Redditor 040607AJF wanted all the guys out there to share how they "feel" so they asked:
"Men of Reddit, what is something f**ked up that you're supposed to be okay with because you're a man?"
Gents, it's time to start healing and growing.
Go to sleep
Switch Off Good Night GIF by GunmaunofficialGiphy"Having sex whenever she's in the mood. And if I say no she thinks something wrong with her so you get pressured into doing it so she won't be mad or feel sad."
dabbiedabbiedoo
Grief
"30 year old male from India. Lost my dad 20 days back in an accident Relatives and well wishers spend time talking and pacifying mom/sister and listen to them with patience. To me before they leave- 'Now it's your responsibility to take care of your mom/sister' and nothing else."
"What about my grief of losing a parent? How do I handle it? Who is going to pacify me? Who listens to me? Without support from my wife and my friends, I could have gone insane the way people expect me to treat grief."
pgaravindhsf
Red Flags
"Depression and loneliness, as much as I wish I could say the support gotten better it hasn’t. I see the 'mens mental health awareness month' bulls**t all over social media for a day once a year but then nobody speaks about it. Being depressed or saying you’re lonely can often be seen as a cry for attention or a 'red flag' for partners."
"People on social media think posting some picture of 'We need to support our men in the world!' Is going help, it doesn’t. If you legitimately care about the men in your life’s mental health please reach out to them and ask how they’ve been. Don’t compare to them and don’t undermine them just understand them. It does so much for them."
Senior-Place-7627
“figure it out”
"The fact that a lot of men have no guidance and are supposed to just figure s**t out or just know yet people will treat you like s**t for not knowing."
DeepTalkTv
"When I was younger I was always told to 'figure it out' cause I’m a man. Every time I needed help whether it be homework, a flat tire, or something I genuinely needed help with like applying for college/fafsa I was turned away because it was my problem. Now if any family needs my help I’m demonized if I say no. Like wtf man I was taught not to bother y’all why are y’all bothering me?!?"
Mountain_Ad1797
911
Role Playing Reaction GIF by Hyper RPGGiphy"You can ask for my help, but I can't ask for yours."
spenser1994
Leave me be...
"Some women should understand that men can be 'not in the mood' as well. I don't know why many people think that men will never say 'no.' I saw many on Twitter, sadly both men and women, thinking that men are these cartoonish wolves that will start salivating and have their eyes turn into hearts when anyone mentions the word 'sex.'"
Inevitable_Count_370
Out of the Norm
"Getting weird judgment from others for not conforming to the ‘traditional’ male role in a marriage or family. My wife is a highly driven genius, makes a great living, and loves what she does. I’m full time in the arts, and I’m not completely dependent on her, but I don’t have traditional employment or make a lot of money."
"I’ve had people in my life (especially older people) throw shade at me for not being ambitious enough or not having a real career. But together we’re doing much better than okay, and I’m probably gonna be the main caretaker when/if we have kids. I feel that if she were a man and I were a woman, nobody would question it at all."
LovesRefrain
Mind Games
"We aren't taught how to deal with emotions. (Mental health too)."
"I'm not advocating for men to be super-soft emotional wrecks, or to cry five times a week. But man I wish I knew I wasn't 'wrong' or 'weak' or 'avoiding becoming a man' just because I was sad, depressed, anxious and trying to deal with past events."
Maestroifuplz
"So many women in my lifetime have acted like I’m not a strong guy because I show emotion. I have a big heart and I’m not going to change that for anyone. But I’ve had relationships take an immediate downturn when I showed any kind of sensitive side."
Gamur
A New Leaf
Bradley Cooper Teacher GIF by Legendary EntertainmentGiphy"That If I ever finish my AA and teach preschool that I’ll be seen as a threat to children."
bahardesty
"I have known two men attempt to enter the teaching profession. My advice is don't! It really is not worth your time."
raceAround126
Oh gents, we all still have a long way to go.
Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.
Curious to hear examples of what sets people off, Redditor Obese-Feline asked:
"What is a small insignificant thing that makes you really mad?"
New tech can be very cool, but sometimes, our lives can be complicated because of it.
Password Fail
"My password failing 3x, the site requiring me to create a new password, and then when I choose the password I just tried, the site says I 'can't use the current password.'"
"Infuriating."
– AtheneSchmidt
Tricky Ads
"When you’re trying to click something on a webpage and an ad pops up between the moment your brain tells your thumb to apply pressure and your finger touches the screen."
– Uniqueisha
"When the ads on a YouTube video don't buffer but the actual video does."
– GengarIsLife
Bathroom Ineptitude
"Showers with confusing hot/cold handles. Automatic bathroom faucets that dont register your hand/motion."
– Latter-Ad6779
Conditional Environmentalism
"In the same vein - when bathrooms only have those disgusting air hand dryers that don’t even dry your hands. They’re so unsanitary. And then you have to touch the bathroom door handle with wet hands."
"Businesses will be so wasteful and not give a single f'k about the environment in any other way, but suddenly when it comes to providing paper towels to dry your hands, they’re all save the trees."
– KATEWM
The Auto-Preview
"Netflix...the way it just starts playing the preview or clip of whatever's on the screen. I don't know why but it irritates the hell out of me. I just want to browse in peace."
– ethottly
Our negligence can humble us right quick.
Caught Unawares
"When I walk past a door and my belt loop or clothing gets caught on the handle."
"1-100 real quick."
– GSG_2022
Wrong Pipe
"Taking a sip of water and choking on it. The next 2 hours of coughing and clearing my throat are just MAGICAL."
– AuroraMeridian
The Detour
"Leaving work only wanting to go home, and noticing I have to spend extra time getting gas."
– BrandanMentch
The things others do can be a real pet peeve.
Thanks For The Signal. Or Not
"people not using turn signals."
– Rainn_boww13
"Just 15 minutes ago I was impressed that a cab driver used his left signal at a 4-way stop so I figured I could cross safely on my side of the street."
"Naw, he just drove straight through and nearly hit me, not making any use of his left turn signal."
– Prize_Guest
Grocery Parking Etiquette
"When someone parks next to the grocery cart return area but doesn't put up their grocery cart."
"I'm like, two more steps and one small push and you're literally done with the cart. I don't get it."
– Twisted_NaeNae
Annoying Favors
"Someone telling me to do something when I was just about to do it. It’s childish but it pisses me off so much lol."
– rapey_chef
I can't stand it when people willingly do the things that annoy them.
Like boarding the subway before commuters get off at their stop. They'll block the doorway to give themselves the advantage of getting a seat on the train.
When I'm in a rush and a pathway isn't open for me and the stream of other straphangers also rushing to debark behind me, I'm this close to using my elbow instead of my voice to warn door guards to clear the way.
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