Public marriage proposals are such emotional events, even passersby stop what they are doing to applaud the presumably happy couple.
<p>But not all proposals are the romantic milestone everyone expects them to be, especially when "yes" is not the answer. <br></p><p>When a woman ultimately says, "no," the courage it takes for her to turn down a proposal is better in the long run for both people involved. <br></p><p><strong>Wondering about how life resumed for women post-proposal, Redditor <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Interesting-Cod478/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Interesting-Cod478</a> asked: </strong><br></p><blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"Women who got proposed to but rejected it, why and how did your life change afterwards?"</a></blockquote> <img alt="" src="https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/renderTimingPixel.png">
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The Ring
<p>"I was dating a guy for two or three weeks (yes, weeks) and he proposed to me. With a ring he had bought for another woman. Which he told me as he was proposing. I said no and kind of slowly ghosted him because YIKES."</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi7eusr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">thefiercestcalm</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Wasn't A Joke
<p>"I guy a went on one date proposed to me because he wanted a green card. I thought he was joking at first. He wasn't. I said no and then goodbye forever"</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi8wqt4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">azick545<br></a></p><p>"It was honestly hilarious. I was like at least put in some more effort, string me along, etc. But at least he made his feelings apparent quickly and I didn't have to worry anymore."</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi9m7a1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">azick545</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>"I was proposed to in a pretty nonchalant manner by a fellow student at my local community college. I had just turned 21 and he was in his mid 40's. The class was scuba diving."</p><p>"He has some really good reasons for me to marry him. He was completely deaf, so his proposal was witnessed by an interpreter and most of the class. He spoke well but was a little hard to understand at times so he signed and spoke the whole thing while the interpreter stood by to make sure I understood what he was saying and had to repeat a couple things that I didn't catch."</p>
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If It Weren't For The Age Gap
<p>"The class was pretty laid back so we were all mostly comfortable with each other. Hanging out chatting after class one day and he gets my attention and says, very matter of fact 'we should get married, here's why' and proceeds to list several reasons why. Some of his reasons were- I could drive his Jeep any time I wanted. It was a brand new Rubicon and I had an older grand cherokee so obviously I love jeeps. I could play music as loud as I wanted any time of day, wouldn't bother him. We would never fight because he couldn't hear me anyway. He had a job, collected disability pay, and had his own home so I would never have to work. I always looked so interested in what he had to say. That one was him picking on me because he knew I didn't know sign language."</p><p>"He said it would be perfect. I agreed with him that it did sound pretty great, except for the fact that he was the same age as my dad and that was weird."</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>"I kindly declined his proposal and he joked about me crushing his spirits and how I was the only girl for him. He pretty much dropped it but he would ask me occasionally throughout the rest of the class 'change your mind yet?' Then we'd have a good laugh."</p><p>"He was the nicest guy, I think just a little lonely. Always kind hearted and loved helping everyone out. He loved that he was on an even playing field while scuba diving, no one can hear under water. He was fun to be around. Too bad he was twice my age."</p>
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<p>"Jerry, if you're out there and remember this interaction, I dated a few guys that were sh*t compared to how you'd treat a lady and I thought about your proposal often. I'm incredibly happy with the boy that I hope to marry someday and I genuinely hope you've found someone that makes you happy and treats you well."</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi8h1g4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">S-Crumby</a></p>
The Senior Player
<p>"92 yr old man at a nursing home used to ask me and every other woman to Marry him daily. Had this whole sweet old man line 'your the most beautiful woman I've ever seen' , I would reply 'I just heard you say the same thing to that nurse,' 'but you're prettier.' Made me smile everytime. He had forgotten he was already married."</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi8br6l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">damnit_jen</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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White Water Rafting Followed By A Proposal
<p>"A friend of mine in another city, had been trying to set me up with her male roommate. He, whom I had never met, had won tickets for white water rafting in BC... about 6 hours away for me, and 3 for him... we decided to do a weekend trip to meet (my friend insisted that he was cool... otherwise I never would have gone without knowing him for a while.<br>Anyways... I was *very* clear that we wouldn't be having sex, since we had just met, and he agreed, pointing out that he was strict Roman Catholic and would not have sex until married."</p><p>"First night we fooled around a bit, but nothing much.... went white water rafting the next day, had dinner and back to the room."<br></p><p>"He very excitedly tells me that he met a priest who was also staying at the hotel, and PROPOSES!!!! With complete seriousness!!"<br></p><p>"WTF!! Everything after that went rather poorly. He didn't understand why I wouldn't see him again after dropping him off at home."</p><p>"Did not change my life, other than have a good story...."</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi8swi6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DelicateIslandFlower</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Sweet Little Suitors
