"What screams 'I’m insecure'?"
The Wisest People Are Those Always Willing To Learn
"When people are unable to admit that they don’t know something."- slimytoads
not listening no way GIFGiphyOther People's Success Are Not Your Failures
"Mocking someone else's achievement."- SuvenPan
Never Pick Yourself Up By Taking Others Down
"Belittling others."- Term-Haunting
"Always talking badly about others and trying to make them look weak/bad."- Pildith
The Simpsons GIF by MOODMANGiphyMaybe Honesty Isn't Always The Best Policy...
"When you're quick to be 'brutally honest' with others, but have a meltdown when someone does it back to you."-eF240uKX52hp
Not As Funny As They Think...
"People who tear other people down as a joke but then get mad when they get it handed back to them."
"Clearly they either aren’t joking or are too sensitive to be dishing out sh*t."- babythrottlepop
Being On Top Adds More Possibilities Of Falling Down...
"Trying to one-up people in every conversation."- Flanky_Bwai
"One upping people in conversation."
"If I tell you I had a great trip to X place, I don’t need to hear about your better trip to someplace else that’s ostensibly 'better'."- I_Am_The_Grapevine
kristen wiig television GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphySome Things Speak For Themselves...
"Constantly saying what kind of person you are."
"If you were, you wouldn’t have to tell us."- ubereddit
A Little Contrition Goes A Long Way...
"Never apologizing."
"Making excuses and even twisting the facts but never apologize."- SuvenPan
But Enough About Me, What Do You Think Of Me?
"Constant projection and self-serving compliments."- nhabz
Look At Me Kiki GIF by The Bachelor AustraliaGiphyWhat Are They Even Trying To Prove?
"Revving your vehicle loudly every time you pass another person."- msnmck
Superior By Association
“'You will address me by my husband’s rank!'”- Psychological-Stay16
PDA Much?
"Elaborate Instagram and Facebook posts declaring love for one’s significant other over and over and over."- jbmaun
Happy Married At First Sight GIF by LifetimeGiphyAlways Needing Validation
"People who can’t think or feel anything without being told that it’s okay to do so."- Diesel07012012
It's sad that so many people think the only way to overcome something which makes them embarrassed or afraid is by embarrassing or demeaning others.
When being open and honest about your insecurities might, instead, result in your finding common ground with others.
And making new, lifelong friends in the process.
Redditor sencecore wanted to hear from all the bisexual people out there who felt like sharing.
"Bisexual people of Reddit, what would you say is the main difference between dating women and men?"
Let's discuss the WHOLE menu.
Issues
Talk Show Problem GIF by Rooster TeethGiphy"Women are more neurotic and men are more emotionally unavailable. Dating women tends to make me feel like I’m not good enough while dating men tends to make me feel alone and unheard."
Last_Wallaby_2090
"go with the flow"
"There's a few differences that i've noticed at least in my experiences. Women- whenever i'm with women, either romantically or just hooking up, it's always softer and more sensual. the dates are more relaxed and the sex lasts longer, and is seemingly softer. They take their time to get you to your peak and will always take care of you after the act is over."
"Men- more excitement definitely. dates can range from getting dinner to going out and doing random activities. i don't have to worry as much about what i'm doing either as the ones i've encountered have been more 'go with the flow' types. when it comes to sex with men it's always slightly faster, less emphasis on foreplay depending on who i'm with. it's always rougher too (which isn't a bad thing)."
"There's not as much aftercare after the sex unless you're dating them. I have fun with both men and women despite the differences that i've noticed between the two. it's always something different depending on who you're with. never truly a bad thing."
"ETA: Forgot to add that I'm a woman lol, for the few who wanted to know."
smallemochick
Woman hear me roar...
"I'm a woman..."
"In general when I’m around/interacting with other women, even just friends/acquaintances I automatically take on a more dominant and masculine energy. I even notice I tend to use a deeper more monotone voice with women vs men that’s very unintentional."
"Men is opposite, I always feel more submissive energy wise, like I allow them to take lead sexually. Personally I like this more, it’s less work for me mentally and emotionally to not be the dominant presence although I do feel like I’m more dominant and assertive in nature."
"I don’t know if any of that made any sense."
Sickening_toe
Connection
"Women are easier to connect to emotionally, men are easier to connect to sexually. I don't like that it is that way, I'd love to have better sex with women and more intimacy/love with men. But that's been my experience so far."
"ETA: I'm not saying my ex-gfs were bad in bed or my ex-bfs didn't love me; they did and they were great!"
