Let's be honest: men and women are different, and even that statement is pretty diminutive of the truth.
Men and women feel things differently. They think about things differently and go through different things. Their experiences and knowledge base are different.
Sometimes, this means men and women don't understand each other very well. The best way to solve a mystery is to ask a question, but men sometimes feel nervous about doing so. They don't want to offend women by getting too personal, and they don't know how else to proceed.
That's why it's a good thing Reddit exists. Men have finally asked their questions, and women have answered!
It all started when Redditor Asking35 asked:
“Men, what is something about women you are curious about but too afraid to ask?"
Perfect Nest
"What’s with all the pillows?"
– Canucker5000
"They make this glorious nest so I can sleep on my side without my hips tightening overnight, support behind my back and shoulders, support against my boobs, good positioning for my arms and legs, etc..."
"It's wonderfully comfy and cozy."
– ISwearIUsedToBeSmart
Health Is Hard
"Why do you steal my food"
– SleepingAddict21
"You left it unguarded lol"
– Blondy85019
""I'll have the 'My wife's not hungry". It comes with French fries, onion rings, and chicken nuggets."
– warda8825
"omg I've been waiting for the opportunity to answer this!"
"I don't know about other women, but for me it's because my husband isn't as health conscious about what he eats as I am. And I know that doesn't make sense at first but hear me out..."
"I don't have the same metabolism as my husband and have to monitor what I eat not to gain weight, which I don't like doing cuz it makes my back hurt. The problem is, my husband constantly brings home junk food or take out. He'll always ask if I want something from taco bell or Wendys or something and I'll say no because I genuinely don't want him to bring me any cuz I'm trying to be healthy. But it's always wishful thinking because as soon as he comes home and I catch a whiff of those McDonald's fries I literally can't resist eating some. Or when we're on the couch and he's munching on a cheesy taco, my salad start to look less appetizing and I find myself just staring at his food."
"This never happened when I lived alone because I would just buy healthy groceries so there wouldn't be any junk food at home tempting me with their seductive amazingness. And when I eat out alone I just order something healthy and there's nobody there tempting me with their delicious plate of nachos."
"So yeah to sum it up it's basically just me wishing to eat healthy but then not having any self control when my partner indulges in junk food in front of me."
"Any guys out there, if you want to test if your girl is doing the same thing, try eating healthier and see if she tries to steal your bowl of brown rice with veggies the same as she steels your fries. If she has no problem leaving your food alone when you eat healthier, then maybe stop eating junk food in front of her lol. Or continue, but just expect that she is not going to want to order whole meal but is going to have trouble resisting a couple fries when the smell hits her."
– koolaid-girl-40
Confidence Is Key
"Do you actually like it when a man approaches you with the intention of asking you on a date? I don't mean catcalling and that sort of weird sh*t, just being genuine and straightforward."
– PastOrdinary
"Depends on the situation. And talk to/get to know me first."
"Also, if I say “no” don’t persist."
– mercfan3
"Depends a little on how. If it's someone I've already met a couple of times, like a colleague/fellow student or friend of a friend, I don't mind if he is forward and asks me out - that confidence is attractive, and something I'd envy him, lol."
"If its someone I don't know or just met I prefer if he gives me his contact information rather than asking for mine. I'll most likely say no if it is the latter."
"Something simple like, "Hey, I really enjoyed talking to you and would like to go out sometime to get to know you better. Here's my number". That puts me less on the spot and if he's not my type there won't be the awkwardness of immediate rejection."
"But that's just me."
– Mugwumpen
Be Honest
"Do you admire a guy after he chooses to be vulnerable and bare it all in front of you?"
– awara_bakchod
"Yes. Personally, I have a hard time opening up and just talking about my feelings in general. Whenever my husband does, it makes me feel like I’m doing something right."
– asiazoldyck
Sending A Message
"Why do they all put their hand on their man’s stomach for photos?"
– RojoandWhite
"We want to make sure whomever is looking at the pic to know this is my romantic partner, not my friend."
– KathTurner
"Mine, that’s why."
