Not all friendships are meant to last. Sometimes, there's a good reason for it, like maybe moving away to start a new job or falling out of touch because your babies are taking up all your free time. Whatever the accepted reason, you value the time you had together, reminisce on the good times, and move on.
However, there are those times when the friendship falls completely off the rails and you're not sure how everything went wrong.
Reddit user, FemaleThings, wanted to understand why a friendship fell apart when they asked:
"How did you lose your best friend?"
A One-Way Relationship
"I realized that they were my best friend, but I wasn’t so much so theirs. Made evident when I started being bullied in high school and she immediately turned on me, as if she had waited for this opportunity to ditch me"
– tizbean
Never First Priority
"Similar here. I was the backup friend. Any time she found someone 'better,' she'd completely abandon me. Would even avoid me sometimes so her new friends wouldn't see me with her."
"Then either they'd get tired of her or she'd get tired of them and guess who's coming back to be friends with me like nothing happened? She is. When she didn't have anyone else, she was an awesome friend. But when she had anyone else, she'd do things like ignoring me at my own birthday party so she could text them."
"After high school she'd sometimes randomly message me acting like we were going to be best friends again, then drop off the face of the Earth like usual when something better came along. Eventually she just never showed back up, and by then I was fine with that. I was done with dealing with that."
"Did give me serious trust issues that took years to work through tho."
– ShiraCheshire
Thinking They Need To Move On
"when we both graduated high school, she blocked me on everything (phone, socials, etc.) without any reason or notice. we weren’t fighting or anything and i wasn’t annoying either. idk it was just weird."
– urlocaldumbgurl312
Too Dead To Be Brought Back To Life
"Her sh-tty boyfriend drove a wedge between us and ultimately ruined her life (she did some shady sh-t too). I ran into her 10 years later and she apologized for everything. I accepted and forgave her, but knew I’d never really have a friendship with her again."
– ATru05
Too Taken By Something Else
"Cocaine. He isn’t dead, he’s just not the same anymore."
– ThrowawayzVI
"Same, kinda. I stopped drinking so much, quit partying and hard drugs altogether. All my best friends from that period of my life didn't. Turns out that's all we had in common and me trying to hang out with them just feels awkward now."
– NativeMasshole
We All Have To Give It Our All
"I stopped trying to maintain relationships with people who wouldn’t try themselves"–
– themarkof
Can We All Just Keep Our Hands Off Each Others' Spouses?
"7 weeks into marriage found out my best friend and husband are “together” and have been for a while. (I had known her for 5 years, he had known her for 13 years)"
– diet_pepsi_lover
"This happened to me. My wife ran off with my “best friend.” It gets easier to deal with but the pain never fully goes away."
– oskiew
Not All Best Friends Have
"Old age. Was a great dog."
– TheDrunkyBrewster
"Same here. 13 years of friendship has flown away from me."
– SweetLopez01
They Prefer Each Other
"One day I introduced my best friend to a friend so I could spend time with both since they were good friends to me."
"A couple months pass and now my best friend became best friends with the friend I introduced. I'm not angry that they are best friends now, I'm angry that they keep ghosting me when I text them."
:So while me trying to spend time with both, it was the exact opposite."
"It was really sad for me to lose my best and them ghosting me really made me sad."
– metosuz
Way Too Far
"Got into a fight for something trivial and she told me she understood why my mom left me"
– Prestigious_Web1124
Better Left In The Past
"We were both insecure about ourselves as teens, but she started putting me down in front of other people, especially if there was a boy she liked - making me the target of her jokes and making comments that were supposed to make her seem cool and sarcastic. I told her several times that it was hurtful, and she would always end up in tears, swear to me she wouldn't do it again but after a while she would always start again. She was the first real friend I made, so it was difficult, but I decided to just cut her out of my life after a few years of repeating that pattern."
– -_Midori_-
No Effort, No Friendship
"(english is not my first language, i apologize for any mistakes)"
"We were next door neighbours and spent the majority of our time together since childhood. She went to college and I barely heard from her but we still spent a lot of time together, especially during the summer (also since we were little we were in the same school, church, etc)."
