Redditor em0gril wanted to hear about the worst things people have ever said to be mean. So they asked:
"What is the most hurtful thing someone said to you?"
Thanks Mom...
Tyler Perry GIF by NickelodeonGiphy"'I don't know what is so special about you.' -My mother after seeing my kids get excited that I was home from work."
Legitimate_Story_333
Gloomy
"My mom, who was always emotionally abusive, get especially bad when I started dating my now husband. This included her telling me she hates me. After months of being her emotional punching bag, my depression was also not doing awesome."
"She got on meds, never apologized, never acknowledged what she said and did. I’d recently lost my job and she said my depression was bringing her down and I should move out. Haven’t spoken to her in years and don’t miss her."
UnihornWhale
No Comps?
"I worked really hard in high school in theatre (still very happy in it over 20 years later). I was accepted to every school I applied and through a donation my high awarded me a scholarship."
"In the glow of pride of this unexpected gift, my mother said in front of everyone 'I can't believe they wasted their money on you.'"
"Guess who DOESN'T get comps to my shows."
azorianmilk
Arrangements
"My daughter died at birth and I almost did too. My father told me that my stepmother was 'Really taking it hard and feels like she doesn’t have a purpose anymore/nothing to live for' because we had planned for her to babysit. She also asked me when I was hospitalized if she can have some of my daughter's ashes for herself. Keep in mind we were never close and I never even lived there."
"I was still extremely sick post-birth and never got to go to the funeral home for arrangements so my dad did. He told me a few years later when I got a potter to make her an urn 'I hope you aren’t getting rid of the one I picked out because I spent a lot of money on it.' My sister also THINKS she had a miscarriage at some point very very early on when she was a teen and told me after I lost my daughter that she has been through worse."
_Jordy_C_
Ruined
"You won't ruin my new family."
"My mom to 13ish-year-old me."
"Jokes on her, she ruined it herself."
plz2meatyu
These are the reasons therapy was invented.
For Me
Frustrated Skip Bayless GIFGiphy"My mom told me when I was 5 that I was not wanted. Now it took me 15 years to actually stop trying to please and finally live for myself."
Leather-Spite-556
Look at Me
"When my father looked at me and said he was glad I knew that I wasn't his, and he didn't have to be my Dad anymore. My mom was a habitual cheater. She had an affair with my Dad's sister's husband (my non-bio Uncle on my Dad's side). If you like the stars up on paper, I was my Uncle's kid."
"When I was a little kid, he was decent to me. When my sister was born 7 years later, her s**t didn't stink, and I had better not breathe wrong. When I told him, I knew the family's little secret. He was glad to be rid of me. He died 6 years later from a heart issue. Out of curiosity, I did a DNA test, and my sister did one too. Turns out I, in fact, was my father's son and my sister, his best friend's kid."
Traditional_Crew6617
Zero Behavior
"I’ve commented on this before but someone once said to me/about my wife that 'It sucks her dad died [last week of a sudden massive heart attack but that doesn’t give her an excuse for her behavior.]' The problem was, the statement was totally untrue. There was zero 'behavior.' The person was literally just being a cold-hearted b*tch because they took a disliking to my wife, who was only ever perfectly kind to the cold-hearted *itch."
"I excused a lot of shi**y behavior toward myself and others from that POS but this was the last straw. To not even be able to fake a decent human interaction toward someone the very week their father dies a horrific, untimely death really speaks to the kind of garbage heap of a human I was dealing with."
Straight-Two1164
Happy 50th!!
"My father told me that I would never live to the age of 50 because I was overweight. He went as far as to leave my brother and sister his estate in the will, but I was only left a small amount of money that I would only be eligible to collect after my 50th birthday. He was one of the most cruel people I have ever met in my life."
GiacintoD
24
"I was 18 when my sister (24) died suddenly of an aneurysm. For weeks after I was told SO many different iterations of 'It's all in God's plan/everything happens for a reason' that that was the start of my break from my own faith and losing my religion. I cannot imagine saying something like that to someone who just lost a sibling. I have a visceral reaction to that phrase to this day, and it was 24 years ago next month."
heyitsthatoneguy81
Wishes
Magic Carpet Genie GIF by DisneyGiphy"My dad once was angry at me and said that he wished I were an abortion. I knew even back then that he didn't mean it, yet sometimes decades later, it still stings."
MagnoliaTree3
The cruelty of parents is the worst.
We really need to watch how we speak.
Unless you want your romance to be literally "fleeting".
"Don’t fall in love in the airport."- mdrnsavg
It goes both ways
"Definitely don't sweat the petty things and absolutely don't pet the sweaty things." - User Deleted
Can save you money on buying new dolls
"Barbie clothes will fit on bananas."- highmaintenancebunny·
bananas in pajamas GIFGiphyQuit while you're ahead
"Don’t."
