People Explain Which Red Flags They Can't See Past In A Partner
Reddit user WoodenInevitable1574 asked: 'What is one red flag in a partner that negates all green flags for you?'
All significant others have one type of idiosyncratic behavior that can be easily overlooked.
While the unique characteristic can be annoying, it can also be a charming attribute that makes your loved one extra special to you because it's harmless.
However, there are some behaviors that are unacceptable and can signal the end of relationships.
Red flags aren't as easily negotiable and can be a strong indicator that your partner may not be worth investing in.
Curious to hear from strangers about their hard limits, Redditor WoodenInevitable1574 asked:
"What is one red flag in a partner that negates all green flags for you?"
These red flags are mainly representative of how people treat others.
Meaness
"Cruelty. People can hide it pretty well sometimes but when you see it, it’s best to dip."
– anon
"Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between a human being dumb or being cruel."
– ERSTF
Dramatics
"Victim complex and being rude to people."
– WouldUKindlyDMBoobs
"Just ended a friendship I’ve had with someone since kindergarten due to this."
"She was always the hero or the victim (ya know, always the martyr), and it was always about her. Sad that it ended after so long but I couldn’t take it anymore, and I hated feeling like a hypocrite, calling myself her friend while growing to resent her more and more each day."
– kgriff112
The One-Upper
"Oooh victim complex is a good one."
"Had a girlfriend once where literally no matter what you spoke of or what anybody else spoke of. She had a dozen stories about how her life is far worse than yours and would only talk about her medical issues, it would get brought up legit over 50 times in a day. It was always worse near other people too."
"Girl, I get it, you have had a less than ideal life. But making your entire Personality based around it is insufferable. Shut up and let other people speak for once."
– bumliveronions
You can never trust these kinds of people in relationships. If you spot this red flag, run the other way.
Liars
"Dishonesty."
– pretty_monotonous
"Of course, because then the green flags may all be false."
– sketchysketchist
Taking Daddy's Money
"Was dating a girl and all of the sudden she had way more spending money than what she was earning. I ultimately found out that her dad sent her a check for her college tuition at the private university she was enrolled at, but she dropped several of the classes for ones at the local community college she could get transfer credit for at a fraction of the cost."
"Yeah, embezzling from your dad is not a good sign in a long term partner or spouse."
– tacknosaddle
Schemer
"Malicious Manipulation of any form."
– PsychologicalRing959
These behaviors are unacceptable and can be problematic for the relationship.
"What they say about people behind their back."
– Street_Piece8194
Tossin' Trash
"Littering. Like blatantly. Throwing trash out of a car window, for example. It's my pet peeve. Of course, I'd point it out to them first and see if they stopped doing it, but it would still be a huge red flag to me."
– Hippycowgirl411
Anger Issues
"Extreme outburst of anger."
– itzrx
"Too many people let this go because they saw their parents do it."
– DeepInternet
Excuse For Rage
"Relationship with anger for me. Some people have conditions where they might have a brief verbal outburst they can’t control at first. But if they can get it under control and apologize, then they aren’t committed to their feelings of anger."
"But if they’re the kind of person who gets angry, knowing they’re wrong, but keep pushing because they’re angry and stubborn. The kind of person who gets angry and says 'my emotions are valid' and uses it to justify their actions. The kind of person who decides to hold onto every 'wrong' in a relationship to use in the next argument. Those are commitments to excusing their anger."
– ClassicAF23
The Center Of The Universe
"Over the top solipsism. That 'I don't perceive it that way, so it cannot be true' mentality."
– UnoriginalUse
As someone mentioned above, dishonesty is THE major red flag for me.
If a person can't be honest with me about the most basic things, what makes them think they have my trust down the line?
Like, what are they hiding? No, thanks to playing reindeer games.
The people involved in relationships have their respective quirks.
Some may think their significant other's idiosyncracies are adorkable, while others are indifferent.
While many of these quirks are susceptible to ribbing, there are just some behaviors that are deemed so off-putting, it's not worth mentioning at all.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Familiar_Stranger936 asked:
"What do you hate about your partner, but can’t tell them?"
These Redditors found their partners' tendencies were cringey.
Positively Annoying
"She posts motivational posters on Facebook. It cringes me the f out."
– kambinks
Off Pitch
"My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice. She does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop."
