Be Selective.
GiphyYou don't have to be friends with everyone. ZakLorinator
Also don't be afraid to do what it takes to extract yourself from the situation if "being nice" only puts you in a dangerous position with somebody else. commandrix
Pen to Paper.
Write stuff down. Meetings, social engagements, doctor's appointments, shopping lists, tasks, errands you need to run tomorrow, bucket list ideas, that thing you wanna to tell your grandpa but it's midnight so you can't call him right now. All of it. aerdnadw
Wish I started this when young... it's amazing how many things you forget, including some great ideas you might come up with and other important things. Keeping up with all the details mentally in the world today is simply impossible once you're engulfed in the day to day grind. bizzybeerslugger
You're Special!
Don't put yourself down or spend time with those who do it for you. In other words was do not make yourself feel bad or allow others to make you feel bad about yourself. You could say that there are enough people in the world who will try and make you feel bad without you doing it to yourself as well. "Friends" that do this to you are absolutely not your friend. GOTO_GOSUB
Own It.
GiphyConfidence isn't "I know they'll like me." Confidence is "I'll be ok whether they like me or not." autistic_developer
"the juice ain't worth the squeeze."
Sometimes "the juice ain't worth the squeeze." All battles can be bitter, and the sweet taste of victory isn't always a great chaser. So pick your battles wisely.
edit: The focus is actually about taking on a lot of work and not seeing good returns for what you put in. Like working your hardest to squeeze an orange, but you don't get a lot of juice or it tastes weird. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. You can apply it to arguing if you like, but the focus is on an effort you are putting in. cerberus6320
Shhhhh.....
You don't always have to voice your opinion on everything. Sometimes it's just better to stay quiet. PM_garden_pics
I had a week off from Reddit/social media a while ago and once it was over I found myself thinking "this comment isn't necessary" and deleting it roughly half the time. It really made me realize how much of commenting on the internet is about wanting to be involved, rather than actually contributing something new to the discussion. HeroIsAGirlsName
The Receipts.
Being able to buy something is not the same as being able to afford it. WatchTheBoom
As a note, this isn't just about credit. For some things (cars in particular) the ongoing upkeep costs can be more expensive than the purchase price over the long run.
Pets are another great example. Getting a pet is cheap, owning a pet is expensive. adeon
It's not about you....
GiphyPeople, largely, don't really care about you. Don't spend your whole life worrying what some stranger on the street is going to think about you, because chances are they won't; they'll be too busy worrying about what strangers are thinking of them.
Also, "There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self." -Ernest Hemingway pm_me_n0Od
"I have cancer!"
Having a serious disease or disability does not automatically make someone a good person. Naweezy
Yeah I remember a customer at my old job who had cancer and she was the meanest person I have ever dealt with and she always pulled the "I have cancer!" Card if she didn't get what she wanted. Candy26262
It's not Personal.
GiphyTry not to take things personally, 99% of the time when someone brings you negativity or criticism they are just talking to themselves or acting out their own conflict on others. If you can hold your peace in these times, other peoples problems with you will tell you a lot more about them, than you could learn about yourself from them. madeamashup
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Snip, snip here...
GiphyI like "if you hang around a barbershop long enough, you'll end up getting a haircut" meaning, if you hang around a certain type of person long enough, they'll impact you eventually. ThriftAllDay
HAHAHAHA.....
If you can laugh at yourself, you'll always have something to laugh about.
Don't remember who told me that, don't know if they were quoting someone, but it stuck. roberto10992
Also it's good because it's hard to get bullied because you learn to just laugh it off. The more you don't care, the harder it is to be hurt emotionally at least. Uh_bruj
Not for Everyone....
When I was really young, my father told me this gem, when I was upset about being teased at school: "No matter how nice and kind you are; there are always going to be people who don't like you or appreciate what you do." I forget if there was anything else he added afterward.
It does sound pessimistic, however I internalized it as, to continuing being kind, and not letting a harsh response or cruel treatment bring me down.I think my dad was trying to teach me not to put too much worth into how much worth others put on me, but focus on my own self worth. Ultimately, in my own perspective, it did help me keep a positive attitude on life.
Update: OMG I was not expecting so many replies! I'll try to catch up and upvote everybody. Thank you for your input and the karma! Leporidae91
And then there's you...
A smart man learns from his own mistakes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. Luck is where preparation meets opportunity. RickySlayer9
I use this one a lot in a professional setting, but my take on it is this:
"A smart person learns from their mistakes.
A wise person learns from others'.
And then there's you..." jDubbaYo
Prep.....
Lack of preparation on your part doesn't call for an emergency on mine. kj_SmrtAlc
In the Army we use to say," bad poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part." besquared2
The Good Way...
GiphyDon't confuse hard work with good work.
Or, said another way, don't confuse working hard with working smart. TheSquirrelWithin
Be A Man.
"Forget what others think is manly. I think its unmanly to let others tell you whats manly! Doing happy things is manly enough"
A former classmate I really should have talked to a lot more. Green-the-Dragon
Human Fail.
People aren't against you; they're for themselves. super713
Humans are inherently self serving. I can't remember where I heard it but I've never forgotten it. Whether one sees this as a good or bad thing says a decent amount about them. Which_Hedgehog
Inspiration.
GiphyA wise man once told me "the level of someone's mental breakdown can be measured by the number of inspirational quotes they post." Reddit
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