"Whatever you’re thinking, just don’t."- Hold_My_Anxiety
Same goes for your shoes.
"Don’t wear your socks in the shower, they’ll get wet."
There are no "losers" in life
"The answers are all made up and the points don't matter."- Sad_Thought_4642
video games kids GIF by Children's Miracle Network HospitalsGiphyIt's just polite!
"Hold the door."- WaCandor
In case of the need to carbo load!
"Save time with food prep by boiling all the water you need to make pasta for the week each Sunday and freezing it."- TennisADHD
It stops being as easy as it looks
"As you get older and have to get down on your knees (gardening, etc.), Bring a 5 gallon empty bucket to help you get back up."
"If you are too proud you can pretend that you are using it to carry tools."
"Being a young punk in my youth making fun of older people has caught up with me."- charlie2135
Stand Up Help GIF by FC Schalke 04GiphyKnow when to stop...
"Delete that really long text."- The-Zesty-Man
It's easy enough to dismiss these dubious words of wisdom as nothing more than a little frivolity.
But, best to keep all of them in the back of your mind.
After all, who knows, you never know what doing something as simple as holding the door might lead to.
So who here still depends on the kindness of strangers?
1986
Baby Facepalm GIF by MOODMANGiphy"I was leaving the hospital in 1986 with my husband and newborn. A lady in the elevator admired the baby and then looked at us and said, 'be good to each other.' We weren’t."
potato_bod_mom
Pay it Forward
"When I was 18 I was at McDonalds trying to get breakfast for all the guys from work, I came up like 5 bucks short and this old guy paid the difference and said 'you’ll have to help somebody out someday too.' So now whenever I get the chance to do something like that for someone that’s what I say. I hope the cycle makes it back to that guy."
hockeybag7
Thank You!!
"One day I woke up and had a headache. And that headache lasted every day for 2 years. I saw every doctor I could and tried every diet I could. No answers. My quality of life was non-existent and I was on the cusp of losing my job. I was at a restaurant with my mom, I was on one of my specialty diets that was supposed to help with headaches (spoilers, it wasn't)."
"I asked the waitress what was in the salad dressing. She asked 'I know it's none of my business, but can I ask why"' A short conversation later, she mentioned a doctor that worked specifically for people dealing with mold toxicity, otherwise known as MYCOTOXICOSIS."
"That waitress saved my life that day and I don't even remember her name. This was in Superior, Colorado at the now closed CB&Potts. If you happen to read this, you have no idea how grateful my family and I are to have run into you that day. Thank you."
thisendup76
Thanks Sweet Lady
"I had a person like this when I was a kid and I left my wallet next to a vending machine at the mall and when I came back it was gone. I lost a whole 7 dollars and I was devastated. This sweet little old lady saw me having a melt down and I was freaking out about how my parents were going to kill me and this lady legit gave me a 20."
"To an 8 year old who gets 2$ allowance per week a 20 was like getting handed 300$ as an adult. I hope it came back around for her too. Since this was in 1997 and she was probably 70 I don't think she would still be alive today."
mikee8989
Eat Up
Hungry Food GIF by America's Funniest Home VideosGiphy"The Sikh man I met on a flight from god-knows-where to London who invited me to their temple to eat for free."
EbonicalHillbilly
I'm amazed. There are good people in the world. Still jaded.
Thank you stranger...
Ufc 205 Thank You GIF by UFCGiphy"My anxiety was at it's peak and I was walking home from school. Then someone came up to me and just started talking to be like I was a normal person."
"Social skills were @ss, but he didn't seem to care. Gave me the confidence I needed to start doing the same and helping others who were lonely. Thank you, stranger. It was because of him that I was able to help others get out of their Social awkwardness."
p1tch-dark__
Freezing
"It was around February 2016 and the city got hit with a massive snow storm, I remember waiting at the bus stop with a mother and her child in a stroller. The bus was 45 minutes delayed, it was very cold with the wind chill, when the bus arrived we both got on."
"I chose a seat of the opposite side of the bus and this mother and her now crying child was sitting near the front, I could see that the mother was trying to warm her sons hands but was having no luck while her child kept crying. I moved from my seat and sat next to her and took her child’s hands in my hands. His hands were freezing while mine were toasty from my gloves."
"After about 5 minutes, the child calmed down and the bus was quiet again. I stayed with that mother and child for almost 2 hours on the bus until we finally got to our stop. I never learned of the child’s name or the mothers. I just simple sat there with them warming her child’s freezing hands up."