– stln3rd
Proper Pronunciation
"The way she pronounces the word 'hamburger' makes me die inside."
"ham BIRD gr"
– DrFridayTK
"Lady, Get It Together"
"She has a hard time cleaning up after herself."
"I work full time during the week, she works weekends. The house is a mess during the week and spotless during the weekend. Monday night, I come home and it's a mess again. Oof, lady. Get it together."
"And the way she drinks. Gulps everything like she out of air and the only way to get more is to suck it off the bottom of whatever vessel she's drinking out of. Food noises kill me and she knows it but the gulping is unconscious so I try not to let it bother me."
"Love her more than everything. She's my best friend in all ways. But those are the two."
– ArrdenGarden
These can be a huge turnoff.
Bagel Sounds
"The sound he makes when he eats bagels. Not everything, just bagels, and he eats bagels every morning for breakfast. It’s disgusting."
– sparklingjunkie
Unbridled Appetite
"That she sounds like a horse when she eats a bowl of cereal."
– demonj00
Bad Bedside Manners
"I wake up teetering on the edge of the bed, every f'king night. We have a king size bed and she is petite, I tell her but it doesn’t matter. Every. F'king. Night."
– 1980pzx
Some behavioral patterns can make a person resentful of the other.
Too Much Noise
"She watches YouTube/Tik Tok videos on her phone and refuses to use headphones/earbuds. I hate it."
– usspaceforce
Handling Constructive Criticism
"He’s really really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because feedback loop etc."
– StGir1
Pick Up The Pace
"She’s one of those people that walks too slow in the grocery store and stands there looking at sh*t forever trying to decide what to get not aware that 2 other people right behind her trying to grab what she’s in front of and go."
– BusinessFeeling7121
Sonic Assault
"His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep."
– BeatnikWoman
Losing Sleep
"My wife snores like a train and it’s gotten worse over the years. I am a bit of a sensitive sleeper, and have a very tough time falling asleep. It takes her about 15 seconds to fall asleep. I used to start trying to sleep in our bed for a couple hours then go out to the couch for the remainder of the night. For many years I did that. About 3 years ago I just plain started sleeping on the couch. I know it bothers her that I’m not in the bed but i just need to sleep. I feel bad about it since she can’t totally help it but getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night for years just wasn’t cutting it."
– popedouglas320
Wishy-Washy
"How indecisive she can be. We've talked and she's doing better. But it is extremely exhausting to plan nearly every single date/event/thing we do."
– nagol93
Expectations
"That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people."
– imav8n
Sometimes, significant others are forced to take inconvenient matters into their own hands.
Push Came To Shove
"I once pushed in my husband’s hemorrhoid while we were out of town so we could enjoy our vacation. There’s nothing I hate about him that I wouldn’t tell him after that."
"ETA: thanks for the awards! To answer a few questions: 1. He tried to do it himself and failed. 2. He had gone to the pharmacy and gotten Preparation H cream and gloves, so I didn’t go in bare-handed (I’m not an animal, guys). 3. An internal hemorrhoid can be pushed back in; an external one cannot. 4. I wrote that answer and went to sleep pretty soon after, and he hasn’t killed me as of this morning, but that may change once he’s seen the upvotes lol."
– skbiglia
Ending The Discussion
"Her family is too detail oriented about insignificant stuff. Like, I’ll have to explain what aisle I went down in the grocery store before I can keep explaining what happened to me while shopping. Or her parents go into excruciating detail about what they ordered for lunch at Wendy’s. For f'k sake I love her and her family to death but god I couldn’t care less about half the conversations they have."
"It sounds bad and shallow, but conversation with her extended family is even worse. I usually stick with 'not much, what’s new with you?' 'Oh wow that’s interesting' and walk away."
– Photographydudeman
While every case is different, people find that being open with each other–or even consult professional therapy–about the things that bother them that can potentially end a relationship can improve relationships.
But if your SO is an obnoxiously loud food-chewer, well, not bringing up something that can lead to hurt feelings may be the kinder thing to do, as long as you can stomach it.
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It takes more than being naked to be intimate.
True emotional intimacy requires vulnerability and a naked soul—something far more difficult to achieve around another person than first meets the eye.
The terror of being known is one of the more intimate experiences of our human existence.
We must give into it in order to truly know someone else, though—which is the paradox of love and intimacy.
