More often than not, when men try to do something "sexy" in an effort to impress a woman, it tends to backfire on them.
Perhaps it is the visible amount of effort behind what they're doing or the fact that they don't do it as well as the movie star they took inspiration from.
Either way, despite their best efforts, women tend to find this sort of behavior anything but sexy.
In fact, more often than not, men have a way of turning people on without them even realizing it.
As it's often the little things that can make someone blush, anything from opening a door or slicing into a ripe tomato.
Redditor finnjakefionnacake was eager to hear all the sexy things men do without their even realizing it, leading them to ask:
"What things do men do that are sexy that they don't realize are sexy?"
When They Don't Even Know Their Own Strength
"Was getting busy with a girl one time and her head was too close to the headboard, trying to save her a potential concussion, I moved backwards and grabbed her under her hips and pulled / lifted her about two feet down the bed towards me."
"The sound she made and the look she gave me is still in my head lol."
"Afterwards she brought it up and said it was incredibly sexy how I could just handle and move her around so easily with so little effort."- Mage2177
So, So, Hot...
"I once changed a radiator in my house and that, without doubt, got me more attention and flattery from the women in my life than anything else I've ever done."- Jasper-Packlemerton
It's The NOT Knowing...
"It’s a trap fellas, just live in ignorant bliss."
"Once you realize something is sexy, you will become a self-conscious dork about it and it will no longer be sexy."- PMMeUrHopesNDreams
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Magic Fingers
"My bf and I went to eat at this restaurant before we knew we had feelings for each other."
"While I would talk he would either laugh or smile and once while doing so he circled the rim of his glass with his finger."
"I later found out that he did it unconditionally but I short-circuited while he did it."- AsasLowkey
To Each Their Own...
"An ex of mine once got turned on when I told her I put a hand on the wall when I pee."
"I’m not sure I fully understand that one."- PaleAleDale
One Hand, One Heart...
"My wife has told me taking my shirt off with one hand is a thing."
"That kind of blew my mind."- trugrav
"One- handed steering wheel grip, reverse parking with their arm resting behind the passenger seat."- getupandstudy
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Doing It For The Thrills... And Then Some...
"My girlfriend was locked out of her apartment and I picked her lock."
"I picked the hell out of that lock."- paulo39Atati
Hits The Spot...
"My heart does a little flip each time my significant other, ever so slightly puts his hand on my back when we’re walking (to guide me), or if he’s trying to squeeze by behind me."
" I don’t know why that gets me fired up lol."- princess19977
Knowledge Is Power!
"Being booksmart."
"If I ask my boyfriend a history question and he randomly knows the answer to it or if I ask about a math problem and watching him figure it out is the hottest thing, like yea you divide those numbers baby."- maneaterlex
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Nice And Oily...
"An ex said it was hot watching me change her car's oil."- SafeAndSane04
Compassion Is Always The Answer
"Caring for helpless things."- Maleficent_Scale_296
Speed Can Be A Turn On...
"There was a study done in Japan to see what school-aged ladies saw as attractive in their male counterparts and 'running fast' was like number one or two for elementary and middle schoolers."- Embershot89
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There's Someone Out There For Everyone
"I heard one million power in 'Rise of Kingdoms' gets you any girl you want."- Key_Vermicelli_3138
Strong And Efficient...
"Carrying as many folding chairs as you can at once."- KbossDPT2019
Most of the time, the sexiest things are also the most unexpected.
That being said, any good boyfriend knows that a wet t-shirt now and then can't hurt...
Redditor asexyjohn18 wanted to hear about all the things that get people in the mood, so they asked:
"What is a non sexual trait that turns you on?"
I love a walk. A little strut. Nothing like getting the heart racing.
Tingles
hair GIF by SB NationGiphy"Getting my head scratched or having someone run their fingers through my hair."
SensitiveDolphin55
"Same. It’s so pleasant when the tingles run down your spine... ;-) "
PumpkinSpiceMaster
LOLOL
"When a girl genuinely laughs at jokes I make."
