It's true that sometimes we just can't understand what someone's going through until we walk in their shoes.
This can be especially true of physical ailments, particularly the less visible conditions that many would rather assume are figments of the sufferer's imagination.
On the flip side, we can try to be empathetic, but truly, sometimes until you've experienced it yourself, you just can't imagine how bad it is.
Already cringing, Redditor fyflate89 asked:
"What's way more physically painful than most people realize?"
Endometriosis
"Endometriosis. I end up bleeding for two weeks straight if I miss a dose of my birth control. Last time I was bedridden for at least three days and could still barely function the next few days."
"When I had to drag my a** out of bed because my grades would drop if I missed any more class (I’m a college student), I was in so much pain, anemic, dehydrated, and nauseous..."
"But, ya know, it’s just 'cramps,' right? Get over it."
- ChipTheOcelot
Ear Infections
"Ear infections are no joke."
"I had an eardrum and canal infection in my right ear. Completely deaf for a week with a ruptured eardrum."
"I couldn't so much as touch the right side of my head without being in complete agony. I could barely talk or eat because opening my jaw was excruciatingly painful."
- izzyishot
Degenerative Disc Disease
"Degenerative Disc Disease in C4/5/6.I look completely fine and can't get disability."
"I also can't look up for longer than 30 seconds, drive for more than 15 minutes, mow my lawn, work on my jeep, or even change my brakes or oil without being laid out in pain for days afterward."
"At its worst, it causes ocular migraines that partially blind me and both arms go numb and I can't hold anything."
"The disability Judge said I was exaggerating my symptoms. F**k him. I hope he gets the same thing."
- Demonae
Depression
"Depression. When I get it bad, my bones and my skin ache. I can feel it in my teeth."
- Darfer
"Colors fade, too."
- knee_bro
Nerve Pain
"Nerve pain… Mine has come and gone at different intervals and intensities throughout the last 10 years, and I can completely understand why people go through serious depression and thoughts of suicide when they feel so helpless because nothing helps reduce the pain."
- theithe916
Not Even for the Worst Enemies
"Getting a colposcopy (cervical biopsy where they rip out a piece of your cervix to test it for cancer)."
"Getting a uterine ultrasound with contrast dye that is injected into your uterus to see if your fallopian tubes are clear (felt like someone punched your uterus from the inside)."
"Getting an intestinal blockage. Getting an intestinal blockage that results in gangrene."
"Those are the most painful things I’ve experienced and my wish for you who read this is to never experience them, especially the intestinal blockages. I wouldn’t wish any of these on my worst enemies."
- iamcrazy4cats
Everyday Pain
"I once worked a six-hour shift as a cafe manager with active appendicitis, when I showed up to the ER (after my doctor and my boyfriend demanded I do), they were astonished I’d been running around and lifting/serving for that long."
"Two years later, I was diagnosed with stage 3 endometriosis, and I had a cyst the size of a golf ball. Parts of my organs were stuck together and they’d always been dismissed as 'normal period pain.'"
"It’s amazing how much pain you can go through when everyday pain is your baseline. A good endo day for me, pre-surgery, was a three or four out of a ten-point scale. A bad one had me on the tile floor clutching a heat pack, feeling like I’d been stabbed in the front and taken a shotgun to my back."
- burntknowledge
Period Pain
"Periods."
"I'm a dude so I've never experienced them, but I've had two girlfriends, completely healthy young women, who've needed to be carried to the bathroom due to the pain."
"My boys, we lucked the f**k out on this one. Be respectful."
- Wazula23
Kidney Stones
"Kidney stones."
"Hear me out. People think passing them is what hurts and they couldn’t be more wrong. Passing them is a minor inconvenience."
"The part that hurts is when the stone is making its way to your bladder. Three- to five-hour bursts of unimaginable pain that has no way of being subdued. I was dizzy, nauseous, and walking around like Quasimodo when those bursts happened."
- PewpyDewpdyPantz
IUD Insertion
"The unexpected pain of having an IUD insertion was actually traumatizing. There’s no f**king reason they shouldn’t warn people about that beforehand."
