A deleted Redditor wanted to hear the best stories behind everyone's body blemishes, so they asked:
"What is the dumbest way you've gotten a scar?"
I have a scar on my upper lip from when I was 5.
I learned fast... don't dance to Madonna on your mother's bed, in her high heels, on a dark and rainy Saturday afternoon.
Save it for the light.
Killer Kitty
Mad Grumpy Cat GIF by MOODMANGiphy"Tripped over my kitten and busted my head open on my sofa."
Fragrant-Prompt1826
"This is definitely believable, I swear my cat tries to off me everyday"
ShadAppNKissMe
Damn tart
"Pop tart. Wild berry flavor. Permanent burn scars on my leg. I was young and dumb. Toasting my pop tart. When I pulled it out the frosting was so hot it was literally bubbling. I dropped it because it was burning my fingertips. Dropped it right onto my leg frosting side down. I went to wipe it away. Gave me almost third-degree burns. Had to go straight to the hospital. Still have the scars 20 years later."
Travelerofuranus
Tough
"I have one on the back of my hand from rubbing the skin off with a pencil eraser longer than the other kid did when I was 13 just to prove I was 'tough.'"
"The real tough kids did three on each hand. So it looks like that's where your Wolverine claws came out."
KielReid
"I did that stupid crap in school, thank f**k it didn't leave any scars. But yeah I was that troubled youth who had no outlet. I hated myself for it until both hands healed up."
faultydatadisc
Bottles Flying
"An old roommate and I had a snowball fight but with beer bottles. We were the only ones home, one wall of the living room was like natural rock. And it started with throwing bottles across the living room into the wall and devolved into throwing them at each other. I caught a bit in the arm when one smashed near me across the counter, haha."
Revenge
Cookie Lyon Love GIF by Empire FOXGiphy"I twisted the head off of my little sister's baby doll."
"She hit me in the head with a garden hoe. 11 stitches."
TrailerParkPrepper
Revenge is real when it comes to the dolls.
Don't lose your head... or the heads of your siblings' favorite doll.
Stumbled
Ice Cream Elmo GIF by SésamoGiphy"I got a glass bowl full of ice cream, stumbled, and didn't let go of the bowl, so it cut open my hand. It's a common reflex of small children because ice cream 'is precious,' but still stupid because I had to wear a bandage for 2 weeks."
cantSleepalready
Cracked Brows
"My brother, sister, and I all have the same kind of scar on our left eyebrow and got them at the same age. My brother opened an empty dresser drawer and smacked himself in the face, my sister ran into a brick wall and I fell off the couch onto a coffee table."
Alternative-Volume82
"My dad and brother have a similar saga. My dad climbed out of his crib when he was little and split his left eyebrow open, my brother got out of the bathtub and cracked his head on the toilet and they have matching eyebrow scars."
TallOne101213
Stalagmite
"For my 8th birthday, a classmate got me something like a 'grow your own stalagmite' kit you could buy at educational stores. Apparently, the purpose was to add water to some powder material and use a funnel in the kit to drip it down to make your own cave features. Exciting, I know. Anyway, I kept it and the other birthday presents I got in a cardboard box in my room. Evidently, at some point, moisture got into the box and the plastic the powder was in, and it began expanding."
"Having nowhere else to go, the 'stalagmite' material oozed its way out through the narrow slits in its box and hardened into razor-sharp edges. I found this out quite bloodily when I put my hand into my birthday box to grab another toy, and pulled it out with permanently altered fingerprints on my thumb, index, and middle fingers."
Real-Extent5559
Make the Cookies
"When I was 4 I got too excited to go outside and ran through a storm door. Ripped my arm up well and required a bunch of stitches. Due to the position, there was no way for them to numb it, so they stitched it without anything. Two days later, I was helping my mom make cookies, and I tripped and ripped them all over again."
"30+ years later and I now have a scar on my left arm that looks like a bite mark."
"I have another on my wrist because I once stuck my hand up a gumball machine, trying to steal a gumball, and it got stuck. When I finally got it out, it ripped the skin off a chunk of my wrist."
