"What is a tell tale sign that someone is a selfish person?"
"You Had It Bad, Well I Had It Worse..."
"When anything that happens to them is the worst thing in the world and whatever happens to you is not that bad and a waste of time talking about or dealing with."
"'I know your mom died a month ago but my best friend of 3 years died too so I don't see why you are so sad all of the time'."
"I think narcissism and selfishness go hand-in-hand so there you go."- AJM5K6
"They respond how worse their situation is when you’re sharing your problems with them."
"No try for help or listening, just trying to draw attention on their side."- seyfgs
"When every single bad thing that happens to another person gets spun around into their personal problem eg I'm really upset because my friend family member is going through."- Purrminator1974
Drama Queen GIF by Radiotelevisione svizzera (RSI)GiphySorry? I Don't Know The Meaning Of The Word...
"They feel no remorse for how they’ve hurt others."- avidhiker96150
"I'm Always Right!"
"Doesn’t think they’re wrong in the slightest bit."
"They can’t shoulder any bit of responsibility."- No_Key_6276
No Need To Thank Me, Because I Won't Thank You...
"They don't remember the times people helped them, but remember clearly all the times they have helped others."- GoodMerlinpeen
sexy youre welcome GIF by SatisfactionGiphyLive To Freeload!
"They bring nothing to the potluck but are first in line."- TRIGMILLION
Quid Pro NO!!!
"They gladly take any favors you do for them, but when asked if they could reciprocate once, they get defensive and or aggressive and act like you're the selfish one for daring to expect something in return."
"It doesn’t make you a bad person to expect reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic."
"Relationships are give and take and that makes them healthy."
"It's not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness."
"If you're the only one giving, you're being taken advantage of."
"I'm not talking about narcissism and manipulation, I'm talking about the natural give and take in a relationship."
"It is not manipulative to expect certain things out of a relationship (depending on what kind of relationship it is)."
"The whole reason we make relationships is because they give us something - whether that be support, love, safety, or other advantages."
"It isn't a bad thing, it's a human thing."
"Typically, with give and take, if you notice a pattern of one person consistently taking without giving, the one taking is the problem, not the one giving."
"The kind of people who use this as a manipulation tactic aren't the ones who stick around in a relationship for years, doing favors and kind things without being asked to."
"They're more likely to do one favor and demand twice as much in return."
"Why do I know this? I've had these people in my life, which is what gave me the realization I commented above."- random-shit-writing
Season 4 Question GIF by 9-1-1 on FOXGiphy"I'll Never Forgive You!"
"Every bad thing you do to them is drama-worthy."
"Every bad thing they do to you are details and should be moved on from, and why can't you just do that? You're so dramatic!"- Pasdusername
"If I Could Just But In..."
"If you are in a group and there is one person that is constantly interrupting the middle of what you or anyone else is saying generally to brag about themselves with a 'one-upper' story, is generally a precursor to stop associating with them."
"I've met too many of them in my days and they are more often than not happy to throw you under the bus whenever the opportunity arises."- Philay_shio
But Enough About Me, What Do You Think About Me?
"If they always talk about themselves."- Effective-Craft-1173
"They have that superpower to lead everything back to themselves."
"Even when you're actually talking about your own life or a specific problem of yours, they somehow make it that you start talking about them instead without even changing the topic."- Anskin12
Look At Me Reaction GIF by WWEGiphy"Ugh, Work Is So Boring... Can You Do It For Me?"
"Complaining at work to coworkers doing your work for you while you complain."- Minimum-Tea-9258
Perhaps the most frustrating thing about dealing with a selfish person, is getting through to them about changing their behavior is probably a no-go.
For they'll be too self-absorbed to ever think they were doing anything wrong.
I have never wanted children. Best decision ever. But y'all do you if you feel differently. How do we feel?
Restless
3. Taking a lot of napsGiphy"I like sleep too much."
CrinkleCutWotsit
"I took two naps today.. definitely couldn't do that with kids."
yawnfactory
The Unquittable
"I don’t want to be a parent."
