People Who Slept With A Coworker Share Their Experiences
Reddit user Ok_Chocolate3253 asked: 'People who slept with a coworker, what happened after?'
"Never dip your pen in the company ink."
An age-old cautionary saying urging people not to get romantically entangled with their coworkers.
Doing so used to be illegal at many companies, whereas now it's grown to become a bit more commonplace, and often results in some cases of wedded bliss and happily ever afters (as demonstrated by The Office's Jim and Pam.)
Of course, when entering a relationship with a coworker, be it a one night stand or a committed, multi-year relationship, there is always the risk that it might not end well, resulting in your being forced to see your ex every day at the office (Bridget Jones anyone?)
"People who slept with a coworker, what happened after?"
Well, That's A Success?
"We became friends and she donated a kidney to me lol."- Headbobby
As If Nothing Had Changed...
"Got married 2 years later."
"'Co-worker' can mean different things and different circumstances, for instance:"
"Our company had 130,000 employees world-wide."
"Our group was housed in a building with 1,000 employees."
"We were not in each other's chain of command."
"It could have been somewhat awkward if it did not work out, but not awful."
"It did work out."
"Later on, saved money by carpooling!"- SyntheticOne
The Office Laughing GIF by NBCGiphyJust Couldn't Fight The Chemistry
"We were both working as actors in a small film, cast as romantic leads."
"She noticed I got tense when we had to kiss... and suggested we go on a date to practice kissing."
"We played mini-golf and practiced kissing."
"Then we continued practicing in her car in the parking lot after the mini-golf place closed until a cop came to investigate."
"Then we got a hotel room and practiced other stuff."
'I guess I'm a slow learner because she's still giving me remedial lessons."- Jake_Science
Nothing Personal, One Hopes..
"She had to fire me."
"Poor performance."- bilvester
Consider Long Term Goals First
"Fun."
"Highly recommend if you have a job."
"Do not recommend if you have a career."- bluegiant85
Renee Zellweger Office GIF by Working TitleGiphyOn To Bigger And Better Things
"Dated discreetly and after four years we got engaged."
"We then both told our supervisors we were leaving in the summer."
"At our last meeting as they were doing their good bye lunch for both of us with about 30 coworkers, they had us say a few words."
"I went first and said I was moving to a new city."
"Then it was my fiancés turn and she said she was also moving to that city, with me, because we’re engaged."
"It was glorious."
"We are happily married for 13 years and have an awesome daughter."
"Life is goooood."- lmc227
Jealous Much?
"I had a supervisor that I really hit it off with and had great chemistry."
"As soon as they found out we were dating, she got fired and immediately found a better job."
"We've been married for almost 13 years now."
"I feel I should clarify a little bit while still keeping the details as vague as possible because quite a few people worked there."
"She was my boss in the sense that if she told me something needed taken care of, I was expected to take care of it."
"She didn't actually have the power to fire me if our relationship went south, but she probably could have gotten me fired if she had been that type of person."
"We worked there for two years before anything remotely physical happened."
"Our lunch breaks lined up."
"After a few conversations, we became friendly and started spending most of that hour shooting the sh*t with each other."
"I was crushing on her hard, but didn't think she'd be interested in dating one of the janitors, so I didn't say anything in an effort not to make things weird at work."
"One day I let it slip to one of the other janitors that I had a crush on her."
"He thought it would be hilarious to immediately go and tell her what I said."
"The next day, she asked me if I had really said that."
"I was really embarrassed but admitted that I had said it."
"She basically told me she was feeling the same way and gave me her number."
"11 months later, we were married."
"There were two guys in upper management that had asked her out and been rejected."
"Their egos obviously took a hit when they found out she chose me."
"She was fired after being blamed for someone else's mistake."
"Then they refused to show the proof that she was the one responsible."
"It was bullsh*t, but it only took her two weeks to find a job that paid a lot more."
"Once they did that to her, I immediately became a terrible employee and openly talked sh*t about everyone in management until they really had no choice but to fire me."- Imahorrible_person
Nothing Lost, Nothing Gained
"We did it a couple of times then both went on with our lives."
