A new poll from Quinnipiac University shows 70% of Americans believe social media companies like Facebook and Twitter are harming society.
This poll, released earlier this month, came as Facebook whistleblower Frances Haugen in her testimony before the Senate, said the company is putting profits before user safety. She is currently on a European tour and just yesterday spoke with British regulators.
But will anything be done?
Jury's out, but the outrage against Facebook and other social media platforms is real.
People shared their opinions after Redditor boba_fetish101 asked the online community:
"What are you sick of seeing on social media?"
"Maybe it's just..."
"People posting ludicrous amounts of personal information about their own children."
"Maybe it's just because I grew up in the age where we were constantly being told not to post personal information online, but it's bizarre to me how it's completely normal now for people to do it for their own kids."
"Here's daily pictures of my son Little Timmy. This is what school he goes to. These are the sports he likes to play. This is his birthday. These are the video games he likes. This is his favorite food. He has baseball practice every other day until 5 pm, etc."
"Are you trying to get your kid abducted?!"​
Good point.
People really need to be careful about the information they share about their children online.
"People watching..."
"People who watch a TikTok made by Suzan, a first-year Psychology major, saying if you can eat a Fajita in 8 bites you have ADHD or whatever, and believing it."
These people clearly need to take an actual psychology course, because something is truly missing here.
"mindless consumption"
"All this mindless consumption is eating brains, killing attention-spans, and silencing creativity. Original thoughts are rare these days. People will see a quote on social media and suddenly that's their entire life philosophy."
I hate how true this is.
Will we ever see the end of it?
"I swear..."
"Highly upvoted obviously fake content. I swear there is a whole minor industry out there manufacturing fake screenshots/posts so they can post them as outrage porn."
"Outrage porn" is the perfect phrase to describe it—and some people really fall for it.
"It's ok to follow the news..."
"People who think they are true crime investigators. They tend to just make the work harder. It's ok to follow the news, but speculating and hunting for tips and such when you aren't the origin of that information (like camera footage) or you never were involved in any way just makes everyone's life worse."
"Also, mad disrespectful to the families of any victims."
People who think they've solved the case of Gabby Petito are truly getting on my nerves these days.
Can you let investigators... you know, investigate?
"I don't care..."
"Things that celebrities are doing. I don't care that Kim Kardashian got the covid vaccine. The news should be reserved for actual news, not an active biography of some random person who people like."
"Kinda sick..."
"Kinda sick of all the outrage that goes on all the time. It's like people are waiting for the next thing to get pissed off about. This cannot be normal."
It really isn't.
Believe it or not, society managed to do its thing before Facebook, too.
As someone who loves the English language... yes.
All I have to say is "yes."
Yeah, some people are really pushing the limits of how far we can take this fake news thing, huh?
"Just in general, people getting mad about the most trivial of sh*t and harassing other people over it."
"You don't like so or so games, movies, TV shows, whatever. Fair, but you insistently bitching about it and harassing others who do like it is helping anyone."
Are you thinking of leaving Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or other social media? If so, we don't blame you. It's a jungle out there.
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Dermatologist Says Man's Life Was Likely Saved After TikTok Viewers Noticed A Strange Mole On His Back
A man's recent TikTok video post tipped off some of his followers to a very unusual looking mole on his back.
The life-saving video in question featured newly married Alex Griswold and his wife.
The 23-year-old was so stoked about being married that he put together a quick supercut of his favorite aspects of married life.
The video highlights some prime domestic minutiae.
"You have a built in best friend that you get to have sleepovers with."
"You compliment each other's farts."
But it's Griswold's mention of his wife's EXTREMELY selfless grooming approach that features that diabolical mole.
"Back scratches always become pimple popping sessions."
As that goofy caption rolls across the top of the screen, an intimate shot of Griswold's pale, evidently defiled back looms below.
In the post's caption, Griswold even called attention to the back footage, though his mind is far from concerned for his own safety.
It wasn't until a concerned user reached out to Griswold via email that Mr. Newlywed decided to book an appointment with a dermatologist and take a look see at that mole.
Alex Griswold
Griswold told Buzzfeed just how far off his radar checking that mole would have been without the email.
"I had never been to the dermatologist before. I probably wouldn't have gone for years and years."
The dermatologist even told him that whoever the stranger was who reached out after seeing his TikTok "probably saved his life."
After the appointment, Griswold checked back in on TikTok to give the entire play by play from that initial 'Just Married' post to major back wound without any more Melanoma danger on it.
He tells followers that during his appointment the dermatologist said the mole "might be skin cancer."
So the dermatologist removed the mole and sent it off to a lab.
The lab's results? In Griswold's words: "Dude, that IS turning into skin cancer."
So he went back to the doctor and the whole 'moley' area was excavated of any trace of the cancerous tissue.
