"What is a piece of clothing or an accessory that makes a person immediately unattractive?"
In Case You Needed Reminding...
"Any shirt that has a long statement about how the person wants to be viewed."
"'I'M A BEER DRINKING, HARD WORKING, GUN OWNING REAL MAN WHO EATS MEAT AND NEVER MAKES EXCUSES OR TAKES SHORTCUTS IN LIFE'."
"'IF YOU'RE TRIGGERED, TAKE A NUMBER. I'LL GET TO YOU IN ABOUT A YEAR'."- Delica
"I'll bet Gas Station Kino shirts, with the angry flaming skeletons pointing two guns at you, declaring I'M A FORKLIFT OPERATOR WE WORK HARD AND WE PLAY HARD."- MontrealChickenSpice
"Any of that aggressive STOMP MY FLAG ILL STOMP YOUR A** sh*t."
"Makes me feel like they’re just stupid and angry, a dangerous combination."- neermif
bart simpson episode 22 GIFGiphyA Sight No One Needs To See
"Pants worn below buttocks."- anonnautilus
"Pants that are their size they just don't hold them up with a belt and show their whole underwear, or shrugs."- Jaceie
Million Dollar Smiles Shouldn't Be Taken Literally...
"Teeth Grills"
"They look f*ckin ridiculous."- DavosLostFingers
old lady smile GIFGiphyCan They Even See Through Them?
"Eyelashes that are too obviously fake."- LawInevitable2213
No One Really Wants To Be Compared To A Vegetable...
"The thing I find most disgusting currently is the broccoli haircut."
"Looks so bad."- Guilty-Ad-2762
Well Worn, But Not In A Good Way...
"Those God-awful jeans dudes wear with the random ribbed patches on the thighs."
"You know the ones."
"ABOLISH THEM!"- muffinbaby000
No Matter The Interpreter...
"Anything with the joker on it."
"Double that if there is an edgy quote on it as well."- Maleficent-Elk-3298
Bigger Is Not Always Better...
"Giant, long fake fingernails."
"And dinner plates in the earlobes."- sam_the_beagle
"I Am A Material Girl"...
"I'm not a fan of clout-chasing branded clothing."
"It screams materialistic consumerism and that is not cute to me."- coddiwomplecactus
Dude, Where's The Boat?
"The preppy frat man/boy style."
"Salmon shorts, a pastel vineyard vines button-down, and Sperry’s."
"Sorry but it makes some people look like overgrown toddlers at Easter mass."- Mirrorflute88
Unless You're Diana Ross, Maybe...
"Anything with the word Supreme on it."- ILLogicaL_FALLacies
It Must Complicate Eating...
"The older I get, the sillier tongue piercings seem to me."- deltree3030
Sexy Temptation Island GIF by RTLGiphyNeedless to say, one's taste in clothing is a personal decision.
But as the saying goes, true beauty comes from within, and those who make a determined effort to improve their appearance, often end up doing just the opposite.
Your voice is the only thing about you that's deep...
"Dudes that are trying to do deep voice because of TikToks."- ashucream
Eventually, they'll stop chasing...
"Playing hard to get."- groovy604
I must be right if I'm talking this loud!
"Loud, assertive confidence."
"When you're not an expert on the topic."- Hullaba-Loo
Season 2 Ugh GIF by The Lonely IslandGiphyI can smell your desperation from a mile away...
"Guys who drown themselves in cologne."- shoegazer44
You can impress me in other ways
"I am told that exotic sex positions are incredible awkward and physically difficult which will turn you off quickly."- Psychological_Dish75
I'm rich, therefor I must be desirable!
I" have a buddy who is constantly showing off his cars, watches, and shoes."
"He’s single and I’m convinced he’s doing all that to find a girl."
"It's not as impressive or attractive as he thinks it is."- dkwatkins28
Balling Andy Samberg GIF by The Lonely IslandGiphyWhy has it become so difficult to talk?
"Those horrendous jacked up lips everyone is getting."
"Y’all look like you’ve had an allergic reaction."- Gr00vemovement
"Those massive lips."
"Just looks like you got stung by a bee."- level 1dana_ranger
The viral sensation that feels more like a virus...
"Tiktok boys biting their lip and rubbing their hands."
"One woman who stitched one boy like that said it right: you look like a housefly."
