Kids can really be cruel. Why is that? Simple answer, because adults don't know any better. Bullying is a learned behavior and it's time for parents to step up.
As much as we discuss bullying out in the open nowadays, it still seems like an enormous amount of kids are suffering.
We definitely have social media to thank for that. Too many people have access to easy ways to spew their hate and vitriol.
Let's hear some stories...
Redditor FarSheepherder3880 wanted to hear from the survivors of bullies, they asked:
"What did you get bullied for?"
I was bullied a lot as a child. There were an endless amount of reasons; none that matter, because none of it is justified.
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"Being quiet." ~ YoucefBtw
"This one. c ~ rebelwildheart
"Fatness." ~ -SonOfHam-
"Being 300+ in high school was rough. It was either: making fun of me for it, or assuming I was someone who was strong. I was neither, just a shy kid who liked cars and got fat because of health reasons and stress. Misery. Honestly. If there's one thing that everyone should avoid, it's being extremely overweight. It ruins so much of your life." ~ Saaaaaaaaab
I was in 5th grade...
"Well… I got beat up in the bathroom because some kids asked who my dad voted for and I said George W. Bush. I guess that wasn't the right answer. I was in 5th grade. I had no idea who my dad voted for. I barely knew what an election was. George Bush was just the only name I remembered hearing about on TV. Probably why 20 years later I really, really hate politics." ~ 4d3d3d3__Engaged
"How I looked, what I wore and what I liked (Harry Potter, etc). Class of 2008 here and I've only gotten one apology from one of the people that bullied me." ~ horsetrek
"I'll admit, I was a bit of a bully in school and a lot of times I've wanted to reach out to people and apologize. The only thing stopping me is that maybe they've moved on from it and that I'm better off as just a past memory to them." ~ Zeldaaaaaaaaa
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"Red hair. More specifically, being a male with long and red hair." ~ on-the-h
Why can't we just let people be people? Is it internalized hate or psychopathy? I don't even want to know.
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"Used to get bullied for being "poor." I was a middle class kid in a middle class town that bordered a rich town where I went to school." ~ placeholderNull
"In elementary school because I was filthy (I was severely neglected) and in my teenage years because I had crooked teeth and was told I was ugly and disgusting (the hygiene thing sorted itself out when I got older and managed to uphold routines on my own). I've been an adult for a long time now and shower daily, have a very neat apartment - and I still feel like I am dirty and filthy." ~ Actual_grass
"Introverted and loving to read. Also just because I wasn't in the A group, but my younger sister and cousin were. Imagine being bullied by your own sister and it never stopped, not even at home." ~ Thin-Union-7712
"That sucks. I remember a bully of mine was a friend of my big sisters, the bully talked about me negatively to her once with a group of the bullies friends. It's not the same as what you've been through, but it was still horrible. I can't imagine what it felt like to be in your situation where you had it worse." ~ JaySkopezz
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"Being new at school." ~ decentralizedgear
"Hey, everyone, let's go and pick on the new kid school! I never understood this mentality. You see it a lot in movies and I just don't know why." ~ PapaTwoToes
Don't let the bullies get you down. It gets better. Just keep breathing...
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Bullies suck! Why so you have to be cruel? What do you gain from it? At any age, trying to crush another person is so wrong. And coming from someone who was relentlessly bullied, I know of which I speak. So much of the time it feels like ALL the bullies in life seem to pounce for no concrete rhyme or reason. Not that there is ever a good reason to bully, but more often than not, they leave us with a big ole "WHY?" And some inflictions seem really dumb.
Redditor u/likeistoleyourbike wanted to discuss the people who decided to make everyone's lives more difficult, but in odd ways, by asking:
What's the most ridiculous thing you were bullied over and what prompted the bullying?
Is it how I look? Dress? Speak? Walk? Is it my love for Madonna or that I like tuna fish? If they had just explained I would've adjusted. But then I wouldn't be me...
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"Because I was listening to music in a school break, like literally. I can't listen to music??"
"I got crap for eating cottage cheese. Actually, that one had followed me into adulthood. People just really, really hate the concept of cottage cheese."
"Edit: 250 updoots for my cheesy childhood struggles. In retrospect, I should have realized that my reflections about how many adults are irritated by cottage cheese would only be confirmed tenfold by commenters on the internet. I have played myself."
"I was bullied in middle school because I'm the first kid in school that had 120s crayola. It was an all rich catholic school and I was known to be the 'poor kid' and they didn't like the fact my grandma could get me that much crayolas lol."
"Got bullied for being fat AFTER I lost 16kg over the summer. At the time I was 5'4 and 59kg, definitely not fat and the kids who bullied me all weighed more than me. My classmates were dumb."
"One time in 3rd grade I farted really loud during silent reading time. Some kid nicknamed me Fartacus, and it stuck for the rest of elementary school."
Who is angry at people loving music? Anger is all manifestation. But getting into the anger source of bullies will keep us here all year. Just keep reading...
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"I was bullied because my dad died. Kids can be cruel."
"Being respectful to the bully's dad. He started bullying me after that, when I stood up for myself he said 'I know I can't take you in a fight so I'll just stab you!' and showed me the knife."
"My "friend" in the 4th grade showed me his new switchblade and held it to my throat. He also taught me how to smoke e-cigarettes when they were hot crap (early 2010's). In hindshight he wasn't a very good friend."
"My older brother was a chunky kid, didn't really do sports or activities unless forced. So around the time he was in 5th grade, he was being bullied and called "Jumbo-Jack" after the burger at Jack In The Box. His name is also Jack, so it worked. The younger kids picked on him too for it. Then when I started on the bus, they started picking on me, calling me "Jumbo Junior" even though as a kid I was skinny and athletic. Didn't matter to them."
"That you can't see my upper eye lids easily when my eyes are open. They just get kinda shoved under my eyebrows and hidden out of the way. I was called a freak and a mutant. For having hooded eyes. I don't even."
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"I have a cat without a whole tail, yea they made fun of me cuz of my cat. Life can be weird."
No rhyme, no reason... there is the theme of it all. That is good to know, would've loved to known sooner. Be kind everybody, we all need it.
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