Redditor hearsdemons wanted to compare notes on that little extra something that can make a possible lover that much more enticing.
So they asked:
"Women of Reddit, what skill or talent makes a man more attractive?"
Communication.
Why is that so arduous?
Be a communicator.
Calm
robert eggers patience GIFGiphy"Patience. It's so annoying to be around someone who throws a fit over every little inconvenience throughout the day."
prettygirl717
X
"Any skill honestly. But mostly intellectual curiosity to keep figuring out stuff and trying new things. If you learned X in high school and that's your party trick now but you never learned a new hobby, maybe to fix stuff, do anything new, then it wears thin fast. Anything. Do you cook, hike, know a lot about cricket? Hunt, fish? Cars, planes, boats? Music, movies? Opera? I'm always interested in somebody that can teach me something new. But it does get boring if they just rehash the same stuff and milk it for 20 years."
reveal23414
Serve it Up
"A good cook. I love cooking and am good at it, which guys typically like, but I appreciate when a guy wants to cook for me instead for a change. It's attractive when they know their way around a kitchen and have confidence in their culinary skills without my help!"
Mediocre-End2187
"I love to cook but I once dated a very high-level chef who worked for Joël Robuchon/Four Seasons. I made her a simple chicken and rice dinner one night and she destroyed me with constructive criticism. I appreciated it but dating her was so intimidating when it came to anything food related. Tiny little Vietnamese bad@ss. I miss her."
superboringfellow
Easy to be around...
"Kindness. Genuine kindness."
Tulikettuja
"This. My partner was a kind coworker, he brought us all thoughtful little gifts one year and then after we started hooking up, he was very sweet to my elderly cat and now that we live together, he is an excellent stepfather to my two spoiled little dogs."
"We cry together when things are sad. His desire to be kind has enabled us to have difficult conversations and learn to not be on the defense when we disagree. He makes me coffee on weekends when we wake up at the same time. Kindness is the most important quality."
SuperRadPsammead
How witty...
Comedy Laughing GIF by GEICOGiphy"A sense of humor, but it must be paired with a talent for reading the room."
doublestitch
"Humor + reading the room have to go together. 'Saying what everybody is thinking' is only funny in the appropriate moment."
StandardFront7922
Comedy and a good laugh go a long way.
Hearing
tell me more will smith GIFGiphy"Listening."
misty614
"Not only listening, but follow through afterward!"
casandrine
Relax Yo...
"Staying calm. Men which stay calm almost 24/7 have such an attractive skill. I can‘t really discribe why but it is really attractive to me."
Annikuh
"I was on a date and got a flat tire from a pot hole in a parking lot. I simply changed it and went on with the date. After, she turn me down for another date because she didn't like that I was so calm about the blown tire. Pretty sure I dodged a bullet with that one."
DoctFaustus
Act like it...
"This isn’t a skill or talent, it’s a trait. Being generally nice to those around you and not hurting those around you just to 'be a man.' If acting manly means abuse, I don’t want to marry them."
Buzzing_Bee13
"I will say, I don’t think I’m that nice. But in my defense I think I’m very nice to nice people. Its so rare to find a genuinely nice person. It brings so much energy being around a nice person. I will defend them with ferocity if people ever make fun of them or give them a hard time. Gotta preserve their niceness as long as possible."
mkostinas
Awareness
"The ability to genuinely apologize. Not a mumbled '…sorry' or a defensive 'I’m sorry jeez what do you want?' but a true heartfelt apology that lets me know you understand what happened, are taking my feelings seriously, and will actually follow through with doing better next time. Too often 'sorry' sounds more like 'What do I have to say to get this conversation to end.'"
casandrine
Whatever
Found Footage Video GIF by Eternal FamilyGiphy"Anything really. I just love watching people do something they love and are passionate about. It is attractive when a man has a passion and talks about it."
SleepyDreamer16
Can you imagine one person encompassing of all these? Oh my...
What skills would you add to this list? Let us know in the comments.
Redditor alfieriandiv asked:
"What type of clothing do you find very attractive in the opposite sex?"
Kilts
"Kilts on men."
"I've never seen a man no matter his age or size who didn't look good to me in full kilted kit or in just a kilt."
"I'm not Scottish so it's not cultural."
"I just love a man in a kilt." ~ LakotaGrl
GiphyStockings
"Stockings and high heels." ~ Reddit
"I find it fascinating that a lot of men (myself included) are incredibly turned on by essentially just a long sock."
"I remember not being especially turned on by stockings a few years ago, but something clicked at some point and I am like you now." ~ FlyingNiagga
GiphyLoin Cloth
"My husband put a loin cloth on as a joke and walked around the house once."
"I liked that."
