Small Slights That Made People Feel Majorly Betrayed By Their Significant Other
Reddit user _Halboro_ asked: 'What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your SO?'
When you're in a relationship, the things your significant other—or sig-O—does hit different.
Teasing remarks you'd laugh off from friends can feel like a knife in the heart when your romantic partner says it.
Minor slights can easily become major issues in your relationship if you feel vulnerable.
Reddit user _Halboro_ asked:
"What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your [significant other]?"
Unequal Devotion
"When he was doing a work contract overseas I sent him love letters every two weeks to feel connected."
"When he got home and unpacked I found many of them unopened."
~ athenasplanet
"My high school girlfriend lent my hoodie to someone else."
~ Responsible_Roll7065
"Gah! I had a University BF lend My hoodie to a girl (who was a smoker, too. 🤮)."
"There were at least 15 other single guys there that could have stepped up and lent her their sweaters, but mine was up for grabs!"
"And when I got it back it reeked. So, annoyed with him on multiple levels."
~ Au-stellar-12
Unequal Effort
"My sister was in the hospital and he didn't do the dishes while I was gone for 3 days."
~ shirleytrix
"When he got Covid, he was quarantined downstairs. I waited on him hand and foot."
"Three days later, I got Covid but while he was feeling better and still quarantining himself, I had to be sick and care for our son."
"I was stooped over the counter trying to make him dinner and he just went back downstairs. I’ll always remember that."
~ Lychanthropejumprope
"My sister, nephew, and mom went on a vacay for about 9 days including travel days."
"When she and my nephew got home, the sink was full of dirty dishes and so was the island in their kitchen. Their island is HUGE, bigger than what I would consider average for a home."
"There were also trash bags just sitting around the house and it was just absolutely disgusting."
~ Ill-Stomach1871
"It's small, but one year we were both working 15-18 hour days but had Thanksgiving off. I planned the menu, he didn't give input."
"I ordered the ingredients online during my lunch break to pick up after work because I didn't have time to shop."
"I woke up early, made everything. Cleaned the dishes and the kitchen after."
"All he did was complain."
"I made too much. I had too much wine (3 glasses over 7 hours)."
"After all that work and not even a compliment or a thank you?
"Yeah—we divorced. That was our last Thanksgiving together."
~ azorianmilk
Unequal Consideration
"After complaining for months that I never got to sleep in, despite being the only one to get up to the kids in the night, he finally let me sleep in one morning."
"I woke up hearing him quietly saying to the kids 'Mummy’s had long enough; go wake her up'."
"I only had maybe an hour extra. He always had several."
~ a-nony-mouse33
"I'm almost always up first. I tend the pets, get the kids going and make coffee. 20 min routine."
"Every morning I'd bring him a cup of coffee and open the curtains to let some sunlight in and then leave and he would play on his phone and sip coffee for half hour while I tended the kids and got to work."
"Then he complained that just because I was up didn't mean he had to be up."
"Guess who doesn't get hot coffee in bed anymore."
~ MsFlippy
"My ex would skip the songs I liked that came on the radio."
~ violet_hydrangea
"Was on my way back from Turkey with a nice stash of dried fruit from Afghanistan (imported to Turkey)."
"Declared it on my customs form."
"Got detained for agricultural reasons, said they would let me go but had to take the dried fruit."
"I looked and looked but could not find it. Was detained for hours."
"Turns out my girlfriend ate it all while I was asleep on the flight."
~ neuro_exo
Unequal Humor
"We were going through airport security together."
"She went first and when she was being screened, pointed at me and said 'make sure you check my boyfriend, he always has knives' as a joke and then I got detained for a search and questioning and almost missed the flight.
"And no, I didn't have any knives other other contraband on me. Then she got mad at me for almost missing our flight."
"LIKE WHAT DID YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN HERE EMILY‽‽"
~ ThadisJones
"When we were signing our first lease she joked with the landlord about how rowdy I am, to 0 chuckles or even a smile.
"I wanted to bang my head into a wall."
