Parents Describe The Worst Thing They Ever Confiscated From Their Kid
Parents often seem like super heroes juggling all that life gives them.
Some parents work while raising little ones, some are raising kids as a single parent, some parents are full time parents.
Regardless of the situation, parents can watch their kids like hawks and still they manage to get into things that parents never thought they would.
We went to AskReddit to hear from parents on what the worst thing their kids got into that they had to confiscate.
Redditor Slik2665 asked:
"Parents of Reddit: What is the worst thing you have seen/confiscated from your child?"
Some of the things in this list were funny, but others were down right dangerous.
A small tin.
"My two year old ran up to me with a small tin she found on the playground. I opened it up and found some meth."
- killerqueen5
"Woah, I’m so glad she found that and brought that to you, I could only imagine if a kid found that and didn’t bring it to their parents like your daughter did."
- montananhooman
All she wanted was a sister.
"I had to take an axe off my 6 year-old daughter because she was fed up with having two brothers and wanted to get rid of one so she could have a sister."
"She's now 32 and hates me reminding her about it."
- bertiebastard
"The next time I see a 6 year old I'm sprinting."
- Creeper_LORD44
"She was like something out of a horror movie dragging a huge axe behind her."
- bertiebastard
The tantrum even scared the police.
"So, my oldest son, until we finally found a doctor and the right medication, was very difficult. You've seen that condom commercial with the kids who wants candy and the Dad in the shop?"
"Think that, but over, well, anything. Doesn't want to go to bed? Screaming fit. Doesn't like what's on TV, screaming fit. He's cold? Screaming fit. You try to put extra clothes on him because he's cold? Screaming fit. He doesn't want a bath? Screaming fit. He doesn't want to get out of the bath? Screaming fit."
"He was also violent. He'd scratch, hit, bite, throw things, etc. Even when he wasn't upset, sometimes he'd do it just because he thought it was funny to see someone in pain. I have a twin set of scars on my rear from him copying a cartoon and stabbing me with a barbecue fork."
"It should be noted, we never gave into these tantrums. They'd end when he got tired or when he got distracted or when his own tantrum gave him a headache, so it's not like he was getting rewarded and incentivized for them."
"So, because of these, we regularly got visits from Child Protective Services. Hearing a child scream like that several times per day the neighbors were understandably concerned."
"On one of these visits after yet again confirming that there were no marks on him and seeing video we took off how the process went (he demands something unreasonable, we say no, he erupts) we're standing in the front lawn with the CPS rep and two Sheriff's when he runs out of the house at the Sheriffs with a chefs knife in his hand raised over his head. He runs between me and his mom and I snatched the knife right out of his hand with him still running by. His mom then grabs him and he starts struggling, clawing and biting."
"The Sheriff's were shaken and dumbfounded by how quickly and calmly we did it. They also came into the house to see how he'd stacked furniture to get to the knife block on top of the fridge. And seeing as how they'd been with us the entire time and gone in the kitchen themselves before going outside, they knew he'd done it himself."
"After that they never bothered coming out again."
- Emperor_Cartagia
"I really can't comprehend how good of a parent you are having a child like that will make me go insane."
- wally_north
"I'm am far from perfect, but I do my best."
- Emperor_Cartagia
A zip lock bag.
"Not me, but brother-in-law found my nephew with a zip lock full of warm urine. The 6 year old claimed he was using it as a hand warmer. I just find stuff my klepto 5yr old steals from daycare."
- TCtheThunderRooster
"My mom found 5 of my brothers in a circle outside, they don't usually get along so she knew something was up. They had a bag of pee, they all contributed, and were trying to light fires with it (like using a magnifying glass with sunlight). Apparently they saw it on some kind of survivor man show."
- ambereatsbugs
"I feel like you could have tested this with regular water instead."
- journalissue
She liked the taste.
"My daughter decided that she likes the taste of spiders for a while, so we had to keep her away from spiders other wise she would eat them, those were fun times."
- DMWv1
"I'm crying from laughing. I'm so sorry. I'm just imaging you pleading with the spiders to leave for their own good. Meanwhile your daughter is running around eating them."
- wheres_mayramaines
Kids are gross.
"When my brother was a baby he and our mom were playing outside when she got a call. She left to answer the phone and when she returned my bro had taken his diaper off and was playing in it. Horrified, my mom went to get him and he grabbed a handful of his shit, held it up to her and proclaimed 'muuuud!'"
"Later on when he was 6 or 7 he found a rubber bracelet in the road. He put it on and was so proud of his new bracelet. He wore that thing for half a day until he had to use the bathroom so he went inside. Remembering his new found piece of jewelry he went to show my mom who immediately recognized what it was. Someone driving down our street had thrown a used condom onto the road that my brother found after it had been run over a few times."
- WhenThePiecesFit
"This reminds me of when I found a set of acrylic fingernails scattered across a playground, I was horrified because at the time I thought someone's fingernails had actually fallen off their hands."
- trebaol
It's not what you thought it was for.
"Once my dad find a old rusty box cutter in my drawers, he start shouting with me because he thinks that I was using to self harm, but I was using for open candy packing."
