Sex is an integral part of life. Even if you spend most of your living days single, you still need to find a little one on one human contact. It feeds the soul. But as imperative as sex is, you have to choose wisely. We compromise too much of ourselves when the sexy time is... just that good. Don't be blinded, pay attention.
Even serial killers can be good in bed, it doesn't mean we need to lay next to them.
Redditor u/ya7ta wanted everyone to share about a life weakness that binds us all together by asking... What is the biggest red flag you had overlooked because the sex was good?***WARNING. THINGS MAY GET A LITTLE HOT HERE. SO 17 and UP!!***
<p><em>Sex can blind you to the people aren't willing to do the work. They know what's going on, they are cognizent of their actions and they don't care, it's about them. That is always a BURNING red flag. Burning like fire. </em></p>White Noise
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY0NzQ0Mi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzNTg1MTAzNH0.sCNwXnsToN52TlxEhk7iz9uEfLwqI-dvgHjUjO6lNF4/img.gif?width=980" id="bc578" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f69d595a7cc164c1f00255384798c926" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="245" data-height="150" />the lord of the rings no GIFGiphy<p>Doesn't appear to register a word I say, and sometimes just interrupts me mid-sentence with a remark of his own. It's almost like I'm white noise sometimes. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gndy0jb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">UntalentedBethHarmon</a><span></span></p>Liar Liar pants on Fire...
<p>Pathological Liar on the streets, Demon in the sheets. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gnefb09?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">omegakingauldron</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gnefb09?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a><span></span>You just described my last Ex.</p><p>Amazing in bed, but practically everything she said was a lie. I finally left when I realized she'd lied about her age, and I finally wasn't even sure she was honest about her last name.</p>the focus...
<p>Even after being married to my husband for almost 20 years my husband still gets annoyed with me over it. Back in the day they called it "inability to focus" as per my learning disabilities teachers paperwork. Now it's called ADHD. I try to make my husband understand that I'm not trying to be rude or spiteful. </p>JUMP!
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY0NzcwNi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0MDQxNTI3Mn0.u-EPYcDuF4IdkWrk2iOxI8U2-UcywpT5V8n0udqWFqI/img.gif?width=980" id="92959" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="a80c9f4f0903a4880b6c004f7190bf6f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="360" data-height="206" />ouch jump GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy<p>Jumped out of a moving car because she didn't like a restaurant in the direction we were headed. Most adventurous sex I ever had. Crazy in the head crazy in the bed. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gney243?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Patchesmatches</a><span></span></p>Ok X?
<p>My ex got mad at me because she "always" chose where we ate. I said let's go to X, she said she didn't like X. I said how about Y? No, Y either. Same with Z, so I asked where she wanted to eat then since she didn't like any of my choices and we went there.</p>For Me?
<p>He constantly wanted to do everything with me/for me. Don't go to the post office by yourself, I'll drive you! Don't get yourself dinner, I'll take you and we'll go together! Don't do X, I'll do it!</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gneyn5p?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a>And then he'd get upset when I had already gone/didn't wait for his butt to wake up (he worked nights and often slept through a million calls)/had done whatever by myself or with friends, and claimed that he was worried about me.</p><p>He found a new squeeze and dumped me a month or so into this, but in hindsight he was really, really controlling and that was quite likely the start of something not-so-great. </p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/himit/" target="_blank">himit</a><span></span></p>Paranoia...
<p>Everyone told me she was paranoid but she was a ballerina and her body was perfect. Her paranoia was strange in that she thought everyone was talking about her behind her back and lo and behold everyone was talking about her behind her back. Everyone was talking about how paranoid she was. In my defense I told everyone that she technically wasn't paranoid if what she thought was happening was actually happening. Then she became paranoid of me sleeping around on her. Had to roll. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gneyyic?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">BeemerBaby004</a></p>Leave Sober
<p>She was insanely jealous and we'd fight all the time, but the sex was amazing.</p><p>I managed to break up with her, met her to get some things back. She asked to get a drinks, few hours later and the most intense sex ever, I ended up with her for another year.</p><p>I did finally end it. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gnfb41z?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">godca_grema</a></p>Pearl Clutch
<ol><li>owns a house with her ex-husband that she's still "friendly" with. Also I was never invited over.</li><li>Nieces & nephews live with her, but brother doesn't regularly.</li><li>Wanted to get a job with her ex.</li></ol><p>Yeah, she got that job and is back with him. Shocked, I tell you. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gnewse3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">TywinShitsGold</a></p>Mic Drop!