"She got a girlfriend and didn't tell me, but I never pushed it even though I knew since it's not my place to tell. I noticed because there were pictures of them hugging, and she is not an affectionate person so that's how i knew. She told me a year after they started dating. I didn't tell her I knew because that is mean and she would feel that she was outed and that would be plain awful."
"When they started dating she basically cut contact with me. If I wanted to make plans she wouldn't be available because she would be going to meet her and 2 other friends she had made recently (one being a former friend of a friend of mine, who also cut contact with her when this friend group was created), plans would be cut short and she basically doesn't talk to me unless she has to. when she knows I'm in town from college it's like I'm not there, even though."
"I go over to her house to say hello to her parents and she is there (and I say hello out of politeness, because after all we have known each other since we were babies, but I know that if I didn't say anything there wouldn't be any effort on her part). So basically, she started dating and I was left behind. I think I'm being petty and a little too attached, but I'm not the only person who has complaints about this. One doesn't do anything if the other one isn't present, so sometimes people don't make plans with them (this includes going to the beach, grocery store, playing video games...)."
"I tried to revive the friendship many times - I actually like her, like I've said we have been friends forever. For some reason. all those advances were useless, The effort to make contact again was useless. Her pet (whom i loved very much and also named) died and she didn't tell me, she didn't come to my graduation because I didn't invite her girlfriend (i never had a deep relationship with her even though I knew her, so it didn't make sense to me)."
"All of the good things that happen in her life are not shared with me anymore. I obviously was the only one who cared at all to maintain a friendship of a lifetime, so i stopped texting to see what would happen or if she even cared - much to my surprise nothing happened. I saw her last weekend at a mutual friend's graduation, before that the last time I spoke to her was in the ending of January or beginning of February."
"It took me a while to understand that if someone enjoys your company they will make an effort."
– moodeq
Friends From Afar
"She set me and my new boyfriend up to get jumped by my ex and thought it was hilarious. We were trying to mend a tough friendship that suffered a falling out due to the rumors she spread about me. We were inseparable until high school hit. I got a lot of attention from people that she didn't. She didn't like that. She spread rumors. In an attempt to repair our once inseparable bond, I suggested a double date. One thing turned into another, and she set me up."
"We tried to reconcile as adults. She was strung out on drugs and could never visit me alone; had to have druggie boyfriends around all the time. It was uncomfortable."
"She does great now. Clean, in a long term relationship, and has a child. It's easier to clap and love her from a distance. Up close was just toooooo much for me."
– Electrical_Potato934
Not Really A Friend
"realized she was bullying me my whole life. sure we had good times, but there was more bad then good. she would call me names, hit me, tell me i was ugly or fat. she isnt in my life anymore, although it seems that because now that ive found better friends and a new best friend, she wants to come back. i miss her, but i dont want her to be apart of my life."
– shieldxex
It Was All A Lie
"she found a new friend and left me, even though she said a day ago that I was her closest person. later it turned out that she was forced to be friends with me by her mother. =)"
– justmaryy2
Sometimes, It's Neither Of Your Choices
"Undiagnosed heart condition suddenly killed him. It was and still is awful. He was only 27. I have moments that I want to share with him, just call him, set up a trip together, text a funny anecdote etc, but can't and it hits me all over again that he's gone forever."
– WanderingPuppy
Treat others how you want to be treated. It's really not that hard.
Also, value the time you have with your friends. The future is wide and open and occasionally that openness means you won't always be together.
We think of alchohol as fun, an escape, a way for us to really throw ourselves into the party and leave our cares behind. There are also those of us who think of alcohol as a sophisticated hobby, something we relish in while we sip our hundred dollar bottles of scotch with our other fancy, snobby friends.
What we don't think of is how it affects us. Sure, a little tipsy feeling is commonplace and maybe some of us get headaches if we have that fifth glass of wine, but what about the ways we don't consider? What about the downsides you never see coming?
Reddit user, Knock_Outed, wanted to hear about the flip side of party nights when they asked:
"What are some less known downsides of alcohol?"
You're out with friends, drinking you're seventh gin and tonic, when suddenly your stomach starts to do "that" dance. You think you know what's about to happen.
You have no idea.