- vaa_10
"Think your kid is having suicidal thoughts and/or self-mutilating actions? Yeah, yelling at them will help."
- MattKitten11
She wanted to escape.
"My car keys, a USB charger, and some change in my 2 year old's little backpack (she was planning an escape I guess). I couldn’t drive my car for a week and had been just about to tow it to the dealer to have a key made. Little sh*t."
- ExactPea9707
"She had enough of your sh*t and was leaving."
- Total_Ansh
Adult juice.
"It wasn’t in my kids possession yet, but one of the neighbor kids brought over “juice” for everyone. They were segrims whine coolers. The 6 year old had already had one. Turns out their mom bought them for them thinking they were juice and she was so embarrassed. They’re from another country and the box it came in really makes it look like juice."
- Dre6485
"A family we knew made homemade root beer and accidentally brewed it too long, their baby got a little tipsy."
- SgtVinBOI
Weird toothpaste
"When my sister was young, I told her to go brush her teeth before we left to go home because we were at our grandmother's and I knew it would be too late for her and she wouldn't do it once we actually made it there haha..."
"Well anyway, she comes out with the toothbrush in her mouth and said this toothpaste grandma has does not taste good at all and I walked over to see what it was and it was vagisil cream not toothpaste lmao"
- Jmee5
A Cigar?
"Not my kid but when I was a kid."
"Family was at the house. My grandmother suddenly asks why my sister who was running around the backyard has a cigar."
"It was dog sh*t. In her mouth."
- mills1127
Bury The Skull
"When I was maybe 6 or seven I was at the playground with my friend and both parents. While messing around me and my friend found a heroine pipe in the shape of a skull that had been used and buried in the wood chips and we thought it was some sort of pen? I’m not sure why."
"Then we brought it to show to my parents and they didn’t explain what it was but just told us to go bury it again and after that we left."
- lagunamk22
The one Fake knife
"I’m was the child in this situation, (I’m about to turn 31 at the end of the month,) but last time I went to go visit my parents, I found this plastic switchblade I had from some Halloween costume as a kid in a cup with pens and markers and other random stuff on a junk storage shelf in a closet."
"I laughed and asked my mom why she still had it, and she told me she didn’t know it was fake and found it in my room as a kid and was very concerned that I had a dangerous, illegal, weapon.”
"Switchblades were/are illegal in that state I grew up in."
"I was a rebellious emo kid so I could see why she’d be concerned, but it was legit probably from a Spirit Halloween store or like Walmart. It's not even remotely convincing as real lol"
"It’s also funny because I had probably at least 3 real pocket knives."
- martashirt
Tiny Hitchcock
"We once woke up around 5 in the morning to our then daughter of two years, standing next to our bed, claiming: 'Mommy, look, I found the glittery knife!' "
"We immediately knew what knife she was talking about: a 25cm, glittery grip, pointy double tip, multi purpose kitchen knife she had somehow rummaged out of a drawer."
"But even if we failed to recognize it from the description, we'd have known it from the way she was holding it over her head, in perfect Hitchcockian pose, pointing at my wife... I've never seen my wife fully awake THIS FAST. "
- davil-the-devil
A Fancy Pen
"My step-son… 9yo… he is so sweet and helpful. He brought me a 'pen' he found in the trash can in the bathroom. He thought it was thrown away by mistake."
"Such a genuine smile and happy to be helping me recover what was obviously a very fancy pen! Would have been awful if it was gone for good!"
"I quickly grabbed it from him and told him 'Don’t touch anything. Go wash your hands really really good. WITH SOAP!' ”
"Had to explain to him that the 'pen' was a part of a special kind of 'bandaid' that ladies sometimes have to put inside their bodies. He is very curious and will not take 'I’ll tell you when you’re older' as an answer."
"Really interesting conversation with his mother later…"
"He brought me a used tampon applicator. God I love that kid."
- sinskins
Spider friends
"When my sister was about 3-4 years old, she would run to her room to play with her “friends”. My mum had figured she had an imaginary friend, until the day she walked into the room to play with her and found she was having a tea party with a dozen or so Redback spiders."
- Elsy8
Faces are flammable
"My son is very tall for his age and he could reach the counter tops by the time he was 2 (not see anything on them, but could put a grubby little hand up on top)."
"Well my husband and I , not used to having to shove stuff on the countertops back further yet, left a blow torch we used to make creme brulee on the edge of the counter."
"I turn around to find my son as I heard him come into the kitchen and when I turned around again I had to watch in slow motion as he looked into the head of the torch (like you would a kaleidoscope) and squeezed the trigger."
"Thankfully my reflexes kicked in and I was able to swat it away from his face and on the ground, probably milliseconds from lighting his whole damn face on fire....I had to use my inhaler after that one, almost had a panic attack."
- MrsShort
Thank goodness these parents were able to get their hands on some of the more dangerous materials their kids got into.
Luckily, no one in these stories got hurt! So it's okay if you laughed a little.
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Sex education looks different across the world. Some places like the US or the UK are rather conservative with their education, while New Zealand and the Netherlands are liberal in teaching even young kids the basics of consent.
