While people try their best to be pleasant, sometimes we are so wrapped up in our own worlds that we don't realize some of our behaviors or actions aren't appreciated by everyone.
Things like talking on the phone in a public place or listening to music without headphones have become so normal that people don't always realize others may be irritated by this behavior.
There any many things that some people consider normal that others think are rude.
Curious to know what some of those things are, Redditor dentistani asked:
"What is something people find normal, but you find horribly rude?"
What Happened To Private Conversations?
"Face timing in public. Not everyone wants to be a part of your personal life or conversation."
– Fuzzy_Principle8075
"Talking on speaker phone in public. The number of people I see holding their phone out in front of their face while they yell into it is annoying."
– mattwb72
Don't Answer The Question
"When someone talks to you or asks you a question, then when I respond with a meaningful answer, the other person just talks about something else to someone else or just doesn't respond."
– aboxatar15
"My MIL does this. Whenever we visit, she'll ask me a question about work/my side of the family/a hobby I have/whatever as a platitude, and a lot of times before I'm even done answering, she'll be like, "Oh, hey, [my nephew], tell them about your baseball game last weekend.""
– Infinite-Weakness584
May We Meet Again
"Depending on culture, people will propose to meet up again but they do not really mean it. Where I am from, if you tell someone you want to meet up again you actually mean it. I learned it the hard way when I took people for their word and tried to arrange a meet up but they'd ignore me."
"They say they do this to be polite but I consider it more rude. Just say ''goodbye''"
– maya_clara
I'm Not Here
"People just showing up for a ‘surprise visit’, like I love my family and friends but sometimes I just don’t want to hang out and a bit of forewarning would be nice"
– red-and-misdreavus
"I've had to set boundaries with my mother as she was doing the "We're coming down and going to stay with you thing." Like could you ask?! Besides she's exhausting and never stops talking and needing attention."
– Fuzzyphilosopher
"If someone shows up unannounced at my door I just don’t answer. F*ck em"
– 360SubSeven
Text Me Back!
"Expecting me to be within reach at all times. Just because I have a phone does't mean I hate you because I leave it in the other room sometimes, or go on a walk without it. I'm not dead if I take a couple of hours to get back to you."
– billbaparker
"There’s a special place in hell for people who keep messaging you trying to get your attention simply because they want it and not because they have anything important to say."
– murderymcmurderface
Can't Hear Myself Think
"Kids watching videos or playing games with volume on. Sorry I was trying to enjoy my own thoughts."
– TheConstant815
"Listening to anything on your phone without headphones/earbuds while around other people. Don't care if it's radio, music, social media. Worse if other people are trying to have a conversation."
– Daedalus332
Personal Space, Please
"When clients stand directly behind me, looking over my shoulder at my computer screen while I'm at work. 1) Back up, I don't want you standing close to me. 2) I did not invite you to look at my screen, and it is intrusive and it is uncomfortable to have you watch me work."
– madindenial
Far Too Personal
"Asking married or older people why they don’t have kids."
– DragonFlyMeToTheMoon
Focus!
"Having your phone out while socializing. I’ve stopped hanging out with people who can’t put their phone away while having a conversation, it’s so rude."
– bamblb
"There was a guy I was seeing for a couple months and when I would message him he would take HOURS to respond most of the time. But then when we would be out together at dinner he would be messaging on his phone right in front of me, replying to his mates group chat. Really showed his priorities."
– MissMidknight
Someone's Not Listening
"Talking over somebody whilst they’re already talking."
"Everybody does it and it’s so ignorant! It’s as if they’re saying “yeah I’m not interested in what you’ve got to say, Me, me, me and me…etc…”"
– Jlaw118
"My husband does this! Sometimes I just stop talking. If I’m irritated, I’ll say, “Sorry, did my talking get in the way of your interrupting?”"
– godrainlovemusic
Going, Going, Gone
"Ghosting has become pretty normal and I hate it"
– toxicrith01
"I'll never understand why this has been normalized"
"What confuses me even more is why people get so defensive when you say that it's a cruel thing to do to someone."
– RadiantHC
Ask Me First
"Filming people without their permission, especially if they are dancing or singing. Just because people are looking silly doesn’t mean you get to make them your joke."
– Soobobaloula
"pushing someones face into a cake on their special day, that is terribly rude. Not funny or cool."
– winkledorf
"Dangerous too - fancy cakes with multiple layers can be held together by wooden skewers. People have literally lost eyeballs that way."
– merecat6
"Just this past summer, I attended a wedding where the bride gently put a bite of cake on a fork after they had cut it together then fed it to her husband... Even cupping her hand underneath so no crumbs or icing could fall on his suit. And instead of doing the same to her, the groom full on chased his bride down to smash cake in her face super hard and throw it all over her while she was being dead serious trying to run away saying "no. please don't!" . And while everyone laughed like hyenas and cheered him on like it was just fine. One big joke."