"It was just something we both wanted to do temporarily."
"Neither one of us wanted it to be serious or long-term, and so it wasn’t."- Listening_Heads
No Regrets Whatsoever
"We moved in together, got engaged, bought a house and had a baby."
"Don't let a job get in the way of your life."- AllSonicGames
Who'd Have Guessed...
"I slept with my boss back in 93."
"She instigated it."
"She’s sitting beside me."
"30 years later and two adult kids."
"Worked out!"
"I should add we did NOT care for each other at first. It was definitely not a case of 'will they, won’t they' but more of a 'will he quit or won’t he?'"
"Funny how life works."- Uncle_Bug_Music
Proceed With Caution
"Fun while it lasted, but very awkward after."- BrianH-84
Love cannot, and should not be denied, even if it is a coworker.
Anyone looking for a one and done, however, might want to look beyond the walls of your office.
Unless you like constantly being reminded of your past mistakes.
Every decade we learn and grow.
Well, we hope we do.
Everything changes with the passing of time.
Sex is especially fluid.
They say the older you get the better it gets.
I'm not sure for myself, but it sounds like it's working out for a lot of other people.
20s are full of verve and energy.
30s are full of bitterness and regret from the sex in the 20s.
Though that can be hot too.
Redditor Infinite_Werewolf395 wanted to hear about how things can change over the course of a decade when it comes to sexy time, so they asked:
"What is the biggest difference between sex in your 20s and sex in your 30s?"
I guess I was maybe little more confident in my 30s.
That was a plus.
Never Settle
"I gained the confidence to ask for what I actually want and say what feels good to me and what doesn't. Too many people just go with what they usually do in the sack, instead of talking about what each individual actually enjoys."
"Basically, I no longer settle for bad sex."
mynamecouldbesam
Continue
"20s: It didn't really take a lot to get me going, just 1. being in my bed, and 2. being mostly nude was enough."
"30s: I really need them to be into it, too. Like... if they act like they're only doing this to make me happy, I pick up on it and I just can't continue. I also need them to like, show some interest in me too, or it takes some monumental effort to be in the mood. I'm more particular, and more aware of what the other party is doing and how they're reacting, etc."
We1tfunk
Real Struggle
"The amount of time you have available."
frenix5
"Not necessarily. In general, life just gets busy. My husband and I are in our 30s with no kids and still find this a struggle. Life just gets busier the older you get. We have to work hard on prioritizing our relationship."
TheSilentBaker
"There’s a hell of a lot more planning involved. Gotta schedule that crap out in advance."
KosstAmojan
Learning
"I'm 35 dating a 27 yr old. I tried the pills and all kinds of different things. Eventually, we had this one time where I was really Into it (never happens anymore really. Can't keep it up so it's hard to comply when it's initiated cause I know it'll just end in disappointment for both of us) and It was the best sex we'd had in years."
"I'm still not sure what factors were different that day but I honestly think it was probably mostly emotional reinforcement. Usually, she just starts grabbing at me and there's no romance so it's hard to get... hard. I think that day we actually did some foreplay. Anyways this has really helped me a lot reading all the responses. I figured I was just freakin' cursed. Never got much action in my prime."
"It just seemed appropriate that when I was finally getting some my sh*t would stop working lol. Good to know that I'm not the only man who puts importance on the emotional component of sex. Thought that was my problem for a while too. Guess I just have emotional needs that aren't being met and it's bleeding into other facets of my life."
MurphNastyFlex
Still Hot
So Excited Reaction GIF by OriginalsGiphy"Sex in the 30s are about a million times better. Still very very horny but also experienced, skills, more willing to try things."
probablyurprofessor
I didn't find this to be true.
That's me though.
The Process
Bored Season 5 GIF by The OfficeGiphy"Sex got better. I finally figured out what my wife likes. Though a long tedious trial and error process."