– Jelly-Unhappy
Monthly Visitor
"Is there a calendar function to the menstrual cycle that you guys have memorized? Like does it happen some time on X number week of the month or is it much more systematic and occurs every 30/31 days?"
– TheGamingNerd80085
"First of all, the period is the first 5-7 days of the menstrual cycle. The menstrual cycle is 28-35 days long."
"Everyone is different. Some people it’s every 28 days on the dot exactly, other people it’s “oh it’ll happen sometime this week” and some people it can vary massively. The average is every 28 days but a normal (normal meaning not to be concerned about) is 28-35 days. And then some people do not have a regular cycle, I myself have had it go from 32 - 52 days in the last year."
"Your period happens 12-14 days after you ovulate, which happens on day 12-14 in a 28 day menstrual cycle. The time in between is called the luteal phase. Then your period starts, and the cycle starts over on day 1."
– anchordwn
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
"Hmm, well I've always wondered why women need an entire Sephora store's worth of makeup just to go to the grocery store. But I'm pretty sure if I ask that question out loud, I'll get hit with a mascara wand. So I'll just keep wondering in silence."
– Extension-Release558
"I’ll gladly answer this without throwing anything at you!😂 Make-up is fun; it really is that simple for a lot of us. That’s along with wanting to look our best, which in turn makes us feel our best."
– Maleficent_Tie4767
I Don't Get Cold...Sort Of
"How are y’all not freezing when you wear dresses to the club in winter"
– adz568
"We are. We’re just tougher than men ;)"
– bigkitty17
"It’s not that we aren’t cold most times, it’s that we are taught by society in general that we have to ignore our own comfort for other people."
– tweetybirdlover
It's Mine Now
"Why do you take our hoodies and never give them back?"
– HumpieDouglas
"Because they smell good and they're comfy :)"
– SelphiesSmile
Everyone's Different
"what part of the male body are you attracted to"
– Tonton1605
"Hands that are well kept and groomed finger nails, nice eyebrows and eyes"
– P0pCandie
"I personally like a nicely trimmed beard. Scraggly beards look horrible IMO."
– kaydaugherty423
"Biceps."
– the-Lady-Lazarus
Hear Me Coming
"Do y'all ever wear heels just to hear the clip-clopping of them on the pavement like you're the main character in a movie? Because that's what I'd do if I wore heels, and I wish to know if there's a woman out there whose brain is on my wavelength or if this is just me."
– VoidChickenFan
"Yup. but the feeling is stronger when walking in a fancy building"
– RominaRaBer
"I choose my heels by a) how they look b) how they sound. If they are quiet, I don’t usually get them."
– notgonnasext
Exactly! What's the point of quiet heels?
Thanks to the ladies of Reddit for sharing their responses to some of these Redditor's questions.
Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.
We all have different perhaps strange activities that are satisfying.
There isn't really any cut-and-dry format to what we should enjoy.
There are however many things that most of the populace are adverse to.
Working outside in the heat or very cold weather, going to the dentist, or having to tackle a big disorganized mess are not typically on top of anyone's to-do list. Although some things for this writer bring a smile of satisfaction when done.
Strangely enough, I love cleaning cast iron cookware. Getting it really clean and then seasoning it with oil, bringing it out of the oven from heating to see the shiny deep black surface of a job well done makes me happy, even though it's a pain.
Redditor WowADeadMidget wanted to hear what the other weirdos of the world enjoyed.
They asked:
"What do you enjoy doing that most people generally dislike?"
The responses were all too relatable.
Being a total night owl...
“Being up all night and sleeping all day. People may enjoy it but as a societal whole it's frowned upon. I feel horrible when I'm awake during the day and when night hits I feel naturally more awake.”
“Problem is nothing is open at night where I am so I can't shop and get things done at night, and again, it's really looked down on to be up at night and sleep during the day. You're considered lazy or unwilling to work, selfish, all sorts of things. I'd rather have a night job and sleep during the day.”
“Edit for additional information apparently. I am not a child or a teen who ‘just doesn't like people’ I am in my thirties. I appreciate the dm's and comments from those who relate, glad it seems there are a lot of us who not only enjoy being awake at night and sleeping during the day, but genuinely can only properly function this way.”