~ NCAA_D1_AssRipper
Unequal Respect
"I had a friend who dumped his girlfriend when he overheard her making fun of his (admittedly, rather nerdy) sister to her friends."
"He said it wasn’t just about loyalty to his sis, it was about not wanting to be with someone who has to put others down to feel better about herself."
"Always thought it was admirable."
~ whitneywestmoreland
"The most extreme case I know of is my dad and the girlfriend he had before my mom came along."
"He and the gf were high school sweethearts and had been together for three years. They were both dying to see Back to the Future 2, a movie that had been highly anticipated for years."
"He had a family emergency the day it came out so they agreed to see it the following Monday. He found out from friends she went to see it with a douchey guy friend my dad never really liked."
"He was so hurt and she was so unapologetic—her attitude was 'I’ll go see it with you too! Why did I have to wait?' even though they’d agreed to see it together. He told her they needed to take a break."
He fully meant for it to be temporary, just until he cooled off, but then he met my mom when he went to see the movie by himself…and he never looked back.
"He does feel a bit guilty though because his ex was pretty devastated when she found out he’d met someone else and wanted to end things for good."
~ levoyageursansbagage
People felt these were minor slights, but many seem pretty major from the outside looking in.
Most ended the relationship being described.
I guess it's proof positive that little things—good or bad—mean a lot.
Hilarious Insults That Actually Sound Like Compliments At First
Who doesn't enjoy a compliment every now and then?
But have you ever thought you were complimented only to realize you've just been insulted?
For some people those backhanded compliments are unintentional, for some they're very much deliberate and for some people it's actually their love language.
Whatever the purpose, some of these veiled insults are downright clever.
Redditor Ad3quat3 asked:
"What’s an insult that sounds like a compliment?"
Ah, family...
"My uncle once said to me 'Nice tattoo, did you do it yourself?'."
"It's on my back."
- mikkelfromthegalaxy
GiphyWhat do I usually look like?
"You clean up well."
"Wasn't sure if compliment or insult or even how to respond."
Lord, it's hard to be humble.
"You are very modest and have much to be modest about."
- Gitaarfreak
Who else?
"Did you REALLY do that?"
- justthatrandomartist
Stay home next time.
"Thanks for coming!"
"You know, you really didn’t have to.”
- Little_LexiYT1
GiphyHow highly?
"No one could possibly think more highly of you than I do."
- sandyposs
Who cares?
"I love how you just don't care how you look."
"I could never do that I'd feel too awkward."
- meme_squeeze
GiphyDepends on the person, right?
"I hope your day is as good as you look!"
- tantoB
"I hope you get what you deserve."
- majesthiccbb
"May your day be as sweet as you are."
- twitterpated202
While some may consider it passive-aggressive, others just find these insults funny and clever.
So what's your favorite complimentary insult?
The Biggest 'F**k You' Christmas Present Someone Can Give
Gift giving can be hard, especially if you're not sure what the person will like or what they might need.
It's a lot less hard if your goal is to let someone know exactly how much you loathe them, though.
Then you get to get really creative.
Whether it's regifting, getting them something that's obviously from the dollar store or getting their kids the noisiest toy on the planet, there are many evil ways to tick people off with gifts.
Redditor Killmumger asked:
"What's the most 'f**k you' present you can give someone for Christmas?"
Only most of the gift
"Regifting a gift basket but it's obvious that you took out some items that you liked."
- 12thNJ
"Box of mixed chocolates but you’ve picked out all the good ones."
- UsualSuspect907
Oh that's petty
"Once my sister was pissing me off. I got her a $5 gift certificate for a store she was working at. She was pissed."
- aeb1971
"Now that’s an awesome gift! A reminder of the hell that she has to go through every day."
- ryok141
"This is excellent spite. I have a sister and this is the spite we all strive for."
- okeefechris
Reduce, Reuse, Recycle
"Regift them what they gave you last year."
- clutteredshovel
"Even better, show up with just a nice gift bag. Take whatever they give you and put it in the gift bag unopened. Then give it back to them."
