Sometimes, we all could use a little push--even if that comes from the notes of wise person who died years ago.
It's important for us to remember that we are not even close to the first generation of human beings. There are so many people who've come and gone before us.
And no matter how ancient or historic their lifestyle seems compared to our own, they still inhabited a body filled with worries, a sense of time passing, and the need to interact with others.
So it's no surprise that quotes from the near and distant past all still feel so appropriate to our own experience. And thanks to the internet, we can share so many of them with others who may need that clarity.
Apparently in the market for a little inspiration, Redditor internallyskating asked:
"What's a quote that permanently changed the way you look at things?"
Anxiety affects countless people all over the. Of course, many people shared the quotes that have helped them put their worries aside and live life with a bit more presence.
You Have a Choice
" 'Let go or be dragged' and old zen proverb I heard at a meditation class. Really changed the way I let myself worry about things"
Can't Please 'Em All
" 'You might be the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don't like peaches.' "
"This helped me get over my lifelong desire to be liked by everyone, and allowed me to focus on becoming someone I actually liked."
The Humor Inside Anxiety
" 'I've had a lot of worries in my life. Most of which never happened.' "- Mark Twain.
"Found it on a workbook for anxiety disorders."
Others have used quotes to help themselves persevere through both specific challenges as well as the long, winding experience of life as a whole.
Either way, some quotes to refresh perspective can provide the perfect push.
A New Kind of Courage
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow.' '-Maryann Radmacher"
"I came across this a long time ago, at a point in life that I really needed this lesson. It's okay if I feel sad and resigned, if my depression beat me for today and I wasn't able to function. I didn't fail, I'm not weak, I will try again tomorrow."
Just Go For It
"Dear Abby's response to a writer thinking of going back to school but worried that she will be 40 by the time she got her degree -"
" How old will you be in four years if you don't get your degree? You are going to be 40 anyway with or without your degree.'"
"It reminded me that letting age stop me from my plans was just silly. Also, working at a community college and seeing so many people going back to school in their 30s, 40s, 50s and thriving, the quote really spoke to me."
First Things First
" 'The first draft is just you telling yourself the story.' - Terry Pratchett"
"I'm not sure why this quote struck me so hard, but it completely changed the way I approach writing. Just get your ideas down in run-on sentences and asides to yourself and loads of [???] at parts you haven't figured out yet. It took me more than 30 years to realize that a first draft isn't just a rough version of the final draft. It's a map for yourself, and no one else."
Finally, so many people are out here walking around carrying extra weight. It's just too hard to live a long life without picking things up along the way and clinging to them, as toxic as they are.
But some folks offered advice on letting it all go.
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die" -- ocbbelife
" 'When seeking revenge dig two graves.' - Confucius" -- Cain_Soren
"All the negative emotions, regardless of whether or not they're meant for someone else, sit inside us. Let them go, not because the others deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." -- TheLordOfFriendZone
You Don't Have to Hold It All
" 'That mountain you've been carrying, you were only suppose to climb' "
"Really helped me overcome a lot of traumatic experiences and difficult chapters in my life. I hope it helps someone else out there."
" 'When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.' - C. S. Lewis" -- nolo_me
"Goddamn this resonates. Take being serious a little less seriously and you'll find life is a lot more interesting." -- Crackgnome
" 'And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.' --John Steinbeck, East of Eden" -- Zuikis9
"The first time I read these words, I wept. Most of my life I'd enjoyed praise from my family, friends, and colleagues for being 'outstanding' even as many of them relished in reminding me what a perfectionist I was. Not only did Steinbeck give me permission to seek something other than perfection, he gave my a nobler aim to center my efforts around."
"Around the same time I encountered a Latin phrase that means 'To be rather than to seem to be.' Turns out it's a whole lot harder to pretend to be good (while not actually being the thing) than it is to pretend to be perfect. And, thankfully, it's a lot more difficult to convince yourself into believing an untruth about yourself when you can't even convince other people of it."
"I'm neither perfect nor good, but I know which one I'd rather be." -- Lex_Orandi
Here's hoping at least one--and ideally, more--of these quotes offered you some new perspective to get throughout whatever challenges you're facing these days.
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Not a day goes by that we don't come across some recycled platitude, some well-worn pearl of wisdom, or an absurd saying that ceased to be helpful long ago.
But don't hold your breath on those cliche messages going away any time soon.
It seems that interacting humans, in a constant effort to connect and be seen, opt to say things they can be sure the other person has heard and understood already. The nod of the head, however automatic, only confirms the effort.
But relatable isn't always good.
In fact, according to a recent thread of Redditors, those cliches all amount to meaningless drivel.
CaptainGisseno asked, "Reddit, what is the most cliche message you're just sick of hearing?"
Many people pointed to the repeated phrases they hear as consumers navigating the landscape of travel, shopping, and customer service.
No doubt you've heard these before, and nearly screamed involuntarily when you did.