And the dude had a HUGE wound. Because Griswold is apparently very open about posting, he gives us some excellent wound content.
Shine on, Mr. Griswold.
As the end of his TikTok follow up video suggests, the internet really can be a tool for positive community-building and social connection.
Black Woman's TikTok Makeup Video Highlights The Beauty Industry's Diversity Issue
Any of us who have ever experimented with the use of makeup have discovered certain setbacks: eye allergies and facial breakouts, poor wearability, lack of pigmentation and disappointing tone matching.
But this TikTok video of one black woman's excellent makeup adds to the pile of reasons why people of color have it the worst when it comes to finding the makeup they need.
What began as a simple video of an attractive woman putting her makeup on for the day quickly turned into a negative commentary on the lack of diversity that still exists in the makeup industry.
The woman in the video, TikTok user "imnotbijou," began her video with some typical steps: applying eyebrows and priming her face.
But when everyone saw what she chose to contour with, that's when the conversation exploded.
You can watch the video here:
Her make up came out so fucking bomb 😫but she HAD to used eyeliner to contour her face!!& ik makeup has no rules or… https://t.co/FYwQEkjDsW— lay (@lay) 1579540371.0
In the video, the woman contours with a black liquid eyeliner to create a deep enough color to actually contour against her skin tone.
After receiving confused and critical comments about her use of the eyeliner, the TikTok user also posted a photo of her completed look.
In the caption, she wrote:
"I wouldn't use eyeliner for contour if I didn't have to."
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter and @imnotbijou / TikTok
The video has been shared nearly sixty-thousand times on Twitter and has more than 350-thousand likes. Even the follow-up photo from the TikTok user has nearly nine-thousand likes, which is modest in comparison, but still viral-worthy.
What makes this so eye-opening is the number of people who are personally identifying with the less-than-forty second video.
People of color from all across the globe are sharing their own stories of woe and frustration, as they attempt to express themselves in what is a highly-beige-exclusive industry.
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
Some have been extremely helpful and shared some products they've discovered that worked for them or they believe might work for the TikTok user.
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
But the problem remains that these solutions are only a small handful of products.
They barely touch on the wide array of brands out there who have done little to challenge the diversity standard. Not to mention the fact that many of the current product options are only available online or are extremely expensive, making them inaccessible to most consumers.
@makeupiztherapy / Twitter
Though some brands are beginning to step forward and create more colors in other products, beyond concealers and contouring products, for a wider array of people of color, there is still an extensive road ahead.
Yellows are still few and far between and either translate to orange or a bright banana on the skin and darker shades are still far too rare of a find and often lack pigmentation or lasting power.
It's important to have conversations like this, to continue to push beauty product companies to look beyond a beige palette.
Man Calls Out TikTok's Homophobic 'Community Guidelines' After They Took Down Video Of Him Kissing His Boyfriend
A man asked the question:
"What happens when a man kisses his boyfriend at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve and posts it on the video-sharing social network, TikTok?"
Mark Pasetsky—who goes by Marknewyork on TikTok—found out the answer when he shared something millions of others do at the start of a new year: a kiss with the person they love.
According to an article Pasetsky wrote for Campaign US, when the kiss is between two men, the post is removed because "it's a violation of the platform's community guidelines."
Pasetsky wrote:
"When I saw the notification on my profile, I was flooded with feelings of shame and alienation."
Here is the video loaded to TikTok.
Just a standard kiss to ring in the New Year.
In fact, it's really quite chaste.
For the former editor in chief of Life & Style and managing editor of OK! Magazine, a double standard needed to be addressed.
"After being out of the closet for 24 years, I knew I needed to take action for myself and for the entire LGBTQ community."
"In a world where bullying is rampant, the relatively new platform that already reaches 60 million active monthly users in the US must support the equal and fair treatment of LGBTQ users and all diverse communities."
"Most importantly, think about a teenager going through the same experience of having their video removed because they simply kissed their same-sex partner. Imagine how devastating it would feel when a popular social network tells them it's not okay to be who they are. Many would be too afraid to speak up and would not know how to respond to this type of discrimination."
As
Psychology Today and data from numerous studies state, the beneficial effects of equal representation are real. The damaging effects of exclusion are also well studied and documented.
For members of marginalized communities, being seen and seeing others like themselves can boost their self esteem. For people not part of those communities, this representation can create an unconscious familiarity and normalization of people unlike themselves.
As people of color began to appear in commercials and on television, there was some backlash. Some stations even banned the content or censored it out of programs.
But studies showed direct links between these inclusive media campaigns and increased support for equality for POC by members outside their community. Familiarity doesn't always breed contempt; sometimes it breeds empathy and understanding.
Pasetsky knew equal inclusion in social media was no different.
"That's why I chose to take action – for those who cannot."