2PhatCC
The Fall
Falling Down Fall GIFGiphy"In fifth grade, I asked a girl to be my girlfriend. She said no. I turned around and fell down a hill and slashed my ankle open on a rock. I have a lifelong scar to remind me of the rejection."
drmanhattannfriends
We really have to be more careful.
Our bodies are way too fragile.
Do you have an scar stories to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor Para--Dise wanted to discuss the things that we need to make sure don't hold back the generations behind us.
"What's something that needs to stop being passed down the generations?"
We have so much to do to help the next few gens. Let's get started.
Creepy Clown
Halloween Clown GIF by ANTIQUES ROADSHOW | PBSGiphy"This damn cookie jar, I told my gram it creeps me out. It’s a freaking porcelain clown head! I put it as deep in my closet as I can but I know he’s still watching me."
Barbarossabros
Unused
"At least in my family, the fancy wine glasses. No one ever uses them, everyone keeps them hidden in cupboards because they're too nice to use. They're not even sentimental, someone just picked them up one day and handed them around the family."
DeliciousKoala8290
"My mother has a lot of Waterford crystal that she's very proud of. She'll bring it out for holiday dinners. I'm 100% inheriting this stuff. It's beautiful, but it's just not me. I guess maybe after it's mine, I'll invite friends over for dinners and make sure the pretty things get used."
delmar42
The Inherited
"Inheritable diseases and medical conditions."
H4loR4ptor
"Severe anxiety disorder runs very strongly in my family. I got that one. Alzheimer's also runs very strongly... I'm scared."
Ventaria
"With Crispr and other gene editing technology, we'll likely see many major inherited diseases entirely treated, if not completely cured, within the next decade."
AmcillaSB
Just Do It
"The idea that what you like to do isn't worth anything."
theperksof-being
"Yeah it was always weird growing up when my parents would scoff at someone having fun or living their life. For example, they mocked my brother for taking scuba diving lessons because they thought it wasn't productive."
"Or they would talk crap about family members who took vacations that weren't at a resort or tourist trap. I grew up learning that mentality. It took me a while to get over it. Why am I going to watch a medieval knights tournament? Because it's FUN. Because I WANT to do it. It's like they need some kind of justification to enjoy themselves."
kirbyluv_
Defaults
No Way Beer GIF by BuschGiphy"The whole narrative that because someone is older they deserve blind respect and obedience."
jazzraccoon
"I always approach older people with respect, as a default. Then decide if they deserved it out not and act accordingly."
f*ck19characterlimit
We really are a mess as human race. Let's clean up.
Extended Fam Issues
Super Bowl Ok GIF by PepsiGiphy"Being forced to spend time with distant relatives. It's ok not to be around those that live polar opposite lifestyles than you. I have relatives that will never know where I live and for good reason, yet family is always 'you need to keep in touch...' The heck I do!"
Exciting_Ad4858
Break the Cycle
"Child Abuse."
dzastrus
"Amen to this. By all accounts my dad was beaten bloody so often by his dad it was just normalized in his family. He left home at age 16 and joined the Air Force. I barely knew my grandfather before he died of cancer. My dad almost hit me once and stopped."
"I can still remember his eyes and how he lowered his hand and walked away at the last second. He never hit me or my sister. I think it was tough, going against his conditioning and his trauma response. He was a distant father, I am not going to lie. But my daughter has been raised in a loving, kind and caring home with no violence. Breaking the cycle and healing generational trauma is tough."
She-Ra-SeaStar
I'm not a bank...
"Making your child your retirement fund."
Substantial_Top_27
"This is a timely comment. Father-In-Law just called saying he is broke and about to be homeless. (hasn't paid taxes since leaving the military in the 80s.) Hasn't talked to his daughter since leaving the wedding early, before the reception, over a year ago.. but she says we cant just let him be homeless."
jcxl1200
don't do that to our kids...
"Trauma."
Sieepsaand
"I have noticed my parents always did things the way their parents did. They never questioned it or remembered how it made them feel like crap. My friends and I are the opposite and question everything and have pin pointed what was awful growing up and ya know... don't do that to our kids."
"The amount of things growing up in the 80s/90s that were just answered with being hit or punished or yelled at or sent to my room or told to just deal with it and be quiet was extraordinary. I hope I can pass that mentality down to my kids as well."
