Red Flags That Signal Someone Wasn't Raised Right
"Reddit user spirallinggg asked: 'What immediately tells you that a person wasn't raised right?'"
Parents are meant to teach offspring how to survive in this world.
They're meant to guide us on how to be a good member of society.
But either some parents fail, or too many adults don't get the message.
And all that can lead to a mighty dysfunctional adult.
Redditor spirallinggg wanted to hear about the ways we can decipher if others have bad parenting, so they asked:
"What immediately tells you that a person wasn't raised right?"
Basic human decency is a sign of a good upbringing.
Garbage
"They throw trash out a car window."
shershae
"I live on a busy road and I’m so sick of people throwing their trash in front of my house. Some guy tosses out a tall boy beer nearly every workday. I can’t wait to move. Also- so many cigarette butts! We live in a high fire hazard area so I’m worried one of these days they’ll start a fire. I try to go pick up litter twice a month."
Pinkmongoose
Random Aisles
"People who dump refrigerated grocery products on random aisles."
glockops
"I work in a grocery store. The best one I saw was someone who ordered a hot pizza from our pizza station, which is made-to-order. Then abandoned it in the cooler with the refrigerated take-and-bake pizzas we have."
"I get finding stuff from our service case abandoned, it's already cold and our prices are much higher than some people think (the last abandoned item I found was a $20 container of our fresh fruit salad [which comes in pre-cut]), but the pizza station has set menu prices, they should have known what they were getting into before they ordered."
weedtrek
Be Responsible
"Lack of personal accountability. they can never admit wrongdoing on their part. it's always someone else's fault."
Sona-kin
I always told my kids that a mistake doesn't define who you are... but what you do AFTER the mistake DOES. We're human. We're gonna screw up throughout our lives. It's unavoidable. What we can control, however, is choosing to apologize, fix the situation, make amends, etc."
nakedwithoutmyhoodie
Rude
Mean Girls Gossip GIF by Paramount MoviesGiphy"When they talk badly about someone who hasn’t done anything wrong behind their back."
flowerzforthedead
THIS. I've seen coworkers talking behind the backs of new employees and drawing conclusions about every aspect of their lives. Like, you've seen that person for three days, you MF.
Cold-Load-4388
If you can't say it to their face, then don't say it.
Why do people have to crap talk?
Check Please
Escalate Customer Service GIF by FILMRISEGiphy"Being super rude to people in any service profession. There is a time and place for actual, appropriate complaints but I see people constantly abuse service staff for no damn reason. Hell, even using 'please' and 'thank you' seems beyond some people. Bums me out."
CaptainLawyerDude
Others
"Lack of consideration for others."
NewVAinvestor1
"A lot of people do not fundamentally understand other people exist. They understand things exist. They understand those things should be referred to as people. But they do not understand those things have an entire existence and experience all their own exactly like them."
Sh3lls
No!
"When they can't take no for an answer."
NerdyPlaneResident
"I'm going to step up and admit to being guilty of this. For the longest time, I had it in my head that persistence pays off. Some of that was pop culture, some of that was tenacity in other areas of my life being rewarded, and then applying that to interpersonal relationships. Older and wiser me, though is more along the lines of learning to let go. It's still a struggle though, working against that original conditioning."
SergeantPsycho
Professions
"When someone looks down at others based on what they do. That just clearly shows that they've learned the same thing from their caregivers."
Leekayleigh_
"Oh yes. My husband took on a second job doing pizza deliveries. A few people laughed at him doing that at his age. They don't laugh when he explains his main job is simple and, deliveries are just driving blasting tunes and adds $900 a month after tax to our income. Then they see all the travel. Usually shuts them up."
CurvePuzzleheaded361
Offensive
For Real Wow GIF by DeStormGiphy"Zero manners."'
