Redditorh00psz004wanted to hear about the times people learned the profession of a loved one or acquaintance and it a bit of a surprise.
They asked:
"Friends or family of porn stars what was your first reaction when you found out?"
I have known several porn stars. All good people and a load of fun. And no, I won't name names.
Her Niche
Olivia Wilde Reaction GIFGiphy"I had a roommate who did porn. She told us about it herself and was very open about it. She was popular in a very niche kink, but didn’t work enough to be able to support herself solely off of porn. Now she has a masters in education and works as an elementary school teacher."
bittyitty
Mommy Dearest
"My mother is a porn star. It kind of tore our relationship apart. We were never close in the first place because she was a terrible mother but that pushed me over the edge to not want to talk to her anymore. I was 13 when I found out by the way. I didn't just find out, I saw. Things change in your mind when you see your mom's anal fisting porn. (I wish that was a joke)."
undergroundpolarbear
In the Woods
"I found my flatmate on a porn site too 😬 The shoot took place out on a hike somewhere (I believe she told me about the sexual encounter over a drink one night but not the fact it was all over the internet). I absolutely shat myself when I realised it was her- I felt so yucky and guilty for seeing her like that. I immediately shut everything down and didn't look at porn for ages afterwards lol."
Devojka_Iz_Svemira
That Girl
"First thought: Oh wow, she has nice breasts."
"Second thought: Yea, that's not gonna look good for her mom."
"The woman in question was a student in the grade below me in high school. I knew her sister and their mom was a teacher at that school."
slick1260
Something is Familiar
See Season 16 GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy"Was browsing and came across one of my housemate titled 'Russian teen amateur.' First, she's Mexican. Second, she's like 28. Third, THAT'S MY F**ING BED!!"
voice_of_craisin
It must be daunting when you recognize the stars and your apartment. Like, you could've at least invited me.
Freaky & Brilliant
teacher GIFGiphy"My friend got into the porn industry because it’s much more lucrative than her degreed field (microbiology). I wasn’t surprised at all because she’s uninhibited and freaky anyway, and just assured her I had no issues or judgements about it."
xxplodingboy
Those We Lose
"Male porn actor here! My mom found out... and she was surprisingly way more chill than I thought she'd be. Of course she hates it and doesn't want me doing it, but she was essentially like 'the past is the past, now let's never talk about this again.'" I actually lost a group of friends over it."
"Not sure how they found out but apparently they started talking behind my back about it on Facebook. One of those guys reached out to me to let me know what was happening, and that he personally didn't care. I reached out to the group but they weren't interested in hearing what I had to say, and pretty much cut me off. I think they were worried that it might somehow affect them professionally in a negative way."
"I've had a few girlfriends/girls I was seeing find out. So far most have been fairly cool about it. One actually cried upon finding out, but at her insistence we watched a few of my vids together, and it was absurd enough that we could both laugh about it. My other friends (the true friends) were just like okay, cool."
pornishard
Family Matters
"Okay. So I woke up one day to a text sent from my cousin, M. Who sent me a pornhub link to another cousin, S. Apparently she has been doing it for awhile, and got another cousin involved in her sexual endeavors, T. So now I have family members who do porn and took Incest Porn a little too literally."
forskin_curtains
Mind your Business
"Recently in my friends group it came to light that one of our buddies wife's sister (F 23) started an OF page over the pandemic (she lost her job as a hair stylist, and where we live was in lockdown for quite a long time), and now has a page on PornHub, even a sub-reddit. She does mainly solo stuff, but pretty heavy with one particular kink."
"When we found out, most of use guys were not surprised as she always had a promiscuous attitude. I feel for my buddy though, him, his wife are born again Christian, and it has destroyed the relationship between the sisters, as well, it has also created a huge rift in his wife's family, were half want to shun her, and the half are accepting, (the parents are divorced, so there is lots of people in play)."
"It also doesn't help that one of our other buddies went on a massive hunt for all the links and videos and sent them to us all, and presumably many more people, absolutely pissing off our buddy, as I guess he feels obligated in trying to defend his wife's family, it has created a rift between them, and overall a very messy situation."
cynicalyak
Who Cares?
So What Idk GIF by Adam LambertGiphy"I overheard my parents fighting and heard my dad scream, “WHO GIVES A F**K IF I SMOKE POT AND YOU’RE A PORNSTAR?!?” As a slightly innocent 10 y.o. I was pretty shocked."
GoAndrevv
It figures...