SaiyanGodKing
Ruts
"Exploration is difficult once you’ve fallen into a rut. Routines become commonplace. I’m such a sub these days that I don’t mind bad sex for me as long as I can make my partner climax. It’s easy to tell with men, but with women partners I'm always afraid they’re faking or acting, so there definitely needs to be established trust first."
pissoff1818
Decades of Learning
"Teens: did it like a nympho, but sex was mediocre. 20's: did it like a nympho, sex was a little better. 30's: started figuring out what I wanted. Did it a little less, but better quality. 40's: best and most frequent sex yet. Hornier and more experimental now than ever before."
"(Edited to add: had kids in late 20's, early 30's. Kids consume so much time and energy. Kids are getting older now, so more time and energy for sex again. Honestly sex in 40's has been the freakiest, wildest, most fulfilling yet)."
ChristyCurious
Let's Sleep
"20s: sex?? Yeah!! I’ll have sex!"
"30s: sex? Hmmm okay but it’s already 8:30pm and so if we start now and stop by 9:30 we should still get a full nights sleep but also we could wait until Friday or Saturday night that might be better because if we are up too late it won’t really matter much the next day but sure yeah let’s do it! F**k it who cares wait what was that oh one of the kids is at the door."
Hopeful_Jello_7894
Perfection
"Oh man, it's so much better in my 30s than it's ever been. Multiple reasons but primarily finding a partner (my perfect wife) who has helped break down my walls through conversation and experimenting together. I feel so much less guilt about sex now and I can actually enjoy it. Not sure if it was being raised with Catholic guilt or my first gf being just the wrong partner but wow did I ever feel awful about anything sexual before."
Leebollomew
Learning and Growth
Think Winnie The Pooh GIFGiphy"I’ve got something I haven’t seen yet..."
"20s: As a dude, I’d sleep with almost any woman even if they were a horrible person or I hated their guts."
30: Anything considered a red flag or something I don’t want to deal with causes me to go limp and I lose all interest."
Slappyhandz
A decade can really change everything.
Farewell youth.
People Break Down Which Things Are Incorrectly Believed To Be A Sign Of Intelligence
Being street smart and book smart are two different forms of intelligence.
One acquires wisdom through life experiences while the other gains knowledge through reading books, articles, and from higher learning.
But sometimes there are certain situations where neither applies to a person–even though others may initially perceive them to be intelligent.
Curious to explore this further, Redditor Indianfattie asked:
'What is incorrectly perceived as a sign of intelligence?"
Status and credentials aren't necessarily strong indicators of intelligence.
Affluence
"Wealth"
"Edit: Thank you for the gold and silver! I am so rich. Therefore I am smart! S-M-R-T smart!"
– richardec
Money And Brains
"People seem to think if you are rich with a good job you must be smart. Generally speaking I've only met one rich person I would consider smart. The rest? Ooooooof. I seriously wonder how some of them passed gradeschool."
– Cthulhubot666
Walking Encyclopedia
"I was surprised when I learned that knowledge isn't necessarily correlated to intelligence. I met a lifelong academic who knew damn near everything about her topic .... but just the facts. It's like, she was a walking encyclopedia, could cough up any info about her field, but she couldn't really process it that well, or draw conclusions, or apply it to a different topic. It's hard to explain. She had a nice 2TB SSD drive full of info in her head but she had a substandard CPU. Since then I've met several people like that. All academics, but I'm not sure that has anything to do with it."
– SkyPork
Well Connected
"I know it, you know it, everybody knows it! In fact I've got friends in high places, I can't tell you how high, but they're really very high, and they're experts in this stuff, and they always say that VPman is a commenter of world class. They should know, they're experts."
– glorpian
So Precocious
"Being labeled 'gifted' at a young age."
– Gullible-Lobster-590
Certain behaviors and personality traits can be misleading.
The Quiet Observer
"Silence. I’ve been told so many times that I’m thoughtful and a deep thinker but really I can’t figure out what to say lol"
– RecreationalParks
The Saying Goes
"There's a very good saying about that, I may be paraphrasing but I've always heard it as: a wise man speaks because he has something to say, a fool speaks because he has to say something."
