Redditor Nicole9391 wanted to hear about all of the things that send people running when they say hello for the first time, so they asked:
"What is an INSTANT turn off?"
I am always immediately turned off by people who don't listen.
Shut Up!
Fuck You Season 4 GIF by FriendsGiphy"When someone talks bad about their friends."
MarcelineVampQn
"Don’t talk about anyone behind their backs. If you are curious about something that’s okay but don’t say bad things about anyone even if you don’t like them."
wondafresh
'yeahyeahyeah'
"When someone asks you a question and you respond, they interrupt with 'yeahyeahyeah' and continue with their thought without taking anything you've just said into consideration."
"Why do people have a problem with just shutting the hell up and just listening for a second? Is your attention span that short?"
SuumCuique1011
"This is me, but because I have extremely short memory retention and cannot hold a thought for more than 10 seconds. I’m a great listener, but when I want to say something, I NEED to say it and quickly otherwise I’ll lose it and feel annoyed at myself for a few hours till I remember a week later."
DepressedPotato--
Economics
"Thinking people are below them. Not because of character or anything but individuals who just base their judgment on someone's socio economic situation etc. It's a big freaking turn off."
"Don't judge someone based on how much money they have, where they live etc. Judge them based on character."
"So yeah, definitely a**holes are a turn off lol."
TheTorontoExplorer
Be the Change
"Unwillingness to learn or change. Intellectually or emotionally, people who cannot admit that they are wrong or don't know something. And by extension, making sh*t up because they can't say 'I don't know.'"
DifferentShallot8658
"I can’t stand know-it-alls! Especially when you are more knowledgeable/qualified on a topic and nicely explain to them the facts and they brush you off!!! Haughty little sh*ts."
Affectionate-Car-317
Clean Up Corona GIF by Music ChoiceIf you can't have clean undies, just have none.
The Sign
Signs Zodiac GIF by HysteriaGiphy"A 'it’s because of my zodiac' woman."
"Yeah I remember once my friend was trying to guess my Zodiac (I’m an Aries) she swore I was a Leo I said no. Capricorn? No. Oh oh! Sagittarius! I was like yeah! She said I KNEW IT! (With a brief explanation) then I was like nah I'm An Aries.🤣🤣🤣"
JustXTE
Be Open
"Closed-minded people. Which there are a lot of. If you can’t have a nuanced discussion with someone then how can you connect with people? Being able to humor ideas and thoughts intellectually without being overly judge mental is a big turn on. And that doesn’t have to be someone who’s open minded about politics. I appreciate people who let conversations flow despite not sharing all the same opinions."
D_Ubird
Bad Mouth
"Really bad or unclean teeth for me. Once met a really cute girl at a dark bar/club and we went for food after. In the well lit restaurant she looked even better until she smiled and in the light I could see that her teeth were a sickly gray color with a weird film of gunk all over and stuff in the cracks of her teeth as well."
"Literally reminded me of the orcs from LOTR. Pretty sure it was either from bad dental hygiene or drug use, or both but I instantly felt nauseous. A few crooked teeth is normal but when your mouth looks like an anglerfish I'm out."
thestrandedmoose
Don't Breathe
"Poor hygiene in situations where you really shouldn't be displaying it. Sure, we all fart into our sweatpants and occasionally forget to brush the grease out of our hair at home, but going out and public and being gross is, well, gross."
agent-a**butt
Hell No!
No No No GIFGiphy"Smoking cigarettes Or just being rude for no reason. I don’t mind saying something slightly rude to be a joke and maybe it just isn’t funny. But if they are just rude for rudeness sake. Automatic no."
Zordon56
Just Flow
"Not having their own opinion always going with the flow Like I understand sometimes but always going with flow might just make you a boring person."
nahhomi
"I'm a go with the flow kind of person because I like very few things, dislike only a handful of things, and everything else I'm just indifferent towards. It's hard to have an actual opinion comparing two things you couldn't be bothered to care about one way or another."