ConnieLingus24
"This is reason enough."
Move4me
"I am a parent. One of my friends told me she didn’t want kids and said she hoped she hadn’t offended me by saying so. I said absolutely not, no one who doesn’t want to be a parent should be one. It’s an unquittable job. You have to want it for the long term."
lohype
Freedom
"I don't want kids because they're expensive and I don't have any free time. I have yet to break it to them though. Maybe after soccer practice tonight."
discostud1515
"I miss having free time. I can't hang out with friends last minute after work because I have to pick up my kid and feed her and get her to bed."
Detronyx
The Mess
"It can really wreck you physically and emotionally. Even if it's an easy pregnancy, your whole body/hormonal makeup changes wildly. People act like it's 9 months of sitting in a field, making flower crowns and serenely stroking your growing belly."
"Nah bro, it's mood swings, having your guts kicked from the inside, your hair changes, eyesight might change, all kinds of crap I had no idea about until my friends started popping out kids. Like I knew it was intense before, but I had no idea how intense."
outerspaceteatime
HOT AF!!
Cool Down Season 2 GIF by FriendsGiphy"A two person income with no children is too sexy to pass up on."
TheOllieTrollie
Kids are EXPENSIVE! I like $$$ too much as well.
Grocery Store Reaction GIF by TravisDNA
"I'm barely capable of taking care of myself, so I definitely shouldn't be responsible for a child. I also think it would be a crime to make a child using my DNA."
Maintenance_Person
"I commend this sentiment so much, and I wish more people would follow. My brother is 40 years old and never had kids, simply stating he knows he wouldn't be capable of taking care of them. There's so many unwanted kids in this world because people don't think this through before having them."
UrsulaVanTentacles
High Anxiety
"I got a cat and the amount of anxiety and panic I regularly have over being responsible for an animal that doesn't need to be taught to walk is nuts."
NortheasternWind
"I don’t even have any pets, but I watch my sisters dog and a friends cat every few weeks, and the amount of time I spent staring at them when they’re sleeping to make sure they’re still breathing is too high."
are_u_sure_aboutthat
Poor us...
"I grew up poor so u bet ur a** I'm enjoying my money not having to worry about diapers and baby formula."
HeadAd9745
"I feel this so much. I was the kid who never had the money to go to the movies or the concert or whatever it was my friends wanted to do. I make decent money but am so stuck in poverty mindset I'm terrified to spend it and I genuinely don't feel like I will ever feel financially stable enough to feel comfortable supporting a kid."
bgood_xo
Best ideas
Sacha Baron Cohen Thumbs Up GIF by Amazon Prime VideoGiphy"Wouldn't make a good parent. I'm 56. I don't see myself changing my mind on this one."
Varna_av_Vargarna
"My older brother got a vasectomy at like 27, no kids. He knew it was a very good idea. I actually agreed (I have three myself, he, ummm, probably wouldn't have been a killer dad). They're not for everybody, and you have to really spoil 'em if you expect a decent nursing home someday."
mcarterphoto
Cost of Living
"It’s not economically possible at the moment. Housing and costs of living are through the roof. If I were to move into an apartment with a partner, we would already be living in poverty if we both worked decent jobs. Having another mouth to feed would put us further into poverty and wouldn’t be fair for the kid."
DiggingUpTheCorpses
RUIN
"My mom was really weird. I remember her telling me when I was around 8 or so that my that my birth was a horrifically painful experience for her and that I ruined her body, and told me that she couldn't wait until I got pregnant and gave birth so she could 'make some popcorn, pull up a chair and watch the show' and that she would enjoy watching me get ripped up. I have a lot of reasons for wanting to be permanently child free, but that alone has had me turned off to idea of having children ever since."
R_lamar199721
About the gene part...
