Reddit user IsellKidneys2356 asked:
"What screams 'I'm attracted to you?' "
If you're reading this article with a particular someone in mind, hoping this article will help you figure out if they're into you or not, keep reading til the end and we'll give you a sure-fire way to know.
You're Not That Funny
"Laughing at your worst jokes."
- scrimmybingus3
"I told my friend when he was nervous on his first date 'if she laughs, you got a shot' to which he replied 'why?' ”
"I said 'cause you ain’t f*cking funny and she’s catering to your frail ego just like all girls do when they like a guy' he said it was great advice lol 😂"
- thelastride23
"My girlfriend was so giggly when we first met and it was so precious."
"I have a good sense of humor but I know I’m not THAT funny. It gave me peace of mind early on knowing she probably had the same butterfly feeling in her stomach as me."
- lanman33
Marvel Studios Reaction GIF by Disney+GiphyTerrified Silence
"I worked alongside this guy for several months, and he never said a word to me."
"For the longest time, I thought he hated me, as he would actively go out of his way to avoid speaking to me at all, or even make any kind of eye contact."
"I thought he was super cute, but I'm also pretty shy and introverted, which is why I just let it go for several months."
"It eventually got to the point where it was just uncomfortable, and I asked him what the deal was, and what I could have possibly done to make him dislike me so much."
"It took him a minute or so to respond, and then he said 'I'm really sorry. I'm incredibly shy, and have been since I was a kid. But I think you are the most flawlessly beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I am terrified to talk to you.' "
"We've been together for over three years, and married for four months."
- littletinylotus
Big Hints
"Apparently my fiancee dropped a whole lot of hints before we got together."
"A big standout was complaining that she didn't have any plans for our Junior prom, and then asking me what my plans for that night were."
"My dumb@ss responded with something to the effect of 'F*ck prom, I'll be home playing Mario.' "
- uwu-lmao-xD
"My girlfriend did the same thing, to the point she kissed me and I managed to convince myself that she wasn't interested."
"I ignored it for another month before I got told by multiple people that she was into me and I asked her out. In conclusion, I am a f*cking idiot."
- original__pickles
"When my son was about 16 he went off on a camping weekend with a heap of friends. There was one girl who’d he’d been getting kind of close with for ages, and I had a fair idea that something would happen while they were away."
"So when I picked him up, I asked him how it had gone."
"He said it was so weird, they’d had a great night, it was almost bedtime and she hasn’t set up her tent yet. He asked her about it and she said she didn’t know how to put it up so she was just going to have to sleep on the ground by the fire."
"Ever the gentleman, he sprung to his feet and recruited a friend to help set it up for her in the dark and the cold. Damsel saved."
"Fast forward an hour or so and everyone’s asleep. He hears a rustle at his tent door and there she is, complaining that she’s so cold all on her own in her big scary tent."
"Bless that sweet ignorant boy, he said 'oh. Well here you go, take my sleeping bag' and held it out to her. He remembers she looked sad and confused and he didn’t understand; he’d done a nice thing and now she wouldn’t be cold. Damsel saved."
"He shivered and froze all night and ended up climbing into another tent and going top to toe with his buddy."
"I said to him 'Mate, do you reckon maybe she wanted to sleep in your tent with you?' and the look on that poor kid’s face when the penny dropped…"
- Kristyyyyyyy
The Looks
"When you're in a group and the person consistently looks at you whenever something funny or interesting happens."
- take-a-ride
"I had a meeting yesterday afternoon. It was the first time for most of us meeting in person."
"The last person to arrive was this stunning girl and when we looked at each other I swear to God there might as well have been lightning shooting out both our eyes."
"At first I thought 'nah I imagined that.' As she sat down close to me we looked at each other for a solid second and smiled at the same time for no particular reason other than it just feeling right."
"She started making conversation with me specifically. We had to split up into groups to interview people, and she and I were paired by the supervisor (best supervisor ever)."
"For the next two hours, we just joked and talked with each other and every time something funny happened we just looked at each other automatically."
"I've been with a lot of people but never had this sort of easy chemistry happen before, certainly not so quickly. I'm excited to talk to her some more, regardless of where it leads. I asked her out to lunch sometime and she said yes!"
"It might be a bit because we're noth busy but it's a good development :)"
- RomanRodriBR
Full Of Excuses
"Excuses to be near them. 'Lets study together - we'll get more work done ; 'Oh, you're going that way? me too, lets walk together.' "
- pronouns-r-they-them
"My sophomore year of college a friend of mine said we should skip a formal to get more studying done."