<p>"I worked as a pre-k teaching assistant for a year. The head teacher was married so they called her Mrs. while I was not so they called me Ms. Eventually some of the kids noticed this difference and started asking why head teacher was Mrs. and I wasn't. We explained that she was married and I didn't have a husband. Upon hearing that one little boy loudly stated 'I will marry you! I want to be your husband!' I got 3 other proposals from 3 different 4 year olds that day. Definitely not a serious story, but one that always makes me smile :)"</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi9hutp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Careless-Shirt-5723</a><br></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
The Deadbeat
<p>"Okay, my first boyfriend. Started dating in high school, my end of 9th grade year, he was a senior. So he went off to college, lived 2 hours away. Cool, everything was cool. My junior year, he moves back to our hometown. Didn't talked about, I asked him about college. He just said he didn't want to go anymore, then I realize this guy can't commit to a job, like in high school I understood the slack. I ended things with him that summer before I went for my senior year."</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br>"Years pass, I moved to a different city 3 hours away from our hometown. We get in contact again because I was getting over a bad break up. After 2ish years we start dating again. I think he finally has good things going for him, like his future. Well, after dating for like 3 months he moved in with me, I didn't want this, yet his mother was being kicked out of the house they were renting. ( due to non_payment ) </p><p>About 6 months into him living with me, he's jobless, demanding I pay his car payments, won't clean up anything, and just plays games all day. He asked me to marry him, I said yeah cause people were watching but I promise you, and soon as we get back to my apartment, I give him $40, tell him to go back to his mom's so she could take care of him for the rest of her life!!"</p><p>ā <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kr2vcc/women_who_got_proposed_to_but_rejected_it_why_and/gi8gyii?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">kendralherrington</a></p>
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The internet, as dark is it often becomes, can be a wonderful place to retrieve information.
<p>The anonymity allows people to ask questions they might not ask in real life, and that same anonymity also allows others to give honest answers when they might not have. </p><p>Take, for example, the physical differences separating the male and female sexes. </p><p>Sure, everyone knows the general distinctions. But when it comes to the nitty gritty details, the subtle nuances of living day to day in a certain body, there's a lot to learn. </p><p>Recently, a Reddit thread offered the opportunity for women to ask and men to share about the common "guy problems" that women might not fully understand. </p><p>Spoiler alert: most of the content revolved around erections. </p><p>MysticPato asked, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"Women of Reddit, what are some menās problems that you really canāt understand?"</a></p>
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Mind the TipĀ
<p>"Where does your member go when y'all use the toilet? Like does it just hang there? What if you have to poo with a boner?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghm5f5t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">katanavanna</a></p><p>"My boyfriend told me about a certain problem with men's penises sometimes touching the front of the toilet seat when they sit."</p><p>"I understand it but I'm glad I don't have to experience it lol" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlt4yq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">anonymouskz</a></p><p>"My husband complains the toilet downstairs is too small so his unit grazes the inside bowl." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghmwnvv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Zetta216</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A Remarkably Thoughtful Response
<p>"Where do your balls go when you sit down" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlihkw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">bellie87</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"This is why we usually sit with at least some spread. That being said, they're a bit more flexible and mobile than some people might think. They will find a place, or they WILL let you know that they're not comfortable." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghljd8x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">AlexAlho</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>"blue balls? like do you get horny and it gets painful?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlf15l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Ovlizin</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"It's not 'horny=pain,' but it is real. It's caused by a hypertension in our groin that occurs after prolonged intense arousal. And despite the moderate pain it causes, it is no excuse for any untoward behaviour" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghljs2x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hrrisn</a></p>
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<p>"Do guys just get random boners?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlg0qa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">M31K_</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Yes sadly it can be awkward" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlgg8s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">The_nosicle</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"From ages 13 to about 25 it's got a mind of it's own. After 35 it gets lazy and has to have a decent chance of actually getting used." -- [deleted]</p>
