Our upbringings are different, and as such, our behavior towards others varies wildly.
For example, how we treat our fellow humans is indicative of what rules we follow.
What do we consider to be polite? What do we consider to be an unwritten rule that we must follow?
These questions dicate how we act and what we consider the most important.
So it can seriously dig under our skin when someone doesn't follow those unwritten rules.
Reddit user, HAXposed, wanted to know what they wished everyone already knew when they asked:
"What's an unspoken rule that annoys you when people don't know about it?"
We've had smart phones as a common piece of day to day living for a while now, right?
That means we should all know the following rules when you decide to use your phone in public or when you see someone using their phone.
Last Thing You Want To Do Is Say Something Embarrassing
"Let people know when you have them on speakerphone!"
"Especially when your husband/wife/partner/friend/any other human is within earshot."
blueshiftglass
Wait, People Actually Do This?
"When someone hands you their phone to use, don't f-cking go through it. It's rude."
Sensitive_Suspect_69
"100% this."
"Years ago, I left my tablet at a friends for like half hour and when I got back, his room mate was laughing going through my photos."
"They accused me of overreacting when I went f-cking apesh-t."
"Had a bit of petty revenge when the same dude traded in my friends games and my friend got pissy. I smugly told him he was overreacting."
SephariusX
Notice The Things In My Ears Blocking The Sound?
"If you see me taking off my headphones to listen and answer your question, then [immediately] put them on again... 5 TIMES... it clearly means that I'm just being polite, not that I'm interested in talking to you, so STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS."
V02D
There Are Other People Around You
"Don’t play music out loud from your mobile phones on public transportation. I get that you’re going to have a boring ride but don’t ruin everyone else’s."
AJSK18
"Or kids games. Turn the volume off in the train or waiting room. Or restaurant."
JL1186
Here's something that might shock some people.
When you're at the grocery store, or in a deli, or literally anywhere where other people need to buy products, you are surrounded by other people.
At Least Stand Off To The Side? Bare Minimum, People
"Standing in f-cking doorways, go in or out, but get the f-ck out of the way."
Lonesomeplum
"To add on to this, having a full f-cking conversation right in front of the door or in a small hallway then getting offended when your expected to f-cking move."
PizzaTime666
Damn It, Sharon!
"Move your cart to the side of the aisle when looking for groceries, don't hog up the middle. 'Oh, of course I'll wait for you to pick out a flavor of beans, Sharon, take your time!'"
Electrical_Potato_21
"Also, if they ask who's next at the deli and you haven't decided yet - don't say you're next and have a five minute discussion about what you may or may not want."
xvf9
And then there's these rules to follow to make you a more respectable member of today's society.
Just pay people back.
It's that simple.
Don't hold money from people who rightfully deserve it.
What Does It Mean?
"Respect people's right to say no. It's okay to ask someone for something, or to do something, or whatever - but if they say no, don't pester them or guilt trip them. People who pressure their friends are kind of garbage friends."
rgrwilcocanuhearme
"One thing that annoys me is when somebody asks for something, I say no, then they say please. I didn't say no because you were rude enough to not use your manners. I said no because I didn't want to."
ObserveTheGreyArea
Pay. Your. Artists.
"Don’t ask people to do their job for free, even if you’re friends or family."
Inkoko
"As a semi-pro photographer I get "invited" to a lot of events/parties/gatherings from too many "friends"/acquaintances."
"You're going to bring your camera right?"
"Yeah, for $100 p/h..."
str8dwn
Get Them Back Sooner Rather Than later
"If someone pays for something for you (I'm not talking about as a gift, I just mean 'We can't split the bill here so I'll pay and you can pay me your half later', 'I'll buy both of our concert tickets now and you can revolut me for it later', etc) you really shouldn't make them ask you to pay them back. Ideally not even once, but especially not two or three times."
"If I owe someone money like that I make sure to pay them back as soon as I can and let them know once I've done it. I have a friend who I know is not short on money, but I stopped offering to pay for things for him in situations like the above because he just forgets and makes you ask him two or even three times before he does it. I really think that's not fair to people. You're putting them in an uncomfortable position."
ladyblithe
Hopefully This WORLDWIDE PANDEMIC Will Change A Few Minds
"Warn people that you/your kid is sick before turning up at their house/interacting with them. Chicken pox, flu, hand foot and mouth, stomach bug all caught by my toddler in the last 12months and could have been avoided."
Medium-Raspberry1122
"My 11mo got covid and a stomach bug in the last 3 months. Both could also be avoided because people already had symptoms before seeing us."
"I am mad now so I am not sure when we gonna see the in-laws again..."
no_user_name8
Cashier Courtesy
"Taking your headphones off when talking to a cashier. Like, yes they are working there and they might have less money than you, Karen, but they still deserve to be able to tell you how much the diapers you want to buy cost."
- TheAngelVoice
"Cashier POV. When people put the money down on the counter instead of placing it in your hands."
"It makes me feel so disrespected when I have to basically scrape the money together and their just watching."
- killaahk8175
Turn It Off
"When people leave their blinker on when driving down the highway… let me explain."
"Especially in busy city areas that have multiple lanes in the highways I see people all the time leaving their blinker on when driving straight. This gives me so much panic because I have been in multiple car accidents from people changing lanes without looking or leaving their left blinker on and switching to the opposite right lane etc."
"If you are not switching lanes or turning PLEASE turn your blinker off. I have no idea what you are going to do and it confuses other drivers."
- aylaswrld
Stop Slamming!
"Close your f*cking doors gently, and silently too, for that matter!"
"I cannot tell you how many people I’ve met who just slam doors shut all the time and think it’s completely fine and normal. The way I close doors, most of my roommates thought I was never home."