"These formals were a big deal campus-wide and everyone went. Also, we didn’t take a single class together."
"She showed up at my dorm wearing knee-high stockings and a men’s dress shirt that was unbuttoned to her cleavage. She was not wearing a bra."
"I…studied. Hurts to think about to this day."
- m4gnum_89
"I’m guilty of that second one lol."
"There was a girl in one of my college classes that I got to know really well that I started to get a huge crush on her. We would always walk out of class together and I had always said that her spot was on the way to my spot when in reality it was way off."
"But I just enjoyed those walks every day. I looked forward to that."
- yeezyfan23
Distraction
"Losing their train of thought when you walk by, while they are talking to someone else."
- buck-status-BROKEN
"Yup."
"I work with my spouse. We've been married 14 years. I still lose my train of thought when he walks by."
- take-a-ride
"This happened to me once."
"It was absurd how I trailed off when she went by in a summer dress. Good lord, 100% embarrassing."
- mynameisbp
"Omg this is true."
"I was giving a mock presentation to my group mate and that guy suddenly joined and spectated. I tripped up so many time in that presentation."
- andrew_hihi
Surprised Pixar GIF by DisneyGiphyThis Classic Move
"Finding any reason to touch each other."
"Whether is play fighting, feeling up muscles, poking someone's bruise, comparing hand sizes of they actively try to find a reason to touch you, they probably like you."
- biggaylikewoman
"Comparing hand sizes is a CLASSIC move."
- WinterBird01
"Comparing hand sizes is like my go to :/ I’m ashamed."
- Aldroe
Food = Love
"If they know you like a certain food and buy it for you."
"The guy I liked loved this one dumpling place near uni. He’d constantly stop and get some on the way home."
"One day when we where walking together, beforehand he said he felt like some but didn’t have his card so no money. So even though I knew he wanted some, when I asked if he wanted me to buy it for him he politely declined."
"So I pretended to buy some for myself (since I sometimes would). Then I ate like 3 to make it believable and said I was suddenly full and he could have the rest."
"I just wanted him to be happy with his dumplings."
- JackSparrowscompass
Absentmindedly
"When you catch them absentmindedly looking at you."
"Even if they’re doing something/talking to someone else but they’re still in tune with you and mindful of where you are in the room. Because, even subconsciously, they’re thinking about you."
"Also, going out of their way to make you smile/laugh is a good one. Same with keeping notes on your interests."
- NinjaCakies
"Most of the girls that I knew were interested in me were girls who I kept catching staring at me."
"Initially I never made any effort go further, but then I did and found out they were actually interested in me. I have figured out the 'I like you' gaze now and it's easy to know who likes me."
- garlic_bread_thief
"Finding reasons to touch you, wanting to see you, hear your voice and most important - their gaze."
"You can just tell by the way someone looks at you. When you’re in a group or a party, you look at them and find them already looking at you from across the room."
- Skinnylicious3
"Its in the way they watch you from across the room when they think you are not noticing."
"The easy smile when you are talking to them. They really listen to what you have to say without talking too. much because they are cataloging and filing it into their brain for future reference."
"But it starts with the look..."
- Melesa-rdwudforst
Third Person
"A tendency to end sentences by looking at each other even if there's other people around."
"Also, making frequent side comments to each other in group settings. They just want to talk to each other more."
"It can be hard to notice if it's happening to you, but is super obvious from a third person view when people are into each other."
- Nightthunder
make up lol GIF by LifetimeGiphyTalk Talk Talk
"Always trying to find ways to talk to you."
- rottingrodents
"Walking up to you and finding an excuse to start a conversation with you is usually a good sign, in my experience."
- in_the_comatorium
The Reflex
"This might come off as egotistical, but it's something I noticed and haven't been able to tell anyone ..."
"At the gym I have a 'friendly acquaintance' who I see all the time. We generally just exchange pleasantries, but in December I ruptured the triceps tendon in my right arm."
"She happens to be a physical therapist, so there has been a lot more chit-chat since then."
"A few days ago I entered the gym, and went to stow my jacket in a cubby. She was nearby, so I said 'Good morning' and when she turned I saw her pupils dilate to like 11."
"Since then I've seen the same thing twice."
"Ocular reflexes don't lie."
- SurlyJason
This List
"Men to women:"
"Driving. He takes you home or picks you up without being asked."
