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Unfortunately, not everybody is meant to be dating each other.

Society has socialized us to think finding a dating partner is the be-all-end-all of our lives. We must be dating somebody and get married, it is part of the expectations our family have laid down in front of us.

The truth is, we don't need to do any of that. We don't owe anybody ourselves, especially people that we find overtly awful.


u/TheUfo_ asked:

Guys of reddit what is the biggest turnoff in a girls personality?

Here were some of those answers.

Girls trying to get a guy's affection/attention by flirting with other guys. Inspiring jealousy is a horrible race to the bottom that both men and women practise.

If you're into someone, just approach them. Don't play games. No matter how it plays out, the best case scenario is at least one person is hurt.

Swagwala

Being obsessed with their social media presence. It's usually a good indicator of lots of other qualities I'd avoid.

bigdaddypimpilicious

Major jealousy. A little bit is expected, but I had a girlfriend once who tried to attack one of my friends because she was a female friend. Like what the hell

Maximilliaaan

Personally, I would say being constantly and unreasonably upset at minor things. I have been with a girl who would lose her mind over stuff like a goodnight text sent ten minutes after the usual time, messages unanswered for a while because I was busy, playfully poking fun at her that gets misinterpreted, not noticing if she was sad fast enough, and plenty of other things. Had to constantly be aware of what I was saying and doing in order for her to not get upset. Jesus I had to put an alarm on my phone to precisely remember to send goodnight texts. Granted, I don't like my messages being unanswered either, but I don't throw tantrums for it. Frankly, if I have to deal with you instead of being with you, the relationship isn't worth it, at least for me.

arminredditer

I'm to the point now where the second I see "chase me" behavior, I'm out. I have no patience for it, and I have enough experience to know that I'm probably not going to enjoy myself if I do give it a shot.

Suspicious_Initial

Having no empathy for others. Or, on the opposite site: A person with a lot of empathy for their fellow humans and also animals has got a big plus in my book.

MrBlueCharon

It has to be materialism.

There are so many things to appreciate in life, but disproportionately valuing high quality "things" is just a ton of red flags IMO. And let me clarify, I don't just mean "I like to buy lots of stuff".

I mean, ascribing value to another human based upon their material things. And viewing your own self through the lens of the quality of items you have.

The amount of things to unpack there is just too monumental to even attempt.

Willster328

People who cling to a subcultural identity. I'm specifically talking about the "country girl" one cause that's what I grew up surrounded by: the girls who wanted to be exactly like the women in country songs. As I grew up and went to college, I got to see a lot more subcultures--goths, metalheads, hipsters, etc.--and while plenty of those people are awesome, it's the ones that cling so hard to their subculture as an identity that give me pause. It's insecurity I guess, on their part? Which I do understand, but like, I don't know, when you're so obsessive you make something your whole personality, that gives me pause.

Also, horse girls. And I don't mean girls who have horses. My sisters and I have a couple horses (or rather, my parents have horses that they say are ours lol), but they aren't horse girls. Horse girls are...an experience.

raleighwh2001

I once dated a girl who, at least once a day, had a story about how X person was coming on to her, or she got cat called at the store, or her manager tried to flirt with her, etc.

At first I believed her, didn't have a reason not to. But after a while it just became so obviously a lie that it made her seem pretty pathetic tbh. There was a bunch of other stuff she lied about too, serious stuff that was kinda fucked up.

Another girl I dated was really good at guilt trips. She'd do everything she could to make me feel awful for not buying her that stuffed animal that I knew was just gonna go in the closet later, or for hanging out with my friends instead of her even though I told her about the plans a month+ in advance, etc.

Current GF is super awesome though, I keep having to remind myself she isn't like the others. I still get anxious when she see's something and says "oh that's cute!" or something similar because I got so used to being guilt tripped into buying my ex anything she wanted.

Dephande

Girls who brag. I just cant stand it. I broke up with a girl once over it. I didnt tell her that was why, but it was. She would brag about her Dad's money, how guys always come on to her, how smart her dog was, how she was elected president of her sorority (I mean she mentioned this all the time), the type of coffee she bought, etc etc

MartyVanB

Lifehacks, if applied properly, can really change the course of a single household chore.

Chores can really be such a pain to take care of, and nobody wants to do it. But with a little life hack under your belt, you might be able to turn chore time into something a little fun.

u/rat-avec-london asked:

What is a lifehack that seems fake, but is a true lifesaver?

Here were some of those answers.


