A lot of people think they know everything.
Not just know everything... they think they're experts on everything.
So they always have the best "advice" to give.
A lot of it is nonsense.
Listen to your gut more when something seems suspect.
Redditor DaniTheLovebug wanted to hear about the "wisdoms" people shared that were the worst possible things to say.
So they asked:
"What life hacks are actually terrible advice or dangerous?"
I do my best with bad advice. But I've taken too much.
Don't be like me.
The Winner
"Any street fight 'advice' that isn't 'it's not worth it, run away.'"
AltruisticTadpole898
"The thing about street fights the street always wins."
OldElPasoSnowplow
Just 5
"Absolutely anything posted by 5 Minute Crafts."
WeaverWitch
"I came in here just to mention this, particularly one video-- not sure if it was by 5 Minutes Crafts or another similar channel-- that tells you to microwave an egg for a quick meal. It will explode and send you to the hospital."
sagganuts18
"This is what I was gonna say. Those people are the worst."
babybiggfoot
The Cut
"When cutting bagels remember to put your finger through the stabilization hole."
Bruin-lb-31
"Took me a minute to work this one out. My eyes widened so much the person next to me in Starbucks just asked if I needed help."
OffTheRecord_Models
"I know this is a joke, but I had to legit tell my then eight year old that she couldn’t put her hand in one of those big grinder/chipper thingys because she would not, in fact, grow a new one when it got chopped up."
dixiequick
A Bad Transformer
"ANYTHING AT ALL involving a microwave transformer. Woodburning, metal melting, arcs and sparks, whatever. Those little sh**s will kill you before you even know you're dying."
NotInherentAfterAll
"I had to go to a CPR of a 33 year old who fried himself in his backyard garage using some jerry-rigged microwave welder. He had a wife and two young kids. All I could think was 'man what a STUPID way to die.'"
anoncop1
New York Rule #1
"Setting up candles and clay pots to heat your room instead of turning on the radiator. That's how a lot of fires start."
halbesbrot
I'm always weary around candles.
Melted
"There was a big thing a while back about boiling water melting the ice on your Windshield. Someone else used this 'hack' for me and my Windshield cracked into a total spider web."
LeeshaLeSmart
"That you can make your own air hockey table out of a couple dryers and some pegboard. Remember, if women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy."
Dokino21
"Love how I instantly thought of Red/Green 25 years after watching that episode."
reddituseronebillion
"Gotta love that show. My dad played it once when I was a kid and for some reason red green making a cop cars siren a toy girl doll crying was hilarious. And that was my gateway to this show."
Project-SBC
A Close Shave
"Using a nail file to shave the edges of your teeth to make them straighter."
youcantsitwithus-
"I got hit in the face with a hammer, and broke some teeth. Used this trick (well, 120grit sandpaper) to smooth off the jagged edges to tide me over until I could see a dentist. Dentist said I did a perfect job, and didn't charge me for the visit."
clueless_cueless
"It's so weird seeing people do it as a trend. I've always had people comment on the bottom of my teeth being uniform and straight, but its from years of grinding my teeth."
washed_up_okie
down your drain...
"Line your sink with foil and pour the grease and fat in that. Then when it dries an hour later, you can just roll it up and throw it away. Use an empty tin can. Line any ceramic bowl or mug with foil and use that instead. Don't make your sink unusable for at least an hour. Don't risk the foil tearing and the fat going down your drain. Use some common sense here."
manderifffic
A Delicate Balance
"Keeping balances on your credit cards and opening more credit lines makes your score better. I've heard this thousands of times and it's the exact opposite of what you should do."
jc456981
Lesson here? Always research "advice" before you take it.
Life doesn't come with a blueprint, instructions, nor a roadmap of what to expect in the days and years ahead. It does, however, contain all kinds of people who've lived life for longer than you.
Those people can be a HUGE help.
Older, wiser, and more experienced, some people have encountered--and overcome--struggles that you currently face or haven't even met yet.
The advice and guidance provided by those people, often in small, bite size pieces, can provide a very helpful array of guiding compasses to be used whenever the appropriate situation arises.
And just in case you're running low on wise people and advice in your life, a recent Reddit thread pulled together a laundry list of wise axioms.
sayantane asked, "What is the best piece of advice you've ever gotten?"
People Break Down The Best Loophole They've Ever Exploited
Many people chose to discuss the pragmatic pieces of advice they've heard over the years. These platitudes can all go quite far in ensuring real, concrete success.
Until It's Breezy
"Study to the point where the tests seem like they're insulting your intelligence. Best calc professor Ive had" -- Fruooop
"That's a really good way of putting it. I'll have to remember that."
"Something I've read in the past, that's sort of similar: 'Don't just study until you *can* get the questions *right*. Study until you *can't* get the questions *wrong*.' " -- skullturf
Stock Up First
"Pay your savings account FIRST."