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY0NzcwOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NzQzNTgzMH0.MAG84U7RToJo9hSDsH71QT3kRHFHvSggvAk4hHfUbOs/img.gif?width=980" id="4ebdc" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e56ad6d0bd172d915953273faac1498e" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="271" />scared modern family GIFGiphy<p>She never used a turn signal while driving. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ljmil5/what_is_the_biggest_red_flag_you_had_overlooked/gnemrbm?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SecondRateHack</a><span></span></p>People Explain Which Historical Figures Seemed Crazy Until They Were Proven Right All Along
Paul Revere, Jesus Christ, our parents... Anthony Fauci. Why is it humans always choose to ignore signs and try to discredit the truth tellers? Are we truly that arrogant? Now that I'm an adult I feel like I should always be on an apology tour to my elders who always warned me about growing up; they were right, youth is wasted on the young.
Thank goodness there always seems to be a handful of people who are willing to risk everything to expose what needs to told. And those people are never travelling an easy road. They are often ridiculed and lambasted. But thankfully, most of the time, they do get their "I told you so" moments.
Redditor u/MeargleSchmeargle wanted to discuss some of the people who tried to warn everyone and blow the whistles on so many things, though it often all landed on deaf ears; they asked... Who was crazy until they were right all along?Ludwig Knows
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTYyOTU5MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NjAyOTkzOX0.59JYd0sTG6FQZc_E6VyLKdwj6fO5L5DSkievpIXRPTQ/img.gif?width=980" id="b84ee" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="c2a302b9e6cd489125bee040f24a1fe1" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="360" />digging self destruct GIFGiphy<p>Ludwig Boltzmann</p><p>His equations and formulas explained the physical properties of matter, but as it went against the then accepted Laws of Physics, he was ridiculed and ignored for years while fighting for atom theory to be accepted.</p><p>He took his own life just 3 years before Ernest Rutherford discovered the nucleus of an atom, proving Boltzmann's theory. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glpz6hw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">cpsutcliffe</a><span></span></p>Ernie's Concern...
<p>Hemingway, before he took his life he became extremely paranoid the FBI was following him. His wife and people around him just thought he was mentally ill and grew deeply concerned. Hemingway went as far as getting electrotherapy at a psychiatric hospital to try and help with the perceived delusions. Turns out the FBI had been following and bugging him for years according to declassified files. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glpnjxa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">WhoIsTurdFerguson</a></p>No One Would Listen
<p>Harry Markopolos spent ten years trying to convince everyone (investors, journalists, regulatory agencies, etc.) that Bernie Madoff was a fraud, based on forensic accounting. Madoff was one of the most respected names on Wall Street and despite the overwhelming evidence, no one was willing to entertain the thought he might be running a Ponzi scheme. Harry's book, <em>No One Would Listen</em> is a pretty great account of financial detective work and just the abject frustration of being absolutely certain you're right but no one believes you.</p><p><strong><em>EDIT: </em></strong>If you want to see Congressman Ackerman absolutely destroy the SEC right after Markopolous's testimony, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3z-11Cq0QME" target="_blank">here you go</a>. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glq7cvq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Inri137</a><span></span></p>The Drifter...
<p><em>In 1912 the meteorologist Alfred Wegener described what he called continental drift, an idea that culminated fifty years later in the modern theory of plate tectonics.[40]</em></p><p><em>Wegener expanded his theory in his 1915 book The Origin of Continents and Oceans.[41] Starting from the idea (also expressed by his forerunners) that the present continents once formed a single land mass (later called Pangea), Wegener suggested that these separated and drifted apart, likening them to "icebergs" of low density granite floating on a sea of denser basalt.</em></p>Dr. Fauci?