"At the age of sixteen, I realized my parents were abusive psychotic pieces of s**t. I refused to take a chance of me becoming like that. I also refused to have a kid that might have those genes. My sister had kids and lo and behold, she turned into an abusive psychotic piece of s**t, so I guess I was right after all. About the gene part. I am happily married with the same gal for 35 years, so I'm kinda smug all the time."
houtinhand
NEVER
Fight Beat Up GIFGiphy"I babysat my 4 year old nephew, and 2 year old niece and nephew over a long weekend. Absolutely never again for any reason ever."
ChoppyChug
Remember it ALL!
"The pain of birth. I don‘t want kids in general but if I change my mind I’m adopting one or two. And it‘s definitely going to be someone older (10-17) cuz these kids never get a chance. And to everyone who’s saying 'you‘ll forget the pain when u hold that baby in your arms' idc. I‘ll still feel it and I don‘t want this."
Suckingonurmomst**s
Life is good...
"I quite like kids. I am very maternal towards my nephews. But being a parent would make me an anxious high strung overworked mess. The stress of it gives me chills. I'd be emotionally miserable and my marriage would likely fail. As of now I am a happily married 41F, no regrets."
"I sleep and eat on my own schedule, have quiet morning coffees and do as I please. Savings in the bank. A lovely 4 bedroom home with 3 cats. Vacations for two. Happy hours with friends whenever it suits my mood. Life is good. I'm not giving that up."
laureltreesinbloom
Overwhelmed
"The idea of being pregnant, let alone actually birthing, is horrifying to me. I also have no maternal instinct for human children. I have sensory processing issues that make me get overwhelmed very easily and I can't deal with lots of noise or gross. I can barely take care of myself; I don't want to be responsible for a whole other helpless person."
Sombritte
It's Me
Kids Playing GIF by moodmanGiphy"I already have kids, but wanted to see the replies. All valid reasons, don't let anyone shame or guilt you into it if you don't want them. It's a personal choice, and it's fine."
oldnyoung
Kids aren't for everybody. That is truth and that's ok.
Redditor littlest_thing wanted to hear about the things that are not appreciated in the very beginnings of meeting others.
They asked:
"What’s the biggest turn off when you’re talking with someone new?"
I can always tell if someone is going to be a handful or not. They try to hide it, but I can feel it. Gross.
Convince Me
everybody loves raymond listening GIF by HULUGiphy"When they pretend to listen, but don't make the least effort to make it convincing." ~ Any_Weird_8686
May I Speak?
"When they talk at you and don't leave you with an opportunity to speak in between topics." ~ 1122Sl110
"Ooooh boy, I was in a serious relationship with someone who would NOT let me get a word in during conversation. I would have to damn near shout a few words to get her to stop, which she would angrily tell me not to interrupt her and let her finish. When she would finish, I had forgotten most of the points I wanted to bring up, then she’d accuse me of not participating in our conversations, how 'she had to do all the work' It was horrible." ~ KBtrae
That don't Impress me Much...
"Trying to impress me with money or discussions of things they buy with their money when they are clearly attempting to show off that they have a lot. Same thing with connections, like great, you know an important person. These always seem like thinly veiled attempts to cover up feelings of ineptitude, lack of true friends, or just inferiority complex in general." ~ Rod_N_Todd
Out-of-left-field...
"Random out-of-left-field insults/putdowns." ~ 12amSkulker
"Once a girl I was talking to let me know that I unintentionally said things that put her down. I thought i was just teasing her but she never felt that I was. Man, the girl flipped my whole world that day. Now I triple think before I even talk anymore. She left me on read that day after I apologized, but it felt like a freight train hit my gut. Glad she told me that, been improving the way I talk to people from there on out." ~ RXZVP
Better than you...
Im Out Amy Poehler GIF by FOX TVGiphy"When someone pretends to be cool and they make you feel inferior." ~ AdMaximum9782
All of the above. I've met ALL of these people. Goodness.
Blah. Blah. Blah.