Fuzzteam7
"I took a guy to a family beach condo because he says he never goes to the beach. Let him tag along with our group. Never said thank you one time. I dropped him back off at his house, and I said can you at least say thanks, he was so offended I asked or was trying to force a thank you."
berrey7
"BUT"
"When someone apologizes, and then adds a but onto it. For example, my boss held a meeting among the kitchen staff where he apologized for his attitude, and then added 'But you guys need to understand that I'm a no-bulls**t kind of person.' No sir, that's not how apologies work."
GimmickInfringement1
I hate a BUT.
Either you mean what you offer or don't say it.
The Absolute Worst Ways To Tell Someone Their Zipper Is Down
Reddit user flipping100 asked: 'What is the worst way to tell someone their zipper is open?'
We've all had our fair share of embarrassing moments, and we can all agree how embarrassing it is for someone to point out that we have something in our teeth or that our hair is messed up.
But nothing feels more embarrassing than arriving at home, realizing the embarrassing look we're sporting, and wondering how many people saw us looking like that.
Until now.
Redditor flipping100 asked:
"What is the worst way to tell someone their zipper is open?"
Way Too Much Attention
"'Attention, Walmart Shoppers: The guy on Aisle nine. Dude, tuck that in and zip up!'"
- d3astman
Corporate Email Potential
"CC (Carbon Copy) the company email all list."
- 1feralengineer
"BCC (Blind Carbon Copy) for extra confusion. 'Your fly is down.'"
- Hypo_Mix
Awkward Humor
"Stare straight at their crotch and yell, 'I'VE GOT MY EYES ON THE PRIZE!'"
- mogy_bear
A Fashion Statement
"Me: *Unzips zipper*"
"Guy with zipper down: 'What the f**k are you doing?'"
"Me: 'Just following your fashion...'"
- MyWarUK
Not a Concern in the World
"Tell them, 'Your garage door is open.'"
- azourgan
"Thoroughly Texan story ahead:"
"When I worked at my small-town Dairy Queen, there was the usual table of old men who came in daily for coffee and talk."
"One day, a regular shuffled in with his zipper down. So I called him straight over before he went to say hellos and whispered to him, 'Sir, your barn door is open,' while discreetly pointing down."
"He laughed real loud and said, 'Don't worry, honey. That old mule ain't gonna hurt nobody.'"
"Best regular ever."
- vmt_nani
'Friends' References for Days
"'SIR, THIS IS A FAMILY PLACE. PUT THE MOUSE BACK IN THE HOUSE.' - Gunther."
- sam-sung
Undeniably Awkward
"Tell them their zipper's open after a while of staring down there, and then maintain eye contact after they zip up."
- Icy-Chain9308
The Dramatic Acting Approach
"Point at the pants and shout, 'The Gates are open, noooo!' and run away."
- AddictedToMosh161
Definitely Not Her Phone Number
"Be me, an oblivious woman in her 20s."
"A guy and his girlfriend walked by me, and the guy had his fly open. I didn't want to embarrass him by saying it out loud, so I wrote down, 'Your fly is open,' on a piece of paper, folded it in half, and handed it to the guy."
"The girl gave me the stink eye, and I suddenly realized that it looked like I was giving him my number right in front of her!"
"The joke's on her, I am a lesbian."
- cinemachick
Immediate Anxiety
"Just tell them, 'Your zipper was open yesterday.'"
- Olda**rollerskater
The Voice of Concern
"Look concerned, and ask them, 'Is your zipper afraid of heights?'"
- LZ__
For the Visible Double-O and Seven
"Creep around like a secret agent and say to your watch, 'The carrot has left the salad.'"
"Then yell, 'I REPEAT, 'THE CARROT HAS LEFT THE SALAD.'"
- tazwell427
Public Humiliation
"It happened to my science teacher in high school. We kept on laughing, and it escalated to laughing and pointing. He finally noticed and left the class to fix it. Sorry, dude."
- be_yourself_T
...Yeah, That Would Do It.
"True story:"
"We were on an elevator. The only other person than us on there was an older man."