Killing You Inside
"In my alcoholism I woke up one day puking massive amounts of bright red blood. I was also sh-tting it. I had so much blood loss I almost passed out and had to call an ambulance. Turns out the combination of drinking a handle of vodka a day and throwing up caused my esophagus to split open. Blood had been constantly draining into my stomach, as I understand it. They said the puking was the main reason it went so far overboard. I didn't even quit drinking until a few months after. F-ck that. I'm 60 days sober tomorrow, feeling good, and in a cool recovery house. Physical dependence to alcohol is f-cking horrific."
meetmeinthebthrm
Physically Keeping You From Recovering
"For me, it really disrupts my ability to regulate my temperature when I’m trying to sleep. Anything more than one or two beers, I’ll either struggle to nod off or I’ll wake up four hours later overheating."
Ilovecheesenwine
Burning In The Chest
"Acid reflux"
Rare_Spot_8294
"When I was younger I had pretty much constant acid reflux from drinking, to the point that I always taking pills for it. Now that I don't drink nearly as much, it's much more rare (usually if I drink a few days in a row+eat acidic or greasy food). However, one trick I learned and still use when needed is to sleep on your left side."
"Basically, when sleeping on your back or right, you're opening your esophagus up to your stomach acid. On the left, it prevents this from happening somehow. I always remember it by 'right is wrong, left is best.'"
Aureliansh-tlist
Do All My Friends Hate Me Or Do I Just Need To Go To Sleep?
"Didn’t start happening until my late 20s/ early 30s. SEVERE panic attacks and anxiety after a heavy night of drinking"
mayorpaco
"Hangxiety."
"Alcohol is a GABA agonist. When you drink, it makes you relaxed because alcohol is a depressant and crosses the blood brain barrier. This reduces the amount of GABA your brain makes. When you sober up there is not nearly as much GABA in your brain as you need, leading to awful feelings of anxiety and that uncomfortable jumpy feeling."
C-ntdracula19
Rushing To The Bathroom
"Early morning emergency dump"
Disastrous-Brush620
"Beer sh-ts are among the worst type of sh-ts."
VXNBC
This Is A New One
"If you’re histamine intolerant or histamine sensitive, alcohol will trigger it and cause things like:"
- Sneezing/allergy symptoms
- Severe menstrual symptoms
- Horrible mood/feelings of depression for the few days after drinking (even without a hangover)
Making You Slow To Everything
"150 days sober here: the “playing from behind” feeling the next morning. It would take way more effort to get the same result: waking up, getting a clear head from depressed or bizarre thoughts, guilty feelings, or strange thought patterns or actions. Body taking a beating that feels sore throughout the day. Always low water-wise. Never “regular” digestion."
"Finally getting better about 11am-2pm (I was an excellent employee despite all this; imagine what I could’ve done with a clear head/body/mind) just to look forward to doing it all over again bc that whole experience was overcame and then there’s just everyday work stress (I was a middle school teacher) that you feel like you need a reward for defeating. I left the job to take care of a family member and sobered up and have lost a bunch of weight. But waking up without basically this inhibitor spell on you for most of the day before you can feel regular again was the worst."
GMane2G
And then there's the other consequences of drinking, the ones that don't hit you physically in the way you expect or the method they affect your wallet.
Up, Up, Up, Down, Down, Down
"My personal one... as someone who drinks too much (not an alcoholic I don't think.. but more than I probably should.)"
"For me I've had a few struggles with depression and boy does alcohol make you feel better."
"But the day after it's much much worse. Booze dampens those pesky inner demons and gives you your confidence back but when you take it away again they're back and they're back hard."
"I can see how easy it would be to become a full blown alcoholic, the high feels worth chasing but the lows are unpleasant. Keep drinking and the lows never quite make their way through but that's a very very unhealthy way to live."
HueyLewisAndTheShoes
Keeps Adding On And On
"Calories. Alcohol has a lot of calories and you're not really avoiding that problem by drinking Michelob Ultra or vodka, though some seem to think they are."
Nyctanolis
"While that’s true, there’s a significant difference between say a vodka seltzer which is around 100 calories vs a “normal” beer at 150 or so for a 12oz vs a fruity ipa at 200 calories vs a rum and coke which could be closer to 250 calories."