"Stop it."- Somniatora
Confidence, not arrogance
"People hear 'confidence is attractive', and think its attractive to be a huge obnoxious d*ck who thinks they're better than everyone and doesn't care about how they treat others."
"Confidence in yourself, like knowing who you are, what you like and being okay with it is attractive."- pancakepegasus
Music Video Good Job GIF by Taylor SwiftGiphyThe best way to make a strong first impression is by showing others who you really and truly are.
Not by simply showing off.
Redditor Liam_Tang wanted to have a discussion about what's hot and what's not.
"What's not as attractive as people think?"
Clogs.
Stop with the clogs.
Not only are they ugly, they're dangerous.
They're half a shoe!
No Boys
"When guys take pictures of themselves doing that furrowing the brow, biting the lip, rubbing the hands together thing. What is that? Who told them that looks good?"
sterlingrose
GiphyPlay Straight
"Pretending to be or overplaying being drunk/high."
Excellent-Captain-93
"My best friend is this way. I’ve seen her exaggerating her drunkness and then turn it off so quick. Love hanging out with her, but I don’t enjoy drinking with her anymore. Nothing wrong with sober fun though!"
Serious-Association5
"Add on people who make getting drunk/high their entire personality. Do what you want to do, but hopefully there are other important things in your life."
team-pup-n-suds
You "Right?"
"The way the internet has made everyone think they are an expert."
Intellectuallygifted
"This was the case before the internet. The internet just allows everyone to communicate with more people they otherwise would not have. You are seeing a much larger sample size. Flip side, easier to see if they are right or not."
ObamasBoss
"There are so much idiots you either feel like you are an Einstein amongst idiots, or you believe that you are a genius because all other 'geniuses' reassure you."
bop-crop
Bye Chad
"Obsessed about being alpha/gigachad."
Madonomics
"I remember a self promoting giga-chad appearing as a guest at an industry seminar I attended. He said some gross things, nothing related to the industry. I had no idea where the hell they got this guy from, so I checked out his socials. Anyway, he promoted himself as a 'lifestyle coach' and 'alpha male.'"
"His YouTube was full of depressing videos of him in a windowless sterile room he called his 'studio' (obviously his rented bedroom). These videos spanned a number of topics, like how to convince women to have sex using psychology, making money from crypto and weird social theories he had."
"His Instagram was full of pictures of him in front of stranger's Lamborghinis pretending they were his, high-end nightclubs (with no evidence of friends) or dodgy styling tips. He obviously chose to live a lie... And yet this was the lie he chose. Weirdest rabbit hole I ever went down."
AstonVanilla
You be better
"Pointing out someone else's flaws to show how much better they are. Doesn't make them better; just makes them a judgemental a**hole."
Scipio33
GiphyThis sounds about right for society as a whole.
I'm staying in more.
Bored Now
"Playing hard to get. I'm all for putting in effort, but stop giving me signals of not being interested, while you actually are. I'm here to build a relationship, not solve some nonsensical puzzle."
Flux-bite
GiphyOver You
"Trying to act stuck up and showing off by flirting with other guys/girls in front of the person you like to try and get them jealous."
amymay2010
"Yeah, this one has always seemed trashy to me. If you need to make somebody jealous to get/keep them interested, then maybe you aren't that interesting. My friend had a crazy ex who did this shit and I just look at her with utter contempt."
phil_davis
Stay Calm
"Conflict =/= Passion."
IrrelevantPuppy
"Girlfriend of 3 years did that to me. She broke up with me and then harassed me for weeks to get back together; telling me to man up, you name it. It took a huge toll on me. I finally asked her why she would break up if she still wanted to date. Her response? 'I thought you would fight for me!.' Nah bro it doesn't work like that. Relationships are not game."
Jugs-McBulge
Be Quiet
"Some who isn’t being direct, but expects anyone and everyone to be direct + whoever they’re talking to to be a mind reader and gets mad when neither happens."
just_a_wee_Femme
"And the flipside where they proudly declare 'I speak my mind' and have zero social tact, and offend others around them constantly."
jaxsonnz
Can I get a Refund?