Could Have Fooled Me
"Your call is important to us." -- HMCetc
"Been calling this number for almost ten years. At what point is a 60 minute wait just the normal, average call volume? Why lie to me?" -- killerqueen5
Well, Hopefully It's Up There
" 'Your safety is our top priority.' No it isn't. Profits and shareholders are." -- frostymargaritafan
"Translates directly to 'Liability is our top fear.' " -- Aboot_
"This vein, 'The safety of our employees is our number 1 concern.' No it isn't just stop trying to lie. Nobody who works here believes you."
"So save those few seconds, add them up, and use them on something useful. Like actually helping your employees." -- PingKiccolo
"Buzzwords such as 'diversity' and 'sustainability' in company mission statements. Like, if every company would actually enact their mission statements, we would be the greatest world." -- chrimimi
" 'Carbon neutral by 2025'- meaning 4 more years of fu**ing the planet before any action is taken, if it even will be taken."
"The worst is when companies continue to do the same shit and simply buy credits from Tesla or whatever and then proclaim to be green." -- Megalomouse
Others brought up the cliche messages that are infuriating for two key reasons: they don't actually make any logical sense, and they serve to make people feel guilty for no reason at all.
Can't Talk About Everything
" 'Why is no one talking about '____??' "
"Because we are all bombarded by incredible amounts of information on a daily basis and busy living our individual lives. Stop guilting people for not talking about something they had no idea about previously."
" 'You are young, you shouldn't have any problems' " -- GayBrandFlakes
"As a hiker that goes out on long distances with older friends and people in my community, this is absolutely a huge pet peeve. It's like, sure Margaret, I may be 30 years younger than you, but 20miles in a day still gives me some soreness." -- underminer223
Thanks for the Reminder
" 'There are children starving in Africa' "
"Then why do I have to force myself to eat more than I can handle? Give the rest of the food to the starving kids then."
"If anything, mentioning starving kids when I can't eat something will make me eat less because of how guilty I feel for actually having food when they don't."
Good to Know, But Irrelevant
" 'Someone else always has it worse than you, be grateful' It still doesn't change my situation one bit." -- ChristianStonks999
"exactly that just makes me feel bad for whoever has it worse and makes me feel no better" -- AwesomeRailfanning
"My favorite response to this is to point out that it goes both ways - if you're saying that can't be sad because someone has it worse then me, then i guess I can't be happy because someone has it better then me." -- BrackishBloop
And finally, there were those essential, supposed tidbits of wisdom that one is supposed to keep in mind as they navigate life.
Unfortunately, those quotes only sound nice. They're usually very off-base.
"'You're perfect the way you are' "
"No, you're not. This thinking completely removes any personal accountability and improvement, and allows hubris and zealotry to fester."
But It Would Be Nice
"Follow your dreams"
"*Side effects may include being a broke chump, not being able to provide for those who depend on you, and in severe cases a lifetime of regret when you realize your dreams aren't as neat as they seemed. Best results were seen in patients who were financially successful before following their dreams. Tell your doctor about real-life sh!t you need to take care of before following your dreams."
Sorta, But Not Really
"'Time heals all wounds.'
"No, it doesn't. Time alone may help heal many wounds, but it doesn't necessarily close them. Especially in the realm of mental health, many issues require additional help, therapy and sometimes medication. Simply trying to wait out a problem sometimes just makes the problem larger."
So next time you come across some age-old adage or piece of advice and it makes you want to scream, rest assured you're not the only out here seeing how useless it is.
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There are literally millions of movies.
Within each movie, hundreds to thousands of quotes. The options for your favorite movie quotes are endless.
Of course, not all movies are created equally, so some definitely stand out more than others.
u/eoghan_mckenna_ asked:What is the best movie quote you have ever heard?
Here were some of those answers.
An Arnie Film
Barbarian General: "We won again. This is good! But what is best in life?"
Warrior: "The open steppe, fleet horse, falcons at your wrist, wind in your hair!"
General: "Wrong! Conan, what is best in life?"
Conan: "To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women!"
Barbarian General: "That is good."
The Horror Of War
"I love the smell of napalm in the morning. You know, one time we had a hill bombed, for 12 hours. When it was all over, I walked up. We didn't find one of 'em, not one stinkin' dink body. The smell, you know that gasoline smell? The whole hill, smelled like...victory. Someday this war's gonna end."
— Lt. Col. Bill Kilgore (Robert Duvall), Apocalypse Now
Guess This One
(In a thick Gloucester accent)
"No luck catching them killers then?"
"It's just the one killer actually"
"I'd ask you about love, you'd probably quote me a sonnet. But you've never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone that could level you with her eyes, feeling like God put an angel on earth just for you. Who could rescue you from the depths of hell. And you wouldn't know what it's like to be her angel, to have that love for her, be there forever, through anything, through cancer. And you wouldn't know about sleeping sitting up in the hospital room for two months, holding her hand, because the doctors could see in your eyes, that the terms "visiting hours" don't apply to you.
You don't know about real loss, 'cause it only occurs when you've loved something more than you love yourself. "
From the movie 'Good Will Hunting'.