Given the vast differences in cultural norms around sex, dating, relationships and consent, it makes sense there would be people looking to the internet for advice,
We selected the best sex tips from AskReddit that seem to resonate the most with people.
Redditor Assorted_Education_ asked:
"What is this one sexual fact everyone would benefit knowing?"
Start taking notes!
Hygiene is important.
"Wash your f*cking hands before you put them inside someone!"
- soundsystxm
"I'll do you a better one: wash EVERYTHING you put inside someone."
- ChaimCad
"And file your nails."
- tehkittehkat
Use the bathroom when you're done.
"Pee after sex."
- tchawiczka
"If you do get a UTI, men too, get it treated or it can lead to kidney failure. Please stay well :)"
- hazel_0919
"This applies to guys as well."
- MyWorkAccount2018
"I had this problem a lot at the point of literally peeing blood, it was so frickin painful and traumatizing at the point of not wanting to HAVE sex, although I did pee after I had it like 3 times like in 4 months. I had to pay a sh*t ton of money since UTIs can only get treated with antibiotics. UTI are no joke, if you are a women it easier to Get it, if you are a man its really Hard to Get it, but you NEED to go to the hospital ASAP."
- ChungyAmoeba
"So fun fact, or maybe not so fun fact, there's apps like Lemonade Health which sound ridiculous, but you can get a doctor to call you and prescribe you UTI meds over the phone for under 40 bucks, they send the script to a pharmacy near you of your choosing. Super great if you don't have insurance but need UTI meds. And they follow up with an email to make sure everything is still going okay. (they do other stuff too, but that's how I found them, needing UTI meds)."
- Echo13
Communication makes great sex.
"Talk to your partner."
- sue_donyem
"Better communication = better sex."
"If you know what they want, you can do it for them. Mind reading makes things complicated and usually worse."
- eternal8phoenix
"Yes this is absolutely correct. I am stunned by how many people don't communicate. This includes people in a relationship."
"I used to say I have a foolproof pan on learning a woman's pleasure zones and those zones that'll get you smacked if you tickle there. Of course everybody smirks and says sure okay what is this magical plan? I reply: I ask."
- GurglingWaffle
"After the first time I had sex with my boyfriend I specifically asked him if there was anything that I could do differently or that he liked that I would continue to do. He said that he had never been asked that before and found it to be a very large turn on."
- Im_the_cool_mom
"This has to go both ways too. You have to be ready to honestly listen to your partner and also need to speak up when you want or don't want something. The second one is usually the more difficult."
- probabletrump
For some, it's the main course.
"Foreplay is important."
- TheCutOn
"Amen to that. My wife wants to skip it all the time and that makes sex boring sometimes."
- adamsbrad47
"The 'pre-foreplay' is also important. Never stop flirting with your partner no matter how long you’ve been together."
- FurtherAdieux
You have to find what works.
"Clitoral stimulation is not just a trigger finger as fast as you can. I can't speak for everyone because maybe that works for some people, but plenty of others need variation. change rhythms, change up the pressure, try different things until you figure out what works."
- cappybean
"I had a partner that treated it like the elevator button. 'I keep pressing it but it's not coming?? Maybe it's broken.'"
- obeehunter
"Agreed, it is not a radio knob that you keep rotating to find that perfect frequency. Asking what your partner likes will save you a lot of time and they will like it too!"
- thisisdwight
You're not alone.
"Whatever insanely weird thing you're into, you're definitely not alone."
- YorgiTheMagnificent
"If I've learned nothing else from Reddit, I've learned that. Doesn't matter what niche sexual or non-sexual quirk, experience, or interest I have, someone else is also interested in or has experienced it."
- 830_L
"This is a rule for life in general too, outside of sex. I love finding friends with mutually weird interests."
- bassicallyfunky
Once you found it, don't stop.
"If a woman is clearly enjoying what you're doing, don't go faster or harder immediately. She was enjoying what you did before for a reason."
- Limp-Sundae5177
"The trouble is it’s kind of like walking, I’m doing it at that pace but once you put my mental focus on it my pace changes."
- shellwe
"That’s why I don’t tell my partner to keep going haha because it makes them immediately conscious of what they’re doing. We have other cues to show that we’re about to climax."
Fuzzy_Maximum6011
No seriously, don't stop.
"The male orgasm does not end at the point of ejaculation but a few seconds after."
"If you’re pleasing your man and he ejaculates- DO NOT IMMEDIATELY STOP."
- BowwwwBallll
"An ex of mine when giving oral would keep going long after I got off. She basically kept going until I couldn’t take it anymore. It was amazing."
- GomezFigueroa
"And so is she single or…?"
- Killua_EU
Clickbait
"Sex can give you cancer!"
"Ok so clickbait aside, sexual contact can lead to human papillomavirus (HPV) infections. HPV is found in a number of squamous cell carcinomas (cancer) anywhere from the mouth, throat, vocal chords and even the esophagus, cervical cancer, vulvar cancer and anorectal cancers, and genital warts."
"It's also one of the most common STIs out there and is leading to higher rates of head and neck cancers in men. Unfortunately there's no test for HPV in men so a lot of guys are out there unknowingly carrying HPV even after testing negative for HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia and the usual other STIs they check for."