"When I do have a preference, sure I'll put my two cents in, but I don't see the point when I don't care."
ShortManRob
What have we learned?
First impressions are everything!
Anything you'd like to add to the list? Let us know in the comment below.
Redditor Tebi1003 wanted to hear from everyone who has dabbled in the more than two sex realm, so they asked:
"[Serious] How would you react if your partner told you they want to try a threesome?"
Threesomes are not the best idea. Unless you're on the same page.
Stop Thinking
Think New Amsterdam GIF by NBCGiphy"Overanalyze it and eventually let my thoughts ruin my marriage."
Beard341
Pressure
"Did this with my ex & my pal on a wild night out. Ruined our relationship and my ex & my ex friend ended up being together, they have a kid together now (was about 12 years ago)."
"Probably wouldn’t do it again, never say never though If opportunity presents itself. Been with my current partner 10 years and neither of us are that bothered but have both had them before we met."
"As a guy, I’d honestly say it’s a bucket list for some of us (was for me) and wasn’t that great. Loads of pressure and my pal had a bigger d**k than me.
"Anyway, back to Harry Potter."
Geezer_Flip
Hate Her
"Had a girlfriend ask me this when I was about 20. I simply asked what her boundaries were and she showed jealousy from just that. I think she was trying to justify having sex with other men by allowing me to with another woman. I said no immediate and she cheated a few months later with someone in the friend circle."
F**k you Stephanie. You were a real c**t."
mfcfbro
The Squeeze
"I'm a guy, partners in the past have asked to have threesomes with girlfriends of theirs and I always say no. It ends up getting messy and jealousy creeps in. I have had them before and everytime after the dust has settled it always comes up in an argument."
"'I saw how you were looking at her' - 'you were really enjoying yourself' - 'you don't enjoy yourself with me like you did with her' - 'I bet you want to sleep with her again don't you.'"
"The juice isn't worth the squeeze for me."
SakeBomberman
Basics
Bedtime Threesome GIF by PantayaGiphy"If I wanted to disappoint 2 people at the same time I would just call my parents."
Foggy_Prophet
It's all gonna be a letdown.
No Thanks
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphy"I’m bi, but I still don’t play with that sh*t. Not if I’m in a serious relationship. It would be a massive red flag in my book, especially if they already had a person lined up or in mind. Now if I had someone I didn’t really have a romantic attachment to make this offer, maybe. Like if it was just a FWB."
lobster-overrun
Just Shut Up
"My first husband would not stop talking about his burning need for a FFM threesome."
"It got so bad that i hesitated to even have female friends because he would start 'hypothetically talking about us seducing her.'"
"He legit would not STFU about it, even though I said no about 1000 times. Yes, I dumped his a**. Then he moved back in with his mama."
Outside-Flamingo-240
Fantasies
"We talk about this a lot, tbh. However, I don't think it will ever go beyond sexy fantasies because that's a bell you can't unring. One person is always going to like it more than the other and I would imagine that it causes problems more often than not. Having said that, it sure is fun to talk about."
motormouth08
Remix
"I honestly would need to discuss details. I need to know if she genuinely just wants to mix things up or if there's an underlying sexual dissatisfaction with our relationship."
"If she wants to mix things up and explore more of her own sexuality, I'll keep an open mind and we'll discuss boundaries."
"If there is a sense of dissatisfaction going on in the relationship, then it's time to be honest and find out if it's something that can be fixed or if it's time to break up."
YoureInMyWaySir
SURPRISE!!
Joe Biden Shock GIF by GIPHY NewsGiphy"First, I would be very, very surprised. My wife is very socially anxious and gets nervous around other men. She's never expressed any interest whatsoever in other women. Second, I'd be down for it, as long as there was some serious communication and boundary sharing ahead of time."
Behind_A_Facade
Sometimes sex is more drama than we need it to be.
Redditor cigarandcreamsoda wanted to discuss house rules. So they asked:
"What is a non-negotiable rule in your house for everyone?"