"Don't wait until the day before you get paid to move the left overs into an account."
Business, Pleasure
"Never lend money you aren't prepared to lose." -- ProfessorFunky
"The saying I read quite a few years ago was 'don't lend money to friends or family unless you can afford to lose both' this has helped me in making mostly good decisions on who I ever lend money to." -- Curious-
Keep It Fresh
"If someone offers you a breath mint, take it." -- Aspy17
"That's a really good advice. I usually hand out chewing gums, when I myself take some, to feel generous. It's good nobody offered me one while not taking one themselves yet." -- Ziriath
Actions, not Words
"Anyone can replace you in the job you do. It's not your job to boast about how irreplaceable you are, but to prove to them that they don't WANT to replace you."
"There's a difference."
-- [deleted]
Opportunity Knocks
" 'When you're in a new area, never pass up an opportunity to pee.' -My Dad" -- DingleberryHandpump6
"I'm just realizing that on all of the road trips I've taken the last few years I can't remember the whole drive, but I can definitely remember the random areas in the woods I pulled over to pee lol." -- MrEngin33r
Other people shared the advice they've used to improve the social realm of their own life.
With friendships, romantic partnerships, and romantic relationships dominating so much of our lives, it's so important to feel sure you're handling all that as best as you can.
The Cardinal Directions
" 'When it's her moment stand behind her. When she's nervous stand beside her. When she's scared stand in front of her. The rest you'll figure out.' - My Grandmother on women" -- WholeMilkStandard
"I love your grandma!!" -- Neverthelilacqueen
Keep Rage At Bay
"From my friend's late father, a wise old man from Trinidad:"
"Any man can get your goat, if you let him know where your goat is tied."
Recognize and Accept
"Don't be mad when people act exactly like you expected them too." -- libertaine
"You can be disappointed without being surprised" -- RAGECOMIC_VICAR
"As I heard someone say regarding a certain 2016 presidential candidate his party nominated to his displeasure 'when someone tells you who they are you should believe them' " -- HitEmWithDatKTrain
Check Your Sources
"Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from" -- thehotdeskpodcast
"Well that rules out like 98% of the people I interact with." -- MrEngin33r
"Thank you. No need to give our power away." -- kittanjaan
People Are Not Psychics
" 'You have to ask for what you want from people, make your position clear.' "
"Don't just assume people know what your problem is, communication is key. It is great for relationships, work, friendships, school and even playing team sports or video games."
-- SuecidalBard
Other people discussed matters of the soul. These tidbits were all about how to handle being a human being with complex emotional states.
Let It Go
" 'You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. If words can control you, that means everyone can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.' "
"It's easier said than done, but it's 100% true."
Give More Love
"Don't be afraid to show gratitude. I don't know why, but for most of my life I was embarrassed to reach out and thank people for a variety of things."
"I'd say 'thanks' to stuff like everyone does. But feeling comfortable giving specific and thoughtful expressions of gratitude has been a journey well worth taking."
Comparative Suffering Doesn't Work
" 'It doesn't matter if someone has it worse than you, you're still having a hard time and that makes your problems valid and gives you the right for help.' " -- BenaBenaBadBad
"I remember one similar to this that was like 'just because someone else is in a full body cast, it doesn't mean that your broken arm doesn't hurt' " -- UnwaveringBear
Only So Much Control
"You can do everything right and still be wrong."
"Basically, for me that's a reminder to enjoy the moments in life and enjoy the journey. It means for me to try hard for what I want, but to not think that doing everything right means that I will get what I want."
This is by no means a full list of all the best advice out there. Every moment, people are learning from mistakes, powering through struggles, and bestowing the learned knowledge onto others in their lives.
Keep your ears open enough and you'll never stop learning from those people.
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Not a day goes by that we don't come across some recycled platitude, some well-worn pearl of wisdom, or an absurd saying that ceased to be helpful long ago.
But don't hold your breath on those cliche messages going away any time soon.
It seems that interacting humans, in a constant effort to connect and be seen, opt to say things they can be sure the other person has heard and understood already. The nod of the head, however automatic, only confirms the effort.
But relatable isn't always good.
In fact, according to a recent thread of Redditors, those cliches all amount to meaningless drivel.
CaptainGisseno asked, "Reddit, what is the most cliche message you're just sick of hearing?"
Many people pointed to the repeated phrases they hear as consumers navigating the landscape of travel, shopping, and customer service.
No doubt you've heard these before, and nearly screamed involuntarily when you did.