Niishin
Stay for Me
"I don’t remember him, just what he did for me. I was 19, got t-boned in an intersection by someone running a red and was knocked unconscious. He was a witness, and I think someone said he was the first person to call 9-1-1. He took my phone while I was out (before the days of locking phones), called my house, no one home, called my dad’s cell, which was answered."
"He told my dad what had happened and which hospital the paramedics said they were taking me to, and somehow managed to avoid making my dad panic about me. I mostly came to before I got loaded into the ambulance, at which point he gave me back my phone and said my parents would meet me at the hospital."
"I gather he then stayed to talk to the cops to speak up for me because I didn’t remember what had happened and the other driver kept saying it was my fault. I never got to thank him for going so far out of his way to help a complete stranger."
DefunctPenguin
I think about her often...
"I believe I was 19 at the time. I worked at Walmart at time and was working in the back that day when a lady that worked in the meat department was walking past me crying, I hugged her and asked what was wrong. She was covered in bruises and she told me her boyfriend beat her. She opened up and told me she was leaving him so I asked if she needed a place to stay that way she's safe and she told me no."
"Turns out he was waiting outside for her during her lunch, I once again asked if she was okay and if she needed help and she said no. After that night I never saw her again. I have no idea if she is alive and safe. I hope she's okay, I think about her often."
Vampire_Bun
Crash
Crashing Relapse Records GIF by Red FangGiphy"This guy that helped me out after I rolled my truck, he was late for work because he stayed with me until the tow truck got there. Really restored my faith in humanity."
hockeybag7
Look me up...
"About 11 yrs ago my boyfriend unexpectedly passed away in his sleep. I had moved to his state so after his passing I was making plans to move back. I was sitting at the cemetery, in tears, basically saying one last goodbye. A really nice lady stopped and came over and asked if I was OK."
"She sat for a few minutes and talked with me. She gave me her name, which I didn't remember, and said to look her up in FB if I wanted to talk. She was on her way to church and stopped to check on a stranger, which I always thought was a nice thing."
depressed_jess
Beautiful
"I was at the 99 cent store when I was twelve with my aunt, picking up some balloons. An older lady asks her if she can touch my shoulder and my aunt said yes (she thought if she said no I would get evil eye) and then she turned to me touched me, then said 'you have a beautiful soul.'"
"'I don’t see many these days. Hopefully it will stay that way' then she walked out leaving me baffled and confused.Sometimes i still think about her and what she said. Think about if I’m still the same person and the growth I’ve had as a person was for better or worse."
notafoetoallenpoe
"Elly"
"One time when I was younger me and my family went to Washington D.C. We went to the holocaust museum, and near the end of it, there was this lady handing out books. They were called 'Elka's Growing Up in a Changing World.' She explains that she is the author of the book and she was handing copies out to children."
"It turns out she is a survivor of the holocaust and this book is just a few of her memories from WW2. This woman is named Elka 'Elly' Gross and I got to meet her before I knew it would probably be a one-in-a-lifetime experience."
Surnamesalot
Wordless
Come Sit Down GIF by BounceGiphy"In Hungary, I live in Budapest, it's a big city with 2 million people, but there is very few African people. I was 11 or 12 years old when I first met a black gentleman with his daughter. I couldn't speak English and I give them my seat on the tram. They were so kind and grateful. It was special to communicate without words."
osami2002
Cry...
"Walking home from school one day, a guy was audibly crying on the step in front of his house path. As I'm walking by I look at him a bit and he says something along the lines of 'It's ok boy, I'm just upset. My mum died. I'm so upset.' and I don't really know what to say so I just sorta keep walking and as I'm walking away I hear him yell what sounded like 'WAAAAHHHH' you know like how a baby cries? But not in a baby voice at all. Idk who that guy was but I hope he's doing well."
KindaAlrightPerhaps
The Collection
"I bought a stuffed animal from this fair, and this kind, elderly woman saw it and started talking about how cute it was. I told her how I had this wall covered with shelves of stuffed animals, and she told me she had a lot as well. In the end, she told me to never be ashamed of my stuffed animal collection no matter how old I got and if somebody makes fun of me I have the right to say that I met an 80+ year old woman who still has a bunch of stuffed animals at home."
thetinytiger2021
Next Time
"I was going into work and saw a homeless dude crawling out of a drenched sleeping bag. I had $5 on me, so I gave it to him so he could get a hot coffee from the donut place across the street. He thanked me and said he bets I'd have won if I bought a lottery ticket instead, but I don't buy them I replied. He says to me, 'you'll win the next time you buy one.' It's been over a decade and I still have the hobo luck he gave me that day. I've still never bought a lottery ticket."
