Redditor TreyTheEyeball wanted to hear how great friendships came to an end and asked everyone:
"What made you unfriend/hate your best friend?"
The less friends the better.
Cheaper for Christmas.
Punch
Punch Punching GIF by The X FactorGiphy"Realized he wasn't just roasting me as friends do but was treating me like a human punching bag in front of other ppl to make jokes."
CaptainDeadpool79
I have never looked back...
"He was a pathological liar, manipulative and told all of my most trusted secrets to everyone because he wanted to feel powerful and like he controlled me. Haven’t spoken a word in 5 years and I have never looked back."
rojarty
"Had a friend just like that. Eventually tried to drive a wedge between my fiancé, me, and all of our friends. Our closest friends kind of let me in on what was going on behind the scenes, which we could already tell, and I eventually booted him from my wedding altogether."
"10 yrs later I was going to be moving back into the state he lived in, and I reached out to see if he’d grown up. He apologized for everything, owning it all seemingly. Then a few hours later informed me he was a realtor and to let him know once I’m house hunting. Never spoke to him again after that."
Vivid_Designer395
15 Years Gone
"I let her and her little dog move in with me and rent a room while she got back on her feet. It was a double wide trailer and she had her own bathroom across from her room. She was nasty, dirty and a drunk. I knew she liked to drink, but not like what I experienced."
"She would leave used tampons on the bedroom floor, plates of half eaten food pushed under the bed and liquor bottles and beer cans all over the place. She would lock her dog out of her room so she could sleep in or nap and it would terrorize my animals."
"I found out from a neighbor that she would sit out on the back porch drinking and instead of coming in to use the restroom she would relieve herself in my little patch of backyard at all hours of the night (she admitted that she did this). The last straw was when I came home from a shopping day out with my daughter and she saw the purchases and said 'well I guess you don’t need my rent then.' A 15 year friendship ruined."
HiRollerette
Damn Craig!
"I was trying to quit weed. I asked him 1 thing. If you wanna hang out this week while i'm in the early stages could you not bring any over. He FREAKED out. Kicked up a massive fuss about how I should have willpower. Finally I said fine just don't come over for a couple of weeks while I get my head straight. So he apologised said he was wrong. Came over. Sparked up a pre rolled joint 2 minutes in. F**k you Craig."
17FeretsAndaPelican
Seriously?!
Tiffany Mitchell Idk GIF by Indiana FeverGiphy"He got my gf pregnant and congratulated me as a new dad at birth. Didn't figure it out until a few years later."
crank1off
This is all a mess of scandal.
Different Sides
"He started being an a**hole for no reason, I swear. One day he just started to be mean towards me, even to the point that he insulted me many times. I still think about how we went from being 'best friends' to ignoring each other. What did I do to him? It's like he became a totally different person from one day to another."
Axdan_8
4 to about 12...
"I wonder if childhood best friends are more a result of proximity, rather than affinity. It seems more common to drift apart once your lives take off."
achakapia
"I’ve come to realize this too. My best friend from age 4 to about 12 was really just because our parents hung out we lived close and once we got older had much different interests and proximity and in the early grade school years had mostly boys in our classes and we were the only girls that knew each other for several years."
Twist_Glass
Things got hard...
"Drugs, we'd been neighbors and friends since we were a few months old."
"At college we met new people as you do. We'd always had other friendship groups outside of each other so I didn't really know her new friends. She started off smoking weed with them, not my thing but pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things."
"Eventually she started taking harder drugs when we'd go out. It was always me that got her home safe."
"It just got to the point where I'd had enough, I couldn't watch her destroy herself like that. I tried to get her help but she wouldn't take it. So I just left, cut all ties and moved away (the move was planned already). No idea what happened to her or if she managed to turn it around, I hope so."
Educational-Soil732
HER!
Text Chat GIF by IlizaGiphy"She only called or texted to brag or because she needed something. Everything was about her, all the time."
that-1-chick-u-know
Not every relationship is meant to be forever.
Be at peace about it.
Redditor lawyeratyourservice wanted to hear all details (scandalous and sad) about about the end of a life long friendship.
They asked:
"People who no longer speak to their childhood best friends. What happened?"
Delia.
My childhood bestie was a girl named Delia.
I still see her on the socials but I have no idea about her life.
And it just happened.
I'm Sorry
"I got lost in the grips of addiction. I'm sober now going on two years, and He's at the top of my amends list." ~ Mtg_Force
GiphyDiverging Paths
"Like many kids of the 70s and 80s, there was no tech to stay connected like there is today once we went away to college. We’d cross paths every so often until his parents sold their home and moved away."