"If you’re having multiple drinks that obviously gets compounded, so if you have a 6 pack of fruity beers like tangerine express ipa you’re looking at 1200 calories vs 6 vodka seltzers at 600 calories."
MastleMash
Ever Spend $15 On A Bud Light In Vegas?
"It’s expensive especially if you go out. I spent thousands and thousands of dollars going out in the past. I did the math once and it was wild. I don’t think a lot of people truly grasp the full amount."
EstusSoup
"My husband has an app that tracks how much money he's saved by quitting drinking. He plugged what his spending was when he quit 3ish years ago and it's tracked what he would have spent ever since. We have a hefty lifesavings now because of it. Now granted, we lived in LA and went to bars a lot so his spending was probably above average but it's still amazing how much more well off we are just from that."
rachface636
Drink responsibly. Isn't that what they say?
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For most of us, our deepest fear is to fall flat on our faces in front of a bunch of people. No one wants to look the fool, especially when it happens before a group of people you're going to see every day for the forseeable future.
Embarrassing moments can come out of nowhere, but how you handle yourself in the aftermath is what matters. Laugh it off, shake it off, go with the chuckles, and let the people know you can't be hurt by it.
Well, unless you're any of the people in the stories below. Then I'd consider getting a new address and name.
Reddit user, Konke420xd, wanted to know when the shame was too much to handle when they asked:
"What is the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever witnessed?"
"Oral," Not "Oral"
"I was a sophomore in HS (so around 16) taking the last leg of my county's sex ed class. It was a co-ed day, so our full gym class of about 30 kids was in the room. Topic was STD's. The teacher mentioned oral sex a few times and I guess which diseases can be spread through it. One guy who was always pretty quiet and shy raised his hand and said "I just don't really understand how you can get an STD from talking about sex..."
"It took everyone, including the teacher, a few seconds to understand, but some quiet laughter came from a few students. the teacher then of course had to explain as simply as she could that oral sex did not in fact mean talking about sex (I think the stupid bylaws of the program in our county didn't allow her to fully disclose what it was)."
"Anyway, we thought he was joking but as he heard the laughter from everyone after getting this explained to him, he slowly put his head down and covered his face for the next few minutes. Poor guy. I felt bad, but it was hard not to laugh. At least no one directly gave him sh-t for it afterward"
– shlumpy_dumpyyyyy
Keep Your Preferences At Home
"Community college in Tampa, 2009. Spanish class. Shy goth girl walks to the front of the class and plugs in her USB drive to boot up her PPT and begin her presentation like the rest of us did. Except when she pluged it in, a file opened up and the most vile anime porn started playing. Everyone was mortified for her. It took her maybe 3-4 seconds to turn it off but the moment felt like forever. She said, "THIS IS MY BOYFRIEND'S DRIVE!" and ran out of the room crying. The teacher just moved on. The girl didn't show her face for a week. Just an absolutely insane moment."
– grandpasmoochie
Triumph, Glory, Embarrassment
"At a pep rally to celebrate a sporting victory, a student insisted that he carry the school flag and run laps around the team. He tripped and fell onto the newly displayed trophy, immediately breaking it. This was on the front page of Reddit for a bit and I’m glad I witnessed it as my school’s claim to fame."
– NathanialH0rnblower
When You Want To Stand Up To A Bully But Fail
"There was this kid in my high school that was taking karate classes. He decided he wanted to fight a kid that was bullying him after school in the town park. A sh-t ton of people went. He got all pumped up before the fight. Instantly, once the fight started, he began doing karate moves at the air. Once he reached the bully, the first thing he decided to do was a very flashy "spinning backhand"(?). He missed by a mile and was knocked out immediately. I felt really bad for him. He was always known for not being able to read situations very well and that, being his first normal fight, was just the absolute worst time to try that move out. Bullies suck. It was embarrassing for both of them."
– meetmeinthebthrm
To Be Fair, He Made The Right Call About His Idiocy
"Alright, so my husband and I were driving around the city and it was pouring outside. Absolutely pouring. We were about to pass the lightrail train tracks (going in both directions) when the crossing gates came down because the lightrail was approaching."