- qatest
No art for you
"RoseArt craft supplies."
- SparkyMountain
"How dare you give crayons that can't even crayon."
- t_h_o_n_g
"Cra-Z-Art works too."
- metalflygon08
"You monster"
- TenorBanjer
Oooh, gonna need some ice for that burn
"My son gave me a beer mug that said 'ring the bell if you are the best Dad ever'."
"He had removed the bell."
- I-used-to-be-cool-
"Are you sure there was a bell in the first place? Snarkily insulting cards and gifts are pretty common."
- Rapid-Disassembly
"Nah. He had the bell. It was a bike bell."
"He is funny and would have come up with the idea and been laughing all the way up to keeping the straight face as he gave it to me."
- I-used-to-be-cool-
Glitter Hell
"I gave my 4 year old niece a 30-pack of coloured glitter glue. The f**k you was to my husband’s sister in law."
- high5scubadive
Thanks for supporting Planned Parenthood!
"Make a donation in their name to a charity, cause, or organization that is in opposition to their beliefs. Then give them the thank you email/receipt from the donation in a Christmas card or better yet wrap it up in a big box."
- Trick-Silver-4333
"This is an especially big fuck you because the person in whose name you make the donation can’t even deduct it on their taxes. Only the person who actually made the donation can."
- pilesofcleanlaundry
Holy crap do not bring someone's size into it
"A dress deliberately 2 sizes 2 small and then when unwrapping it on Christmas they tell you "it's for motivation" .....f**k you Judy"
- Epic_Cupcake
"MIL gave me a too small shirt and told me the next time she saw me she wanted it to fit me."
- silent_turtle
"Step mom did this every year to me until I went no contact"
- micaub
"Some of the responses here made me laugh, some of them made me roll my eyes, this is the first one that made me go 'what the hell is wrong with people'."
- elmonstro12345
Not quite enough
"A $5 Starbucks gift card. Very few drinks on the menu are less than $5. They’ll most certainly have to pay the difference on the first and only use"
- SortaSticious
"Better yet like a $20 gift card to a really fancy expensive restaurant. Not nearly enough to make a dent in the bill but enough that you would feel bad not using it."
- GetAwayFromMeYouFish
All the noises
"if they are a parent, gift their kids something that makes noise."
- JangoBunBun
"Literally bought my niece and nephew an accordion and a recorder."
- dominationnation
"When my sister's 2nd kid turned 1, I got him a toy key ring/fob that had buttons he could push to make noise. I replaced the cheap batteries with Energizer Lithium and applied Loctite to the screws on the battery door. For good measure, I used a drill to strip the heads of the screws. Then I carefully repackaged it."
"I doubt that damned thing made it all the way back to Arizona from Alabama. Totally worth it, though."
- MrBarraclough
"You evil genius. Thanks for the idea!"
- FlyingTerrier
As you can see, there's quite a bit of variety available for telling someone you can't stand them with gifts. Just get creative, the sky is the limit.
No one likes to be insulted, and doing so is a very unkind thing to do.
Surely people have better things to do in life than to spend time thinking about ways to make someone feel bad.
True, sometimes people might throw an insult at others without realizing it, making a joking comment about their appearance or something they just said.
Resulting in both parties feeling less than wonderful afterward.
Redditor Ancient_Command607 was curious to hear the worst, or possibly best, insults people have ever heard, leading them to ask:
"What is a sentence that is extremely insulting to you?"
Think Before You Judge
“'You’re too young to have back problems!'”
“'I was hit by a mini-van'.”
“'Were you a driver or a passenger?'”
“'Pedestrian'.”- tatltael91
You Can't Have It Both Ways...
"'You don't look sick'."
"And when I show them my colostomy bag:"
"'That's disgusting. You shouldn't show that in public'."- unicornchild15
One Sided Argument...
"'We both know that I'M right'."
"G*ddammit mf, if I thought you were right we wouldn't be arguing at this exact moment."
