Doctors Reveal The Saddest Deaths They've Ever Witnessed In The Hospital
It is a sad fact that we will all die some day. But death never gets easier for the people around us.
Leaving families behind, or new loves, or really anybody we love is absolutely devastating. Death creates an impassable border that we cannot communicate through. It has been the subject of tragedies since ancient times and will continue to be. And there's a reason for that.
[SERIOUS] Doctors of Reddit, What was the saddest death you have experienced in the hospital?
Here were some of those stories. Trigger Warnings: death, blood and guts, violence.
Gone Too QuicklyGiphy
I had a confused middle-aged guy come in, was obviously septic, we started antibiotics, fluids, the whole 9 yards within about 15 minutes. I got his wife on the phone (he was about 4 hours from home traveling for work) about 45 minutes into his stay, asked if she wanted to speak to him, she said yes. I went to give him the phone and I realized he needed to immediately be intubated and was close to death. He heard her voice, his eyes lit up, and about 10 minutes later he coded.
It was the only time I've cried openly with nursing staff, and I still remember him. Ended up having Neisseria meningitis meningitis and we couldn't have done anything to save him. Went on a camping trip that night to blow off steam.
The Final Days
We had a middle aged woman come to the ER for a bad headache. She was otherwise healthy. A brain scan showed she had stage 4 brain cancer and an estimated 10-14 days to live. Her judgement and understanding was affected by the tumor so she didn't understand what was happening. The hardest part was telling her husband that his wife, who was fine the day before, is never leaving the hospital and there's nothing he can do.
Horrendously Taken Too Early
A 33 y/o guy with an IV drug habit relatively hidden from his family. He was sent to the ICU for endocarditis and was starting to improve from septic shock when his wife decided to bring in the kids to visit Daddy. Sadly on the day of their visit, he had a cardiac arrest and we had to usher the family out while we performed CPR. Hearing the crying of a grade school kids in the background of a code is something that will always stick with me.
Why Did This Have To Be This Way
Anesthesia resident in St Louis, on my pediatric rotation. Went down to the ED for a gunshot wound, arrive to the trauma bay and found a crowd of providers doing chest compressions on a girl who couldn't've been older than 4. She had a very active bleed coming from a bullet wound in her sternum. Intubated, IV access, gave fluids, epi & after 20 minutes of coding they called it. The collective weight on everyone in the room was palpable.
Nobody knew her more that 20 minutes but it is sad when an innocent child dies.
Too Young To Code
ER nurse here, not a doctor. anyways, a 24 year old running a local half marathon or 10k, he told his friend he didn't feel great, collapsed at the finish line. coded and died on arrival to the ER. the physician, a stone cold guy, called the kids parents to tell them (they lived in another state) and he had tears in his eyes. both the kids parents were doctors, they asked if we shocked him, gave him epi - we said we did everything. they declined an autopsy, we assumed he must have had an unknown cardiac myopathy and it finally caught up to him. I still remember his face and his story. breaks my heart.
Gone Without Contact
Nurse here, I had a patient who knew they had very little time to live, and was working on a letter to their estranged child. When I went in the room to help with after-death care I found the letter, where they had only written half the first sentence before they passed. They died alone.
Worse Than You Could Ever Anticipate
Worst one was a 17 year old patient with cystic fibrosis. Got a lung infection (which are common in these patients), it progressed to a blood stream infection and bacteria was resistant to antibiotics. Was a wonderful family, close, loving parents and siblings. Was a relatively rapid decompensation, ending up on multiple infusions of continuous medications to maintain his blood pressure.