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<p>"Some men i know are overly confident and very insecure at the same time. Is this the societal norm?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlpr62?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Kyrilla_Mignon</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Yep, you want to seem confident but it just leaves you insecure" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlr98n?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hastthouforsakeme</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"It's a complicated matter. It starts somewhere between men are not allowed to express their feelings and show no weakness.(boys don't cry) And probably ends with us never get compliments."</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Some of us just get only one compliment a month and this one compliment is what keeps us goin for month, if not years." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlryk1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">motorfreak937</a></p>
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<p>"I've always been so curious about how men's public bathrooms evolved to be such an 'exposed' experience compared to women's... like, we use a stall no matter what..."</p><p>"when men have to pee, they just have a thin sheet of fiberglass or whatever separating one of (what I'd imagine) is one of their most private physical parts from complete strangers."</p><p>"How many men just opt to use a stall at all times?"</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghldpdh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">FlavortownAbbey</a></p>
<p>"When you stick your finger in their belly button and it hurts them in their penis. Why is that connected?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghm5iz9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">59Trees</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"The reason for that is your median umbilical ligament (not to be confused with the medial umbilical ligament). the short story is that when you were a fetus, your bladder emptied through a canal in the umbilical cord."</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"The MUL is the remnant of the bladder-navel connection and depending on differences in your individual anatomy, any pressure/pain applied to the belly button can cause a sensation at the tip of the urethra, the root of the penis, the clitoris, labia or g-spot. Or the other way around." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghmldat?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Timguin</a></p>
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<p>"Beards?? I can't imagine it NOT being annoying having so much hair on your face. Doesn't it get hot? And food get stuck in it?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghmgl2f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sleepygaybi***</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"No, it doesn't get hot. I find it more annoying to have long hair on the head so I don't know how you girls do that. Beards don't get annoying if you keep them trimmed." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghmp9f4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">MoobyTheGoldenSock</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Only get hot under a mask, lately. Don't get food stuck in it because I don't eat like an animal, and I always rinse my face after I finish eating (as a just in case measure)"</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Main reason I've cultivated mine is that it's the only thing I can have in my arsenal to conceal my lack of attractive features." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghmz5ww?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">finch231</a></p>
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<p>"Why do men feel shameful after masturbation?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghm4lc1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sneeplesteen</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Well, I guess you're talking about post nut clarity." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghm8ocp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Tom_is_a_hero</a></p>
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<p>"Why do some men think it's ok to spit in public? Like what is that about, I don't need to see you spit out a big chunk of phlegm on the street" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlgnd8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Mq94</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Seen plenty of women spit in public too. I think this just has to do with how you're raised, not which gender you are. Some people just don't learn manners and common decency" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/knn8aj/women_of_reddit_what_are_some_mens_problems_that/ghlj5ud?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hrrisn</a></p>
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People Explain Which Products Were Designed For One Gender But Are Predominantly Used By The Other
November 30 | 2020
Step this way to hear rants about pockets, bare midriffs, and gigantic flowing powdery wigs.
<p>The student of history views the past through all kinds of lenses that layer atop one another. </p><p>There are the events, of course. We study the wars, coronations, and frequent redrawing of boundary lines over the course of time. These comprise the staccato heart beats the drive the core of global happenings. </p><p>And then there is the ideological layer: which political movements gained traction, how religions picked up speed and exerted influence, the role that scientific advancements played in the dynamics of human civilization. </p><p>Those are the key layers, but certainly not the only ones. What about, for example, fashion trends as they developed throughout history? Perhaps the development of recreational tastes demands some examination. And how about mundane household products? </p><p>After all, these smaller dynamics are top of mind most often in our daily, contemporary lives. It follows that mundanity drove people's experience of life way back when as well. </p><p>One recent Reddit post came at the mundane corner of history in a creative way. </p><p>NativeBarbarian30 asked, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"What's something that was designed for the use of one sex but is now predominantly used by the other?"</a><br></p>
