Redditor Brianna6871 wanted to compare notes on what makes us all... over it, so they asked:
"What has caused you to become bitter?"
Becoming bitter is easy. I try to fight against it.
Loyalty is overrated...
Happy Season 5 GIF by The OfficeGiphy"Being with my company for 8 years then finding out new people that I trained make more than me."
km8907
"If it makes you feel any better, this is very common. Loyalty is overrated. The more you stay, the more they take you for granted. I also made the same mistake."
sensiferum
K.I.T
"Attempting to stay in contact with friends and then realizing they wouldn’t do the same for you once you stop."
Snowgoosey
"I agree. I used (and still do, to some extent) to have the mentality of 'don't make it into a competition, if you care about someone- contact them!'" And I did. But after 10 times of being the one initiating the conversation I just wonder if they'd bother to do the same."
"Each time they say 'I've been meaning to call you!' and they never do. And I'm talking good friends who share history together, not someone I met a month ago at the gym. I still love them of course, but this bugs me and leaves a bitter taste whenever I think of them."
Michelle_Evelyn
Hard Pills
"Expectations. I had these expectations about how life was supposed to go, how I was supposed to be. Life didn't work out that way, and I know it was my own doing by having those expectations, but I'm still bitter about it."
edgarpickle
"I find that going from 'promising and intelligent young person' to 'average middle-aged man' has been a hard pill to swallow that snuck up on me. I will say that having a young child and great partner still gives me lots of joy and hope."
GarconMeansBoyGeorge
Burned Out
"Working in healthcare."
RemoteForeign3300
"Worked a decade in healthcare, seven years in the military and three as a civilian. Every professional I ever met, from the doctor on down to the nursing assistant, was burned out and sick of seeing patients. It was amazing I stayed as long as I did."
BroScience4LYFE
"Yes, I feel like part of me changed drastically because of this. Don't get me wrong, I really like to work in a hospital but sometimes it make me lose faith in humanity."
Yeny356
Life
Angry Aubrey Plaza GIF by Parks and RecreationGiphy"Aging and realizing that good, kind people suffer and die far more often than the sh**heads of the world."
Josephdirte
Aging is a good thing but can be sad. Who doesn't miss the past?
Nothing to do...
I Have No Idea Reaction GIF by MTV Movie & TV AwardsGiphy"After realizing that hard work is not fairly rewarded. Someone else who is lazier and/or less competent can get something that you wanted/deserved, and there's nothing you can do about it."
kofed62181
The End
"The death of my wife."
Pitbull60usa
"I’m with you. My husband died 3 years and 4 days ago at the age of 42. It’s not just that your favourite person and best friend in the world is gone. It’s that everything you thought would be your future is gone too."
"Cancer f**king sucks."
Intelligent-Low6442
"Dude I'm so sorry I couldn't imagine. Just know she wouldn't want you to be bitter at the world. She would want you to be happy, easier said then done but do some s**t for you man maybe take a trip or something."
"Nothing will ever change the pain, but shaking life up might at least mix it up with other emotions. All the love!!"
knowledge-is-power91
The Past
"Realizing my childhood trauma left me unable to form meaningful relationships and now I have to invest a crap ton of money and time to maybe (!) achieve some sort of progress and peace. I envy the people who grew up with loving parents and have the confidence to choose good friends, partners and look at life with hope."
whatdrivesme_insane
Worse and worse...
"The unshakable hopelessness that the world is only getting worse and worse. No matter what we do to try and better ourselves financially will be met with some new corporate bullshi**ery that will knock us back down. I'm losing my motivation to keep pressing forward. I just want to retreat into my apartment and do what makes me happy until I die."
"Working on my masters in education right now, and as much as I want to teach in school, all the horror stories I see all over the place are making me wonder if this is the right choice. It really feels like I'm jumping into a bureaucratic hellhole, but I've invested this much time, money, and energy into this career that I have to see it through."
Cedrico123
Trust Fail
"My ex cheated on me. My job told me a bunch of lies to get me in the door and now I feel mistreated. Housing is a nightmare and landlords just take your application money and give the place to someone else. It feels like everybody is just out for themselves and I can’t trust what anyone says. I’m tired."
exhale358
Oh Humanity
Good Night No GIF by Robert E BlackmonGiphy"People."