"BUT! The strains of HPV most responsible for cancer are covered in the Gardasil-9 HPV vaccine."
"The vaccine also protects against genital warts. So if any healthcare providers give you pushback on getting the vaccine you could say that you'd like it in order to protect against genital warts :D "
- Conflictedxconfused
The Magic Button
"Men, it’s not 'gay' to play with your ass."
"In fact, the secret to the best orgasm you'll ever have is inside your ass. Find someone to help you, or get a toy to pleasure yourself."
"You’ll never want to cum without p-spot stimulation ever again!"
"Being gay means being attracted to other men, not fully enjoying every kind of pleasure your body can give you. Also there’s nothing wrong with being gay, so play with your ass!"
- will0wrosenberg
"Men have a magic orgasm button too! God is a jerk, though, because he put it up our ass."
- DarthConnor42
One Night Stand
"One-night-stands mostly don’t exist."
"Just like porn, the idea of rampant one night stnads are another thing that TV and movies love to hype up to set unrealistic expectations."
"I’ve literally never met anyone or spoken to anyone who has had a one-night-stand. And yes, I went to college parties. Again, all in the movies."
"Once I saw how rare and nonexistent one-night-stands actually are, I stopped pressuring myself into trying to get one."
- cracksilog
All Different
"You'll never get to point where you have the skeleton key for every woman."
"They are all different and they all enjoy different things... If you fail the first time, talk, listen, read her body and learn what she likes."
- Rig88
"Every woman is like a song, you have to learn her specific rhythm. And No two songs are completely alike."
"Oh and unless the oven is preheated (believe me, she'll let you know) foreplay is a must."
- cls-one
Experimentation Is Awesome
"Experiment. And don’t knock something till you try it at least once. You never know what you actually might like till you try it"
- Ki2525_
"Be open to anything your partner wants to do. Try it once and be honest if you like it or not. Tell your partner what you want to try and what you like don’t hold back."
- GeoBk
Muscle Madness
"Ladies: you can learn to control the muscles that control the tightness of your vagina. They're the pelvic floor muscles, or kegels, the same muscles that help control urination."
"To find them, stop urinating mid stream."
"Then you can start to exercise them by clenching for a few seconds and relaxing (using toys might be fun, but it's not really necessary). Try to only clench the pelvic floor muscles, without also clenching your buttocks or abdomen."
"Any penis-having partners will thank you for having strong pelvic floor muscles, and it has plenty of health benefits too."
"Also, guys? You can benefit from exercising your kegels as well."
- SnowDemonAkuma
On Your Feet
"Girls, please ride on your feet, not your knees."
"Men don't feel the stimulation if the penis doesn't move "in and out" enough. This is most common when girls ride on their knees."
"Also, you move your whole upper body when being on your knees. You can solely move your lower body, making it (probably?) less exhausting if you're on your feet. It also lets you have more control of your movement."
- Yaygher69
Kiss
"Learn to kiss your partner. Like seriously, do the high school make-out thing until you get it right."
- Smokesontheroad
"Kissing is everything."
- The_Zuh
The First Time
"The first time doesn't necessarily have to be this sucky and embarrassing experience."
"Is it going to be phenomenal sex? Absolutely not. But if you talk to your partner, please each other beforehand, keep communicating, and focus on having fun rather than just getting the other person to finish then you'll have an enjoyable couple of minutes."
"Also sometimes you just won't finish. It happens: you don't have enough time or motivation to finish yourself off after your partner finishes, they don't have the time or motivation, sometimes your body just says no."
"Sometimes the case will be that you're just as satisfied when your partner gets off even though you didn't finish. It's happened to me, and it's not like my partner nor I were inadequate."
- __b__e__a__n__s__
Emote
"Guys, moan. Express pleasure. F*cking emote."
"For years I thought being the ‘silent stud’ was somehow making me more attractive, but as soon as I let go of this idea my sex got 1000x better."
"For a lot of people, HEARING that they are gratifying you is a huge turn-on for them. You’d also be surprised how much better it feels for you. Together that creates a feedback loop and MY OH MY…"
- fupgood
Ultimately, the best thing to take away from this is everyone is different.
It's going to take open and honest communication with your partners and yourself to have good sex.
Most of us aren't taught these things in school, so you may stumble here and there.
There's nothing to be ashamed of, we're all still learning.
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There are a lot of factors that go into what's wrong with schools today. Students are faced with so many challenges, especially during the pandemic when schools were forced to teach remotely.
But many complaints that are made about school aren't ones that are new. Things like school start times, the use of technology, standardized testing, and so much more, all influence whether students enjoy their time in educational institutions.
To stay on the pulse of what youth think about school, we went to AskReddit to hear about what students dislike the most about schooling.
Redditor iSarabjitDhiman asked:
"What do you dislike about school?"
Mindless busywork.
"Busywork."
- dondeestaelbano884
"Boy if you hate busywork you're gonna hate working lol."
- wongrich
"For some reason busywork at the job I'm scheduled and paid to do is way more tolerable than assigned busywork I have to do at my home and not get paid to do."
- Furydwarf
School starts too early.