Rule #1 in my home... you MUST be able to listen to Adele.
That is all.
Clear the Way
GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy"Don't put stuff on the stairs. Almost died once. Never again!"
kaidomac
"Same with the burners on the stove when not cooking. Too many grown adults were slapping flammable things on it like it was a coffee table."
ki113r116
Shame
"The one rule in my dad’s house is one that he won’t tell you: don’t poop in the upstairs bathroom. The shame of having to ask him for a plunger is just not worth it."
goshpenny
That’s us with the downstairs bathroom. My parents only replaced the one upstairs when they bought the house. The one downstairs is old af and cheap as hell so it’s not gonna flush your logs. My cousin found out the hard way once and flooded the bathroom in the middle of the night."
Kyubey4Ever
Stay Empty
"One side of the kitchen sink stays empty! We have one of those two-basin stainless sinks and it drives me absolutely bonkers when I have to remove and stack dishes just to get water to make coffee in the morning."
Rokhnal
"I grew up with an empty sink and one side of the counter was where dirty dishes got stacked. My wife declared this abnormal and that dirty dishes had to live in the (one-hole) sink."
eljefino
"My roommates are constantly amazed at how little space dirty dishes take up on the counter when they're rinsed and stacked properly."
RokhnalPrivacy
"Knock first! Bathroom, bedroom or study room. Knocking is a slowly forgotten art of respect."
karmawhobiiih
"Totally. We don't lock any inside doors (in case something happens to you and someone needs to get in for help), so we enforce the knock and wait for the ok to enter. We do it when we want to go into my son's room too. He deserves privacy and respect like us as his parents do."
ginan385
Be Gracious
The Loud House Food GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"Help cleaning up the dishes after a meal is graciously appreciated. But, don’t even think about putting my knives or pans in the dishwasher. I will happily hand wash them myself."
PeachPreserves66
Don't be lazy. Clean a DISH!
No Feed
lunch dog cooking GIFGiphy"Don’t feed my dogs, anything. I don’t care how cute they are looking at you."
stickystarz
"fish, fish"
"Don't tap on the aquarium glass."
Kangaroodle
"I had a big aquarium and I actually trained my fish to all congregate at one spot by tapping on an area when it was feeding time and saying 'fish, fish.' Now whenever I need them to be in a particular spot I just tap to wherever I want them to be and because they associate tapping with treats or feeding time, they don't find it scary or stressful. Visitors also love to see me call my fish over by simply tapping and/or saying 'fish, fish.'"
Creative_Recover
Clothes On!
"Minimum pants (underwear) at the dinner table. Remarkably something you have to enforce quite often with small children."
Capable-Dream6768
"My nephews, were they were little, would let you know they were done eating by stripping right there at the table lol. No warnings. That was their way to let us know they were ready for a bath lol."
jdbrizzi91
Pranks
"Don't f**k around with someone when they are asleep. If someone is asleep, they're off limits, no messing with/pranks and no waking up without good reason. It wasn't until talking to my friends who had siblings who would pile things on them, move the bed, wake them up in the middle of the night (just general sibling hijinks) And realized how important the 'leave sleeping family members alone' was in our house growing up."
Yaboijustlikesgoats
Be CLEAN!
Disagree Clean It Up GIF by NOW WE'RE TALKING TV SERIESGiphy"If you pee on the toilet seat clean it up!!!
"I am a single parent with 2 boys, I know I'm not the one peeing on the toilet seat but apparently they don't either."
Southern_Anything_39
Your house, your rules! The end!
What are some rules you grew up with or enforce in your home or apartment today? Let us know in the comments.
Redditor nojunkpeter wanted to hear about why people will only use the cashiers when shopping. So they asked:
"People who refuse to use self-checkouts, why?"
I don't hate the self-checkout. I use it when I have to.
It's not the worst.
Leftovers
online grocery GIF by WalmartGiphy“Unexpected item in the bagging area.” EVERY.TIME."