"They said, 'Oh, it’ll just feel like period cramps.'"
"NO, you f**king id**t, I couldn’t see straight, I had an actual fight-or-flight response where I had to be held down because I was trying to get off the table and run out of the room with no f**king underwear on, I was bleeding heavily for DAYS afterward, and I had cold pain sweat all over my body."
"That s**t was the worst pain I have ever felt in my entire life and I cannot believe they do that procedure every day without ANY sort of anesthetic."
"I was curled up in a ball and wouldn’t let anyone touch me for like two weeks afterward."
- Pippified
Gallbladder Issues
"A gallbladder attack. I've undergone so many spinal surgeries, my family literally lost count. I know pain. I know pain very well."
"I was in such agony from my gallbladder freaking out that I had it taken out as fast as I could possibly have that done. I wasn't about to f**k around and find out."
- an_ineffable_plan
Dental Problems
"I've never been happier that dentists exist AND get paid as much as they did until I got my broken, aching wisdom tooth removed. Instant pain dissipation, and even though I was awake during the whole thing, he always made me feel comfortable and taken care of."
"When people say rotting teeth used to kill people back before modern medicine, I 100% believe it. I wanted to kill myself at a couple of points, and I didn't even have tooth decay."
- Pariah0119
An Abscess
"There’s toothache and then there’s a full-blown abscess. The kind where the side of your face is swollen. It’s not a toothache anymore. Now it’s a migraine and earache."
"The pain is always there and comes in waves of pain excruciating pain. No pain meds work. Only antibiotics will take the pain away."
- King_Baboon
Broken Ribs
"Broken ribs. Typically no outward signs to anyone that you're injured, but trust me it's painful as h**l and takes a long-a**ed time to heal."
- waywardcowboy
Migraines and Cluster Headaches
"Migraines."
"I'm not talking about bad headaches. I'm talking about the absolute h**l that is an actual blurred-vision, face-numbing, uncontrolled vomiting-inducing, skull-splitting classic migraine."
"Have you ever contemplated death over pain? A particularly nasty migraine will make you do that."
- SupertrampTrampStamp
"I get cluster headaches. There was this one medication, sumatriptan, that worked a third of the time, and you may have heard about treating them with mushrooms, but that's also a dice roll. Sometimes it's immediate release and a preventative. Sometimes it just pushes a worse one two weeks down the line."
"It's not as comprehensive as a migraine, it's a single spot in particular. There's a tiny demon on my trigeminal nerve with a tiny lava/wasp sting knife. Most of the time they don't last long. Sometimes ibuprofen and a frigid shower are enough. But at the worst, it's definitely asymptomatically approaching suicidal."
- AudiieVerbum
These conditions leave us cringing to think about, especially the ones that leave the sufferer wondering if they can make it to the other side of the pain.
The most important thing to remember is how invisible many of these conditions are, even a broken rib, and that even if you can't see what someone else is going through, doesn't mean they are struggling through it.
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Life is hard. That is a truth that will never not be valuable to acknowledge. I love life and being alive but I am not blind to the fact that life is riddled with strife and pain.
And pain comes in all shapes and sizes. Whether it be physical, mental or emotional, pain is inevitable. But pain is doable. We can learn to experience it, live with it, and most importantly grow from it.
They say without pain, how can we know joy? I hate that mantra too, but it holds some truth. It doesn't always make the pain survival worth it, but it can help. So let's discuss it.
Redditoru/Jergunglefingerwanted to hear from everyone who was willing to share some of their more uncomfortable life moments, by asking:
What is the most painful thing you have ever experienced?
The most physical pain I have ever had the misfortune of living through is all dental. I don't remember much, the dentist was merciful with the gas, thankfully. But I know the mouth holds a certain type of torture.
Hot Shot
Boiling Hot Water GIF by BrewDogGiphy"5 gallons boiling water being poured down my leg. Trying to hold my volume down while screaming. Got to ER and they shot me in the butt with something and it all went away."
- snoo-you
Broken
"Broken foot. Crap has tons of nerves. I had to walk home a block too. I passed out when I finally got through the door. Luckily someone was there to get me to a hospital."