"Meh. It wasn’t surprising. A girl in my class ended up doing porn after high school. She was only in a few videos and it really wasn’t anything special, kinda lazy actually. However, this girl was very attractive and dumb as a rock. I distinctly remember having her in my entrepreneurship class where we were shown a slideshow of Bill Gates, with no pictures, to which she said out loud 'Isn’t that the guy from National Treasure?/ As far as I know now she’s an insurance agent and has 3 kids."
HooptyBiggums
She Made It
"I was surprised and then went back to eating my bagel… My aunt made her first million in real estate during the 80s-90s when construction and development boomed in California. She then invested in an adult entertainment company that revolutionized the adult content and distribution model in the industry and was one of the first female owners of a production company in that business."
"The films she helped produce were the highest budget films in adult entertainment and earned many AVN awards. This was during the late 90s and early 2000s when DVDs were still the mainstream method of distributing films of all types. She is pretty amazing and I always enjoy listening to her stories. Definitely made many many many millions over her career."
Accomplished_Cup_922
"schoolteacher"
"Not a family member, but a friend of mine from high school, Pete. it was a really low budget effort. the woman playing the 'schoolteacher' undressed and tossed her skirt on the bed and then they started going at it. While they were doing it, an old guy with a white beard."
"(Pete's grandfather, maybe?) walked into the frame and took away the skirt. I guess he wanted to save on dry cleaning or something. anyway, the grandfather was a building superintendent on Central Park West, and Pete was truly hung. I'm sorry I passed on that, dude!"
Gina-Smith
Top 100?
Who Knows Yes GIF by BounceGiphy"A girl I used to date started doing porn, I was disappointed that my penis wasn’t in the top 10 penis’ by comparison, but it wasn’t in the bottom 650 either."
Odintodd
The Ex
"Ex girlfriend is now a pornstar. She always wanted to make videos with me. I obliged to the videos but refused to upload them anywhere. She’s insanely hot and instantly recognizable so anything with her face in it would be a dead giveaway that it was me on the other side. 2 months after we broke up, my friends pointed out that she’s all over the front page of pornhub. She immediately jumped into porn and I’m sure my friends probably masturbated it to her (which I absolutely hate the thought of)."
WhoDat_37
hacked...
"Not a pornstar, but a friend from high school made some cuckold/gangbang videos with her boyfriend. Her iCloud got hacked and the videos found their way onto some popular porn sites. Somehow, her name was connected to the videos and a bunch of 4chan cretins found her family (including grandmother) on social media and sent them screenshots. I found all this out a few years back when I googled her name looking to reconnect. All that popped up were the videos and the archived 4chan thread. I have no idea where she is now, but I hope she's okay."
el_goyo_rojo
Go for you...
"My best friend does cam shows. We talk about it from time to time, she seems to enjoy it and it makes my monthly wage in 3 nights so I can only be happy and supportive."
Angry_Strawberries
Pay Per View
Glitch Tv Television GIF by Dr. Donna Thomas RodgersGiphy"They were a girl one year above me in high school. Obviously this was a few years after graduation. She had her own pay site so I never saw anything, but I did see that she also sold her underwear and thought was hilarious at the time."
Nerdfatha
It Just Is
"I stumbled on a movie that had someone I knew in it. I did have sex to it, then felt awkward about it. We chatted privately about it and he told me that though he retired from porn, he didn't feel ashamed of that chapter of his life. It stopped being awkward for me."
"Then I moved to SF, which has a giant porn industry. It was not unusual to cross paths with a porn star on a typical Thursday. Or to stumble upon a movie that a friend had filmed for Kink.com. The mystique of it wore off pretty quick."
j0m1n1n
Sex is fun. And if you can make cash doing it, more power to you.
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Found Her
richard gere gotta love this film GIFGiphyWhen I was in Amsterdam I did a red light tour, and the tour guide told us how when he was young and inexperienced he 'shopped around' the windows for a while, found the beautiful woman he'd ever seen, and kept coming back until he worked up his nerve.
Eventually he went in, stayed in there talking to her until about 4 in the morning, then she took him back to her place, that was nine years before he told us the story and they'd been together since then. She still worked as a sex worker and he was so open about everything, it was really interesting to get such an outlook from a tour guide.
Happily Ever....
Not the SW, but the partner of one.
I was going through a stressful time in my life and things weren't working out the way I had hoped. I was single and was always making time for other people and never felt like I was getting what I wanted in life. I knew nothing about sex workers at the time, and had never seen one before. I did some research for about a month or so and came across this girl's ad. She seemed legit and from what I could see in her pictures, attractive.