“Hello fellow Night guard haha.” toxicoverride
Flying...
“I love being on planes. Just the experience of taking off and landing. I actually enjoy the pressure you get on your ear. But the best thing about is looking down at the place I came from or are going to.”
“ I really enjoy looking at maps and google earth so it feels great to see it with my own eyes. I can see my whole life from the window, where I live and where I go to school. It is just a lovely experience and totally worth the small leg room." Malthegudum
“The loud lawn mower lets me sing..."
“Yard work - as long as it's not too hot. If it's slightly chilled or just a nice day, I enjoy buckling down and just doing a lot of yard work. I get a sense of accomplishment when done, it helps ease my mind seeing the lines of grass being cut, especially that last piece to finish a section.”
“And once I get going I knock out several things. It's therapeutic to me. The loud lawn mower lets me sing, or collect thought about things going on in my life, or think those afterthought insults you wish you threw at someone in an argument earlier that day that would have hit home in the perfect way you wanted. Stuff like that lol” Poocheese55
“walking alone with or without destination..."
“Walking. Just, walking alone with or without destination, often to places I've never been before and past 2 am when there's noone in the streets, just observing the surrounding as they slowly pass by me, with my thoughts to myself.”
“I just find it relaxing and oddly sublime. Even in daily life, sometimes I find myself looking at some places and thinking ‘it would be nice to walk around in there’.”
“Edit: judging by the amount of upvotes and comments I'm getting, this might have been not so disliked activity as I previously thought after all...” Leuk_Jin
Working in the cold...
“Working outside when it's cold. Most of my coworkers absolutely hate it. I'm the opposite and hate the summer.”
“I'm in a t-shirt at 30°F. I'm comfortable down to and a little below 0°F. Anything colder than -10°F and it's hard on the tools and equipment. When we got down almost -40°F a couple years ago, I was giddy like a school girl and stood outside as long as I could just to feel it.”
“ If I could find a company in my field and area that would let me work January and February and take July and August off, I'd do it in a heart beat.” Bimlouhay83
“a lover of organizing."
“Organizing things, its just satisfying and a stress reliever for me.” EducationalPark4936
“My dad is a game developer (like pen & paper/card games, not apps) and he's working on a card game right now where the whole point is to sort. Each card has a different saying, color, shape, font, etc. and the only point is to sort the cards however you wish.”
“I, too, am a lover of organizing, and it's by far my favorite game he's made. It's meditative just organizing a stack of cards over and over again.” yourerightaboutthat
Ah life Tetris...
“Packing my luggage."
“I usually procrastinate until the last evening but once I'm on it it feels like a real-life Tetris game, nicely filling the gaps, neatly folding the shirts. Mom thinks it feels meditative to watch me pack." deadBee_25
An enjoyment not everyone has...
“I love paying my bills. It feels so satisfying to see the owed balance drop to $0.” Tiger5913
“When you don't have anxiety about your bank account having the funds to pay them, it feels great. When you are afraid to check your bank account because you're scared of what you're going to see, it's much less fun to pay bills. Been in the latter, but thankfully I'm now in the former.” Full_Moon_Fever
Troubleshooting...
“Troubleshooting things. I really enjoy finding small problems and fixing them. It's why I spent my HS years learning about signal wiring, my college years working with EE stuff, I brought my first job's company back from the edge of collapse, I nearly started a computer consulting firm, and now I play with 3D printing with highly customized features.”
It's why I still enjoy a good sudoku or murder mystery. It's that hunt for the Andre to a question. It's the want to learn the insides of a system well enough to pick it apart, fix it, and reassemble with only A FEW extra screws. It's just enjoyable.” NEXT_VICTIM
Well that's terrifying...
“Going to the dentist. I love the feeling of having my teeth cleaned and even the feeling of my teeth being filed down or drilled into. I used to have a teeth grinding problem so that probably explains why I enjoy it lol.” raginghangnail
Some of these may not seem too off while others really take the cake.