"In high school, I was running a 2 mile race in track. My foot broke halfway through. I didn't realize it and finished. The pain blurred out all of the physical exertion."
Teen Angst
"I broke my ankle when I was a teen. Walked on it for a month because my parents were insistent I'd just sprained it. Nope. Bottom of my foot turned black from the pooling blood. I was a candy-striper volunteer at the local hospital and showed it to a doctor once. They told me I should see a (ortho) doctor about it. I couldn't do that until my parents took me. So I just stuck my white nursing shoes on and did my rounds."
Awake
"I got my thyroid removed, and because of a miscalculation, I got the anesthesia too early, causing me to wake up mid surgery. Fortunately, they noticed right away and put me back to sleep, but for what was couple seconds and felt like hours I was able to feel my whole neck completely open and them taking my thyroid out. It is up to this day the cause of many nightmares."
Full Force
Drumming Travis Barker GIF by blink-182Giphy"I was drumming really hard once and I missed the snare drum, and smacked myself in the testicles at full force. I switched to lighter drumsticks after that."
That is a whole lot of mess. I may have nightmares. And I'm glad I never played with drums. Also, life lesson... stay away from boiling water. What other horrors await?
Oh Hell No!
troll dentist GIFGiphy"My first dental abscess. It would actually knock me to the ground when the pain flared. Fun fact, I ended up removing the problem tooth with a pair of pliers and a bottle of gin."
Farewell...
"Watching my wife take her last breath, watching the machine they had her hooked to flat line. To this day it's the worse pain I have ever felt. She was 43 and I'm here without her. This pain will never heal, I see it in my daughter's eyes when she does something spectacular and her mother is not here."
- MPS007
Off the Ladder...
"This (NSFL) is my leg after a ladder slipped out from under me when I was 3m above some tiles. Foot went through the ladder, then I landed on it. Popped right off and didn't want to go back on. The worst of the pain was after they got it back on and put it in a cast but I had to wait overnight for surgery. During the night it swelled up too big for the cast and basically for a few of hours it felt like someone was slowly crushing my ankle in a vice."
"Not sudden, just slowly crushing it over hours. I was hyperventilating from pain and passing in and out of consciousness. Nurses finally took me seriously and called the surgeon who had them cut the cast off. Immediate indescribable relief better than anything I've ever experienced."
- cl3ft
A Few Things...
"Physical: Having kidney stones, and then the follow up and passing of tiny pieces from the extracorporeal shock wave lithotripsy (ESWL)."
"Emotional: Making the decision with my family to take my dad off life support and then saying goodbye and being there with him when he passed."
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The Fire
"My wife grew up with a best girlfriend. They were inseparable as young girls, teenagers throughout school, college, and continued into adulthood. Girlfriend got married, and had two children with her husband. I married into the situation, and we all became pretty much family. Their house caught fire while their kids were upstairs."
"Girlfriend went for the girl, husband went for the boy. He and the boy made it out. The pain of losing her and 10-year-old daughter was the worst thing in my life, and I can't even imagine how it is for my wife. They were going to be old ladies together."
Don't Jump
sister kiss GIFGiphy"Running through a housing estate at night, I didn't see the 10" high railings separating the grass patches from the concrete."
"I cleared the first without seeing it to run on the grass, two metres later I tripped and landed knee first on the paving, smashed my kneecap in three pieces. That was a long time without walking and it still hurts in the cold weather."
Holding Down
"Decades ago, I had something going on w/ my bladder, so I needed a scope, which goes straight down the urethra tube. This was back before they had flexible ones, and the scopes were quite rigid. I was sitting calmly on the table in the doctor's office for the procedure and two huge guys walked in the room. I nervously asked the doctor what was going on. He replied "they're going to hold you down". I was swearing at them through the whole ordeal."
- Mm_Donut
Fresh Circle of Hell
"I definitely don't recommend letting your gallbladder store its awful handicraft stones inside your liver. Gallbladder stone pain is bad enough, but having them essentially overflow to back up into my liver was a fresh circle of hell I wouldn't wish on anyone. I was euphoric upon awakening from the stent procedure to remove them; the relief was so overwhelming that I started crying when the GI doctor doing the stent came to my room for follow up."
