"What’s an unhealthy obsession people have?"
Schadenfreude Much?
"Love to hate."- Odd_Adhesiveness4804
Never Settle!
"Being in a relationship no matter the cost."- hibbletyjibblety
"Pointless relationships."
"Settling for less just because you think you can't be alone is not healthy."- shutyourmouf03
Aging Gracefully Always Pays Off
"People are obsessed with youth and some people will do anything to maintain its appearance."- Mad-farmer
There's So Much More Beyond Your TV Screen
"24 hour news cycles."- SuvenPan
Slow And Steady Wins The Race
"Having to be first."
"It's okay if you beat me to the pump, or if you beat me to the grocery checkout line."
"It's okay if you get to the freeway exit before me, or pull in front of me on the highway."
"I'm patient, and it's a virtue."
"Have to credit my father who taught me this."
"He was an airline captain for over 30 years who is a very patient man."
"Thanks Dad."- Look-At-The-Aliens
Humming Season 17 GIF by The SimpsonsGiphyThere Are So Many Better Ways To Be Social
"Obsession with their social media image."- knovit
Has No One Seen All About Eve?
"An obsession with everything celebrities are doing."- Streak_Free_Shine
There's A Reason Paid Vacation Days Exist!
"Work/productivity."
"Everybody needs a break, not just every once in a while, but often."- RoKe3028
To Each Their Own
"An obsession with each others lives."
"Seriously just let people live as long as they’re not hurting anyone just leave people the f*ck alone."- MiseinToxicity
"Other people's sex lives."- huiscloslaqueue
Worry About Yourself Saints And Sinners GIF by BounceGiphyIronically, Making Calls Is One The Last Things They're Used For Now...
"Their phones."
"It's one thing to keep yourself busy, it's another to never let yourself be bored."
"Being bored is important sometimes, it makes you think/helps clear your head.'
"Phones make it ridiculously easy to never let yourself get bored, to the point where it ain't healthy."- Crestego
"Being on their phone all the time, especially while driving."
"I see this literally every day, despite laws against it."
"I constantly have to honk at people sitting at green lights, because they can't possibly be inconvenienced with their own thoughts for 2 minutes sitting at a red light."- dallased25
Mistakes Are How People Learn...
"Being right all the time."- lee24k
Sheldon Cooper Rules GIF by CBSGiphyIt's very easy to scold or ridicule someone for being inordinately fond of someone or something.
However, before passing judgment, always a good idea to take a step back and examine our own behavior.
As we may be no different at all.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor jellybeans1987 asked:
"What do you think is the most serious issue in today's society?"
The internet has become a vast resource of knowledge and convenience. But does too much of a good thing lend itself to more issues?
Social Media Activity
"All the digital algorithms reward whatever induces the strongest emotions in you. Not whats true or accurate or important to know. Just what makes you angry or scared or self righteous etc etc."
– Inevitable_Limit_587
Becoming Numb To Real Issues
"Social media f'ked up a whole generation of kids also politics have ruined our country(USA) the distance a person will go to defend their 'side' resulted in no longer seeing right/wrong ie climate change or getting a simple vaccine/wearing a mask just my opinion tho don’t get mad at me anyone."
– ApprehensiveTackle65
Tell Us How We Feel
"The sheer amount of emotional manipulation we deal with on a day to day basis. Advertisements are everywhere and tell us we aren't good enough, the news media we're inundated with wants us scared and angry, and algorithms want to reinforce all of that."
– rjjm88
Who Can We Trust?
"fake news media going rampant and social media has too much power on censoring what people can say or read."
– Throwawayaway357
These problems, if left ignored, can consume us all.
Devilishly Sweet
"We are eating poison by design. Specifically sugar. It's made me think that even the medical industry is behind it which sounds crazy and offensive to people who dedicate their lives to helping others."
"I had a relative in the hospital and they were feeding him food where the first ingredient was water, second was corn syrup. He kept getting worse and worse until I had to step in and tell him he's being poisoned."