I booked her and was beyond nervous-scared leading up to the appointment. When the day came I went over and the cutest girl ever opened the door and welcomed me in. We talked about ourselves pretty much the entire night. I had only intended for this to be a one-time deal since it's so expensive! But, I decided to see her a few more times. I noticed she started letting me overstay my appointment time more each visit and I started getting suspicious. I didn't know if this was normal, or if she was into me.
I liked her a lot, but I figured this was her job and she probably just wanted to keep me, a steady income, around. She started doing other favors like making me dinner and my mind started going crazy and had to know what was going on. So I confessed that I liked her and hoped that was okay, and asked her to clarify what she had been doing, and what it meant.
Turns out she totally had feelings for me! We decided to date and now we're getting married!
Trapped
Really happy for the fairy tales people are telling here, but these stories don't end well often.
I had a second degree cousin who was a sex worker in Brazil. Started doing it since her father left her sick mother without a penny and she was a very beautiful girl. Worked as a sex worker for a few years and ended up meeting a Spanish tourist when she was 22 or 21. The guy was prince charming himself. Came back to Brazil a few months after meeting her to marry her and take her to Spain. Was really kind with the entire family, flooded everyone with gifts and sounded like a genuine nice guy.
A few months passed after their marriage and things seem fine, she gets to visit the family, sends updates constantly. Out of nowhere, silence. She completely disappears for years. It was the 90s, before cellphones or social networks. Her mother tried to reach the police, but it was useless. After around 8 or 9 years of silence, she calls back.
According to her, the guy was extremely jealous and abusive. The first signs were weird, but nothing terrifying, in her opinion. But things got worse, with physical and psychological violence, forbidding her of leaving the house until it turned into a situation where she was completely locked off the external world.
She ended up running away from home after many tries and took refugee on a church. While living at that church, she remembered one of her cousin's phone number - one of the few she memorized - and managed to call the family back. Most of us thought she was dead by then. That was in 2004, she had been missing since 95~96.
Now she is married and living in Spain with a regular man she met at the church.
4 Years In
Climb In Constance Wu GIF by HustlersGiphyMy fiancée is a stripper at a bikini bar. I used to frequent her club because my friend's sister was a bartender there and would hook me up on my bar tab. I met my fiancée and got to know her pretty well over the next 2 and a half years, then one night we were both there for my friend's (the bartender) birthday and got pretty drunk. She told me she had a crush on me and then later said she wanted to go home with me, which she did.
A year to the day after that I asked her to marry me, and I've been in the best relationship of my life for almost 4 years.
Caretaker
God, this was years ago when I was 21 but it brings back a lot of emotions even now. One of my regulars was a disabled gentleman in his 50s. He had broken his spine in an industrial accident and was paralyzed from the chest down. He'd gotten a large settlement and invested in property including his beautiful accessible cabin on the lake. He'd pay for me to spend weekends with him there as well as trips to the coast and the casino where he would give me money to play slots or see a show while he played cards.
He was kind and funny and had a comforting nature. I had bad experiences with men, but his disability made him vulnerable and open in a way that moved me and put me at ease. I even learned some of his care routines so I could be with him for longer periods.
He died when he developed a clot in his leg that broke free and got into his lungs. I didn't find out until 2 weeks afterward. His passing really shook me. I thought I had distance. I didn't realize how much I cared for him until he was gone.
Dawn
Related only, but one of my friends with unlimited business expenses was hosting in NYC clients from London. That night ended up at a strip club across the street from my home, and $1000 dollars in lap dance tickets ($20 each) in the middle of the table.
I tried one, not my thing, so I pocketed 3 of the tickets as souvenirs.
A year later, my nephew was visiting me as he turned 21, so I gave him the 3 tickets and sent him to the strip club. He did not return, but called at 8AM. "I'm making breakfast over at Dawn's place"
They went out for a few months.
The Bikie
A friend's sister and her friend were/are sex workers. They both fell in love with the same customer. The bloke was a biker and I'm pretty sure they loved the free drugs he gave them, not him. They had a huge blow out over this guy and basically didn't take long before they stopped communicating.
They both confessed their love for him and he cut ties with both because he wanted to spend more time with his wife.
Edit for non-Aussie's: Outlaws in Australia once upon a time rode on motorcycles and were/are heavily involved in crime syndicates. We call them bikies (buy-keys) (Australian accent) or singular (buy-key) (Australian accent).
ryan gosling friend GIFI saw girls always fawning over him- leaving some tips on stage so he would bring them back to the dressing room and they could flirt with him. I assumed it was a phase and tried to ignore my feelings. At the time I was suffering from chronic pain and an eating disorder. He just cared so much and went out of his way to help. We've now been married for 15 years and have three children.