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTYyOTYyMy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1ODgwNjY3Nn0.s6G0RYHBDdVUVV88ZDT9jZs6dhU09Lveg_W91WX_igQ/img.gif?width=980" id="64cab" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ffc4e5f6a1637ffcda5a6d71dbff5549" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />Corona Stay Home GIF by INTO ACTIONGiphy<p>That dude who suggested that it might be a good idea to wash your hands before performing surgery. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glpetmz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Roland_T_Flakfeizer</a></p>The Death
<p>Semmelweis supposedly suffered a nervous breakdown and was committed to an asylum by his colleagues. He died 14 days later after being beaten by the guards, from a gangrenous wound on his right hand which might have been caused by the beating. Semmelweis's practice earned widespread acceptance only years after his death, when Louis Pasteur confirmed the germ theory.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqnvoo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dannycolaco14</a></p>Super Barry
<p>For a very long time the medical community thought that stomach ulcers were caused by stress.</p><p>A doctor in Australia called Barry Marshall claimed they were wrong and that they were caused by an excess of certain bacteria, and the cure was simple antibiotics. The medical community ridiculed him and nearly ended his career. He eventually decided the only way to prove he was right was to infect himself, develop the ulcers and cure himself.</p>"The Great Missoula Flood"
<p>J Harlan Bretz</p><p>He was a geologist that in the 1920s came up with a theory about why the Dry Falls and surrounding scablands of Eastern Washington state were so sharp and abrupt, instead of smooth as should be with the general understanding of erosion. Especially since the falls have no real river to speak of to create erosion.</p>Drunk Martha
<p>Martha Mitchell, she was the wife of Nixon's AG, John Mitchell. She was outspoken in the extreme and was one of the first to talk openly about what really happened re:Watergate. Since she was also known to love her martinis, she was widely written off as a drunk, crazy woman. Behind the scenes, a White House doctor began heavily sedating her and her husband locked her away from the press. No one believed her until Nixon resigned and the story came out. To this day, most people only remember her as that loud-mouth, Martha Mitchell. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqead5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> feliciates</a><span></span></p>Sherman's Truth
<p>When the Civil War broke out, everyone on both sides thought it would be a quick victory. However Sherman kept saying it would be a bloodbath that would drag on for years. His superiors decided he was insane and sent him out west to fight Native Americans just to get rid of him.</p><p>After it all came true and they needed some better generals, they said "Maybe we should bring back that Sherman guy." </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqai0f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">RealisticDelusions77</a><span></span></p>John Knows
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTYyOTY1Ny9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1NTYzNjkxNX0.NPVqRY8-kVmXeY5RDNI7Ttx5U0SiwGwG4-4WCqtVgow/img.gif?width=980" id="b3f37" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ac2f38b5e654a6e2b595a2291959bcb1" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="400" data-height="225" />game of thrones winter GIF by got50Giphy<p>John Snow (yes, that's his name) was laughed at for believing that the multiple cholera outbreaks could be traced back to a specific source and that it was due to contaminated water. Essentially, making him one of the fathers of epidemiology. He has a fascinating life that went beyond that as well! </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glr45ey?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">CaptainHedgehog</a></p>Mother's Know
<p>The "dingo ate my baby!" lady. Got made fun of constantly, most notably in Seinfeld and I believe went to jail because nobody believed her. Turns out a dingo ate her baby. She is still made fun of. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqh64p?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Threash78</a><span></span></p>Phil Knows
<p>There was a sci-fi writer Philip K Dick who was convinced the FBI was monitoring him so he kept sending demand letters that they release his file.</p><p>His daughter was interviewed years after he passed (extras on Scanner Darkly dvd iirc):</p><p>"I heard you've actually seen your father's FBI file and it is quite large"</p><p>"Yes it's rather large, but the only thing in there are copies of his demand letters". </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqbwd0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">RealisticDelusions77</a></p>Radium
<p>The Radium Girls.</p><p>When Radium had just come to the US and was being marketed on dials for war and watches, girls used their lips to fix the paintbrushes to make their numbers and dials perfect. Eventually they started suffering horrible, painful experiences due to the radium. <span></span></p>Hey Ladies...
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY1NDQzMy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMzM4NzIwNX0.gFQ3qxozVm50601KXU9QixzB46Rbnp5dlkJ_Dim8aAE/img.gif?width=980" id="80659" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="8cc5c27c944404df4330f56fc1a3f317" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Hey Girl Ladies GIF by Amanda Cee MediaGiphy<p>When I was in Boy Scout camp we had this counselor named Don. He was kind of odd, he knew everything about trees and only really talked about trees.</p>Mr. Burry gets it...