"People who show off their money."
realhuman8762
"There's a TikTok that went (somewhat) viral of a guy at the bar showing his bank account to some women (women were smoking hot, guy looked like a grease monkey). The guy had like $90k."
sedatemenow
Giphy'less than'
"Dudes that talk down to people they deem 'less than' them trying to show that they're superior and dudes that really believe in the 'alpha' bulls**t."
princessofpotatoes
"I was trying to word this exact thing but couldn't. I specifically remember being introduced to a friend's boyfriend at a bowling club and him giving the lady at the counter a hard time by trying to convince her he was a member and didn't have his card."
"It made no difference to us getting in and all it did was boost his ego because he needed to control the situation and piss me off. What a fucking twat. It was no surprise to me when my friend told me later he was controlling her entire life (friends, phone etc) and physically abusing her."
BrockBrockway
'hard to get'
"Acting. Acting like you’re hard to get, that you’re interested, acting like there’s a hierarchy. Acting like there are protocols to going on a date, what needs to be said, where to go, etc.. Just be yourself and be honest."
Zolome1977
"What I hate most about the 'hard to get' people, is that their existence gives some other people the impression that those who are genuinely uninterested are just playing. No man, I'm not hard to get. I'm actually pretty easy to get, if I like you. I don't like you. Stop showing up at my house."
fokkoooff
Lies
"Calling yourself 'brutally honest' when really you're just a *ick."
sirwilsonsangrypony
"Brutally honest is usually not related to truth."
"It's usually someone's opinion."
"People who stream-of-conscious say what they think are depending on others not to act like themselves."
"It's asinine."
It's not attractive!
"Men rubbing their hands together while biting their lip. It's not attractive! You either look like a creep or a housefly, pick one."
Nannamuss
"I've seen this posted 3 times now and I have legit never witnessed this behaviour. But yeah it sounds weird."
problemlow
robert downey jr lip bite GIFGiphyPuff Puff
"Basing your whole personality on smoking weed."
PinkBedazzledLeotard
"Basing your personality on any single topic is tiresome. Harleys, craft beer, yoga, football, cross fit, gaming, Jesus, Star Wars, travelling - if it defines you - you’re pretty one dimensional."
BenchClamp
"Meh. Depends on the person I guess."
"Also, with the strength of weed these days, I find it far easier to drink a beer with someone and have a meaningful discussion rather than smoke a joint and wonder if they hate me for the way my t-shirt shows too much of my arms."
Warsaw44
Nasty
"Being mean to other people to impress someone."
*itch-b-gone345
"Does anyone seriously believe being mean is attractive?"
clement004
"Reminds me of a guy me and some friends and others were hanging out with at a bar after an event we all attended. I asked the guy if he had any social media accounts I could keep in touch with him through and he said no, I'm not emo or suicidal or something like that. Everyone laughed and I just thought the guy was an a**hole after that."
knowone1313
Chill Out
"Aggression."
saucelessnuggets
"This one is it. Also hate it when it's casually shown to wait staff and customer service people. Punch up your aggression my dudes."
snowsqual
"I think a lot of guys think women want this but it seems like it's the guys that want women to want it."
Cheshiregrin85
"Agreed. I especially can’t stand when someone always tries to resort to violence, even though the other person clearly had no intention of being violent. I work with a guy like this. Some other (male) coworker will disagree with something he says and he immediately threatens to beat his a**. Also, he’s never been in a fight that I know of."
FaveFoodIsLesbeans
Nobody Cares
"Flaunting wealth. That only works if you're not flaunting, but it just shows. Like if you pull up in a nice car. There's no way you couldn't have pulled up in a nice car. Therefor acceptable and conveys the point. Don't interject your car into a conversation where it doesn't belong though. Nobody cares."
idkburneridkidk
"People really inject their car in to conversation like that? That's disgusting. My 05 Lamborghini mercialago wouldn't go anywhere near those people."
Mattigins
rich gold GIF by OffsetGiphyIronic.
So much of this leads back to bad behavior.
We need better goals and more self-esteem.
(Honestly, since Brittany O'Grady is having a moment right now, I'm hoping people will go back and watch. It's got a convoluted plot/dope soundtrack combo, Queen Latifah, multiple murders, some of the strongest hoop earring game ever put on screen and a series ending that made me want to flip tables. It was like Sopranos but with Black & Brown people and the music industry.)
Reddit user rock4lite asked:
"What instantly makes a man unattractive?"