"One idiot in a van decided he could make it across before the gates came all the way down. He kept on driving, but he did not make it. Instead, his vehicle was now trapped between the gates."
"We could see from our car that this person was PANICKING. His life was flashing before his eyes. In his movie mind, the lightrail was about to crash into the van and drag it for dozens of yards before finally stopping... so he did what anyone would do. He violently pushed the door open and RAN in the pouring rain for his life."
"He was halfway down the street before he stopped, turned around, and noticed that the lightrail was patiently waiting for him to move the vehicle. The door was still open. My husband and I just about pissed ourselves laughing."
– JoyceReardon
Keep Your Passions At Home
"I was watching a symphony orchestra concert at the Sydney Opera House one evening. The concert hall foyer has these huge glass windows beneath the sails that overlook the harbourside. The sun hadn't quite set yet, and every audience member that was exiting the hall could see this incredibly drunk middle aged couple having sex on a bench outside the hall."
– cowbelljazz
When It's Not Just A Towel
"Was in a pool at a Euro beach resort. We’d been chatting with an old brit tourist, he got out of the pool and went to get changed poolside, using his towel to do the discrete swimming tog shuffle."
"Suddenly up steps an angry Frenchmam wanting HIS towel back..."
"Turns out our poor retired gent had grabbed the wrong towel. There ensued a desperate tug-of-towel as a very stroppy Frenchman attempted to rip his towel from this poor old guy who was butt naked and frantically trying to save his modesty."
"The old guy’s grandson saved the day, with an emergency towel transfer, but not before the whole pool complex had seen way too much hairy old British grandpa scrote."
– Bigfoothobbit
We're Not As Cool As We Think
"I was at a food court and I got the brilliant idea to jump over a row of those plastic chairs and tables.. You know, the ones that are fixed to the floor."
"Foot got caught and I fell flat on my face. I stood up to 30 people clapping. One guy yelled asking for my autograph."
– Niteryder007
Take It To The Dance Floor?
"I was on a high end cruise line at dinner. An older lady got up to go to the bathroom but missed and pooped herself in the dining room entrance. She left her panties there and continued on to the bathroom."
– SimbaOne1988
Maybe We Should All Only Poop At Home...
"I used to work in nightclubs. I once witnessed a girl leaning against a wall, casually flirting with a guy and as she laughed she actually sh-t herself. She was wearing a white dress and there was no hiding what had happened. The smell actually cleared the whole level of the club. She ran out crying. We had to clean poo off the floor where she had been standing. I often wonder what she is doing now..."
– Vaiken_Vox
Ice Ice Baby
"My childhood memories are very fuzzy but I do remember this one time as a teen. A couple of friends and I went ice skating at a local rink. They’d all gone before so I was the only new one on the ice. At one point I finally felt like I got the hang of it and gained a little speed. I proceeded to slip and eat shit in front of everyone on the rink. Bashed my knees straight into the ice so hard a random women skated over to ask if I was ok."
– ihasrestingbitchface
This Is Why I Don't Play Sports
"So we played this game in middle school called downer ball and basically all you had to do was kick a ball that was sitting still and run to a corner of the basktetball court before the ball was returned to the line. Kind of like a mix between baseball and kickball. Anyway this girl goes up to kick, and mean you shes not very athletic but enough to kick a ball sitting completely still. She runs up and misses the ball completely and the same foot that missed steps on the ball and she does a total banana peel style slip and fall. Smacked the floor so hard it echoed throughout the gym and everyone let out a “ooohhhh”. Quite a small school too so we all remembered it pretty vividly for the remaining years"
– BigJuice109
Did It To Myself
"Was in elementary school and our class went on this strange sailboat trip around the bay in Redwood City CA. It was a windy day, and the boys were spitting off the side of the boat and I decided to copy them. It immediately blew back and hit me in the face."
– Suitable-Presence119
Just Absolutely Unfortunate
"Not me, but my dad witnessed this one day when I was in university."
"He was coming home one day from somewhere, and he was on the tram, just chilling, doing his thing, reading a book...and a few seats away, a lady's colostomy bag ruptured or burst or exploded or something."
"In the middle of a tram."
"In peak-hour traffic."
"Shit was going everywhere."
"Literally."