Whatever you enjoy as long as it harms none have fun!
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What makes someone likable? A smile, the way they speak, how they treat others? What is the quality you notice first? The thing that stands out the most when meeting a new person for me isn't simply if they have good qualities but how natural it seems to be for them.
If they had to pause and think about it to make a big gesture out of doing something nice they probably aren't like that in their downtime. The people who volunteer and do good deeds without posting about it, telling everyone about it, and just go on like that's a normal part of this day--those are my people.
Recognition is great but the people who do good deeds in private, those people typically have good hearts.
One Redditor by the screen name CremlinGremlin wanted to know the good qualities in people that shine through the most.
They asked:
“What's something that makes a person instantly likeable?"
Be nice to the shy kid...
“As a mini-introvert, I usually sit alone on a bench during school lunch, with friends sometimes joining me. Occasionally, someone would come to talk to me if I was alone, try to be friends. I hate it, but my respect for them grows immensely." MaskedNavajo
The way to the heart is through the stomach...
“They brought me something tasty. My affection can be easily purchased with treats.” sosogos
“I always do this! I've been told I'm a decent cook so how do I make new friends? Stuff their faces with food. Their stomachs? Full. New friend? Gained.” smolboi99
Comedy Central Eating GIF by Inside Amy SchumerGiphySeeing the beauty inside people...
“I have a physical deformity and everyone I've ever met brings it up instantly or makes fun of it, except for my current best friend. She hasn't even mentioned it once and she is the nicest person ever. That is why she is my best friend.” Kiaser_Wilhelm_II
“People who get hung up on trivial details aren't worth your time and energy. There are enough good people out there like your best friend to fill up your life. Think of others' rudeness as a convenient filter, letting you quickly sift through the rubble to find true gold. Never settle for disrespect. Keep on, my friend.” High_Point_Genetics
When they like to celebrate you...
“The person who remembers birthdays and either calls or treats the birthday person to a meal is instantly the best person in any group of people. We should all strive to be that person.”
"Pro tip. Put those Facebook dates right in your calendar. Within a single year, you'll have marked every significant birthday. I'm typically the ‘birthday guy’ in my circle of friends but I had somebody remember mine this year for a change and it made my entire f**king day. It's so absolutely worth the few seconds it takes to make a note for future use." TBoneUprising
This is a hard one for many people...
“The ability to be frank about their own faults.” Smooth-Revolution958
Beingkind when it's not expected shows good character.
“When you see them help someone in need while they really don't have to.” gargan_tua
“That's the trait that made fall for my now husband. We were on a bike ride and it had started raining so we were going fast. An old guy dropped his newspaper and then his cane when trying to pick it up. Now husband stopped picked both up, put them in the man's hands and told him to have a nice day before getting back on his bike like nothing happened.” iam_whoiam
“Someone who listens and shows interest in other people. It's hard to dislike someone when they're friendly and seem genuinely happy to see you.” deepthots20
“The cool people will be more likeable at first glance."
“A calm, happy demeanor. Being able to laugh at themselves or self-deprecate or not get pissy when people toss jokes at their expense. Smiles and warm eyes. That type of person will always do well in social circles.”
“Because they cause no static, no drama. They are just always showing off an appearance of ‘no stress, good vibes, happy go lucky, let's laugh and have fun!‘ That is very attractive in friendships.”
“No one likes that a**hole who gets all pissy when jokes are lobbed their way. Especially if they will roast other people but get butthurt when they are the target. No one likes a depressed sour puss.”
“No one likes someone who is already b*tching or getting mad over politics or always super stressed out and riding manic cycles... No one likes someone ruining the vibe and causing drama. Usually, you can sense it on people quickly too. When you meet people you can tell who is sincerely very cool, and who is not, for whatever reason. The cool people will be more likeable at first glance.” daithisfw
Being inclusive is important...
“When the person makes an effort to make everyone in a group setting feel included. I've always been the quiet and shy type, so I have huge respect for the people who find ways to include me in the conversation.” gabbykoenig
Be kind to service workers.