Could Have Fooled Me
"Your call is important to us." -- HMCetc
" 'Due to higher than normal call volumes...' "
"Been calling this number for almost ten years. At what point is a 60 minute wait just the normal, average call volume? Why lie to me?" -- killerqueen5
Well, Hopefully It's Up There
" 'Your safety is our top priority.' No it isn't. Profits and shareholders are." -- frostymargaritafan
"Translates directly to 'Liability is our top fear.' " -- Aboot_
"This vein, 'The safety of our employees is our number 1 concern.' No it isn't just stop trying to lie. Nobody who works here believes you."
"So save those few seconds, add them up, and use them on something useful. Like actually helping your employees." -- PingKiccolo
Bandwagon Activism
"Buzzwords such as 'diversity' and 'sustainability' in company mission statements. Like, if every company would actually enact their mission statements, we would be the greatest world." -- chrimimi
" 'Carbon neutral by 2025'- meaning 4 more years of fu**ing the planet before any action is taken, if it even will be taken."
"The worst is when companies continue to do the same shit and simply buy credits from Tesla or whatever and then proclaim to be green." -- Megalomouse
Others brought up the cliche messages that are infuriating for two key reasons: they don't actually make any logical sense, and they serve to make people feel guilty for no reason at all.
Can't Talk About Everything
" 'Why is no one talking about '____??' "
"Because we are all bombarded by incredible amounts of information on a daily basis and busy living our individual lives. Stop guilting people for not talking about something they had no idea about previously."
"Shouldn't"
" 'You are young, you shouldn't have any problems' " -- GayBrandFlakes
"As a hiker that goes out on long distances with older friends and people in my community, this is absolutely a huge pet peeve. It's like, sure Margaret, I may be 30 years younger than you, but 20miles in a day still gives me some soreness." -- underminer223
Thanks for the Reminder
" 'There are children starving in Africa' "
"Then why do I have to force myself to eat more than I can handle? Give the rest of the food to the starving kids then."
"If anything, mentioning starving kids when I can't eat something will make me eat less because of how guilty I feel for actually having food when they don't."
Good to Know, But Irrelevant
" 'Someone else always has it worse than you, be grateful' It still doesn't change my situation one bit." -- ChristianStonks999
"exactly that just makes me feel bad for whoever has it worse and makes me feel no better" -- AwesomeRailfanning
"My favorite response to this is to point out that it goes both ways - if you're saying that can't be sad because someone has it worse then me, then i guess I can't be happy because someone has it better then me." -- BrackishBloop
And finally, there were those essential, supposed tidbits of wisdom that one is supposed to keep in mind as they navigate life.
Unfortunately, those quotes only sound nice. They're usually very off-base.
Nope
"'You're perfect the way you are' "
"No, you're not. This thinking completely removes any personal accountability and improvement, and allows hubris and zealotry to fester."
But It Would Be Nice
"Follow your dreams"
"*Side effects may include being a broke chump, not being able to provide for those who depend on you, and in severe cases a lifetime of regret when you realize your dreams aren't as neat as they seemed. Best results were seen in patients who were financially successful before following their dreams. Tell your doctor about real-life sh!t you need to take care of before following your dreams."
Sorta, But Not Really
"'Time heals all wounds.'
"No, it doesn't. Time alone may help heal many wounds, but it doesn't necessarily close them. Especially in the realm of mental health, many issues require additional help, therapy and sometimes medication. Simply trying to wait out a problem sometimes just makes the problem larger."
So next time you come across some age-old adage or piece of advice and it makes you want to scream, rest assured you're not the only out here seeing how useless it is.
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People mean well, but not all advice imparted by even the wisest of acquaintances may not always apply.
Curious about the experience of strangers, Redditor Not-an-Ocelot asked:
What's the worst advice you've ever received?
Some of the responses were eye-opening while others were laugh-out-loud hysterical.
One Redditor was encouraged as a teen to drop out of high school by someone you would never expect.
A woman who was trapped in an undesirable relationship was encouraged to do the unthinkable.
And one user who wanted to impress his date regrettably followed the advice of his mother that may have cost him the prospect of having a girlfriend.
Do any of these examples seem familiar to you?
Higher Learning
"You don't need to go to college, you're a girl. -spoken by my favorite high school teacher."
– bethbed
Roll With The Punches
"Just ignore your bullies and they will get bored and stop."
"This was my bane in elementary school. 6+ years of heavy bullying and people telling me ThEy WiLl StOp If YoU iGnOrE tHeM."
"No, they f'king don't. It just marks you as a spineless victim."
Dropping Out Of High School
"from my dad when I was 16 y/o"
"'You might as well quit school and take that job at the plant while it's still open.'"
Fake Pregnancy
"When my marriage was in trouble a friend of mine suggested I fake a pregnancy. Couldn't believe the words came out of her mouth."
"I did not take her advice and we're not friends anymore for a number of reasons - her line of thinking being one of them."