"Getting up."
- zeaks_urbs1
"Getting up early is a real struggle."
- iSarabjitDhiman
"It's always hard. In fact, having to get up too early (i.e. the alarm waking you up in the middle of your sleep) and lack of sleep thereof is what I think is the most stupidest sh*t we forced ourselves to do as a species... I am not productive before 3pm, that's just it. Can't do anything about it. I'm human, not a f*cking toaster!"
- Ntama-Koupa
"Studies have shown that with more sleep students do better, so why can we not have more time to sleep?"
- Perso0321
"Teenagers have a different circadian rhythm. Their bodies are telling them to go to sleep later and wake up later, but we force on them the adult schedule because it's convenient for us."
- JustDeleteSystem32
School is a loud environment.
"People that yell for no reason."
- JackooJet
"Last year people kept yelling sheesh so loudly and it was f*cking annoying."
- KittenTheSecond
"Holy sh*t am I glad I did last year online only."
- ZexonBestUtuber
"I'm glad I got out of high school before everyone had smartphones."
- klavin1
Scaring you about the future.
"They scare the crap out of you [when] they tell you that college or the next level is going to be difficult and harder."
- Random_Guy_9201
"My teachers loved to bring that out. 'The teachers in Middle School aren't going to hold your hand and you're not going to be able to coast through,' 'The teachers in High School aren't going to hold your hand and...' 'When you're in college they aren't going to hold your hand and..."
"I picked a big state university specifically so I could be a nameless student responsible for myself but there was still a lot of hand holding available."
- daxlreod
"I especially love when 5th grade teachers freak out about the single file line and being quiet in the hallway. Then you get to middle school and none of that exists whatsoever."
- Outlier25
"I do find the lower level the school the more arbitrary the sh*t they get hung up on… but then again, maybe that’s the point…"
- Scarletfapper
Unrelenting stress.
"Stress."
- Silent-Sector-4778
"This was my issue, although I’d describe it as 'unrelenting stress.'"
"I could never relax while in school. Not only would I procrastinate, but the stress was just always there for long term assignments so even when I was supposedly doing something fun, it was never fun; certainly not relaxing."
"Once I graduated and started working, my life got sooo much better. Even when I’ve gone through the most stressful times at work, I’ve known I could leave it behind - at least for a while."
- bakerzdosen
Having to ask to use the bathroom.
"Bathroom rules. Just let me pee!"
- DogsAreCool69420
"Teachers are teaching us to 'act like responsible adults,' yet we still have to ask them to use the bathroom."
- No_Junket_8139
"As a teacher, who typically doesn't care, having 5-6 students leave as soon as a lesson starts and having them come and go like a revolving door while I am teaching is incredibly frustrating. At the same time, I don't think I should be restricting washroom breaks, but I also completely understand why some teachers do it."
- Killbil
Homework.
"Homework."
- weatherpenguin
"My daughter is in preschool, she’s 3.5 and has homework. She hasn’t even mastered potty training and still needs to be in a pull up. They want her doing homework."
"Worksheets with shapes, letters, numbers."
- dollyprincessb
"Homework, in small doses, has been proven to help with math and science classes. Other than that, homework is basically useless other than teaching 'time management' and dramatically increasing stress levels and taking away from family bonding time."
- willv13
"But when they say time management, they mean taking up your time and replacing it with homework."
- DaVinci6894
There's no shortage of answers to this question.
Every youth is going to have something to say about the thing they spend the most time doing, going to class.
With the pandemic shifting how we look at schooling, maybe it's time we start taking up some of their suggestions so we can best prepare the future of our world.
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People Share The Best Examples Of 'It's Possible To Make Zero Mistakes And Still Lose'
The 1966 sci-fi classic Star Trek has always held some hidden gems. One in particular sparks a conversation around a regular fact of life: sometimes we do everything right and still lose.
In one scene, Captain Jean Luc Picard requests Commander Data to help him on the bridge of the spaceship. Data tries to suggest that Picard choose someone else as his first in command.
Data said:
"I have not been able to isolate the problem, sir. I might make a mistake."
Picard took a few steps toward him, closing the distance between them, and gives him an order.
Before leaving, Picard turned to Data and said:
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose."
"That is not a weakness. That is life."
This statement was an encouragement to not let fear or self-doubt get in the way of action and the pursuit of what must be done in the way of your own self. Failure is just a part of life.
This scene sparked Redditor NeonDragon76 to ask:
"Picard said, 'It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose,' what is your real life example of this?"
We compiled some of the moments where no matter our efforts, life got in the way.
In a relationship that just wasn't meant to be.
"Being the best partner you can be in a relationship and having them fall out of love or cheat on you."
- sugarplumbuttfluck
"Relationships are very much like that. Stories always make them seem directly attainable - you do the right thing, and the person will fall in love with you, you keep doing the right thing and they'll stay with you forever. But in reality... like, if someone doesn't want to date you, and then you rescue them from a burning building, they still won't want to date you."
- LtLabcoat
"Learned the hard way that you can be as good a partner as possible - still doesn't matter if the problem is one you have no control over to fix..."