"Killing things. He drops whatever he is doing when you need him to help you smash a bug or trap a mouse."
"Paying attention. He notices changes in your grooming and dress and remembers things you say."
"Ponying up. He pays for meals, coffee, movie tickets, etc. even if you aren't dating."
"Showing off. He subtly or not so subtly mentions how much he can bench press or how much his last client paid him."
"Spending time. He seems not to mind hanging around you for no apparent reason."
"Telling you in so many words. He voluntarily admits that he did all these things because he was attracted to you."
- Loud_Ad_5518
Some people aren't just oblivious - they're almost impossible to convince.
Even if you tell them flat-out that you're attracted to them.
Even if you have sex with them.
Even if you marry them!
Yeah ... there may be no hope for these folks.
I Do. For Real.
"It took a while of being literally married for me to be convinced my husband was into me."
"I’m not always the smartest lol, no matter how much he told me or kissed me or did sweet, thoughtful gestures, my own insecurity fought me every step of the way."
"I do understand now that I’m truly loved just as much as I love him."
- carsandtelephones37
"For me it’s the intrusive thought that my wife believes she loves me but doesn’t realize she’s actually just tolerating me and when someone better comes around she’ll be like 'oh damn I was wrong.' ”
- A_Doormat
"Married 5 years, that's how it feels to me."
"I'm slowly realizing that she didn't just marry me because I was the best option at the time."
"She has a hard time expressing love because she grew up in a very suppressed household. Her parents never kissed, showed much affection in front of the kids beyond saying I love you."
"Most of the extent of her showing love is just flat out telling me."
"She's brutally honest with her words and words mean a lot to her so, that's good, but I'm just not a words guy, I need physical touch, quality time, etc."
"But over the past 5 years, I've slowly been noticing the subconscious things she does that tell me she loves me. Some of the signs that people have posted here are actually what she does and it shows that even though she has a hard time expressing it, that adorable heart of hers yearns after me."
"A year ago, we were in a really rough spot, mostly fueled by me not feeling loved by her, so the fact that I can acknowledge this is huge for us."
- [Reddit]
Living Single Kiss GIFGiphySis Dropped The Ball
"A girl that had a locker beside mine in high school asked if I was going to prom and who I was going with."
"I replied, 'Nah, I’m not going I don’t want to pay for that sh*t.' Even more, one of her friends also pushed even further by asserting that we should go to prom together and I held my ground by, once again, stating that I wouldn’t even be going."
"I later found out that this girl had asked my sister if I had someone to go to prom with and made it clear that she wanted to go with me."
"Why my sister didn’t let me know of this information I will never know."
"I was definitely very attracted to this girl but my dumbass couldn’t comprehend that she would actually want to go with me."
"Oops."
- Mironium
I Cringe
"Close contact, especially the unconventional ones."
"Went out with workmates and a colleague (slightly tipsy) started rubbing my leg with her foot while at table."
"Never been flirted with like that and didn't know how to respond appropriately, so I panicked and just gently pushed her away. I cringe at how I handled the situation to this day."
- someguywithdiabetes
Cherry Stem Saga
"What screams 'I'm attacted to you?' I wouldn't know because I'm an idiot."
"My wife tied a cherry stem in her mouth for me the night we started dating. Tied a cherry stem - it's such a cliche but I still missed it."
"She had to 'scream louder' and hold my hand and press into me hard later on because I was f*cking hopeless taking the hint."
- Threndsa
Don't worry, we didn't forget out promise - you're here for that sure-fire way to find out if someone is attracted to you.
You ready?
ASK THEM.
Yes, it's awkward - but it really is the only way to know for sure. Sorry. Thems the breaks, fam.
You're gonna have to just ask.
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Redditor alfieriandiv asked:
"What type of clothing do you find very attractive in the opposite sex?"
Kilts
"Kilts on men."
"I've never seen a man no matter his age or size who didn't look good to me in full kilted kit or in just a kilt."
"I'm not Scottish so it's not cultural."
"I just love a man in a kilt." ~ LakotaGrl
GiphyStockings
"Stockings and high heels." ~ Reddit
"I find it fascinating that a lot of men (myself included) are incredibly turned on by essentially just a long sock."
"I remember not being especially turned on by stockings a few years ago, but something clicked at some point and I am like you now." ~ FlyingNiagga
GiphyLoin Cloth
"My husband put a loin cloth on as a joke and walked around the house once."