Redditor baby_darko asked:
"What's the most intimate thing in a relationship that's not sexual?"
Here were some of those answers.
Euphemize Like A Sailor
"Getting each others sense of humor. And when you both start talking like each other because you pick up on each others slang and way of speaking."-Thebigdumbidiot
"The speaking like each other was something I hadn’t noticed until about two years in when a friend pointed it out. Friend was busting my stones because I picked up on her use of cutesy nonsense words and that they have specific uses and meanings (I guess not exactly nonsense anymore)."
"While thinking about it I realized that my fiancée now swears like a trucker far more than she used to. One of us may be a better example for the kids than the other."-battlerazzle01
Unfiltered
"Honesty. Its not like we actively go around lying all day, but until you're in a relationship were you have truly honest conversations about even the most mundane thing you realize how much 'tactfulness' goes into everyday interactions."
"In my opinion it's extremely intimate to share your true unfiltered thoughts."-jazzz92
"This is so true. I’ve had very loving partners, but I’ve only ever known one person I felt comfortable being truly unfiltered with."
"If you ever have someone like this in your life, cherish them. It’s so special and rare."-feed-me-trash-tv
Do you see a form of intimacy you're experiencing but didn't even fully acknowledge yet?
How To Eat Some Spice
"Just having little tid bits of information about them."
"Like if i eat spicy food I'll get hiccups in the first 3-5 bites and then after they subside I'll be able to eat that spicy food without any issues."
"This is so specific but them knowing and showing that they know is just so intimate."-ComprehensiveTooth2
How To Make Up Ground
"Seeing how they respond when sh*t gets real. I was attacked and out of work recovering for about a month, and my bf didn’t even blink about my lack of income."
"He just says, ‘it’s essentially your new birthday, we’ll have whatever you want to order for dinner all month.’ He was there through my panic attacks, my crying spells, my lawyers appointments, signing up for therapy. Everything."
"To see how much someone will stand by you and love you when you’re at your worst is pretty incredible."-anitasdoodles
ASL In The Dark Times
"Learning new ways to communicate. My partner has been sick, he lost his voice, I know Sign Language and I taught him the hand sign for 'I love you' 🤟"
"He never knew it was I love you. Til I taught him. Now, he can talk a bit better, he verbally says I love you, but also he'll say 'babe look' and he'll flash the 🤟 sign to me and smiles."
"Its only been about a week and half that I showed him that, but he uses it as well as says it and I think it's amazing.
I also taught him how to sign 'more kisses' lol cus he loves when I give him kisses on his face. So when he was at the beginning of being sick, he'd sign 'more kisses, more kisses.'"
"It's little things that aren't sexual that makes a relationship feel so close and intimate. I could ramble on for hours and hours pages upon pages about how wonderful this man is."-baby_darko
Even When It Gets Scary, He's There
"When I was pregnant with our 2nd kid, about 13 weeks in, we were having sex. He stopped and I looked at him to see he has turned ghost white. 'Babe. You're bleeding.'"
"I tell him it's fine, just keep going. 'No, like a lot. I'm calling the doctor.' This is like 2AM. I get up not thinking anything of it at first and then look at our bed. It looks like he has stabbed me with a machete. I run to the bathroom and fill the toilet with blood. I feel light headed."
"Manage to get a hold of the OB on-call. 'Unfortunately, you are likely miscarrying. We will schedule an ultrasound in the morning. Until then rest with your feet up. Sorry, there is literally nothing we can do.'"
"He proceeded to clean up the nightmare and held me until morning while I sobbed thinking we killed our baby because I was so fucking horny. We weren't even being rough."
"The kid lived. He's 8 years old now. We were banned from sex for 7 months. This man cuddled me every night for 7 months. He sympathized when I complained about not being able to be intimate. He never got selfish."
"He gave me everything I needed. He is NOT THAT GUY, but he came through so fucking hard. The support I received from was so much more intimate than anything we've done together. Been together since 1998. We still snuggle nightly."-oneplanetrecognize
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Have you ever worked one of those jobs that paid you to kinda sit there? If you have, you know the joy that comes with watching the entirety of Breaking Bad ...A partner who can truly face these problems with you as if they were their own, and someone who you want to hold too close...isn't that what intimacy is?