Realistic_Practice16
"I remember being on a first date with a beautiful woman and I made a bit of corny joke/comment and she laughed at it. I remember thinking, damn, wait till I get to my good stuff. I did get to my good material apparently as we were married. She gives me as many laughs as I give her."
CarlJustCarl
Do Right
"Kindness. When I see someone going out of their way to help others for no other reason than it’s the right thing to do… that is some truly attractive vibes."
Electrical-Bid-9577
"Apparently it's vanishing from this world really fast. People who show kindness often end up in losses (of course not everytime but most of the time yes). It really breaks my heart."
Walker1798
"Probably the sexiest thing out there. Someone can be smoking hot, funny, talented, etc. But if they're not kind, they're unattractive."
sravll
Oh Yes...
"Smiling right at me, and men stretching. LAWD HAVE MERCY!!"
Skwiddling
"I have trouble smiling at women. Is this a turnoff for them? And ones I like are really hard to smile at. Because I know it's always going to be some really weird big smile if I am crushing which makes me feel like a super duper creep."
Maximum_Knee_4622
Simplicity
Happy I Love You GIF by Warner Bros. DeutschlandGiphy"Sorry if this is too kinky but i like it when they care about me."
SirReal10000
"Too far man. You need to rethink your choices."
Funkeysismychildhood
Sometimes it's all about the heart.
Eye 2 Eye
i see you GIF by VH1Giphy"When a guy explains something to you in a calm and understanding voice. Bonus points for gentle eye contact."
Belphiespillow666
GENIUS!!
"Being crazily intelligent. Screw dirty talk, I want you to explain some unexplainable s**t in my ear."
-F**KINGUSERNAME
"Heck yes. My best connections have been with a philosophy/history professor turned chancellor, an environmental engineer, and a neurosurgeon, all 3 Summa cum laude grads and conference speakers in their fields. The downside to genius though is complete absorption in their fields leaving little time for in person connection."
__trezora__
Yummies
"Everyone should know how to cook. Hunger knows no gender. I like to eat good food so I learned how to cook. I asked my mom one day and she reacted surprised. She was more than grateful to have an opportunity to teach me the ‘finer’ aspects of cooking, as she called it. Lol. I love food."
"My girlfriend, now wife, likes to jokingly say I got her into bed with a well seasoned steak and homemade fries. I mean we did sleep together almost immediately after we finished dinner so maybe she’s right. That old saying comes to mind. 'The quickest way to the heart is though the stomach.'"
SaiyanGodKing
Getting Green
"When I ask my husband for help when I repot my plants and he delicately cleans and moves the leaves. He is a mechanical engineer and he works with huge pieces of industrial equipment, seeing him so tenderly caring for my plants just makes me melt."
BoysenberryNo3877
Limbs A Lot
Excited Thomas Lennon GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy"Men doing intricate work with their hands."
GooglePixel69
"I second this, also someone who can play guitar/bass real real well... just watching their hands, whoa mama."
squeaky-mcgee
Well, it seems that just about anything can get someone in the mood, especially if you're kind, courteous, and especially a good cook.
Anything to add? Let us know in the comments below!
Redditor Undecided_User_Name wanted to hear about "unique" ways people find themselves turned on, so they asked:
"What is the weirdest thing you find extremely attractive?"
Don't Speak
be quiet canadian GIF by CBCGiphy"Husky voices on girls. If she sounds like a dude, that's just insanely hot? No idea why."
superbia1997
Butt Out
"My husband can do an incredible impersonation of a gorilla. Knuckles on the ground, butt sticking out, huffing noise, the whole deal. Wouldn’t you know that has gotten me into bed more times than I would care to admit it! I want to say it’s mostly because he makes me laugh so much but damn, sometimes I see a gorilla and I’m like, 'Wow, he’s pretty handsome.'"
sunnysunnysunsun
Nothing Fancy
"When they go all the way dressing up. Not in the fancy way, but in the 'Oh there’s a theme and I’m not shy to go all the way with my costume.' Shows confidence and a great fun factor.'"
mijranda
"For me that also goes for events. When I was in nursing school, we had what was called our white coat ceremony in our first semester. It's like a 'welcome to becoming a nurse' event; we all dress business casual, wear our lab coat, have a guest speaker, and take pics. It's sweet and feels pretty special, but it's not as big of a deal as our pinning ceremony."