DrunkMc
It's not mine...
Credit Card Corona GIF by INTO ACTIONGiphy"Debt."
WonderWeeble
"The biggest mistake I've seen people make is saying ANYTHING relating to the remaining debt. Treat debt collectors like a cop. Don't say crap about it."
"If you're asked about it, don't respond. The moment you do, the flood begins, regardless if you say 'it's not my debt.' The pressure will begin right away. As for the constant requests, you can respond stating it's harassment and you'll report it if any more come in."
TotallyNotKabr
Debt is the top of my list. You see the National debt? Lord help us all.
What would you add to this list? Let us know in the comments down below.
Redditor CallMehRiver wanted to hear about all the ways none of us what to leave this life.
"What Do You Think Would Be The Worst Death Imaginable?"
My list of the worst deaths is long. My imagination runs amok.
Trapped
season 6 friends GIFGiphy"For me? Being trapped in a small tube or cave (like the ones you have to wiggle through) and getting stuck to where you can’t move your arms. And all you can do is wait to die. I’m getting chills just thinking about it."
Stuck
"The more I hear about cavers that get stuck, the more I think that's a crap way to go."
- braydenmaine
"There’s a great YouTube channel called Ask a Mortician and this was her #1 worse way to die. I can’t remember the exact details or their names, but two well-known divers went into an underwater cave."
"One of them became entangled and died. Years later, his friend dives back down there to try and retrieve his body, the body itself is rotten and his head comes off and the other guy also becomes tangled and dies. Really sad."
- melancholybuzzard
A Long Process
"Believed to be in a coma but coherent through the whole 20 year process until they pull the plug."
weebeardedman
"Oh man this just reminded me of a story I read on here about a guy who lost the ability to move and speak but was completely conscious. Had to just lay there and be awake but trapped in a useless body. His family thought he was brain dead or something and he couldn’t communicate to them that he was 'all there.' Crazy"
habeeb51
Slow & Steady
"Being slowly impaled by a growing bamboo. It was a form of torture probably used by the japanese during WW2 against Allied prisoners."
JazzySocrate
"My uncle who served back in the day said that people would have the bamboo slipped under their fingernails because it would continue to grow still. It would just continue growing into the body."
Payness0826
Excruciating
"Rabies."
Santolmo
"The scariest part is that once you have symptoms, you 100% will die. A 100% mortality rate has to be a psychological torture in itself."
RonaldRawdog
"Not only that, you feel irrational fear. Your brain is literally being eaten apart by the virus and it fu*ks up everything on it. You can't drink water because it hurts you. You feel dizzy, present a fever, excessively salivate, everything hurts and it only gets worse. I'd rather take a bullet and die when the symptoms are still tolerable."
Santolmo
Why can't we all just go engulfed in calm and quiet?
Suspended
"Some pulpy sci-fi book I read a while back had one of the best deaths of this real piece of crap bad guy. Left to die in a drowning sea lab under the Antarctic ice, he freezes himself in a state of the art suspended animation pod with some kind cold fusion power source that would keep it running for millions of years."
"But he forgot to inject himself with the drug that would put him to sleep. So basically he is in suspended animation at the bottom of the Antarctic ocean while his mind is perfectly awake and conscious in a near unbreakable machine that won't run out of power for millions of years and nobody knows about it."
DubiousAlibi
No Cure
"As an RN I have always thought that the worst way to die (natural process) is ALS. Lou Gehrig's Disease."
randymn1963
"My mom and grandmother have Huntington's disease, which is essentially ALS, Alzheimer's, and Dementia combined into one really messed up genetic disease. I have a 50% chance of inheriting it and if I hit 40 and there's still no cure I can't promise I'll feel like continuing on with my life because that disease is absolutely freaking miserable."
DevTheDummy
Agony...