Through The Literal Bad Sh*t
"Crying without judgment. I realized that I don't cry in front of people. Except my wife. She cries, too. We cry over different things and are just there for each other without judgment or saying, 'You shouldn't cry over this.'"
"We understand that we're different. I listen to her, offer her comfort, and actively participate in the conversation with both of our views in mind. And she does the same for me."
"Funny enough, when we were together a couple of years, though we showered together, I refused to use the bathroom in front of her. Her response? She removed the bathroom door."
"Later on, and this is going to be gross so hop off now, I became severely constipated. No amount of fiber or water or laxatives were doing anything. She took me for colon hydrotherapy, where I took the biggest dump of my life."
"I lost 3.4lbs of fecal matter that day, and as I destroyed the toilet, I hugged my wife and sobbed miserably. If that's not intimacy, I don't know what is."-DrOculus90
Physical Touch
"When my wife was alive her and I were always in some form of physical contact. If I was driving, my right hand was always on her leg and she would always lightly ticking the back of my neck and head (I really miss that feeling)."
"We had two sofas so we could both lay down and stretch out while watching TV, but we'd put one arm out so we could hold hands. If we were out somewhere she would always hook her arm around mine and have her body pressed up against me (I miss that feeling too)."
"She was really big on physical affection and contact. There was nothing sexual in this kind of touching either but it always felt so good having her hand on my back, or tickling my head, of having her pressed up against me in line at the movies."
"She was the first woman I'd ever been with that was so affectionate all the time. She's been gone 8 and 1/2 years now and I really miss that affection."-HumpieDouglas
How To Respect Your Hooman
"My partner has Aspergers and they have issues with interactions of all types and get very frustrated without a routine. They also have terrible nightmares and terrors when they sleep. I made a full on schedule, hand signals, and safe words/phrases to help them."
"I would stay up at night to help them when they had nightmares or terrors. They have a terrible immune system and get sick very frequently and even though I have emetophobia(the fear of vomit) I would take care of them."
"They'd have days they couldn't even lift themselves off the floor and I'd help them to bed and I'd do everything I can to help. I love my partner more than anything. They do the same for me even."
"We discuss everything. We discuss our thoughts, feelings, and our day every day. We communicate and take care of each other. We fight of course but we never yell or scream or throw hands. We make up."
"We have days where we spend time apart to recuperate. We have self care days. We check each other's mental, physical, and emotional health every chance we get. We heal ourselves and each other. We give each other what we want for ourselves."
"We cuddle. We kiss. We watch movies. We make traditions. We cook together. We love each other. And in the end, above all else, we RESPECT each other. That's a relationship to us."-Jayden_Riley-2002
Intimacy is also shared between more than just partners.
Friends, family and even coworkers can share intimate moments and those moments are truly the foundation upon which relationships are structured.
Intimacy is key.
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People Who Only Became A Parent Because Their Partner Wanted Kids Share Their Experiences
Kids are not the ideal option for everyone. Some people are ideally suited to having kids: they want the experience of taking care of and raising another little person with their partner.
But some people are not suited to have kids together. In fact, some people sort of end up playing secondary parent role because they just can't get themselves fully around taking care of a child.
Redditor GymLadyThrowaway asked:
"Parents who didn't want kids but agreed to have them for your partner, do you regret becoming a parent?"
Here were some of those stories.
A Sad Story
"I am the result of someone who shouldn't have had a child for their partner. My mother had me because my father wanted a daughter after already having a son. Which he got."
"However, my mother blamed me for a lot of things she was unhappy about because of it. She said she never got fat until she had me. That I was a brat who acted just like my father."
"(They split when I was 12) She was only nice to me during their divorce when she used me to do things to get back at my dad. She was a cold person to me in general."
"Not only was it clear she didn't love me, she didn't even like me. However, the sun has always risen and set right out my brother's rear end if you ask her."
"As weird as this sounds, I'm almost grateful for it. She taught me what not to do with my own kids. And I know I'm a better parent than she was for it."-Fun_Recording_4935
Now I Love My Bb
"No, I don't. I didn't have one for my partner per se, but got pregnant surprisingly after he was told he was sterile after chemotherapy."
"I had never wanted kids but he had always wanted more (he had a child from a previous relationship) and was thrilled that I was pregnant. The worst part was that he died from cancer before our child was born, so he never got to meet her."