"As it opened for his floor, he turned to my friend, gently caressed my friend's stomach, and softly said, 'Your fly is open.'"
"That, don't do that."
- fenrir511
We can all agree that these would be absolutely terrible ways to let someone know of an already mildly embarrassing situation they've found themselves in.
Can we all just agree to discreetly pull people aside, or whisper to them in a way that isn't intimate, to tell them this from now on?
People are crazy, lazy, and gross at times.
It's one thing if they do it at their own home, but people are out and about asking this way. In public!
I should probably just come to terms with it, already.
But that doesn't mean I'm not going to call you out.
I will follow you out of the bathroom to shame you if you don't wash your hands.
Also, pick up after your dogs.
And your kids.
Have you no decency?!
Redditor Quiet-Reference5135 wanted to discuss some bad behavior, so they asked:
"What is something people do in public that gets under your skin?"
People who DON'T use turn signals.
WHAT IS YOUR DAMGE!!
Make a Choice
Walking GIFGiphy"People who keep passing me and then slowing down so I have to pass them. I'm on cruise control going the same speed all the time. Pick a speed, we don't need all this lane changing!"
dan1101
Hang Up
"Watch Tik Toks or videos LOUDLY!!"
Artistic-Anybody-434
"We have a girl that does this in the bathroom at work. More than once I've thought about turning the light off on my way out."
Creative_Tea_269
"A guy I used to work with used to sit there and run the hand dryer anytime someone was in the bathroom watching videos or talking on the phone while in a stall."
Imnotabadman
MOVE!!
"Oblivious to their position or how they are blocking an entire aisle."
CommanderAndMaster
"This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Not being aware of the space you take up in public places."
avocadoplease
"Yep. The worst one is person A knows person B, so they are just having a conversation in the middle of the aisle."
"They are completely oblivious to you, too, and act like it's an inconvenience when you ask them to please move."
ServiceCall1986
Look Around
"Having no situational awareness at all."
True-Mousse4957
"I worked in a large hospital in the amount of people that did not treat the hallways like roadways and we’re just popping out of nowhere at any time with no idea of what’s around them was maddening!"
lonecactus777
"I try to be aware of where I am and I work hard at it but between my spatial awareness and situational awareness I tend to get in the way a bit. I also run into a hell of a lot of door and wall and you name it. I’m very disgraphic and it is my constant and at times real fear that I’m in the way."
Pretty_Horsey08
Cover Up
sick tyler james williams GIF by HULUGiphy"Coughing or sneezing without covering their mouths."
Responsible-Ad6103
"I feel like people are so much worse with this since COVID restrictions disappeared. Like they’re making up for lost time."
KayDashO
In this day and age how are people still NOT covering their mouths?!?!
Save your Business
Nervous Laughs GIF by Apple TV+Giphy"Speakerphone calls. Seriously, just hold the phone to your ear. No one wants to listen to your conversation."
DenturesDentata
The Audacity!
"People who litter."
CoffeeLoverChick
"I worked at Taco Bell as a teenager and one day I was working the drive thru and this man was at the window and I could smell his cigarette smoke."
"After he drove off, I could still smell it very strongly so I looked out the little window and he had dumped his whole ash tray out of his door right in front of our drive thru window. The audacity."
pineappleprincess_13
"Yes I hate that, the world isn't their trashcan, they're making things worse for everyone. Just hold onto the trash and throw it away later."
dan1101
Move Aside
"Groups that walk 5 wide on a sidewalk chatting away like they're the main characters."
corneliouswafflebot
"I’ve started doing this move where I walk to the side, so they can give me room, I walk deliberately, but I look up and to the right or left so they can’t make eye contact. They always realize they better move or it’s gonna get real awkward. I also scuff the bottom of my shoe if someone is walking right toward me with their face buried in their phone. It works."
Unit_79
RUDE!