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The Woman Your Man Can Smell Like
<p>"Old Spice."</p><p>"Old Spice was launched by Shulton Inc. in 1937. William Lightfoot Schultz was inspired by his mother's potpourri, and as a result, the first Old Spice product in 1937 was a woman's scent called Early American Old Spice."</p><p>"The product was received well and therefore followed with Old Spice for men in 1938."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkn2w1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ianagiizanami</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The Great Pocket DebacleĀ
<p>"Large pockets. Pockets were originally meant for women to have in their hoop skirts and such, while noble men had pockets (but they were quite a bit smaller)."</p><p>"Now women have practically no pockets and men can literally fit a water bottle in their pants."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdksngw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">DragonIce01</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A Flexible Brand
<p>"Marlboro cigarettes. Before 'The Marlboro Man' became an icon of rugged masculinity, they were marketed towards women."</p><p>"They even offered red colored filter ends that would hide lipstick marks."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkviiv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ladykatey</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Functional JewelryĀ
<p>"Wrist watches were originally thought to be too feminine for men but during WWI they were found to be easier to use than a pocket watch." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkunuc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Due_Holiday8478</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Just guessing but I'd say it was probably its resemblance to a bracelet. If you'd never seen one before (i.e. when they first became a thing) you'd probably have a thought process of something like 'that bracelet has a tiny clock, that's handy!'" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdmbumw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Creature_03</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Full Circle
<p>"Crop tops were originally designed for men to show off their abs" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkvs56?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">FatHeadedGoose</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"I'm loving the resurgence of this trend!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdlkcdd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">4ThaLolz</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Lol after we showed them Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure, my 6 year old stepson went into his room and cut the bottom off all his t-shirts so he could be like Ted š. People always respond very positively to his crop top look." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdmcrhj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">alizarin36</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A Store for EveryoneĀ
<p>"Victoria's Secret was originally supposed to be a place for men to buy clothes for their wives without feeling embarrassed, but now it's almost exclusively shopped at by women" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdlepku?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Shuckles116</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Yes, but these days if you go into one as a man looking for something for your girlfriend or wife, the people who work there are SO helpful and nice about everything." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdmlyxn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Lyrre</a></p>Different Needs, Same ProductĀ
<p>"A lot of the things women wear nowadays: makeup, wigs, high heels, and tights, were brought into fashion by aristocratic European men."</p><p>"The makeup they wore was primarily used to cover up the scars and marks from syphilis."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkmsz6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">StevesMcQueenIsHere</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Covert RidersĀ
<p>"Women didn't use to be allowed to ride horses at all, or had to ride side-saddle because of their dresses."</p><p>"In 2002 when filming the <em>Lord of the Rings</em> trilogy, the production crew couldn't find enough skilled equestrians to be extras, because it was mostly women who still rode recreationally. Most of the Rhohirrim in the movies are actually just like Eowen, women pretending to be men."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdl263r?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Charyou-Tree</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A One-Way StreetĀ
<p>"Names. Baby names traditionally used for boys will transfer over to girls never the other way. As soon as a boy's name becomes more frequently used by girls it ceases to be given to boys."</p><p>"Names like Sydney, Carol, Avery, Shirley, Allison, Robin, Whitney....were all originally boy names."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkrv98?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">crinnaursa</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Always UsefulĀ
<p>"Kleenex was originally marketed as women's makeup cleaner, but they started complaining because guy were always sneezing into there tissues" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdkpzbl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Tobin_L</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"It's even sillier than that. They were designed as gas mask filters, and Kleenex had a ton of them left after WW2, so they sold them as makeup removers, which then became popular as disposable handkerchiefs." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/k0w3ns/whats_something_that_was_designed_for_the_use_of/gdlp566?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">I_might_be_weasel</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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We all learned history in school, but how much "herstory" do we know?