"But I don't regret being a parent, even though I hadn't thought it was in the cards for me. I've definitely grown as a person as a result and cherish having that part of my late partner still here, doing great things and being a great person".
"She's a terrific part of life and I wouldn't change a thing. But I definitely don't want any more children. I'm definitely a 1 child-parent.
"That being said, I can understand people who do have regrets. Being a parent is neither easy nor is everyone capable of it for various reasons."-ComposerBeautiful875
My Daddy!
"My ex revealed after we had our daughter that even though he said he was on board with being a parent before we started trying to get pregnant, he was actually still massively hesitant at the time. Learning that kind of pissed me off."
"But I couldn't stay mad because he told me that while explaining how deeply he loved being a dad and how much that surprised him. He and our kid are two peas in a pod."
"She's two, and she talks about him non-stop. Everything is 'My daddy!' this and 'My daddy'" that. We're not together anymore, but I don't even mind that my daughter seems to prefer him over me because I never had a good relationship with my dad. I love how invested he is in her."
"That being said, I do know people who regret being parents, so I don't recommend doing what my ex did. If you don't want kids enthusiastically, don't potentially ruin your own life and a child's. It really hurts being the child of someone who doesn't know how to love you."-pendulousfunbags
Children can really turn your life around, for better or for worse.
The Opposite Of What You Thought
"Wow. Great question. I DID NOT want kids. After 12 years of marriage, my wife informed me that was always the plan. I quit research, had the first (daughter) and she had the second (son)."
"She was unable to change her lifestyle for said kids. The kids and I suffered emotional, narcissistic abuse for years. They are my best friends, REALLY kind, smart adults."
"I see ex maybe twice a year. You really never know how things will turn out. I do not regret having kids."-string1969
Love And Like Are Not The Same
"Not exactly the thing you're asking for, but...My husband thought he wanted kids. But he quickly realized he doesn't enjoy parenting."
"He's insanely proud of his kids. He also likes doing activities with them on the weekend, but it's the activities he enjoys more than the company. He doesn't enjoy being a dad, and that will never change."
"Me, I enjoy my kids' company. I like talking to them, helping them through things. I stop and appreciate who they are (right now) because they're going to be totally different in a year, and I will regret missing little things once they're grown up. I love the little shit they do."
"He couldn't care less. They annoy him, mostly. But I don't think he regrets them. He loves his kids, but he doesn't like being around them all that much."-GingerMau
Once Again, Worth The Bull
"Ex got pregnant, claimed she was on the pill. Definitely didn't want kids but that changed when my son was born. 13 months later she was pregnant again, and again said she was on the pill."
"Wasn't sure about another kid with her but it happened anyway. And both my sons have turned out to be pretty good kids and now terrific adults. I even got custody when their mom and I divorced."
"This year for my 60th birthday, they took me on a Route 66 road trip. And a month ago, my younger son had a daughter so now I'm a grandpa. I wouldn't have it any other way. I was absolutely miserable most of my marriage but I'd do it again to have my kids."-scottwax
Angry Babies Make History
"If you had asked me this question during the first year, I would have said 'Yes.' Our daughter was (and is still)...something else. Angriest baby I've ever seen."
"It was like she was getting back at us for taking her out of the cozy uterus. Screamed constantly even when completely taken care of (and with no digestive issues)."
"She'd get upset if we cuddled her, she barely smiled or laughed, wouldn't breastfeed, didn't like toys - all the things that are supposed to stir up the bonding chemicals in your brain weren't available to us."
"Meanwhile, we couldn't list a single thing she liked. Weren't even sure we were on that list. We really had a tough time bonding, as a result. We both spent moments wondering if we'd made a mistake becoming parents."
"She just turned 4. She's still the most stubborn, strong-willed human I've ever met - bar none. She can be a massive pain in the @ss."
"She also has a beautiful, vibrant imagination and a deep capacity for kindness. She's eloquent and can make conversation with anyone, kid or adult."
"She loves music, baking, drawing, doing silly voices, telling stories, building things, and now...hugging. She's f**king amazing and one of my favorite people in the world."
"You get to know this entirely new person. And who they are, what they show you about themselves as they get older and can express it in more complex ways, overwhelms every sh*tty moment."
"And eventually, as you understand more and more about them, you start to have less and less of those. Most beautiful experience I've ever had that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I wouldn't do a thing differently if given the choice."-LiterateNoob
But if you lean into the experience of raising a child, you might just find something more deep and lovely than you'd bargained for.