JimAbaddon
"The general public has gotten so much worse over the years. I really dislike having to interact."
NCBadAsp
Life can certainly get us down. Even if we try squeezing the lemons into lemonade, you tend to get some pulp in your eye.
Do you have any experiences to share? Let us know in the comments
Letting go of people is hard. But the older I get, the better it feels.
Be Nice People
Fail Music Video GIF by FOURCEGiphy"People take their aggression out on service workers. They're cowards who pick fights with people they know can't stand up for themselves appropriately because it can unfairly lose them their job."
cannythinkofaname
A Punching Bag
"I don't know about the rest of you but for me 90% of the time it is people that use you as a punch bag in their life. They tell you all the stuff and expect some feedback/support back but you will never get anything similar back. They tend to explode at you for a matter that has nothing to do with you but they choose you because they think you are for granted AKA a punch bag."
ComplexTimekeeper
Let's call her Karen...
"I had a friend like this (let's call her Karen). Super mentally unstable, expected me to come over and listen to her crap at the drop of a hat. The time that truly stands out to me was when I was in the ER with my girlfriend because she'd had a fall and while I'm sitting in the ER, I get a text from Karen asking me to come over because she was needing to have a chat. I tell her I'm in the ER and obviously can't come and her exact words were "all I want is a friend here and you can't even do that for me?"
"I obviously don't reply because f**k that noise. An hour later she sends another text apologizing and saying how she's become "numb to the idea of being in the ER because she has been in there so many times". She eventually removed herself from my life. Good f**king riddance."
High_Valyrian_
Pot Issues
"People who gossip and stir the pot. People who loudly proclaim they hate drama and actually cause all the drama. Girls who put women empowering crap all over their social media but are happy to sleep with other girls boyfriends and gossip about them."
EdgeMiserable4381
Lessons
Sorry Lebron James GIF by UninterruptedGiphy"People who can't say that they're sorry or learn from their mistakes, and instead lash out."
lobstahfingah
Sometimes it's just time to let go...
Critique...
Eyeroll Ugh GIF by The Bachelor AustraliaGiphy"People who can't take criticism and try to blame it to someone or something else or entirely change the topic. Weak."
CaptCojones
Bad Vibes
"Toxic positive people."
Sadstudio99
"I had someone who was fully aware that 2020 was the absolute worst year of my life (and it was pretty sh*t for everyone in general). Despite that he couldn't understand why everyone hated it because he claimed that there were so many games released so it was a good year. Because somehow that was supposed to completely make up for everything that happened that year."
yeetgodmcnechass
Pass on By...
"People that gatekeep. Music in particular. Yea I'm a guy and i like madonna, I must be a wussy. Then I listen to cannibal corpse and similar death metal, so I must be edgy? I love to hear what others listen to. Almost everytime i ask someone what they like, i look up an album and end up discovering something new, but i try to focus on what I like about it. Music can be a very personal thing to people."
InviteDry3356
One Time
Mariah Carey Tweet GIF by TwitterGiphy"One uppers."
"'Dude, that's nothing! One time I...'"
_ImNoJedi_
Time to take out the trash. Bye....
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Redditor koolxxxxxxxx wanted to compare notes on what is something that is not as sexy when you really think about it.
They asked:
"What's not as attractive as people think?"
So we have to rethink a few things about what is enticing to us. For me it's exercise. You?
Edits
"Photos edited past the point of recognition."
tiny_butt_toucher
"I can't believe so many people just get rid of all their wrinkles and skin tone it's so weird. I actually really like stuff like smile lines it just shows how someone is probably quite kind. :)"
beluuuuuuga
Face Estetica GIF by Dott. Cristina SartorioGiphyMouths
"Lip injections."
AnakinnTargaryen
"I swear it's like an epidemic in my country. Every single one has it or at least considers it, including myself. Many with a face beyond recognition. It doesn't help that it is not talked about enough and every single person on TV has at least 1ml of something in their mouth."
el_99
Bad Smarts
"Playing dumb to get attention. F-ing drives me nuts."
rcahelbug70
"I am a woman nearing 40. All my life I have heard men claim they like intelligent women but my experience tells me otherwise. Some men may like intelligent women sometimes but no man likes a woman smarter than them."
imdungrowinup
"I’m naturally blonde, so I have a game I like to play with anyone who is instantly condescending to me. Basically I play stupid, gradually removing IQ points by the question, until they realize I’m not stupid at all and baiting them. It pisses them off and makes my day a bit brighter."
