Redditor asexyjohn18 wanted to hear about all the things that get people in the mood, so they asked:
"What is a non sexual trait that turns you on?"
I love a walk. A little strut. Nothing like getting the heart racing.
Tingles
hair GIF by SB NationGiphy"Getting my head scratched or having someone run their fingers through my hair."
SensitiveDolphin55
"Same. It’s so pleasant when the tingles run down your spine... ;-) "
PumpkinSpiceMaster
LOLOL
"When a girl genuinely laughs at jokes I make."
Realistic_Practice16
"I remember being on a first date with a beautiful woman and I made a bit of corny joke/comment and she laughed at it. I remember thinking, damn, wait till I get to my good stuff. I did get to my good material apparently as we were married. She gives me as many laughs as I give her."
CarlJustCarl
Do Right
"Kindness. When I see someone going out of their way to help others for no other reason than it’s the right thing to do… that is some truly attractive vibes."
Electrical-Bid-9577
"Apparently it's vanishing from this world really fast. People who show kindness often end up in losses (of course not everytime but most of the time yes). It really breaks my heart."
Walker1798
"Probably the sexiest thing out there. Someone can be smoking hot, funny, talented, etc. But if they're not kind, they're unattractive."
sravll
Oh Yes...
"Smiling right at me, and men stretching. LAWD HAVE MERCY!!"
Skwiddling
"I have trouble smiling at women. Is this a turnoff for them? And ones I like are really hard to smile at. Because I know it's always going to be some really weird big smile if I am crushing which makes me feel like a super duper creep."
Maximum_Knee_4622
Simplicity
Happy I Love You GIF by Warner Bros. DeutschlandGiphy"Sorry if this is too kinky but i like it when they care about me."
SirReal10000
"Too far man. You need to rethink your choices."
Funkeysismychildhood
Sometimes it's all about the heart.
Eye 2 Eye
i see you GIF by VH1Giphy"When a guy explains something to you in a calm and understanding voice. Bonus points for gentle eye contact."
Belphiespillow666
GENIUS!!
"Being crazily intelligent. Screw dirty talk, I want you to explain some unexplainable s**t in my ear."
-F**KINGUSERNAME
"Heck yes. My best connections have been with a philosophy/history professor turned chancellor, an environmental engineer, and a neurosurgeon, all 3 Summa cum laude grads and conference speakers in their fields. The downside to genius though is complete absorption in their fields leaving little time for in person connection."
__trezora__
Yummies
"Everyone should know how to cook. Hunger knows no gender. I like to eat good food so I learned how to cook. I asked my mom one day and she reacted surprised. She was more than grateful to have an opportunity to teach me the ‘finer’ aspects of cooking, as she called it. Lol. I love food."
"My girlfriend, now wife, likes to jokingly say I got her into bed with a well seasoned steak and homemade fries. I mean we did sleep together almost immediately after we finished dinner so maybe she’s right. That old saying comes to mind. 'The quickest way to the heart is though the stomach.'"
SaiyanGodKing
Getting Green
"When I ask my husband for help when I repot my plants and he delicately cleans and moves the leaves. He is a mechanical engineer and he works with huge pieces of industrial equipment, seeing him so tenderly caring for my plants just makes me melt."
BoysenberryNo3877
Limbs A Lot
Excited Thomas Lennon GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy"Men doing intricate work with their hands."
GooglePixel69
"I second this, also someone who can play guitar/bass real real well... just watching their hands, whoa mama."
squeaky-mcgee
Well, it seems that just about anything can get someone in the mood, especially if you're kind, courteous, and especially a good cook.
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Just kidding, nobody expects you to hide totally non-sexual pieces of your body just to make others comfortable. But you need to know... forearms. Forearms, fam.
Reddit user tycooperaow asked:
"Women of Reddit, what is a non-sexual thing a guy did that turned you on?"