The Tumor
"I had a tumor in my vagina that could only be described as "hammock" like. i was young and going through puberty with only my dad raising me, put in a tampon and it ripped one side off. before they removed it, they did an ultrasound, the kind where they basically shove an 8 inch scope inside of you. then to numb it they had to put a needle inside of it as well. i've been through childbirth and not even that compares to the pain that i went through with that damn tumor."
Ongoing Issues
"Ran over by a truck and dragged while cycling, hit and run. No initial pain, unconscious for 2 months. However, upon regaining consciousness, I was lvl 10 multiple times a day for the next 6 mos. Had a colostomy for 2 yrs, the pain from defecation was immense. The stoma became inflamed from constant exposure to stomach acids."
"The pain from daily stoma cleaning with antiseptic was indescribable. I heard of pouring salt on wound would apply I guess. Pain was so excruciating I think I may have passed out a few times. Luckily I'm whole again, if was a difficult 2.5 yrs."
- dal1999
30 Hours
Tom And Jerry Pain GIF by Boomerang OfficialGiphy"Worst physical pain I ever felt was a spinal blood patch after an epidural needle went too far. Worse than 30 hours of labor, worse than anything I've ever felt in my life."
Crippled Dreams
"Got shot in my stomach and leg. Stomach one wasn't that bad, went in the front and out my side, but my freaking leg man. The bullet hit the bone between your shin and foot, and got lodged in there. Literally hurts every day. Few years ago I moved across the country with literally no money or plan, and though the struggles made a whole new life for myself. I am currently in school and have a pretty home with 2 beautiful cats and a girlfriend who believes in me. Better late than never right."
She Snapped...
"Finding out my ex fiancé cheated on me and than hearing her literally say that all our promises and memories and all I had done for her didn't matter and she didn't give a sh*t about any of it. Giggled like the years of us being together was a joke and was nothing."
"This girl up until that point was all over me and acted like I was just the best thing in the world. I had never been so happy for years. And thae one day I just woke up and she just snapped. Like she just changed overnight and a cold unfeeling robot had took her place. What even is this life."
Lay back...
"Woke up during surgery. They were cutting into me and prepping to break my leg and reset it with screws and pins. I was about 4 and I'll never forget it. Woke up with all the medical staff hovering over me, telling me to "Lay back and go to sleep." To this day, I have a phobia of going under/surgery. Forget that."
Snap...
"Snapped all the tendons in my right foot they were pushed into the bone by a piece of glass nearly died three times on the operating table... dehydration, loss of body heat, then my heart stopped so they had to bring me back."
Emotional pain, I don't want to chat about. And this thread makes me want a drink. So that's the plan. Keep smiling and be careful out there.
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The body is built for pain. That is what I've been told. "No pain, no gain!" Remember that catchphrase? Well... it's all madness and lies.
Pain sucks, that's why it's called pain. It's not called joy. Physical pain can be debilitating. The body is strong but it is also sensitive.
And when physical trauma happens, you don't forget quickly.
Redditor u/ameli3eefelt like chatting about what our bodies have survived, by asking:
What was the worst (physical) pain you've been through?
The worst pain ever? A toe stub. Why is that? I tell you, I have been blinded and near passed out due to toe pain. Such a small part of the body riddled with immense trauma. This little piggy...
Stoned...
GIF by World Kidney DayGiphy"First kidney stone. Pain was so sharp and intense I could imagine a knife sticking out of my kidney."
The Eyes have It
"I got shot in the eye with an airsoft gun at about 350 FPS and I went blind in my left eye for a while, I developed traumatic glaucoma and the pressure from the glaucoma was indescribable, I could barely walk or speak. There's pics of my eye on my profile for any of you that wanna take a gander. Some context since some of y'all are askin' I was at an airsoft arena with eye protection and a face shield."
"Somehow the bb managed to hit me in the eye even with the eye pro (how? Idk I wish I could tell ya) theory is it bounced off my face shield and somehow went under the eye pro but who knows. I'm not blind anymore but I do have an implant that keeps the pressure down and I have a synthetic lens so I can see."