"For anyone interested, the marriage eventually ended in a loving, peaceful, kind and respectful manner. My ex-husband remains a good friend and I consider myself blessed to have been able to remain friends with such a wonderful man."
– LasRua
Fashion Faux Pas
"Mom: Tuck your shirt into your boxers for this date. It will keep your shirt from becoming untucked."
"Wondering why my date seemed in a rush to leave, when I got home, looked at a mirror, and to my horror, spotted the RESOUNDINGLY visible underwear wedgie I was sporting."
Remain Calm
"You're having a panic/anxiety attack? You're fine dude just relax and calm down."
"Best Days Of Your Life"
"'Make the most of your school days because they're the best days of your life.' I can confirm that my school days were not the best of my life and since leaving school, I've become a happier person and made more memories than I could've imagined. Yeah, school can be good but don't go around thinking it's not gonna get much better than that, because it does."
Starting A Family
"Get married and have kids ASAP."
"Ah well, grandparents do come from a different age...."
Perfect Practice
"'Practice makes perfect.' I was told that many times throughout my life until my martial arts instructor taught me 'Perfect practice makes perfect,' as though if you have been practicing something an improper/less than efficient way you will be accustomed to doing it incorrectly very well. If it's worth practicing, then its worth ensuring you are practicing it correctly."
Fake Wisdom
"Passed on to my father from his father."
"Never say 'I don't know' because it makes you look stupid. Make up an answer if you don't know."
"Uh, no. Making sh*t up is what makes you look stupid."
– Askeee
Abusive Relationships
"'Stay with him because he'll provide for you and he's good to you' family responding to me leaving a (known) abusive partner."
Epiphanies are tough to come by. Sometimes we need a wiser person to just come right out with it and slap us in the face with some straight truth about life and the world.
Therapists, great uncles, teachers, television show characters, and even parents all may be the one spewing the wisdom.
Unfortunately, hearing the advice is usually only 25% of the battle. Actually listening to the message and incorporating that wisdom into the way you lead your life is really where the rubber meets the road.
Take note of some Redditors dropping some life knowledge that they heard once upon a time. Maybe one of these will save you some trouble.
thicluna asked, "What's the best piece of life advice you've ever heard?"
Be Here Now
"Don't borrow fear from the future." -- Mrstpaul
"I don't borrow it, I copy&paste it, it's still gonna be there in the future." -- mikrodizels
"And quit hoping for a better past!" -- Snoo11600
Up to You
"Being alone isn't the same as being lonely" -- Gosenco
"absolutely. solitude is an important part of life" -- ashritaebc
"It works the other way around too. Just because I'm around people all the time that doesn't mean I don't feel lonely." -- RMPY96
We're Not in a Vacuum
"'True character can be observed by what someone does when they think no one is watching.'"
"It made me a more honest person, and it definitely helped me become more comfortable just being me."
Each Has It's Place
"Find 3 hobbies. One that makes you money, one that keeps your mind sharp/creative, and one that keeps your body in shape." -- ConsultantForLife
"What if your hobby does all 3?" -- EasternCoffeeCove
"Then you still need two sucky hobbies to make the full set" -- potentialprimary
Confrontation Has Its Place
"Stand up for yourself!! Even if it may seem socially rude to do. If you aren't comfortable, make it known."
"You don't have to intentionally be rude or obnoxious about it, but seriously. Don't let yourself be walked over."
"Something I have had to learn and get comfortable with. It has greatly improved my experiences with people."
-- -keewee_
A Pragmatic Kind of Wisdom
"Always pay for good quality when it comes to anything that's getting between you and the ground. Shoes, tires, mattresses, don't skimp and get the cheap options for things like that." -- Al_Rascala
"Yep, buy once, cry once." -- SnooHabits8041
Keep Your Head Down
"Do not shy away from pain or discomfort when trying to improve your life. Self-improvement is supposed to hurt, for thou art both the sculptor, and the stone." -- Beovulfr
"Can confirm, only by facing the pain I experienced and changing my perspective of what this means for me was I able to grow. And it was rapid growth." -- Healthem
Logic Doesn't Always Prevail
"'It's possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life.' —Captain Jean-Luc Picard" -- -eDgAR-
"I didn't even realize it was a Star Trek quote. I thought I made it up myself." -- With_Trees
Luck, But in Your Hands
"Luck is when preparedness meets opportunity" -- mATT55551
"Now this is an exhilarating line, thank you for sharing, my good man" -- Healthem
An Honor?
"'We are the people our parents warned us about'...Spoken by a heavily intoxicated person at a rave in the early 2000's. It took years for me to appreciate the unintended significance of this gem." -- strobie01
"Jimmy Buffett wrote an entire song with this line in the 80s. Give it a listen." -- Firstamongmonkeys
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