"Lonny"
Using my throwaway. I was a sugar baby the moment I turned 18. Started having sex with a 60 year old doctor. I was poor so the constant showering of gifts, money, dinners, vacations, and clothes, I guess made me fall in love with him. All I would think about was "Lonny" (fake name) and what amazing thing Lonny had planned for us that day.
One day I get a call from Lonny and he tells me, we can't see each other anymore because he had caught feelings for me. I took this as my opportunity to tell him how I felt and I really thought we would get married. He then told me, "I can't be in love with a girl like you, so I have to let you go and move on to another girl I don't have feelings for." I was broken and depressed for a long time. I ended up using some of the money he gave me for therapy and eventually I got over it.
I Was Wrong
Julia Roberts Shopping GIF by SundanceTVGiphyI'll start with my story to get the ball rolling. Former sex worker.
When I was 18 I began seeing a married man in his early 40s who treated me with respect, genuinely listened and helped me with my school, and we hung out a lot too without having sex. After about 3 months of seeing him almost everyday I started to become attached. Then one day I told him that I thought I was in love with him and he told me, "I still love my wife. I only keep you around for...." I was DEVASTATED and never saw him again.
John
I've never used the term john, just client. While I haven't fallen head over heels for a client, I definitely have a few clients that I love. It might weird them out so I wouldn't tell them, but it's the truth. You meet some very interesting, caring people in my line of work.
I Miss Him
Cats Chibi GIFGiphyNever fallen in love with a client, but I do love some of them. My first ever in person client, and favorite regular is an absolute sweetheart and has a lot of the same kinks as I do, seeing him has the same excitement to it as hooking up with a hot friend. We had to cancel our last session because of lockdown and I miss him a lot.
Getting to know you.....
I worked as a dancer in LA and I met my husband at the club I worked at. We got married last year and have a 2 year old :) We are madly in love and no one knows how we actually met haha. Our life is beautiful together :)
Most people don't realize most of sex work is actually just getting to know someone very intimately. Lots of clients just want to talk, to have a bond, to forget something. Sometimes that bond is simply business but its no surprise that people do fall in love 💓.
Friendship
I was a regular customer of a camgirl back some time ago. After few stints I gradually started telling her not to take off her clothes and just talk to me, I loved her personality. She gave me her skype, and I thought, ok, and after one or two skype meetings I asked her for her paypal to transfer the money. She was pretty angry because she thought this was a friendship or a dating call and she said she liked my weirdness and general demeanor. We continued skyping for some 2 months more, and now we are actually friends!
Obsession
Married the guy that was obsessed with me, came to the strip club I worked at every shift I worked for like 8 months until I finally went out with him. Married 15 years, now getting divorced.
Dance of the Lap
Yes but I never really considered him a "John" He was a "regular" but he would just come in the club and we would have great conversations and would pay for a dance just to be polite since I was working but really didn't even want a lap dance. He isn't a lap dance guy, just has grown up with art scene people so enjoyed certain types of strippers and found them interesting, and a great way to take a break from his now corporate life. We quickly became more friends outside of work and if he came in while I was working it would be expected he pay me for my time but he had the money to spend so he didn't care.
Then eventually we started going on dates and we became official and he would just drop me off at the club on the way to work and pick me up after. A year later we moved across the country together and we're coming up on 2 yrs. we haven't fought once and very happy.
The Client
As someone that dated a sex worker, I just want to let any clients and potential clients know: sure. This happens. But it is very very rare, and if you are ever starting to get the feeling that she is into you, there is about a one in ten million chance that she actually is. It just means that she's doing her job well, and that you as a client are not. It's their job to make it feel real. It's your job to remember it isn't.
Benefits
Jimmy Fallon Hay GIFGiphyOne of my closest friends started out buying content and Skype shows. We now talk on a daily basis and have visited each other several times. As a matter of fact he'll be coming to see me in a couple weeks! We have sex and say we love each other and ultimately we are kinky pals. I would call it a casual long distance relationship as we are not pursuing anything different but are appreciative of our place in each other's lives. We say we are bffs with benefits. 😌
Like the Movies
I had to travel out of the country to attend my sister's wedding. The best man was my ex-fiancé (he dumped me) so I couldn't stand the thought of going alone. So I hired an escort to go with me and pretend to be my boyfriend. But he ended up being the most wonderful man and we fell in love. Worth every penny.
