People Reveal The Most Out Of Touch Thing A Rich Person Has Ever Said To Them
No matter how empathetic we are, or how hard we try, there are just some things we can't understand without walking in someone else's shoes.
That said, people who live with more privilege can say some especially out-of-touch things.
Prepared to side-eye, Redditor BananaBR13 asked:
"What was the most out-of-touch with reality thing a rich person ever said to you?"
Invest in Property
"My boss asked me why I didn’t just buy a house in her neighborhood instead of renting an apartment. The houses there were $300-500,000 (very pricy for my area), and she was paying me nine dollars per hour…"
"I had literally just applied for food stamps."
"A coworker of mine was talking with a parent once (summer camp in a rich town). The parent mentioned how she loved my coworker's dress, and wanted to know where she bought it, with the stipulation that it cost under $10,000…"
"It turns out she had bought the dress on clearance for something like $10."
"When she explained this, the parent just laughed like it was a joke, saying, 'No really, how much was it?'"
"I've never seen someone thaaat out of touch."
What Paid Vacation?
"Not a quote from the person, but my sister and I were planning a weekend trip with our two cousins, and one of them just could not understand why we couldn’t make the trip longer and couldn’t seem to understand the concept of taking time off work and that we can’t just not show up whenever we feel like it."
Yeah, Because That's the Same.
"I was complaining about mortgage payments, and she said, 'I know, I finally just took the money out of savings and paid mine off so I wouldn't have to worry about it every month.'"
Yay for Trust Funds
"I overheard a girl (one of my wife’s cousins, whose dad is very, very wealthy) say, 'Yeah, things got really rough for a bit there, I even had to pull money from my trust fund.'"
" I actually laughed out loud and she looked at me disapprovingly because I wasn’t in the conversation."
"This same girl gets an allowance (separate from the trust) of $6k per month. When she turned 21, she posted on Facebook, 'Hooray everyone, I finally got a raise this week!'"
"Everyone was congratulating her on her hard work, which is funny because she doesn’t have a job, it just meant her monthly allowance increased because she got older."
Tales from the Gift Closet
"One time a client’s kid gave a coworker an iPad. Brand new, unopened box. My coworker was a little uncomfortable receiving such an expensive gift from a kid."
"The kid just said, 'Don’t worry, I just grabbed it out of the gift closet.'"
"We were confused, so we asked him what a gift closet is."
"Apparently, their family keeps a whole closet loaded with stuff like this - Apple Watches, cameras, iPads, etc so that whenever they need to give a gift, they always have something on hand."
"In college, I was washing a bowl in the sink and someone said, 'That's the weirdest thing about college for me, not having a dishwasher.'"
"I said, 'Man, I didn't have one until high school and it was s**t so it couldn't clean pans.'"
"Him: 'Oh, I meant like someone to wash the dishes for us...'"
"Me: 'You're joking, right?'"
"He was not joking, but I got invited to their upstate place for spring break so that was cool."
Oh Yes, the Nanny...
"My husband was on a business trip w some rich people in Hawaii. They asked why I didn’t come."
"He told them I was home with the kids."
"The guy said, 'Well, couldn’t the nanny just stay with them?'"
"Nice enough guy. Just out of touch for sure."
Gotta Have That Car
"Back when I worked in payroll, a doctor yelled at me because his administrator didn’t process his bi-monthly incentive on time so it missed his check"
" He was supposed to go pick up his new Mercedes with that money (it was 6 figures) so he threw a fit to have a check cut that day."
"Two weeks later, that same doctor did not approve a check to be cut for an hourly employee whose hours (two weeks' worth) didn’t get approved on time because it was only $1000 and they wouldn’t miss it."
"I had to go above him to get it approved because I knew that employee would definitely be negatively impacted by not being paid on time."
Tell Me Something I Don't Know
"2008, Great Recession: My job was cut from full-time salary to hourly, and then my hours were cut regularly."
"My boss, the business owner who was in the midst of a company-paid whole home remodel, handed me my paycheck and said, 'Wow, you don’t make s**t!'"
"I didn't go to college for seven years after high school due to struggles with alcoholism and bipolar disorder."