– Dippycat149
"Gimme A B-I-R-D!"
"Was at a high school football away game. The opposing team’s cheerleaders come onto the field, were pretty much dead middle of their routine, and literally out of nowhere some beast of a bird releases the biggest dump onto the neck and shoulder of one of those girls who then proceeds to go into full hysteria."
"I was laughing so fucking hard at the time; but god I felt bad for her too."
– AutumnAtronach
Not Quite Yet
"When I was in late elementary school, I approached my mom about "blood when I go to the bathroom." She was psyched--threw me a "welcome to womanhood*" party and everything."
"Turns out it was hemorrhoids, which she only realized when l actually got my period in middle school."
"(I don't know if I'm cringing more for my sake or for hers...)"
"*Turns out I'm nonbinary and would later get a hysterectomy, but I still treasure the little charms and gifts her hippie friends gave me."
– SnubbyPears3144
Try, Try Again
"My friends and I got to the peak of this hike in winter. It ended at a lake that was frozen over, besides the edge near land, where the ice was obviously really thin. This guy came up out of the trail and ran straight for the ice covered lake. He obviously broke through into the water, but he was only an ankle deep."
"The really embarrassing part is that he tried to save his ego by continuing. He kept trying to get on top of the ice and it just kept breaking. He continued this until he was shoulder deep, in an ice covered lake, with 30 people watching his spectacle shaking their heads."
"He just got to the top of the hike and had to run all the way back down to his car covered in freezing cold water in the middle of winter before he got hypothermia"
– Khan_Khala
That's Gotta Hurt!
"In 8th grade a new pastor came into our classroom to teach us stuff we needed for confirmation (catholic school thing). First thing he did was the classic “sit on the chair backwards to relate to the cool youth” but as soon as he sat down the chair basically exploded underneath him from the weight of his body (which was fairly overweight). He got up and said something along the lines of “oh that chair’s all messed up” or something but of course a kid yelled out “yeah because you crushed it.""
"It was hilarious but the more I think about it as an adult that had to be horrendously embarrassing"
– aztechfilm
I think the lesson we can take from all of these is anything you would normally do in private that, in the moment, feels right to do in public, don't. Just, don't.
Have you ever seen something so embarrassing you felt bad from the person? Tell us about it in the comments.
Films can be challenging in what they're trying to say, and if that challenge is too much to answer, don't feel bad for having to turn something off.
*The following article contains discussion of sexual assault.Reddit user, Elixir_Jx, wanted to know when a movie was just too much when they asked:
"What’s film is so brutal to watch you had to stop watching it?"
What reason would you have for stopping a movie before it finishes? The cinematography making you dizzy? The subject matter is too much for your to consider?
It'll vary, that's for sure.
"Animals Don't Behave Like Men"
"Watership Down."
"Hey, it's a cartoon, and it has bunnies!"
"Oh dear god..." eddyathome
Let's Climb High
"Not brutal, but I had to stop watching the doc Free Solo bc my blood pressure couldn’t handle the stress. This was early on when I had no knowledge of the climber and outcome."- NoCanadianCoins
Don't Listen To The Internet. It's Bad.
"Batman and Robin(1997)"- skippedad404
arnold schwarzenegger batman GIF by Coolidge Corner TheatreGiphyPerhaps it's the gore that forces you to turn it off, because watching someone being disemboweled for the umpteenth time in a film is not what you consider "entertainment."
Seems Like A Breach Of The Hippocratic Oath...
"I saw some French horror film about a nurse who went to some pregnant ladies house, tormented her, tortured her, then proceeded to cut open her belly with scissors to get the baby out."- DioramaDad
You Need To Pick Better "Family" Movies
"The Last House On The Left'."
"The rape scene in that movie was way too brutal for me to get through it."
"I can still picture scenes of it for some reason, that's how real and violent it felt."
"Didn't help that it was a movie that my family decided to watch together either."
"That said, we still tease my mom for picking that movie out as some weird shared trauma bonding experience all these years later."
"So maybe it wasn't a bad family movie after all????"- lastcallcarrot
Sound Makes Everything
"While I didn't stop watching, Bone Tomahawk was just..... jaezus"- wolf_of_thorns
Romantic Revenge With Pretty Dresses
"Midsommar - I think it's a psychological horror, I didn't stop watching but it was the most uncomfortable I have ever felt while watching a movie."