– toiner
Way With Words
"A cromulent vocabulary."
– jinxes_are_pretend
"This embiggens me."
– GabersNooo
Big Talk
"Using big words or complicated language when trying to explain something or talking about a difficult subject. The smartest people can actually make it sound simple."
– 18puppies
Judging By Appearance
"I’m living in China right now and everyone keeps calling me intelligent as I’m bald and left handed."
– Halfmoonhero
History has proven leaders don't always make the best decisions.
Appointed Position
"Being in charge."
– Ifyouhav2ask
Capable Until Proven Incompetent
"Always maintain a healthy skepticism for anyone claiming to be authority, at least till they prove themselves capable."
– Mharbles
Save The Compliments
"if someone’s in an authoritative position, it should be others that praise them and say how good they are, not themselves."
– Safe_Movie_4694
The Peter Principle
'The Peter principle is a concept in management developed by Laurence J. Peter, which observes that people in a hierarchy tend to rise to "a level of respective incompetence." Employees are promoted based on their success in previous jobs until they reach a level at which they are no longer competent, as skills in one job do not necessarily translate to another.'
"I once worked for a company where the VP was the living embodiment of the Peter principle. She had been with the company for 20+ years, and somehow got promoted to VP of marketing."
"She very clearly had no idea what she was doing and as a result would end up micromanaging to stay busy. And she loved to come around at 4:30 on the Friday before a holiday weekend to 'say hi,' aka make sure no one was leaving early (we were all salaried)."
"This woman was completely incompetent, had no business managing anyone and didn't understand her duties at all, yet somehow she was an executive and made close to $200K per year. Just by outlasting everyone else."
– TaftintheTub
Administration Levels
"This describes my time working in public education. Many people that reach administrative level positions are wholly incapable."
"You know it's bad when teachers are homeschooling their kids or sending them to private schools rather than enrolling them in the district that employs them."
– Shadowfox_01
A person with a big vocabulary can be deceiving.
I knew someone from work who boasted a huge vocabulary and always sounded like an academic scholar when he spoke at meetings.
My view of him completely shattered when he came in for his shift one morning and seriously asked where he could get some "expresso," "expecially" since he was very tired and could use a pick-me-up.
My colleagues and I just blankly stared at each other since his statements at the time were so jarring.
Though the stage was where I once thrived, I admit there were times when an eight-show work week schedule was an artistic challenge.
I never took any of my lucky breaks for granted and I made sure to give it my all in every show I've been in once the stage manager called – "places!"
But the words from an associate director resonated with me when he collectively noticed the cast was starting to lose their "shine" long after opening night.
He told us:
"Someone in the audience tonight will experience their first theatrical experience, and your performance will forever leave them inspired. But also keep in mind that tonight's performance might also be someone's last time in a theater."
Word.
Wondering how others have been influenced by sage words, Redditor "Nicholasbacardi" asked:
"What is the wisest thing you were ever told ?"
Social Etiquette
"If you are telling a story that gets interrupted, if the person you were telling asks you to continue, go for it, otherwise, they don't care."
– Rj924
Often Quoted Because They're True
"My Top Five Wise Quotes:"
"'We suffer more from imagination than from reality.' — Seneca"
"'It's silly to try to escape other people's faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own.' -- Marcus Aurelius"
"'If you have a problem that can be fixed, there is no use in worrying. If you have a problem that cannot be fixed, there is no use in worrying.' – Buddhist proverb"
"'The world is a comedy to those that think, a tragedy to those that feel.' -- Horace Walpole"
"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your estimate of it, and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.' — Marcus Aurelius"
On The Company's Dime
"When at work, never go for a sh*t in your own time. Always go when you're getting paid."
Never Stop Fine-Tuning
"I am a professional musician. The wisest words ever told to me were 'An amateur practices until they get it right. A professional practices until they can't get it wrong.'"
Oops, Can I Do It Again?
"If you chose not to do it right the first time you wanted to do it twice."