GIF by HULUGiphy"You're doing most of the talking and they act as if they couldn't care less." ~ indy6548
"People who keep talking about the most boring crap even though you clearly couldn't care less." ~ carbombb
"That" Friend
"I have a 'friend' that will constantly interrupt me whenever i’m talking or talk over me. it’s always about her and never about anyone else." ~ supperoni
"I have a friend that particularly does this. Sometimes you ask another friend a question and he answers for a friend. Worse part is when someone talks about an achievement and he wants to impose how he achieve something bigger or 'more awesome' in his mind. I love my friends but sometimes that annoys me and I’m sure all of my other friends!!" ~ PlaystationPlus
RUDE!!
"Inability to disconnect from social media for even a short period of time." ~ KAPSLOCKisON
"Idk if this falls into this category but last year i drove an hour to see someone for a third date just for them to sit on their phone texting their friends on instagram. Then he made plans with them and had me drop him off for them." ~ giantoof
"Went to a social gathering yesterday. My wife and I were talking to someone who we haven’t seen in a while. We were in the middle of a convo, responding to a question she asked, and she just whips out her phone and starts scrolling. Rude. My wife and I glance at each other, and like on cue we stopped talking immediately and just left her standing there." ~ celsius100
Back Home
"A girl I took out on a first date spent a decent amount of time talking about how much money she would get when her parents died... they were both happy and healthy in their 50s. She also told me the music I had on (it was the radio) sucked and that her dad told her what REAL music was and I needed to listen to that."
"Then she said her parents told her she was conceived to a Jimi Hendrix song so she knew what good music was because it was in her DNA. She was so busy talking about herself that she didn't notice I did a 3 point turn and headed right back to her house." ~ SamIamGreenEggsNoHam
Feeders
Braxton Family Values Reaction GIF by WE tvGiphy"Someone who just feeds off drama. Like doesn’t talk about anything else but things that are going on with other people. I’m trying to get to know you, not some random sorority girl and what she did last weekend." ~ soonimaru
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I stay out of any and all political conversations online these days. That is a group (mob) of people who I can't take seriously, because they have lost the thread. And it's coming from all sides.
Service Concerns
Arrested Development Do Not Want GIFGiphy"People who treat customer service like trash."
"Customer service who treat people like trash."
I AM THIS
"People that base their whole identity on one thing."
"Especially when they have no personal contribution to said thing, aka Super Fans. A person who lives and breathes for swimming or cooking or some other activity that requires skill is totally different from somebody who just obsessed over a show or Fandom or whatever bullcrap."
"I couldn't agree more. Especially if the thing their identity is based on is devotion to sports."
Behind the Curve
"Flat Earthers."
"Oh there's definitely at least 100. They have conventions and crap. But yeah still the minority. There is a very fun and interesting documentary about them called Behind the Curve which I recommend if you're interested."
The worst part?
"Anti-vaxxers, anti-masks, holocaust deniers and more recently, "gravity deniers". These people makes me lose faith in humanity sometimes. They think the force of gravity was invented, or just doesn't exist. It resonates with some flat-earthers... the concept of gravity is correlated with a spherical planetary mass with a force pulling everything to the ground (center of the mass)."
"To the earth be plane, some believe that what keeps our feet on the ground is bc this plate is always moving upwards. The worst part? I know all this freaking disgraceful bull. Somehow I lost to them by occupying my already small brain with this crap."
Question People
tinder swiping GIFGiphy"Redditors."
"At what point can someone be seen as a "redditor"? I use it a lot but I don't consider it to be a part of my identity whatsoever. It's just an app I use to pass time. I rarely talk about it to anyone."
Oh reddit. You are a quirky beast aren't you? And customer service, there is so much vitriol being thrown about, I'm opting to just stay home.
All about You!
Pick Me Season 10 GIF by RuPaul's Drag RaceGiphy"People who think that the fact they have problems negate the fact that others have problems. Shockingly, many types of problems can exist simultaneously."
Obscure Opinions People Are Fully Committing To | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Info Wars
"People who get their news off social media. I mean more the people who will take social media as gospel. I will hear things and do research outside of social media to hear the actual information. And even then it's all from biased perspectives. So I read both lmao. Fox and CNN so I can get both sides"
"I do, but before i tell anyone about it I search for the whole article online so that I don't accidentally lie to my loved ones."