"Leaving their shopping carts out in the middle of the parking lot, rather than taking the cart to those designated spots the store puts out."
Lazy-Enthusiast16
"But they walked all over the store, they can't possibly have the energy to walk 20 more feet!"
SymphonyForTheDevil
"Had to deal with this last night. Butthole left the cart behind my car, with the freaking corral not 10ft away."
Kitsune_Scribe
Out First
train help GIFGiphy"Not letting people off the train before trying to cram themselves into a full car. Just let people off and there will be more room!!! How do you live/work in the city and not learn this by day 3!?"
brightnessys
As a New Yorker, that train issue is the WORST!
Okay, sound off? What indecent behaviors get under your skin? Let us know in the comments.
There are certain behavioral traits that can instantly tell you everything about a person without even sharing two words with them.
The way they hold themselves, the frequency with which they smile, and how they interact with others could reveal everything you may need to know about them, particularly their manners
Outrageous as it may seem, even the most minute detail could be all it takes to expose an individual's manners or lack thereof.
Indeed, while some people might not realize that they are behaving in a rude or inappropriate manner, others might be more aware of it, but make no effort to improve their behavior.
No matter how much side-eye is being unleashed upon them.
"What is one thing that instantly makes you think 'this person has no manners'?"
Control Your Children!
'People who let their kids run around in a movie theater, kick the back of your seat repeatedly, and hang on you."-- curious_cat123456
"Parents who let their children run rampant anywhere."
"I've seen parents watch as their kid pops their fingers through every package of meat at the grocery store and do nothing."
"Parents who let their kids kick a strangers shoe or other belongings."
"Letting the kids spit on windows and rub it with their hands."
"Letting them run around the store, playing with anything and everything and leaving a mess for others to clean and the parents literally just ignore it!"
"I never understood that."
"They really are your obligation, not the store associate who's unlucky enough to be working the shift you happen to stroll in during."
"Be a parent!"
"Bad kids can turn into sh*tty people."- Maliagirl1314
Playing Happy Children GIF by MOODMANGiphyHave They Learned NOTHING From The Last Three Years!?!?
"Coughing or sneezing without covering your mouth."- 2baverage
A Little Gratitude Goes A Long Way...
"When you offer your time and money to drive someone and they don't thank you for the ride."- mishmash_iam_trash
Where To Even Begin?...
"So i have a roommate who i’m entirely convinced has absolutely no manners whatsoever."
"For context, I live in the barracks, so i have no choice but to live with this guy."
"I have a million and a half stories about this guy, but i guess i’ll start with the basics."
"Doesn’t clean up after himself, and refuses to help clean, even if he’s a guest in someone else’s home."
"Chainsmokes/vapes in peoples cars, flicks ash 'out the window' but everyone knows that literally will just kick it back into the jeep. tries to constantly 'teach' people things, and will talk your ear off and basically just dominate the conversation."
"No listening or allowing for a different perspective."
"Motherf*cker literally introduced himself to me as 'the smartest man in any room' he plays music and sings in the shower at 4, 5, 6 in the morning and will take 45+ minute showers , 20 minutes to sit on the toilet and 25 to have his concert."
"The last straw for me was when I came home on leave and saw his flesh light sitting out in the common area table."
"We’ve stopped inviting him to places."
"He sits in his room alone playing xbox all day because i’m not responsible for teaching a 21-year-old child basic manners."
"It’s not happening."- bluebreez1
Video Games Crying GIF by MuchGiphyWho Invited You?
"Inviting everyone in the friend group to an event and excluding just one friend, then proceeding to talk about how much fun they’re going to have at said event in front of the person that was purposely excluded , in front of everybody."
"Happened today and thought it was pretty rude."
"This did not happen to me and second we are not in high school, we are in our late twenties / early thirties which makes the situation even more upsetting."- TDiddy_
Seriously?
"Littering."- Regularjay69
Roads Are A Shared Space!
"People who don't use turn signals."