"Radiation poisoning."
binhan123ad
"The fact your chromosomes can be so destroyed your body basically lost it's genetic code and with it the ability to make any new cells. It's literally a 'dead man walking' and you slowly rot away in agony. Stuff is so unimaginably f**ked up."
yea_nah448
"What's also bad about radiation is that it affects your nerves and brain cells last, so you have everything in place to feel all the pain of the rest of your cells being destroyed."
nosmelc
Goo
Not Listening Season 2 GIF by The Fresh Prince of Bel-AirGiphy"I want to believe anything that slowly kills you painfully to be the worst. Such as slowly being crushed or something where the pain is beyond compare and yet not enough to throw you into shock or unconsciousness."
Beardless_Man
"Alternatively, being rapidly crushed into goo would probably be the least painful. I'm talking one of those massive industrial hammers they use for large steel work. Basically smooshed before the nerve signals make it to the brain."
Bannon9k
Now I'll never sleep again without nightmares of death.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Redditor GemJoltik34 wanted to spread the word on the ways we can recognize toxic parenting.
"What is a sign of toxic parenting?"
I know I wasn't built for parenting. That's ok. It's just not for me.
Know it All
Knowing Cedric The Entertainer GIF by CBSGiphy"Always believing they're right because they're the adult and therefore not letting the child have any say."
rhi_x
Not Bad
"If you feel like you can't be open and honest with them, even over things that are not bad."
keiome
"I can’t remember the last time I was deeply honest about my feelings or things I was struggling with. Somehow they always either 1. find a way to use it against me or 2. they find a way to blame it on things that are unrelated when in the end, it’s usually their crappy way of parenting."
"This is mainly about my mom. But in my dads case, he is emotionally cut off. He doesn’t express himself like ever. My mom is the complete opposite."
tequila-la
Standards
"Being unable to apologize, setting and enforcing standards they themselves don't follow."
19whale96
"When I tell my parents about something I feel like they should apologize my dad listens to me, if he disagrees with what I said he tells me why and if he thinks that my reasoning is correct he says 'you're right, I'm sorry,' my mom yells at me, cries, 'you're talking back, I would've never done that to my mother.' Guess who I have a better relationship with."
Confident-Thanks-143
Feelings
"When they constantly invalidate your feelings."
Hot_Comfortable_6373
"This one in a huge way… my feelings were never validated. Every time I cried it was 'stop the crocodile tears, you’re just looking for attention.' Every time I was mad 'you don’t have real reasons to be upset.' Hell, even when I was physically hurt it’d usually be something like 'rub some dirt on it.'"
Garden_Circus
Lessons
frank costanza seinfeld GIF by HULUGiphy"Never actually teaching your kids anything, just criticizing, 'I told you so' and 'because I said so.'"
eveningspliff
"This was my life just about every day until I moved out. My parents expected me to know things and got pissed when I did something wrong."
playingitloud
People should be required to take parenting classes. Seriously...
Mental Space
Doctor Help GIF by Apple TV+Giphy"Parents not understanding kids have bad days too. They may not have a bad day like an adult would, but to their little minds they can get just as overwhelmed as we can mentally."
minimomma1989
Learning Bad
"Not being allowed to make mistakes and constantly being shouted at for them."
sami2503
"My significant other has legit PTSD from not meeting his parents standards and being yelled at and screamed for it. Apparently if he didn't clean to their standards they would trash the room and make him start all over again instead of just getting the parts he missed."
YoHeadAsplode
I Feel It
"Treating kids like they aren't supposed to have emotions."
Bee0099
"Damn... felt this one. My mom was this way and reacted with anger anytime I tried to talk to her about my feelings, whether it be something she did to me that traumatized me or just something that upset me during the day."
"Then had an ex who did the exact same thing (not relevant to parenting but yeah). So the treatment I received from my mom and ex made me put up a wall around my emotions. Completely ruined my recent marriage. Just hope my son always knows he can talk about his feelings around me."
leebron-jahamez69
Expectations
"The 'I guess I’m just a bad parent' line."
HoneyOaksTree
"Or 'Well, I wasn't perfect,' or 'I don't think I ever claimed to be perfect,' or 'I know I was not a perfect parent,' always with the implication that the only reason their offspring have a problem with them is due to their expectations of perfection, and therefore, the problem is with the child and their unrealistic expectations."
LeisurelyLoner
Just say it!