"Especially for the times he isn't."- Heracrorn
Im Right Told You So GIF by DeRay DavisGiphyA Mother Knows...
"'You don't know what a mother is'."
"My mother."- Big_SmallDown_Up
Who Are You Calling Lazy?!?!
"Something that is a direct insult on my work ethic. calling me lazy etc."
"I have a long fuse but I have lost my sh*t a couple times over it."- IMSITTINGINYOURCHAIR
Jealousy? Or Passive Agression?
"Whenever you have something good going for you and someone says 'must be nice'."- hundredjono
Nicki Minaj Side Eye GIFGiphyAlways Needing The Last Word.
"'Let that sink in'."
"'End of conversation'."
"'Louder, for the people in the back'."- f*ck_these_questions
Let's Hope They Weren't Talking Literally...
"Please get your testicles out of my coffee'."- isapnu_puas_sld
Never Judge A Book By Its Cover
“'But you don’t LOOK Autistic'.”
"My diagnosis is in my medical records, Mckinsley Jo."- Fearless_Law6729
Okay, But HOW?!
“'Get over it'.”
"Makes me furious."- kaiser1778
Get Over It Hamptons GIF by discovery+GiphyTruthfully, one can't help but be a little impressed when one comes up with a truly clever insult.
Though those insults might be more impressive while on the outside looking in, as opposed to the receiving end.
Always think before you speak.
People Share Something That's A Compliment And An Insult At The Same Time
Have you ever gotten a compliment that makes you wonder if it's really complimentary?
Like, is it really an insult disguised as a compliment?
Redditor shamilat asked:
"What's a compliment and an insult at the same time?"
Diplomacy
"Back in the 1980s, New Zealand's prime minister said that anyone who chose to emigrate from New Zealand to Australia could be proud that they were raising the average IQ of both countries." ~ RedStarRocket91
Certain Savoir Faire
“'I love how you’ll just wear anything' -John Mulany" ~ kgottshall
Age Is Just A Number
"'You're very beautiful for your age' or 'I can tell you were beautiful when you were younger'." ~ PJmichelle
Now And Then
"Wow, you smell a lot nicer than usual!" ~ Prank_Owl
"You look so much nicer now!" ~ DogBreathologist
"I had a teacher in high school tell me, in front of the class, how much better I looked since putting on a little weight."
"I had always been super skinny but had put on 20 pounds that year because my doctor was trying out depression meds on me after my dad died. F'k you, lady." ~ SkullsInSpace
Because...?
"It’s a good thing you’re so pretty." ~ ZOMGBabyFoofs
Introverts
"I always get 'Wow, we used to think you were a real b*tch but you're actually really nice!' from friends at some point."
"It makes me so sad that I'm a naturally shy person around a new group of people."
"It makes me so self-conscious when I meet new people because I know that line and its variants will eventually be said again." ~ Spasay
"There’s the classic, 'I don’t care what they say about you, you’re alright'.” ~ theleftbuttcheek
"'You’re alright' is bad enough, it’s like telling someone who’s doing their best that 'It could be worse' or 'It’s good enough'." ~ Ragingbull444
"I got this comment from friends a few times long before I knew the whole resting b*tch face thing was a typical introvert problem, and I didn’t know that simply being quieter than everyone else would be seen as such a negative (especially when I’m trying to talk but not wanting to interrupt and talk over everyone else)."
"Also I thought a b*tch was someone who was openly mean and rude to people so I wondered wtf did I do wrong." ~ PrismInTheDark
A For Effort
"'I can see that you're trying' (when someone showed you something they worked hard on, and it's the only positive thing you can think of to say)." ~ GingerMau
”I can see what you were going for here.” ~ tamsui_tosspot
Family
"My auntie once said to me: 'You know, you used to be a bit funny looking as you were growing up but you have turned in to a really handsome chap'."
"I really didn't know what to make of that, if I should be happy or offended." ~ Island_Monkey86
So what's your story?
Has anyone ever given you a backhanded compliment?
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