"A kid I worked with asked me what I was doing working and going to school at 25, and when I said I took time off due to personal issues, his response was, 'Wow, if you're not making at least 100 K a year at 25, you've basically f**ked your life up.'"
Why Didn't We Think of This?
"Why have roommates at all? I don't think anyone I knew had roommates. Seems like too much trouble. Just spend the extra hundred on rent and live in peace."
"Said by an 80-year-old man."
Cheaper to Replace Than to Fix
"'If your car is broken, why don't you just go buy a new car?'"
"He was dead-pan serious."
Travel Those Feelings Away
"'Oh, you get seasonal depression? Why don’t you just go to the Caribbean for a week and the Mediterranean the next? It always helps me.'"
"I have a friend and she is very wealthy. She was talking about finding a charity for Christmas."
"I mentioned that there were people going places and paying off Christmas layaways. I mentioned a town I grew up in as a possibility. I told them the per capita income is 9k."
"And she said, '9k a month!!!! How do those people live!'"
"Then I had to tell her it was 9k a year. She was floored."
"She is actually a very very sweet and caring person and donates millions a year to so many wonderful places and causes."
While these people likely meant well, it's eye-opening to see how little financially privileged people understand about how people in lower income brackets live.
Hopefully some of the people in these stories had their eyes opened and were able to make a difference, especially that last one.
We all have those friends who do extremely well for themselves. They're rich, and they know it... and everyone else knows it too.
They go on expensive vacations and buy the latest and greatest in technology. They want for nothing and always seem to have the means to go out or buy something on a whim.
However, we may also know someone who can do all of those things but doesn't. These are the people who are just as wealthy as those who flaunt their money (maybe even wealthier) but are subtle about it.
They live modest lives, rarely, if ever, talk about money, and never make it obvious they have money.
Sometimes, they even try to do the opposite -- make it seem like they are middle class.
However, no matter how hard they try, there are few subtle, but tell-tale, signs that they are rich.
Redditors are revealing what those signs are.
It all started when Redditor ues1bredevasked:
"What's a non-obvious sign someone is rich?"
"They don’t have luggage when taking a flight."
"So many wealthy people have multiple homes with separate wardrobes at each. To just jump on a plane with no carry on bags must be a dream lol"
This Is Off The Rack, I Promise
"They wear very nice clothing without any brand identification."
"this is kind of funny. I knew someone whose family was new rich and he would go to lengths to buy brands that he could remove the brand tags because he didn’t want people to know what brands he wore."
Money Talks, People Don't
"Most of the time, they will stay quiet about money, but never balk when presented with a bill"
"They will be very selective in those they choose to be friends with, for various legal reasons."
"I had a close friend and I never realized he was from a wealthy family until he died. He told me that his father and brother lived in another state and ran a moving company, so I pictured a two guys and a truck type of company. When I looked up his father to send condolences after my friend's death, I learned that the company operated out of multiple states and is worth millions."
In A Rich Kid's World
"I went to high school with the offspring of millionaires and billionaires and something that I always noticed was how close sibling groups are. It's because they exist in the same space in life, they understand what that means, and they don't have to worry about each others intentions (unless they plan to Macbeth each other)."
"But then also, if you manage to become friends with someone then you kind of get absorbed by the whole sibling group. They're all kinda like "well ok, clearly he's ok.""
Basic Human Kindness
"In my experience as a waiter in a fine dining establishment, they treat you like a normal f*cking human."
"Not sure if my boss coined the term, but a "100k millionaire" will treat you like you're just "the help" and make you feel like less of a person..."
Ivy League Brain?
"Went to a good university but is kind of dumb"
"I went to private prep schools all my life. I'm doing this just to see what people say. But in reality, first hand, this is so unbelievably accurate I can't even tell you. I did a paper for my economics class in college about how wealth plays into elite university admissions."
"And first hand, I've seen many friends go Ivy who wouldn't even get into state schools based on test scores"
Stuff Or No Stuff?
"Minimalist homes. I don't know why...but rich people like the simple aesthetic which honestly doesn't feel homey. They'd rather live with very few things."
"It is because they can go buy anything they need, so no need to have anything on hand in the home."
"I don't get this, if I was rich I'd have so many fun things in my house like fancy lamps and sh*t"
"When you have several houses and probably a house sized yacht you have to spread your stuff around"
"Part of this is just a lack of clutter because they have ample hidden storage."