"So we all show up for the event, and in walks one of our classmates in a full, blue suit. A horde of my classmates erupted in 'aww's' because he had clearly over-dressed, but that one event made me look at him different for the rest of my schooling. It wasn't the fact that he was in a suit, but the fact that he was over-dressed and not in a cocky way. He actually was really embarrassed when he realized his mistake, but damn I still feel a little tingly inside about it."
skoros
Dots
"Some impurities in the face like freckles or random black dots. My boyfriend has this one black dot directly below his eye in the middle of his left cheek. It makes him infinitely more valuable on the face market to me. Looks so darn adorable."
Oddishoderso
"That black dot may be a skin tumor/cancer... Not saying it is for sure but especially if he only has one and it has a texture, unevenness, he should get that checked. Especially if it is new and he didn't have it as a birthmark."
Bunny_tornado
Hold Me
Cuddle Snuggling GIF by bluesbearGiphy"Whenever my fiancé cuddles me, she puts her whole face in my neck and gives it kisses. It's not only sexy but super endearing. It's honestly the most adorable thing and she just fits so perfectly. I love her."
Saint_Umbro
A good snuggle, even an aggressive one, is welcome.
Imperfect
adam levine wait GIF by Maroon 5Giphy"The idea that in this microwave ready, Instagram perfect world, that there are people, like all of you in this thread, that appreciate the imperfections in people and make them sound like the most attractive features ever."
rhondaanaconda
I'm Listening
"People who can ramble on about their passion/s for hours. I love listening to people talk about the stuff they love."
andeelee23
"Honestly this is just such a help for my own self-confidence. I often keep on rambling on and on about stuff I like and half the time I just feel like I'm talking too much and the other person just wants me to shut up."
BlomSmashman
"This is hit or miss for me. I enjoy a good conversation, but I have a friend who if you ask him a question, he will go on foreeeeever without you being a part of the conversation. He just keeps talking about trains and star wars and Dragon Ball Z and airplanes and sh*t like that for like 20 minutes or more and youre just sitting there like mhm.... please stop."
VividLazerEyeGod
Drowsy Hot
"Don't know why, but exhausted men look super hot to me. Probably because being exhausted is as close as being the real you as possible."
aherusia
"I think there's a couple 'raw' versions of people. A great one is when someone is just completely relaxed, like present and not worrying about anything else at that time. You get to see what they think and say and how they act when the mental space is cleared and they're free to think about whatever without life's demands pressing into their consciousness."
Foxsayy
Wear it Proud
"My husband got himself this bear onesie. The first time he put it on I was like…what is this feeling? Why am I aroused right now? After a few occasions of him wearing it I was like, well I guess I’m a borderline furry (although I think it’s the snuggly softness that does it for me rather than anything animalistic)."
"He still thinks it’s very weird, but he will put it on for me when I ask. Too bad for him our anniversary is in the height of summer."
"Onesies are widely available, so I don’t really understand why so many people are asking where he got it (I mean they’re literally everywhere, and it’s not like his is special - it’s not a magical onesie, it’s just a normal, fluffy onesie with a hood and bear ears - it’s also not one of those loose ones - I like the way it hugs his butt…) but he bought his in Next, a basic high street shop in the UK. That was maybe four or five years ago, though, but you could definitely get one on Amazon."
chookity_pokpok
Pumped
Smirk Confidence GIFGiphy"Recently I've been working out more. My wife says the veins popping out of my arms and hands get her all hot and bothered for some reason. Either way it feels good when she touches them."
Papa_Skittles
We all have our little sexy soft spots. Veiny as they maybe.
Do you have any turn ons you'd like to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor titan_slayer05 wanted to hear about the times friends have left us hot and bothered, so they asked:
"What did your friend do that accidentally turned you on?"