TotallyUnnecessarry
Eye Roll
"Bragging about how many people you’ve slept with or how many people wanna sleep with you."
fcangirl
"I was on a train the other day and had to hear some guy rattle on to his friends about all the ethnicities/nationalities of women he's messed with for like 20 minutes before my stop. I could not roll my eyes any harder."
caffeinated_tea
"The way I see it is most of us are adults here and have done stuff with people previously. But that doesn't mean I'm going to go into all the nasty details of who what when where and how or even the why."
lyriumstone
Use the Moon
"The sun tan (usually fake) that makes people look like oranges."
Ezekku
Season 10 Episode 3 GIF by FriendsGiphyI will never understand the over tanning. You look like an alien.
Popular
"Being popular on social media."
halfmeasures611
"I find it so attractive when a guy has no social media presence."
procrastinatinq
Who Here Is On Social Season 3 GIF by TransparentGiphy"chasing"
"Completely unoriginal, but playing hard to get. I don't like 'chasing.' If you say no, I'm accepting a f**king no."
ThatRandomDev
"Yea dude, I was chasing a girl in college and she just kept saying no to dates, going to parties, just hanging out. A few months later I started seeing another girl, turned out to be her roommate and she flipped out because she had a crush on me. I was like wtf?"
Woah_man34
Where you going?
"Revving your car engine to the max. It’s annoying."
user100372
"Especially when you are just walking down the street, paying no mind to the road (obviously to where you're going), and out of nowhere someone just drives by and revs their engine to the max."
lavliex
"It's only acceptable when you're driving through a tunnel. The acoustics in them makes revved engines sound amazing."
Electrical_Age_336
I'm Choking
"Stop marinating in cologne and perfume. It makes me instantly dislike being around you."
throwingplaydoh
"I have a food delivery driver that bathes in perfume. I do contactless delivery so she just leaves the food outside, but I always know it was her because the smell when I open the door is still crazy strong. I feel like some people don't know how strong it is."
HereOnCompanyTime
LIES!!
"Burgers from fast food restaurants. They look much better in the ads."
Substantial-Hotel16
"The true catfish."
jmcatm0m16
burger king love GIFGiphyNot so Hot. Let's tone it down.
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"Money doesn't buy happiness."
The HELL it doesn't! Just my experience.
the jesus win GIFSo Much Time
"Pretty much anything about what age you have to be to like buy a house, have kids, get married, have a career or anything like that. Seriously every person lives a different life than everyone else. Live your life the way that makes you happy. If you want. Up to you."
Ginger-Beefcake
Head Talk
"Telling people 'It's all in your head.'"
my_gender_is_a_glock
"Mental illness is in the head, that's why it's so hard for people to recognize it and empathy with it. If someone is paralyzed you can see it, if someone is suffering from depression it is invisible. This sentence should be 'people can suffer from things you can't always see or understand so be kind to them.'"
talknoller
"cleans up"
"'Live every day as if it's your last.' No. That encourages people to keep up all kinds of terrible habits cause YOLO."
ErisianMoon
"There is a TV/movie show about how a guy with terminal cancer goes around and 'cleans up" society and corrupted politicians. Can't remember the name of it, but hell it's exactly what I'd do if I knew I had a time limit."
defensive_username
Fight
nick splat bully GIF by Hey ArnoldGiphy“Ignore the bullying and it will go away,' like wtf is that logic, if you are actively letting bullying happen to you it will only get worse (in my experience)."
kianstartedskating
Yeah, the bullies don't leave until you send them packing. Just FYI.
Higher to?
Animation Loop GIF by CLGiphy“Never settle. Reach for the stars.”
"Sometimes knowing your limits is a good thing. Otherwise you may refuse something good because you’re trying to get something that’ll never be possible."
macaronsforeveryone
Stronger
“'What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.' Nope— not true. Some things leave you permanently changed, and not always for the better. Yes, it is possible (and often times a good thing!) to try and find silver-linings regarding crummy situations, but to completely ignore how something may hurt someone is absolutely foolish."
itsgoodpain
"My parents used to tell me this when I had a conflict with one of our class' teachers. 'You'll get better at dealing with stubborn cruel people,' they said. Well crap, they were wrong. In reality, the case turned out to not be 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' but more like "what doesn't kill you leaves you crippled, then mutates and tries again" instead."