Now listen, I'm not gonna tell you to go grab a notebook or the voice note app on your phone because you're about to get some mind-blowing new knowledge.
You're not.
Most of this boils down to Wheaton's Law.
"Meme Level Advice"
Channel 9 Brush GIF by Married At First Sight AustraliaGiphy"People do not understand how much basic hygiene can make a difference."
"I've been told by incels on this site that 'brushing your teeth, wearing clean clothes that fit, and having good posture is meme level advice and none of that matters.' "
"Well, let me tell you that the folks that actually get in my pants don't think that's meme-level advice. Basics, like clothes that fit and non-stinky breath, can go so far in making anybody way more attractive and approachable!" - LikelyNotABanana
"They consider it meme-level advice because that's what everyone constantly tells them, because they desperately need to do it. If they didn't keep brushing it off dismissively people probably wouldn't say it so often."
"If you ask someone for dating advice and they even mention these things, you absolutely need to do them. I have NEVER heard that said to anyone except to gently suggest they need to wash their ass and not dress like a slob."
"If their argument is 'i dId tHoSe tHiNgS bUt i sTiLl cAnT gEt a dAtE,' they're deliberately ignoring the fact that those things are the bare minimum and that they will still need to put in effort beyond that. Dating advice goes into far more detail elsewhere. No one is even pretending that basic hygiene is a silver bullet to getting laid."
"If someone's dating advice to you starts there, it's because YOU need to start there." - xxpen15mightierxx
Let People Talk
Deep Breath Sigh GIF by MOODMANGiphy"Speaking over me or others, it's not hard to be polite" - n3rd365
"The men of my boyfriend's family all do this constantly."
"I'm not sure it's possible to speak an entire sentence while having dinner with them. It's so discouraging."
"I've always felt very bad for his mother, being the only woman, and never being heard by her own sons/husband." - assortedolives
"I came here to say this. Speaking loud in general is unattractive to me - then when it's OVER someone else, it makes it so much worse." - SunyBunny420
"This is huge for me. I met my current boo because my date brought him along."
"Date kept speaking over his friend and me. The friend was a good listener and great conversationalist. I ditched my date for his friend and we've been together 3+ years." - karmabuchamama
Ex Factor
Season 1 Nbc GIF by The Good PlaceGiphy"When someone seems to only have 'crazy exes' ... you should run away before the sentence is over." - lurkinarick
"Honestly, bashing multiple exes at any time (there should be zero bashing for the first several dates because honestly idk you well enough & will just assume you're a dude who plays victim 24/7)."
"Once I've gotten to know you better it's okay to open up about a bad relationship or two- but frankly you should be able to not get overly emotional about it (like don't resort to name-calling or mean-spiritedness) or else I'm gonna assume you have not dealt with the fallout."
"I never trust a guy who acts like he's a 'crazy magnet.' Dude, you're the common denominator here, not them." - Crankylosaurus
"A guy once said 'you can't polish a turd' about his ex/kid's mom during a pre-date video chat. I was so put off that I cancelled the date almost immediately after." - science_v_romance
Cruel Is Not Cool
Rhony GIFGiphy"Being mean to appear cool." - azcntn
"I know this dude who is like a solid ten in all departments. I constantly joke that he's gonna steal my man, my mom, and the f*cking cats too."
"But the other day he was sharing his rebound stories and kept talking about he was gonna 'break hearts' and 'ruin her.' "
"I was like...bro eeeeew never let a woman hear you say that. You just turned into a sack of potatoes!" - RunanD
Pinnochio
disney classic GIFGiphy"I remember I dated someone who would just lie to make himself sound cool."
"I remember I realized it when his coworker was telling a hilarious story that I thought happened to my boyfriend. I instantly had this pit in my stomach. Biggest turn off." - makopinktaco
"There's nothing worse. Especially when there's a certain crowd or situation that brings it out. Like chill bro it's not a competition." - Coyote__Jones
"Yes. There was man I thought I was the most solid and reliable and hot as f*ck dude I'd ever met…I found out he'd been lying to me for a long time and it didn't take long for me to be turned off by him."
"Now I see his face and where I used to get all bothered (in a good way) I now just am annoyed and the word 'Coward' flashes across my brain."
"he knew lying was the only way I'd even meet him for coffee to date him. Had he been honest at first I'd never had met him for coffee, much less integrate him into my life, have each other's kids become family to one another, etc."