Only On TV
"If they wear a monocle and a top hat?"
"And when shocked they drop their monocle and say "well I never!""
That's The Dream
"They're too young to be retired, yet they don't seem to go to work"
"That is telltale."
"Retired early. So, you are correct, don’t work. But truthfully we just work at different things now. We work on the house. We actually DO a lot of it ourselves. We work on growing the money for our children and grandchildren. We think of it as “family money” and treat it as such. We have helped our adult children when they truly need it. We don’t squander. We worked too hard for it."
"Real generational wealth keeps an extremely low profile."
"They have no digital footprint. They actually pay people to keep information about them off the internet, and out of any publications."
"They will keep a low profile, driving cars that blend in. Nice, reliable vehicles, but nothing too flashy."
I Won't Talk About It
"They are quiet when the discussion is about cost of living pressures, and will deflect the questions from themselves and/or nudge the conversation into a different direction"
"This works both sides, depending on "who's in the circle"... Poorer/Richer than the group sign"
"I do this for the exact opposite reason though"
"Doesn't bother with the pistachios that are hard to open."
"That’s where the true wealth shines."
Experience The World
"Casually having expensive hobbies. Stuff like sailing, skiing, and golfing. Especially in areas where those activities aren’t as accessible and if they’ve been doing it for a long time. You live in the Midwest but you’ve been surfing since you were 10? Probably rich."
Don't Touch The Readable Artwork!
"I used to have a running buddy who was very rich. For me, the non-obvious sign were the books on his bookcase. They weren't books to be read. They were investments. He told me once that if somebody tried to rob his place, they might go for the big TV, but they should go for the bookshelf."
Honestly, those would be what I'd buy if I was rich!
Do you have any telltale signs we should be on the lookout for? Let us know in the comment below.
People Describe The Most Obscene Displays Of Wealth They've Ever Witnessed
Money is one of those things that many people find themselves wanting more of, simply for the sake of security and safety.
But for those who have money in multitudes, it's almost baffling how willingly they will throw large quantities of it away.
Already cringing, Redditor DefinitelyNot203Eels asked:
"What is the most egregious display of wealth you've ever personally seen?"
Unique Employment Opportunity
"I have a friend who was employed by a very famous old pop star. She lived on-site in his mansion (which itself was a very cute cottage) and was paid more than I am with no rent or bills for said cottage."
"Her job? To open the curtains of his bedroom in the mornings, put on classical music, and gently wake him up for the day."
"That sounds sexual, but it wasn't sexual; it was more like, 'Hey, hey big star, I know you're still sleepy but it's time to get up,' etc."
"My boss who owns his own plane likes to do s**t like flaunt the keys to his cars... Like, flick them round up close to the camera on a call to show off the logo."
"I think it really bugs him that I don't 'ooh' and 'aah' because I don't give a f**k about fancy cars."
"What does p**s me off is that there's an item I brought after much saving, and it means a lot to me. He heard about it and just went and brought two so he could comment about it."
Her Annual Salary
"The company owner got a divorce, went on a shopping spree, and showed a receipt for tens of thousands of dollars to our receptionist as a way of showing off."
"What he spent was 80% of what she makes in a year. She was really uncomfortable and brought it to me as the HR (Human Resources) person."
A Yacht for Your Yacht
"The first time I saw a support vessel, I was blown away."
"It's a yacht that accompanies your main yacht, and it stores your toys in its garage, it houses some of your staff, stores your supplies, etc."
The "Just in Case" Staff
"I once met a woman while I was living in Singapore who was a full-time live-aboard chef for a super rich European who had several vessels, but only took a holiday on the one she worked on maybe once a year, but sometimes even more seldom."
"A full staff lived aboard full time, year-round, just in case this guy wanted to board, in which case they would sail to the port where he wanted them to pick him up."
The Biggest Cabin of Them All
"I worked in construction project management. We were building a log cabin for a very wealthy individual using western redwood. We had the piles, and foundation in place, the first floor completed, and about 25% done building the second floor."
"The largest base width of the redwood logs we were using was 44 feet, and the two-story fireplace that included 12 hearths was clad in architectural stone."