<p>Michael Burry. The first guy to predict the 2008 housing market crash. He was a hedge fund manager for Scion Capital at the time and basically bet his entire funds liquidity (all the money the fund had) that there would be a crash.</p><p>No one believed him except a few other people who also bet against the market. Several of his clients sued him for tying their money up in what they considered to be a foolish bet all to have him be right in the end. He made his fund something like $1.3 billion and the value increased about 489%.</p>Rotted to the Core
<p>Johnny Rotten said in an interview that he knew Jimmy Savile was into all kinds of "seediness". People dismissed it as typical Johnny Rotten anti establishment talk (for which he is famous). As it turned out, he was right.</p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4OzI9GYag0" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Yeah, I know, Piers Morgan...</a> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqmrsv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">zerbey</a></p>Pity Me Partyboy...
<p>Me. About my (now disowned) cousin.</p><p>He kept stealing things from me which my family felt was no big deal. But it escalated. It went from stealing candy, to my things, to cash, and after that I asked them how much longer they would support him and call me "selfish" for "not sharing." The line was finally crossed when he stole our grandmothers credit cards and her car.</p><p>She finally wrote him off.</p><p>This was AFTER he had stolen all of her jewelry, including the last present (anniversary ring) my grandfather was ever to give her.</p>You're Sane
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY1NDQzNy9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1MDAzOTczOH0.lB1ADQSZSRibevxaJknN70RvOKvfOzvKkbVIKpXLxiU/img.gif?width=980" id="809a2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="c1c990182ab3fad1eb11d6ddfb993a66" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="400" />Season 5 Nbc GIF by The OfficeGiphy<p>The ex-husband of my ex-girlfriend . Turns out he wasn't the crazy one after all. He kept trying to tell me and if I would have listened from the beginning I could have saved 4 years of my life. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glpmr5v?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Topher3037</a></p>Th Wardens
<p>The people who discovered prions. All the other biologists thought they were crazy to suggest one protein could be an infectious agent. Nope those biologists were wrong and Nobel prizes were awarded. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glqmnj3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">thatonewhitejamaican</a></p>The Tortured
<p>The people who were tortured as a part of MK Ultra. Imagine trying to convince the people around you that the government is trying to make you crazy with mind control, only years later to find out that not only was it true, but you wouldn't get compensation for it. And you were subject to illegal human experimentation. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glr53vb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">heathert7900</a></p>Don't Tell Me
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTY1NDQ0OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY3NzM0NDc2NH0.doPoGsUokMUn1QwB-8OPUdBgqk6aDnC0xbtdHoyu-Pk/img.gif?width=980" id="c499b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1e411a85d9e0c89711a3eec678f08ee4" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Giphy<p>The classic example, of course, is Cassandra; in Greek mythology she was cursed to know the future, but for no one to believe her when she told them. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lapmwa/who_was_crazy_until_they_were_right_all_along/glr59o8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">DukeMaximum</a></p>I love movies. The cinema has long been a savior of mine and has given me some of my greatest inspirations. But being an avid film watcher has also made me quite the critic. I can always tell when a movie is worth the money to see in theaters or wait until it's on basic cable with commercials. The signs of mediocrity abound, and sometimes they aren't that difficult to spot.
Redditor u/fjv08kl wanted to know what is obvious about mediocre cinema by asking.... What are some subtle 'red flags' that tell you a movie is not worth watching?5 Star Crap
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTQ1MDI3NS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY3NDUwMDI1N30.TIHib3pSV2Za3FslHLMblkxaAZsymIgIZBif48D0Lsc/img.gif?width=980" id="3c4de" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="016837a2b79d26d09f8d6f0b69e9feb5" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />Sick Schitts Creek GIF by CBCGiphy<p>"Critics are calling it 'laugh-out-loud funny!'"</p><p>It's almost always garbage. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giuiscq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">an_ineffable_plan</a><span></span></p>Good Phrases
<p>If the trailer has blurbs from reviews, check to see who wrote each review. On bad movies, they will often put multiple blurbs from the same review. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giufjra?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Tricky4279</a><span></span></p><p>And quote phrases that can easily be taken out of context. That "...laugh out loud" in the trailer was actually taken from the quote "This movie was so painfully unfunny that I didn't laugh out loud even once." </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giwozee?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">bearlybreeding</a></p>Merits...
