Let's face it, weddings are a JOYOUS sometimes prohibitively expensive experience.
On the Reddit page /r/ChoosingBeggars, user so_long_and_thanks shared a status from a bride-to-be's Facebook where she laments the lack of real friends in her life who would spend $3,000 (not including the cost of a gift) to travel to her wedding in Thailand.
The post quickly went viral, with many users making fun of the bride's attitude and lack of self-awareness.
Here's the post as it appeared on Reddit:
It seems the anonymous bride was having an issue getting people to come to her $3k destination wedding:
When we invited our friends and family to our destination wedding in Thailand, only 9 people RSVPs. Out of 150!!! Ok, I get it, paying $3k to share my special day is too much for some of you, I'd pay for yours, but whatever.
So she changed the location to Hawaii...to no avail!
BUT then, when we changed the wedding to be in Hawaii, so it's within everyone's reach, only 7 of you RSVPd??? It costs less but less of you wanna come?! Is that what you think of ____ and me? You can't spare $2k to come share our happiness?
Then the bride issued a VERY scary threat...
I'm tempted to just elope and not let any of you be a part of our happiest day. This is it guys you have 3 days to respond to our evites or were deleting you off FB and good luck keeping up with our lives then.
Fortunately, she ends things on a more heartwarming note.
And don't get me started on the registry... Only the cheap stuff is gone, I swear I thought I had better friends.
______ and I are asking you to reconsider.
How touching! This will truly be a wedding for the ages!
Unfortunately, it seemed most Reddit users weren't as pumped for the occasion as the bride would have liked them to be.
SlonkGangweed commented:
"we will be deleting you off facebook and good luck keeping up with our lives then!" Oh geez, all I will have left to console me is my $3,000.
Dis_Miss took issue with the e-vite situation:
If you "don't respond to out evites". She can't even be bothered to send a proper wedding invitation and is complaining about others being cheap?
Delbuns knows how Facebook code works:
"At the risk of sounding entitled..." Incoming most entitled rant you've ever heard.
The bride's math simply didn't add up, according to thescrounger.
"I'd pay for yours, but whatever." She invited 150 people. At $3,000 a wedding, that means to honor that claim she's agreeing to spend $450,000 to go to all of their destination weddings.
Helena911 wasn't super excited by the prospect...
But you get to spend the happiest day of MY life with ME. You can't spare 3k to come share MY happiness?!
daetara knows what's really going on.
At the risk or sounding entitled, your friendship is only worth the amount of money you will spend on me.
PhilipLiptonSchrute's revenge plan sounds pretty sweet, honestly.
Just to spite her, I'd go to Hawaii for a vacation at the exact same time and not attend the wedding
FartingBob made his point with an all-caps flourish!
BECAUSE EVERYONE NEEDS TO FOCUS ON HER AND HER SPECIAL DAY, IF YOU DONT SHOWER HER WITH COMPLIMENTS YOU WILL BE DELETED.
Jrscout put things in perspective for the bride-to-be:
I wouldn't have paid $2k to attend my own wedding.
It's pretty clear, when it comes to destination weddings, people have strong feelings:
There's one point everyone agreed on, however:
As JK_Abrams said, this Facebook post was not a good look.
It's beyond me why people think posting something like this will improve the situation. If I was on the fence, I would no longer be going. And no longer be "friends". And be returning whatever gift I got off your registry.
And if you wonder how a person could be so self-unaware, you may take some solace in the face that so_long_and_thanks_ later returned to post the bride-to-be's fiance's reaction to her shenanigans. At least one member of the relationship has a good head on their social-media shoulders.
See you all in Hawaii for the big day!
Try not to follow the bad advice given here, because you don't want to get the results that these guys did.
U/Duckerton375 asked: What's the worst advice someone ever gave you, but you still followed?
The workplace can bring a cornucopia of terrible advice. Don’t follow these unless you want to get fired.
​Bad jobs are usually not worth it.
Stick with a job no matter how bad it is. I stayed with a terrible job working retail, dealing with horrible customers and sexual harassment. I was told I wouldn't find anything better.