Finally starting having profuse bleeding (process known as DIC related to the blood stream infection). He then went into decompensated shock and shortly thereafter arrested, bleeding from nose and mouth profusely. Parents had been prepped, but being in there doing CPR when Dad realized it was over... There was something about it that was just really bad. He told us to stop, then hugged his kid and kept saying "I'm so sorry. I love you". His mother let out a scream that I can still hear. This was about 12 years ago when I was a resident. I'll never forget that scream. I'm in academics and a sub-specialist. I sadly see kids die often. This was the worst that I witnessed. Any child dying is horrible, but I find that the older ones you connect with and that have a strong bond with the family are really hard. One of my bosses would tell us that if it ever got easy then you need to quit.
As He Goes, So Goes My Country
I'm a nurse, and I've seen so many sad deaths that it's hard to pick just one. But one that stands out:
We had a patient who had cancer and had to be trached. She spent over a month in our icu on the ventilator. Her very sweet husband stayed in her room basically 24/7. He slept in the recliner and lived on Dr. Pepper and Doritos. We got to know him very well. After about 3 weeks, the nurses finally convinced him to go home and get a real night's sleep in a real bed.
The next morning, he didn't come back. His son called later in the day to tell us that he had been found dead at their house. We were all completely shocked and very sad. He was one of the nicest, most helpful family members of any patient I've ever cared for.
Losing her husband was obviously hard on his wife, and her health declined steadily and quickly after that. She just gave up. She was dead within a couple of weeks.
Burdens All Over
I had a lady, in her early 60s who came in two days before her grandson's wedding because she couldn't breathe well. She had so much fluid in her abdomen that it was making it hard for her breathe and for some reason she had kidney injury as well. That day we took out the fluid and tested it and she wanted to go home for her grandson's wedding. Unfortunately she turned out to have ovarian cancer with horrible mets everywhere, Her tumor burden was so high that it failed her kidneys. Her grandson came to visit with his wife on the wedding day, they took pictures. She passed away within a week.
RN here. I recently cared for a woman in the ICU who was in her late 30s and had given birth to a beautiful baby girl seven or eight weeks earlier. Unfortunately, the woman had also been diagnosed with cancer that had originated in the placenta, during her pregnancy. She had, at most, a few months to live. She was really angry and I couldn't blame her.
Never Stood A Chance
Halloween night in 2008 or 2009. I was rotating in busy big city ER. A trauma came in. Motorcyclist vs car or truck. The guy lost his lower leg and bled to death. He was barely alive when he left the scene and was DOA. I can still remember the smell of blood all over the table and floor. I was a student at the time and I helped the RN catalog his belongings. I was a little nosey when I saw a digital camera. Turned it on and there were pics of him and kids in costumes just a few hours before.
It Shouldn't Have Been This Way
RN here. I've had many sad stories of patients passing away; most of the time I can sit with the family and hear stories of their loved ones when they were alive, because they'd lived a good long life and it was their time.
One story sticks out though. A 40s-ish woman who came in with PEs (lung blood clots). She got up to the bathroom at about 3am and collapsed on the way back. We tried, but couldn't bring her back.
Hearing her husband and kids wailing in the family room was really, really hard.
Life Ruined By Prevantable CausesGiphy
I'm in my final year of med school. We had a mum and dad bring in their 8 month old baby, he had been having a seizure for about 35 minutes, sky high fever, obviously dehydrated and was covered in a typical measles rash. They were crying and begging for help. It turns out they were antivax and their baby had caught measles from their older son.
They had been treating him at home with traditional Chinese medicines and essential oils but it didn't help. They only came in when he started fitting. Sadly the baby ended up dying in the ED as we were trying to resuscitate him. It was terrible, the mum was wailing and screaming, I'll never forget it. Later they were arrested for negligence and involuntary manslaughter I think (not based in the US). I'll never forget it because it was a totally preventable death and it ruined their lives.