Lx_Kill3rK1ng_xJ
Happily Ever After
"You're not married because you're too picky. So I'm supposed to settle just so I can be married? You better believe I'm going to be picky when it comes to the person I'm going to interconnect everything with for the rest of my life. In fact, I know more married people that are in unhappy marriages because they weren't picky enough. Better to be single than with the wrong person."
CamaroNoir
Just Smile
"'Don't be depressed, there are other people doing worse than you.' Thanks, I know that and try to help them sometimes.But that won't help my depression leave just because i compare myself to other people having a worse life than me."
Scarmaster21
"I just saw a suggested response on another sub. If someone says, 'Don’t be depressed, there are people worse off than you,' you can reply with, 'Don’t be happy, there are people much better off than you.”
heiberdee2
It's all Crap
Season 9 Nbc GIF by The OfficeGiphy"That things will get better with time. Really. No. Sometimes crap don't get better with time. If people have nothing productive to say don't say anything."
Aggressive_Smile_944
overworking is rampant...
"Work faster, you need to manage your time better. Nooo, they need to hire a second person. One person can only do so much."
ItsmeMr_E
"I often doubted myself when I noticed that I was the only one staying late in the office. One of my colleagues even goes home early. But when I ask around, turns out that a few other colleagues work in the evening and on weekends at home too. So it’s not just me lol. The issue of overworking is rampant in many industries."
pisceanm00n
a theory...
"Anything involving the idea of 'soul mates' can really set you up for a big fall."
FishingOk3283
"Me and my friends have a theory. Sometimes you just come across people in your life that you have some sort of indescribable connection with. This is our definition of soul mates. We call them soul friends, and there no limit of how many you can come across."
KingCollapperdapper
No person is perfect...
"Some day you'll find the perfect person. No, relationships are work. No person is perfect. It's finding someone that you can learn and grow with that you in fact looking for."
marsumane
"Also, and I'm sorry, but many people die without having a special one. A lot of people do not find love. The idea that it will happen at some point is not realistic for many. Just try to live a happy and fulfilled life. If somebody comes along, great, if they don't, remember that life is way too short. Do not wait to do things when you have somebody, because they might not appear."
StrawberryinPizza
How is this advice?'
Katy Perry Reaction GIF by Top TalentGiphy"'But they're family!' I didn't know being related stopped people from being AHs."
"On the flip side, if we're family, why are you treating me like shit in the first place? 'How is this advice?' Because I'm sure we've all been told at one point or another to forgive/apologize to an abusive family member, simply because we're related, as if that changes anything. Hope that clears it up."
KaiJonez
HALT!
"'Never go to bed angry.' When you're tired and cranky, that's not the best time to solve your problems. Get some sleep, clear your head, and talk about it in the morning... preferably after breakfast, so you're not hangry."
Forsaken-Economy-416
"HALT reacting to an issue until you’re not Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. It’s good freaking advice. Eat. Chill yourself out. Talk to a friend. Sleep. Then deal."
randijeanw
Time will Tell...
"It gets easier with age."
_UnknownAccount_
"61 here, fwiw. Depends entirely on what 'it' is. Interacting with people instead of being paralyzed with embarrassment/anxiety/self-consciousness? Yes. Having your heart broken? No. Juggling the demands of your life? ehhh... at best I'd say one gets used to it. And damn, take care of your body when you're younger - the knees and liver are only so forgiving."
Strange-Broccoli-393
WRONG!
Arrested Development Do Not Want GIFGiphy"'The customer is always right.' I don't work retail or anything, but whenever I go shopping, I see a lot of customers verbally abusing store associates. It's terrible."
yamsnavas2
"I used to work in customer service and I was specifically told during my training 'The customer is never right. You are right. You know the law and the company policy, the customer knows neither of those things no matter what they say.'"
TheKelseyOfKells
No Guarantees...
"That going to college will guarantee you a high paying job.' I heard that shit all my childhood and it just absolutely is not always true. Trade school degrees that are way cheaper can pay more and give you a better chance at a job. Wish someone would have told me this 15 years ago."