<p>By that I mean the people we were taught about were almost entirely men and we know women haven't been sitting in the passenger's seat doing nothing for thousands of years. What about their stories? </p><p>One Reddit user asked: </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/" target="_blank">Who are some women that often get overlooked in history but had major contributions to society?</a></p><p>The answers shed light on how much girl power and these Wonder Women really changed our lives. </p>
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Sandra Ford
<p>Sandra Ford, the drug technician who first brought attention to what would become the AIDS epidemic. </p><p>She knew something was up when she began receiving unusually high numbers of requests for pentamidine, an antibiotic reserved for treating pneumocystis pneumonia in seriously ill, immuno-compromised patients. The patients it was being requested for were gay men who had been otherwise healthy.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsa3et?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">scotstot8543</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Virginia Apgar
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNDc3MDExOS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMjk2MTY5Nn0.1R29jGqEpDsyG_aDq1RIOI_31f6DampQdj76rDQrPWc/img.gif?width=980" id="8e44b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="970cc7bc75d0298076afb723ce4334e8" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="450" data-height="253" />baby documentary GIF by SundanceNOW DocClubGiphy<p>In 1952 Dr. Virginia Apgar developed a quick, easy, five-point test that summarizes health of newborns and determines those needing emergency assistance. </p><p>The Apgar Score is now given to practically every newborn, and helped save countless young lives, and reduce infant mortality.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbs82sr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">anthropology_nerd</a></p><p>Yes! This was such an incredible advancement. I worked in a pediatrician's office which led to me reading a little more about her. Amazing how little she's mentioned but most of us are literally here because of her!</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsg2ao?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">theponkmist</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Nellie Bly
<p>Nellie Bly. </p><p>She was a 1890's journalist who was given an assignment to investigate the Women's Lunatic Asylum on Blackwell's Island due to accusations of the mistreatment of patients. She got in there by faking insanity and getting herself committed to the asylum.</p><p>When she was finally released, she ran an exposƩ in the New York World called "Ten Days In A Madhouse" that exposed the awful treatment of patients inside the asylum. This was considered a revolution in investigative journalism. </p><p>Also, she read "Around The World In 80 Days" basically decided she could do better, and went around the world in 72 days! </p><p>She was also an inventor, and was one of the primary journalists to cover the suffragette movement. She's one of my favorite historical figures who doesn't get enough attention!</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbs634m?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">KungFu-Omega-Warrior</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Mona Hanna-Attisha
<p>Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha.</p><p>She is the Dean of Medicine at Hurley Children's Hospital in Flint, MI. She saw that children were having elevated lead levels (ELLs) outside the normal range. She contacted the Genesee Department of Health, who at first, dismissed her claim, then sent her obfuscated data to make it look like the ELLs were completely within normal trends.</p><p>She grew frustrated at this, so she called a team of epidemiologists from VT to find the source of the lead. Lo and behold, she found that the water in multiple zip codes was contaminated with lead. She informed the Genesee Department of Health Again, who brushed her off. </p><p>She then said "f*ck it" and held a major press conference where she announced on air that the water in Flint wasn't safe and to come to the hospital to get your child tested and to pick up supplies of water and liquid infant formula.</p><p>She saved thousands of children from the permanent effects of lead poisoning when her Department Of Health would not. She also helped design systems to help parents whose children were suffering from lead poisoning. </p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsdedh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">MadameBumer</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Georgeanna Seeger Jones
<p>Dr. Georgeanna Seeger Jones</p><p>Dr. Jones singlehandedly organized the field of Gynecological Endocrinology. While at John's Hopkins with her husband, Dr. Howard Jones and Drs. Roberts and Steptoe, she devised the hypothesis of follicular hyper stimulation, which produced more than one egg per cycle. </p><p>Her later discoveries led to increases in viability of In Vitro Fertilization.<span style="background-color: initial;">- </span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbscuto?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" style="background-color: initial;">Fyrepup</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br>Per Wikipedia : As a resident at Johns Hopkins, she discovered that the pregnancy hormone hCG was manufactured by the placenta, not the pituitary gland as originally thought. This discovery led to the development of many of the early over-the-counter pregnancy test kits currently available.</p><p>In 1949, Jones made the first description of Luteal Phase Dysfunction and is credited to be the first in using progesterone to treat women with a history of miscarriages. Her treatment allowed many of them to not only conceive, but to deliver healthy babies.</p><p>She also served as a Dean of the College of Pontifical Sciences, advising the Vatican of matters of Gynecology and Conception.</p><p>Her husband always said "She's the smarter one."</p><p>She was also a great friend.</p>
Claudette Colvin