"She looked so heartbroken after with cake all over her hair (which looked beautiful), her face (with perfect make up) and her dress (which was a unique style of dress that she had sewn a piece of one her father's shirts on since he had passed. So her dress was obviously something that she put a lot of thought and care into). He then proceeded to chastise her after she was upset in front of us, threw back his champagne in one gulp and then went back to the bar then dance floor."
"She spent the next 45 mins trying to fix herself. F*ck that guy forever. She's a distant cousin and although we aren't super close, I have ALWAYS known her to be a perfectly sweet, kind and loveable person so I couldn't believe she was with this jerk! I hope it's gotten better but.. My hopes aren't high for her. I wish I had felt comfortable enough to approach her and tell her she deserved better. I should have anyway."
– iwant_torebuild
Mind Your Own Business!
"When someone you don't know very well asks you personal questions."
– Back2Bach
"Add to that, someone asks you personal questions you don't know too well and feigns that are suddenly really concerned/ supportive of your struggles. Like I didn't want to be vulnerable in the first place with you and now I feel like I have to be appreciative for your fake a*s empathy."
– GreenIce2022
I 100% agree with that last one!
Do you have anything you'd like to add? Let us know in the comments below.
We all have our preferences when it comes to the type of people we want to keep the company of.
When the people we're with do something undesirable or rude, they are an instant turn-off, and we lose all interest in continuing to hang out with that person.
I know for me that people who try to be funny by making rude jokes about others won't be in my life for long.
Redditors were all too eager to share their own opinions on what they think are instant turns-offs.
It all started when Redditor SnooRegrets8194 asked:
"What is an instant turn off for you?"
Clean Yourself Up!
"Poor hygiene."
– QuakerMoatsTFT
"Bad teeth as well"
"Edit: mouth hygiene."
– Dexios
Get Me A Mirror...Or A Filter!
"Being completely obsessed with physical image. Especially via social media."
– TheFastestHighwayman
"Idiot duck lips has entered the convo"
– Evening_Dress5743
Do Unto Others...
"Rudeness. Especially when the person is rude to people they think are beneath them."
– Honest_Art_3266
"Bruh. If I’m with someone and they harass a service worker. I get heated."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Only Looking For One Thing
"Worst is you thought that person was nice and then after a few exchange of messages, here comes a subtle conversation about sex. Very disappointing."
– jentlemonster
"I hate when that happens. LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX NOW."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Just Be Nice
"Making fun of your interests or hobbies"
– Illustrious-Swan-257
"Yes. If I can’t talk to you about the sh*t I’m passionate about, we ain’t working."
– MuppetsMadeMeMurder
Screen Time
"When she gets on her phone while we have a good time"
– Alexeleven_
"Dude my ex did this constantly. Every date we went in she'd be on her phone talking to her friends. I normally wouldn't have cared because friends are dope, but the texting got a fair bit. Well.. suspicious after I saw the way they spoke with her."
– ShortAndSad4381
The Past Is In The Past
"When they complain about their ex on the first date"
– poisonbuzz
Why Do Today...
"When men in relationships don’t do housework."
– tatonka645
"Lazyness in general is a turn off for me."
– Winterfukk
Table Manners Matter
"Anyone who chews with their mouth open."
– justfnbroken
"Hearing or seeing this makes me so angry I have to walk into the other room otherwise I literally get violent thoughts about the person and I’m not a violent individual lol I HAAAATE ppl who do this!"
– Cubaris_murina
Oh The Horror!
"Dated a girl once who was upset I read Harry Potter because it involves witchcraft. That’s a turn off. Actually still makes me mad thinking of it considering it wasn’t just a small argument. Glad that’s over."
– 3gnome
"Freaking muggles."
– PrivateVenue
You're Good, But I'm Better!
"One-uppers/people who don’t have a disconnect from talking about their wealth, job, or how much they make constantly."
– Redmondroses
"You There?"
"Someone that's overly into themselves. Their selfie as their screen saver. Constantly sending you selfies and talking about how attractive they are. Confidence is nice, but sometimes it comes off as self-obsessed.
Also someone that demands so much of my time when I barely know them. "Why aren't you answering??" Or sending message after message when I'm busy. Like damn, you don't got nothing to do but text me huh? I don't have time for that shit."
– apimpnamedlofty"
"11:01: We can go to the mall tonight yes?"
"11:03: OK FINE I GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO GO WITH ME!! I AM NOT YOUR REBOUND!!!!"
"11:30 I get out of my meeting and read the messages like whaaaaaaaat?"
– Both_Lifeguard_556
I See That
"Power outage"
– Swimming_Skin_5705
"I know an electrician that always turns me on… i’ll dm you his number"
– SnooRegrets8194
Time To Convert
"I hit it off with a girl I met online, super sweet, but hardcore catholic, wanted me to swap from pagan to catholic just to be with her. I never really cared about someone’s religion tbh."
– Roostersnuggets
It's All About Me
"people asking questions that they use to turn attention/ the conversation back to themselves"
– Eli_is_okay-ish
Yeah, that would be a turn-off for me too!