"All the doctors basically either rolled their eyes or shrugged. They told him he would have to start insulin. I started bringing in meals for him and he got much better and is out now. The whole thing seemed pretty predatory to me."
– strictbirdlaws
A Looming Disaster
"The current mass extinction event, and the fact that intergovernmental policies such as the UN focus more on mitigating the extinctions without disturbing the current political status quo, rather than focusing on stopping the mass extinctions."
"But it's an incredibly complicated and interconnected problem to solve, take pesticides for example. What could we possibly do? Tell farmers in developing nations that they are no longer allowed to use chemical pesticides?"
"Add in other factors, from climate change and greenhouse gases to light pollution and habitat degradation, and you have a wicked problem with no clear solution. The UN couldn't possibly solve all that. In addition, incredibly powerful corporations are lobbying left and right to keep themselves in positions of power, at the cost of the environment. They are cartoonishly evil."
– Conocoryphe
Too Many Of Us
"Overpopulation."
"This is driving climate change, which has the potential to lower oxygen at a fast enough rate to kill everyone before we can adapt."
– truthinlies
These are attitudes and behavior that are the root of many problems.
Living Unawares
"Ignorance."
"We have somehow become a society where the intelligent and informed people are silenced, for fear of offending the stupid and the ignorant."
"And the worst part? There is no reason for this. We have a public education system, and public library systems, where you can learn whatever you want, at your own speed, at NO COST."
– IamtheBoomstick
Avariciousness
"Greed and how it drives so many people in such high possitions of power and wealth."
– karbon91
A Growing Rift
"The general division between people. In the decades prior, at least in my eyes, you could have a conversation with someone on a touchy subject without being overly judged on having a differing opinion."
"But as of late, more and more has it become an 'US vs THEM' mentality and such conversations are frowned upon, called to be canceled, or down right ignored. And whilst I do like to imagine its just the loud minority who just want to shut down the others, it unfortunately creates this air of 'no conversation can be had.' 'You're either against us, or with us, there is no middle ground, that is our terms which you must agree to!'"
"It all seems so.. pointless, the division but alot of people from both sides now would rather be 'listened to' rather than listen themselves."
– LeviMarx
Out of many concerns I have living in today's society, I find that people are less inclined to really listen to others.
We're so quick to dismiss individuals whose beliefs contradict our own. People have become so defensive, they started tuning out the other person.
Shutting someone down only fuels anger and consequently leads to a further disconnect.
We all don't have to agree with one another, but we can start by understanding where the other is coming from.
Because without that level of compassion, by dignifying the other person with an opposing opinion by listening to them, meaningful conversations that could potentially lead to change cannot exist.
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Sadly, although men often experience more life-threatening depression than women they often untreated or hold it in due to stigma. Something we should all be working to break down.
One Redditor wanted to bring to light some of the issues men are facing today that often go unnoticed.
slowskyincog22 asked:
“What are some men's issues that are overlooked?"
Something that everyone can benefit from sometimes...
“It took until I was 33, married and a new dad to see a counselor. If you're still on your parents health insurance it may be covered in some form. I could never talk to my parents. Some people just don't know how to listen. But getting perspective from someone who can and is trained to listen is INVALUABLE. HMU if you ever want to chat about sh*t.” Katarzzle
ED can take a big toll...
“Erectile dysfunction. It seems like a joke, but guys literally kill them selves because of it. It's like losing the ability to love, losing your manhood, losing your ability to feel intimate with someone.” Snowfreak2507
“That sh*t just isn't sustainable for some people."
Tired King Of Queens GIF by TV LandGiphy“I'm late to the party so this will get lost, but in my experience it feels like dudes are expected to work 70+ hour weeks and be proud of it, or else they're lazy. Like, nah. I'm going to be working at least 65 hours next week between two jobs (which is plenty) and that includes both daytime and overnight shifts."
“If I complain for even a sentence though, I'm going to be sh*t talked by the crew when they think I can't hear them. I'm tired. I like doing things that aren't work. That sh*t just isn't sustainable for some people." SkipperDaglessMD
Good intentions take too far...