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNDc3MDEyMC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0OTAwODc2N30.VEvTmyKOhwSs77bH5Eugr6VBhI2UiCqHToPQRKU9gXs/img.gif?width=980" id="6b539" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="d7cdc82c7f924ab07d7e33adfc14ffbc" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="320" />Claudette Colvin Justice GIF by GIPHY Studios OriginalsGiphy<p>Claudette Colvin.</p><p>She was actually the first person who refused to get up from her bus seat during the Jim Crows in America. But she was a 15-year-old who was pregnant out of wedlock at the time. Black leaders decided she was not a good image of an activist. </p><p>So they hand-picked Rosa Parks, a woman who was already an activist to do the same. Rosa is considered a Civil Rights hero, but it was Claudette who actually got the ball rolling.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbs9xnc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">GovMajor</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Mary Anderson
<p>Mary Anderson invented the windshield wiper in 1903. </p><p>As soon as the patent expired, it became standard in all cars. </p><p>She attempted to sell it while she had the rights to it, but most manufacturers refused to believe it was a feature of value. It is very likely that her being female was behind their lack of enthusiasm.</p><p>They said it had no value; but their actions prove they knew exactly how valuable Mary's invention was. Her patent expired 1920. Car crews and design teams immediately start talking it up the line. </p><p>1922 it was in every Cadillac. Coincidence? Or they were sitting on the idea until the patent ran out?</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbs3sck?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">YuunOfYork</a></p><p>Oh no, they definitely waited the patent out. Why waste money and help her enforce the patent when they could just wait a few years and do it for free. I imagine this wouldn't have been unheard of in those days.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsqfmu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Skevast</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Henietta Lacks
<p>Henrietta Lacks.</p><p>She saved millions of lives and made a critical contribution to the world of medicine, but unless you're in the medical field ā you've probably never even heard her name.</p><p>Henrietta Lacks was a young, black, mother of five when she died in 1951 after being diagnosed with an aggressive cervical cancer at Johns Hopkins. </p><p>Doctor George Gey was working at Hopkins at the time, trying to culture cells in the laboratory. Lacks' cells were among dozens sent to his lab, but they were the first to ever survive and grow. Her cells, a unique and aggressive type, were later described as "one in three billion."</p><p>Scientists called these resilient cells "HeLa" ā taking first two letters of "Henrietta" and "Lacks." HeLa cells were used to test the polio vaccine, develop in vitro fertilization, and several chemotherapy drugs among hundreds of medical advances.</p><p>Grown and sold around the world, Lacks' legacy lived on in her cells: they have traveled to space, they have been embedded in a nuclear bomb. But for decades, <em>the Lacks family had no idea.</em></p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsexef?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">suckerforsucculents</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Sister Rosetta Tharpe
<p><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sister_Rosetta_Tharpe" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sister Rosetta Tharpe</a></p><p>She was super influential to early rock musicians like Chuck Berry, Little Richard, Elvis Presley, Jerry Lee Lewis and so many more. </p><p>Johnny Cash even said that she was his favorite singer and she was also one of the first to play around with heavy distortion on her electric guitar. She's called by some "The Godmother of Rock and Roll" but I guarantee you that the average person has never heard of her.</p><p>The Noisettes wrote <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olWqutgLu28" target="_blank">a song inspired by her</a>. </p><p>-<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbs82is?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> eDgAR-</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Cheng I Sao
<p>Cheng I Sao/ Ching Shih was the single most successful pirate in all of history. </p><p>She led an armada of tens of thousands of sailors and 17 separate fleets of ships. She held the most important tributary in China under siege for weeks on end. In the end she managed to give the slip to a <em>combined force</em> of Portuguese, Chinese, and English war ships. That's after being cornered in an inlet with 2 wounded ships and no way out - except through.</p><p>After her daring escape from the siege, she recognized that her power was beginning to wane (one of her fleets turned on her, among other things) so she decided it was better to cash out while she had the leverage. She managed to negotiate for literally all of her men to be given amnesty, be allowed to join the chinese navy, to keep the stuff they had stolen, and for her <em>to be able to keep several ships so she could run a business in the salt trade.</em><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br>She then ran a gambling house and died peacefully in her sleep.</p><p>Besides being a f*cking kickass story, she has also had some lasting consequences.</p><p>Her absolute domination over the Chinese navy showed just how much the Empire had neglected that wing of the military; and the British picked up on this. It was a big part of why they were so willing to fight a naval war across the entire planet at a time when even messages would take a year and change just to make it back.</p><p>The opium wars were fought because of this, and the treaties that resulted are called by the <em>current</em> Chinese government as the start of "the century of shame" and are a major touchstone in the governments image of itself. They are invoked today when negotiations with the west break down as a reason that China ought not bow to outside pressure.</p><p>She is literally still shaping policy.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jra13d/who_are_some_women_that_often_get_overlooked_in/gbsfnwj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Dovakiin419</a></p>
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We hear all the time about how men and women are so different they might as well be from other planets. One Reddit user asked:
Men of Reddit, what is the hardest thing to explain to a woman?