"Just saying that, as a woman, it's easier for me to get into deep trust and emotional connection with another woman, and it's easier (and faster) to get into the hot sex stuff with a man. I imagine this is a socialization issue. They're both wonderful, though."
StrangersWithAndi
Attachments...
Girl Lesbians GIFGiphy"Men say they are cool with hooking up with no emotional attachment. They aren’t. I’ve found women are more able to do that."
onelittlemaus
Everyone has hook up issues, no matter what they say.
Walls
Blocking Video Games GIF by Far Cry 6Giphy"So, I think being a man, being with men it’s easier to put my guard down and be more myself. I don’t have to always 'be the man.' I can be vulnerable sometimes. If I’m with a woman, I can never be vulnerable because I feel like I have to be the strong one."
bowserwowser12321
Just for me...
"Bi woman here. Pros of being with a man: I don’t get judged for it, I feel more protected, we can have kids. Pros of being with a woman: we relate to each other more, we don’t have to use protection, we can share more things (like clothes and makeup). And honestly just being attracted to a man vs a woman is very different, for me at least."
goldencherry5
The Moral?
"Dating a girl for me feels like a more level playing field. I feel like we can get each other on a whole other level. We both have girly bits, periods, we relate to each other’s struggles more easily, and I know my way around so I can always be sure I can please her or at least know exactly what she’s talking about if she corrects me."
"With men, the connection is definitely still there, it’s just different. Don’t get me wrong, men are very much capable of sharing the weight of your struggles, they can please you if you teach them how, they are great partners, but it’s not as automatic or natural as my connection to women."
"I find that it takes longer for me to connect with men than women, but the connection I do have with my boyfriend now is deeper than I’ve ever had with anyone before. Moral of the story, both are great, they both have strengths and weaknesses, but they are different."
ExistingAirport3175
Lets Brunch
"Bi woman here, casual sex with women is great. You can go out for brunch the next day and just be friends. In my experience, casual sex with a man is impossible. They either treat you like garbage right after, I assume due to not wanting you to catch feelings. Or they get weird because they have caught feelings and don’t know how to act."
loritree
It's all a Mess...
crazy cuckoo GIFGiphy"The men I've been with tend to be emotional, insecure, touch-starved."
"The women tend to be flaky, overly confident, impassionate about anything."
SjurEido
It sounds like no matter the gender, there will always be issues.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know in the comments below!
Redditor Para--Dise wanted to discuss the things that we need to make sure don't hold back the generations behind us.
"What's something that needs to stop being passed down the generations?"
We have so much to do to help the next few gens. Let's get started.
Creepy Clown
Halloween Clown GIF by ANTIQUES ROADSHOW | PBSGiphy"This damn cookie jar, I told my gram it creeps me out. It’s a freaking porcelain clown head! I put it as deep in my closet as I can but I know he’s still watching me."
Barbarossabros
Unused
"At least in my family, the fancy wine glasses. No one ever uses them, everyone keeps them hidden in cupboards because they're too nice to use. They're not even sentimental, someone just picked them up one day and handed them around the family."
DeliciousKoala8290
"My mother has a lot of Waterford crystal that she's very proud of. She'll bring it out for holiday dinners. I'm 100% inheriting this stuff. It's beautiful, but it's just not me. I guess maybe after it's mine, I'll invite friends over for dinners and make sure the pretty things get used."
delmar42
The Inherited
"Inheritable diseases and medical conditions."
H4loR4ptor
"Severe anxiety disorder runs very strongly in my family. I got that one. Alzheimer's also runs very strongly... I'm scared."
Ventaria
"With Crispr and other gene editing technology, we'll likely see many major inherited diseases entirely treated, if not completely cured, within the next decade."
AmcillaSB
Just Do It
"The idea that what you like to do isn't worth anything."
theperksof-being
"Yeah it was always weird growing up when my parents would scoff at someone having fun or living their life. For example, they mocked my brother for taking scuba diving lessons because they thought it wasn't productive."
"Or they would talk crap about family members who took vacations that weren't at a resort or tourist trap. I grew up learning that mentality. It took me a while to get over it. Why am I going to watch a medieval knights tournament? Because it's FUN. Because I WANT to do it. It's like they need some kind of justification to enjoy themselves."
kirbyluv_
Defaults
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphy"The whole narrative that because someone is older they deserve blind respect and obedience."
jazzraccoon
"I always approach older people with respect, as a default. Then decide if they deserved it out not and act accordingly."
f*ck19characterlimit
We really are a mess as human race. Let's clean up.