Working in a hospital a few years ago, busy night, so anyways this teenager stumbled into the hospital, I was the first one to notice him as I was in the hall on the way to go see a nurse, so I look at this guy, I presume he's drunk and I tell him, "go home" he looks at me with a look that will haunt me for the rest of my life, he slowly takes his hands away from his stomach and he has several deep stabs in his stomach. He stumbled and fell. I caught him and there was no time to even get him on a bed or try to help him, I held this 16 kid in my arms as he bled to death whilst he looked me in my eye at kept begging "please don't let me die" felt like a few minutes but was only 30 seconds. For some reason I feel like I let this kid and his parents down. Several years later and numerous therapy sessions and I still feel messed up. Turns out the kid was walking home, took a shortcut through an ally and was mugged and stabbed R.I.P 🌷
Hope Is A Cruel Distractor
We had a four year old who drowned at a family reunion. He was missing forty minutes before they found him underneath the pool cover. He came in to the ED long after there was any chance of getting him back, but he was too cold to declare dead. We had to do full resuscitation on this tiny dead child for 40 minutes while we warmed him up. His parents were watching the entire time, beside themselves, you could just see them clinging desperately to hope, just sobbing quietly.
When at last we stopped they just fell apart. It was honestly like they just couldn't believe it, they couldn't believe that something so awful could even happen. The image of that mother clutching her dead child, talking to him, begging him not to go, will stay with me forever.
One Small Trip
Medical student here. Woman in her 50s tripped and fell outside of church while her husband was pulling the car around. Fractured her C2 vertebra (hangman's fracture) which destroyed her spinal cord. Had to be intubated and ventilated for a day but basically had no motor function and was just kept going long enough for family to come to the ICU. I watched as she was pulled off life support with her family around her. Very sudden and catastrophic.
She actually agreed to be an organ donor and was rushed off to the OR to harvest organs after she passed, but there were some previously unknown problems with several organs that made them unusable. That removed the last small glimmer of hope in an otherwise terrible situation.
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People Break Down Which Practices The United States Needs To Adopt From Other Countries
We can all agree that there is something to appreciate about every country in the world, but there are arguably some countries that appear to have their ducks more consistently and happily in a row than others.
While it would be easy to let pride get in the way and continue to do things the same way, the more productive thing would be to learn from the countries who have figured out a better way to do certain things, whether it's healthcare, food banks, or other services.
Reflecting on the United States, Redditor Blinds**thead asked:
"What is one thing the USA should adopt from some other country?"
Introductions to Alcohol
"Swedish drinking laws. If I remember correctly, you can purchase alcohol below 5% at age 18, and be served liquor in bars (so the bartender can control the amount being served)."
"Seems like a smarter way to introduce kids to alcohol rather than opening the floodgates at 21."
Taxes to Approve
"I've never done them but they seem complicated and stress my parents out, so I just know I'll f**k mine up and end up in stupid jail, lol (laughing out loud)."
"Just send me something to sign, please!"
"A prison system that focuses on rehabilitation instead of punishment. Many countries have been successful with this saving literally billions of dollars and cutting down on crime."
Universal School Lunches
"Universal school lunches. It is embarrassing that we do not have folks cooking lunches for students from scratch and that it is not provided for free to all students."
"Do you want to bring your own lunch? Great, but you can also have the free hot lunch that looks homemade, not pizza squares, canned veggies, a slice of fruit, and 3 oz of milk."
"Kids shouldn't be going into debt for lunch. We're probably wealthy enough that our food waste alone would be sufficient, if captured magically, to feed every kid in the United States three proper meals per day."
"Also walkable cities and above-ground monorail systems."
"Finland has recently ended homelessness by just allowing people to live in small apartments without any preconditions, and four out of five of them make their way back to a stable life."
"It's also cheaper than allowing people to be homeless."
Foster Care Assistance
"It would be nice to also eliminate the fees foster parents pay for general registration, classes, and social services related to fostering or adoption."
"And also eliminate trying to recoup costs by billing parents whose children have been placed in foster care."
Longer Paid Family Leave
"I was SUPER blessed to get 12 weeks fully pay. But that’s not enough time. Putting the emotional aspect aside, I’ve returned to work functioning on four to five hours of sleep a night, and my productivity and cognitive abilities are greatly handicapped."