"I started by filing a support ticket and then tweeted the company."
When the steps most people take did not yield results, Pasetsky put his extensive experience with media and PR to work.
"Finally, I emailed TikTok's public relations department."
"After explaining that I was writing a piece on the video being removed and demanding answers, my request was quickly forwarded to the moderation team."
"Within two hours, TikTok re-activated my video and let me know it had been incorrectly removed due to human error."
But that excuse wasn't working for Pasetsky.
The social media company previously admitted to removing and suppressing content from LGBTQ users. They claimed it was an attempt to minimize bullying on the site, not by eliminating bullies but by eliminating potential targets.
However censoring and restricting the lives of those being attacked or that they suspect might be attacked is not the appropriate response to bullying in life or on social media.
Whatever the ultimate reason for the removal of his video, Pasetsky wrote that the reinstatement of it on TikTok should not be the end.
"The removal of my New Year's Eve video makes the urgent case for a full internal evaluation of TikTok's policies and moderation practices. A number of tough questions need to be answered."
"If this decision was based on human error, who was the human? How does TikTok make hiring decisions for moderation positions? Is diversity represented on these teams? What about across the organization as a whole? And, most importantly, what will the company do to prevent a repeat of this experience?"
He concluded by stating the removal was not a simple mistake but rather an example of a microaggression.
"The bottom line is we can't allow a social media platform to commit discriminatory micro-aggressions against any community."
Microagressions are the death by a thousand cuts of bigotry and bias.
To those outside an affected community, a microaggression can be easily dismissed as no big deal. Why complain about such a small thing when there are bigger fish to fry?
However studies show these minor offenses lay the ground work for the larger ones.
The Black person who is told they're "so articulate" or the Asian told they speak English so well when it is their first language or the Hispanic person born and raised in the United States questioned about where they are from or the gay man who is told he doesn't "sound gay" are all examples of microagressions. Each one also indicates an implicit bias or sterotype, painting Black people as less intelligent, Asians and Hispanics as foreigners and gay men as speaking in a certain way.
Pasestsky urged others to also speak out.
"TikTok needs to continue to be called out for biased practices. It's critical that the company understands its responsibility to create a safe and welcoming environment for all."
In an email interview with Pasetsky, we asked:
"In your article, you address TikTok with questions about diversity and next steps. If you could create specific next steps for them, what would they be?"
He responded:
"I would suggest TikTok partner with a respected LGBTQ organization to conduct an extensive review of the social media platform's moderation policies."
"I would also suggest holding diversity and inclusivity training for all members of the organization - especially those responsible for moderating posts on TikTok, as well as reviewing overall hiring practices to make sure members of all diverse communities are represented."
"In addition, a new set of community guidelines need to demonstrate how TikTok will be more welcoming to the LGBTQ and all diverse communities going forward."
Q:
"Invariably, people respond to these microaggressions by pointing to 'bigger issues.' What would you say about why addressing microaggressions is important?"
Pasetsky:
"We need to address microaggressions to let companies like TikTok know it's not okay to censor anybody for who they are. It's important to remember that these microaggressions can be deeply harmful to the individuals that receive them and therefore are equally as important as addressing the 'bigger issues'."
"If we continue to address microagressions in real-time, we will prevent what I see as TikTok's anti-gay bias from becoming an acceptable global policy for the social media platform. The bottom line is that it's not okay for a company like TikTok to censor a same-sex video and hide behind the 'human error' excuse when it's really a microaggression."
Q:
"You refer to the documented anti-LGBTQ bias [on TikTok]. Are there other social media platforms that are problematic?"
Pasetsky:
"To date, I've only personally experienced this anti-LGBTQ bias on TikTok."
Q:
"You mention bullying and young people who are still finding their way in life as motivation to pursue this with TikTok to an acceptable resolution. What would you like to say to those younger people about this situation or about anything else?"
Pasetsky:
"As a video platform, TikTok provides its users a unique opportunity to be expressive. Keep being exactly who you are and show the world who you are."
"Posts of same-sex kisses like mine need to be embraced and supported on platforms like TikTok. Stand up for yourself when you feel like you have been unfairly censored!"
"For anybody else that feels they have been censored by TikTok for being themselves, I strongly support them in speaking up. They can reach me on Twitter @markpasetsky and I'll do what I can to continue to support the LGBTQ or any diverse community that feels they were unfairly treated."
Q:
"Is there anything else you'd like to say? Any points you want to expand on?"
Pasetsky:
"With Valentine's Day coming up, let's send a powerful message to TikTok and the world. Give a big kiss to your same-sex partner and post the video to TikTok. Let's show them we are out and proud of our loving relationships!"
Valentine's Day is just around the corner. Mark Pasetsky's suggestion sounds like a great way to celebrate love, diversity and representation.
Who's in?