Too Extreme
"People who won't even try to think about how other people feel about things whether it be political, religious or just something petty and instead act like their world view is the correct one. Reddit can be a bit of echo chamber for any and all political/social beliefs. Some sub Reddit's get banned just because they are too right-wing or too left-wing and I'm totally against that crap people should be able to say what they want unless it's threats of violence. Reddit ain't perfect when it comes to censorship."
"Oh, must be nice"
"There's also the people you know who are always broke or in heavy debt and can't afford anything. Who always sarcastically scoff "Oh, must be nice" when you mention you went on a vacation or bought yourself something new, because they suck at finances and can't let others enjoy themselves."
For Sure!
Angry Excuse Me GIF by JinGiphy"People who are 100% sure about literally anything, and 1-uppers you know the people who always have or did or something the same as you or someone else but better somehow."
- Kusanagi8811
Preach
"People who preach one thing and practice another." ~ Bob49459
"Knowing the right thing and doing the right thing are two different things. But I don't pretend I do the right thing, I just advise it." ~ freakyjaz
"well the Bible says to be kind"
"Extremely religious people/toxic Christians. The kind who say things like "well the Bible says to be kind" and then turn around and make death threats against others. The kind who would give money to a church but throw insults/assault homeless people."'
"Those who use their God as a weapon against others. Those who would kick out a child for being gay or pregnant outside of marriage. People who say things like "Well God is punishing you for X" whenever something bad happens, or say things like "oh well that religion's fake so it doesn't count. Only my religion counts." Basically the kind who use holy books to excuse their trashy behavior."
"Also religious nutjobs who actually believe things like "credit card chips are the Mark of the Beast", "social media is evil and sending all our kids to Hell!", and "It's blasphemy to celebrate any other holiday in December besides Christmas!" Cult type stuff to like any who require complete obedience to the leader or a political party." ~ confused_enby102
We Hear You!
Angry Lets Go GIF by BrownSugarAppGiphy"People who say they are a bad *itch or alpha male. No announcement is needed if you are." ~ redpillbob69
Deep South
"First, let me say that I am actually ashamed of myself for this but I have a very hard time taking anyone with a southern drawl/accent seriously. When I hear it, I automatically assume the person is an uneducated, backwoods redneck. It's awful, I'm sorry." ~ QueenofSwords78
Type Slow
"People who can't type worth sh*t. If I have to struggle to read it because there is no punctuation then I just won't. I understand that punctuation sometimes doesn't come naturally to people, but I don't want to have to decode a paragraph to just understand what they're saying."
"So, if someone types poorly to the point where it's hard to understand I will ignore them no matter what. I've also noticed that this type of person tends to be super up and arms with whatever they're talking about too, which makes it even more of a reason to avoid talking to them." ~ magikaaaaaarrrp
Spectrum
"People who say they're empaths. Empathy is a spectrum. Some people can't or find it hard to have empathy. This includes but isn't limited to certain people on the autistic spectrum and sociopathic/psychopathic disorders. Most people outside of this feel empathy and can read a room enough to understand how others are feeling. If you go out of your way to tell me you're an empath, you're basically telling me you think you're special and use it as justification for being an a**hole to others." ~ redditstolemyshoes
Hush
"People screaming... like I don't understand how I'm speaking to you in a clam tone and you're screaming at me. Like screaming won't get it fixed and won't get anything resolved, speak right or just walk away 😒." ~ Expert_Geologist3888
Give me a reason...
"I will take anyone seriously until they give me reason. I was working a job over the summer between college semesters and met a big foot researcher or photographer or whatever you want to call it. Nice guy and I got curious asked if he had any actual photos."
"He showed me what appeared to be this little... thing that looked like a small imp or something? I don't really know what I saw, not sure if it was edited it could have been and I am going to be cautious and say it was fake. But what he showed me didn't look like a guy in a suit." ~ Outnabout3535325
Wow there are a ton of messy humans running amok. Is it any wonder why the rest of us drink? And I loathe 1-uppers. I had to say that!
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