"My three-month-old son can’t even hold his head up or sit, let alone talk to tell me if anything’s wrong, and he’s placed in the care of someone else from 7:15 am to 5:15 pm. Doesn’t seem healthy for mother or child."
"The fact that our toilets don't have bidets and that at public restrooms the gap between the doors is massive, are both disgusting. Our whole bathroom situation is messed up."
Having a Siesta
"According to Dr. Andrew Huberman, whether you eat lunch or not, everyone requires a rest midday."
Tax Included in the Price
"Man, I had such a hard time with this when I visited America. Maths in my head is not my forte and I’m so used to looking at prices and expecting that to just be the price."
"I don’t get why you wouldn’t just add in the tax to the price. No one wants to do math unnecessarily. I mean, we don’t even tip in Australia so I don’t even need to work that out."
Raising Multilingual Children
"Teaching a foreign language to young students in public schools (ie 5yrs, k-5) when the propensity to learn the language quickly is maximum."
Clean Public Restrooms
"The clean restrooms in Japan were amazing. I never had to clean a toilet seat to put my young kids on it. In the states? Near every time. People here just don’t care about the ‘we’ when it comes to restrooms."
Separate Work and Healthcare
"Decent healthcare that isn't tied to your job. Other countries all over the world have figured out different ways to do this, so why can't we? (I know, corporations own politicians.)"
"I'm not an expert, but I'm guessing it would destabilize a bunch of industries in the near term. But I wonder if long-term, it would create so much new innovation since people would be unafraid to lose their health benefits to leave their stable but s**tty corporate jobs to start new ventures."
Designated Drivers on the Go
"In Japan, there is a service that you can call 24 hours per day that will come with two drivers and one car. One driver drives you and your car home, and the other follows in their car to pick up the driver that took you home with your car. No DUI, etc."
"It's actually really affordable there. No need to get an uber home that night and then an uber back the next day when you are hungover only to find out you have a million parking tickets or your car got towed."
Though there are positives to every country, it would be so cool to see each country be more open-minded about adopting the positives of other countries.
If a country is doing something better than another, the best thing for the citizens would be to take some notes, rather than let their pride do the talking.
Every year, at the end of the Academy Awards, while the auditorium erupts in cheers upon the announcement of the Best Picture winner, as they are somewhat obligated to do, many viewers at home instead shake their heads and raise their eyebrows.
That's if they don't throw popcorn or worse at their TVs.
While those who did so when La La Land was announced as the winner in 2017 would end up getting their revenge in what remains one of the biggest blunders of Oscar history, others are still reeling at some past winners, which they believe were more worthy of a Razzie than an Oscar.
Taste being subjective, plenty of people still find themselves confused by some films which won countless awards, received across-the-board raves, and are considered classics or masterpieces, but they find to be utterly unbearable.
Often finding themselves in an unpopular minority and having to keep their opinion to themselves, similar to Seinfeild's Elaine Benes and her unique disdain for The English Patient.
"Which film that’s universally praised do you find utterly repulsive?"
"My best friend really enjoys movies that make you anxious and uncomfortable like 'Uncut Gems' and 'Good Time', but I firmly do not like those kinds of movies."
"I know it's the point, but i find no joy in the level of discomfort I feel while watching them."
"Some other honorable mentions:"
Not Exactly Authentic
"'The Greatest Showman'."
"Mostly on the grounds that the real P T Barnum was a f*cking monster."- LostMercenary99
"The real John Smith was a f*cking sick bastard and the true events most definitely weren't a love story at all."- CagedKagepocahontas GIFGiphy
Who The "Devil" Was Is Debatable...
"'The Devil Wears Prada'."
"I just wanted everyone in that movie to die in a fire."- PothierM
Tearjerker, Or Sleeping Pill?
"I don't know if it's universally praised but I f*cking hate it."- sara_c907
One Of The All Time Creepiest Shower Scenes...