Xtraolives
"It seems like Walmart doesn’t give a fu**. You don’t have to put anything in the bagging area. They’re probably just happy that someone is even trying to pay."
Chairish
Damn PLUs...
"Looking up produce."
sofloOakley
"I was rockin' Wegmans Shop 'n Scan until they took it away. Remember 4-digit PLU, place produce on one of many scales in the produce section and enter code, scan with phone."
"Bag as you shop, scan barcode at self-scan checkout, tap Google Wallet, done."
"Even with Shop 'n Scan gone, those same scales can still print stickers to affix to your produce, for a simple scan at checkout."
Murph-Dog
50/50
"I'll use them both. It depends on the lines, how many items I have, my current mood, the moon phase, etc."
tubbis9001
"Ditto. If I have a few things, sure. But regular cashiers are way, way faster at scanning and bagging than I am."
DrOctopusMD
"Same. My only goal is to pay for my shi* and leave asap. 99.9% of the time it's faster for me to do it myself instead of waiting for someone making minimum wage to do it for me. Not that I blame them but yeah."
elmonstro12345
Quickly...
"I live in Germany, our cashiers are 10x faster than I could ever do it. Every. Single. Time."
mage_irl
"Going to the grocery store in Germany is a lot like going to the airport. You make sure you stand behind someone you think can bag their groceries faster than the other line."
Frank_Black_Swan
"Same for me in the US. I'm assuming OP just eats a ton of processed food because I hate the idea of looking up and weighing a bunch of produce when the cashier knows the product codes off the top of their head."
Starfishpr1me
Talk to Me
couple hug GIFGiphy"I like the human interaction. I work in tech and deal with shi**y computer systems all day, I don’t want to be served by a robot after work as well."
"Just a little banal small talk with someone who isn’t a techy colleague or wants me to fix something is a most minor highlight, but a highlight nonetheless."
ShadyAidyX
People connecting has always been an important part of life. And it's disappearing.
Difficulty
infomercial movement GIFGiphy"I have a bad back and there just seems to be more reaching and lifting because I find it just more physically difficult."
Fluffy_Caterpillar42
Loaded
"If it's a few items, then sure. But usually I got a full shopping cart. Those self check out machines have weighted bagging areas so that it knows what you've scanned. A full shopping cart is way too big to load all my items on to that bagging area. Inevitably I'll need to move a bag back into my cart, causing the machine to freeze up. Often multiple times."
nowhereman136
Where's my paycheck?
"I don’t work for the place I’m shopping. This is exactly how I feel every time I’m in a Walmart. Billion dollar company decided to make shoppers scan their own groceries - seems like a really clever way to avoid paying more employees."
"They had so many people complaining about the checkout process the length of lines were a priority."
"Now there’s so much self checkout it’s not their problem we’re all slow."
"And it’s insulting to me that I can’t buy alcohol at the self checkout kiosks, usually they don’t ID me anymore."
dotcubed
Different Positions
"I work at a grocery store and know the cashiers, I wouldn't want to put them out of a job. Even though they're on autopilot, standing still and doing the same thing for hours, that little human interaction makes life just a little less alienating."
Finn1sher
"It’s nice to have someone else bag too. I was staunchly in the self-checkout gang for years until I just wasn’t feeling it one day."
"Now my wife and I go through the aisles if we have a lot of groceries or are just tired. One or two items I find convenient to run through and throw in an old tote bag in self checkout, but if you’re bringing home a ton of groceries it’s just way more satisfying and quicker to go through a cashier/bagger."
Unsounded
Nope
Steve Austin Celebration GIFGiphy"Waiting half an hour for someone to go by and approve my beer purchase? No, thanks."
Straight-Difficulty3
In the end, it also takes away jobs. No one mentioned that.
Redditor jagaraujo wanted to hear about the times asking for a hand in marriage didn't go as planned:
"Men of reddit who proposed and she said no, what happened afterwards with your life?"
Sometimes not getting a yes is the worst.
Sometimes it's the best.