"Nobody likes the sound of slamming doors plus it's bad for the door itself. Be courteous and close them gently."
- snowglobe0
Common Areas
"Kissing passionately in areas that are meant for everyone."
"This happened to me a few days ago. I’m in university and we have a common kitchen for the whole floor."
"I was going there one night to get something from the vending machine and there was a couple there. You would think that the moment I entered they would maybe pause on the affection or maybe tone it down and then resume."
"Nope!"
"The girl decided to AGGRESSIVELY kiss on the guys neck. The sound effects were something I never want to experience again."
"And what took me out, was the fact that when I left, I saw from my peripheral vision that she had stopped and looked at me with a sort of smirk like the really did something there and was proud of herself."
"Reason? I would also like to know."
- Toga_24
Don't Block The Walkway
"I am a pass holder at a local theme park complex."
"There are moving walkways that get you from the parking garage to the shopping district out front of the parks. There's an unspoken rule that you do NOT stop walking on the moving walkways, and if you must, stay to the right side so people who follow the rules can pass (they're not very wide, like as wide as a normal escalator)."
"Every time I go some group stops as soon as they get on the walkway and takes up the whole freaking thing. Drives me insane."
- Tpabayrays2
Parking
"People who park directly in front of YOUR house."
"Every house on my street has a detached garage in the back, and extra parking out front. One of my neighbours always parks directly in front of my house (ie. MY footpath leads straight to THEIR car door)."
"They even parked there when my wife was pregnant, or carrying a newborn, and forced her to park further down the block every day."
- juxtamusician
Don't be a jerk.
How about that? Simplified for everyone to follow.
Be considerate of your fellow humans and maybe, just maybe, don't blast heavy metal from your phone on a train ride.
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The subset of men that fall under the "Bro" umbrella is by now a well-understood facet of modern culture. Some self-identify as a bro. Others have the title foisted upon them.
Let's look at some definitions.
The #2 rated definition on Urban Dictionary is hardly flattering:
"Obnoxious partying males who are often seen at college parties. When they aren't making an @ss of themselves they usually just stand around holding a red plastic cup waiting for something exciting to happen so they can scream something that demonstrates how much they enjoy partying."
"Nearly everyone in a fraternity is a bro but there are also many bros who are not in a fraternity. They often wear a rugby shirt and a baseball cap. It is not uncommon for them to have spiked hair with frosted tips."
The #3 rated definition, however, was glowing:
"NOT THE DEFINITION FOR DOUCHEBAGS."
"Your bro is your homie(s) for life. Calling someone your bro declares automatically that you are down for life, that your bros come directly in front of thy hoes. Choose carefully who you declare as your bro, because some people could intercept this very wrongly and it could backfire."
"You could call strangers you interact with "man" and/or "dude" but "bro" is sacred."
It's the almost spiritual reverence for Bro culture that pushed Redditor joestarbloodline to ask:
"Men of Reddit, what's your favorite unwritten rule of the bro code?"
Many Bros on Reddit chose to highlight the intentional ways they interact and communicate with one another. At the end of the day, we're talking about friendship.
Cheat Sheet
"Up-nod for informal respect, down-nod for formal respect." -- Cheshire90
"head up - hi, sup etc. head down - u have my respect, thank u head left - look over there head right - we need to talk, come here" -- TypowyPiesel
Be a Pal
"You gotta hype your bro up if it genuinely makes him happy, such as; new job, new relationship, new positive lifestyle, new car, etc. Seeing your bro reach peak potential is always a great feeling."
-- Brickfrog501
Mental Health-Aware Bros
"When your bro is isolated and lonely, bros reach out and call them or text them every day to make sure they are okay."
"Bros bring bros food when bros are feeling down."
The Clearest Sign
"Here's mine: you're supposed to sh** on and talk sh** to your closest bros right to their face. That's how you know the bromance is real."
-- sbaks0820
Others offered tongue in cheek rules about how one is supposed to handle the untimely death of a Bro in their life. Bottom line, spiff them up as much as possible.
An Impressive Final Story
"If your friend dies while bench pressing, add more weight to the bar before calling anyone." -- Zyffrin
"I mean you would have to be pretty sure that he is dead before. Imagine someone fainting and waking up with so much weight on them that they can't lift it." -- Additional_Meeting_2
Scrub, Scrub, Scrub
"If your friend dies you delete his browser history" -- HiNaughtyGirlImDad
"Something similar for me. A friend was gay, but deeply in the closet. (old guy in his 70s)"
"Before be passed, he begged me to keep it a secret. How do you say no to that?"
"After he was gone, I offered to help his family clean up his home, since I lived close by."
"Ending up spending a few days scouring the home, finding anything that might reveal his orientation, and got rid of it."
"I'm sure his family had suspicions. How do you hide such a thing? But I did what was asked of me." -- Someone_Who_Cared
Last, there was plenty of talk about bathroom etiquette. Unfortunatley, at least some amount of homophobia is usually embedded in Bro culture.
Careful Head Movements
"There are 3 authorized looking positions while at a urinal. Straight ahead, straight up in the air, or straight down. Never side to side."
-- Jnida23
Safe Space
"There are 5 urinals, don't be a di** and use the second one from the right or the left." -- Comfortable_Length56
"Us janitors know they don't need cleaning. Nobody dares use them /s" -- Jollysatyr201
Time and Place
"No bathroom conversations with any other man you dont already know." -- Cycleofmadness
"Unless you are all insanely drunk." -- Juan__two__three
"And even if you do know them, if it's something that can wait until after you leave, then wait until after you leave." -- svenson_26
If you ever do find yourself thrust into a Bro-style relationship, come back to this list to remember how to stay welcomed into the fray.
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