Lungs
"Pleurisy. Inflammation of the outer lining of the lungs. Causes each intake of breath, however slight, to feel like my ribs have been sharpened into swords that are impaling my chest. I've had it a few times and would constantly faint because I subconsciously wasn't breathing."
The Foot
"When my foot got torn off in an accident. In 2004 while riding my motorcycle I was hit from the side and my foot got torn off in the incident. I was lucky the doctors were exceptionally good and were able to reattach the foot, but to this day the number of steps each day I can take are finite before it starts hurting like hell."
The Jump
Odd Future Jump GIF by JASPER & ERROL'S FIRST TIMEGiphy"Jumping off a high dive and missing the pool. Horrifying injuries ensued."
I could faint from everything I've heard so far. I never dive, and now I never will. And a foot torn off? What?!
We need "D"
drag race drugs GIFGiphy"If your body runs out of vitamin D, you'll wanna die. Especially if you don't know that's what's causing it at first."
After the Poop
"I used to get hemorrhoids that would get so big that they would eventually burst and bleed for days. That was painful, and it was literally nothing compared to the recovery of the hemorrhoidectomy. Taking a crap after surgery is like literal hell on earth. Fun fact opiates cause constipation, so that's a super fun rope to balance on."
"Even though I took prescription stool softener to the point that they were the consistency of mud, they felt like I was passing jagged rock hard glass. After every poop, I would very carefully wipe as best as I could, and then shakily get in the shower so I could fully clean myself to prevent infection."
"After I was clean I would run a bath and try not to weep. The first week was so bad, I'd be starving and terrified to eat. After the first week every poop hurt to the point where I could just grit my teeth and grunt through it. They didn't fully quit being painful for about 2 months."
- FnCraig
In Hindsight...
"I'm a weak little coward who's lived a soft life so the only excruciating pain I've been through was a 10 hour period of kidney stones. I had no idea what was going on when it started, so I thought an internal organ had burst and I was dying. I've never had something be so painful for every single second I went through it. After about 9-10 hours I finally went to the er (hindsight I thought about going an hour into it, but I kept talking myself out of it) 10/10 would not recommend."
Razor Thin
"Trying to poop after having a baby, with an almost 3rd degree internal tear. I'm fairly sure I ripped some stitches getting out of my car (she left the suture string hanging out and I didn't know) the day after I was discharged. It was like someone was ripping me in half from my butt."
"It wasn't the pushing that hurt, it was when everything retracts back up after going. Second most painful thing I've ever had was mono. My throat felt like razor blades and I couldn't even swallow water. (These statements from someone who has had two babies and was impaled in the leg on a metal bar from a car frame lol)."
Poor Feet
Boiling Hot Water GIF by BrewDogGiphy"Had boiling water dropped on my bare feet. And then about a week later my dog stepped on one of my feet and because it was all blistered up it tore much of the skin right off of it."
Now I'm going to have nightmares. And I'm going to try to live in a bubble. In my house. I will only use cold water and walk slowly.
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Reading this may motivate you to stay inside forever and wash your hands 37 times a day.
In all seriousness, I was struck by how many of these most excruciating event's of people's lives were brought on by some sort of pathogen or illness. It's a terrible irony that the microscopic organisms of this world are the one's most successful at taking down the clear top of the food chain.
u/mawseed asked, "What is *the worst* amount of physical pain you have ever been in?"
Arachnid Fury
Spider bite. Most likely brown recluse, not confirmed. Two bites left side of chest. Two bites left side. Single bite middle of back. All five progressed to full necrosis. Black skin and underlying flesh rotting off.
A slight breeze against my skin was excruciating. Skin should never be a liquid.
A Perfect Storm
Tooth abscess in a pressurised cabin. The whole left side of my face was throbbing in agony. I could feel it behind my eyes too. I was actually in tears and wanted to die.
The amazing stewardess sympathised with my misfortune and gave me a little bottle of whiskey and some paracetamol.
