Every morning I wake up and I decide that I will do my best to trust in people on the regular. But often by lunch I surrender. We have to keep trying though. Let's see who can empathize...
Blame
It Is What It Is Dont Care GIF by AwesomenessTVGiphy"Parents never really believed me about anything even when I had an alibi. The worse part is them telling me I will not get in trouble if I tell them the truth which I was. My ex cheating on me and blaming me for it."
- SnooDoughnuts231
Drop Her
"My wife has been screwing another guy for several weeks. We have been married for 6 months. She didn't even tell me on her own, I had to initiate the conversation first. She didn't even end the cheating completely because she is "unsure about her feelings." We also have a three year old son. The conversation was last week. Guys, this is the crap that completely destroys you emotionally. I've never been so hopeless."
- No_Bumblebee7558
Human Relations
"I've been betrayed, cheated on, stolen from, used and abused, and a lot of other stuff but I still give people a measure of trust. I don't trust people with my life but I do trust them to a degree. It mostly backfires but not all the time. I can't imagine completely isolating myself because of the crappy variety of humans."
"I see human relations as a sifting process so it absolutely hurts when trusting someone backfires but I am at a place where I know what category to put them. Conversely, it's absolutely magical to find a person or two who are just so consistent and human but as good to you as can be expected."
"It makes up for all the trashy humans you had to process through your filtering system. Don't give up on finding a handful of people who will be sincerely good to you over the course of your lifetime. They do exist and you can be one to them as well. I hate it when the trash takes your hope over and above everything else it's don't and taken from you."
- NamasteVibes
Gaslighter
"My ex-husband made me think I was crazy and couldn't trust my own judgement, it took a long time to come back from that and I still have moments in my current relationship where I ask myself if I could be wrong.. if I should prepare for things to go wrong even if there's no indication of a problem. That's hard to get over."
- Deezus1229
From Behind
Latina Tell GIF by Jenny LorenzoGiphy"Enough people talking behind your back, making fun of you, and then turning around and pretending they have a heart of gold will do that."
- how-sad-for-you
Gaslighters, gossips, abusers and liars. Life really is a "Dynasty" episode on steroids. So many villains, so little time. We just all have to learn to survive.
Broken
Sad Talk To Me GIF by SpongeBob SquarePantsGiphy"Too much broken trust and heartbreak when it comes to relationships, people taking me for granted, emotional abuse, gaslighting, & partners cheating on me."
- Ghoulthrower676
The Twin
"As a kid 90% of my friends were nice to me, but really hated me. Only reason I knew was because my twin sister told me they went to her to complain about me. I learned from them to see when someone was holding back from me. Turns out my whole family has similar signs. They still hide stuff from me, but they fill me in on their thoughts after the fact now. Still, it did a number on me. Still don't know why those kids disliked me so much."
- ugg_monster
I Got Me
"Being a child who was constantly shown that the people in positions of power over them, that were supposed to trust and care for them, would actually always choose to use that power to abuse, manipulate, and control. You then grow up feeling like you can only rely on you and anyone who seems trustworthy is actually dangerous. And that's on therapy lmao."
- ruffianpenguin
The Dork
"In high school, found out from someone leaving their Facebook open that my friends just felt obligated to hang out with me and wished they didn't have to. I was a giant dork who probably embarrassed them, so it's understandable to some extent, still wish they had gone about it a different way, or I had found out a different way. It's still hard to keep thoughts of "my friends secretly hate me" away sometimes."
- cummb
A Mess
"Trust issues with parents verbal abusive by them I may have bipolar not sure which kind but it will mess with me occasionally and I hate my life been treated like crap."
- Guilty_gun
A-Ha
GIF by IdentityGiphy"Like I'd tell a stranger on the internet. Fool me once..."
- jeremyroastscoffee
Psycho
"My ex tied me to a chair and said we were going to have some fun. She then has her ex come into the room, made me watch her have sex with him. That and a few months later, she broke my hand with a hammer. I am perfectly fine now, really. It all happened 25 years ago. Thank you all for the kindness just the same."
kilo_1_1
Cheater
"Dated this girl I always caught red handed cheating and she would flat out deny it ever happened days later. That crap messed me up. Funny part was down the line when she would say things like, 'The problem is you don't trust me, that's why we always fighting.' Never trusted a girl ever again."
"Ohhh it gets better... afterwards she lied to me that she was going into another country for a job and lied she was going to live with her mom's sister whilst she was going to live there with her friend and then she got pregnant by a married man and now she is a single mom struggling to make ends meet."
decapitare95
The Cost
"I don't know if it's trust issues, per se, but I am very hard-nosed about not taking crap from anybody. I had a physically abusive first husband and an emotionally abusive second husband and I simply will not lay down and take any kind of abuse from anyone any more. This has cost me a friendship or two but frankly, if that is how they are going to be, they aren't my friends after all."
eatyourdamndinner
"safe one"
Group Hug GIF by NBCGiphy"Foster care Lmao."
crispypotleaf
"This breaks my heart. My girlfriend and I want to be foster parents and be the house that the kids always remember as the 'safe one,' where they're welcomed back at any time."
MidKnightDreary
The Leftover
"I was the odd one out through elementary and most of middle school. Then when I finally made some friends, my best friend abandoned me out of the blue and one of my other close friends turned out to be a liar and enjoyed toying with my emotions."
Ostmitch
“best friends”
"Every woman I’ve ever been close to has hurt me badly. My mom destroyed my self esteem, my aunts and grandma on her side of the family weren’t any better, and I had a series of toxic 'best friends' that treated me like shit one way or another. Now I’m terrified to form a close friendship with a woman and will run screaming when one tries."
HighAsAngelTits
let me drown...
"Only person I've ever dated was mentally and physically abusive, she also tried to drown me. Everyone I start to slightly trust goes away, I just show a slight bit of my mind, and they go away. So, I don't trust anyone, it's probably better for them, people probably don't want to know how dark my mind can get, and I don't have to take a chance of getting f**ked over."
BananaKbone
Don't Watch
Triple H Reaction GIF by WWEGiphy"I automatically assume the worst in everyone because of the messed up things I’ve seen on the internet."
shadowssx
Erasure
"Slowly having my trust erased throughout my life by friends, family members, colleagues. I absolutely don’t trust anybody. And it hurts, because I love my husband dearly but sometimes it feels like he takes advantage of my good nature. He absolutely doesn’t, it’s just my past problems projecting onto our relationship. I’m also paranoid AF due to mental health problems."
Retrosonic82
People suck. Hard, cold facts. So what do we do? Therapy. Therapy. THERAPY! And meds, with the occasional vodka/soda. Half the reason life is so arduous is the distrust brought about by others.
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