"I liked that."
"A lot." ~ BerriesLafontaine
GiphyGlasses
"Glasses." ~ BlueIsAGreatColour
"My friends always call me weird for being extra attracted to girls with glasses, I'm glad to see someone else likes this one." ~ dalcer
Giphy
Thigh Highs
"Thigh highs." ~ MasterChef5311
"My husband just yelled hell yeah!!! when I told him thigh high boots were so high on the list." ~ Cheshiregrin85
GiphyMandalorian
"Men that dress up as the Mandalorian." ~ Salt-Pea-8311
"Especially men that are Pedro Pascal." ~ Takodanachoochoo
GiphyBackless
"Any backless dress or gown is soooooo attractive." ~ thisisnotmeee0903
"Throw in a twirl." ~ FrancisPF'kery
GiphyLab Coat
"Lab coat & glasses that are slightly tilted downwards."
"Bro my boyfriend brought his lab coat home (or so he says) but refuses to put it on or show me." ~ rmpti138
GiphyRegalia
"Indigenous North American regalia."
"Go to a wacipi (powwow) and everyone always looks great." ~ LakotaGrl
GiphyAttraction is subjective as the variety of responses make clear.
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Redditor Liam_Tang wanted to have a discussion about what's hot and what's not.
"What's not as attractive as people think?"
Clogs.
Stop with the clogs.
Not only are they ugly, they're dangerous.
They're half a shoe!
No Boys
"When guys take pictures of themselves doing that furrowing the brow, biting the lip, rubbing the hands together thing. What is that? Who told them that looks good?"
sterlingrose
GiphyPlay Straight
"Pretending to be or overplaying being drunk/high."
Excellent-Captain-93
"My best friend is this way. I’ve seen her exaggerating her drunkness and then turn it off so quick. Love hanging out with her, but I don’t enjoy drinking with her anymore. Nothing wrong with sober fun though!"
Serious-Association5
"Add on people who make getting drunk/high their entire personality. Do what you want to do, but hopefully there are other important things in your life."
team-pup-n-suds
You "Right?"
"The way the internet has made everyone think they are an expert."
Intellectuallygifted
"This was the case before the internet. The internet just allows everyone to communicate with more people they otherwise would not have. You are seeing a much larger sample size. Flip side, easier to see if they are right or not."
ObamasBoss
"There are so much idiots you either feel like you are an Einstein amongst idiots, or you believe that you are a genius because all other 'geniuses' reassure you."
bop-crop
Bye Chad
"Obsessed about being alpha/gigachad."
Madonomics
"I remember a self promoting giga-chad appearing as a guest at an industry seminar I attended. He said some gross things, nothing related to the industry. I had no idea where the hell they got this guy from, so I checked out his socials. Anyway, he promoted himself as a 'lifestyle coach' and 'alpha male.'"
"His YouTube was full of depressing videos of him in a windowless sterile room he called his 'studio' (obviously his rented bedroom). These videos spanned a number of topics, like how to convince women to have sex using psychology, making money from crypto and weird social theories he had."
"His Instagram was full of pictures of him in front of stranger's Lamborghinis pretending they were his, high-end nightclubs (with no evidence of friends) or dodgy styling tips. He obviously chose to live a lie... And yet this was the lie he chose. Weirdest rabbit hole I ever went down."
AstonVanilla
You be better
"Pointing out someone else's flaws to show how much better they are. Doesn't make them better; just makes them a judgemental a**hole."
Scipio33
GiphyThis sounds about right for society as a whole.
I'm staying in more.
Bored Now
"Playing hard to get. I'm all for putting in effort, but stop giving me signals of not being interested, while you actually are. I'm here to build a relationship, not solve some nonsensical puzzle."
Flux-bite
GiphyOver You
"Trying to act stuck up and showing off by flirting with other guys/girls in front of the person you like to try and get them jealous."
amymay2010
"Yeah, this one has always seemed trashy to me. If you need to make somebody jealous to get/keep them interested, then maybe you aren't that interesting. My friend had a crazy ex who did this shit and I just look at her with utter contempt."
phil_davis
Stay Calm
"Conflict =/= Passion."
IrrelevantPuppy
"Girlfriend of 3 years did that to me. She broke up with me and then harassed me for weeks to get back together; telling me to man up, you name it. It took a huge toll on me. I finally asked her why she would break up if she still wanted to date. Her response? 'I thought you would fight for me!.' Nah bro it doesn't work like that. Relationships are not game."