Minion0827
Not Always...
"Always forgive' Some acts are unforgivable. Should you work through the horrible things that were done to you so that you can heal and aren't impacted negatively on a daily basis? Yes. Does that require forgiveness? No. 'Turn the other cheek' and 'Be the bigger person' are also tidbits of life advice that tend to work out mostly in the favor of the people who always take the low road. Stand up for yourself."
rikki_million
Yes, things can get better. But not always. You still have to survive. Just a heads up.
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Redditor Conscious_Camel4830 wanted to share thoughts about what popular aspects of life right now need to GO.
They asked:
"What current trend can you not wait to fall out of style?"
Remaking classic movies! STOP! Just stop! How about remaking the bombed movies correctly? Leave perfect alone.
Underscore...
"Videos that have unnecessary songs instead of the actual audio." ~ ciaranciaranciaran
GiphyService Me
"Subscription services for everything." ~ rex8499
"I went back to r/Piracy for films and shows. If music ever goes in a similar direction, where I need to pay a number of different companies to hear all the music I want, I'll go back to pirating that too. App subscriptions have meant that the last app I bought, was in 2019. Games are still waaaaay easier to buy and 'own' legally than pirate and I hope they stay that way." ~ S-Go
Being Real
"Family vloggers. No kid should ever have to be exploited and subjected to attention-hungry parents like that." ~ ajcasta10
"Know too many people who only show their kids low moments such as temper tantrums and meltdowns to seem more 'real' to other parents. These kids will be traumatized when they find this stuff out in due time." ~ Zanderson59
"Eternally grateful I was born early enough to not have my youth put on the internet by attention seeking idiot parents without my consent. So many kids begin their digital footprint from no age and then grow up on the internet, uploading videos or embarrassing the hell out of themselves for everyone to see." ~ Heavy-Kaleidoscope62
Resell...
"Every kid reselling sneakers, I just want to get stuff for retail again." ~ Much_Committee_9355
"Scalpers ruin everything. I just want to buy a GPU at MSRP." ~ kenny1911
"Seriously! It took a year for me to finally get ahold of a decent graphics card for MSRP (6700xt) because of the rampant scalping."
"That same card, which I paid $450 for, was generally going for $800-$900 from local sellers, and it's a freaking mid-range card! Even at MSRP, it's the most I've ever spent on a graphics card, so they're not exactly affordable to begin with before the scalpers get ahold of them." ~ AlternativeFilm8886
All valid. Enough with the pranks. Is your life really worth a TikTok video?
Oh Lord
"Extreme photo filters. Jesus, Madonna! We know how old you are!" ~ Appropriate-Rough563
Giphy“more interesting”
"Thinking that mental illness is quirky and cute. It’s not, it freaking sucks." ~ Ness_902
"It's so bad that people almost had me convinced in high school/early college that I was somehow 'more interesting' because of my illness. Theres absolutely this weird fixation with having a difficult life, like it's a cool thing. Everyone wants to be the most disadvantaged."
"I wish I could not have disabilities or illnesses, it sucks, and I just don’t understand whats so quirky or cute about it. I think a lot of people don’t even have 'fake mental illnesses' like keeps getting thrown around in here. I feel like for a lot of people they may genuinely have struggles and illnesses but completely misunderstand it because of the current social media culture/lack of real awareness." ~ Talkingheadd
Plastics
"Cookie cutter plastic surgery. All these people look the same." ~ Trixgrl
"I just watched my first and last episode of Real Housewives Of Miami. I cannot continue to watch because I can't tell the women's faces apart. Same lips and cheeks and very dramatic eye brows. They were having a pool party but none would swim because of hair extensions. One woman's husband is the boob king of Miami and he had installed the implants of most of the women at the party." ~ Canadasaver
On the Menu
"The 'secret' menu. It isn’t a freaking secret, you can just ask. There’s not a special stock of things not already on the menu, just combinations of the same crap. If you want some off menu crap, just say what’s in it. Might cost more, but whatever. There’s no list of names for carp hidden in the kitchen." ~ somecow
Go Away
"Influencers." ~ ekhogayehumaurtum
"The only thing an influencer has ever influenced me to do was swipe away faster." ~ UpdateYourselfAdobe
GiphyI've lost all hope. Let's manifest better trends.
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