<p>Them desperately pointing out the director/producers/writers/studios better movies and productions that barely relate to the movie's themes in an attempt to lure in fans. To me it always meant the movie doesn't stand out enough to stand on its own. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giukhjg?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"> Illier1</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Illier1/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a><span></span></p>Sing Out
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTQ1MDI4Ny9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2ODc3Mjg3NX0.PqLcrCbJQWjnOq2qjDYgljgKTS1tNiemieiJknAY5BA/img.gif?width=980" id="e7fa0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="b001b797c886eca75f7c3fe4df87f809" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="245" data-height="245" />pitch perfect singing GIFGiphy<p>A movie has a popular song with different lyrics. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giu7bw0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Da_Budster</a></p>Bad Blitz....
<p>They push the ads way too hard on TV and reddit. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giu5eto?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">LasVegasLoner147</a></p><p>If a studio knows a movie is bad they will use an ad blitz to get as many people to go opening weekend as possible before the word of mouth has a chance to sink them. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giw5ee3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">jwc905</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giw5ee3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Can't prove this empirically, but to me the logic has always been:</p>Too Much too Soon
<p>When you feel the preview showed basically the whole movie. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giu58fh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dklein15</a></p><p>This. And also when it's obvious that the dialogue in the preview was put into the movie for the sole purpose of making the preview interesting. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giunkmd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">pokey1984</a></p>The Raves...
<p>If in the commercial the people who are "raving" about it aren't anyone reputable. Susan on Twitter said it was the best movie she saw in 2020. Susan didn't have many options in 2020, her standards were lower. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giuaovx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Sea_Somewhere2297</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giuaovx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a><span></span>This applies to games way too often too.</p><p>"Game of the year award!" <em>randomasswebsite.com.... </em></p><p><em><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giunv4b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">_Bob_A_Feet_</a></em></p>The Star
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTQ1MDI4MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1Mzc1NzkzMX0.hAc2HW8-qxafmLGA5cUJQggDwYGmcyWVilQYmJnZxlE/img.gif?width=980" id="05328" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="bb3c4cbbb57d47f9695aa0b3f4041242" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />mariah carey hello GIFGiphy<p>It's clearly just a "star vehicle." Like, all the hype is about the star's riveting new performance... but no corresponding critical praise for the story, directing, special effects, nothing. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giu7pe0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">UtopiaForest</a><span></span></p>'Tis the Season....
<p>Release date. The only movies that go into wide release in January or February are:</p><ul><li>Oscar bait that got limited releases in December in NY/LA to qualify for the Oscars</li><li>A romance or two the Friday before Valentine's Day</li><li>Crap that the distributors are assuming will bomb that they dump onto the screens in midwinter.</li></ul>"O"
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTQ1MDI5Mi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MTA0NjY4Nn0.XJbs6K8qkvlKfoRmLY0ndY3WDWLo-jO0QOiDW9H8DE4/img.gif?width=980" id="5e2b0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="65cab9febdbbba1a639bd339f08ab95d" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />Will Smith What GIF by DraftKingsGiphy<p>If any of the actors have an overly expressive "O" face on the films poster. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kuud2s/what_are_some_subtle_red_flags_that_tell_you_a/giuicac?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">kandren</a><span></span></p>Couples Therapists Explain Which Relationships Instantly Set Off Red Flags For Them
Yes, love is a splendid thing... until it's not. Sometimes forever is just not in the cards. And often the story should've never begun. We have to learn to recognize when our "love" story has turned toxic. Couples go through ups and downs sure, that's why it's always a good idea to visit a third party, not sexually, but visiting a therapist is always healthy.
Sometimes an outside ear can bring it all together. And they can also let you know when it's time to run. They know the signs.Redditor u/Gnerdy was hoping some therapists out there would share with us about the times when they knew they were treating couples that may be beyond help by asking.... Couples therapists, without breaking confidentiality, what are some relationships that instantly set off red flags, and do you try and get them to work out?