Jugs-McBulge
Be Quiet
"Some who isn’t being direct, but expects anyone and everyone to be direct + whoever they’re talking to to be a mind reader and gets mad when neither happens."
just_a_wee_Femme
"And the flipside where they proudly declare 'I speak my mind' and have zero social tact, and offend others around them constantly."
jaxsonnz
Can I get a Refund?
"People who show off their money."
realhuman8762
"There's a TikTok that went (somewhat) viral of a guy at the bar showing his bank account to some women (women were smoking hot, guy looked like a grease monkey). The guy had like $90k."
sedatemenow
Giphy'less than'
"Dudes that talk down to people they deem 'less than' them trying to show that they're superior and dudes that really believe in the 'alpha' bulls**t."
princessofpotatoes
"I was trying to word this exact thing but couldn't. I specifically remember being introduced to a friend's boyfriend at a bowling club and him giving the lady at the counter a hard time by trying to convince her he was a member and didn't have his card."
"It made no difference to us getting in and all it did was boost his ego because he needed to control the situation and piss me off. What a fucking twat. It was no surprise to me when my friend told me later he was controlling her entire life (friends, phone etc) and physically abusing her."
BrockBrockway
'hard to get'
"Acting. Acting like you’re hard to get, that you’re interested, acting like there’s a hierarchy. Acting like there are protocols to going on a date, what needs to be said, where to go, etc.. Just be yourself and be honest."
Zolome1977
"What I hate most about the 'hard to get' people, is that their existence gives some other people the impression that those who are genuinely uninterested are just playing. No man, I'm not hard to get. I'm actually pretty easy to get, if I like you. I don't like you. Stop showing up at my house."
fokkoooff
Lies
"Calling yourself 'brutally honest' when really you're just a *ick."
sirwilsonsangrypony
"Brutally honest is usually not related to truth."
"It's usually someone's opinion."
"People who stream-of-conscious say what they think are depending on others not to act like themselves."
"It's asinine."
It's not attractive!
"Men rubbing their hands together while biting their lip. It's not attractive! You either look like a creep or a housefly, pick one."
Nannamuss
"I've seen this posted 3 times now and I have legit never witnessed this behaviour. But yeah it sounds weird."
problemlow
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"Basing your whole personality on smoking weed."
PinkBedazzledLeotard
"Basing your personality on any single topic is tiresome. Harleys, craft beer, yoga, football, cross fit, gaming, Jesus, Star Wars, travelling - if it defines you - you’re pretty one dimensional."
BenchClamp
"Meh. Depends on the person I guess."
"Also, with the strength of weed these days, I find it far easier to drink a beer with someone and have a meaningful discussion rather than smoke a joint and wonder if they hate me for the way my t-shirt shows too much of my arms."
Warsaw44
Nasty
"Being mean to other people to impress someone."
*itch-b-gone345
"Does anyone seriously believe being mean is attractive?"
clement004
"Reminds me of a guy me and some friends and others were hanging out with at a bar after an event we all attended. I asked the guy if he had any social media accounts I could keep in touch with him through and he said no, I'm not emo or suicidal or something like that. Everyone laughed and I just thought the guy was an a**hole after that."
knowone1313
Chill Out
"Aggression."
saucelessnuggets
"This one is it. Also hate it when it's casually shown to wait staff and customer service people. Punch up your aggression my dudes."
snowsqual
"I think a lot of guys think women want this but it seems like it's the guys that want women to want it."
Cheshiregrin85
"Agreed. I especially can’t stand when someone always tries to resort to violence, even though the other person clearly had no intention of being violent. I work with a guy like this. Some other (male) coworker will disagree with something he says and he immediately threatens to beat his a**. Also, he’s never been in a fight that I know of."
FaveFoodIsLesbeans
Nobody Cares
"Flaunting wealth. That only works if you're not flaunting, but it just shows. Like if you pull up in a nice car. There's no way you couldn't have pulled up in a nice car. Therefor acceptable and conveys the point. Don't interject your car into a conversation where it doesn't belong though. Nobody cares."
idkburneridkidk
"People really inject their car in to conversation like that? That's disgusting. My 05 Lamborghini mercialago wouldn't go anywhere near those people."
Mattigins
rich gold GIF by OffsetGiphyIronic.
So much of this leads back to bad behavior.
We need better goals and more self-esteem.