“Being nice to people in the service or retail industry. If I'm with someone and something happens at dinner or at the register and they're super polite and cool about it, then I know they're solid.” iBeleiveInSpace
Listen
"I genuinely love it when someone just listens and asks questions about what you're talking about, even if they understand nothing 😂 "
"Like, I could be rambling about an anime I'm watching and they'd listen, asking things like 'Okay, so this happened, but why? AND HOW!?' "
"Bruh, I could literally marry you 🥺"
- GeckoAJ0
Happy Stephen Colbert GIF by The Late Show With Stephen ColbertGiphyLet Me Be Me
"Good sense of humor, is what makes me most likeable to people."
"But I find, when others actually hear me out, can empathize with me, and don't try and tell me how to feel, act or be according to how they think I should be. Those really make a likeable person for me."
Kindness And Courage
"Kindness to beggars, homeless people, and other unfortunates, waiters, drivers and other providing service, and having time for small children."
"I traveled in parts of the Middle East and North Africa with a Syrian colleague who, to my surprise, was on first name terms with both CEOs in air-conditioned marbled offices with fountains and with the beggar outside the gate (to whom he surreptitiously passed money)."
"He lived by the old Arab/Muslim idea that all you will have in the next life is what you've given away in this one; a worthwhile perspective whether or not there's an afterlife."
"He was also a whisky drinking Muslim willing to face down anyone who tried shaming him (I sat beside him on planes often and saw him get glares often when devout Muslims saw him drinking; "You tell me where in the Koran it is forbidden!")."
"Being willing to defy social convention/think for oneself can be pretty attractive if the result doesn't adversely affect others."
"Kindness, courtesy, modesty, including refusal of credit, generosity etc. are all good, but kindness is surely first. Courage to be different and to tolerate and respect difference work for me."
- ponolan
Respect
"When they make sure to respect dumb questions - laughing a bit if they know it won't deter the person asking them, but respecting them nevertheless."
Person B
"Me: 'So when I was camping I found a snake...' "
"Person A: 'Oh yeah that reminds me! A while ago a snake.—' "
"Person B: 'She was telling a story. You could tell yours after.' "
"Me: :)"
"Don't be like person A. Be like person B."
- MixItUp0
Admit It
"Admitting your mistakes, or freely admitting ignorance on topics outside your wheelhouse."
"Maybe it’s more of my intense hate for the folks out there who will NEVER admit wrong. I was married to one (borderline personality with a nasty victimhood kink)."
"So when someone embraces their imperfect nature, it exudes a confidence that a lot of people don’t have."
Rat Boys
"I have pet rats."
"A lot of people assume the worst with rats or are scared. Anyone who is kind/curious about them instantly gets points."
"I love to talk about them and show them off. My rat boys are just so sweet and cuddly and I like anyone who is willing to give them a chance."
Appreciate Input
"When they actually appreciate your skills and input even though you may view it yourself as very insignificant. Especially if that person praising you is someone far above the totem pole and they acknowledge your hard work."
A Change In Views
"If they are able to take in new info and change their viewpoint if given sufficient reason. Also if they can examine things from other viewpoints without needing to actually adopt that viewpoint."
"Makes for very interesting, productive, and pleasant conversations"
In general, the qualities that make someone instantly likable are those related to being kind, being compassionate, and being inclusive. Qualities we all can be intentional about fostering.
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Yo, people are rude AF.
Like maybe they don't mean to be. We hope they don't mean to be. Be it rooted in curiosity, an inability to empathize, or a wicked case of mouth-moves-faster-than-brain, we've all been asked a question or two that made us cringe.
You know the questions I mean. The ones that make you lock eyes with the other people around you like "wait, you heard that too right?" or whip out your phone to text your best friend like "you're never going to believe this"
Except they will believe it because, like we said earlier, people are rude AF and nothing is even that shocking anymore. Anderson Cooper straight up asked Lady Gaga what genitals she has. People straight up ask for a play-by-play rundown of what sex with you is like if you're into anything other than hetero missionary for the purposes of conception.