Whispers. A good whisper always gets me.
It could just be directions to the store.
'car guys'
Speeding Fast And Furious GIF by GIF IT UPGiphy"Drive his car. I’ve never been into cars, or particularly into 'car guys,' but I looked over at him since we were talking and we were going pretty fast and I dunno... My body wasn’t ready to look at my friend driving his fast car I guess!"
spacemom4
Whoooooo Boy!!
"I was cracking jokes with a coworker and when she laughed at something I said she pushed at my chest in that 'Oh stop it you!' kinda way and whoooooo boy I damn near melted right then and there."
FBI_Official_Acct
"I used to have a friend who did that all the time it was kind of sexy the way she did it but it never went anywhere."
Beautiful
"I came back from freshman year college to visit high school and walked into the auditorium, where an incredibly cute girl I was friends with saw me, stopped what she was doing and literally ran up the aisle and jumped into my arms to hug me. Plot twist: married 26 years and have a son."
davidjschloss
"Your story makes me smile. :) "
SirVeryBritishFellow
Oh My
Oh My Wow GIFGiphy"Ran her nails along the skin on the inside of my forearm. I'm straight but holy f**k. I mean I was straight, now I'm not sure."
Osito509
"All my bi friends love this... including me."
WWhandsome
Talk 2 Me
"I have a voice kink, I specifically like very deep voices and certain accents. Playing D&D with my best friends can be very confusing for my vagina."
wickedwix
"Go watch corpse husband on YouTube. ;) "
EdgelordOfEdginess
"His voice is amazing dude. Anybody, regardless of gender can agree that corpse dadd- husband has one of the best voices ever."
BOTFrosty
"I'm a straight guy but holy hell, that man's voice. Some people think deep gravelly ones like that are disgusting but it does it for me. All the among us clips of him outplaying people definitely help."
We are all a bunch of horny people. Whoosh.
Touch Me
"This one girl started tickling me. When I started tickling her back, she started to moan and said she was sensitive there. Awkward drive home."
Another_Road
"That almost happened to me once, my friend and her girlfriend and I were all talking about whether or not we're ticklish, and my friend reached out and started to tickle my knee. I panicked, my eyes got wide and I and said 'You don't want to tickle me.'"
"I think she thought I was warning that I would get mad or flail around and accidentally hurt her. But really it was because tickling is A Thing for me and I did not need the whole group to see how I react to tickling, especially with her girlfriend there."
H0lyThr0wawayBatman
Flutters
heart adam GIF by MLBGiphy"She was the popular girl in our class. She said 'I love you' to me as a friend (I think anyway or I'm just incredibly freaking dense). I didn't like her but it still made my heart flutter."
Flame_Draconic
Just you and I...
"We were hanging out with a bunch of people and moving from one location to the next. She asked to ride with me in my car since I was solo. When she got in my car she told me to wait and leave the parking lot last. Then she said 'let’s ditch everyone and just go somewhere else. Just you and I.'"
"That would make me feel pretty damn good."
orion84gsl
Hold Me
"Was giving a very good friend of mine a hug bye and I must of squeezed harder than normal or something cause she just melted into me and let out the most pleasing sigh I've heard her make. Stood there for a good 40 seconds holding her up while she composed herself. Her boyfriend was not pleased at all."
kobester1985
"I feel this one. I'm a bear hug guy, I do it with everyone. Doesn't help that I have really broad shoulders, so most people just melt at both the strength and closeness with which I hug."
thatonewerebear
That's It
Happy Jeff Goldblum GIF by Apartments.comGiphy"As a guy I decided to fall asleep on a close friends lap who then proceeded to stroke my hair and lightly pulling it, it was really hard to fall asleep cause I was more worried that I'd get turned on from that."
earxenz
It only takes a touch at the right time.
Do you have any similar experiences? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor gosty_the_brave24 wanted everyone to spread a little history.
So they asked:
"What's an NSFW facts about a historical figures that we don't learn in school?"