- TorTheGasman
"Yup. I spend three years as my ex's emotional punching bag and therapist before I realized how f**ked up it was and left."
- ManySpectrumWeasel
disappointed star trek GIF GiphyThey didn't go first.
"I’ve lost many board games and card games simply because I didn’t go first."
- super-goblin
"I remember my cousin bringing out mancala and was so excited to play it. After two games I realized the first player would always win if you played correctly and asked her if I could play first since I was new and proceeded to win every game then told her the strategy. She was dejected at the time, but I like to think she went on to beat other people with it after that."
- geshtar
Not getting the job.
"Not getting a job offer from the interview."
"Sometimes you didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes the other candidates were just better."
- BrokenHeartedOctopus
"Sometimes, you were just as good, but they simply had to make a choice because of the limited amount of vacancies."
- Lvcivs2311
Not getting bonuses for something out of their control.
"My team at work getting absolutely reamed out and having year-end bonuses denied to us because of a major outage on one of our systems... The outage was caused by a bug that we were among the first in the world to experience and the vendor hadn't even published an advisory yet much less released the patch to fix it."
"There was literally nothing we could have done to avoid it."
- Hrekires
"Wonder how many people are going to quit over that bullsh*t."
- Montzterrr
angry star trek GIF GiphyGetting fired.
"When despite doing everything your boss tells you, you still get fired."
- MaverickYankee
"Or when you outperform everyone else on your team for years and are due for a promotion but instead your boss's freshly hired 20 years younger girlfriend gets the promotion."
"I literally quit two days after."
- RealMainer
Irritable Bowel Syndrome.
"IBS."
"Sometimes you can be very careful to avoid all your triggers, and still end up stuck in the bathroom for a few hours."
- grmrsan
"Yes, and then spending those cursed toilet hours going back over the last day or two trying to work out what you did differently despite knowing you intentionally only eat the same things for this exact reason."
- NeonDragon76
Angry Star Trek GIF GiphyGetting into professional sports.
"Sports."
"Someone can do absolutely everything right. They can work harder than anybody else. Play to the highest level that their talent allows, and they still will not make it professionally."
"No matter the amount of effort I put in, I simply will never throw a 100 MPH fastball."
- RockySlough
"I think a lotta people forget that genetics is a very important component of athletic performance. I could train every single day and be absolutely jacked and would still get destroyed in any game of basketball because I'm 5’3."
- dogsonboats
Relationships with our parents.
"My brother was always that kind of son who made everything he wasn't supposed to do. I tried to be the best daughter I could and support my mom in everything she needed. Now my brother has a really good relationship with her and I barely talk with her."
- Uncomfortable_Mind
"Right. I feel your pain deeply. My brother did the same kind of thing, my dad was problematic so I had to be strong for mom. Do you think we didn’t test their love? Lost son syndrome? What is it?"
- HerrLangschlong
Working in the medical field.
"I worked as a paramedic for 15 years. You can do everything right but if it’s not going to happen it’s just not going to happen."
- medic8388
"I was an EMT for 3 years and left to become a flight attendant. When it's your time, it's your time, and there isn't much we can do."
- tommygunz007
Star Trek Reaction GIF Giphy
The Candidate Who Stuck Around
"A coworker told me once that I was picked for my job on a sort of coin toss. Both I and the other candidate were equally qualified and nothing we did really made one better than the other. They took a chance on me because I seemed less likely to jump after a year or two like most people who applied for that job were doing to do."
"Funny thing was, that was exactly my intention when I got the job but I've ended up staying way longer."
– battraman
Blessing In Disguise
"Also a chance the job was never really available in the first place. Some companies require a job get posted publicly and external candidates be interviewed even when an internal candidate is already selected. Or maybe the nephew of the boss needed a job but they have to interview people. I’ve been involved in a handful of interviews where I’ve strongly preferred a candidate that lost out for reasons beyond their control."
"Also, sometimes not getting the job is a blessing. A coworker/buddy and I wound up going after the same position at a new company. I nailed the interview and honestly I had experience and skills beyond that of my friend so I thought I had it in the bag. They took my buddy. Confidence took a hit, but fast forward about 6 months and buddy hates it there. They start furloughing employees and he quits shortly after that. Meanwhile I got a promotion and set me on a path that led to considerably more money somewhere else. Never can tell how things turn out sometimes, but don’t let job rejections get you down. It’s their loss they didn’t take you 😉"
– Blues_Stl
Road Hazards
"Driving comes to mind. A lot of collisions involve one person doing everything they should be and another being an idiot. Although you followed all of the rules of the road you still lost by getting rear ended by someone on their phone."
– [deleted]
The Setback
"I've been spending two years and 20K in college debt to become a personal trainer. I'm supposed to graduate this spring."
"Then my back got ruined in a car crash last month. The prognosis being 'ongoing pain management.'"
"Screw me, right? 'Cause it's not like I'm trying to escape my current life situation or anything. /s"
– Hollogram_Janeway
The Favorite
"My brother was always that kind of son who made everything he wasn't supposed to do. I tried to be the best daughter I could and support my mom in everything she needed. Now my brother has a really good relationship with her and I barely talk with her."