Scrunching your shirt to show your forearms is (clearly) my answer, but there's tons of innocuous stuff y'all are out here doing that have people down bad. Fiending. Craving. Thirsting...
Dinner And Desert
GIF by ShamelessGiphy"When we're cooking together. He is just chopping some vegetables and here I am getting turned on."
- flake5991
"Honestly cooking together is a very successful dating strategy for me."
"Have someone over and say you'll cook them a meal, they'll probably end up helping you and it's become an activity you guys do together."
"Then you eat the food, clean up, then before you know it you're in bed for desert."
- writingwithmovement
Driving 'Em Wild
Reverse Richard Hammond GIF by DriveTribeGiphy"Putting his hand behind the passenger seat and looking over his shoulder to reverse the car, pheww"
- subjectivevalue01
"You know he's about to finesse the hell outta that reverse."
- smol_boi-_-
"I remember once, on whatever freeway that is between Philadelphia and Baltimore, I was driving late at night with my then-girfriend and our baby daughter in the back seat."
"At one point doing the drive, I easily navigated a difficult stretch with one hand while singing 'Always Something There To Remind Me.' "
"My girlfriend, out of nowhere, declared 'I love you.' "
- ATAlum
"I agree, I get jitters in my nethers whenever my boyfriend reverses the car like that so effortlessly 😩"
- Poliwhirlers
"Second this, idk why but dang it's such a turn on."
- _throwaway26374859
Getting Personal
season 4 massage GIF by Chicago MedGiphy"Giving me a back rub."
"It doesn't start sexual, but after years of giving them to guys for a solid 15-30 minutes at a time (my arm was dead!) who wouldn't do it back for more than two swipes of their arm; a legitimate back rub is so appreciated and immediately turns me on."
"In general though, anything they do just to make my life easier and better on their own without my prodding."
"I noticed tons of things about my past partners (favorite food, favorite game, comfort tv show, comfort topics, comfort activities) that I would actively try to engage them in or give them when I can tell they're having a bad day."
"They don't ask. I just do trying to make them feel better."
"It so rarely happens where my stuff like that gets noticed that when it does, it's just amazing and appreciated and is immediate 'take me now.' "
"I don't mean chores or cooking help to make my life easier, I mean 'I've noticed you get happy and excited around these topics/things and you feel crappy. I'm gonna talk about these things/topics and just let you go deep.' "
"Chores and cooking help is nice, but it's not personal. Personalized help on a bad day is just amazing."
- musryujidt
Heathen Hugs
Kate Mckinnon Flirt GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"Hugging me from behind. Poor guy just wants a hug and my first response is always to wiggle my butt like a dirty heathen."
- mikasa_517
"Uff the hugging from behind is my weakness too!"
- random_star0350
"Let me urge you to be a dirty heathen every time."
- deathbyhours
"Oh that booty wiggle is something else"
- steamenginetrain
Choreplay
cleaning up mr clean GIF by ADWEEKGiphy"First time I had my now-husband over for dinner at my house, he immediately got up and started doing dishes after he was done eating."
"Married 4 years now and it still gets me going every time."
- Dragoness42
"Choreplay is 100% real. I text her a picture of me doing laundry and dishes while she's out with her girlfriend(s)? She's jumping my bones the moment she gets home."
- throwawayspank1017
"I remember reading a Suzanne Brockmann book (Night Watch). The woman returns with bags of groceries."
"The guy (not yet a boyfriend) is on the phone, but he automatically reaches out to start bringing in the groceries and help put them away."
"I'm like, Suzanne Brockmann, you GET it. That is so hot."
- moonbeamcrazyeyes
"I figured this out many years ago. Women get horny when the house is clean and they didn't do any cleaning."
- teneggomlette
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The Actors Who Seemed Miscast But Absolutely Nailed The RoleFew people bought into the idea of Bryan Cranston in the role of Walter White before Breaking Bad...The Reverse Clark Kent
justice league glasses GIF by DC ComicsGiphy"When a guy doesn't mention he has glasses until he needs them to read or to drive in the dark, then puts them on outta nowhere. Oof."