The Saddest State Of Affairs
"Not me, but I know a woman who had a child because her partner (at the time) was pro-life and against abortion. She made herself seem like she was religious etc which was a lie."
"Anyways, it seems like she regrets having that child because she just doesn't give a sh*t. Doesn't take care of her, just let's her play on her cell phone."
"Feeds her nothing but garbage food. Doesn't stay on top of her health, no dr appts or dental appts. The girl has really bad hygiene, matted hair, and has missed so much school she's failing every single class. The daughter notices that her mother doesn't love her."-noorofmyeye24
Legends Only
"My Mrs talked me into it. I never wanted any kids, especially with the state of the world now. Fast forward 3 years and I have a 2-year-old daughter and a newborn daughter."
"They are my world and I love them with all my being. I absolutely don't regret it one bit. My family makes me smile every time I think of them."
"Trick is to set them up for life with knowledge, humility and a decent financial head start. It worries me that it will be hard for them when they're older so I'm currently working my a** off to ensure they have a real good head start in the world. They're awesome. Little legends."-monkeyboyshredshred
A Nudge Or Simply Chance
"Nope. I was always hesitant about having kids. I didn't exactly grow up with positive male role models in my life so I wasn't about to tie myself to a c*nt for the rest of my life by having their child."
"I met my current partner and he expressed his desire to have kids and I told him I was on the fence about it. Eventually I felt I could trust his intentions enough to have a kid with him and so far, so good."
"I love being a parent though, my son is my world and it's incredible watching him grow up."-GreenieBeeNZ
Each and every decision to have a child is personal, and some people may choose, ultimately, never to have or raise a child. That decision is valid.
However, sometimes people need the thing they are the most afraid of. Sometimes, the thing that causes you dread just in thinking about it will become your ultimate life teacher. Having a kid definitely qualifies in that space.
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Sure, looks are important, but they fade over time.
But there are disagreeable traits that just stick out like a sore thumb when meeting someone for the first time.
People who are cocky and obnoxious are easily some of the most common, detectable turnoffs, but there are more red flags to look out for when pursuing someone.
"What's your biggest turn off?"
Don't be fooled by good looks.
Prospective dates may be dreamy on the outside, but who they are in the inside could indicate they're not dating material.
Feigning Lunacy
"I'm a psycho hehehehe. Better be careful dating me I'm crazy heheheh'"
"I've lived with a schizophrenic parent, it's a very bad ride for the people closest to the person suffering. pretending you're crazy to look edgy is literally the biggest turn off for me."
"Just admit you're a jealous person, don't pull the 'I'm crazy hehe' card."
Bad body odor can be a dating repellent. Occasional bathers, take heed.
Makes Scents
"Lack of hygiene."
"My old roommate dated a guy for a bit until she found out he showers without soap. He said the chlorine in the city water was enough to clean him..."
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That Tracks
"I know an 'influencer' who is dating a lawyer for his money... he sleeps without underwear and only ever wipes once. So... almost every night she wakes up and he's left skidmarks on the bedsheet..."
Place They Call Home
"People who don't have clean houses. I don't mind mess and norm stuff like people smelling occasionally but people who are not clean in the kitchen and bathroom are gross."
These are just bad habits.
Leaving Trash
"Litter bugs. I dated a girl for about 6 months until I found out she would constantly litter. Her excuse was 'Someone will pick it up.'"
"We didn't last much longer after that."
– chzboi
Gossipers
"Not sure if it's the biggest one, but when a person talks about others behind their back. I think we all do it when frustrated, but when someone makes it a part of their daily life, it becomes toxic and frankly undesirable."
Quick To Judge
"mocking some's hobbies or interests without even having a general understanding of that thing."
When Their Phone Is More Interesting
"When they are staring at their smartphone, especially during a dinner date. It's a good reason to walk out."
Hands down, the biggest turn off for me is a person with halitosis.
Perhaps it is very shallow of me to admit, but all it takes for me to dismiss someone is if they have really bad breath—regardless of their charming personality.
Yes, the prognosis for halitosis is good with proper oral hygiene.
But until it is taken care of, I would be apprehensive about going in for the lip lock with someone who can potentially breathe fire into my lungs with their potent fumes.