RoadsideLuchador
Hey Bud
Surfer Dude Tyler GIF by Big BrotherGiphy"This random guy, beach surfer type, pulled up on me and my boyfriend on 4/20, knew we didn’t have bud, and gave us a fat 4g nug for the holiday AND smoked us up. Wish I could return the favor."
allshewrote0131
Some people just leave a lasting impression. So better. Be kind.
People are just creepy in general. So this should be weird.
Call Dateline NBC
Keith Morrison Chin Touch GIF by Dateline NBCGiphy"'Enjoy the rest of your night at the dance. When you go out to the parking lot, I'm going to kill you.'"
"Didn't see him again for the rest of the night and had an escort to my car, but dude was creepy as f**k."
ThePhiff
Old Navy Issues
"I was 7 years old and in Old Navy with my mum and sister. They went to try on clothes and I didn’t know that and had a panic attack trying to find them. Some older woman said she’d take me in and raise me and not to worry. For some reason I thought it was better than being alone forever at least. I was with her for a bit until I saw my Mum walk out of the dressing room. To this day I think about what if I left with her…"
Still_loading_1
I gave him one...
"I was on my way to my friend's house when a man(probably homeless) walked over to me and said 'Give me some money, I am hungry.' I said I don't have any money to which he replied 'you have two $5, give me one.' I don't know how he did it but I had exactly two $5 bills in my pocket, I gave him one."
SuvenPan
Dead Eyes
"As a child, I lost track of my mom while walking around after spotting a friend. It was a tiny town; the kind where you know everybody at least by sight, so I didn’t freak out, just went looking for her. I asked an arcade owner if he had seen her, and he said: 'Yeah, she went inside to the back. Why don’t you go in to look for her?'”
"My stranger danger alarm went off like crazy inside my head. I just said ‘no!’ and ran away. I swear this dude had dead AF eyes. Turns out she was just about a half a block ahead and was walking back to me. I never told her about the creepy man, and I regret it to this day thinking he might have actually lured a poor kid in."
Ihlita
Ya hungry?'
Cookie Monster Eating GIF by Sesame StreetGiphy"I'm walking through a parking lot between cars when right by my ear I hear an adult man ask in a syrupy-sweet voice 'Hey, cookie, ya hungry?'"
"I turn in shock/disgust to see he's sitting in a car with a little girl, sees me and says incredulously 'I was talking to my daughter.' My sister who witnessed this laughed til she cried."
Amish_Cyberbully
It's like humans can't hear themselves. Have we no censor?
'do you want any chips'
chips GIFGiphy"I feel bad, there’s some legit scary stuff here, by comparison mine seems significantly less 'eerie.'"
"Walking home from work and a bloke screams Up in a car, slams the brakes and gets out. I assume I’m already being done over and accept my fate (it was a long day at work, I didn’t have fight back in me). Anyway, the bloke jumps to his boot (trunk?) swings it open and just screams 'do you want any chips' I said no thanks mate, and off he angrily sighs jumps back in his car and buggars off."
davetrials
my family needs me!
"Not a stranger, but my brother stood up in the middle of a catatonic seizure and said these 3 things: 'Where am I? I have to get back to work in a few hours. My family… my family needs me!' - while looking around the room confused, and as he said that his eyes rolled back and suffered a second attack."
"He was 12 when this happened, and no, he didn’t have a job or a family of his own. I was there in the ER room when it happened while he was being attended by nurses. When he finally recovered consciousness a few hours later, he didn’t remember a single thing that happened that night and had no idea of the things he said."
AndyVilla14
Tuck and Roll
"I was in an Uber and the driver asked if had any kids and I said no. He was shocked and I asked why? And I kid you not he said 'I’m shocked no guy has ever tried. You’re a beautiful girl, I know I would have.' In that moment I was considering tucking and rolling out of the car but we were about to hit the highway and I didn’t want to be late for my flight 🙃."
Brilliant-Divine
Hey, you’re a great person!
"One day in high school, I was walking to Burger King and thinking about how much I didn’t like myself. When I got to Burger King, this homeless man inside yelled out to me across the restaurant 'Hey, you’re a great person! You’re a great person.'"
"I casually said thanks and left, like I wasn’t both stunned and creeped out. Reading through the comments, I see a lot of similar experiences with homeless people knowing what you’re thinking or details of your past. Amazing and creepy."
7Birdies
there was nobody there...
anatomy preach GIFGiphy"I'm a doctor. When I was working in psychiatry, a schizophrenic patient in the Emergency Department who I was clerking in asked me who the man in the turban behind me was (there was nobody there). I asked him to describe man and he described my grandfather who had been dead for several years perfectly."
amarghir1234
People really need to read the room before speaking. Good night.
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