- Minnie7831000
"When my husband puts his glasses on.... 😈😈😈"
- ainjel
"They normally wear contacts, so seeing them in glasses is a big and nice shock"
- XenaSerenity
"Reverse Clark Kent."
- Ascholay
Monkey Brain
Beauty And The Beast Dance GIFGiphy"When he's a good Dad to our kid. Nothing makes me love him more than watching him play with, or snuggle, our 9 year old daughter."
"He's always been a good Daddy."
"Whenever I see it I get the happy clenches in my heart :)"
- littlegingerfae
"My wife always said that too. Seeing me just stop everything to take time with the kids to play or teach warmed her up."
- TenuousOgre
"I'm childfree by choice and don't even enjoy being around children. But every time I see him being great with kids I get all ... squirmy. Some SERIOUS monkey brain action here."
- [Reddit]
I Told You!
bash stanton GIF by MLBGiphy"Aw man, just saw a dude in 3/4 sleeve baseball shirt the other day. I started feeling ashamed for objectifying his forearms so much."
"Worked with this guy for months. I had no idea his forearms were so attractive. I had no idea I found forearms attractive."
- Princessfootinmouth
"Not a woman, but my girlfriends tell me rolled up sleeves showing off forearm does it for them."
- rudalsfg
"I had a girlfriend who loved watching me button the cuff buttons on a dress shirt. Something about the motion of it."
"Never understood it, but always made sure she was in plain sight when I had to button them."
- AmigoDelDiabla
"I'm a little guy, and never had big forearms."
"I had a new girlfriend about 15 years ago. I had just purchased a button up that had a little strap and button for the half rolled sleeve look."
"I came out of the house to meet her with her dog. She tells me later that shirt with the exposed arms is what sealed the deal for her. I laughed because if my forearms worked, any would."
- maaaatttt_Damon
Handle It
I Can Handle It Fast And Furious GIF by The Fast SagaGiphy"I am not a women but I can give a good example of a non-sexual thing leading to amazing sex."
"Long story short, wife and I heading off on a long road trip, had car trouble on day one. I dealt with it and we got moving again."
"I didn't think much of it."
"We got to our hotel that night and she was like a wild woman, it was extraordinary."
"I was like, 'wow!' and she said, 'I've wanted to do you so bad since you got that car going.' "
"So yeah, maybe just handling a problem?"
- Stumpytoes
"Taking charge and taking care of things."
- Ascholay
Talent
Kelly Clarkson Nbc GIF by The VoiceGiphy"Some one being really good at something."
"Like, say a brilliant piano player who really knows how to handle the piano, or a scientist who is insanely intelligent, or a craftsman who can carve beautiful things."
"Straight away I think: 'yes baby, handle me like that piece of wood, you sexy stranger with incredible talent.' "
- turdusphilomenos
Confusingly Sexy
"So this isn't like most of the comments I'm seeing here but I still question to this day why this turned me on."
"We were playing Dungeons and Dragons. My DM was in character as someone we were fighting and threatened the party."
"I cannot remember what the hell he said, but I distinctly remember sitting there for a while thinking 'why is THAT of all things turning me on?' I guess I'm into magic and threats?"
- opalrosehawk
Oh Look, We're Talking About Forearms Again
Oprah Winfrey Wow GIFGiphy"My husband's best friend from childhood opened a bottle with his forearm."
"Something about that was just Soooo Sexy."
"I mentioned it later to my husband (the trick, not that I thought it was sexy) and he said 'Who do you think taught him that?' "
"And yes, he demonstrated."
"And yes, it was still very sexy!"
- ZubLor
"I'm a simple lass. Rolled up sleeves on a button down shirt with the top few buttons undone is like catnip."
"Can't even really explain it beyond that, it just does something for me."