The Green Mile
"I'm tired, boss. Tired of being on the road, lonely as a sparrow in the rain. I'm tired of never having me a buddy to be with to tell me where we's going to, coming from, or why. Mostly, I'm tired of people being ugly to each other. I'm tired of all the pain I feel and hear in the world...every day. There's too much of it. It's like pieces of glass in my head...all the time. Can you understand?" :'(
"You ain't gonna believe this, but you used to fit right here. (He gestures to the palm of his hand). I'd hold you up to say to your mother, 'This kid's gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid's gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew.' And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watchin' you, every day was like a privilege. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started lookin' for something to blame, like a big shadow.
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!
Now if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth! But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!
I'm always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, you ain't gonna have a life."
– Rocky Balboa
Ash To Ash
(I'm paraphrasing the set-up a bit)
Evil Ash: You won't shoot me ... because you're good ! I'm Evil Ash and you're Good Ash ! You're a goody little two-shoes, goody little two-shoes, goody little two-shoes !
(Ash shoots Evil Ash with his shot gun )
Ash: Good ... Bad ... I'm the guy with the gun.
A Last Hurrah
When King Lear dies in act five, do you know what Shakespeare has written? He has written, 'He dies.' No more. No fanfare, no metaphor, no brilliant final words. The culmination of the most influential piece of dramatic literature is, 'He dies.' Now I am not asking you to be happy at my leaving but all I ask you to do is to turn the page and let the next story begin. -- Mr. Magorium (Mr magoriums wonder emporium)
O Captain My Captain
"We don't read and write poetry because it's cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race, and the human race is filled with passion. Medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for."
"No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world."
"We're not laughing at you - we're laughing near you."
"There's a time for daring and there's a time for caution, and a wise man understands which is called for."
-- Mr. John keating, Dead poet's Society.
A Sign Of The Times
"It's like the great stories, Mr. Frodo, the ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were, and sometimes you didn't want to know the end because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad has happened? But in the end, it's only a passing thing this shadow, even darkness must pass. A new day will come, and when the sun shines, it'll shine out the clearer. I know now folks in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn't. They kept going because they were holding on to something. That there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for." -Samwise Gamgee
Forget Shakespeare and Nietzsche- modern cinema is where it's at when it comes to good quotes. Some movies are more quotable than the Old Testament (have you SEEN Heathers?), and have made it into the modern vernacular. Here are some of the best ones, courtesy of Reddit.
u/princehalem asked: What is your favorite movie quote of all time?
The Truman Show
"And in case I don't see you, good afternoon, good evening and good night."
"Does he look like a b*tch?"
The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
"My name is Maximus Decimus Meridius, commander of the Armies of the North, General of the Felix Legions, loyal servant to the true emperor, Marcus Aurelius. Father to a murdered son, husband to a murdered wife. And I will have my vengeance, in this life or the next."
Monty Python and the Holy Grail
"Listen, strange women, lying in ponds, distributing swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses not from some farcical aquatic ceremony. You can't expect to wield supreme executive power just because some watery tart threw a sword at you. I mean, if I went 'round, saying I was an emperor just because some moistened bint lobbed a scimitar at me, they'd put me away!"
The Greatest Film of All TimeGiphy
"Oh, hi Mark."
"Oh hi Johnny I didn't know it was you."
Empire Strikes Back
"I love you."
"F*ck off" -Peter Griffin
"Leave the gun, take the cannoli."
"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
"I am serious and don't call me Shirley."
'Hey Paul!" -Patrick Bateman moments before he swings his axe.
Had my wife and I in hysterics, which may not have been the appropriate response.
Redditor gonewild9676 has found himself in quite the predicament. His wife had a few ideas regarding their marriage and now he's a bit perplexed, to say the least.Take a listen...
I'm confused, torn, and a mess right now. We've been married for 11 years, and for the last year she has been all but shunning me. She asked for space, I've given it to her. She's had a friend with at least an emotional affair.
We've had marriage counseling that went nowhere. It seems like every olive branch I've extended to her has been shot off. I've been raising our 8 year old almost as a single father for the past year. She's been sleeping in another room and locking herself in it. She's been coming home late and pretending I don't exist. She sold her business late last year and hasn't worked a steady gig since. She has a STEM degree and experience running a business, so she can get a decent job.
Last year I was working at a toxic company and knew my job was in jeopardy. Frankly I was a nervous mess, but was hoping to finish one last project and bail, but was laid off with a nice severance. Meanwhile I've landed a new gig at a much nicer company.
Anyways, a few weeks ago she ended counseling and filed for divorce. Then last night I got a call from a friend who said she broke down and said she didn't really want it she thought I'd fight it.
I don't really want one, but if she wants out I'm not holding her hostage. She went through all kinds of abuse as a kid and I figured I triggered something and she had checked out of the marriage. I've talked to several people and they came to that decision and that she's kind of lost in life right now. Frankly if the divorce goes through she's getting the short stick in the deal. Maybe cold feet?
I'm willing to go talk with the friend and her with an open mind. What's the best way for me to navigate this? On one side I'm sick of her treatment of me. On the other side we had 10 really good years and I'd rather not split custody of our daughter. How should I handle this?
My wife has filed for divorce but told a friend she doesn't really want one. What do I do?