– Uncomfortable_Mind
When You Can't Compete
"Old job hunting saying: you can have the perfect interview and they can still hire their nephew."
– mjk1260
Luck Of The Draw
"Life is like poker in a way. Your outcomes are a result of your decisions and luck. Sometimes you can make all the right decisions and still have a bad outcome or lose. Also, some people start with better hands."
"Conversely the opposite can happen where you make poor decisions and win."
"However making good decisions (no mistakes) puts you in a better position to have a good outcomes."
– Actuaryba
Sometimes it may feel that we have everything under control and then life throws us a curve ball.
As Picard said, it's not weakness, it just is the way it is. It's how we move on from those moments and find other ways of continuing that show our strength.
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Sex work is one of the oldest professions in history. Prostitution (an outdated term) has been seen in text dating as far back as 2400 B.C.
With that in mind, sex work is still highly criminalized, having divided early feminists in a way that remains today. The stigma around sex work causes a great deal of strife for the worker, and it certainly doesn't help when dating.
At the same time, OnlyFans has been on the rise since the start of the pandemic. So, there are probably more sex workers in the dating pool than we think.
We went to AskReddit to see what men are thinking when it comes to dating someone in this line of business.
Redditor BambiKittens666 asked:
"Men: would you ever date a woman who was a sex worker? (Prostitute, stripper, online adult entertainer, etc).. why or why not?"
The anonymity of Reddit definitely helps with user honesty.
Just wasn't his scene.
"I dated a stripper for a little bit. Early in the relationship, everything was actually great. I wasn’t much of a party or strip club guy but I never thought anything was wrong with it, if that makes sense."
"The closer we got, it just didn’t work out. She wanted me to visit her at work quite a bit, and hang with her work friends. Just wasn’t my scene."
- 1drose
"That's pretty interesting dude. It sounds like she might really liked you and was happy that she had found someone that accepted her for being her. She wanted to show you off. Just my assumption."
- ddubc
She would be furious.
"No."
"My wife would be furious."
- MrBoddles
"Yeah it’s a no from me too, this guy’s wife would be furious."
- wannabememer0510
"Happened to quite a few of us. This guy's wife was furious every single time."
- CervezaPorFavor
A sad story of addiction.
"Dated a stripper for around a year. It was a great relationship. I was supportive of her job and encouraged her to pursue other things she showed interest in."
"She was confident and independent. Something I'd not had previously to that relationship. Our conversation was great, our banter was amazing."
"Many people saw us and thought we had been together a long time. They always said they could feel our chemistry."
"Some of my fondest most cherished memories come with her. At the time I didn't know bc she hid it from me."
"A few of the fellow dancers turned her onto some hard drugs and it greatly affected our relationship. And caused us to breakup."
"Last I saw her she was an intravenous meth user. That shit hurt me more than anything I've experienced. She shot up in the passenger seat of my car was how I found out."
"After letting her sleep at my place and shower. She left. I've cried for myself, I've cried because of others. That's the only time I've cried for someone else."
"That was a beautiful relationship and a beautiful human who's been utterly destroyed by drugs. It changed my entire view on addiction. A real sobering experience."
"I tried to help by providing a safe space for her to be. To rest and shower. Got her some food and gas."
"Paid her phone bill twice. Drove her to court a few times. But always encouraging her that she needed help. She refused/didn't want to help herself."
"While taking her to pick up some belongings from her mom's house one time I had to call an ambulance. She was having some sort of psychosis. claiming she saw things and they spoke to her. While in the ER she lied to the doctors. That was one of the longest days of my life."
"I've had to distance myself from her because while I provided help she refused to help herself and I felt I was being used after a while. I want her to get better and clean more than anything."
"I remember the time we had fondly. I look up her name every few months to make sure she's hasn't passed away."
- Cbrm12
They were unapologetic and kind.
"I’ve dated two sex workers, one was a BDSM-type, and she was/is a lovely and confident person."
"I think on the third-or-so date, after her insisting on paying for everything, I deduced that she might earn a little more money than the average ‘car insurance salesperson’ that she introduced herself as."
"I asked calmly over breakfast if she had other incomes, and she was very honest, open, unapologetic, and I appreciated that so much. We discussed whether she wanted to talk about work, and she clearly stated that sometimes she would like to talk about it, and sometimes not."
"We got on really well for 2-3 months, then things faded for us, but I have nothing but fond memories. She taught me how to cook authentic Italian meatballs."
"The other one was an absolutely beautiful human who made me feel attractive and wanted after I’d just come out of an awful relationship. When I met her, she’d already made plans to move overseas, and she followed those plans. We still stay in regular contact to this day."
"I’m now in a long-term relationship, and have children and a new life, but I look back on those two people with nothing but respect and happiness, as it’s how they treated me."
"I think if you’re honest with yourself first and foremost about what you can handle, and also honest with the other person, it can work and be such a positive thing. But you have to work just as hard as you do with any relationship."
- holodelnek
It'd be tough to talk about work.
"No. Because I'll be dammed if she comes home and tells me she had a good day at work."
- shaggi_ezekio
"Or she tells you it was a hard day at work."
- MerovingianT-Rex
"Or that it was a long day."