- BasketSweet2737
Be Free
The Kid Mero Dance GIF by Desus & MeroGiphy"Generally just not giving a f*ck about what anyone thinks of him."
"He will dance and be goofy as hell in public without a care in the world. He's just living life to have a good time while making other people's lives better in the process."
"We've been together for eleven years."
"Just not giving a f*ck about expected societal constructs is so attractive to me. Men who aren't 'just trying to do all of the things that society expects of them' are sexy."
"Just be you and forget all of the fake social media pics and captions and what your deranged family might think of you. Don't live a lie."
- jolly_poison85
Focus
dynasties GIF by BBC AmericaGiphy"When a man is thinking, focused, in a thoughtful act."
"He could be helping his Old People or his children, immersed in his favorite sport or hobby, talking about something that is important to him, relating to a pet, ribbing his friends, laughing subtly about something really funny."
"Doesn't matter. It's all sexier when he's focused."
- rsogoodlooking
Stretch
Gym Stretch GIF by Chance The RapperGiphy"Ugh my best friend who I'm really attracted to... Has the body of a GOD and if he ever stretches/yawns and I get that one little inch of lower torso when his shirt pulls up I'm DONE."
- tofutti770
"Bro anybody stretching is so f*cking hot…men and women. You can NOT prove me wrong like damn that's sexy"
- Kandle13
Best Vacay Ever
knight ok GIFGiphy"A guy riding a horse! I love horses and a guy that knows how to ride is just so sexy."
"And I love guys with long hair."
"We went to Medieval Times once and it was like a freakin fantasy for me. Mmmmm."
- mslm90
A Screwdriver
jim carrey screwdriver GIFGiphy"Not bragging but I was putting away dishes and mentioned my frying pan handle was loose."
"Without missing a beat, my boyfriend pulled a screwdriver out of nowhere and tightened it. Literally the hottest thing I have ever seen in my life and I've lived a good one."
- Archeressrabbit
Don't Panic
Ross Geller Friends GIFGiphy"I remember I went out to lunch with a co-worker. The server came over before I was ready to order, and I panicked."
"He looked at me and casually said 'the fajitas here are great.' I nodded, and he turned to the server and announced 'two fajita plates, please.' "
"Turned back to me and said 'water? Or something else?' I mumbled water, and he pleasantly turned to the server, smiled politely and said 'just a couple of waters.' "
"Now, I had never had a guy order for me. I always thought it would be something I would even get a little miffed at."
"Maybe it was him recognizing my panic, and just trying to help."
"Maybe it was the way he was so pleasant and charming about it."
"Maybe it was because I am used to staring at my children and insisting they make a f*cking choice about the food so the nice server can go about their darn job."
"But God damn, having someone else handle the ordering business with that kind of dignity and confidence... got me all sorts of hot and bothered in an unexpected way."
- Princessfootinmouth
A Subway Seat
Happy Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt GIFGiphy"Stranger on the subway asked me to save his seat."
"I was very confused, but couldn't stop watching as he dashed halfway down the car to ask an elderly lady if she wanted a seat. She was fine standing so he came back and I was blushing the rest of the way home."
- kickingtenshi
Studious And Attentive
Austin Powers Flirting GIFGiphy"Be extremely good at pool. Like pool shark status."
"I've hung out with two guys in the past who you'd never guess it and then next thing you know, they're banking the entire table in like two goes."
"Just the way they studiously approach it and pace around the table, eyes so attentive…"
- ultravioletblueberry
What did I tell you about the forearm thing? I wasn't kidding!
Forearms. Men, women, nonbinary folk, genderfull friends, cryptids... hear me. Take note.
Forearms.
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I love a lot of things about people. I can be turned on by the tiniest detail, I can also be turned off just as fast, but that's a different article. Sometimes I don't even realize an attraction is happening until the moment occurs. Which is good, it means the connection is about the person.
Flutters
Slow Motion Reaction GIF by HBO MaxGiphy"When a person stifles their laughter. Something about the way their face scrunches up whenever it happens makes my heart flutter for some reason. Also, scars."