“So I'm at the park playing tag with these kids I'm babysitting and out of nowhere this old lady comes up to me and starts asking all sorts of questions. Do you know these kids? What are there names? Can you call their parents for me? Even asking the kids if they knew me and when they answered yes, she responded with ‘you don't have to lie, if you don't know this man, you can tell me and I can help you.’” WalkingOnCoffee
“The worst part is nobody really talks about it...”
“Male pattern baldness and the impact it can have on mental health and body image. Imagine being in college surrounded by guys with perfect NW1 hairlines with all these cool fades and modern trendy hairstyles while you're stuck looking like Moby or Varys from GOT. Brutal. The worst part is nobody really talks about it, it's a very hidden and taboo issue that many men go though but society refuses to truly address, so they are forced to suffer in silence.” ImpSong
Unspoken insecurity..
“Insecurity in general. You're not supposed to show that you have doubts or worries about your abilities or self-image. A man is supposed to be confident, able, and self-assured. It's not okay for men to admit that they lack self-esteem, or that they have genuine problems with their self-image, as they are seen as weaknesses in and of themselves."
“Other men or women aren't going to 'bring you up'. They won't provide emotional support and tell you it's okay to be unconfident or to feel shame about who you are - they will simply expect that you should take it on the chin. Not everyone can be 'that' guy. But, for a man, what actually makes you feel like a man is being that guy."
“So you kind of walk around pretending that you're happy, despite the fact that you're not seen as valuable or as desirable as other men - because in doing so, you would be seen as even less valuable or desirable. F**k. I've never really been able to put that feeling into words before, but that felt insanely good to get off my chest." OnePrettyFlyWhiteGuy
Isolating...
“Isolation. Many men have no friends. More so, they don't know how to find meaningful friendships, it's incredibly difficult to know where to even begin, moreso if you're not in college or school.”
“I'm 24, almost 25 and never had an emotional outlet. I don't even know what that looks like in a healthy sense. The first relationship I had, I believe I ruined because I put too much of what I had been carrying for so long on that person, as patient and as caring as they were.” NLY96
Loneliness wasn't helped with the pandemic...
“Crushing, black, empty, cold, never-ending, screaming-into-the-void loneliness and everyone's casual shrug when I even hint about it. Just work, pay taxes, walk the dog, keep your mouth shut, don't have feelings, don't be short, try to keep up appearances of virility, and never, ever, whatever you do, don't let anyone know how lonely you are because they'll just sort of awkwardly giggle and change the subject.” Doomstaar
“men are defined by what they do and not by who they are...”
“In western culture, men are defined by what they do and not by who they are (being). So, when they retire they often develop mental illness because they are no longer ‘doing’. this often leads to suicide. Then there's the whole nonsense of the stoic emotionless man getting on with the work.” tanktametet-pwemskan
Depression.
“The fact that people ridicule and laugh at you for having depression is something we ALL need to talk about. It isn't funny. Depression is real and the fact that so many are choosing to keep it within is simply disturbing.” sroth3839
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It effects many men too...
“Eating disorders. I'm a female sports coach who researched this topic as part of a sports medicine class. The stereotype is that eating disorders involve girls and that's where most of the research goes."
“Men suffer rapidly increasing rates of eating disorders, especially bulimia. It's becoming horribly common among athletes in particular, and has gotten worse with the advent of skinny male models." Disastrous-Shallot26
“Often times ‘bodyshaming’ is quite the issue. Not being well worked out or physically strong is often seen as a sign of weakness and no self-control.” doriiian
Parenting...
“Parental Duty / Just a babysitter. As a father of 3, I take a very active part in my kids life - I'm now separated and divorcing from my Ex, and am the primary parent (they live with me 95% of the time)."
“The reaction that this gets is one of amazement or incredulity that as a man, I'm unable to be a sole single parent. I get that it's not the standard, but it's not exactly rare nowadays, but the responses I get are ones of pity for my kids that 'they only have a dad'."