"We were briefly friends on Facebook until he deactivated his account. Ironically, I’m in touch with his older brother. In fairness, they don’t have much contact either. I don’t take it personally, I think he wanted to unplug from the past for whatever reason." ~ jphilipre
The 50/50
"I realized that every time we'd spoken in the last several months, I had been the one to start the conversation. I decided to stop and see if he would initiate a conversation and we never spoke again." ~ DoomsdaySignal
"I have friends like that and friends that make all the effort with me. I guess it’s best if it’s 50/50 but I’ve never had that happen." ~ Ann-Stuff
"50/50 isn't the goal. The goal is to NOT have it 100/0." ~ drum_playing_twig
Decades Later...
"My friends (who were brothers) moved to another state. I called them every week and we had good conversations. My dad asked why I was always the one who called, because it was in his dime, lol, and I said if I don't call them they will call me."
"Never heard from one of them again, and the other only hits me up when he wants something. I've heard from him once in 20 years." ~ No_Understanding7431
Just Life
"We finished high school. We went to different colleges and made new best friends." ~ Professor_Nick
GiphyIt's ok to have goodbyes.
They are part of the natural order.
Call me Bree!!
"She moved to Alaska from Arizona. It's a long shot but if you see this, Bree, message me!" ~ GreenOnionCrusader
GiphyThe Drift
"We slowly drifted apart during 8-9th grade. He wanted to become one of the popular kids and I was at the bottom of the social structure."
"I have seen him from a distance several times over the years but did not want to bother him. He died at 34 from an undiagnosed medical issue earlier this year." ~ Ashtar-the-Squid
2014...
"Drifted apart because we moved away. Fast forward to 2014, met a new gym member who had the same last name as her, had a similar smile and asked if there was any way he knew of or was related to her."
"Turned out he was her brother and she passed away when she was 26! 😭" ~ rudebish
It's Too Late...
"I've got a friend that I don't see very often since he got married (we get along with his wife), and I've just been assuming it was because we all have less time."
"Nope, turns out it's because we're all white collar professionals in our late 30s, and any time we invite him out he can never be anywhere before 10pm. Dude, I get up at 6 am." ~ Alrik
Thief
"She always tried to steal everything I had (boyfriends, clothes, personal possessions, etc) so I cut her off." ~ stormyllewellynn
GiphyNo Comply...
"I didn’t realise how controlling she was. The friendship fell apart when we went travelling together in our late teens. She hated it and went home after a few months but I stayed for two years."
"When I came back it went downhill very quickly. I’d learned to say no, have boundaries and have other friends - she hated that and stopped talking to me."
"It’s been 10 years and she still occasionally messages me, saying sorry and wanting to reconcile. I did the first few times but the friendship always went back to her trying to control me and blowing up when I refused to ‘comply’. I have to just ignore her messages now." ~ Hot_potatoos
be cool...
"He sold out to the 'cool kids' and betrayed my trust. I was so hurt at the time, which was expressed as anger. He and I had been through so much, and always had each other's backs. Then, one day, I seemingly did not matter. The trust was gone, and I never made any overture to him, nor he to me." ~ rodeler
All was good...
"No clue. I’d love to know the answer. We were best friends from age 5 till 21. I was at her wedding. All was good. After that I never spoke to her again. I tried but she never answered. Even her parents and brother and sister have no clue why." ~ ThatCatChick21I
"Would bet it’s something to do with her spouse not liking you. Similar thing happened to me." ~ meow______meow
Groupies...
"I was in a girl group and a couple the girls were my friends since 1st grade - in JR high they thought the guy that one of the other girls liked me and they all cut me off. Even though I had a huge crush on a totally different person." ~ Readitonline12
Mean Girls Reaction GIF by filmeditorGiphyHi James
"I bailed on my best friend James because he was not 'cool' enough and did not smoke any weed like my new 'friends.' Today he’s working for NASA and putting his success aside/I just feel bad for bailing on my childhood friend for people who today don’t care about me. But that’s life I guess." ~ Discombobulated_Elk7
Social Growth
"We lost touch and when we reconnected she told me that I was no longer beneficial to her social growth and I'd only be an embarrassment in her new circle. I was the only kid on the block who wanted to be her friend when she moved there from China not knowing any English. We were around 7. I helped her learn. She works as a software engineer now so I guess my admin a** isn't good enough for her. All good though." ~ claire_luna15
The Surface
"Turns out she was a gaslighting narcissist who went around talking down about me to try to make herself look better. She also followed me around and came onto every guy I dated, sometimes after we had stopped dating, sometimes before. In a few scenarios, she succeeded in sleeping with them. All while lying to me. About everything. Legit most disgusting human being I’ve ever known. This only scratches the surface." ~ jjjjennyandthebets
Misplaced Blame
"I told her that her fiancé was cheating on her. She got mad at me. They split, she’s still mad at me." ~ ashley_spashley
Ifc Bye Felicia GIFGiphySchool Daze
"We were completely inseparable through middle and high school and had always planned to stay together through college. She didn't get into my choice schools, so (being an extremely dumb and anxious teenager) I foolishly agreed to attend a second-rate school with her instead... as not to be alone."
