hbkzd987
Hands Off
"No touching the walls, boy did we get a butt wooping just for touching the damn walls."
– Bubz-411
No Teen Drama
"I wasn’t allowed to watch Beverly Hills 90210 or Party of Five. Also was not allowed to eat Lucky Charms for breakfast (only dessert), but for some reason Reese’s Puffs were ok?"
– FineStein
These are head-scratchers.
Questionable Incentive
"Winner cleans up."
"Everyone always looks at me sideways when I say it after a game but that's the way we did it."
– aug2295
Ice Anxiety
"My dad was super weird about ice cubes. If you took one out of the tray instead of the big bin, he'd be mad about the missing cube. You had to empty the tray into the bin and then refill it. When I moved away for college, first day home I decided to see if he still checked and I took a cube out of the top tray waaaay in the back. He asked me about it less than an hour later!"
"They have a countertop ice machine now, so no more ice anxiety for my dad."
– Novah11
Snack Guardian
"My dad would count the snacks and sodas etc. If it was a juice container, it got marked with marker to show the level. We couldn't open the door, even if I could clearly see my friends on the other side through the peephole. One time I got permission to go play outside, but when I opened the door it was a neighbor walking up our front step. I said, 'Dad, Mr. X is here.' And he then grounded me for opening the door without his permission. Our neighbor tried to explain I didn't open the door for him and my dad just didn't care. Neighbor never came over after that."
– evanjw90
This wasn't necessarily a disciplinary "house rule," but we always had to remove our shoes when entering the home.
It's a common custom in most East Asian cultures.
Because I was so accustomed to respecting the home by avoiding tracking in dirt from outside, I always left my shoes near the entrance of any home I entered.
So when an elementary school friend told me I could keep my shoes on when I visited his house for the first time, you can imagine this seven-year-old standing there with a blank expression on his face because it was such a jarring concept to undo.
When we enter into someone's home, we need to adhere to what others want in their homes.
Take off your shoes.
No alcohol.
Clean the toilet after use.
All things we can make possible.
Respecting other people's boundaries is important.
That shouldn't be a problem... unless the rules are a bit strange.
Redditor cigarandcreamsoda wanted to discuss house rules. So they asked:
"What is a non-negotiable rule in your house for everyone?"
Rule #1 in my home... you MUST be able to listen to Adele.
That is all.
Clear the Way
GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy"Don't put stuff on the stairs. Almost died once. Never again!"
kaidomac
"Same with the burners on the stove when not cooking. Too many grown adults were slapping flammable things on it like it was a coffee table."
ki113r116
Shame
"The one rule in my dad’s house is one that he won’t tell you: don’t poop in the upstairs bathroom. The shame of having to ask him for a plunger is just not worth it."
goshpenny
That’s us with the downstairs bathroom. My parents only replaced the one upstairs when they bought the house. The one downstairs is old af and cheap as hell so it’s not gonna flush your logs. My cousin found out the hard way once and flooded the bathroom in the middle of the night."
Kyubey4Ever
Stay Empty
"One side of the kitchen sink stays empty! We have one of those two-basin stainless sinks and it drives me absolutely bonkers when I have to remove and stack dishes just to get water to make coffee in the morning."
Rokhnal
"I grew up with an empty sink and one side of the counter was where dirty dishes got stacked. My wife declared this abnormal and that dirty dishes had to live in the (one-hole) sink."
eljefino
"My roommates are constantly amazed at how little space dirty dishes take up on the counter when they're rinsed and stacked properly."
RokhnalPrivacy
"Knock first! Bathroom, bedroom or study room. Knocking is a slowly forgotten art of respect."
karmawhobiiih
"Totally. We don't lock any inside doors (in case something happens to you and someone needs to get in for help), so we enforce the knock and wait for the ok to enter. We do it when we want to go into my son's room too. He deserves privacy and respect like us as his parents do."
ginan385
Be Gracious
The Loud House Food GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"Help cleaning up the dishes after a meal is graciously appreciated. But, don’t even think about putting my knives or pans in the dishwasher. I will happily hand wash them myself."
PeachPreserves66
Don't be lazy. Clean a DISH!
No Feed
lunch dog cooking GIFGiphy"Don’t feed my dogs, anything. I don’t care how cute they are looking at you."
stickystarz
"fish, fish"
"Don't tap on the aquarium glass."
Kangaroodle
"I had a big aquarium and I actually trained my fish to all congregate at one spot by tapping on an area when it was feeding time and saying 'fish, fish.' Now whenever I need them to be in a particular spot I just tap to wherever I want them to be and because they associate tapping with treats or feeding time, they don't find it scary or stressful. Visitors also love to see me call my fish over by simply tapping and/or saying 'fish, fish.'"
Creative_Recover
Clothes On!
"Minimum pants (underwear) at the dinner table. Remarkably something you have to enforce quite often with small children."
Capable-Dream6768
"My nephews, were they were little, would let you know they were done eating by stripping right there at the table lol. No warnings. That was their way to let us know they were ready for a bath lol."
jdbrizzi91
Pranks
"Don't f**k around with someone when they are asleep. If someone is asleep, they're off limits, no messing with/pranks and no waking up without good reason. It wasn't until talking to my friends who had siblings who would pile things on them, move the bed, wake them up in the middle of the night (just general sibling hijinks) And realized how important the 'leave sleeping family members alone' was in our house growing up."
Yaboijustlikesgoats
Be CLEAN!
Disagree Clean It Up GIF by NOW WE'RE TALKING TV SERIESGiphy"If you pee on the toilet seat clean it up!!!
"I am a single parent with 2 boys, I know I'm not the one peeing on the toilet seat but apparently they don't either."
Southern_Anything_39
Your house, your rules! The end!
What are some rules you grew up with or enforce in your home or apartment today? Let us know in the comments.