Confidence Game
"When they go all the way dressing up. Not in the fancy way, but in the "oh there's a theme and I'm not shy to go all the way with my costume." Shows confidence and a great fun factor."
- mijranda
"My wife likes this about me, but it's not just dressing up. I really truly enjoy Christmas and Christmas music and will choose to put it on and sing to myself when it's Christmastime."
"I love decorating for Halloween, and all the similar events where for some reason people pretend they're too 'adult' to have fun with. Also I've always wanted to do (but could never wrangle up the people for) a murder mystery dinner party where we all come in character. I guess I just reached a certain point in my life where I legitimately stopped caring what other people thought was lame."
Prince Charming
"I dated a guy for a couple of years in my early twenties who always wore an open button down shirt over a tee, and whenever he laughed really hard, he would grab the open shirt and bury his face in it while his whole upper body shook. He had a very giggly laugh too, the whole thing was ridiculously charming."
Power Schnoz
"Big, but structured, prominent noses. Idk what it is about them that I just swoon over, but it always happens."
"Trust me when I say: those prominent noses, like the ones on old photos & statues are hot. Greek, Mayan, whoever. Works on men and women for me. I cry inside every time I hear of women getting a nose job to remove that gorgeous proud arch on their nose. At least men usually leave it alone. It just makes a face powerful."
Bits...
Excuse Me What GIF by Holly LoganGiphy"The neck, when a woman has her hair up and those little bits of hair curl around."
Physically, I love great hands. Hands that can sculpt and paint and lift me up over their heads. And good wrists that support great hands... magnific! And let's talk ears...
Memories...
sexy tv land GIF by #ImpastorGiphy"A girl nibbled on my ear exactly one time unexpectedly and I haven't stopped thinking about it."
Thicc
"Men's calves. Snuggling up to those bad boys can be a real turn on!"
"I guess the female equivalent for me would be thighs. Don't get me wrong, I like boobs and glutes as much as the next person, but there's just something great about thicc thighs. Having my head against thigh is such a great feeling."
"I was looking for this one. It's a big one for me, well-defined calves. Maybe it's because my first shag post-marriage was someone with well defined calves, which was in stark contrast to previous dude."
Greenery Lover
"Houseplants. Chicks with plants are just very hot to me. Also, the more comfy a girl is, the better. Something about sweats, blankets, overly large sweaters, or girls cuddled up real tight is really cute and turns me on so much."
"I have an ex that was obsessed with house plants and really good with them. I loved it because I love having greenery around the house. She also held really strong opinions about how fake plants are an abomination. I tried keeping house plants after that relationship and just sucked at it."
"It wasn't until someone gave me permission, "if you like the look of them why not just get fake plants?" that I was like "…ya know what, yeah." Filled my house with fake plants and even though it's not the same as live greenery, I love the vibe they add to my place and I don't ever have to worry about them dying because I overwater or underwater or just forget about them."
Swoon...
"Eye crinkles on men."
"My husband is older than I am, and he started getting "laugh lines" around his eyes a few years ago and I LOVE them. I have mentioned it to him but it makes him feel self conscious about "wrinkles" so I have to keep it to myself, but those and his freckles... swoon."
Perfectly Imperfect
"My girlfriend doesn't have perfect teeth. She's super insecure about how two of her teeth are a little crooked, but every time she smiles it's the most adorable thing ever. Something about those slight imperfections just make her that much more perfect. She's planning on getting braces when she saves up some more, which is kind of a bummer. More power to her though."
- TehNibby
LOVE IT!
Sexy Kyle Rezzarday GIF by Pretty DudesGiphy"People who can ramble on about their passion/s for hours. I love listening to people talk about the stuff they love."
All those things sound sexy. See, natural is sexy. Just be natural, be real and the attraction will draw them in. I also love a person who dances with abandon. Good or bad rhythm... just dance.
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