"Every damn Christmas."
"To be fair I can’t really stand Will Ferrel in general."- cook-isationwill farrel ross geller GIFGiphy
The Title Could Refer To The People Leaving The Theater...
"'Fast and Furious', just a terribly written extremely corny show."- tds542
Fern Gully Did It Better...
"All day long."
'Those blue miserable tw*ts."- akbarkhan666
There Was Bound To Be One...
"I don't know about utterly repulsive, but I have a hard time seeing why everyone loves 'Citizen Kane'."
"And I understand that there was movie making before 'Citizen Kane' and movie making after 'Citizen Kane' such that it informed movie makers going forward as to how it's done, let's say, but after a certain point we, the audience, don't see that anymore, and it's just another movie."
"And then I hear people say well it highlights social hierarchy under capitalism and such, but a lot of movies do that."
"And then there's the twist at the end which is not much of a twist which is the point, I suppose, but the whole thing seemed like a letdown when I finally watched it."
'As a result while a lot of people say it's their number one movie ever or at least in their top 10, it's on my top 10 list of movies not to watch again."- emjayseacitizen kane applause GIFGiphy
Why Not Just Do A Documentary?
"I think it's atrocious how they create hyperreality by over romanticizing the life of a famous person."
"Out of all the awful biopics however, i despise 'Bohemian Rhapsody' the most."
"The scene where the band supposedly invents 'We Will Rock You' on the spot makes my skin crawl."
"How did that movie end up winning so many awards, despite all the plot inaccuracy's and the poor editing."
"It is really beyond me."- Biemolt
Maybe Too Realistic?
'Not utterly repulsive, but I'm in the minority for thinking that 'Nomadland''s Best Picture win was a joke."
"It was barely a movie and relied too much on performance exploitation of actual people for its thin-as-f*ck narrative."
"Honestly, it might be my least favorite BP winner of recent times, yes I'd say that even 'Crash', 'The Artist' and 'Green Book' were better."- SamwisethePoopyButt
Not To Mention That Fake Baby...
"Shameless piece of 'Merican' propaganda, and I couldn't help but laugh at Bradley Cooper's portrayal in the first half hour."- mos_methBradley Cooper Baby GIFGiphy
Truman Capote Would Agree...
"Breakfast at Tiffany's."- LucyVialli
He Did Not Have Them At Hello...
"It was just TOO. DAMN. LONG."
"The 'Show me the money' bit was funny, but it happened early on in the film, and the rest dragged on forever."- Brilliant_Tourist400
We All Know "Moonlight" Was Better...
"'La La Land'."
"The music was utterly forgettable and the plot felt like it was written by a bunch of Hollywood executives jerking each other off."- Aviator506Emma Stone Love GIF by La La LandGiphy
Needless to say, everyone's taste is different, and everyone is entitled to their opinion.
Meaning there's bound to be an argument at the next "movie night" you have with friends over whether to watch Citizen Kane or Spice World.
And you should feel no shame in expressing which movie you want to watch.
Or rather, "what you really, REALLY, want" to watch...
Everyone wishes there was something different about their body.
Smaller nose, longer legs, a different hair or eye color.
There are those, however, whose frustrations with their body are less personal, and more universal.
Finding themselves frustrated less with their own DNA, but with human anatomy in general.
Frustrated by how certain functions work the way they do, and feeling there could be significant improvements in other departments as well.
"What is the biggest design flaw of the human body?"
Would Make A Lot Of People Less Cautious
"Unable to regenerate body parts."
"You lose an arm or a leg, you can't grow a new one."
"We can grow hair and nails forever, but not body parts."- drygnfyre
And Maybe The Whole Childbirth Process While We're At It...
"The size of the average baby head vs the size of the average vagina."- Ruggiard
"The Obstetric Dilemma."