"The owner found out that the owner of a car dealership on the other side of the lake had just completed his log cabin with the largest logs being 46 feet in width. The owner got one of his employees to sneak onto the property at night and take measurements of the logs to confirm they were in fact bigger than the logs on his cabin."
"Once it was confirmed that the logs across the lake were bigger, he instructed us to take apart what has already been built, and source new, bigger logs with the smallest log being no less than 48 feet in width."
"He also instructed us to remove the architectural stone from the fireplace and replace them with actual stones. This required us to modify the foundation, as the weight of the fireplace increased by 1500%."
"After about 1.5 years, with no limit on overtime spending, the cabin was completed, with the largest log being 68 feet in width, and smallest being 48 feet."
"I ran into the car dealership owner at the lake town market one day and told him about the cabin we were building and how we had to pretty much start from scratch due to the size of his logs (and my boss's ego)."
"He simply replied, 'I had no idea your boss even owned a cabin here.'"
"I had an amazing side gig instructing tech nerds how to drive their fancy cars at the racetrack (it's called an 'HPDE' or a High-Performance Driving Event)."
"A rich tech nerd shows up with a new McLaren 12C, delivered in a McLaren trailer and staffed by an entire crew of McLaren techs and engineers."
"The driver was complaining about how the $12k brakes would burn up after just one day at the track and escalated enough for McLaren to wonder if something was terribly wrong with the car."
"After one session, he huddled around a laptop with the engineers and found what was wrong: he was just that terrible of a driver."
If You've Got It, Spend It
"A dude just kept grabbing stuff and having me ring it up. At first, I was like, 'You sure?' Then it eventually clicked that this guy was on a shopping spree."
"The shop had no human necessities. I don't remember the total by the end but it was close to 5 figures in USD."
"He pulled out his black AMEX that weighs like a pound and boom, a mile-long receipt."
"That was one of the few days I wished I made commissions."
"When I worked at Blue, Justin Beiber spent a stupid amount of money just to ski. He tried to rent the whole resort to make it private, but they wouldn't let him (which I still think is hilarious)."
"This area also has dozens of houses that are all valued well over $10 million, that all sit empty. They're just buildings that billionaires bought on a whim."
A Library Belle Would Envy
"I'm a custom metal worker. We did the penthouse at the Plaza Hotel in Manhattan, off of Central Park (the owner lived there). The floors were made of titanium plates."
"The wife had her own massive library and we had to make a rolling staircase that an old woman could move. We did, and it cost $80,000."
"We delivered it and she said, 'It’s too steep, can you make another?'"
"$80,000 later, she’s happy, and my buddy has a rolling staircase at his workshop."
Holy Mansions, Batman
"I once toured a mansion under construction in Dallas that was about 45,000 square feet. It was about 80% complete when I visited and the interior finishes were amazing."
"When I was there, the artisans were hand-carving the front door details and the indoor-outdoor pool was being tiled."
"There was a bowling alley, a gift-wrapping room, a two-story master bedroom closet with a spiral staircase, and other over-the-top amenities including a ten-car garage with an oil change bay."
"Shortly after I was there, it burned down under mysterious circumstances, and its demise made the national news and a cover story in the Wall Street Journal."
"A kid in my daughter's sorority drives a 2022 Lamborghini Urus. Every time I've visited my daughter, I see this car."
"It's filthy and covered in dings and scratches. My daughter says the owner has had it towed repeatedly by leaving it parked illegally in the street even though she has a space at the sorority."
"She'll just leave it on the street near the bars, Uber home when drunk, abandon the car until it gets impounded, and then pay to get her car back. Basically every weekend."
"In addition, my daughter says this girl's room is full of designer stuff that the girl bought for tens of thousands of dollars, wore once, and then threw on the floor."
"I should note that there are apparently several girls in this sorority with similar lifestyles."
It's Just a Parking Fee
"My boss had to impromptu get a new license to travel. When he was at the DMV, they said he had to pay like $100k in back parking tickets. He just set a card down and paid it."
"Apparently, he couldn't get a parking permit to be able to park in front of his house for some bulls**t reason, so he just parked there anyway, and just accepted that they were ticketing him like $100 per day for years."