"Shortly before the start of our freshman year of college she informed me she was no longer going to school with me and was instead moving to NYC to live with a guy she met on the internet. She'd known this for months but neglected to tell me until it was too late to do anything about it." ~ GiuseppinaAng
When We Were Young
"My best friends are kind of chapters in periods of my life. Still love them all, catch up like no time has passed when we can see each other. Unfortunately it’s hard to maintain a family and multiple friendships. Chosen family and I can’t wait to wake them up and start playing!" ~ 123Fake_St
Well everyone here seems to be dealing well.
But... let's find Bree.
Maybe they can have a better outcome.
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There are usually no hard feelings when distance and life experience test the endurance of our friendships.
But, sometimes, it's time to cut our losses.
Curious to hear how people's friendships were deliberately cut short, Redditor ionlyhaveme asked:
"What ended your relationship with your best friend?"
The following people realized their friends' conniving and manipulative ways were no longer worth their time.
Toxic Friendship
"Their negative as hell attitude towards EVERYTHING including pretty innocuous, normal problems."
"I couldnt handle how bitter they had become...it was toxic."
Lies And More Lies
"She made up a story about being pregnant by rape, being addicted to pain killers, and then miscarrying said pregnancy. also she said she wanted my boyfriend and manipulated me into feeling guilty for being with him. she was dating someone else at the time. she admitted she was lying about everything in order to 'test my friendship'. I walked out that day."
The Philanderer
"He cheated on his girlfriend, who I was close friends with before I ever met him, multiple times with multiple girls and was then bragging about it. So I told her."
Romance complicates things. These Redditors can attest to that.
The Girl Whose Heart Belonged To Someone Else
"The girl he liked told him she liked me. That was the start of it. He just got distant after that happened. Then he got together with another girl who convinced him to stop hanging out with the rest of us and now we never hear from him."
Love In The Equation
"I had Feelings for him. He knew. After 4 years I couldn't torture myself anymore and ended the friendship. 3 months after that he claimed he always loved me. Oof."
First Love
"I had my first 'girlfriend' when I was 17. I was a super awkward kid (and a f'king a**hole) who had never even kissed a girl, and she was my first. She was a friend of my best friend who set us up as dates for junior prom. Well, we only 'dated' briefly, I was completely out of my depth, and she broke up with me after less than two months. About 2 months later, she was dating my best friend who set us up. Well, he texted me about it afterwards to ask if I was ok with it, and I lied and said I was.
As I said, first 'love' and all that, awkward teenage drama bullsh*t. Well, I bottled it up until the night before graduation almost a year later, I went to a baseball game with a few friends, but without my 'best friend', and I for whatever reason decided that that was the perfect time to tear him apart via text message. I went off, called him a bunch of horrific sh*t, and called him a p**sy for not even responding. An overwhelming feeling of 'what the f'k have I done?' washed over me. Well, graduation happens, he was crying when I saw him and said nothing to him. That night, my 'ex' texted me, and I brilliantly doubled down. Well, eventually a year or two passed and we patched things up, but we agreed that we would never really be friends again. I run into him once every few years and we are cordial. This was over a decade ago. Easily in the top three biggest regrets of my life."
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The Embezzler
"He stole $300,000 from the company we both worked. It was over a period of time and I'm the one that figured it out."
– Rmanager
The One Who Went To Prison
"My best friend went to prison and came out a nazi. I'm not equipped to deprogram that and can't be around that."
A lot of Redditors also mentioned time was a common factor resulting in friends cutting each other off.
When neither person is willing to make an effort to reach out to the other, both are complicit in the demise of that friendship.
I have friends with whom I can pick up right where we left off, no matter how much time has passed.
Sure, life gets in the way, but those are the friendships I should make an effort to hold on to.
The moral of the thread is, if you have that one person in your life you think of fondly but fell out of touch with, it's never too late to reach out to them.
Why wonder what they're up to when you can easily DM or text them, or better yet, give them a random call. Life is short.