"Sh*t drives me crazy."- Pillsburyjewboy7
driving mini cooper GIF by MINI USAGiphyIt truly takes no effort to be polite and courteous to others.
Perhaps the fact that none of these people even seem to try to be a better person might be the most telling characteristic of all...
Some people love to talk.
Often, much to the dismay of whomever they're talking to.
Even when you think they've finally run out of things to say, they swerve the conversation in another direction and just keep on talking and talking.
Most of the time, these people are well-meaning -- and that makes getting out of the conversation all the more challenging.
As we don't want to hurt their feelings or come off as rude.
It is for this reason that others have developed and perfected a perfect escape plan to cut a conversation short when there is no end in sight.
Leaving everyone happy, with no hurt feelings.
"How does someone politely end a conversation with a person who won't stop talking?"
Slowly But Surely...
"Worst case I’ve ever had, I basically gave every verbal cue I knew of, eventually stood up, then stood in the doorway, then backed out of the doorway, and this dude was still talking."
'In the end I just said ‘I’ll be back’ and closed the door on him mid-sentence."- delpigeon
Sometimes You Have To Cut In...
"Mental health worker here."
"I see patients every day who will talk forever if you don't stop them."
"You simply have to interrupt and redirect/or end the conversation."
"I always politely tell them, 'let me stop you there' or 'Let me jump in there'."
"Sometimes you have to be abrupt or else you will be held hostage by the one sided conversation."- DeadSharkEyes
Noises In Your Head...
"'Ssshh! Do you hear that??'"
"'No?'"
"'One Sec', and just run off."- i_f*ckin_luv_it_mate
Puppet What GIF by Gerbert!GiphyMy Ride Is Waiting...
"I'm an Uber driver, I was once summoned to pick up two people for just this reason."
"They had me drive four blocks/.25 miles/1.5 minutes to another bar just to get out of a conversation with someone."
"Minimum fare ($3.75) and $10 tip on the app."- verminiusrex
Slightly Outdated...
"I have to return some video tapes"- LeMarcusKing
You're Really Helping Each Other Out...
"I don't mean to interrupt but-"
"It's got to be done, so just do it."
"They need a break anyway."- p1um5mu991er
Awkward Cringe GIF by MASTERPIECE | PBSGiphyWho Are You Again?
“'Ann was getting a little chummy. When people get too chummy with me, I like to call them by the wrong name to let them know I don't really care.' - Ron Swanson."- Pyre_Aurum
Just Be Straightforward
"I read one of those mildly interesting newspaper features recently with an 'etiquette expert', their advice was rather than make an excuse, you should be more direct that you are ending the conversation and say something like 'I've really enjoyed talking with you, I'm going to circulate around the room now' as it's less likely to create an expectation you might come back."
"It does work too!"- Boyleingbass
Reverse Psychology, The Irish Way!
"We have a great line that we use in Ireland."
"I haven't heard it used abroad but it could well be used all over for all I know."
"The person is rabbiting on and is showing no sign of stopping."
"You clearly and firmly say 'I'll let you go'."
"Then with the confidence of a person doing them a favor, you turn on your heel and stride away."
"This has the effect of making them think you are the one wanting to avoid wasting their time."
"If they figure it out they can't call you out on it because to do so would be to admit, at least to themselves, that they are wasting your time."
"In fact most people never allow themselves to think it might be them who is holding you up so they accept the 'offer' of your leaving in order for them to get on with their important work."
"In general if someone says 'I'll let you go' to me, rare but it has happened, I smile and say bye and end the conversation."
"It is a social convention and I abide by it."
"They want out."
"No ego."
"Let them go and the best of luck to them."
"People appreciate that I imagine."- Nuffsaid98
let it go GIFGiphyOf course, all of the above are ways of telling people whom you presumably do want to see again, one day, to stop talking
If you never want to be on the receiving end of someone talking, a simple "shut up" should prove quite effective.