"He could've chosen to be honest after the initial meeting, too. Instead, he chose continually to omit info, and then as we got to know each other he had to lie more and more to keep me in the dark and maintain his original lie, and then he started lying to to cover other things up (things that were different than the initial lie but rooted in the same kind of bad behavior he consistently engages in.)"
"And then when our conversations about our histories and exes got to a point where he clearly needed to be honest and there was no more hiding to be done, he would suddenly go cold shoulder and stop being supportive of me. Eventually he resorted to gaslighting and subtle psychological abuse in order to make me shut up and not ask him questions, and so he could just keep seeing and flirting with his exes behind my back off and on."
"Nope. Never again." - Logical_Director_280
Table Manners
the lion king simba GIFGiphy"I remember a date I had with a guy almost 25 years ago."
"I remember it because we went out to eat at a local pizza restaurant. In the time it took me to eat half a slice, he had vacuumed up the rest of the pie which included loud, open-mouth chewing and belching."
"Chunks of food landed on his shirt. There were snuffling sounds as he shoved food down his maw. I don't remember anything else about that night but his disgusting method of eating. Total deal killer."
"I saw one of our mutual friends last year and she mentioned him. She told me he was heartbroken I never went out with him again and took it really hard at the time."
"I wasn't mean or anything and I never knew he felt so strongly about me. Absolutely no clue."
"But if that was the case, then that means he was probably on his best behavior that night. I can't imagine what worse manners might have come out if I'd seen him again." - DemonaDrache
"Friend of mine went on a date with a bloke in Uni who ordered pulled pork, and ate it like he'd not been fed in months. The moment my friend realized it wasn't going to work was when the guy looked up at him, and he had a smear of BBQ sauce on his forehead like Simba in the Lion King." - TheeAJPowell
Alpha Awfulness
Schitts Creek Ok GIF by CBCGiphy"Anything related to "alpha male" bull."
"If you tell me you're an 'alpha male' I will assume you have no personality, low self-esteem, are rude, abrasive, self-involved, and terrible in bed." - WrongRedditKronk
"I once had a dude I was actually kind of interested in refer to himself as an "apex sexual predator." I was no longer interested." - newyne
"Last week, I finally mustered up the courage to strike up a conversation with my gym crush after months of glances and smiles."
"He shared his Instagram, which was 'alphamale(his name).' Got over the crush so fast, there was some head-rush." - Biaatchandahalf
Glory Days
Seth Meyers Smoking GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy"Talking about how hot they used to be like this coworker of mine does."
" 'I used to bike 10 miles a day, do 200 pushups in one go, and I even used to have that V cut, you know...down there.' "
"I'm just trying to send this email, Doug. Please leave me alone." - After-Collar-4582
"This is hilarious."
" 'So I'm not hot but I used to be which means I stopped putting work into myself and you should find that attractive.' "
"WHAT????" - refrainsfrompartakin
"Oh my god, people bragging about how fit they used to be is so obnoxious. Like cool, I used to have breakfast but I ate it." - rileytrodd
"A guy I went to college with would tell anyone who'd listen that he was a swimmer in high school and kept a close up photo of his abs on his phone."
"I can't tell you the number of times I've said, 'Yeah, you've already shown me that photo. Good for you.' " - Justaregularderp
Break Stuff!
destroy that 70s show GIF by LaffGiphy'Being destructive particularly when other dudes or other people are near by. Breaking things on purpose, hitting things that shouldn't be hit like walls or windows or destroying other people's art/property."
"It doesn't make you cool or strong it makes you a wasteful jerk I won't invite back into my life ever again."
"Mostly this came from stories from friends about their friends, stuff I've seen online and personal experiences with my brother."
"I was the only girl in a group of 5 guys when I was like 8 or 9 and all of them were super destructive when they all got together. Otherwise they were great."
"I had a crush on one of them but he was being destructive (I don't remember what he broke) and I quit liking him."
"Also my ex boyfriend's 'friend' destroyed a lot of his stuff, and he'd let him. Including a painting I made my ex for his 16th birthday."
"I was really proud of it and if he didn't want it he could have sent it back." - LessEnthusiasmPlz
Long story short, just calm down, relax, and be cool.
I believe in y'all!