Happily Ever
Love Story Wedding GIF by angiecandellGiphyI'll keep it short and sweet.
I was at work when we met. I quit working and found another job shortly after. We've been together ever since. He turned out to be the love of my life.
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Beautiful Words...
GiphyThis was a long time ago, but for a hour of his 90 min session he just sat their and talked about his ex wife who hated him. He also asked me if he should stop finically supporting his step son because he wouldn't stop smoking weed in his house. Then read me some poetry he wrote, about his ex wife. I never saw him again but he emailed me more of his poetry afterwards. wizardmuffin383
For safety reasons.
One client came in, he was married, all he wanted was for me to put on a wig (That matched his wife's hair) Wear a certain shade of Louboutin lipstick (That he brought me...and his wife wore.) And Dior perfume (That he also brought, and his wife also wore.)
And then have me compliment him while he told me about his day.
He was a client up until his divorce and remarriage.
Edit: To answer a few PMs. No, it wasn't his wife's lipstick. It was a new lipstick in her brand and shade. And no I didn't pay for it myself... as it's 120 dollar lipstick. I have my own cosmetics. But for special requests, they had to bring me Unopened cosmetics. For safety reasons.
The same applies for the perfume. I go fragrance-free unless given a requested fragrance. Same rules with the perfume for safety reasons it has to be an unopened package. They can take the products back after a session, but the next session they would have to bring me a new unopened package, so most let keep them for a future session. Faedan
Be Nice.
Probably not the saddest, but it's the most recent one. Guy gave me $300 every two weeks just to text him and "treat him nicely". No physical contact, no nudes or sexting. Literally just wanted good morning and good night texts, and someone to encourage him as far as work and his hobbies went. HeCallsMeRoo
$250!!
I once had someone who gave me $250 a week to just talk and smoke with him. No sex at all. He was very lonely because his wife passed and just wanted female company. One day he broke down during one of our hangouts saying how much he wished his wife was here. I just let him cry while I held him. m033118b
In my younger days.....
GiphyIn my younger days, I worked at a male review. I had this woman of about 40 something who would come in fairly regularly. She asked me to a dinner date, I obliged her request, as she was quite attractive. About 5 minutes in, she started bawling, and when I asked what's the matter, she told me I was an exact replica of her son whom she lost to cancer. She proceeded to show me pictures, and tbh the resemblance was uncanny. We chatted over the years since, but in 2018 she passed of cancer. R I.P. TheeRealJesseJames
The First?
He told me his Dad had cancer, and he took out a photo album and we looked at pictures of his Dad's youth. Tuyangtusenpo
For Everyone....
Not one in particular but I have had a few clients who were severely disabled. Like in the way that they were paralyzed and required mechanical ventilation. It makes me super frustrated and sad for these gents because they still need a physical touch that isn't a medical necessity. They still have desires and wants. But they are literally trapped because they can't go anywhere. smokeandshadows
Online.....
This is a different kind of interaction of similar tone. And i had a phone sex client. It became clear after a few calls that I think his only interactions were online and involved giving money for attention back. I don't know if he had the means to keep this up or not. But he got very weird around the fifth call. Upset I wasn't online as much to talk. Wanted to talk all throughout the day and when he couldn't afford it would try to haggle me lower in price.
I told him that this amount isn't healthy for the mind and he should seek therapy. I was diagnosed with PTSD and had wonderful therapy that changed my life around. He got upset at me and blocked me. Two days later. I wake up to text messages asking me to take him back. He sent photos of the front and back of all of his credit cards to "prove he was serious". I felt so bad for him. Tedbastion
The Regular.
Not me, but a story told to me from a girl I know who used to be a sex worker.
She had a regular client who'd come in every week, and just wanted to talk, be held or innocent things like that. Never wanted anything sexual. According to her this wasn't that unusual, as some guys felt guilty about going to a brothel or just wanted fetishes satisfied.
But she said this dude was different. From what she pieced together he had an extremely unhappy home life. It seemed the only happiness he had in life was the hour he spent with this girl.
She said one time he booked an appointment but never showed up, and they never heard from him again. goatwomble
Say Hi.
GiphyI'm a guy who shoots porn, so technically a sex worker. I've got some requests of PH users who sent me some messages. One guy just wanted me to shoot a girl who would say "Hi, John (I changed the name), I love you John, I miss you John" and so on. I guess this guy has nobody who talks to him. Mars_Pornhub
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