Speaking of conception, my partner and I lost an advanced pregnancy in mid-October of 2018. By Halloween we had people asking us when we were trying again. I hadn't even been home from the hospital for 48 hours when the first person gave us an actual real-life wink, wink, elbow nudge and asked if we were excited that we get to do "the fun part" of having kids all over again.
Who TF asks that!?!
To honor the spirit of camaraderie (and WTF-ness) let's all hop over to this Reddit thread where people are sharing the most insensitive, wtf, glare-inducing, personal, way over the line, intrusive questions people have asked them.
Ever roll your eyes so hard you give yourself a headache? Well, you're about to. Brace yourself. You're about to enter a world where people think encouraging suicide, asking about children's remains, and questioning if someone's cancer diagnosis was just them being "melodramatic" are all totally normal.
They're very not.
Robbed At Gunpoint
"Why did you give him the money" my managers response to me telling her I got robbed at gun point in our store.
In Your Situation
I broke my back when I was a teenager and am paralyzed from the waist down. A girl from school asked me, "Are you planning on killing yourself?"
Me: What? No. Why would I kill myself?
Her: It's just... if I was in your situation...
Double Whammy
When sitting my dad and step mom down to tell them I had cancer. "Are you sure? You're always over dramatic like your mother. She watched too many soap operas"
Then the following months after treatment and a major surgery they told people I didn't have cancer and I faked it. They were they there for the major surgery and the treatments...... So I get asked by family " did you really fake cancer?" Wtf.
The Receptionist
As a kid I got into a pretty serious accident that meant daily physical therapy for hours on end for over a year and a lot of time in a wheelchair.
I wasn't of driving age yet (and honestly, probably wouldn't / couldn't have driven myself even if I could).
One day my mum was late to picking me up so I was waiting in the lobby and the receptionist basically said, "Do you even say thank you? Your parents have to deal with a lot because of you, driving you in and out of here every day. Do you even show them you're grateful?"
Like yes, I do. But also, who the hell are you?
Mama Bear Mode
Giphy"Oh, so you want a Twithx?"
I'm 30 now, but grew up with a lisp. Was in speech therapy for years. When I was about 8 yrs old or so, I went up to a concession stand at my brother's little league game. Asked to buy a Twix.
The teenage guy behind the counter, trying to impress his lady coworker, decided to repeat my words back to me. Made me cry. One of the only times in my life I've ever seen my mom go full Momma Bear. She asked me why I was upset, and when I told her, she marched up to that dinky little stand and tore the guy a new one.
But yeah, that's the first thing I thought of when I saw this question. Weird how little things like that stick with you. Some people fcking suck, but then you get to see the ones who don't. Like my mom. Defender of the little people. Love her.
A Daughter's Murder
They asked how my daughter was murdered. I said a knife. They then said "but i mean how? You found her tell me how. What did she look like. Was she tortured?"
This was not a member of law enforcement. They don't ask questions like that. This was a stranger who saw our story on the news and came up to me in a crowded public place when I was with my older daughter and newborn grandson.
I did not react with violence. I was still in shock and numb it was a surreal experience. I responded very loudly that her questions were inappropriate. She came up to me talking super loud that she had saw us on the news so she got everyone's attention.
I figured I'd speak loud enough for everyone to hear in case any of them didn't know it was rude to ask things like that they'd learn that day. She then walked away.
Took a picture (heard her camera go off as she pointed it at us) then called someone and proceeded to loudly tell them she talked to us. I wish I could say this was the only inconsiderate person we've dealt with sadly I cant. But I will say we have had more positive interactions with strangers then negative.
Cremation Questions
Soon after I got home from cremating my child, someone asked if the cremation left chunks of bone and, if so, do they grind that down. Thankfully I saw the humor in it, largely because I could see his wife wanted to kill him.
Arranging A Seizure
I have a seizure-like disorder: chorea-athetosis. They present themselves in these really inconvenient episodes where I lose partial control of body parts.
One time, I was on a date with a dude, and after I told him of my situation he said "Wow it'd be pretty hot to have you seize while we're doing it?. Think you could arrange that?"
Didn't bother with him after that.