"A lot." ~ BerriesLafontaine
GiphyGlasses
"Glasses." ~ BlueIsAGreatColour
"My friends always call me weird for being extra attracted to girls with glasses, I'm glad to see someone else likes this one." ~ dalcer
Giphy
Thigh Highs
"Thigh highs." ~ MasterChef5311
"My husband just yelled hell yeah!!! when I told him thigh high boots were so high on the list." ~ Cheshiregrin85
GiphyMandalorian
"Men that dress up as the Mandalorian." ~ Salt-Pea-8311
"Especially men that are Pedro Pascal." ~ Takodanachoochoo
GiphyBackless
"Any backless dress or gown is soooooo attractive." ~ thisisnotmeee0903
"Throw in a twirl." ~ FrancisPF'kery
GiphyLab Coat
"Lab coat & glasses that are slightly tilted downwards."
"Bro my boyfriend brought his lab coat home (or so he says) but refuses to put it on or show me." ~ rmpti138
GiphyRegalia
"Indigenous North American regalia."
"Go to a wacipi (powwow) and everyone always looks great." ~ LakotaGrl
GiphyAttraction is subjective as the variety of responses make clear.
So, did your favorite fashion make the list?
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"What is something you cannot find hot or attractive no matter how hard you try?"
People discuss the looks and behavior that are off-putting to them.
Know-It-All
"Everyone's typing sexual shiz, but here's mine: Ego. When someone thinks they're just a top of the line kinda person and know everything about anything? No, just no."
"Had a guy I had just started dating awhile back ask me about my job at the time. I was telling him about it, but he would interrupt me to try and CORRECT me on things he clearly had no idea about (and was also wrong about every time he opened his mouth lol)."
– NuckingFutsWinx
Puckering Up
"When girls put lipstick above their lip line to make their lips look bigger."
– JackEyedPees
"I don't respect people that can't color within the lines, didn't in first grade and don't now."
– Zerole00
Lip Augmentation
"Those huge pumped up lips on a woman."
"Gross."
– fishnwirenreese
And To Top It Off
"The female equivalent of a toupee."
– jfq722
Negative Behavior
"Bad attitudes."
– ForExpToronto
"I feel like that's the kind of thing that's alluring because it conveys confidence until you actually get involved with someone like that and realize they're just an a**hole."
– Turkey__Puncher
Toxicity
"Many things, but, the romanticising of toxic behaviour and toxic relationships primarily in films."
"Example uno - After Example duo - The Kissing Booth Example tre - Twilight"
"Edit: I’m aware I missed out on some prime examples like Fifty Shades of Grey and 365, so please feel free to add anymore to the list!"
– pantrypans
There's a certain way adult couples speak to each other that others find annoying and more fitting for a nursery room.
How Infantile
"Baby talk."
– Dendad6972
"If you think it’s bad coming from a girl try hearing it from a guy. !!"
– Watermelonito
Mismatch
"Girls doing baby voices, I was once fooling around with this very cute girl and she used a baby voice sounding like tweety bird and sh*t and I couldn’t recover, I had to cut her free, hope she found the right guy who’s into that."
– santichrist
"That" Couple
"My ex would often talk in this very childish way of speaking, like trying to be funny and cute, and honestly I thought it was, until one day we were hanging out with her ex and her ex started talking like that and I was like….ohhhhhhh….I see."
– Vila_VividEdge
When it comes to the bedroom, these activities were ones Redditors could do without.
Getting Anal
"Scat."
"Truth be told, I had an ex who loves being f'ked in the a**. But it wasn't till the 20th ish time I realized she only wanted it up the poop shoot If she had diarrhea. And unfortunately it ended up all over me. Then she'd lick it off. Every single time I went immediately limp and couldn't finish. I tried, but, no.""I tried because she was into it."– oO_SbowWulf_Oo"Beep bobbly dee doot dah dah bup ba boodle doodle hee bat NOPE!"
– Alewort
It's A Fecal Thing
"Scat play. I'm not here to kink shame, but... Miss me with that sh*t."
– TheCantrip
Leave It For The Gastroenterologist
"Unsolicited internal organs shots."
– yeet_onfleek
Here's A Pisser
"Golden showers."
"She asked, I obliged, we broke up within a month."
– MelantorBoost
Burning Wood
"Hand jobs where there’s too much enthusiasm - meaning that I’m risking friction burns."
– FoodExternal
It's a preference.
Age Is Not Just A Number
"I am 29. Anyone who is that much younger than me, even if it is legal. Just not into it, I am sorry."
– stare_at_the_sun
Interior Decor
"Unsolicited internal organs shots."
– yeet_onfleek
We all have our preferences that draw us towards certain people.
What others find repulsive, others find totally sexy. That's the beauty of dating, though, isn't it?
There's someone for everyone.
For those of you who are single and still looking, don't lose hope.
Your unicorn is out there.
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