"The movie itself is very trippy and honestly disturbing."- Balderino
Whatever your reason for turning it off, trust your gut. If it's not giving you a good feeling, then maybe it's not the film for you.
There's A Message Buried Under All The Blegh
"a serbian film. awful sh-t"- tlep
A Movie About Kids. What Could Go Wrong?
"'Grave of the Fireflies'."
"One of the only movies I've ever stopped watching partway through."- Janube
A Grim View Of Our World
"Threads."
"The most terrifying movie I've ever seen about nuclear disaster."
"tl;dr it's not something you want to survive"- standrightwalkleft
The Good Guys Will Never Win
"Funny Games"- AVBforPrez
michael pitt yeah fun in the sun GIF by MauditGiphyNot for the audience the title might suggest
"Kids (1995)"
"Poor Jenny."- LETS_RETRO_TIME
Wrong Avatar film...
"'Avatar: The Last Airbender', the live action movie, it was horrible."- elnacrested
Liked what I saw, before I stopped watching...
"The Mummy."
"Disgusting movie in some parts, other than that it’s a lovely movie."- Standard_Zero_3152
The Mummy Jump Scare GIF by PeacockTVGiphyAs If I could actually sleep after watching it...
"This German or Austrian horror film…"
"I believe it was called 'Good Night, Mommy'."- Maester_Maetthieux
Way more than '13 reasons why' I couldn't keep watching it!
"13 reasons why."
"That sh*t had me in deep mental sh*t."- Environmental_Net672
Just too real
"Sleepers (1996)."
"It's not brutal in a gore/horror type way, but more in the way that the content itself is brutal."
"There's a lot of sexual assault and rape involving young boys, both implied and dramatized graphic depictions, physical abuse, etc."
"That was the first film I ever watched that made me physically ill and had night terrors over."
"I had to turn it off midway through because I couldn't handle it."- ohstrange
A classic the whole family can enjoy... or is it?
"At end of the year in first grade, my teacher brought in 'Labyrinth' as a treat."
"As a pretty sensitive 6 year-old, I freaked out in the first ten minutes when they steal the baby."
"I remember my teacher told me she needed help with something, and just sobbing and cutting construction paper into squares, obviously for no reason."
"I still haven't seen the movie."- madreburguesa
David Bowie GIFGiphySeriously, Who watches this stuff?
"'Martyrs'."
"It was just torture porn."- DukeMaximum
25 minutes is longer than many others made it...
"'The Human Centipede (2011)'."
"I was 25 minutes in."
"That was enough."
"'The Human Centipede'."
" 'THE HUMAN CENTIPEDE!...'"
"Yeah, not for me."- TheAlbeOne
Loved the first one, the sequel on the other hand...
"Not exactly brutal but I loved the first 'Maze Runner' movie."
"When the second one came out on DVD I was excited to watch it, however during the movie I got absolutely terrified of the zombie-like people with that disease."
"I had nightmares for days and now I refuse to watch it and the last one and even my family never watch it when I'm around."- Srosie18
Maze Runner Run GIF by 20th Century Fox Home EntertainmentGiphySummaries are there for a reason, people. Let's start reading them before we press play, especially when our families are in the room.
Was there a movie you turned off partway through? Tell us about it in the comments!
Every parent, most of the time, is trying to do the best job they can. Raising kids doesn't come with a mandatory handbook, so most decisions first-time, or even fourth-time, parents make come from their gut or from learned experience.
Is that experience always spot-on?
That's what we're here to figure out, reflecting on what our parents did to us and whether or not it worked.
How did your parents discipline you when growing up?
There are the classic "boomer" methods, shall we say, that get thrown around a lot. Sure, you could discipline your child like the following, but do you really want to take advice from the people giving it?
The Classic Debate
"Hitting me"
JedLeland
"I grew up that way too, I don't think it is a good way anymore. What do you think?"
tittybuttmagee
"I don’t know I’m 50. I grew up getting spanked. I spanked my boys to a much lesser degree. Maybe my family is evolving? The boys are 18-19 year old college students now. Amazing young men. Seems weird to look at them now and think I used to hit them."