POP
Propose Marry-Me GIF by IMDbGiphy"As a woman who was engaged and the proposal was later revoked, it still stings a little 11 years later. When you're sure you're with the love of your life, losing them can really pop a hole in your life plans."
TheKruszer
Three Times
"My mother told my father no three times. On the third time he got wasted at a local bar and basically started pouring his heart out to any one who’d listen. Mind you, it’s a very small village in the Italian alps and my father barely spoke Italian and no one in the village spoke English, including my mother."
"Word got back to my mom about this sad American at the bar so she went to find him and she told him she’d marry him. My parents celebrated their 44th anniversary last month."
PazzaCiccio
Lovers
"She was an Art Major and I had just joined the Army. We had been lovers since high school. I asked, she said no. She wanted to get her Masters. We were friends for a while but we don’t talk anymore. She works as a bartender I think now. I ended up getting married to my best friend. We’ve been married for more than a decade and have a five year old son."
FeloniousFelon
When in Peru
"Oh I have a story about this."
"My friend A had been with his girlfriend B for years, so he decided he wanted to propose. What he didn't know, is that B was also thinking about proposing to him."
"A proposed first, and B freaked out because she had already set her proposal and bought a ring, so she said no. Over the next week, B freaked out more and more, and refused to answer A's calls and messages."
"A then decided to use the money he had saved up to buy a plane ticket to Europe. What was supposed to be a 3 month trip through western Europe turned out to be a year long trip around the world."
"One day, A says that he's coming back and B decides to go and wait for him at the airport and propose to him there. It turns out that while being in Peru, A met a girl and they fell in love almost immediately, and got married in Peru."
"Cue 5 years later, A and his Peruvian wife are still happily married and recently had a baby, while B hasn't still quite forgiven herself for ruining her relationship with A."
ThePeasantKingM
Bye
bye bye goodbye GIFGiphy"I never saw her again. Less than a year later I met my wife. We've been together 15 years."
Redpoint77
Peace out and goodbye.
Next time Wendy's...
burger king love GIFGiphy"My husband asked 3 times in the span of a couple months. We had dated for 3 years. He was ready, i wanted to graduate college first."
"Also: don't 'propose' by handing your SO a ring while you're both in the car on the way to Burger King. I'm low maintenance, but put some thought into it."
Exploding_Muffin
Germany
"We met in her home country of Germany while I was traveling. I knew I was in love. We dated long distance for a while. Me flying to Europe. Her flying to the US. I suggested marriage so we could be together. She said no a few times. I didn't press. But I was patient and not being pushy. I knew she was worth the wait."
"Then it hit her that's how we could be together. If we got married, we could live in a country together. The difficulties of being born on a different patch of dirt. A few years later, I'm still married to my best friend and living with her in Germany. Not all no's stay no. Life goes on."
elubow
25 years later
"My dad proposed to a woman who said no. My dad was a violent alcoholic and she said she couldn’t be with him unless he got clean. Took him a little while, but he did it. He wound up meeting my mom through a match maker and they’ve been married 25 years."
"If that woman never said no to him, he never would have gotten clean. It was the lowest point in his life. But it all brought him to my mom who makes him happier than ever."
"My dad talks to her sometimes. She got married to someone else and they had a son who died from a medical condition."
calculust_
“Maybe”
"Dated a woman for over two years and popped the question. First time she said 'I don’t know.' A couple months later I asked her again, she said 'Maybe.' I was pretty bent out of shape. But then I found out she was sleeping with several of my friends so I dodged a bullet there really."
gardibolt
"Damn dude I’m sorry about your 'friends.' Genuine sh*t bags of people to knowingly sleep with your girl. I hope you find better friends."
send-good-memes-pls
Happily Ever After
The Princess Bride Marriage GIFGiphy"We lived together for another six years until she changed her mind and told me that I should ask again. We were engaged for over a year and got married in 1991. We are still married, have three children, and are both still very much in love."
h2f
Sometimes love is not meant to be.
What will be will be.