My Finger, The Glass

If your ring gets stuck on your finger windex will slide it right off. Worked at a jewelry store for five plus years.

coykoi314

You can also use any oil (cooking, automotive... anything).

You can also reduce the size of your hand (and finger) by holding it up in the air. Chilling your hand in cold water THEN holding it up in the air for a couple minutes whilst rubbing oil &/or dishwashing fluids in there... trifecta of ring removal.

Should work on anyone that just stole Sauron's prize - though biting it off also works, i suppose.

SageSilinous

Multiple Uses

Use shaving cream as anti-fog. I used it on the inside of my motorcycle visor. Smear it on, let it dry, then rinse off and dry. It also works for bathroom mirrors. You can use it on a small spot so you can still see when you get out of the shower.

Caspers_Shadow

Shaving cream also removes the smell of urine. If you ever have to take care of someone who is old and/or sick and who wets the bed, a little shaving cream on a rag wiped over their buttocks after they are thoroughly cleaned up helps them really smell clean again.

It's a bit of a sad tip, I know, but you never know when you might end up caring for someone who needs help with things like this. Nobody wants to smell. A dab of shaving cream to restore a bit of dignity? Priceless.

Gen-Jinjur

Pretty Important For Stage Actors

Every male should know this. If you want to get rid of an awkward boner flex any muscle in your body maybe an arm. For a minute. The blood will rush to that muscle and away from your penis. Crisis averted.

GingerOverseer

These life hacks really don't seem real at all, but if you can swear by them, they can save your life.

Obligatory Poop Hack

I saw a comment on one of these kinda threads that recommended gently rocking back and forth while pooping. I've never had any problems in the bathroom, but I happened to be sitting on the toilet when I read the comment so I decided to give it a test drive. I was pleasantly surprised at how quick and effortless the whole experience was and I haven't gone back to my old stationary technique since. As a bonus, #1 and #2 now require the same amount of time in the bathroom!

ASS_LORD_666

It's The Alcohol

If you have funky armpits and need to fix them fast, use hand sanitiser. I figured this out years ago when I remembered that the smell comes from bacteria reactions - which antibacterial hand gel kills stone dead. Instant results and the medical smell lasts only a minute. Don't do this routinely though as it's delicate skin.

ihadanideaonce

But Hopefully It's Just A Playing Puppy

True lifesaver: if you are ever attacked by a dog, push your forearm INTO the bite. This pries the jaws apart and prevents them from clamping down. If a dog is attacking you, the best thing you can do is offer your forearm, push as far back as possible, and then grab the dog by the scruff of its neck with your other hand to hold it. The dog is now functionally muzzled and you have control of its head. The sooner and harder you push into the bite, the less damage the bite will do.

IAlbatross

Get It Off Anything

That rubbing alcohol removes chewing gum.

I'd go through a 20 layer deep marketing funnel to get to that tip because it really does work.

Also wow! Thank you for all of the awards nice Redditors. I completely forgot I left this comment and came back and my notifications had blown up.

omgIamafraidofreddit

And previously impossible situations will give way at long last.

Sayonara Capsaicin

Rubbing vegetable oil (or any cooking oil) on your hands after you cut up jalapeños or other hot peppers. It gets rid of the awfulness that would normally be left on your hands from the peppers. I rub my hands with oil and then wash it off with dish soap. I can totally remove my contacts after doing this. It's crazy how well this works.

PaulRuddsButthole

Crying Crying

Put your onion in the freezer for 10 minutes before chopping it. It freezes the juices just enough to slow down the process of it turning in to a gas, giving you a few minutes to chop the onion without tears. I learnt this tip from a kid's science show years ago and I haven't had to deal with onion tears since. So many people don't believe me, and then are genuinely surprised when it works.

Lost_in_the_Library

Just A Quick Little Base

The cheapest, most effective, and safest insecticide against roaches (especially those huge "water bug" roaches that we have in the South) is a spray bottle of mostly water with just a little liquid dish soap in it.

Shake the bottle & get the water a little foamy, then spray the roaches. They will run, scrabble, and attempt escape, of course, but they will die. The soap film suffocates them faster than any chemicals will.

A friend told me about this, & I thought she was nuts, but I tried it & it works amazingly well. Plus it's very easy to clean up and safe around food (not that you want to spray soapy water ON your food).

SnooPickles3213

Incorporating any of these lifehacks into your home may make a big difference. You'll never want to turn back.

Or you will, whatever. But they're worth a try!

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