"Basically, the human body isn't built for easy birth."- strykazoidSeason 3 Baby GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy
It Isn't Terribly Practical If You Think About It...
"IMO the whole 'we put food into the only air hole we have and can choke and die if we aren’t careful' thing is a pretty big miss."- el_rico_pavo_real
"Throat has a built in flaw - we breath n swallow food through the same area."- coolguy1793B
A More Direct Route Would Be Helpful
"I like the example of the recurrent laryngeal nerve."
"It runs from the brain to the larynx."
"However, to get there it goes from the brain, down the neck, into the chest, around the aorta and then back up the chest, up the neck and then connects to the larynx."
"That's a massive detour."
"It also means a blow to the chest can damage your ability to talk."- The_Thunder_ChildGiphy
Never Underestimate The Damage Teeth Can Do
"The fact that I sometimes accidentally eat the inside of my mouth."- -Grey_Area-·
He Does Have A Point
"'Nostalgia is the greatest human weakness. Second only to the neck'... -Dwight Schrute
In Plain Sight...
"In our eyes, the blood vessels supplying our photoreceptors are in front of them and therefore in the way of the incoming light."
"Probably not the biggest and there are some good justifications for it being set up this way."
"But it still must be such a pain for the brain constantly having to edit these out when forming our visual experience."- oliwoggleLoop Eyes GIF by Doze StudioGiphy
Maybe Just Every Illness And Ailment?
"My aunt had one when she was 31 and the healthiest person in the world."
"Ran an aerobics class at the Y, just perfect perfect health."
"Went to Pizza Hut with her the night before, next day, massive stroke, almost died, critical surgery, twenty years later she still has trouble speaking."
"There is no reason that should’ve happened."
"Perfectly healthy person damaged for the rest of her life."
"She’s still amazing and lovely and my favorite person but damn is that annoying."- Jibber_Fight
"You can kinda just die at any moment from a brain aneurysm, even if you're perfectly healthy."- mcsteve87
All Our Bones Could Be Stronger...
"For upright walking creatures, why is our head so (relatively) delicate?"
"Trip a single time and you're blinded, have brain damage, bit off your tongue, or lost teeth."- kmn493Episode 15 Pain GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy
They Arguably Also Weren't Built For Stairs...
"Our knees for sure."
"They just weren't built to last past 40 years."- TopShelfCrazy
A Couple More On/Off Switches Would Be Helpful As Well...
"That we cannot delete or sort unwanted/not needed info and memories from our brains."- PickAName616
As the saying goes, "nobody's perfect."
Or rather, "no BODY is perfect."
Otherwise, we'd all stop complaining about aching limbs or worrying about choking or other injuries.
People Share The Absolute Worst Relationship Advice They've Ever Received
Relationships are hard, and sometimes, they're confusing. When you're having a problem with your partner, or you're inexperienced and looking for lessons, you turn to your friends and family for advice.
Sometimes, the advice is sound and helps make things better.
Other times, the advice is trash and makes everything worse.
Redditors know this all too well, and are sharing the worst relationship advice they've ever gotten.
It all started when Redditor Spectrelegit asked:
"What is the worst relationship advice you've ever heard?"
Loyal As A Dog
"Any "loyalty tests". Always a bad idea."
"Heard a youtube therapist once say that as soon as you decide to do a loyalty test, you've already decided the relationship is over because either they fail and you can't trust them, or they pass and you show them that you don't trust them and they stop being able to trust you"
"Ultimatums fall under a similar category."
"If this is a current situation it sounds pretty toxic, and if you are unhappy I hope you get the support you need to make any changes."
Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend
"Spend 3 months salary on an engagement ring. This was literally started by the rich diamond families to increase sales."
"My girl literally threw a jewelry store book at me with the ring she wanted circled and happily said there was a coupon lol. It was like $80 but it's the one she wanted. We've been together for almost 10 years and happily married for nearly 3 now"
"Yeah it's ridiculous, there's lab created gems that are basically the same and a fraction of the cost."