“I'm not knocking single mums in this by the way, I KNOW how hard it, but society accept single mums as a perfectly valid family choice, single dads are seen as bumbling and incapable of looking after their own kids - this goes into normal family life as well, where dads are seen the same - incapable of caring for a child, and just there as a baby sitter."
“Even during a normal relationship, I was constantly jokingly referred to as the Baby Sitter, and not seen on an equal footing to their Mother. This kind of adds to the Mental Health issue, and the other issues around not talking about real problems to other men." No_Film_2086
Sometimes people really are just having a conversation...
“Can't talk to a female without being suspected of trying to somehow get with them. Being fully serious here, as I've held conversations with women before and then had someone smirking at me and being like, ‘Yo dawg, you trying to hit that...’ and when I say no, they refuse to believe me.”
“Um, just because I'm a guy doesn't mean I'm trying to screw every living female... at least not anymore. A few years ago perhaps, but if a guy says he's not trying to ‘tap that,’ then he might be telling you the truth, so accept it.” Fangs_McWolf
“For me, it's the social dilemma of men having to be manly and not show any feelings. It kinda sucks when you can't do things you wanna do because people expect you to be some kind of macho man ladies boy, when they expect you to do sports, to do manly sh*t like going to the army and all you really wanna do is buckle down, read some books and listen to lofi music, it sucks."
“Another thing is the fact that crying i seen as not manly and you can't be vulnerable. I want to cry when my favorite anime character dies, I want to cry when something bad happens, I hate having to hold back my feelings in fear of judgments." aaerty
“I have seen many men self sabotage...”
“Honestly the biggest issue with men in general is self sabotage. Sometimes when you have issues you want to walk the line. Sometimes you want to cross it even if you know it comes with the consequences that you don't like going through but in the moment for a second the imagination can take you elsewhere.”
“This is where self dominion comes in handy and I bet a lot of older men will not feel the same self sabotage as I do. I have learned through out the years that if you have the little things in check then you can focus your energy on your priorities.”
“When you realize that something's can be measured by percentages and you realize the difference between taking a chance and self sabotaging yourself, then you can make investments or give or take opportunities. However I have seen many men self sabotage their relationships on purpose.“ CheezeGweeze
Body count shouldn't matter...
“This is an interesting one I've noticed: getting harassed for not being with a lot of women. A lot of girls talk about how it's toxic masculinity that guys are just constantly trying to have sex and ‘showing off’ their numbers. However, it's those same girls who will make jokes like ‘he's probably still a virgin’, ‘look at that guy, he prolly never gets any’, ‘no wonder he never gets laid’. Etc etc”
“I can't tell you how many of my guy friends have broken down because of how much they get harassed for being a virgin, or only having been with a couple people, and more. It's an interesting thing I've noticed that as a society, one way we make fun of men is by saying they're not able to attract women.” fm2816
It is gross and not remotely ok...
“I know I'm way late for this but Grooming. Young boys and men being groomed by older women and then taken advantage of and thinking it's fine because so many other men are like 'he probably enjoyed it!', 'Who wouldn't hook up with their teacher they had the hots for?!'"
“Like no. I don't care if the young boy 'flirted' with an older woman and 'started it' nope. Women who do this are Predators and get glossed over so so often and its gross." ErinnShannon
No one should have to feel like they must suffer by themselves. If you need to talk to someone or reach out call the 24hr hotline for mental health and substance use at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
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I didn't realize that sports teams were doing so much fiddling with their uniforms and colors. When I played sports it was the same colors, same pattern, no matter where the games were played. Maybe the major sports leagues should get together and vote on keeping it all simple. Less is more.
With the Spirits
working casper the friendly ghost GIFGiphyThe football (soccer) team I support now occasionally wears a colour I can't really distinguish from the bloody pitch. So, I now watch 11 players from an opposing team walk about with ghosts as a show of support.
It's all Wrong
Watching the NBA after they stopped forcing teams to wear white at home. It's a confusing mess most of the time.