"No, no, you misunderstand. I said you wouldn't find anything better at making you feel like complete garbage."
This gets really creepy really fast.
frustrated workplace GIFGiphy"After you put in a job application, you need to call them at least once a day every day until they hire you."
Note: this did not get me hired. It got me called out by the HR person I was calling and forbidden to ever contact their facility again.
I work for a law firm that employees over 1500 people in the home office alone. Once I received a call from the building security saying, "Insert Name is here to speak with the owner." Well we are run by a committee so that's odd. Found out they just applied for a job and wanted to talk directly to the person that would potentially hire them. Told him the firm will contact them to schedule an interview. They refused to leave without "talking to the owner." Had security escort them out of the building.
​This is absolutely not true.
"Sleep is for people who do not want success" great words from my uncle, it almost killed me.
Now I may be oversleeping.
​Interpersonal relationships are also a big breeding ground for terrible advice. Don’t listen to any of these.
Heartbreaking.
My father always tought me and my brother that "having friends is bad and in the end they will never be there for you" so everytime I told my father about my friends he would get kinda mad and give me the advice to stop talking to them.
Now I am afraid of people and have several trust issues, thanks dad.
​This won’t end well.
A Christmas Story GIF by filmeditorGiphyIn the fifth grade my teacher was talking about bullying, then she said "if anyone tries to bully you just agree with them." So the next time I got bullied I agreed with the bully and they bullied me more.
Dude one time I saw an anti bullying video that told the victims to just BE NICE TO THE BULLY. Like the bully was hurling insults and the victim was smiling and complimenting him. My first thought was about how much I hated the mere thought that this would work. My second thought was of how the people who came up with that method had clearly never been bullied.
​Oof.
When I met my now wife at the age of 19, one of my coworkers said that it's very important to start at the bottom with presents and work your way up, she still has the socks I gave her on our first anniversary on the wall over our bed as a reminder...
I'm still trying to teach my boyfriend about good presents and bad presents. Biscuits from the supermarket = bad present. Cheap unbranded laptop battery from China as my only present = bad present (and only lasted 2 months). Anything off my 7-page wishlist = good present. It's literally a list of things I want to receive as presents.
​Can tell you from experience that this is a bad idea.
Had a falling out with some friends. My husband recommended I reach out to an old friend who ghosted me suddenly in a manner that induced some pretty severe abandonment trauma. Went for it anyways because "it's been so long, surely they changed". Am now experiencing the same things as last time.
When you follow bad advice, it can lead to mistakes that you just can’t come back from.​
Buying a house is tricky.
for sale dancing GIF by Lisa VertudachesGiphy"Buy a home now before the prices go up!" -my FIL in 2006.
We bought in 2007 and paid $259,500 for our 1,300 sq ft house (we really couldn't afford it and had an 80/20 so we had 8% interest for one loan and 6% on the other) and in 2008 it was worth $97,000 so refinancing wasn't even an option. We watched all of our neighbors walk away or get foreclosed on but we kept paying our bills and as of this very moment our house is worth $462,000. I'm so happy we stuck it out, we both worked our @sses off and the house will be paid off in 2 years.
It worked out for us, it's a horrible idea. Especially since 1300 sq ft houses are $460+k
My heartbreaks for future generations, I honestly don't know how people are going to afford housing in the future.
It’s there for a reason.
"Never apply for any government assistance."
Cue years of suffering trying to work full-time with a painful disability. Quit a particularly terrible job, and wanted to apply for food aid until I could find another gig; a friend with lots of DHS experience recommended I apply for Social Security "just to get in the system." Turns out my disability was bad enough to get accepted the first time, which I wasn't expecting. Really could've used that support, oh, the 30+ previous years of my life.
Credit is important to have.
I was told to not get a credit card until after college. I was super fortunate to have my college paid for so I had no loans, car paid in cash, no credit card or anything to start building credit. Found myself out in the world at 22 years old with a credit score of 0.
So while a lot of this bad advice came from trusted people, oftentimes they were too misinformed to give that advice in the first place. Don't trust the word of one person--do your research, and make decisions for yourself.
It'll be way better in the long run