<p>Thing is, for every answer given there were ton of women who also struggled with that issue as well as men who totally disagreed. There were very few consistencies to be found - almost as if deciding only men or only women feel a certain way is ridiculous and people are just ... people? </p><p>Bonkers. </p><p>That said, here are some of the totally relatable responses. Because honestly, nobody is great with hints and doing nothing is one of the greatest activities ever invented. </p>
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Nothing
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzUzNzEzOS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY3MDc5MDk5N30.0SggGkemyFg-t5_Qq6G-t75YU62GsaPSkIepG8r-eFc/img.gif?width=980" id="b7cc8" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="db37faa9a14d03d15e5f075897e87710" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="220" data-height="132" />Bored Nothing GIFGiphy<p>If we say we're doing nothing, "nothing" is not a void to be filled; nothing <em>is</em> the activity and we love it.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07mmwx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Thirty_Helens_Agree</a></p><p>Oh God yes. If I am doing nothing much, my wife always seems to want to fill it with tasks, assuming I am bored, when in fact I am more than happy doing whatever apparently pointless activity I have chosen to spend my limited free time on.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07s51r?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">PiemasterUK</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Expression
<p>I'm not angry, I just don't have anything to say.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07job6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">CuntGrundy</a></p><p>I find more often than not, I <em>do</em> have something to say, I just don't know how to express it... but it's not just because I don't want to talk.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07peke?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">bk4scotus</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I just don't know how to express it...</p><ol><li>at all</li><li>in a way that won't hurt you, because i don't want to hurt you; I want to communicate with you, so we can change a thing that happens so it stops happening and we can both be happy</li><li>in a way that won't hurt you because I don't want to hurt you, I want to communicate with you, so you know why I'm in a mood, and that the mood is based on like, sh!t from like, years ago, and this guy who wasn't thinking when he did a thing, and now I'm pissed at him, and pissed at myself for caring, and pissed at my dead father for sh!t from 20 years ago, and pissed at my friend, cuz he does something similar, but not the same, but close enough to make my hackles rise.... and...</li></ol><div>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g097pg0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">huneybonchesofoes</a></div>
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No Tears
<p>Just because I don't have tears running down my face doesn't mean I'm not as sad as you.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g08h1nn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">mightsdiadem</a></p><p>Sometimes I feel like I should be crying but I'll be right on the edge and nothing comes of it. Feels really unsatisfying, like I've cried and you feel better after but it's just the constant need to cry whilst being unable to.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09asi1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">CCu1e</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I relate the most to this one. Recently, I got the cold shoulder from my girlfriend because something really sad happened to her, and it caused a river from her eyes. Seeing her upset, of course, churned my insides into a sorrowful mess. Apparently, my face simply didn't get the message. I wish there was a way to relay the information that I am also upset.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g097fhe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">llama-impregnator</a></p><p>So true. Lost my job yesterday from covid. I loved the job and most of the crew. My girlfriend was crying asking why she's more upset than me. I just don't like crying unless I'm truly as sad as I could be. At that time i was just accepting the reality and thinking of what to do next. I was still extremely sad.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09808k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Gutsy_Moose76</a></p>
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Creep
<p>I don't always want to be the one that initiates sex. It makes me feel like a creep.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07ooxc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">El_CM</a></p><p>It's also nice to feel wanted as a man.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g08ucjt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">mrperdue503</a></p><p>Or just not to feel like a dog humping a chair, like that it's not so one-sided.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09un0l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">propagandapagoda</a></p><p>I've made it super clear that I don't want her doing sex acts unless she feels like it, as I love feeling like they are genuine. I've found that a haircut, casual touch and conversation, normal amounts of nice cologne, and a clean house gets her much more in the mood to start things than anything else, though.</p><p>Try really cleaning everything up and making sure she's having relaxed fun with you. My social skills are crap and I look like a Neanderthal and it almost always works.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g08r46d?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">throwawaytrumper</a></p><p><em>lesbian relationships have entered the chat</em></p><p>The issue comes from old school misogyny I've learned as a lesbian. Women have been socialized that if you initiate you're a slut whore, the phrase "won't buy the cow if you get the milk for free" comes to mind, even if you rationally (again as a lesbian this shouldn't apply) know that's not how things work anymore, that sht is so ingrained still. It sucks for everyone, that's why for women who like women is so hard to find partners because now you have everyone that has been socialized to not seek people out involved, so everyone just stays home with their cats.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g090rjs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">pataconconqueso</a></p>