"I work at a Zipline in Hawaii. One time we had a couple of people come in, and one of them was a Saudi prince."
"Any time someone helped, or even talked to him, he had his 'assistant' count out hundred-dollar bills and give them to them. He tipped his guides $3000 a piece. It was wild."
Paying It Forward
"While at a breakfast place I went to a lot in my hometown, I went to pay for my meal, and the waitress was like, 'Don't worry, it is covered.'"
"The next day, I went back. Once again, my meal was covered."
"Repeat for the rest of a week, and I was baffled."
"Apparently, some rich dude liked his breakfast a week ago and bought all orders for the following week and tipped all the staff $10k to keep it a secret and to cover the loss of tips for the week."
"It was a small mom-and-pop shop, but that still has to have cost him 100k or something. For a meal."
"There was intentionally no hype, and the other regulars and I were never told who it was."
While there were a few kind and generous people among the fold, the Reddit community could not believe the amount of money many people would spend simply because they could, even in support of bad habits, like terribly wasteful spending.
Having money certainly doesn't buy you manners or values.
People Break Down Which Things Have Been Totally Ruined By Rich Folks
It's no secret that once a location or item starts trending, they'll become more expensive and harder for people to attain.
But some people had witnessed this on much bigger scales, like their childhood hometowns being transformed into something they didn't recognize.
Curious about trends and rich living, Redditor Lattethecoffeeaddict asked:
"What was ruined by rich people?"
House But Not a Home
"I hate when houses have that soulless hotel look."
"I saw one on TikTok yesterday with a beautiful Victorian house that they ripped right through and painted white and grey. It could’ve still been modern and kept the original character! Not sure why people think cookie-cutter homes are the way forward, homes with quirks are much more interesting."
"The worst part is, from the glimpses in the video, it looked like all the internals were modernized. The bathroom and kitchen fixtures were maybe at most mid-late 90s, so I would assume the wiring was also probably no older than that, too."
"There was a beautiful, original mahogany style staircase, and they sanded it and painted it a ‘nice’ grey. I honestly don’t mind some minimalist interior design, and I also get that mahogany and dark woods aren’t the ‘in thing’ right now, but that staircase hurt a bit to watch."
"Housing flipping for sure. I'm looking to potentially buy at the moment and everything has been fitted with new grey kitchens and modern lighting, etc., which isn’t my style."
"I may be in the minority here but it means paying way more for a house and then having the job of ripping everything out."
"Bourbon. It used to be the most expensive bourbon you could find was like $100. Now, with everyone 'collecting,' the prices have sky rocketed. The secondary market is completely insane."
You Can't Go Home Again
"My hometown. A lot of the long-time locals here are working class and it used to have a bigger sense of community. In the recent decade, rich people have decided that it's a cute small town with pretty scenery to buy a second home to rent out to other rich people who want to visit."
"Many of the long-time residents here are struggling to keep or find homes; meanwhile, rich people who just discovered this small town can easily buy a home or rent an overpriced Airbnb. It's literally disgusting here now!"
Food Truck Fun
"Food trucks used to be a way to get good food for cheap, now it's a premium without any of the advantages of a restaurant. Not to mention that they all expect a 20% tip for handing you food from a window."
"I went to a taco food truck. They put like one-hundred ingredients on one taco and charged $20. I would rather go to the Mexican place down the street and get a plate of four tacos for $10."
"Cheap and simple dishes. Ramen, tacos, sushi. Now everything’s gotta be labeled premium only to taste the exact same… if not, worse."
"Brisket used to be a leftover cut given to the workers who figured out how to make it awesome."
"Now we have brisket-flation, and rich people smoking them on their $1500 Bluetooth-enabled pellet smoker."
"Cheap foods, like Chicharrones or Tuétano (I'm from Mexico). When I was a kid, Tuétano was something that was even a gift in the meat market, now they sell you a d**n bone-in meat price or even higher!"
"The same with chicharrón, which was really cheap to buy, but with rich people discovering how good it is, now is impossible."
"All places up the prices because rich people buy them at high rates, and don't know what the heck they are shopping for anyway."
"Cries in Austin"
"My entire life, I grew up in San Antonio and used to come up to Austin with four friends with $100 each and have ourselves a rowdy day and night and the sober one to drive us home."