Sorry Pop Tv GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy"Never apologizing. Own up to your mistakes!"
bellum1
"Seriously. Like my mom will give a somewhat apology, it'll be along the lines of 'I was in the right, but maybe I shouldn't have blown up and overreacted like I did.' Like sometimes she's right with that but other times she's just trying to only take partial blame."
berrys_a_ghost
Grownish
"Refusing to let them grow up. My Mom did this with me and I see it in kids I babysit. It’s one thing to enjoy the occasional sick cuddles. It’s another thing to keep them in diapers because you don’t want your baby to grow up."
Paciem
"My parent still asks 'Do you need to go potty?' In freaking public and I graduated high school and sometimes people I know are around and I'm even more afraid of leaving the house now."
Z3e24c123
"Trying to restrict my drivers license, not allowing me a job, and trying to limit my money intake so I won’t have enough money to move out. I always have the military as a back up option but man I don’t want to have to choose between living with my mother and potential death."
EmptySeesaw
Okay... So?
"Parents who press their personal beliefs and practices upon their children. Maybe your daughter doesn't want to wear dresses all the time. So what? Maybe your son doesn't want to be the doctor that you weren't able to be. Okay... So? For example, my parents are very religious and everything would be about religion and honoring God."
"Yet, the ironic thing is, that my parents are extremely abusive- physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally. Don't force beliefs upon your children. Widen their perspective. Show them what's out there. And let them make their own decisions. Don't yell at them or hurt them if they're not doing it your way."
tessa_simone
Bad Instructors
"Telling your child to do something, then getting mad when they do it wrong. One time my mom made me fold her laundry, then got mad at me because one her shirts was inside out. I think about that every time I fold clothes now."
Nickynui
"How my dad 'taught' how to pile firewood. Told me to pile firewood, after me saying I'm done, looked at the pile, yelled at me, destroyed the pile, THEN showed me how to pile the firewood. Now when anyone asks me to do something I try to get as explicit instructions as possible."
Siukslinis_acc
Shut up Dad...
Oh No Facepalm GIF by AminéGiphy"Crap my dad has said to me growing up were definitely red flag toxicity. Crap like 'Your grandpa embarrassed me in public growing up, now it’s my turn!' and 'I think your friend is gay, he better not make you gay!'"
TrinixDMorrison
Comparisons...
"Comparing your kid to someone else’s or vice versa."
TheStrangestAverage
"My parents did that, but what made it worse is that I'm neurodivertent and I was being compared to the academically gifted kids. It's an unbelievably unfair comparison to make because I will never be like them, I know I'm smart in different ways but mom wanted a kid with straight A+'s; basically someone she didn't have to put too much effort into helping them learn.
"Like I get it mom, your upset cuz I'm much different than you expected; throwing it my face and making me feel bad I couldn't learn like the other kids is so shi**y."
pixie13903
Control
"Authoritarian need for control over their children. Belittling and nasty psychological warfare that gets personal for no reason. 'I'm your parent not your friend' mentality."
xXxmisschiefxXx
"Yeah my mom wanted me to drink some tea she thought would help with a cough when I didn't want to because it was nasty. Now at this time I was like 7-8 and she was heavy on that mentality of... I'm not your friend."
"She thought well we live in the middle of nowhere, why not take him out side with a hammer and threaten to break his fingers one by one that's not traumatizing at all then she just forced it down my throat. And told me it was for the best it was terrible like I don't even know what was going through her mind."
Outside_Budget_9104
One Sided Looks
"Victim blaming, only seeing the wrong things and ignoring the accomplishments and good and such."
water_hat19
"This is true my mom yells at us when we can't read her mind and guess what she wants tells us she will always support us. Then I went to state for science Olympiad and took 4th in forestry and 6th in rocks and minerals 7th in ornithology and 14th in bridges. And all she did was complain about how I didn't call her during the award ceremony. When they asked us to mute our phones she also complained about giving me a ride."
Outside_Budget_9104
Choices
Giphy"Telling you to take responsibility without giving you freedom. Responsibility is only possible if you have the freedom to make the wrong choice but choose to make the right one."
TheMetaReport
Some parents cause far more damage than happiness. And we have proof... It's not a decision to be taken lightly.