Every team should pick a home color and stick with it all year, mix it up on the road. OP is right, especially with teams like Brooklyn, or Dallas, or my Lakers, it's a total mess.
Lakers used to wear gold at home, purple on the road, white on Sunday. How complicated is that? Now you turn on the TV and sometimes it looks like the Lakers aren't even out there then you realize it's freaking Wednesday and they're wearing the Sunday uniform. Aggravating to say the least!
I love to shop and try on as many clothes as possible. I love to get lost in a vast array of colors and shades. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to not be able to able to match without assistance. How does it not take away so much of the fun of shopping? Clothing is an essential part of life for almost everyone, it would suck to have it all feel like more of a chore.
With Misty
Shopping for clothes... I'm not severely colorblind, but have issues with things like purple from some shades of blue, dark greens from browns, teal from grey, things like that. So I hate when clothing store tags or website color options either have number codes for color or non-descriptive names for colors. Olive Green on a sweater is great. Pine Tree and I'll figure it out. Misty Hike and I am lost. Same with 091.
Mix & Match
Trying to pick outfits or matching clothes for my kids. Thankfully my daughter helps me get clothes for her little brother when my wife isn't around. It's also very difficult (read: impossible) for me to safely do electrical work.
Gifts
hillary clinton robe GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphyOn my stepdads behalf, I'll say that he doesn't know that the kitchen utensils are all pink.
And also the time he got my mom a fluffy "pink" robe for Christmas, but it was actually green.
Some people make it through by luck and the grace of the Lord. You can get into some severe situations when it comes compromised vision. I had an ex who would constantly miss crosswalk signals, in New York due to deteriorating regular vision. The amount of cars he nearly ended up under, I lost count. So when you're performing everyday tasks like driving, preparing food or running you have to be extra cautious.
Let's Flip
I had a color blind science teacher. He brought it up when we got to genetics and recessive genes.
The small town had an upside down traffic light for decades. The teacher knew it was upside down, and just remember too was go, bottom was stop.
Then the town suddenly flipped it it right side up. Luckily there wasn't an accident, he just had to explain to the officer what happened.
Dough Issues
I'm not color blind but my fiancé is, he struggles with the ties on loafs of bread. The color of the tie will blend in with our counter top and I'll hear him tapping his hand up and down trying to find it so he can close the packaging on the loaf.
He could try using an LED flashlight and shining it flat across the surface. I'm not colorblind, but I would do this when I had a dark countertop that was difficult to find things on.
Dangers
The standard small-town traffic light had 12 light bulbs--one each for red, yellow and green for all four directions. The budget traffic light for very small towns had only one light bulb for each position (top, middle, bottom), shared with all four directions. You can see the problem. I had a colorblind friend who was ticketed for running such a red light in a small town in Georgia. Luckily he wasn't killed.
Oh the simple joys of life. Imagine not being able to take in the majesty of certain moments, like a Christmas tree or a once in a decade colored moon. You get to stand there and watch everyone else partake while you just imagine, in black and white.
the quiet lights...
Standing outside one late October night, watching one of the best displays of the Northern Lights that I've seen. My family is gasping at the shifting display of colors- pink and blue and purple swirled in with the more common green. I look over at our friend, who is much less awe-inspired than us, and remember that he's colorblind. I didn't mention it or make a fuss, but it made me quite sad for him.
Deep Thoughts
Confused Its Always Sunny GIF by It's Always Sunny in PhiladelphiaGiphyI don't pick up on certain colors of blue/purple, and see them as purple.
My old roommate doesn't pick up on blue/purple and sees them as blue. Lots of drunk arguments which we'd then pull our third roommate over and ask and he'd be like "bruh... that's obviously purple/blue" and we'd lose our minds.
I hear that science is making great strides in possible contacts and glasses that will be able to bring color to the colorblind. Hopefully sometimes in the near future rainbows can be seen by everyone. And if you come across a person who is colorblind, don't make a fuss. You'll never understand how they are seeing or feeling so don't bombard them with questions. Google it.