Hooray For A Miscarriage?
"Well aren't you happy you had a miscarriage then...or you'd be a single mom now". Asked by my mom while trying to "comfort" me after my fiance cheated. Yeah, no actually, a late traumatic miscarriage + depression+ hormones does NOT make me happy even if he did cheat. But thanks!
Burning
Giphy"How does it feel to know your mother is burning in hell?"
After telling my friends mom that my family didn't really subscribe to God or religion. She didn't miss a beat, and then tried to double down why she was right.
- Ithxero
The Perks Of Disability
As a 19 year old disabled woman, I've been asked tons of insensitive things- the most is probably a tie between someone asking me if I'm using a walker for the "perks", and if I'm faking my disability for better accommodation at university.
I cant handwrite, can barely walk without assistance, and cant stand for periods of time. What are the perks and where can I get them??
- mi_ugh
To Make Him Do It
"Why did you tell me? And what did you do to make him do it?"
Asked by a family member after I told them about the abuse I suffered from my ex husband...finally felt safe to talk about it after 6 years and that was the response.
Prettier When You DON'T Smile
When I was 16 I got asked by some random guy at my aunt's house if I knew that I was prettier when I wasn't smiling. I've always been self conscious of my teeth and he made it so much worse. I'm 28 now and still hate them but will at least smile in some pics.
Unwanted
My parents weren't in a good relationship and I was raised by my grandparents. My dad went MIA when I was very young (big shocker) Anyways in elementary school a teacher of all people asked "So you're parents didn't want you? How does that make you feel?" Which wasn't even true. My mother is a great and loving person, she just works night shifts and is scarred from her relationship with my father and couldn't take care of me.
Volume
No question, but a statement.
My ex was a typical gaslighter who wanted to control every aspect of my life. He was against my family and friends and tried to kept me away from them. I was very unhappy and gained a lot of weight during that relationship. I had always issues with my weight and had an eating disorder in my teenage years.
After years of psychological abuse I found the strength to leave my ex (thanks to my mum and my best friend!). I've even met a wonderful, intelligent and very lovely new boyfriend. We are in a long distance relationship, but we are skyping every night. And sometimes we get... A little bit naughty during that cam sessions.
It was one of our first sessions.. After the smut.. I was naked and happy, so was he too and he told me out of the blue "I need to get used to your body volume"
Those were his exact words. It hit me like a ton of bricks, merely because my weight was never an issue before that day for him I thought. I felt sexy for him and if we have "real sex" it does never seem that my weight is bugging him at all. We are happy but the statement is still burnt in my mind..
Not as serious as most of the stories here. But that is my story.
Marie
I've received plenty of rude comments from my family regarding my weight, but this one stands out.
My two sisters and I were on our hockey practice with our teammates. Our professor divided us by groups, and my oldest sister and I ended up in the same group.
One of our teammates at the time was an overweight girl, Marie, who let it slip once that she was there specifically to lose weight.
When we were in the group, my sister asked me: "Do you want to end up like Marie? Then lose weight."
This one is worse than the others because Marie was right next to us, in the other group. I hated that moment, and I'm sure Marie hated it even more. Marie quit playing hockey later in the year. It's sad, she's a really nice girl.
How Not To Act, Indeed
"Well have you at least learned your lesson now about how not to act around guys?" After I told an adult I trusted very much that I had been raped.
A Little Threesome To Cheer You Up
My boyfriend had taken his life 3 days prior and I was in a place of crying myself to exhaustion and someone who was meant to be my best friend phoned me asking if I wanted to have a threesome with her and her boyfriend to cheer me up now that I was single.
Safe to say we're not friends anymore.
We've all heard the phrase "there are no stupid questions" but ... um ... most of us would beg to differ.
You know you've heard some really really disturbingly dumb questions in your life - and we'll give you a chance to sound off on those in a minute, but first...
Reddit user clock_working asked:
They say there are no stupid questions, what question have you been asked that disproves this?
Truly this is a magical parade of questions that just leave you staring, slack-jawed and slow blinking. Take some deep breaths before you go in, guys. It's bad.