The truth may always be the best option because, yes, lies will always come out and karma swings back around swiftly. Actually, let's be truthful.... the truth can suck. And not secrets exploding, like a spouse cheating, or corporate embezzlement, actual facts about life.
Better to start swallowing these bitter pills now.Redditor u/Professional-Can8235 wanted to everyone to share about what revelations life has thrown our way and how to deal by asking.... [SERIOUS] What is the harshest truth you've ever learned?
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Being the hardest worker will not always equate to you being the one rewarded or recognized for accomplishments.
Ah the memory....
Nostalgia is a liar.
Sometimes though, nostalgia is the best thing. I have a weird thing with visuals, smells and tastes bringing out really vivid memories of my childhood pretty often (like daydreams) and it feels really home-y, safe and wonderful.
All the Effort Spent....
You can do everything right, give something 100% effort, follow all the rules and still fail.
Jean Luc Picard, CPT USS Enterprise (NCC-1701-D).
I love this quote too.
I learned as a I grew up that just because someone hires you and pays you doesn't mean they intend to play fair. Actually it would seem they usually don't even if it would be better for the company in the long run. The point is, YOU keep YOUR integrity and you never really lose.
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Loving someone unconditionally, and being willing to do anything for them doesn't mean that they will feel the same way about you.
If somebody doesn't want to be helped you can't help them.
Don't fall in love with potential.
Can be many things. Big things, small things. That someone who's inattentive will pay attention if you just try hard enough to show them it's important. That someone who constantly self-sabotages will stop if you show them they're worthy. That an addict will get clean if you support them enough. That someone violent will stop if you love them enough.
It's not your job to fix your partner. Either you love them the way they are (and you should have a long, hard look if "who they are" is really what you think or if that's just your idea of them), or you don't. If it's the latter, you may need to move on.
This isn't the same as growing together, that's an inevitable process based on equality. Your partner can't be like an investment into a rotting house that you just need to fix and then it'll be great to live in.
I'll be there for you....
That no matter how much you care for and value someone they're never obligated to be the same to you. Especially friends.
After we got jobs he was harder to get into contact with. We would hang out on occasion but I always reached out and never other way around. He got distant and i asked if he was ok and did I do something wrong, he said it's all ok, then one day he flat out ghosted me.
Has new friends now from what I can see. Still not quite sure what happened but I do not wish him ill and hope he is happy. Hope you are doing ok as well.
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I am nowhere near as smart, nice, or likable as I thought I was to myself.
Don't take anything for granted, things change so fast and life is really short. I remember having so many friends not that long ago, who are now strangers.
A big one for me is how many "last times" you're going to have, and how often you won't realize it's a last time. Things can change so fast. Go bowling every Monday? Have a convention you and your friends go to yearly? Hang out regularly with the same people?
One day is going to be the last time it happens and almost without fail you will not know. Then you go days without talking to someone, then weeks, then months, then one day you realize that you aren't really friends anymore. No major fallout, just your lives are no longer compatible.
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When it comes to grief Time does not heal all wounds. It dulls it, but one trigger and it floods back.
I learned this after my dad & grandma died in 2015. Sad I know, but I resent the fact that people kept telling me I wouldn't feel it one day. I think we need to be honest about that so people know how to cope with grief in the right way & not hold out for a day when it won't be there lurking in the shadows.
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Self reflection is often quite difficult, because it can require us to accept some pretty uncomfortable things about ourselves.
Whether it's a major character flaw or just our own inability to deal with life, sometimes taking a deep look into ourselves is not at all fun
Reddit user u/sl*t4plums asked:
I'm growing older. I still feel young, but I'm in my 30s. That means 40s aren't too far away, and I know that this decade flew by fast, I'm certain that the 40s will too, which mean 50s, are also not too far away, then 60s, etc.
There's nothing I can do about it, but I do miss my 20s sometimes and I know I can't ever be that again. That is rough to have to accept.
I am just about intelligent enough to know that I am not that intelligent.
My high school biology teacher once said "if all of the knowledge in the world is an ocean, and you have a thimble-full; you're doing fine." He put into perspective that you don't need to know everything - in fact it would be impossible given the ocean - to be successful in life. I've become content with the amount of knowledge I have, but am always learning more and more.
My unhappiness and loneliness is mostly my own fault.
Here's to hoping both of us have progress in this area of our lives...
That I devoted all of my time to studying just so I can get a good job, that I can't even cook anything mildly difficult without screwing it up.
That's why my microwave is my best friend
That I am completely average. I'm sort of good at a lot of things, but I'm nowhere near extraordinary or gifted as my schooling suggested.
I always see the good in people, but fail to see the bad and often get taken advantage of.
I might never be happy. I have certain goals that I think "Maybe once this happens everything will be ok." But what if I achieve it and still feel nothing? Depression is a real b*tch.
Even if happiness never becomes an option for you, you can still always choose to be kind to others and help them get to where they need to be even if you can't...
That's the conclusion I've recently come to... If I ever had a dream/ goal it's been lost for so long I don't even remember having one. I'm freshly 30 y/o, have several life times of student loan debt, no valuable or marketable skills or abilities that can get me out of the dead end job I have now. All I can do is help others get to the mountaintop that i'll never see the view from myself, and that's not a great place to be, but not the worst place either.
I'm ok with being reclusive. I enjoy my time to myself.
I do struggle to accept that I will generally be less "popular" because I'm not as "available" as I should be for socializing.
Samesies. All at once I revel in spending time alone, but hate that I don't have a big group of friends, or that I'm not out doing stuff with people all the time. I spent almost a year traveling the world by myself, and while I had so much fun and would do it again in a heartbeat, I often felt so damn lonely, because i'd look around and see groups of travelers making friends and doing things together, and I often struggled to do that myself. At the same time, I loved every minute. It's a weeeeeeird ass dichotomy.
Some people genuinely like me.
I honestly just cannot fathom why. At all.
Try as I might, I will never get over the past. It's holding me back without question, and I might not ever find a remedy.
We all have skeletons in our closet, but who were doesn't define who we choose to become. I don't know you, but just from your statement I can tell that you're not someone who's beyond hope. Stay strong my friend.
We all have to grow up at some point or another, and we all experience watershed moments that lead us to make choices that come to define the overall trajectory of our lives.
When Redditor JapShag asked the online community "What happened that finally forced you to grow up?" the answers were about as revealing as you might expect.
Warning: Some sensitive material ahead.