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Best Friends Be Like
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMzUzNzEzNi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0OTc5NDU5Nn0.yyWQdnThmyYgTtfREqMHLZDin6ihvw9ffTB3LHiDVlg/img.gif?width=980" id="96bb2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e91a864e526a4c7afe41b43b7cbe87da" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="204" />best friends bff GIFGiphy<p>Why I don't know what the fck my best friend is up to in life even after hanging out with him all day.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07oknf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">El_CM</a></p><p>He isn't dead, he isn't divorced, no new kids, and I'm not invited to anything. There's really nothing more we need to know.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07xxk5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Angel_ofSolitude</a></p><p>Same experience with coworkers. My wife discusses matters beyond the confines of her job with her coworkers. She then tells me about them. Me? I forgot my coworkers exist the moment I leave in the afternoon. She gets a little miffed sometimes when she asks me what they're like and I have nothing to tell her.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g084l94?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">little_shop_of_hoors</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Dropping Hints
<p>Hints don't work. Just tell us what's up.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07xaof?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Qwerzq-</a></p><p>I once said to a guy "I really like you" and he said thanks.... 10 minutes later he looks over and goes, "WAIT you meant LIKE LIKE?"</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g0924tn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Suctioning_Octopus</a></p><p>Before my ex and I started dating, we were just friends hanging out a lot. She dropped hints all the time, which I never ever got. One day, we were watching tv, laying down in the same bed, cuddling, as all coworkers do. She then turned and started staring deeply into my eyes. Then, she started kissing my nose and forehead, before finally she started kissing me on the lips.</p><p>I stopped after getting over the shock I pushed her off and asked "Wait, do you like me??"</p><p>She sighed and kept kissing me</p><p>I was still unsure.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09gsly?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">UndergroundFlaws</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
<p>I feel like a lot of clueless guys say this online because they never figured out what flirting is, why people do it, and why it can be enjoyable.</p><p>To simplify, unambiguously telling someone "I would like intercourse" is not seductive or fun, and is such an obvious approach that if the girl gets turned down it is embarrassing. The whole point of flirting is to avoid that potential embarrassment by maintaining plausible deniability. It's a dance between two people, where how you say something is as important as what you say.</p><p>This is fun. It's an exciting way to build a connection while slowly increasing the tension. It also let's you show that you are capable of holding a conversation, reading social cues, thinking quickly, and having a sense of humor.</p><p>For those reasons I, and a lot of other guys, actually really enjoy this subtle dance and the excitement it brings. And it frustrates me to see my entire gender being typecast as clueless when you're really only describing yourself.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09jv5q?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">hungrmotherfcker</a></p>
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FeelingsĀ
<p>When I talk about my feelings I want to be heard, understood and something to change. When we fight about my feelings it only makes me repress those feelings.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g07qx6h?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">ThrowableMicrowave</a></p><p>This right here. I don't talk about my feelings often, but when I do, it's important. Telling me that my feelings are invalid just makes me hold back longer next time I feel the need to talk.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g08ufmp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">thedudebythething</a></p><p>This is something that I've been struggling with. I was raised to think that real men don't show emotion, and now that I'm in a relationship I need to in order for it to be healthy. But when I finally do, I feel like it's ignored or not as important as what's going on with her. Makes it harder to speak up every time when it feels like you're just yelling into the void rather than having a conversation.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g099932?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">lordchankaknowsall</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Painful Endings
<p>We're not afraid of marriage. We're afraid of divorce.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g084pf5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">BigMilk0</a></p><p>Similarly, I'm not afraid of getting into relationship, I'm not even afraid of asking someone out and getting rejected, I am afraid of being in the relationship for a long time and getting invested and then getting dumped.</p><p>5 years single since my first and last relationship went poorly, and it doesn't look like I'll be ready for another relationship anytime soon in the next few years.</p><p>- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g08zjce?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">ZeroByter</a></p><p>I dated a woman for 2 years. I treated her kids like my own and watched them grow up for those 2 years. I built play houses and bought xmas gifts and read them to sleep.</p><p>Then the woman and I broke up.</p><p>I don't miss her, but I miss the kids. I don't <em>ever</em> want to go through that again. I'd rather be single.</p><p>-<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/i2xlgp/men_of_reddit_what_is_the_hardest_thing_to/g09mncb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Kreiger81</a></p>
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