People Share Small Things That Send Them Flying Off The Handle With Rage
Everyone has pet peeves, little things that irritate them more than others, but sometimes those pet peeves evolve into a whole new level of irritant.
Whether it's subbing their toe or getting cut off in traffic, there are plenty of things that send folks into an immediate rage.
Reddit user 4ninawells asked:
"What small thing takes your anger from zero to 60 in one second flat?"
The Finish Line
"Having my expectation of the finish line moved is something I really need to work on in terms of going from 0 to 60 mad."
"You get off work at 4:30. At 4:00, you're daydreaming about the rest of your day after work."
"4:15 comes around, and someone has something on fire that needs worked on for an hour."
"You're cooking a meal. The sauce is simmering, just need to sear the meat."
"You open the refrigerator to get it and find that someone has already consumed the ingredient you were depending on. Now you need to change your plan or go to the store."
"You finish cleaning the house and sit down to relax."
"The cat vomits all over the stairs. Back to cleaning."
"You're grocery shopping."
"On your way to the car with your full cart, you get a text message, 'Can you pick up eggs?'. Back to the store!"
-UnusualBoat
Right of Way
"People who don't understand how right of way works while driving and then proceed to honk at me because they made an incorrect and unpredictable maneuver almost causing an accident."
-drawniw14
Not Your Turn
"Yes! Or people who try to wave you through when it's not your turn. Like just follow the rules and we can all get through this together, now is not the time to be weirdly polite."
-armyof_dogs
Cabinet Woes
"Hitting my head on an inanimate object like the corner of a cabinet."
"Have no clue why because I don't normally have a temper, but that happening makes me want to grab an axe and chop the fricking thing down."
-non_clever_username
Proper Exits
"If a building has a set of double doors, obviously one is used for entering the building and the other one is used for exiting the building."
"Now...WHY THE MESS WOULD YOU TRY TO PUSH BY ME WHEN THERE IS LITERALLY ANOTHER DOOR RIGHT THERE!"
-GruncleSharky
Turning Point
"People not turning on their blinker, slamming on their brakes to turn, and then turning on their blinker the second before they turn."
-thugnyssa
This Sucks
"The vacuum cleaner... odd I know, but when I was a kid the noise used to wake me up on cleaning days. I hate everything about the vacuum and actually dented a wall one time trying to fight with the cords on the damned thing."
-sgt-tibbs
Tongue and Cheek
"Biting my cheek when I'm eating something. There's a split second of directionless rage before I'm just mildly angry with myself."
-Prof_Junknstuff
Topsy Turvey
"Driving home from grocery store, make a turn and hear the groceries all start rolling around the trunk. I get FURIOUS."
-Darth_Corleone
No Patrol
"Pushy people who don't accept "no" for an answer and pester the hell out of you until you're basically forced to get 'mean'."
"Often followed by a variation of "Wow, no need to be so rude to me, I was just asking you something." Lack of social and self-awareness in people like this is astounding."
-KevinParker_IRL
"It's not lack of social awareness; It's intentional. They're trying to disguise their obvious disrespect of you by trying to paint you as being the unreasonable party."
-Cdn_ITadmin
Snags
"Getting my earbud cord snagged on something and them ripping from my ears sends me into a rage like no other."
"I have since moved on to bluetooth. Years later and I'm still pissed."
-madtrippinfool
"Came here to say this. Straight from zero to wanting to watch the world burn."
-distressedstorm
Jump Scares
"People intentionally startling me to laugh at my momentary spike of anxiety and fear. It's not f'king funny."
"I have never been intentionally cold and dead serious to anyone at work but the one motherf'ker who did this and then had a baby-a** fit when I firmly told him to NEVER do that to me again and to leave me alone for 5-10 minutes to calm down."
"I was almost outright rude to him about it even though he hadn't known any better until then. I'm not someone who experiences anger often, but this particular thing makes me 0-60 angry, and then 0-60 anxiety attack after I'm done being mad."
"I try and tell the coworkers/friends who I think are the type to do this ahead of time very nicely. When I get REALLY, TRULY angry in a more aggressive/argumentative way is when people startle me when they know better than to."
"I only have patience the first time, and only when there was no prior notice from me about it."
"And I myself don't do it to other people. I just personally don't find it funny when I'm a participant."
"If two other people do it to each other and are cool? Fine, I can get a laugh from it if they're laughing at themselves, but keep me out of it."
- Ellorium
Pants on Fire
"When someone lies to me. I am very f'king picky about trust—if I’m lied to that’s enough for me to go from 0 to 60 and stop trusting that person entirely."
"I’m brutally honest and serious and I despise people who lie for stupid reasons because it shows to me that I made a bad choice putting my trust on you."
- Abdelg20
Misophonia
"Chewing noises.
"Oh my god does that send me into an immediate fury, especially if it's gum."
"It makes my skin crawl, and it takes everything I have to not just reach out and slap the person right across their cud-chomping mouth."
- OneTrueSneaks
It doesn't take much to send some people flying off the handle—and that's not to say they're not justified.
Some of these would make our blood boil over, too.
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