"I moved here a while back, and that $100 is gone before you’ve gone anywhere. Uber is expensive. Parking is expensive. Food is expensive. Everything is f**king expensive."
The Time of Your Life Is... When?
"I wonder if I'll ever get to live the twenties life that people always recommend where you get to travel and do the s**t you want to do. I wonder if I'll ever own my own place or if I'll be stuck at home for most of my life."
The Days of Collecting
"Nerd paraphernalia like Star Wars or Marvel/DC stuff (action figures, comic books, etc)."
"It used to be just a fun hobby for kids and kids-at-heart, but now it's almost totally purchased by richer, dedicated speculators solely for profit."
"I feel like this is driving up the price of LEGOs too, with the rise of more 'expert' designer sets and whatnot."
"It makes me very sad, I loved LEGOs as a kid, but now I'd only be able to afford the buckets of stuff. The creativity buckets are nice, but I love the sets. I want to be able to build a Harry Potter set but they're all so d**n overpriced."
"Instagram. When it first launched, we were content to post grainy pics of our average-looking sandwich that we made ourselves. Or a mundane selfie. The background and the angle didn’t matter."
"Studies show that since the wealthy started sharing their lives on IG, our collective standard of living changed."
"And it’s trickled down to our influencers mimicking wealth down to average users. We’re exposed to yacht parties. expertly organized and color-coded walk-in closets, high-end facials, and party-planned gender reveals. We’re benchmarking our posts with professional photographers and videographers, elevating our expectations for everything."
"For those saying, 'Just don’t use it,' it’s influenced every aspect of society whether you’re on it or not. Collectively society aspires to a flashier existence. Instagram has inspired new aesthetic-forward businesses like restaurants and coffee shops, tourism, home decor, and types of homes, gyms, and gym bodies. Fashion."
"Almost everything that has anything to do with money at this point."
The subReddit was unfortunately ready with responses to this question, as some watched their hometowns transformed into something completely new and unattainable since their childhoods, and others were unable to recreate favorite elements from their childhood because of the cost.
While it's nice for everyone to know about the fun things in the world, those fun things should remain available to everyone.
People Divulge Which Things Are Classy When You're Rich And Trashy If You're Poor
The price of lobster used to be dirt-cheap because they were so plentiful. In fact, it became known as the "poor man's protein" among European settlers and it was often fed to the imprisoned and the enslaved.
But times have changed – lobster is pricey and considered a high-end meal. If you've ever heard someone complain about poor people on welfare who are enjoying a nice meal once in a while, you might want to educate them.
People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor Seraphina_Renaldi asked the online community,
"What is classy if you’re rich, but trashy if you’re poor?"
"Being on a first name basis with a judge."
A spot on answer. They do they there are two justice systems: One for the rich and one for everyone else.
"Wearing a bathrobe all day."
It's the difference between looking lazy and looking... well, like Hugh Hefner.
"Someone else raising your kids."
Haha, isn't that the painful truth?! We all felt that one.
"If a poor person drinks..."
"Drinking in general. If a poor person drinks someone will say, 'No wonder they're poor, they spend all their money on alcohol.' The rich won't be judged for it if they decide to spend hundreds of dollars on a bottle of scotch because they're rich."
This is very true. Many believe that the poor should not be allowed to enjoy the finer things in life.
"Casinos. The biggest disparity is looking at the people in the high stakes areas that are roped off, and compare them with the people waiting in the breezeway for the bus, after they have blown their monthly income."
Casinos are depressing. They're not like the movies at all.
"Getting money from the government."
If you are rich it is called a bailout. If you are poor you should work harder. Love how that works.
"If you live in..."
"If you live in a tiny home it’s ‘eco friendly’ but if you live in a trailer you’re trash."
This is spot on. Trailers should not have that stigma attached.
"Buying old cars."
Those classy rich folk buying all of the ‘98 Grand Ams!
"Moving around a lot."
I don't think moving around as a kid is ever luxurious. It's just romanticized.
"Minimalism. Can you really call yourself a minimalist if you’re just too poor to afford stuff?"
Being poor, minimalism is very useful. It's also the only choice.
It's quite the world we live in, and the wealth disparity can be a lot to take in.
Have some observations of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
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