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just is...
Let It Go Whatever GIF by Hannah Bronfman GiphyThe sex wasn't enjoyable for a long time but we ended up making a baby regardless. Eventually there was 0 sex life. He looked elsewhere--first, it was a porn addiction and then he was dating other women. It's been a few years and we're solid co-parents and both just doing our own thing. Wasn't a messy breakup.
Monogamy...
He had a different idea of what monogamy entailed, he thought I meant emotional monogamy, I meant full monogamy and had said as much. Imagine his shock when I didn't take him hooking up with randos off Grindr well. He was playing stupid and deflecting. We'd definitely had the discussion where we both said we were exclusive to each other, he tried to say that he misunderstood and he "wouldn't mess up again", but by that point I was done. He'd been hiding it already, if he truly didn't know what I meant then he wouldn't have hid it at all.
Test Smart
My ex and I waited until 2 clean STI tests and a monogamous relationship to have unprotected sex. About a year later he demands that we use condoms because "HIV can spontaneously happen". Spoiler: found out he was on Grindr like 2 months later...
People... it's not just about you. Why do so many of us feel so entitled? And when that entitlement encroaches, we decide we should look elsewhere and betray the ones who are there and willing to put up with our drama? There are two people in every love story, or three or four, just all be on the same page.
Bye
Real Housewives Goodbye GIFGiphyWell the sex she was having was with another guy, so needless to say yea kinda had to end.
Me Too Please...
He only liked oral, no reciprocation. Basically just wanted to use me. Like, dude, I'm happy to give it but I'd like to finish, too.
ETA: The... audacity of his selfish nature. Am I doing this right?
Anytime...
I dated a girl for a few months who I wasn't really attracted to sexually, but we got along really well and had fun together so I figured I would give it a shot, test the whole personality over looks thing. I figured that with time maybe I would grow to find her sexy, but that never happened.
I found myself avoiding sex any time I could, and when I did have sex with her it felt like a chore just so she didn't get upset with me. I finally ended it deciding it was not fair to either of us. She was a great person, but the sexual attraction was never gonna be there.
Effort
He wanted to have really rough sex with little to no foreplay. I left that "relationship" pretty quick. I'm not going to waste my time with someone who won't put in the effort and uses me as an object.
Dear God... if you're gonna get freaky, please be polite and prepared. Everyone should enjoy the experience. Personal preparation and interest and investment is key. Again... IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!
Nasty...
eww GIF by Paris HiltonGiphyShe did not have the best hygiene. If you have ever gone a day without showering and felt little balls of dirt rolled in your sweat, then you know what it was like.
We had sex once after a shower and I never called her again because it was just that nasty.
Check Please...
Oh god... I was dating a chick who lost her apt then basically moves in to my house uninvited. She must have gotten a yeast infection and not noticed, it smelled.
As a woman you notice that smell or you've smelled it for so long you don't notice anymore which is not good.
Also her being homeless and possibly losing all of stuff (hygiene products included) didn't help the situation much. Female hygiene products are not cheap and she might not have had the money to buy them.
Sex is an adult situation. And it should be treated as such. And if you have a solid feel for certain desires... you need to speak up early. That is important. Positions may need contracts drawn.
The backend...
I had an ex that loved it up from behind so much that's all she ever wanted.
Now I'm not a prude but daily adventures of poop was a little too much for me.
She was also a nympho, I know you think a nympho sounds cool but it's actually not. She wanted it all the time. We even had sex in her hospital bed when she was recovering from surgery.
Almost got arrested having sex in a movie theater parking lot once, and another time under a highway underpass because she couldn't wait to get home.
She was down with threesomes, foursomes, literally whatever.
She also couldn't be trusted because she loved penis way more than she loved me.
bored now...
Over It Wow GIF by The Comeback HBOGiphyShe wanted missionary only, very slowly. She would cum in 5 minutes and would sound like Darth Vader the whole time. That lasted 3 months.
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