- SOUINnnn
Open but it's uncharted territory.
"I'm open to the idea, but not entirely sure I could handle it."
- emueller5251
"Similarly, I'm in no way philosophically opposed but I'm 100% sure I couldn't handle it."
- RemarkableMilk
"Same here. Girls you do what makes you happy, there's no judgement here and I'm not against sex workers or anything, I just know full well I wouldn't be able to handle that setup myself. I don't like the idea of others seeing my partner naked, nor me if I'm with someone, just the way it goes."
- A_Few_Kind_Words
A fear that something would go wrong.
"No can’t do it. I’m too insecure to do something like that. I’m not even afraid to admit it, my mind would go nuts on all the things that could go wrong. A lot of my fear would also stem from someone feeling entitled and harming them because of their profession."
- abnthug
"That's not insecurity. That's a cost/risk analysis. Stay true to your moral code."
- LordKutulu
Wanting monogamy is a valid reason.
"What up with people calling guys that say no insecure? Or people who just don't know?"
"There is nothing wrong with sex work or dating a sex worker, but if someone doesn't feel comfortable with dating one, why are they insecure?"
"If that person wants sex to be something special between them and their partner, it's their choice to make and doesn't mean they are insecure. The opposite is true, they just know what they want."
- f*ckin_anti_pope
"'Not wanting people to have sex with your girlfriend makes you insecure.'"
"Some people here feel the need to justify their 'no' by getting all deep in there feelings and talking about 'insecurities.' My answer is no, because I think it's gross."
"I don't want to have sex with someone that's having sex with other people. Especially a lot of them."
"If you're the type of person that thinks I'm a 'misogynist' for not wanting other people to have sex with my partner, then you're the exact type of person who's opinion I don't care about lol."
- kilo73
A Normal Job
"Currently I am dating a girl who is a webcam model."
"I love her very much and I am very happy. I accept it and it doesn't really impact our relationship. I see it as a normal job."
"I even help her with videos."
"I don't see anything wrong."
- Danbard_Oil6651
Would And Do
"I would and do."
"I help her out with her OnlyFans and she just got a job at a strip club. It doesn’t Phase me personally, I enjoy showing her off."
"As long as there is Transparency and Communication then it’s just like any other job."
- ThaAussiePanda
After Work
"No. I would not."
"I read about a guy who was dating a porn star. He thought it was great at first, but when he got home from work, and wanted to have sex, she could not."
"Her 'parts' were too sore from work to have sex with him."
- bigwhitedogs
Real People
"Having dated one or two in my lifetime, I can say, unreservedly, that I absolutely would."
"I don't think most people (men) understand (or care) that sex workers are real people just like they are. And honestly, I've always believed that those who would say no are just not very self confident."
- Monk2222
Be Honest
"Burlesque performer here."
"It’s completely ok if you aren’t comfortable with dating someone who works in adult entertainment/sex work/etc. But PLEASE be honest about that with both yourself and your prospective partner before getting into a serious relationship."
"I know far too many burlesque performers/strippers/pro dommes with partners who are ‘ok with it’, but turn around and make passive aggressive comments, or use it as fodder in arguments."
- ThoseArentCarrots
Spare Cash
"Yes!!"
"My favorite ex was stripping for the first 1/3 of our relationship. She had a lot of extra cash she would sometimes spend on me and hot outfits that she would wear in the bedroom."
"I could’ve handled my own jealousy better, but she eventually left stripping for her own reasons. I would totally do it again (date another sex worker…or her lol)!!!"
- rawr-xd-
"No."
"I have no problem with women (or anyone, for that matter) doing sex work, but part of my values in a partner is keeping certain things intimate, between people in a committed relationship."
"If she strips or has sex for money, good for her, but that's a deal-breaker for me regarding serious relationships."
- WilliamBott
Distinguishing Between The Two
"Yes, and I have, more than once."
"I wouldn't specifically seek a girl out just because she's a sex worker but it doesn't give me pause."
"The biggest benefit is that they don't have the same reservations or associations with sex that the majority of women do. I'm not saying I just want f*ck buddies but I would like the decision to be sexually active and the decision to be in a committed relationship to be two different decisions, and sex workers distinguish between the two."
"Just recently a female friend of mine was expressing frustration that she's not emotionally in a place where she should be having romantic relationships but really wants some physical intimacy, but she's afraid that if she even asks she'll be accused of being a slag."
- seless_moniker
It's A Plus
"I've been friends with benefits with an escort for a little over 3 years now, she is also one of my closest and most cherished friendships."
"If I was interested in her romantically I would absolutely want to date her."
"I have very weird and specific sexual needs, which have historically been difficult to implement in the context of a relationship. It is almost a requirement for me that any potential partner be"
"a) very open to experimenting with sex and/or"
"b) be comfortable with a relationship where we can each get our needs met outside the relationship."
"In that sense, it is actually a plus when someone has a job that implies they may be one or both of these things."
- iwanttoendmylife22
Everyone is entitled to their own preferences.
Monogamy is not for everyone the same way that polyamory is not for everyone.
As long as we aren't judging those who are in the sex work field, no harm done.
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