TellumNevik
A Punishment Becomes A Blessing
"If I said something bad, I'd get my mouth rinsed out with Tabasco. Jokes on them, now I love hot sauce!"
perpetualmotionmachi
Nowhere To Go But Down
Constantly "grounded for life." They then wondered why I didn't listen, like what are you going to do, ground me for "double life?"
zachtheperson
Take The Time To Write Apologies
"I had my privileges taken from me (tv, phone, computer, car). Had to write some apology letters, only got spanked twice thanks to my Aunt crying and telling my mom that she hugs me with those hands how can she spank me with them?"
sprittytinkles69
Some methods are more subtle, like they're trying to punish you with the least amount of effort on their end but with maximum efficiency on yours.
Tugging On Your Heart Strings
"Catholic mom and Jewish dad; their weapon of choice was GUILT!!!"
destro23
"'I'm not angry, I'm just disappointed'"
Channel250
"Growing up in a Catholic household, my mother is still a pro at guilt tripping & I’m 28, a mother, & a homeowner…"
"Best one was her trying to brainwash me into thinking I’d be trapping my SO if we had another child before we get married…. even though my SO loves being a dad…."
"Yeah… her reasoning was always “I wAnT wHaT’s BeSt FoR yOu”
"Yeah no."
katmio1
Let Them Take It Out On Themselves
"They didn't. See when I do things that are wrong, I feel really bad about it. really bad. I'd punish myself more than my parents ever could. And they knew that ."
Sablemint
"Yep this was it for me too. I don't think my parents were the type to hit shame or scream regardless but I won't know now. A lot of the self loathing and problems turns out we're a result of undiagnosed ADHD."
-toge
You Can Get A Lot More Reading Done In This Time?
"The silent treatment"
"They wouldn't talk to my brother or me for hours or days at a time."
"To make it worse, they wouldn't tell us why they were upset, making us feel guilty for something we didn't understand."
Back2Bach
Know What's Going On In Your Child's Life, But Don't Be A Jerk About It
"My parents would look through all of my devices which gave me insane privacy issues. Even if I have nothing to hide I panic any time someone touches my phone. They also took my door down once which I think was f**ked up, punish your kid but don't take away their privacy, I'm of the belief it's a right."
screwtapeletters
A Good Balance Of Both
"I experienced both sides. I was spanked maybe 2 or 3 for serious stuff. But my parents were never crazy abusive. My mom was the disciplinarian while my dad was more chill. I was grounded when I did stupid things but I was also shown love, compassion and understanding. I remember when I was bullied in 6th grade and came home crying, my mom hugged me and let me cry all I want while stroking my hair."
Kaiser93
At its core, disciplining your child should be about showing them there are consequences for their actions. If you do something bad, something bad can happen to you.
Some parents take that concept and twist it, warping it into something so awful they miss the point completely.
...I Think You're Doing "Time Out" Wrong
"They put me in “time out” which meant they cornered me and screamed at me and filmed the whole thing. Usually 2-3 hour sessions."
Careless-Detective79
Unable Or Unwilling To Hold Back
"There was rarely discipline. It was usually straight up abuse. My parents didn't "cross" the line between discipline and abuse -- they pole vaulted over it, set in on fire, then threw it into the Grand Canyon."
rosesforthemonsters
What's The Point Of Any Of This?
"If I didn’t get beat, they would make me stand in front of a wall, about a foot away (the more mad they were, the farther I had to stand) and I’d have to touch my nose to the wall and lean there with my body weight on my nose. Usually for an hour or 2, the longest was 5. They would periodically check to make sure my nose was still in contact with the wall."
"If they got bored with that, I’d have to kneel in front of a closed door and put my nose in the keyhole, again, for a few hours. The keyhole was always underneath the handle so it f**ks up your neck."
"For a little spice they would take my bedroom door away as well as empty my room out except for my clothes and a mattress. Blankets may or may not be left."
WarmRainInMarch
Try talking to your kids first. Let that be the first step before you make any other decisions. Who knows? You might solve the problem then and there.
What ways did your parents discipline you? Do you think it worked? Tell us about it in the comments.
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