Options
<p>I'm not a therapist, but my therapist straight face told me that "there are worse options than divorce".</p><p>Got divorced and it was the best thing that happened to me. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/krym7q/couples_therapists_without_breaking/gidevbz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">pconwell</a><span></span></p>Choose for Us
<p>One partner says they're seeking your services to help them determine if they want to stay together; the other partner says they're seeking your services to make it so they stay together.</p><p>Then it's about highlighting the points and allowing the person who is on the fence decide what they want, since the other person knows.</p>The Cousel
<p>I saw a couple that was doing "retaliatory" cheating (and telling each other about it). When they got through their anger, they decided to call a truce and made peace. With their level of emotional maturity, I doubt it lasted. I don't know if I helped them or prolonged their suffering. </p>They're Wrong
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTI2NjMzNi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NzcyNDIxN30.Hsqcl2j6TCRmkS47sVFsDtcPPe554vsBW-TNvj1lb2U/img.gif?width=980" id="dda59" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="591039a5d8c365d83577116376bbac6b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="278" />Argue Sesame Street GIFGiphy<p>People who approach therapy with the idea that they must convince the therapist that they're right and their partner is wrong. Almost like they're complaining to a parent or boss to have them sort out the problems. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/krym7q/couples_therapists_without_breaking/gid770t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Hyujikol</a><span></span></p>Remember When....
<p>Relationship therapist here.</p><p>One of the biggest red flags I see when working with a new couple is when they've totally forgotten the good. Part of relationship therapy is reconnecting a couple with what they like about each other, what initially attracted them to each other, and what the positives are between them.</p>See One Another
<p>When I see a couple in which one or both of the members are seeking to change something fundamental about the other person. We process where the need for the change comes from and the person with the issue evaluates whether it's a dealbreaker for them or not. We work on acceptance and tolerance of others. I also recommend my couples are also in individual therapy on their own.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/krym7q/couples_therapists_without_breaking/gid7uub?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ladyledylidy</a></p>Pleading the 5th....
<p>I was in couples therapy. At the end of the first session, the therapist asked us to say one nice thing about each other. I went first, said something nice about him. Therapist asked him to say something, and he replied "My mother always told me if you can't say something nice, say nothing. </p>Lost Peace
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTI2NjM0MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMDU1MTAyMn0.OeMngXR0tLEGpA998OlYYBBBm0hsmU8lukDNs3zNR1U/img.gif?width=980" id="bd80f" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="745801e16b4a814ea25d033196739dd5" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="400" data-height="400" />mad rainn wilson GIF by T-MobileGiphy<p>Contempt. When I experience true contempt from one in the relationship I know it is usually over. Look towards a peaceful ending at that point if possible. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/krym7q/couples_therapists_without_breaking/gid3sen?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">threerottenbranches</a><span></span></p>The Fiancè
<p>Not my client, but I had to watch as my own roommate dealt with her fiancè.</p><p>He was: A. controlling her (physically/activities/financials). </p><p>B. continuously dismissing her feelings/assessments/opinions (fiancè would revert to baby talk, speaking to roommate like she was an uneducated child, "daddy knows best" type of gaslighting garbage). </p><p>C. <em>trying</em> to hide his narcissistic tendencies behind his "good church boy" exterior.</p>Mean It...
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTI2NjM0Ni9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1NDA4Mjc4NX0.wQcT1frVC2NIr5XBW3r1tR1eESSQ4PSSnq6_dSDOinw/img.gif?width=980" id="56eb0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="031d55e0744ebc682cd70823d4852e35" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="640" data-height="360" />ava duvernay couple GIF by OWN: Oprah Winfrey NetworkGiphy<p>It's very easy to work out when one person knowingly prioritises their own wants and needs over their partners. Relationships like this are often doomed because the person simply doesn't care enough to make any meaningful change. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/krym7q/couples_therapists_without_breaking/giczfvo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ocelot_piss</a></p>Hiring Managers Share The Biggest Red Flags They've Ever Seen During An Applicant's Interview
Interviews are a vital part of the hiring process.
Not only do they give you a chance to learn what the office environment is like, it gives the office time to get to know if you're a good fit. That's a huge part of a hiring managers job.