This thread maybe slightly inappropriate for readers under 17. So NC-17
Educational, but inappropriate.
Clothes Off
Shaking Cold Weather GIF by funkGiphy"Victor Hugo wrote in the nude as a form of motivation. He was a horrible procrastinator so he would lock himself in a room and have his clothes taken as encouragement to get his work done (because he was cold). When he was finished, he'd get his clothes back."
retro-petro
How Wonderous
"Wonder Woman was created by a polyamorous man who was (a) a feminist, (b) a kinkster, and (c) living with two bisexual women. Wonder Woman was influenced by at least one of his wives, and started as a very overt, kinky, empowering sex symbol for women, and was nearly cancelled because of how explicitly she was being depicted. It's supposed that her rope of truth was partly inspired by rope play in BDSM."
ray25lee
Zelda Lies
"F. Scott Fitzgerald's wife, Zelda, told him that the way he was built, he would never please a woman. He confessed this to Hemingway in a French bar, and Hemingway told him to meet him in the bathroom where he looked at Fitzgerald's penis and told him he was 'perfectly fine.'"
littleredridinghood6
Ummm...
"Emperor Nero kicked his wife Poppaea to death. He later found a slave boy named Sporus who looked like Poppaea, had him castrated, and kept him as his wife. After the death of Nero, Sporus was taken by Nymphidius Sabina, who treated Sporus as his wife. But Sabina was murdered by his guards when he tried to become Emperor. Sporus was next taken by the Emperor Otho, who had once been married to Poppaea until Nero took her away from him."
"Otho called Sporus Poppaea and took him as his wife. Otho was murdered shortly afterwards. Otho's rival, Vitellius, planned on using Sporus in a reenactment of the Rape of Peroserpina in the Colosseum, but Sporus committed suicide."
FireFlinger
Domino's?
Pizza Pizza Pizza Dancing GIF by Domino’s UK and ROIGiphy"The Boris Yeltsin pizza incident, in which the former Russian leader was found in just his underwear outside the Whitehouse hailing a cab so he could go get pizza... https://www.politico.com/blogs/on-congress/2009/09/yeltsin-drunk-in-his-underwear-hailing-a-cab-021553"
fezwang
I just don't find pizza THAT appealing.
Falling Apart
tales from the darkside 80s GIFGiphy"Herodotus, an ancient Greek Historian once stated that female mummies who passed away in Ancient Egypt were found more decomposed than male mummies. The reason being was that the females were kept at home for longer periods of time before sent for embalming to prevent necrophilia."
Icarithan
It did not work...
"Not quite a historical figure but John Pemberton, the inventor of Coca Cola, did so because he was chronically addicted to morphine and was trying to get off of it. Original ingredients were cocaine (famously), sugar, alcohol, and caffeine. He was trying to supplant his other addiction. It did not work."
Nightjar82
"So another thing about Pemberton that I learned very recently was that he served as a Lieutenant Colonel in the Confederate army during the Civil War. His morphine addiction you were talking about was actually something he developed after being stabbed with a sword during a battle."
TylerD1528
In Public
"John Quincy Adams boasted that outdoor sex was an American invention. Between that, his pet alligator, and a life spent in public service (literally from his teenage years until his death), probably far more interesting than most people who've held high office in the USA."
Bowmore34yr
"Also swam nude in the Potomac, daily, when he was president."
costabius
Build It
"The new UK monarch King Charles III great-great-grandfather Edward VII was so obese that he commissioned a french carpenter to build a chair that would enable him to have sex with one or two people at once. It is called the siege d'amour and was installed at his favourite brothel."
haveasliceofpizza
Oh Mary
frankensteins monster frankenstein GIFGiphy"The author of Frankenstien lost her virginity on her mother's grave."
Unique_Finance_2358
"In the version I saw, her father didn't approve of the relationship, so she told him she was visiting her mother's grave to avoid suspicion and then met her guy there for sexy time."
Agitated_Ad7576
Well that is a whole lot of mess. Goodness.
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