Toxic Anger
"People are like garbage trucks. Every time they get annoyed, a little more garbage gets in them. Eventually they fill up and need somewhere to dump all that garbage. Next time some one's being nasty, just think of them as a garbage truck."
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
"This a quote a teacher shared with the class. 'If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.'"
One For The Win
"1. The toes you step on today, might be connected to the feet and legs. That leads to the butt you kiss tomorrow."
"2. Use common sense."
"3. Be nice to people."
"4. Wear a condom."
The best way to get through life is to be still. Be still, be silent and listen... often. Even when we least expect it, we're being taught lessons on how to conquer life. It doesn't have to be as arduous as we make it, perhaps we would've heard that sage wisdom if we stopped moving for a moment. Advice comes in all forms and from all people. Even our enemies are teaching us, we just have to be strong enough to accept it.
Redditor u/Howling-dawn wanted everyone to share all the things they've been able to learn that changed life for the better by wondering.... What's a "wise" life lesson you have learnt?Be Selective.
GiphyYou don't have to be friends with everyone. ZakLorinator
Also don't be afraid to do what it takes to extract yourself from the situation if "being nice" only puts you in a dangerous position with somebody else. commandrix
Pen to Paper.
Write stuff down. Meetings, social engagements, doctor's appointments, shopping lists, tasks, errands you need to run tomorrow, bucket list ideas, that thing you wanna to tell your grandpa but it's midnight so you can't call him right now. All of it. aerdnadw
Wish I started this when young... it's amazing how many things you forget, including some great ideas you might come up with and other important things. Keeping up with all the details mentally in the world today is simply impossible once you're engulfed in the day to day grind. bizzybeerslugger
You're Special!
Don't put yourself down or spend time with those who do it for you. In other words was do not make yourself feel bad or allow others to make you feel bad about yourself. You could say that there are enough people in the world who will try and make you feel bad without you doing it to yourself as well. "Friends" that do this to you are absolutely not your friend. GOTO_GOSUB
Own It.
GiphyConfidence isn't "I know they'll like me." Confidence is "I'll be ok whether they like me or not." autistic_developer
"the juice ain't worth the squeeze."
Sometimes "the juice ain't worth the squeeze." All battles can be bitter, and the sweet taste of victory isn't always a great chaser. So pick your battles wisely.
edit: The focus is actually about taking on a lot of work and not seeing good returns for what you put in. Like working your hardest to squeeze an orange, but you don't get a lot of juice or it tastes weird. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. You can apply it to arguing if you like, but the focus is on an effort you are putting in. cerberus6320
Shhhhh.....
You don't always have to voice your opinion on everything. Sometimes it's just better to stay quiet. PM_garden_pics
I had a week off from Reddit/social media a while ago and once it was over I found myself thinking "this comment isn't necessary" and deleting it roughly half the time. It really made me realize how much of commenting on the internet is about wanting to be involved, rather than actually contributing something new to the discussion. HeroIsAGirlsName
The Receipts.
Being able to buy something is not the same as being able to afford it. WatchTheBoom
As a note, this isn't just about credit. For some things (cars in particular) the ongoing upkeep costs can be more expensive than the purchase price over the long run.
Pets are another great example. Getting a pet is cheap, owning a pet is expensive. adeon
It's not about you....
GiphyPeople, largely, don't really care about you. Don't spend your whole life worrying what some stranger on the street is going to think about you, because chances are they won't; they'll be too busy worrying about what strangers are thinking of them.
Also, "There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self." -Ernest Hemingway pm_me_n0Od
"I have cancer!"
Having a serious disease or disability does not automatically make someone a good person. Naweezy
Yeah I remember a customer at my old job who had cancer and she was the meanest person I have ever dealt with and she always pulled the "I have cancer!" Card if she didn't get what she wanted. Candy26262
It's not Personal.
GiphyTry not to take things personally, 99% of the time when someone brings you negativity or criticism they are just talking to themselves or acting out their own conflict on others. If you can hold your peace in these times, other peoples problems with you will tell you a lot more about them, than you could learn about yourself from them. madeamashup
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