"I’ve said this to friends and family several times when they’ve asked me while stressing about picking out expensive rings:"
"if the ring is the problem, then the ring is not the problem."
Not The Way To Go
"There was a Reddit post about a guy who told his partner that she stunk several times a day. Poor girl was horrified. It got to the point that she was showering incessantly, using industrial strength deodorants and he still complained non-stop."
"Paraphrasing here, but when finally confronted, it turns out his father had given him this sound advice: “Tell a women she smells bad, and she’ll never leave you.”"
"Daddy was wrong."
Anything Doesn't Go
"That you only truly care if you're "ride or die.""
"An ex once told me that she thought if she pushed me far enough that I'd leave. I told her "Yes, I would leave. Why would I want to be with someone who thought so little of me that they'd push me far enough?""
"I had put up with a lot of abusive behaviour from her and it didn't last much longer before she tested my statement and I did exactly what I said."
"Totally!! And that you should love your partner “unconditionally” ie any behaviour goes. Nope"
Maybe Not The Right Person To Ask
"A friend of mine once prefaced some unsolicited advice about my 10-year marriage with the phrase, "I've been in dozens of relationships..." and then he went on to rant about how men shouldn't do the grocery shopping or something stupid like that."
"Right, we had a three times divorced friend who loved to give relationship advice. Most of it was BS."
"The Children" Need A Good Example
"Stay together for the kids."
"I was the child. Please don’t."
"I was also the child. Your children know when you don’t love each other, when you’re fighting all the time because you decided to stay with someone you can barely tolerate. They will live with that knowledge and grow up with a warped perception of love and relationships because they were never given a proper example."
"They will either become obsessive and do whatever they can to make someone stay, or they’ll develop a fear of commitment that will ruin every relationship before they even get the chance to try it. Divorce can be messy, especially when kids are involved, but sometimes the alternative can be far worse. If you decide to have kids, do right by them."
"“There is a perfect person out there”"
"No. No there isn’t. There is no such thing. People change as they experience life. To believe someone will stay the same forever is silly. Pick someone who you can grow with and shares common values with you. Everyone has to make some compromises and that includes someone making them on you too."
Not A Great Justification
"Being married is like eating spaghetti every night for dinner. No matter what sauce you put on it, it's still spaghetti. Sometimes a man needs to eat some steak once in a while."
"That was from my dad while trying to justify cheating on my mom."
Look Good For You
"My (very attractive but very unhappy in her own marriage mother) tried to make me believe that the secret of a successful marriage is to look desirable at every hour of the day and night . Make up, clothes, perfume… anything to keep the husband interested. Having a personality is nice but not necessary."
"I feel guilty of this, although I also feel like I can take the time to get ready all I want, he’s still going to admire someone else and probably in front of you. Just get ready for yourself if it makes you feel better. I have always hated to go out in public to run into anyone bareface, whether it’s an old friend, someone who picked on me in school, an old crush."
"Not sure where it came from me being this way but growing up my parents made fun of me when I’d have no make up on. If I got bad grades or did something that upset them they’d take it away and give it back saying “I need it.” Then other days tell me I wear too much of it, like high school wasn’t enough already. I could never win."
"I know several people who believe this and it’s sad"
Don't Be Who You Are
"When I was a teenager, my mom told me to not let boys see I was smart because no man is attracted to a woman whose smarter than he is. Also, I should work on my laugh because no one would be attracted to my laugh."
"Being smart and passionate about your interests is the most attractive thing ever"
Tell Me I'm Right
"Most people that come to you for relationship advice don’t want to advice they want you to validate the terrible decision they are about to make."
"I think your statement applies to advice in general. A lot of people to want to actually change or put in effort, they just want validation for their choices."
Yeah, that tracks.
We cannot believe some folks are dishing out such advice!
Has anyone every told you something truly crazy to keep a relationship propped up? Let us know in the comments.