Extended Fam Issues
Super Bowl Ok GIF by PepsiGiphy"Being forced to spend time with distant relatives. It's ok not to be around those that live polar opposite lifestyles than you. I have relatives that will never know where I live and for good reason, yet family is always 'you need to keep in touch...' The heck I do!"
Exciting_Ad4858
Break the Cycle
"Child Abuse."
dzastrus
"Amen to this. By all accounts my dad was beaten bloody so often by his dad it was just normalized in his family. He left home at age 16 and joined the Air Force. I barely knew my grandfather before he died of cancer. My dad almost hit me once and stopped."
"I can still remember his eyes and how he lowered his hand and walked away at the last second. He never hit me or my sister. I think it was tough, going against his conditioning and his trauma response. He was a distant father, I am not going to lie. But my daughter has been raised in a loving, kind and caring home with no violence. Breaking the cycle and healing generational trauma is tough."
She-Ra-SeaStar
I'm not a bank...
"Making your child your retirement fund."
Substantial_Top_27
"This is a timely comment. Father-In-Law just called saying he is broke and about to be homeless. (hasn't paid taxes since leaving the military in the 80s.) Hasn't talked to his daughter since leaving the wedding early, before the reception, over a year ago.. but she says we cant just let him be homeless."
jcxl1200
don't do that to our kids...
"Trauma."
Sieepsaand
"I have noticed my parents always did things the way their parents did. They never questioned it or remembered how it made them feel like crap. My friends and I are the opposite and question everything and have pin pointed what was awful growing up and ya know... don't do that to our kids."
"The amount of things growing up in the 80s/90s that were just answered with being hit or punished or yelled at or sent to my room or told to just deal with it and be quiet was extraordinary. I hope I can pass that mentality down to my kids as well."
DrunkMc
It's not mine...
Credit Card Corona GIF by INTO ACTIONGiphy"Debt."
WonderWeeble
"The biggest mistake I've seen people make is saying ANYTHING relating to the remaining debt. Treat debt collectors like a cop. Don't say crap about it."
"If you're asked about it, don't respond. The moment you do, the flood begins, regardless if you say 'it's not my debt.' The pressure will begin right away. As for the constant requests, you can respond stating it's harassment and you'll report it if any more come in."
TotallyNotKabr
Debt is the top of my list. You see the National debt? Lord help us all.
What would you add to this list? Let us know in the comments down below.
Redditor LatsaSpege wanted to hear what "out there" ideas people are listening to.
"What is the weirdest conspiracy theory you ever heard?"
At this point, what people believe can't shock me.
Crumble
Looking The Amazing Race GIF by CBSGiphy"All rocks are soft until you touch them."
vladz7
"Salt isn't the only edible rock but science won't let us lick the other ones."
I_RATE_BIRDS
"inflation, right?"
"This one time i was dealing with a customer. I tell him the price of his groceries and he gasps, go 'inflation, right?' Just small talk. He then goes on some looooong rant about how Joe Biden is pocketing all the extra dollars we spend due to inflation and how he's slowly building his wealth to purchase Apple so he can spy on us through our phones... The funniest part? We're in Montreal, Canada."
SomeBoredGuy77
Transplant
"Jim Morrison (of the Doors) faked his own death. (wait for it)..."
By having his soul transplanted into another body who adopted the moniker 'Jim Jones' (the leader of the Jonestown cult)."
sheikhyerbouti
"I believe wholeheartedly that Jim Morrison faked his own death. But I also believe that he died a few months later because he drunk himself to death."
Galaxy_Ranger_Bob
Land Below
"My favorite is that Lizard People live underneath the north pole and they helped build Denver International Airport. But there might also be separate camps of lizard people with different goals. In short... Lizard People."
21pacshakur
"That airport gave me weird vibes to begin with. The creepy horse statue with glowing red eyes, the trains that play weird music, the fact that it looks like a giant circus tent... the conspiracies just make it more fun!"
TrashPandaAntics
Death Bringer
Stephen King GIFGiphy"That Stephen King killed John Lennon. Some dude has devoted his life to this one and drives around the country in a van festooned with signs declaring King's guilt."
piercelyndale
Stephen King? The assassin? Um... ok.
Death Control
Guitar Man Trouble GIF by Elvis PresleyGiphy"That both Elvis and JFK faked their deaths, and have been running the US government from a secret bunker under the White House ever since."
Banthalo
No exceptions...
"The one they talked about on a recent episode of QAnon Anonymous is pretty weird. Apparently, these people think that every celebrity and politician is actually the opposite gender they were assigned at birth. No exceptions. Even Kaitlyn Jenner, who they think is a woman pretending to be a trans woman. I don't get it either."