Yellow in Nature--BAD News
Water flooding my ear canal thanks to a ruptured eardrum while scuba diving. (The pressure inside my head was indescribable. And for about 2 weeks I woke up to large highlighter yellow stains on my pillow -- WTF?)
Didn't Expect This
I once went four entire days without being able to poop. Was essentially bedridden, had to call into work since the only movement I could muster was crawling to the bathroom to attempt to get whatever demon was plugged up in me, out. Was absolute torture, and no matter what I did to try to relieve the issue, it was all fruitless. The amount of relief when I was finally able to start emptying my bowels was indescribable.
Worse is Knowing it's Been Dormant in Your Spine for YEARS
Shingles. Every inch of my skin was on fire. It was excruciating. Being clothed hurt. A slight breeze hurt. I still have nerve damage on my back from it.
Emotional On Top of the Physical
I had a miscarriage 5.5 months along. My body flipped out and I continued to have contractions and bleed out for 5 hours. The pain was so great that when I'd have a contraction, it world render the pain meds (Dilaudid) useless even if I'd just gotten more. I ended up needing 4 units of blood (that's a lot).
Tick Check, Tick Check, Tick Check
Lyme disease. Any light burned my eyes, I was bed ridden for 22 hrs a day, writhing in agonizing pain hopping from joint to joint ( my joints not weed). Nothing helped the pain. I felt hopeless, almost 2 months before I started to feel better but 8 months before a full recovery. Took the doctors forever to find the cause of it. After I got better, I wasn't really better because I had lasting issues after. Turned out I had 2 tick born illnesses from 2 different types of ticks. Deer tick caused the Lyme, but a lone star tick caused an alpha gal allergy. I became allergic to red meat. God that was awful, I'm a steak and potatoes girl.
Wonder Why They Call It That
Hell's itch.
It comes about a day after sunburn on a very small minority of people, some of the time. It's not actually sunburn, I think it's nerve endings dying or something, but it feels like being skinned, rolled in acid, fried and stung by million fire ants all at once. Everyone who's had it says it's the worst pain they've had, worse than they ever thought possible.
Legit Eye Patch Use
I saw it soar through the air gracefully because the exact image haunted me for a few days after. It stabbed into my eye before bouncing off. The pure shock numbed the pain for the most part but the sound that came from my mouth as I screamed was high-pitched though I felt no pain just stinging followed by a wave of pressure.
I had begun minor blacking out as paramedics took me to the hospital where they put some glow numbing stuff in my eye. Turns out the pen left a crescent size moon mark from the middle of my eye. I had to wear an eye patch while taking hourly medicine for months.
No one at my school made a single pirate joke, a huge letdown.
Draaaaainage
Pilonidal cyst draining, unfortunately numbing it didn't really help at all as the anesthesia mixed in with the puss and got pushed out rather than numbing the area around the cyst.
Why Is That Thing Still In There??
When I had appendicitis. Sharp dagger pain in my abdomen, continuous vomiting and dehydration.
Worst Version of Waiting for a Ride
About a year ago a kid going down the neighborhood hill on his bike lost control and crashed into me as i crossed the street. The impact fractured one of my ribs and broke my collarbone on the left side completely. I had to wait 30 mins for my mom to get back to take me to the hospital (getting an ambulance would have costed too much). The kid was ok, only because he was wearing a helmet.
Short and Horrifying
My baby evacuated himself in under an hour, start to finish. It felt like a comet was shooting out of me. There was so much pain that time, body, everything just got mushed together as if in a blender and I was seeing black and purple images.
Not Worth the S'More
Third and second degree burns. It is by far the worst experience I've ever had. I'd rather break bones then get burned. Burned my fingers and whole hand in a campfire accident and literally watched my hand and skin burn off right in front of me. And the pain after just lingers and doesn't go away for days, definitely my worst experience.
Why Did You Put Your Hand In There?!
I got sucked into a boat propeller when I was 14. 455 stitches, 55 staples. When I put my hand to the cut I could feel my bone( it was on the back of my leg.
This is the Time When a Deep Breath is Not Advisable
Pulmonary embolism aka a blood clot in my lung. Woke up in such searing pain I thought I was hit by a stray bullet