SergeantChic
Civilizations
"That the moon landings are fake. But that when we went to the moon the astronauts secretly found a civilization of aliens living there. And that the moon is a hologram projected into the sky from the Earth. I have heard all three of these from the exact same person."
"She is incapable of feeling the discomfort of cognitive dissonance while holding these three contradictory ideas in her head at all. When confronted by the inconsistencies, she refuses to acknowledge that there are any inconsistencies."
Galaxy_Ranger_Bob
Tribes
"I grew up in a white nationalist cult that believed that white people were a lost tribe of Israel, and were God's true chosen people. Naturally, zionists conspired to suppress the truth, and must be toppled. Maybe not the weirdest, but it's pretty freaking weird."
love_is_an_action
"That is interesting because a buddy of mine and I ran into a guy once who believed the exact same thing except about black people, not white people. I'm Asian and my buddy is black. The dude stared at me like I just kicked his dog and was telling my buddy all about how they were God's chosen. It was very weird."
agreeingstorm9
Off the Edge
New Girl Facepalm GIF by HULUGiphy"Flat earth. Like… wouldn’t we know where the edges are by now? Maybe build some hotels to look at space… like oceanfront property. People are freaking stupid."
financialfreeabroad
Wow. Humans are ridiculous.
Do you have similar stories to share? Let us know in the comments below.
The body freaks me out. But it's all I've got. So teach me some things.
Minutes...
death GIFGiphy"The fastest killing virus takes around 4 days to kill you. That would be Ebola. Your immune system can kill you in 15 minutes."
will477
'locked-in'
"If your brainstem (the part of the brain that mediates most motor control for all of the body) is damaged, you can get 'locked-in' syndrome. That means you're fully conscious and aware of your surroundings but unable to move or speak. The only muscles that remain unaffected in most people are the muscles that move they eyes and the eyelids."
"You're essentially trapped within your own body with your only way of communication being blinking or moving your eyes It can be caused by toxins, blockage of the basilar artery which is the main artery of the brainstem, or other brainstem damage."
4oodler
Explosions
"Some people suffer from Exploding Head Syndrome, which causes them to hear a loud bang when they wake up."
ToraMix19
"When I was younger I believe I experienced this a few times. Sounds I heard were: about a million people talking and laughing all at once, a train that irl would've been about a foot away from me based on the volume of the sound, and a door slamming loudly."
aliaisacreature
Pain
"Not sure if this is by design, but I totaled my car once, almost completely uninjured somehow. Then I looked down to my right hand which I remember jabbing into my dashboard at 55mph. Luckily (unluckily?) only my pinky took the blow. But instead of a floppy-udder full of bone-sand, my pinky was 0.5 inches long."
"Broke no bones, but instead perfectly stacked my phalanges, or finger bones, INTO my hand. This is fixed by a muscular Russian murse grabbing your pinky with both hands and pulling very hard. God I wish they gave me more lidocaine."
TelevisionOlympics
Functions
animation art GIFGiphy"If you have a surgery where they need to move your organs around they might not function for a day as the body assumes that they are dead."
tonythebutcher13
Move things around? You mean that's not fake when it happens on "Grey's Anatomy?"
Basketball Wives Ugh GIF by VH1"The only reason you are not aware of it is because the ambient noise kind of drowns it out because your ears focus on it. If you go to one of those super-silent rooms that absorb all sorts of sounds, it is a really weird way to reacquaint yourself with your body."
Black_Handkerchief
The Mouth
"Idk about the most disturbing but how bad human teeth are. We’d think it’s our sugary and processed diets these days that cause it, but even Otzi the iceman discovered in Italy was found to have terrible teeth, mouth diseases and cavities. It’s odd that even with the most basic of diets our teeth are so bad."
Dorianisconfused
In the bowels...
"I noticed this after my abdominal surgery. When I turned over in bed my guts seemed to fall from one side to the other. Mentioned to my doc and she confirmed it was my bowels rearranging themselves."
squatter_
"Apparently the doctor just throws your intestines back in there higgeldy-piggeldy because there isn't a correct way to pack them neatly."
LostDesigner9
A Quick Burst
"There are a vast number of ways that your body can malfunction and kill you with little or no warning. An aneurysm can go undetected until it bursts and kills you. Getting hit in the chest just the right way can stop your heart. You can encounter an allergen that never previously provoked an immune response that freaks out your body so badly that you die. You literally just never know if your body will just... die."
Unsolicited_Spiders
The body is such a conundrum. Sexy and gross all at once.
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